Your experience with RHP, and how to tell if you're being strung along

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  OP you will probably find the same this time as the last time. Still very hard for single males by and large. Jig your profile around (but never be dishonest with it), change your profile pic every now and then and just see how you go.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  Some people choose not to reply, not met, are too busy and so on. The constant emails back and forth, feeling the vibes to exchange numbers, then arrange to met and is dam hard work for everyone (not just men), it takes up time. People get turned off if it is too much. No one wants to be pressured into doing anything they do not want to do. No one can make another person do things they want to do and met ehen they say. People are allowed to change their minds when ever they want too. If your emails are not working try another approach, be creative, go to meet ups from the events tab. If it is eomen youre chasing use the KIS method (Keep it simple); Think like a woman, act like a man. :) Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  They're pretty reasonable numbers from your previous run on RHP. I suspect your mildly disappointed tone comes from the fact you invested quite a bit of yourself into all those messages. That was mostly wasted energy. Put effort into making your profile a solid reflection of yourself, what you offer and what you seek. It's difficult but you only need to do it once. Your profile name is more important than most people give it credit for, it's the first thing someone sees when you message them. Your profile pic is also important. You want to pique enough interest from those to get them to read your profile. I strongly recommend against investing time into writing well thought out unique messages to every person you message. If 85% of people aren't going to reply to them, why would you? Again you just need to stand out from the rest. Writing something completely random will do that and takes minimal effort. Well thought out unique messages generally selects for people who want online pen pals. People who want to meet just want an idea of what they're going to meet with and if that person is on the same wavelength as themselves. Expect to be ignored on here, probability says you most likely will. Like gambling, don't outlay more than you're prepared to lose. If you have a decent profile, your results will not be significantly different than if you put heaps of effort into every message. As to how to tell if your being strung along; someone who is serious usually just needs a few messages to convince themselves you're not a total psycho and that they're comfortable meeting you, put it out there that you're keen to meet and see what happens.

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  MsJonesy

  7 years ago

  If had that success rate I would consider it an awesome result 🤔 So I would suggest you dont have to change much, other than reviewing how much time and energy you are putting into meeting folk who sound like they are stringing you along. Whoever is receiving the sexts is getting their jollies from them, and in all likelihood won't ever meet you. Same with those who promise for months they will meet. Yeah...nah. They have no intention of doing so (see point above; if they are the recipient of the sexts, there is your answer). Put a higher value on yourself, don't be at their beck and call. Offer a meet up suggestion only twice, if they pull out of both then wipe them from your mind and don't bother contacting them again. Until I meet people I actually have no idea if they are for me or not. So I don't invest a huge amount of mental energy, I never sext with people I don't know (and rarely with those I do know), and never provide more pics than what is available in my galleries. If they are a no show for a meet in public, they would need to provide a medical certificate or a note from mum to explain their absence before I would bother again (that is a joke folks 😎). Go to social events, they are more likely to result in positive vibes and interest.

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  MsJonesy

  7 years ago

  Gawd..... I just read your profile. Rewrite required! Make it positive, upbeat and banish all mention of whay you conside lacklustre results last time round! Makes you sound like a petulant sook 😔

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Well I was honest when I made my profile previously, just didn't result in more than message/kik/text tennis. I have made a friend off here, and while I have only had sex with her once, I do talk to her every so often, so I don't mind not having sex, as the talking is still great in my opinion. Foxxy, that was honestly a worry of mine, so I would rarely suggest a meet, unless the person mentioned they were free, then I would ask. Ms Jonesy, I was suspecting that that's what was happening. The last person I was trying to meet that was doing that, I actually went off at because they would sext me, say they were busy over the weekend, then brag about all the sex they had over the weekend, and claim me being comfortable with my sexuality was a "hang up". Needless to say I have them blocked now :P. But I have edited my profile, so hopefully by tomorrow it should be updated.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Two things; -How you present yourself makes a great difference; most people are here to discover, explore and enhance their and other people’s sexuality. So positivity, confidence and being unique in your own way helps. -Pick your battles; there are some people who are just not compatible with you. And some others who are friendlier than others. Learn to read people. This actually makes the whole difference. And be open minded, look for ways to improve yourself in every way possible, you’ll find that what you get back from anything is reflection of what you give..

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