M65 F61
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April 15 2009
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RHP User
17 years ago
when viewing them, maybe they just randomly clicked your profile from someone elses friends list... i do that alot... but about the messaging part, maybe they are just silly???
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RHP User
17 years ago
You might have missed the point. This is a sex site and you've posted your most tempting images in order to attract attention... if you've got that right... then people are going to take a look at your profile even though they arent what you are looking for. It's a tough concept I know... and not really very private is it. What's the world coming to if you post a picture of yourself wearing a bikini and jiggling your wobbly bits without attracting the watchful eye of a few single males~ Sheesh!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well we have the same problem,and know that over 90% of Couples have the same problem. Not every one dangles their parts on here like some.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I don't think that the post was written intending to mean that single men keep looking at their profile, so much as single men keep sending flirts and messages to them. It would be helpful if the rhp editors could add a feature where profiles could prevent unwanted people from sending flirts or messages. If you don't want hot single girls from contacting you, why should you have to keep getting 20 messages a day from them? This is frustrating for us too!!!!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
...in the background..... "HARK " !!!,,.. I bringeth a solution me lady !!! ya see that mouse thingy - majig in ya right hand ?,,. "well" go " click "click " a few times and hey flukkin presto ,, "problem gone "....... The single fellas on this site constantly get dumped on , even thou they are the financial backbone of this site , and all they are doing is looking for a root . If its just the fellas looking at your profile thats intruiged you , it could be the case that they are in need of a few new stick books. "ooo" ,,. wheres me tissues ??? ~~~Horrible~~~ * wow , that fukkas got a hot missus !!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
OK people like to cruise but why bother sending messages etc. Yes it is an adult site that we have put pic's etc on to attract a certain type of person. So I expect that adults with some degree of intelligence would under stand what they read.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I wouldn;t worry about it. It happens to us all the time and has done for years. If we reply to the messages and ask why, they usually say they just thought they would try. Just delete unwanted messages and flirts and block if necessary.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I guess for a lot of the single guys there are not that many out there that are just looking for single guys and especially amongst the couples (most are usually wanting single women and that seems to be the case for a lot of the 'swinging' community). The guys are probably also hopeful that if you are open in your relationship that it might cut both ways at times, they are probably really wishfully thinking maybe they might get lucky with a reply one in a hundred times. Still when you've been so explicit in your profile about only wanting contact from women this sort of pestering hoping to get lucky is just dumb, maybe they cant see past their own desires. In regard to them 'looking' at the wrong profiles I wounder if it would help if you changed your 'looking for' to be just women and drop the couples and groups this might stop your profile coming up in thier searches. Possibly the couples and groups thing might give them the idea that at a push you might contact a guy. Finnally i must admit that if I come across a profile with pics etc that I like I will often do a short message saying that I liked it and wishing good luck in their search but I don't expect a reply, just my attempt to say thanks for sharing. Maybe if your getting a lot of the 'I liked your profile flirts' it could just be some blokes way of saying 'great pics, just wish you where looking for me instead of girls, Oh well good luck'
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RHP User
17 years ago
Understand your complaint but why dont you pay for a membership then moan!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
There are a lot of reasons why sguys like me send messages anyway. Cause we nooo reed, for some sending a message is as close as they will get to intimaticy with an attractive woman like you. Lets not forget the little known fact that not only does "No" mean "Yes" but that when you as a couple say NO, two No's also mean Yes. I think perhaps there should be a separate folder in messages that messages from people who dont fit your desired type get sent to. I understand that with so many messages from single guys that it makes it tedious to go through them and root out the undesirables (only root some will get). That sould make it easier for you and theis site will still recieve income from the "message challenged",,,,eevrybody winns.
