M53
"You're not fighting for me"
April 25 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Frankly I think her statement is totally sexist. But then "Women on dating sites... this is your attitude"... so is yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
sound like the lady has a wee bit of an issue she needs to sort out. obviously a bit of an attention seeker. I usually go with the 3 strike policy, call a max of 3 times over an acceptable period and if they choose not to respond then well jog on. and meander is right. Can't stick everyone in the same basket as they can very easily flip it and make the males look. the internet dating brings with it a lot of frustration and you are just venting like most others. Nobody is perfect not even me by a longshot but im learning more each day and u have to take the good with the bad. if its meant to be then so be it :) shame it didn't work out between u both but she seems to have a screw loose
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RHP User
12 years ago
And yet if the OP had called the woman in question more than once he would have been labelled too needy and a pest. Sometimes you are damned if you do and damned if you don't! Mooka
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madotara69
12 years ago
You give her some flowers
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RHP User
12 years ago
You've managed to dodge a doozy. I've had a few of those "WTF" trances lately - must be some weird full moon shit going on ... NEXT!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' And yet if the OP had called the woman in question more than once he would have been labelled too needy and a pest. Sometimes you are damned if you do and damned if you don't! Mooka Mooka you are spot on. This is how it works from a woman's point of view too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You want some insight into this ridiculous behaviour kinky just read ..'The Rules'' or similar guides for women as to how to ''catch a man''. Sigh...xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
With that website it could also be called plenty of crazies - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Society has drilled it into women that they need to play stupid games to 'catch' a man. Some very unworthy people are now rich from writing countless articles and books with ridiculous 'rules' that women should follow in order to do this. But we don't all buy into the bullshit and play stupid games, so don't put us all in the same basket. You don't like it when women generalise and say all men are assholes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...wearing the hoop earrings! Quoting 'Qefenta2' ''The Rules''
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RHP User
12 years ago
She's gotta be joking.. ? Any woman who has a need to say that has insecurities.. I have a mate who had that said him once and he moved on and found a absolutely beautiful person inside and out.. they are a beautiful couple. I bumped into this same woman who still maintains he didnt fight for her... and guess what ? she still has a shit of a life... Some women have no idea...
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I don't do needy, i don't do fight for me, I don't do high maintenance and I don't do rudeness. There really is no need for any of it..... I'd put it down to luck, that she didn't pick the phone up that day.......💋 The list of things I do do but, is not for this thread, actually they're probably not for any thread.....😜
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RHP User
12 years ago
some woman are just CRAZY, i am a woman, i can say it.....some just have distorted ideas of what a 'real man' needs to do to be with her bahahaha. lucky save for you :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would say you dodged a bullet. People who subscribe to those kind of head games generally make your life miserable pretty quick. To be honest my response to that is 'why should I act out of character just to boost your ego?' Basically anyone, male or female, who subscribes to the idea of a 'formula' or a 'game' that must be followed is likely to be fairly immature and uncreative anyway.
