M68
Young women and older guys
April 27 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Couldn't resist that, sorry. We work with young women and lots of them say they prefer older guys because they are gentler, know what they want and are more mature/sensible than younger men. Some of the girls we work with are in their late 20s early thirties and their partners are 45 - 50's.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not only do older men take the time in the bedroom, most tend to treat a woman with more respect, they are stable, have already achieved the lifestyle that younger women want and therefore have the money to spend on arm candy. When the older man turns sixty or so, erectile dysfunction could possibly set in, she is still young enough to then trade him in for someone her own age and take the (by then) old geezer for all he is worth., well what wife number one didn't get when he threw her over for his hot little bit of fluff during his midlife crisis anyway. An I cynical? Hell yeah!!!! My partner is on a site like this and us constantly barraged with messages from younger women. Most of them are after money!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some men are just wankers and so so so so vain just want a trophy girl , a guy knows if it is just for money they just need to take the blinkers off and forget the ego trip having said that there are many girls that like a man in his fourties , I see many girls in there 20's it's a maturity thing they sometimes feel safe and secure and love what a 40 year old guy can do and I don't mean simply sexual we have lots of real world experience travelled lived etc etc
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe ask Hugh Hefner OP?? I reckon he could answer your question quite easily.Foxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Miss Handmaiden accurately summed up the psychological positions. An older man, represents a level of stability, reliability and emotional development that guys closer to her own age have generally yet to attain.Sure, there will always be younger (and older) women seeking financial advantage from a man.... and visa versa in the modern world where women are achieving higher positions and salaries........ but someone can only take, what another gives... or is too silly to retain.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for the rplies, Are young women really just after candy from older guys?
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sweetgem
13 years ago
I can't speak for all, but I certainly am not just after candy from older men! Although I am in my early 30s, I still consider myself a young woman, but it is never in my interest to seek financial security and stability when meeting men in their early-mid 40s, because I am financially independent, I have multi-skills which I can use to make a living and strive for the lifestyle that I desire to live. I am well travelled and have given a fair bit back to the society through my charity contribution at the age of 33! I always offer to share the bills with my date on our second date, not to be arrogant or anything, instead to show him my sincerity and that I am not a material girl. But if my date insists to pay, of course I won't dare to disrespect him in that manner, in fact I will be very grateful to have such a great date :-) But what I lack is a true partnership with a genuine gentleman who can really appreciate and cherish me for who I am! And of course, the emotional comfort of a partnership where I can just turn to him for constructive advice or lean on his shoulders for a cry when life throws a great deal of challenges at me. With this kind of partnership, I do not think men in my own age are capable of providing or would be willing to provide, because they are so unsettled themselves! So, being a patient and understanding partner to provide a good listening ear to me would be the last thing they are interested in! However, I have founded that men in their 40s are more settled and willing to listen and help, hence comes the attraction and desire to meet older men in my case! :-) Again, I only speak for myself and from my own experiences, plus responding to leggo5's question above. Therefore, please do not attack me for what I say above if anyone doesn't agree. Thank you :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Good for you girl, I think the go for the wallet thing is pure cynicism with little basis in fact.Older guys have a lot too offer in my totally biased but matured and long thought out opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
will have her reasons for being interested in older men OP.But remember ,if it seems too good to be true,it probably is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks Sweetgem appreciate your comments.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well when i was young ,i like to date them like 10 or so years older than me , but now that i am the older one i refused or my brains just somehow refused to date/go out with someone my age or slightly older than me just not interested at all ,i like my men young ,fit and handsome ( love those 24 yo-33yo)... and i wonder if i still want the same 20 years from now ? i reckon i will be in trouble if i still wanted the same i, ha,ha...so far i still got away with it , oh well i guess let me worry about it later ,i still got 20 years till then..lol !
