M59 F50
Will You Play Alone ???
July 31 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
That must be really annoying! If you and your hubby have chosen not to play alone then the guy should respect that. You have your rules for a reason. He's burnt his bridges now, serves him right for trying his luck.Some guys (definitely not all) will play with a couple because it's just another way of making sure they can get their hands on a woman. So the hubby/partner being there is an intrusion to them. It's natural human selfishness unfortunately. The reason for the experience is all wrong, they're thinking "Great! I'm getting laid! Pity this other bloke is here screwing it up for me!" when they should really be thinking "This is great, three people are having a fantastic time!" which is what being with a couple is really all about. Better luck next time, I hope you find a guy who understands the rules better :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
we get that all time. we say what age bracket and ppl over the age bracket will msg us and ask to meet us. its annoying. why cant ppl read the damn profile
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VeryClassy
15 years ago
Couple profiles where only the guy ever seems available?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ahhhh... the famous "We're a couple but she can't make it, is it ok if it's just me?" line....I think the best response to that is "Sure! But only my husband is available tonight. You don't mind if he sticks a 22 inch dildo up your arse do you? Those are our rules when your wife can't make it..." :-P
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RHP User
15 years ago
hi there, we think its a shame on the cpl's where it states they seeks women only but once contacts made you get the impression that had been a decision made by the hubby. If hubby gets to play with the your mrs 1 would say its only fair for the pleasure to be returned. Fully understood if that decision was reached by the female as in the end its her choice. It's 1 thing for the man to basically forget about the womens needs/wants but for them to say who or whom not they can play with is an absolute shame. After all if they can not trust/ have jealousy issue then we think maybe they should join aa coffee club. I'm sure we aint the only 1's who get this feeling. S n K
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with the above comment totally. However what I was saying is we will meet males females and couples and we both make the descision to play or not. Yet it always seems to be guys that ask to play alone. In answer to the couples looking for female only we put down both and as I said befor if either of us do not wish to play we will come straight out and say so, not a jealousy thing but there has to be attraction of everyone involved. I would not want to sleep with somone if they did not really like me and were only doing it to please their partners, thats just so wrong.....
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
Regardless of what your wants and don't wants are, people should read profiles all the way through to get the full picture. But it seems a lot of people are either illiterate or just plain lazy!!! We constantly get smokers messaging us when we are clearly non smokers..and the other one is friend requests from people we haven't met after we say not to bother in our profile! Some people are just stupid!!!!!!In your case Mrs. 2m3pz....this guy is a delusional schemer (like those guys who think strippers or hookers really like them LOL..they can't see it just for the $$$) ...you did the right thing cutting him loose!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have always thought RHP should have more catogorys to avoid this fruit salad situation.. Have a different sections for Hetro's ' Bi's' Gays' Married' Singles' etc' etc. instead of lumping every one into the same barrel and leaving everyone to work it out themselves. Surely it cant be that hard and it sure would eliminate alot of useless reading for nil results ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes it annoys the crap outta me i refuse to play alone again!!!! xxRxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
If I wanted to meet bi people specifically, for example, I'd go to a site that targets just bi people... you know... Bi australia or something..... and Gadar for gay people... and so on and so forth... the "nice" thing about RHP is that it attempts to be inclusive rather than exclusive... and that says something about the philosophy of the place. If we are all pigeon holed into our quarters where's the fun in that? I think ignorance feeds prejudice and exposure to other people with different ideas helps build a more tolerant community.. one that is perhaps a little less bigoted... and perhaps a little more caring about each other... and I think that generates a better sense of community than one based on segregation for whatever reason you care to come up with... and I dont just mean sexual tolerance here. I think it would be a step backwards to introduce lots of diffferent categories of sexual preference to shoehorn individuals into and frankly, after making up all these different filters, I doubt it will help you meet the people you are looking for... rather it will serve to limit your opportunities... it certainly wouldn't help 2mzp3 rid themselves of people who wanna try to grasscut someone out of the action. Well, that's what I think anyway. GAz Quoting 'justjuice' I have always thought RHP should have more catogorys to avoid this fruit salad situation.. Have a different sections for Hetro's ' Bi's' Gays' Married' Singles' etc' etc. instead of lumping every one into the same barrel and leaving everyone to work it out themselves. Surely it cant be that hard and it sure would eliminate alot of useless reading for nil results ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
On people being unable to read profiles....all I can say is dont be upset if you dont get the response you are looking for. I am tired of the idiots who cant read and guess what??? no I'll be good no more...off your soap box Focus... 2MZP3 - it happens to all of us, whether you are a couple looking for something specific or a single doing exactly the same thing. It comes with the territory. Dont be disenheartened just send an appropriate response, if they get annoying block them then move on. KissesFcous
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RHP User
15 years ago
Playing alone......Thats not swinging.
