Will insecurity destroy the fantasy?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  You may enjoy it and your misgivings disappear or you may not enjoy it and decide not to do it again but there's not much chance that you'd regret trying.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have been the star attraction for such a long time I don't know how I would feel playing the best supporting actress. Should I just go for it and hope that my insecurity doesn't destroy the fantasy?             Your answer actually lies in what you wrote in those above words......

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  If you don't feel comfortable, if you don't feel right then don't do it. Or could it be a fear factor? Would your man enjoy it too much? would you be jealous? Or are you being unfair, he has watched you over these years why not reciprocate? Why should you have all the fun?   First of all you have to work out why you don't feel comfortable with that idea. If your relationship is stable and you are both comfortable with it then there should not be insecurity in that area. Just work out what is holding you back then talk it over with your mate.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We feel you should just give it a go, if you don't enjoy it, then discuss it with your man and decide whats the next step.

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  Two_Tarts

  13 years ago

  What's good for the goose is meant to also be good for the gander. It would seem fair to give it a try and at least face the challenge of any insecurities, particularly given that you have been prepared to enjoy the benefits of having it the other way around for so long!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I second Dragonfyre's post: OP, what exactly is it that you're insecure about? Jealously, unfairness, self-confidence, comparison between you and another woman?

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  Cheekyarses

  13 years ago

  You may need to meet a few females first and see which ones you get on well with!! Maybe even have a girl on girl play first! You may be surprised just how much fun you would have with another female there - it's all about experimenting xxx

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I'm with city kitty and dragonfyre: it's understanding what makes you uncomfortable that can help you move forward whether that's to do it or not. I presume your man won't pressure you so it's your decision to work through..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  He enjoys sharing she doesn't,and why should she?....However, if after 13 years he really,really wants to do this ,then Houston you have a problem.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have to ask, what is it that this added lady, is expected be doing? Is she going to be for him to enjoy? Also, is it only one extra male, each time, that has been there for you? Is your man wanting to play with this lady, or just see action that involves 2 ladies instead of just one? And finally, how are you on the voyeurism scale? Do you enjoy watching 2 or more people engaging in sexual activity?If your answer is Yes, on the last one, then you most likely will thoroughly enjoy the watching as well as being part of the play.On your man playing with the lady, my thoughts (and mine alone) are that this could just be an extention of you giving your partner, pleasure. Its just that the giving part, is you allowing him to play, exactly as he has allowed you to play and thus given you a lot of pleasure, over the years.I do think that you and your man should talk more about how this extra lady would be integrated into the play sessions, before chasing up a participant.Lastly, I say, go for it, you both should enjoy it immensely, if I am reading between the lines correctly.

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