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RHP User
13 years ago
You will never get a straight answer to your question. Its been asked before and the replies are pretty much the same, so following is some of the emotions I observed....1.. Those who cant get their head around the fact that some younger girls are actually attracted to a older guy / girl...2. Those who acknowledge there is, but have a need to find uncomplimentary things to say because its not what they want to hear or accept.. eg : after money, use you.. etc.. etc..3. Those who feel life is finished at 50 and you should fall off the planet... move over.. (small minds )4. Then there are those who laugh at the above for being so judgemental and age phobic. Accept these things happen and just get on with it..When Im chatting to a girl , I look at her as a person first of all.. If I see she's too young, younger than mid twentys' I steer clear. But if she shows interest and is mature enough to conversate at a higher level, I roll with the flow and enjoy the moment.. Doesnt mean I will sleep with them every time.. but if it eventuates' so be it..If that gets up anyones nose, its up to you to deal with it... not me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'kristakarunden' Well when i was young ,i like to date them like 10 or so years older than me , but now that i am the older one i refused or my brains just somehow refused to date/go out with someone my age or slightly older than me just not interested at all ,i like my men young ,fit and handsome ( love those 24 yo-33yo)... and i wonder if i still want the same 20 years from now ? i reckon i will be in trouble if i still wanted the same i, ha,ha...so far i still got away with it , oh well i guess let me worry about it later ,i still got 20 years till then..lol ! You are !, well young-ish.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' You will never get a straight answer to your question. Its been asked before and the replies are pretty much the same, so following is some of the emotions I observed....1.. Those who cant get their head around the fact that some younger girls are actually attracted to a older guy / girl...2. Those who acknowledge there is, but have a need to find uncomplimentary things to say because its not what they want to hear or accept.. eg : after money, use you.. etc.. etc..3. Those who feel life is finished at 50 and you should fall off the planet... move over.. (small minds )4. Then there are those who laugh at the above for being so judgemental and age phobic. Accept these things happen and just get on with it..When Im chatting to a girl , I look at her as a person first of all.. If I see she's too young, younger than mid twentys' I steer clear. But if she shows interest and is mature enough to conversate at a higher level, I roll with the flow and enjoy the moment.. Doesnt mean I will sleep with them every time.. but if it eventuates' so be it..If that gets up anyones nose, its up to you to deal with it... not me.. Like a lot Jay.
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On_Safari
13 years ago
What are we seeking? Hmmm patience, understanding, a connection, empathy, wisdom, a different perspective, maturity, worldliness AND a sexy hot intellectually challenging person to "conversate" with!!! But that's just me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But I still quite like men who are a little bit older than me, guys my age are often quite damaged by marriage break ups, raising kids as a separated parent etc... And can be quite bitter and anti-women. Men closer to 50 can be happier and more emotionally stable. They tend to be better, more considerate lovers. I'm generalizing of course and many younger men have the same attributes but often it's older guys. I have to say though, the man has to be fit and active otherwise it's a no go for me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' But I still quite like men who are a little bit older than me, guys my age are often quite damaged by marriage break ups, raising kids as a separated parent etc... And can be quite bitter and anti-women. Men closer to 50 can be happier and more emotionally stable. They tend to be better, more considerate lovers. I'm generalizing of course and many younger men have the same attributes but often it's older guys. I have to say though, the man has to be fit and active otherwise it's a no go for me. And I agree with your generalizations.... the same can also be said for women in the same age bracketgot to love those that go against the general consensus.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I work with a gentleman who is seeing a younger woman. He knew exactly why they were together, he offered that security you all talk about and maturity and stability. They had one problem though. She reached a stage where she was ready for kids which didn't work for him as he had already raised his own and his grand kids. Guess you both have to be on the same page.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I work with a gentleman who is seeing a younger woman. He knew exactly why they were together, he offered that security you all talk about and maturity and stability. They had one problem though. She reached a stage where she was ready for kids which didn't work for him as he had already raised his own and his grand kids. Guess you both have to be on the same page.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a couple of reasons why women in their 20's go after older guys. i dont go seeking out older guys, but if they talk to me i always respond.Older guys are more empathetic, they take the time to listen, they want to know about my day, what im thinking. They take me out to dinner, to places for dinner that dont have a drivethrough, they are much more gentler. That being said the money factor is fantastic. that being said i do have my oldest ill go, which is 10 years younger than my parents.Young guys are really rough, it feels like most of the time they just want to have sex and then go home or go to bed or play playstation, their idea of a saturday night is dragging you along with him and his friends clubbing, But i guess thats just generalizing, because some young guys are all the things the older guy is he is either taken, gay, doesnt internet date or doesnt run in the same social circles.Theres my 2c.
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