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MissBishere
12 years ago
be glad you didn't go there kinky....sounds really high maintenance to me. If I am interested in seeing you again I always message or ring or something to let you know. But I have to say I find it really really special when a guy actually does message after to say had a great time cant wait to do it again rather than just deafening silence until he wants to fuck again. I know that's not what you were referring to, I'm just saying...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't worry everyone. I'm currently using my engineering gifts to create a headband that allows people to read the opposite sex's mind. So if a situation like this occurs, you simply put it on and read what they really want. It'll save men and women so much trouble. I'm going to call it JT's wonderful opposite sex mind reader for dummies aka. everyone that exists. lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women on dating sites... this is your attitude. This is what we single guys are dealing with on a daily basis ) About a month ago, I met a girl on another site. Obviously not gonna say its name, but it rhymes with "twenty of dish". Anyway... We went on a date and it was amazing. She was clearly having a good time, and I was already looking forward to it becoming, you know, something. Called her a couple of days later - no answer. Ok cool, will wait for you to return the call. Never happened. Weird, but hey... maybe I'm not such a good face reader after all? Well, she emailed me today saying: "Too bad you decided not to take this any further... I had my hopes but now I've moved on. Good luck" After a brief "WTF" trance, I politely reminded her that I did try to call her. Here what the reply said: "are you seriously thinking that one lousy call is enough?? yes, I saw the missed call. so what???a woman needs to see that you're prepared to fight for her, not just flick the ball over the fence and sit on your hands waiting and doing nothing I had genuine interest in you but sadly you didn't in me. even if you thought you did" Well... who am I to judge, right? ) My question to the ladies: do you agree with her? Another case of the Flotsam and Jetsam that passes for a certain cohort of women. Entitled, empowered and delusional with a go gurl attitude. because she has a vagina guys are expected to jump through hoops. Most likely if the OP author was an Alpha bad boy (7 foot tall, muscular, tatts and a bad arse attitude) instead of a "nice guy" then his phone may have gone into melt down caused by calls from her eager to please in any way possible. There appears to be an increasing number of women in a race to the bottom. If you don't make their "Gina" tingle then as a man your history.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is what it is. One crazy bitch. But.... One day she'll ask herself "why am I single?" Or she'll own 37 cats by then. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' ...wearing the hoop earrings! Quoting 'Qefenta2' ''The Rules'' The bigger the hoops, the bigger the whore, right? The lack of them should have been a clue.
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RHP User
12 years ago
than one missed call. Assuming I had voicemail I'd expect you to at least leave a message. Other that than that, if you contacted me and I didn't answer but you left a message if figure it was my turn to return contact. So yes, I think her message to you was a bit off-piste. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really don't want to agree with your post, but sadly I kind of do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
But if you don't make their Gina tingle John.......... why would she want to sleep with you? What are you saying, that she has to go out with a nice guy even if she isn't attracted to him? Is that what men do? Go out with any women that say yes to them? At the end of the day it is supply and demand. Women have the power, same way the men have always had the power for all these millenniums were women had to live as some submissive people without the right to vote and work, etc. Power corrupts. And quite frankly I fully believe that men would act in the same way if it was the other way around.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Women have the power Are you talking about online, or the whole dating scene in general?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry to have to lay it out so bluntly gemini..... the short answer is... .... she wasn't sufficiently attracted to you. If she was, she'd move heaven and earth to want to be with you.Any reasons for her behaviour beyond that are irrelevant. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Sorry to have to lay it out so bluntly Thanks for trying to soften the blow ) I agree of course, although I must say the email got me confused somewhat. It's probably the case of "I'm not attracted to you, but I won't let you think that you were the one who ended this". What can I say, I love roleplaying as a psychiatrist
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RHP User
12 years ago
I assume that you didn't leave a message....my translation of her email is this....I was interested in you but one missed call,no message was a lukewarm response.....one month later nothing from you.. I can only assume that you just weren't into me....He's Just Not That Into You...is the title of another one of those crappy books.....Women need to feel that they are desired,wanted,flip what DG just said and maybe that was the message that you conveyed, that in that month all that she got was a missed call....lukewarm indeed..xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
