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Your online personality and....
January 02 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
...WYSIWYG just like coding on an Internet page. LOL...in person I wear nice clothes and have quite a distinct accent. CM ...who doesn't go out wearing just a G!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I come across as being arrogant on this site I guess it's just ego boost as nice things I been told about me in the bedroom ! But in the real world I know and get told am nice humble caring person and come across as shy and quiet and always will help others . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You thought was different to how they described themselves...do you know them personally or have you met them? I've found some people do have an "online persona", and are different in person....including friends - I know them and yet they're completely different with their FB profile. But one friend told me her online stuff is just superficial day-to-day and not a reflection of her personality or her private life. I couldn't maintain different personas...too exhausting trying to remember cr@p! And I'm too open to withhold the "real" me once I get chatting. So what you see is what you get with me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Many people view themselves differently to how they are perceived. One may think they are an educator but are perceived as a know it all. They may think of themselves as confident but are perceived as arrogant. On places like rhp I am sure this is magnified as a) we get a very small windows into someone's persona and b) everyone is trying to make an impression, just like the old school pick up at the bar.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When you get to know me...as I am on here...I hang shit on people, they hang shit on me...that’s how I like to be... Interacting with people on a social level needs to be light, and detracting away from their day to day stresses in life... That’s my aim....and I love it when I hear their laughter, see them smile and I know, for that moment in time, they’re as free from their worries as they can be. However.... Face to face I can be shy, reserved as I do get a tad nervous in social situations....quite often feeling as though I’ve been put on the spot.... But I do get past it at some point, sometimes it takes 30seconds, sometimes it may be 30 mins....but I do come out and I’m the same face to face as to how I am on here... I think anyways...but I’ll leave to that subjectivity of others on here that have met me... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
However I just cant tolerate fools online or offline. I tend to bat for the under dog and can be opinionated, however in RL I am the same tho with out the aggression/frustration as I have seen myself do here. When this hapoens I generally take a vacation away from here....... In the first few years of being on RHP I was overly opinionated at times and due to being in a candy shop of men, swingers, parties and so on, I thought I was pretty special and lets face it, you feel accepted. However I was none the wiser to sexy alternative life styles. On another note, I could not, for the life of me understand why men and woman cheat, so I judged. It bugged me too, that I did judge, as I thought there must be more of a reason than just sex, so I ended up starting a topic on it to be more empathetic. It worked. Hence I no longer judge those here, who's life styles do not reflect my own. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
But thats for others to judge. 😊 I can be just as blunt in real life as I am on here, and I don't tolerate bullshit anywhere. But I am probably show more empathy in the real world, as face to face is giving me all the visual clues as to what is going on with someone. I know that sometimes when I have met folk from here its at the end of a long day at work, quite often followed by a long drive to airport and flights and crazy hours at work so I could take time off in the first place to get to interstate m&gs or to spend some time interstate with pie friends. So I can be a lot quieter than people expect, and not particularly up for massive parties.....its called exhaustion lol.
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RHP User
8 years ago
The difference between online and in person is that online is all written words (unless you video chatting). Getting the persona you want to present across in written form when there's no voice tone, no visual cues, etc etc is a challenge, and not everyone is a word smith. Not everyone can read sarcasm (amongst other things ) in written form either, so the interpretation of your written you may be misunderstood too. My aim is to try and be the true me, pretending gets too hard to keep up, but the true me presents a far more in depth person in a one on one situation once rapport is established. My point is as true or in character as anyone tries to be online, I'll always be willing to accept that may differ for better or worse once you meet someone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Than what I appear here. I get nervous meeting new people which may not come across in my posts. I take a while to feel comfortable in groups. I have days where nothing phases me and I can take on the world. Once I had whole years like that. I believe I come across here as empathetic, supportive and at times quite wise and that is how you'll find me face to face. I'm probably more assertive here. (Gotta work on that)
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RHP User
8 years ago
very quiet and demure in real life 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi. When your involved with over 2000 people with in our membership of the groups I,m a member of you get known wether on stage in Millitary Parades or at the Band Rotunder playing with our Brass Bands or other concerts just being with people I know and they come and visit me or I them you get well known, So why would I be any different on forums like this and living my life in our Area of Waimate ,NZ or visiting friends in Tasmania , maybe I,m just real enough to be just the same on here ,and as some from here have met me and seen what I look like they know I,m just the same I really cant be bothered playing games or being a pretender, even how I write or express what I,m trying to say reflects so much about myself I,m not a hot sexy chic just an average looking lass and a little bit different ...well.... quite a lot still that's part of what makes myself different , hope fully does not detract too much from who I am over all , with all our differences that's what makes us who we are as individuales hope fully that makes us likeable. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Each to their own.
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RHP User
8 years ago
....there are far fewer dinosaurs than online - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think that all across the interwebs people are much more bold than they tend to be in real life. Face-to-face interactions can be fraught, you often cannot be truly honest with people (if you disagree with them for instance) due to them getting upset which is of course harder to deal with face-to-face than online. Thus, keyboard warriors are prolific anywhere online. i honestly do wonder how some people on here and other forums get by at a dinner party, but then I think they are probably not as gung-ho in the Actual Real World. Ditto trolls; I don't know if anybody has seen that doco about the woman who tracks down famous online trolls and meets with them only to find them to be quite meek in real life. I have tamed myself to quite a degree on RHP forums - unless someone is being an absolute dick, just leave it be. People are allowed to have different views, even if they are ''backward'' to some. Aside from that, my profile is me and my forum comments are me. I think OP that most of us who are frequenters of the forums are those that are into discussions, and I find such people to be unerringly honest.