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RHP User
15 years ago
with Stalky here. You can't always categorise people cos sometimes we are different people in different situations. 2MZP3, unfortunately some guys will always try and get a female alone. I think they think that if a female is on here then she is up for fun with anyone at anytime. Just block anyone who constantly annoys you. i have a huge block list. You could also set up a template auto response. I don't know why some epople don't read profiles, they just don't. Mine is very specific, I even mention a number of times not to sen me a flirt and yep, I always have an inbox full of them Good luck
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drhelixs
15 years ago
2MZP3, I just read your profile twice, I must have missed the "not play alone" part. Your profile led me to believe that you would prefer to eventually play together with your partner. But it did leave room for the possibility to play alone "I guess". It also lead me to believe that your weren't interested in single guys. It mentioned you wanted to meet females, couples and female couples. Don't get angry, its bad for your health and its all meant to be fun. You sound like fun and shouldn't find it too hard to find suitable friends. dr
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with all of this (although, perhaps since The Drs comments your profile hs been changed). I find it is a major barrier for those of us that DO read profiles, the impact being that people become skeptical of your motives and what you are really after.As you can see from my profile, I am honest with where I am at and what I am after, I expect the same from others.LGN
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RHP User
15 years ago
2MZP3I just read your profile and I got the idea that you actually played alone and sometimes your partner joins you but then I noticed the profile Bad_Influence I am guessing that is also you.... that profile is clear that you only play with your partner however it is a single girl profile which would imply you are actually a single girl. I am totally confused so I am sure other are too. But yes people don;t read profiles and nothing will ever change that.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'WantPeakExp' Ahhhh... the famous "We're a couple but she can't make it, is it ok if it's just me?" line....I think the best response to that is "Sure! But only my husband is available tonight. You don't mind if he sticks a 22 inch dildo up your arse do you? Those are our rules when your wife can't make it..." :-P ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
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RHP User
15 years ago
Gobble gobble = just testing
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with most of the things expressed above, i to was in long therm relation ship were we swung out of Darwin, im now flying solo due to a seperation but these were some of our annoyances. No pic no reply.....If you aint got the guts to post a pic you aint riskea enough for us. But im a high profile so & so, bull shit you dont have to include a face shot...unles your missing a limb & someone my notice you then. You flirt or message, you know its been read but no reply...i hate this, if you've got the decensy to make an efort to contact some one surely you can reply yea or nea....it aint hard, they have templated responses. No single guys......well thats covered. Athletic or atheleates only & you get 50 somthing, heavy wieghts...not what we asked for. Now for my current situation im big on MFM withch is 2 strait guys & a female.... MMF on the other hand is 2 bi guys & a female...not many people know this, im comfortable in my sexuality, threesome are always going to have male contact, i just dont want a cock deep in my arse or mouth, but if you want to suck your wifes juice mine all good. & how many BI & GAY guys hit me up ALL THE TIME.....no thanks , not my kink. Then you can be to descriptive, like my curent profile, were you message a prospect, & they reply your to hard or out there for us..... Your profile i belive is to show all your kinks & fetish's, thats not to say im expecting to achive all the kinks i like every time i have sex, its just the braud spectrom of my sexual desires Then again if there is a lady out there into all that....i'll marry you tomorrow...Cheers MFM3someguy
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RHP User
15 years ago
If i read that, id think YOU are interested in playing alone...or with hubby too. Profile is clearly..."i want " i like, i will... etc no us? so iam not surprised a single guy would get wrong idea and ask to play alone. maybe people should read thier own profile 1st and yes...most people have lifes, and have 10 mins to scan the latest hot couples and send winks or messages. and yes, sometimes we all flick thru profiles without reading every little demand.. So relax...if they arnt what your looking for just say no thanks....easy
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RHP User