@lilmiss_fussy Judging by the number of MSM (Main Stream Media) on-line articles, blogs etc mostly authored by women lamenting the fact that men "are leaving the plantation" so they attempt to counter with shaming such as: Men are just boys Why wont men (beta) marry those single mothers Men are creepy (Oh unless they are hot alpha thugs of course) Where have all the good men gone. Translation - where have all the hot men gone. I was a Carousel rider once but I'm a born again virgin now, So why wont you marry me. The "grass eater" Japanese men who avoid women must all be gay .... and so it goes on. Solipsism knows no bounds when it comes to the failed logic of many women. I wonder how a woman who ages and her SMV (Sexual Market Value) plummets thinks about her hot male peers who are now ignoring her and dating down the age range. @ Meeka I detect a Marie Antoinette line in your response. So do you subscribe to the view that 80% of women are supposedly chasing 20% of the "Hawt" men? By your standard then most of the guys don't have a chance unless they are naturally hot (make the Gina tingle), or are possibly skilled PUA (Pick Up Artists) who can "play" a woman for his own ends. Are you saying that if a guy dosen't make the Gina tingle then there is no place here for him? I agree that women (especially attractive women) hold the power and access to sex, however it is men who hold the power when it comes to commitment. If that were not the case then why are we getting on almost a daily basis the articles in the MSM as mentioned to lilmiss above. It's in women's biology to be hypergamous now as it was in the past, however since all the social constraints that were in place to keep the excesses of hypergamy in check we are now seeing more feral like broken women. It's little wonder many men targeted blog sites are advocating women are only good for pump and dump. Said state of affairs indeed. Of course some women do not want a partnership with men and that's fine with no argument from me over their choice. We each choose what we think is best for us and rightfully so. Many women don't need men and can make it fine on their own. However there are many women who don't wish to choose this pathway but are finding it difficult as they have become collateral damage in a gender war. I'm not arguing that women should not want sex or chase the hot guy however it is the duplicitous and mendacious behaviour that is often metered out to the average guy who may fit the "nice guy" category that is galling. I personally couldn't give a toss one way or the other, however I do feel for the younger guys who are maybe naive but trying (wankers and arseholes excluded) and often get thrown under the bus by women especially women with a truck load of entitlement. John Galt <=== See me in Atlas Shrugged
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'John_Galt' @lilmiss_fussy Judging by the number of MSM (Main Stream Media) on-line articles, blogs etc mostly authored by women lamenting the fact that men "are leaving the plantation" so they attempt to counter with shaming such as: Men are just boys Why wont men (beta) marry those single mothers Men are creepy (Oh unless they are hot alpha thugs of course) Where have all the good men gone. Translation - where have all the hot men gone. I was a Carousel rider once but I'm a born again virgin now, So why wont you marry me. The "grass eater" Japanese men who avoid women must all be gay .... and so it goes on. Solipsism knows no bounds when it comes to the failed logic of many women. I wonder how a woman who ages and her SMV (Sexual Market Value) plummets thinks about her hot male peers who are now ignoring her and dating down the age range. @ Meeka I detect a Marie Antoinette line in your response. So do you subscribe to the view that 80% of women are supposedly chasing 20% of the "Hawt" men? By your standard then most of the guys don't have a chance unless they are naturally hot (make the Gina tingle), or are possibly skilled PUA (Pick Up Artists) who can "play" a woman for his own ends. Are you saying that if a guy dosen't make the Gina tingle then there is no place here for him? I agree that women (especially attractive women) hold the power and access to sex, however it is men who hold the power when it comes to commitment. If that were not the case then why are we getting on almost a daily basis the articles in the MSM as mentioned to lilmiss above. It's in women's biology to be hypergamous now as it was in the past, however since all the social constraints that were in place to keep the excesses of hypergamy in check we are now seeing more feral like broken women. It's little wonder many men targeted blog sites are advocating women are only good for pump and dump. Said state of affairs indeed. Of course some women do not want a partnership with men and that's fine with no argument from me over their choice. We each choose what we think is best for us and rightfully so. Many women don't need men and can make it fine on their own. However there are many women who don't wish to choose this pathway but are finding it difficult as they have become collateral damage in a gender war. I'm not arguing that women should not want sex or chase the hot guy however it is the duplicitous and mendacious behaviour that is often metered out to the average guy who may fit the "nice guy" category that is galling. I personally couldn't give a toss one way or the other, however I do feel for the younger guys who are maybe naive but trying (wankers and arseholes excluded) and often get thrown under the bus by women especially women with a truck load of entitlement. John Galt <=== See me in Atlas Shrugged I am just going too read that a few more times and check to see if any terminological inexactitudes have occurred. Be back later. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' It's probably the case of "I'm not attracted to you, but I won't let you think that you were the one who ended this". Agree.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2'Women need to feel that they are desired,wanted,flip what DG just said and maybe that was the message that you conveyed, that in that month all that she got was a missed call....lukewarm indeed..xx Q If I got a missed call from a guy I really liked, I'd send him a "You rang? ;-)" response or something. The fact that she didn't tells me she was equally lukewarm.
