Women & Sex

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Well not that's not true for all women and it seems to me to be unhealthy. An married adult in teh sexually active part of her life who hasn't had the urge to have sex for 6 years has some hormonal problems I think. I also think you have been completely stoic. I reckon I could last a month, tops.. and even then I'd have rubbed the skin off it.   Hugs Gaz

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  definately sounds hormonal to me... whilst I may go through short (ie maybe a week or two) periods of no desire, 6 years is extreme.I would be suggesting she go get a hormone check done at the Doctors. Majick :o)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  At 42 ..I am in my sexual prime..................I hate that I am single and  don't have that reg man in my life to share pleasures with him...   I be at it a few times a day if I could !!!  lol   sweetpetite41 <<<  sighhhhhh.......   Maybe see a doctor together....hope you and your wife get that fire back....And you are on RHP together as a couple...best wishes..xxxxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  it si her isue, and she really needs to sort it out, for both your sakes.We have different libidos but 6 years is a bit much. I reckon i would have gone insane!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Men and women are different when it comes to sex and intimacy, however 6 years without sex is a concern that needs to be addressed.  Yes...it could be a hormonal thing that your wife is going through...possibly menopause (yeah...the men – pause lol but not for 6 years!), and there are pessaries (need a doctors script) that can keep the vagina lubricated...and if she feels wet when aroused then the sex is a whole lot better.  But I have the feeling that it’s getting her aroused that is the problem.  Arousal takes place in the brain...so your doctor is right on that one.  Her “sexy” brain has been shut down and getting it to open again essentially comes from her.  However, initiating  intimacy and not just focusing on penetration can help.  Soooo, kisses and cuddles aside...what can you do to make her feel sexy again?  You’ll have to step outside the tried and true on this one...because it will no longer work.  Don’t give her the option to say “no” to your plans and suggestions.   You need to take the control back! Make her wonder about you again.  Then take it to the next step...tell her you just want to touch her...not have sex with her.  If she responds to this you are on the homeward stretch to SEX once again ...woohoo!  And if not...you need to put it to her that you’ve done your best...and that she needs to think about the future of your relationship. Just my thoughts on a complex issue.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hey Gaz,Thanks man for the reply, rubbing it to oblivion, after a while you can't be stuffed doing that.If its possible I believe I have got my verginity back.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Thanks for your comments, been their done that, made the suggestion of her seeing her doc, but she said that HRT wont work for her. She tells me its her and not me,  when your wife comes to bed hours after you and sleeps on top of the bed and not under the blankets with you, a man has to wonder is it you ?I just throw myself into my airbrushing to keep my mind of it and visit RHP

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hamster,   I know how you feel with the loss of the wife's sex drive.  Been there done that. We saw 5 counsellors, and in the end the wife felt that they all sided with me on the subject that that it was me that needed to reduce my "requirements" of her.  Ultimately we've not discovered a way to deal with it which is a shame really.  I hope you do better than we did. :-(   Wayne

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