15 years ago
and not just to the others/outside world, the rules should first be made by the couple together... swinging is a complicated lifestlye and requires lots of mutual understanding, respect and constant open communication between the couple. That should result in clear message to the others about what is offered and what is expected in return. Single people do not have that same environment, they often interpret things their own way, and true - are prone to skipping some parts of profiles and just taking in what suits them. Couples sometimes play alone and that is normal, so singles ask that if that is their preference... but at the sam time it's true soooo many just could not read the profile properly and then stuff up asking for what is not offered or comfortable...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't think about when you are planning on meeting a couple and then they suggest that just me, the female goes to the coffee meet !!!I hate that
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RHP User
15 years ago
Many men find the presence of another man un-natural try as they may to portray otherwise. Some men want to be more intimate with a woman and can only do so in private (this may lead to over infatuation). Rules are rules for reasons of valid choices agreed on by a couple. Not to be thwarted and manipulated by a guest. Respect is lacking so ditch the clown. Men assume women on a site` as this are sexually advanced and not as inhibited as non members. This may be true to an extent but is presumptuous fantasy. Ditch these clowns too. Attractive women attract by design. Get used to it or get ugly.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We get so sick of getting messages from guys "I know say you aren't looking for single guys BUT" and when we say, "thanks but sorry not interested and we hope you find what you are looking for", the response is 'C'mon I am different" or "I'm sure your man won't mind". 1) No you aren't different 2) Yes, yes he would mind, he would mind alot and in fact so would I! Oh and I agree the worst is couples that really don't want the 'other' guy so they will message and if I say R is working, the response is "Well you could play without him" Really??? NO THANKS and bye....... This is one of my all time pet gripes!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
We dont even give a second thought to all that now unless we get a shocker, last one was from a bisexual couple and the guy says I can have sex with my wife but he only wanted anal sex with my wife and refused to fuck her pussy! ...lol think he was winding us up after reading our posts.....Gave them top marks! apprentice troll lol But not a second thought only meet 4 to 4 dont care, the wife wants to see the other guy and I want to see the other girl all or nothing. Had those requests so often now it has no effect on us there is no thought process just No. Same as guys, when we want a 3 some we will go looking its just read the message and next message there is no thinking required.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have had the opposite problem...... they always ask me to play with them as a couple, when I have clearly stated on my profiles (am a member of other sites).......Girls only...... but I get the pushy ones who wont give up asking if I will join them and their male partner....... I end up blocking them. Now if it was a couple that was 2 females.....different story......hehehe Its so frustrating, why cant people read or just respect your wishes......
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twowithnolimits
15 years ago
Texting sucks for sure, dont the guys realise they come across as total desperadoes?? But whats sucks even more is when you actually meet single guys (or even couples) and as soon as the other half is out of the room the male is saying "meet up with me alone..", "lets meet for lunch" "it will be so much better during the day" etc do they really think that the wife secretly wanted to meet guys to see alone, one add here would get 20,000 offers for that! LOL And has been mentioned before...bottom line your not that good guys...and no you wont ever get another chance after pulling shit like that! P&n
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RHP User
15 years ago
the wives tell me their hubbys are no good and want to play alone.. I tell them i only play with my girl there :) then they get shitty and say iam stuck up???? Mr B
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'AdventureTime'"then they get shitty and say iam stuck up????" Well, as I said before it's all communication - meet with the couple before anything more serious, and only play with those that you have good vibes with - chemistry is vital and honesty in communication is essential... you should not find yourself in the bedroom when they pull out stupid stunt like that - you should have found that sort of attitude BEFORE you let them jump in bed with you :-)
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