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Dryphuz
12 years ago
Hmmm... The concensus seems to show that she was probably lukewarm towards you, but if you had been more than lukewarm towards her you may have made the extra point conversion anyway. I think the lesson here may be that it would be better to be seen as too needy and miss out for that reason than as "not fighting hard enough". Its a damned if you do, damned if you dont situation right enough, but which would you rather be seen as? Too into her or not into her enough. Unless of course you were really only just barely interested.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' Quoting 'Meeka100' Women have the power Are you talking about online, or the whole dating scene in general? No, just on RHP for the simple reason that there seems to be lots more men than women.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dear John, a hot guy for me has a certain look in his eye and challenges me and can lead me into lots of naughty kinkiness. He is intelligent and makes me think, but is lots of fun and good company. Are they the hot guys you mean? Or shall we keep on with the generalisations?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dear John 2, Maybe you are punching above your weight? Kind Regards Meeka
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't forget to check your hyper-gameous :-) :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice work John, I like it.. And couldn't agree more....
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RHP User
12 years ago
the confusion as a female You had a good date with someone and you ring him after.... the thought goes.....WTF does she want.....ohh God she must be after a relationship.....thats a minus point for her how dare she rings me and tells me it was good....she should bloody wait until I call. Ok I got that into my head....lesson learned Then the next encounter I had.....I didn't ring and said how nice it was......month later or weeks a message or something..... Oh why haven't you rang me messaged me......I thought you didn't like me. SO what should a woman do..............what is the right way or the wrong way. I have no fucking Idea, I am to old for games, I want it simple, please give it to me in a simple way. Ring and say thanks it was nice.................ring not ad the man is hurt in his manhood......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya'Ring and say thanks it was nice.................ring not ad the man is hurt in his manhood...... End of meeting..... "This was fun.... we should do it again sometime soon". And mean it... because you were so god damned interesting, masculine, charismatic and attractive that she wanted to see you again, you observed that interest and attraction in her... and you both know it. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Be honest and genuine... Hey last night was great, I'd like to see you again... Or Thanks for last night it was nice to meet you, good luck out there... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
So...you mean it should never be just the fact she can cook??? Naked too I might add ;) We have to..... *gulp* like them?? Lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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joanne1991
12 years ago
I find her response very amusing, but in saying that she sounds like very high maintenance, your probably better off not having anything further to do with her. Don't let that one put you off we are not all high maintenance, medium maybe
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RHP User
12 years ago
IMO - If that's her attitude about a simple call there's probably other hidden crazy you don't know about. Delete lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seems like you dodged a bullet
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' So...you mean it should never be just the fact she can cook??? Naked too I might add ;) We have to..... *gulp* like them?? Lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile Dunno about you, but if I don't like someone they're not walking through my door, simply because they have nice boobs, look pretty, smell sweet, cook like Nigella or act like a porn star.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm... I think it is very rude of her.. Is she a princess? I think you got lucky this time and avoided potential drama. If I see a missed call I always call back or shoot a quick text even if they didn't leave a message. Moved on to the next victim in my thoughts. Haha.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think she has her wires crossed. You may expect a guy to fight for you - once he knows you and knows what he's fighting for. The first couple of dates are often a bit hit and miss and you have to be a bit more tolerant I believe. Silly woman!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' the confusion as a female You had a good date with someone and you ring him after.... the thought goes.....WTF does she want.....ohh God she must be after a relationship.....thats a minus point for her how dare she rings me and tells me it was good....she should bloody wait until I call. Ok I got that into my head....lesson learned Then the next encounter I had.....I didn't ring and said how nice it was......month later or weeks a message or something..... Oh why haven't you rang me messaged me......I thought you didn't like me. SO what should a woman do..............what is the right way or the wrong way. I have no fucking Idea, I am to old for games, I want it simple, please give it to me in a simple way. Ring and say thanks it was nice.................ring not ad the man is hurt in his manhood...... We've all been in that place Litonya and there is no single answer, except what you yourself have just said "I'm too old for games, I want it simple" My mental monologue whenever I find myself drawn into "should I wait or what should I say blah, blah, etc, etc" is to say "bugger it, i'll do what feels right and if she judges that because I didn't wait some impossible to know predeterminate amount of time, then bugger her"...It may mean less 'contact' but also a lot less drama, and I for one know which way I want to live my life :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kinky - I once had a woman say "you didn't fight for me" when in actual fact she should have been saying "I'm sorry I behaved in an insecure, frightened fashion that resulted in me hurting you" I didn't have the sense and wisdom that I have now (even though it was fairly recent, I have hit somewhat of a growth spurt over recent times!!) and our relationship continued...With hindsight (that most wonderful and elusive thing), those same drivers that caused her "you didn't fight for me" response back then caused ever more drama in our relationship...That's a long-winded way of saying "Dude, you dodged a bullet". It's a shame because there's nothing like that feeling when you meet, have a great time, connect well etc, but...move right on along.
