M41
Would like to know why so many women put up “walls” around them as soon as you show a little interest in them?
December 14 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Are you sure you are talking with genuine females, and not just pretenders? Also, it is a tricky thing... If you say that it is a "no stress, social drink" that might already be putting too much emphasis on the occasion. Perhaps if you suggested meeting as part of a mixed group? Stress MIXED GROUP here... Can you think of anything scarier than asking a lady, whom you havent met, if she wants to hang out witha bunch of drinking men? As a final note, if you think they are worth the effort, perhaps it might be seen as a nice gesture if you try to take apart this "wall"? Keep trying Chirs
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RHP User
16 years ago
Could just be the way you ask her. Try putting subtle hints out there like "I'd really like to meet you one day" and see what kind of reaction you get rather than coming straight out and putting the pressure on for a meet out of the blue. Once she is replying with "yeah, I'd like that too"...then it's time to set up a date.
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RHP User
16 years ago
....Attraction can lure a girl in Agenda can make them back off.... Just a thought....
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RHP User
16 years ago
A lot could also depend on how much the lady desires to hook up... RHP is a sex site where no end of hook ups take place... between the attracted and the willing. But it can also be a venue for toying with erotic notions... married or single people fantasising for example. You profile photo is that of a fit heathy body who most women would find highly attractive if all that comes with it is equally as attractive. It seemed you were getting on great so an appeal did exists... the fact that she put on her skates and is now incommunicado is indicative of a person not willing to have a real world encounter. This presupposes that there are a multitude of hidden reasons why this should be so? Estimate a lot of bored housewives and fanciful girls will fit into this category? Unless she is intimidated by your good looks and sadly feels inferior to the task?
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RHP User
16 years ago
WhatnameLOL......hiya..Well i had a peek at your profile....Your just missing MMF and MMF bi...ahahahhaha... Seriously....I can understand where you coming from...I get guys who just like to add to their msn and chat.comes to the crunch to meet never show..or..call and say they are on there way..short time later they call back and say they got cold feet...Or they can't be bothered to 1..Be a friend first and take a lil time for u to get to know each other..2...They can't be bothered to come down my way..And expect me ( single mother)..to find a sitter for my son and dog..drive to perth ( petrol isn't free!)..and get a hotel...WTF!!...This is why I don't bother anymore..Plus it is peacful in the South West..air is cleaner..nature..so no need to for me to go to Perth. Keep trying sweety...You seem like a decent type..and the real girls will meet....We all have similar problems as you. huggies and Merry Xmas sweetpetite41 xxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
i hear you sweets...Thats what ive found..a few dont want to take a lil time chatting( non-sexual) so that we can get to knoweach other a little...yet when they have and then come for play at my place...for a couple of times it bang..never hear or let alone chat anymore..Or cant be bothered to travel,they should know we have kids,hence day time play...and yet dont think to pay for a room close by to where i live( dont drive atm). Therefore i feel im only being used an means to an end.. not viewed or respected as a person....instead of paying for a hooker.Even Trish made a valid point also..they change their minds..and cant be polite to say..or care to..Whatname... They may also be feeling the same way as the other lovely women i feel.xoxoheymumma have a great xmas one n all
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RHP User
16 years ago
They're pretty intimidating!
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RHP User
16 years ago
lololol......ok self amusement time since I was a lil serious in my posts yesterday.. Cas....I gotta say..A man with big strong arms is good for me as I don't mind at all to be picked up and thrown around..WOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!....whatnamelol.....well I am over his age range.He doesn't have MMF or MMF bi on his interests....So he is safe and I will just perve on his pics.. Trish....ummmm....I never done a home porno film...thxs....I will add that to my to do list.. when I meet the man I want to spend a lot a years with...NOT offering here to do it with anoyone guys!! ffss.... I just hope the film would be a really HOT naughty naughty MMF ..ohhh..bugger it..l will be honest..and MMF bi one be awesome too!!! lol...I don't meet in daytime....to busy...wonder if there is a fun spot in the daytime for outside sex?...What is sex btw....I starting to forget again Go the single mums!! sweetpetite41....Thinks she should have a sexy single mothers party at her house...We all wear sexy lingerie...lots of champange...and get on cam....show the silly men what they missing...I will happily be bi for that party.. pmsl
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've always wanted to direct.
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RHP User
16 years ago
thanks for all the responses guys I appreciate it.And sweetpetite41…I like self amusement time LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
ohhhh..now that sounds like a saucy combo!!! self amusement as in ??? .....Masterbation? masterbation with porn or toys ( or both)...mutual masterbation?...HJ? spending for forever down on a woman with tongue, fingers, toys till she cums over and over and over..even better if she squirts... More self amusement... spanking her ..tie her up..blindfold....throwing her in the back seat of the car and going to a secluded spot and rooting her over and over till she is utterly exahausted...( please take water ...dehydration is not fun).lol more self amusement again.....getting a trusted mate/s to sneek into her house....you grab her from behind..hand covering her eyes you whisper you have a surpise for her...blindfold her.....remove her clothing ( slowly)...standing there in the living room naked....she feels....many hands starting to touch her.... oohhhhhh.....I like my self amusement stories.... huggies sweetpetite41 PS Cas can be the camera man..but NO directing.!!! ffss..
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RHP User
16 years ago
I didn't mean it in that term, just that I'd like to direct a movie.