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RHP User
8 years ago
than I am in RL. In person as mentioned you can see and read cues and get a feel for people. On here as also mentioned you don't know what is going on in someone's life. I try to be as measured with my comments on forums and have a sense of humour about things. I am very empathetic and conscious of people. In person I am pretty out there, exude confidence and like to have fun. I am very social and love meeting new people. I am not shy at all
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IMTHAMAN72
8 years ago
i'm jus laid back and chilled..IMTHAMAN sometimes...LOL.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"i honestly do wonder how some people on here and other forums get by at a dinner party, but then I think they are probably not as gung-ho in the Actual Real World." You should invite me to a dinner party 😄 just be careful what you ask me 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
It depends on who i'm around. Most of my relatives are pretty reserved and conservative so the way I talk and act around them is different to how I might be here. To save myself from copping grief for being on here not many people in my circle of friends or family know I am on here. I try to be the same person everywhere but it's just not possible. Unfortunately people do judge and may even try to humiliate you and, as I know a lot of my relatives would constantly berate me for it, this is kept a secret from them, therefore I am a little different in real life compared to here. It's like the old saying "people fear what they don't understand". But that's life in general I guess. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' You thought was different to how they described themselves...do you know them personally or have you met them? - Posted from rhpmobile Sorry about not getting back to your question.No I don't know the poster who inspired this thread, nor have I met them.Excuse me being a little vague bit this poster said something about them self and it was a bit of a surprise.Nuff said.I have found through the bike forums I have been on over the 15 years or more that generally the online persona and the RL persona are very much alike. So, yes, I'm that arrogant prick or that loyal friend that I really am.
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Dryphuz
8 years ago
the same. But i would need someone else to tell me if i'm succeeding or not. One thing that definitely matches up, is i talk too much in real life and i write novels here on the forums. I've always been verbose in writing and loved the sound of my own voice. Some would call it a bad character trait and insist i should try and do something about it, but i cant be other than i am and i dont intend to stress myself trying to be. I'm a good listener too, i know when to shut up and i really listen, but that doesn't cross over into my online persona. TL:DR was practically invented for me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Chatting, being a bit cheeky, or being introspective and sharing my thoughts is my lot here. I'm like this in person. I even mentioned my name yesterday, because I don't have anything to be afraid of in this place...or there...I'm not pretending anything.This comes easy....which is terribly liberating.Not having to hide, that is.
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gazpacho
8 years ago
I think its pretty easy to draw a line dividing work, rest and play. HugsGaz
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Very easy to give ourselves a glowing report ? Who wants to think of themself as anything but a cool easy going person ? OK.. Here goes ? the only way I can truly judge myself is by the reaction of others.. In real life I definately have more laughs and enjoy better interaction with the people I know or meeting new ppl. I always see the funny side of things and usually find it anywhere . Getting a laugh on here is far harder for some reason, but that never deters me. Just seems to be few more kill joys here than in RL ? That '. I don't understand ? When I first meet someone ' I'm friendly but will always hold back until I work you out .. Once that happens, and I like you , happy days.. Being involved in sport for a good deal of my life taught me lots about the benefits of being a good listener and communicator which also taught me to detect bullshiters at 100 metres .. So I'll have to leave it up to my RL friends to judge me . I think they would call me a larrikin .. Here ? My online persona takes a hiding from some very sad ppl at times ' but I think I'm wonderfull ? lol...
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are one of my favourite people in the forum. I hope we catch up one day. :-) 🍑
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you muchly. ( **whispering** Payment will be to your regular account.. )
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've changed a lot in my time on here and have friends, from here, who love and care for me offline and online. So, I'll say, there is enough genuineness for the people I also admire to be part of my life. That'll do I think. Cheers and hugs again, thank you, Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Been told several times now I'm nicer in real life, so I guess most of you don't know just how lovable I really am. *does the wishy washy hand wavy thing*
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RHP User
8 years ago
My close buddies will tell you that my online persona and the real life me is the same. I do frequently say, "I read somewhere that...". 😜 Most of my friends love discussions on topics concerning health and fitness, wealth and the state of the economy, etc. Others have told me that they appreciate my scope of knowledge but, I give them a headache because they can't absorb so much info in such a short while! 🤣😜 I've since learnt to tailor the conversation to the person because I don't wish to make any of my friends uncomfortable. 😉☺ BUT, in order to be myself, I have to be at ease with the company. In other words, I have to feel that they are "my tribe" kinda people. 🤣 In the two Meet & Greets I've attended so far, I found a few lovely people I was comfortable with, but I'm not comfortable with the majority of the attendees. In fact, I encountered hostility and curt rudeness from the female half of one couple, whoa!! 😝 I disliked how people I don't know managed to find out personal details about me. I know their source, trust has been broken, and there was clear proof of gossiping and cliques. Not my scene. Not my tribe. So nope... I haven't felt relaxed in the M&Gs and I wouldn't have been my true self except to a small handful of lovely people. ☺
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