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RHP User
12 years ago
why your male perception of each other is that all 'hot' guys are arseholes and all 'ugly' ones are nice guys?? It seems like you guys are doing the women's thing and competing with each other over looks and from what I have encountered...you all think you are hot!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well you single guys are copping it, However understand this firstly,When you say SINGLE on here 99% of you confess after back n worth time wasting messages!!!!! that you actually have a girlfriend??but her doesn't know your on the site!!!!! Just clarifying why majority of us Block you n state NO SINGLES GUYS! So clearly you are the 1 %ers on here, So if you had of kept ringing her n leaving messages she would of thought u were a stalking her or obsessed or pushy or............... I think u should be grateful it never went any further with her, Her loss not yours!!!!
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
"After a brief "WTF" trance, I politely reminded her that I did try to call her." Notice that Kinky didn't add his whole message what he sent her??? It would be interesting Kinky, if you could paste the WHOLE message you sent her... How I read her message response...and her answer is, something has triggered her prior in a way for her to respond like that. I think, some things are left out of this whole scenario. I think there is more to this that what we are really being told. Kinky has put this onto the woman as tho she has the problem...not him. Kinky she wished you luck..isn't that enough?? But no, you had to push her a little more and really validate to her you called?? But you didn't leave a message... I would react too if someone did that to me. Sorry you left it too late dude, a month, she had moved on - she's not going to sit around waiting for just you...to ring and not leaving a message now is she, when she can be out there meeting other people? If a single guy did that to me after a month, I would assume he's married or not really into me, maybe just after a root somefink??? You just didn't try hard enough dude, to show you were really interested in her. It's competitive for men on sites....women do have a lot of choices. Well anyways.....a lesson learnt, hey? Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
That statement makes me feel sad.....and it's untrue...because it is! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
what a bitch. sadly she's reflective of a great many, not all, but a great many who have a sense of entitlement. I say, if you want someone to fight for you, be worth fighting for, give something worth fighting for, or, while you play your little games, good men will wander off and find a woman who's grown up and out of those ... not your loss mate, that one has red flags all over it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're clearly living in a matrix of fish taco bullet time. Congratulations, you dodged a bullet, a section-8 and about 37 well fed feral cats. Don't take women personally. They don't even know who they are or what they want half the time, much less have any idea how to go about getting it. Granted you'd see that around the traps a fair bit even on RHP but not to the same degree as you would on vanilla dating sites - sites that attract psychotic women who think they can trap a man with sex,brainwash him and marry him within a year. You my friend, should be glad you got out with your balls in tact - L
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RHP User
12 years ago
but its out and out game playing drama bullshit etc. dodged a bullet is right.