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you look closely within your contract you'll see it's a necessity, everyone must enjoy themselves. ;)Universalnomad, theguywithhugearms and King to be the waiters
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RHP User
16 years ago
...I'm really good at it watch (cos ya can't actually hear it on here hehe)..... "oooooh....ooooooooh....OOOOOOH....AAAAAH...god your good!...keep going.....FASTER...HARDER....DEEPER...OMG.....I love the way the way you do it to me baby....that's it....ooooh baby" I love this audition...lmao!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
okay so I am saying it as much as I love chatting on here and the idea of meeting guys off here I am just to plain scared 1) of rejection or letting someone down with how I look 2) of there being no chemistry and having to say um no thanks in person 3) of them being a psycho 4) of me really liking the person once we meet 5) of just having to find something to talk about 6) of being pressured into something I dont want to do not a fake.. just very cautious.. and a bit self concious mwah Rach
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RHP User
16 years ago
and get the kudos from all the great directing, acting, camera work, and sound effects... see - we can make a movie... now what will the title be called? Oh - here's another thought... RHP the Musical.... ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Kilee and I should be able to help... whoo whooo Bunbury here we come !
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RHP User
16 years ago
To be honest Ive had more "sleepover" offers through facebook. Ive put up some horrendous photos on there and yet I still get friends requests, why because they see personality over a period over time, the fact they know a picture is unsual or different is like a lure to a fish, people want more, theyre intrigued by the mystery, maybe as OneBrightStar said there was no "agenda". When they do see my real pic let me say..... I think women can be worse than men, and I love every minute of it.What I do find puzzling is that I continue see many a decent looking guy have trouble on here?? Is it because theres nothing left to find out? or is it the culture of RHP?. I think on these sites it is much harder to "get a foot in the door" as the profiles that can be built are very basic and there is a lack of "feeling or emotion" what someone is about, and as a male, once you have shown your playing cards, is there anywhere left to go?.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have run into many "walls" too. As a genuine person with a genuine profile I wonder if many ladies find the fantasy and anonymous nature easy here....but the reality bites a bit?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey whatname, I assume that the ones you are chatting with are within reasonable distance for a meet. If not that could be a reason. Also as mentioned by others some women just aren't interested in meeting off here. I've only talked to very few women from here on msn and two of them said they would never meet anyone from online. Seems a bit silly to be here then I thought but it seems they do like to flirt and get lots of attention. Velvetbite no need to be scared and to respond to your issues1) of rejection or letting someone down with how I look - no need to worry about this, be happy in yourself. If they don't like the way you look thats their problem. Just means they wont be having any fun with you. Think of it as their loss, I'm sure you are going to get other offers that wont be so shallow. 2) of there being no chemistry and having to say um no thanks in person - ok, so there is no chemistry, you have a coffee a chat then leave it at that. No big issue. If you want, tell them thanks for the meeting but you don't think it would work out. Or you don't want to pursue it further. What are they going to do, 99% of the time nothing that is that. 3) of them being a psycho - seriously how many people have met someone that comes in this category online. It's almost an urban myth. Not worth worrying about this one. 4) of me really liking the person once we meet - and the problem is??? 5) of just having to find something to talk about - maybe think of things before you meet, or go somewhere you are doing something active so you dont have to talk as much. 6) of being pressured into something I dont want to do - this ones easy, if you don't want to do it you tell them. There is nothing they can do about it. If they push the issue then it proves that you not wanting to do something is justified. Means they wont be getting anything.Just remember you can have as much or as little fun as you like. You may find meeting people can boost your self esteem. Don't let fear prevent you from missing out on the possible enjoyment you could have. If you want to chat sometime, I'm just down the road from you.
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RHP User
16 years ago
LOL..@ Trish!!! lovenlust72....Good post sweety!!....I have too say....I don't get why guys contact me and ask when I will be in Perth...when it does say on my profile that I am NOT interested in going up there....Why they do that I just see it as plain rudeness on their side...Not reading and not understanding and respecting that I am a mother first. And then the guys who say they can travel....But they then think I will be available when it suits them....again I am a mother first..And they just dont get that I would like to be a friend first..and after...ohhh...and during ..lol... there is my whinge..lol.... sweetpetite41<<< not into 1 offs.....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lovenlust... very sensitive and well thought out, I'd like to think you'll find your girlfriend this year & Trish (customer69)... my word, you are so funny! and so on the ball/s hehehe... Hugs! Mrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I loved your well thought out honesty! Understandable concerns that you're not alone with... Hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sweetpetite41 - I think in answer to your question the ones asking you that are probably the ones that don't bother reading the profile in the first place. You know, the type that still buy books for the pictures and haven't realised there is writing in them yet. And btw when are you coming to Newcastle .As for the ones that can travel and expect you to bow to their needs. They are on the same level as the above mentioned types. It isn't hard to say, 'hey whens a good time for us to meet, I have this time free how about you'. Instead of 'hey babe I'm on my way to your place, be ready for my mighty sword in 25 minutes'...lolSeriously though it's just a case of some people being more mature and more sensitive to others needs, circumstances etc. Makes it easy for you to dismiss those types though. On the other hand it can be frustrating if trying to meet up with someone and they continually cannot make it citing reasons such as kids. Even with kids you can work around to meeting someone if you really want to. I have 2 boys so I know what it's like.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Not when you don't have a sitter .....Besides...I have now decided no meets..I am just too happy right now enjoying my son and holidays with him...He loves my company.... Just enjoing hanging with him and friends...ohhhh...and my crazy dog!! Merry Xmas sweetpetite41<<< wont go to Newcastle...Rather explore the beautiful Sth West
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