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RHP User
17 years ago
You know plenty of people on RHP contact others outside their stipulated requirments, couples included. I like ot flirt. I've flirted with people who I don't ever want to have sex with because I guess iit makes me feel warm and fuzzy if I can help make someone else feel warm and fuzzy.. you know? Flirting is a good thing. It's not always just about getting a root Hagar... but lol... there's nothing wrong with trying to get a root. It would be VERY BAD if rhp blocked all messages from say lesbian couples to me just because I don't them in my hit list. Besides, a lot of the couples around here do take on single guys even though that isnt listed in their profile... its just a spur of the moment decision people make... and why not. Live and let love. Nobody forces you to read the messages. *shrugs* Not that I'm a major contributor to this problem.. I cant even send messages.. Im a guest!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
try lowering your expectations, then you may not be quite so disappointed
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RHP User
17 years ago
It goes to show.. just how much percentage of the male members are really that thick. That they send flirts to every chick they could find, and hope for the besty, without realizing the fuck ups they have done. Of course. There are few intelligent decent guys here that dont bother with flirts, and if and when they do send a msg, ensures they read the profile FIRST. And place an EYE CATCHING header in the msg's topic. Point is. Its one of the many problems sites like this has. There are many solution to thsi problem, but unfortunately, RHP does not have the appropriate feature to "Block all incoming messages that do NOT match the receiver's requirement", As POF site has.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I totally agree with you biasinaussie. And it is not just you couples that have the problem. I find many guys don't bother reading my profile at all. Or if they do they think they might have a chance with me if they message and yes some guys have admitted that to me when they have seen me in chat rooms questioning why i never replyed - they think they have a chance of changing my mind. It gets very frustrating when like yourself - I have put what you are looking for on your profile and you as still receiving messages. Those guys who don't match what I want and send messages - tend to just get deleted or ignored. I refuse to waste more of my precious time on them. Sips.
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RHP User
17 years ago
...do intelligent guys walk around with a tin letterbox on their head ??? ~~~Horribly UN-telygunt~~~
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RHP User
17 years ago
There is the other side of it where single guys simply run out of profiles that are looking for single guys to message. That is the situation I'm in atm. Although I tend to not message profiles that stipulate they aren't interested in my gender or age I have sent a message or flirt a couple of times just to see if I would get something back. Normally it is asking about them or compimenting the profile though. Given that some members have 4 times as many messages they can send per day than I do I reckon that some guys are simply trying to use them all up. Others I know think of it as the numbers game the more messages the better chance of getting something. What else do you do if you have already messaged every prospect that says they are looking for your type of profile then don't respond? If you have people sending multiple messages then that is becoming stalkerish, block these ones. But another question, are you reading the messages? Some might just be saying that they liked your profile and wish you well. Why do we look at the wrong profiles? Well sometimes like if in chat I would just look at the profiles that are online, only then do I find out that they aren't after guys. Mind you I don't normally message them. Hope that gives a bit of insight.
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RHP User
17 years ago
FelicityndAustin I don't understand your comment "If you don't want hot single girls from contacting you, why should you have to keep getting 20 messages a day from them? This is frustrating for us too!!!!!" Doesn't seem to fit with what you were saying but hey if you have that many hot single girls contacting you, send them my way :)
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RHP User
17 years ago
You mean....you actually think they even read your profile??? Hellllooooo...its doubtful they get past the pretty pictures...plus their way of thinking is...nothing ventured...nothing gained...
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RHP User
17 years ago
that do Losers walk around in a decapitated head?
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RHP User
17 years ago
With no offence meant to anyone but being a woman I know I can change my mind at times even back again so forgive them for trying they may have thought you might have changed your mind...... But seriously a lot of people when they see a pic are either attracted or not if they find someone attractive maybe the excitement takes over and they overlook the profile part and was always told 2 things ...... if at first you dont succeed try try again and the other ....... no harm in trying. Now on a positive note when this does occur it does give one the opportunity to practise saying "NO THANKS" given that sometimes No can be hard to express
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RHP User
17 years ago
Given the utterly abysmal number of replies I get, I send emails to as many women/couples as I can even if I don't match all their requirements for things like age and height because I figure I might be able to talk my way around them. I don't however try to convince them they will really like me when they actually want a woman. Given there's about a six to one ratio of men to women on RHP you can't blame blokes for trying it on. It may be a tad annoying to have flirts and emails from the wrong people but at least you know somebody out there thinks you're a bit of alright. I can guarantee there are a shitload of guys on this site who never receive a single flirt or email...
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RHP User
17 years ago
It was sarcastic. Everyone gets heaps of messages from single guys, not that many from single girls.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Full of Self-Righteous...... Junk Mail!
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RHP User
17 years ago
I understand where you are coming from. I definately think you should take it as a compliment and move on. We all get alot of messages we have to sift through each day from people we arent interested in. Its called life, and honestly if it isnt what you signed up for... cancel your account
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RHP User
17 years ago
Full of clueless idiocy... *trash can* :D
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