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RHP User
12 years ago
RE arkangel1978i think you are 100% correct in your answer and I totally agree, if they can't be bothered to answer the phone and return a call they are not worth the effort. RE Kinky GeminiOh i wish I could read into what guys minds are thinking sometimes, I have had many experiences where the same thing has happened to me, think things have gone well and then they never want to see me again, never reply to any contact, so frustrating.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If someone uses that phrase, it is only because they are not being made to feel appreciated or worthwhile. Some need more than others. Some simply make others feel unappreciated. Simple fact here is... the woman lost any attraction she had for you KG and it's usually difficult to get back. Not impossible, but she would need a reason to feel invested in you and I don't see one from what you've shared. Chin up, NEXT!!! :-)
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'brisguy69007' what a bitch. sadly she's reflective of a great many, not all, but a great many who have a sense of entitlement. I say, if you want someone to fight for you, be worth fighting for, give something worth fighting for, or, while you play your little games, good men will wander off and find a woman who's grown up and out of those ... not your loss mate, that one has red flags all over it. Do you call this woman a bitch for? That's a little harsh isn't it? What are the red flags.....???? Because she didn't want to go there with KINKY - remember he tried ringing her, didn't leave a message, then he reminded her four weeks later that he rang... a woman does not need reminding when she clearly his number come up on her phone.......If she wanted to see him she would've returned his call - right then and there, but she didn't...don't you think?? But then again... This is only Kinkys side of the story, what about the ladies side?? Have we forgotten that she exsists as well and part of this scenario? It may be different to what Kinky is saying and sharing with us..?? Oh I love this...when some men turn it on the woman and call her names etc etc.. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I believe a GOOD man would never called a woman a Bitch, in a derogatory way or name call them..... Just sayin.. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was brought up that the 'gentleman' comes to the door to meet you (and parents), opens doors, pulls out chairs etc etc. Yes I know this was 20 odd yrs ago, however I also remember my mother telling me in no way was I to ring the boy first, if he thinks enough of you, he will chase you, you don't ever chase........... While I followed most rules, I also asked now hubby out for our first date............ OP whilst I realise that she was not some young innocent, also realise that this just might be the way she was brought up........ It is a shame, your a nice guy, I wish you the best for next time
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' Quoting 'Meeka100' Women have the power Are you talking about online, or the whole dating scene in general? It's fair to say that ginas are in more demand than penis (on here).... but I strongly disagree with the 'women have the power' comment... a penis needs to stand up for its self and have a little self respect! Now back on topic for a moment: women are complex, mystifying creatures, who knew you had to leave her a bunch of messages to get a response? I'm also interested to know how you managed the communication after the "A woman needs to know you're going to fight for her" memo? if in fact there was an further communication. Finally I'm also interested to know if and how you debriefed following the Bullet Dodging? Cheers AB
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tamworthguy46
12 years ago
Hi Kinky, I was thinking, the same as you, after a successful meet and greet, I to would have contacted her again to see if she was interested.... no straight away reply would have said to me that maybe she just isn't into me, and I would leave it at that !, as I have been condemned before, by contacting a second time, by something like Ohh I thought you would have known, when I didn't reply that I wasn't interested, I didn't want to hert your feelings or whatever. But getting the reply that you did, Isn't in my view, one from a stable minded person, and would make me feel like your dammed if you do, and dammed if you don't ! No one likes to feel rejected, But us guys way out number the girls on these sites, so unfortunately rejection is part of the everyday experience. someone who I rude and arrogant, or tries to switch the blame for the rejection on to the other ? Well that is probably not someone we would like to get involved with anyway next lol Tam
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's great to see people willing to dig into reasons and motives ) To answer some of the questions... yes, I only called once, and I did leave a brief message along the lines of "Hi, it's me, I see you're busy right now so give me call when you have a chance, thanks for the good time, hope we'll do it again soon". Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' I'm also interested to know how you managed the communication after the "A woman needs to know you're going to fight for her" memo? if in fact there was an further communication. Well, there was indeed a reply from me to that... it was a bit sarcastic because her response seemed ridiculous to me (still does). I think I said something along the lines of "don't mind fighting, but will only do it when I see the need; not when someone says there's a rule for me do it". She never replied and so that was the end of it. Oh, and also... Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' a penis needs to stand up amen to that!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' a lesson learnt, hey? Indeed... here it is: don't assume that someone is a good match for you just because you had a good time on the first date.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Much as I sympathise, a while back I arranged to meet a lady on another website. On the Thurs we arranged to meet on Saturday after her commenting that she was busy on Good Friday anyway. All good... until I get an sms on the Saturday morning saying that because I hadn't shown more interest by contacting in the meantime she was cancelling the meet. I got off lightly. In all honesty though, I have to say that whoever it was that invented ladies; fuck it was a great idea! Besides, considering the way some guys behave I think we should be greatful the girls talk to us at all! Take care, all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' I only called once, and I did leave a brief message along the lines of "Hi, it's me, I see you're busy right now so give me call when you have a chance, thanks for the good time, hope we'll do it again soon". If that's what you said she's definitely a "Rules" woman. Not hot.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
In Kinks original forum post...he posted. "Called her a couple of days later - no answer. Ok cool, will wait for you to return the call. Never happened. Weird, but hey... maybe I'm not such a good face reader after all? Well, she emailed...." Then Kink just quoted to M.. "I only called once, and I did leave a brief message along the lines of "Hi, it's me, I see you're busy right now so give me call when you have a chance, thanks for the good time, hope we'll do it again soon". So Kink, you are saying two different things...is that right? It's confusing readers... foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
doesn't she, Foxy? ) What's the issue exactly? I called her, there was no answer. I left a message and waited for her to return the call. Can't see what it is you're trying to pick here )
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' It's great to see people willing to dig into reasons and motives ) To answer some of the questions... yes, I only called once, and I did leave a brief message along the lines of "Hi, it's me, I see you're busy right now so give me call when you have a chance, thanks for the good time, hope we'll do it again soon". Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' I'm also interested to know how you managed the communication after the "A woman needs to know you're going to fight for her" memo? if in fact there was an further communication. Well, there was indeed a reply from me to that... it was a bit sarcastic because her response seemed ridiculous to me (still does). I think I said something along the lines of "don't mind fighting, but will only do it when I see the need; not when someone says there's a rule for me do it". She never replied and so that was the end of it. Sarcastic maybe, but still a worthy response... Oh, and also... Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' a penis needs to stand up amen to that! Motion seconded and carried :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think she may have been that serious in the first place..... I mean, if you were 'clicking' quite well with her, why would she pass you up. Instinctively, you know if your going to 'bed' someone right away. I think she may just have taken you for a ride & she was fishing for an excuse to use on you. Don't worry, there's twenty of fish at my place AND forty loaves of bread to go with it..... Thanks Jesus - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dryphuz
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' In Kinks original forum post...he posted. "Called her a couple of days later - no answer. Ok cool, will wait for you to return the call. Never happened. Weird, but hey... maybe I'm not such a good face reader after all? Well, she emailed...." Then Kink just quoted to M.. "I only called once, and I did leave a brief message along the lines of "Hi, it's me, I see you're busy right now so give me call when you have a chance, thanks for the good time, hope we'll do it again soon". So Kink, you are saying two different things...is that right? It's confusing readers... foxy Nah. Not contradictory. Just omitted the message leaving in first post. I actually assumed there must have been some message. And the message leaving wasn't really relevant until people started questioning how into her he was. Although i must admit one call is a little too little. I would have tried at least once more. Is the message that important? anyway? I would have thought the call was the important part. Some people just don't like voice mail. Damn quotes... They really need to make them more functional and easier to control.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone like that? Personally i dont think its worth all the trouble. She sounds really argumentative and i dont think she has any common sense what so ever .. Id say you missed a bullet with this one , she may be a nutter . Im sure you can find a normal , sane , down to earth , easy going woman lol Its rare i know lol
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
In your original Post you asked My question to the ladies: do you agree with her? Sorry at this stage, I can't agree or disagree, with the lady until I have all the facts, that is why I ask questions. I doubt readers ever will in this case..as there have been posts, by yourself, two different things over the course of this forum (left message/didn't leave a message), so makes it hard to really know what exactly happened. Readers are confused - I know I am, that is all what I am saying. Only you and the lady really know what happened. From experiences I would say, there will be two different perceptions - yours and hers. I don't understand, why you omitted your message out in the first place?? It would've helped the readers more to understand the situation. To have slight digs (IE: free time) cause posters asked questions to find out more if they don't agree with you..is not cool actually. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Foxy your first statement says you called and no answer it mentioned nothing of a message and then later you give details of a message.........but her reply you say was "yes I saw the missed call!' Not a MESSAGE. If I dont get a call or txt well I must say I am with her. Maybe not so strong but yes. If I dont get a message after a meet (which happened recently) if he does call me now after such a long time I tell you I wont be interested. Seriously after a good time it is wise for whichever party to txt at least and say something if they are really keen. If you felt you had a great time and connected it was obvious she did too.......people say you dodged a bullet but maybe you missed the boat, girls often will wait for the message because a lot of guys are players........... had there fun and run.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kinky_G 1. Nobody rides windsurfers anymore, 1993 called and have asked for you to return the windsurfer (and they left a message) 2. Kindly forward me a photo of your new kite board once its been received 3. You may have had a good time and she may have had a good time....... however if you were 'into her' and she was 'into you' then you'd both have moved beyond the whole 'why didn't you call, oh I did but you didn't reply' 4. She seems like she requires quite a bit of attention and if I'm reading the situation correctly you were interested and not smitten..... lady friend required someone 'smitten' END of GAME! And here is Tom with the Weather In other news a British married couple had a child visited Australia and went to the Zoo
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RHP User
12 years ago
And that's understandable, she sounds pretty manipulative and self centred and may have contacted you hoping you would go into 'I'm so sorry' or 'Let me make it up to you' mode. Pffft. I think if you meet someone and don't get past the who should call who, when, why, and how many times then surely that's a sign there isn't much of a connection anyway. Personally I wouldn't have any problem calling more than once, more than one message or TXT etc if I was keen and thought she was as well. People get busy with life, that's cool, not too often of course, once a week or so isn't too much effort for someone special. But one call/message then nothing for a month = not meant to be, and that response after a month = better off without her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' Kindly forward me a photo of your new kite board once its been received Yeah tried that... went back to the fast boards... sorry ) Foxy... sigh... Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I don't understand, why you omitted your message out in the first place?? I omitted other details, too... like what day of week it was, and the weather on that day, and what she was wearing. Probably because it wasn't really that relevant to the story )
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' Kinky_G 1. Nobody rides windsurfers anymore, 1993 called and have asked for you to return the windsurfer (and they left a message) 2. Kindly forward me a photo of your new kite board once its been received 3. You may have had a good time and she may have had a good time....... however if you were 'into her' and she was 'into you' then you'd both have moved beyond the whole 'why didn't you call, oh I did but you didn't reply' 4. She seems like she requires quite a bit of attention and if I'm reading the situation correctly you were interested and not smitten..... lady friend required someone 'smitten' END of GAME! And here is Tom with the Weather In other news a British married couple had a child visited Australia and went to the Zoo What a classic, best laugh I've had all day.......love your sense of humour!
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MsJonesy
12 years ago
A well constructed precis...and bloody hilarious. :)) OP.... keep moving down the bus, plenty of seats available next to women who don't expect that communication is a one way street.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Victorian women usually hate me...it's just a phase you're going through you'll get over it. Chin up kinky_g .....next time I see a church I'll pop on and.day a prayer for you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Tex2251' Personally I wouldn't have any problem calling more than once, more than one message or TXT etc if I was keen and thought she was as well. but it's very easy to create the wrong impression like that. My view is this: if both people are interested in each other, they will BOTH be making attempts to meet again. If I like someone I won't be walking around thinking "oh I'm too busy, but surely she'll call me".
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' My view is this: if both people are interested in each other, they will BOTH be making attempts to meet again. If I like someone I won't be walking around thinking "oh I'm too busy, but surely she'll call me". So... why didnt you call her again?! DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who would give up on a guy you thought might be "the one" because he only tried to call you once?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women can't work them out either ? ? ? ? ?
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