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Yourself
July 05 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
at last..... hmmm How do I see myself, is I am this short round 57 year old female, who can be a mental challenge to many men in Australia because I still think German come across as not polite...LOL I cant see that......no way I am un polite....even I dont say with every sentence please and thank you. I see myself as a cuddly sooooo nice woman....and everybody who meets me finds out....How nice I really are when they would take the time to meet me in person. lol I don't take any bullshit, I dont want to own anybody.....I just want to love.......or say I love.....I am LOVE. Yes I am..... I would like to be this vixen of a woman...:) I know I will never be.....shit. I would like to be this "BODY" every men drools over......shit I am not I accepted I am "my Body" its not such a bad one considering I am not sick in any way....ok its getting older....however in all, its a good one THE body I mean, did not let me down...................YET My teeth are great.......my smile is wonderful......my giggles even better.....ohh and I have this....sexy young voice ahhahahahahahhahahah.........wow how good is that. Overall I am a fine woman indeed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm awesome :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Oh My god...""Jesus..."and/or any variation of these names...I reply... "Yes, my child..."
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RHP User
11 years ago
After years of doubt and questioning, self examination and a lot of hard work, I am now comfortable with myself , flaws and all I am a woman of substance I am grateful I am content I am doing OK
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't know what's going to come out of my mouth next.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A lot of time alone,me myself and I enjoy that....I know who I am ,foibles warts and all...I have never understood the self promotion of those who say they think they are awesome,yadda yadda,I automatically think that it is the result of a fragile ego ...I am an ordinary woman who has had a fair bit of life experience,and who in my opinion only has so far lead an interesting and hopefully useful life....if I died tomorrow I would have few regrets xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll admit I'm still learning about myself. I'm not my greatest fan. But it seems to be RHP suicide to be anything but over confident, or is that just MY observation? I have a lot of self doubt and moments of self loathing, but I'm working on it. I wish I had more self confidence, but it just doesn't seem justified at the moment. Hopefully in time, with some self improvement, that confidence will come.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep a cardinal sin here to not be overly confident...quite frankly I find it boorish...self deprecating humour and modesty are highly underated in this sexually charged hothouse.....and btw,you are perfect just the way you are xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
A friend recently taught me that in order to love and accept others you need to love and accept yourself first. After being part of a couple for so many years it has taken me a long time to find who I am, what I am and to like myself, faults and all. At first I hated spending more than an hour by myself, now I enjoy my ME time. Reminds me of that song, "I've been to paradise, but I've never been to me". Well, that is changing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' But it seems to be RHP suicide to be anything but over confident, or is that just MY observation? you're right JerseyGirl, and I would go so far as to say that this has become a feature of our online lives in general. We want to appear perfect so that others will be jealous of us and admire us. On here, some even seem to think it's a crime to admit that you have past regrets or things you would do differently, as I found out when I admitted that and was berated for it by a forum poster. But really, what's the point in putting on some online facade just so that I can try and convince others that I have the perfect life, or that I am 100 percent happy with myself at the moment and there is nothing I would change? I'm not 100 percent happy, there are a few things I need to work on, but hey that's life; it's not perfect, sometimes it's fucking messy, sometimes we fuck up or things happen to us or we get sick, and frankly the fact that I'm still alive and kicking and slowly making progress, is pretty good for me considering the utterly fucked up state I was in 10 years ago. I don't see why I should deny the hard times in my life just to appease some person I've never met who seems to have a problem with facing reality in all its forms - good and bad. Also, as others have told me, don't always believe everything people say here on RHP. In the online format it's very easy to create the persona that you want others to see. Everyone has their insecurities and their flaws, some are just more willing to acknowledge and be honest about them than others, and I know which of those people I'd prefer to have in my life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'JerseyGirl' But it seems to be RHP suicide to be anything but over confident, or is that just MY observation? you're right JerseyGirl, and I would go so far as to say that this has become a feature of our online lives in general. We want to appear perfect so that others will be jealous of us and admire us. On here, some even seem to think it's a crime to admit that you have past regrets or things you would do differently, as I found out when I admitted that and was berated for it by a forum poster. But really, what's the point in putting on some online facade just so that I can try and convince others that I have the perfect life, or that I am 100 percent happy with myself at the moment and there is nothing I would change? I'm not 100 percent happy, there are a few things I need to work on, but hey that's life; it's not perfect, sometimes it's fucking messy, sometimes we fuck up or things happen to us or we get sick, and frankly the fact that I'm still alive and kicking and slowly making progress, is pretty good for me considering the utterly fucked up state I was in 10 years ago. I don't see why I should deny the hard times in my life just to appease some person I've never met who seems to have a problem with facing reality in all its forms - good and bad. Also, as others have told me, don't always believe everything people say here on RHP. In the online format it's very easy to create the persona that you want others to see. Everyone has their insecurities and their flaws, some are just more willing to acknowledge and be honest about them than others, and I know which of those people I'd prefer to have in my life. Well said!
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RHP User
11 years ago
it is written.. "There is NOTHING new under the sun.."So.. the idea that we have to love ourselves.. or respect ourselves.. or even LIKE ourselves before we can reciprocate those qualities unto others is probably QUITE valid One can then go onto ASSUME.. that those who show love to others when they do NOT love themselves.. probably do not understand LOVE (As I do not) and PROBABLY suffer some strange named "Complex" I for example.. have long been accused of having a "Superiority Complex".. To the point that I decided to go to a Physchologist about it.. He studied me hard and long.. and handed me onto a couple of his associates, who in turn did the same... They in fact wrote "Pages" on me.. and ultimately came back with a totally FASCINATING prognosis.."Cavey my man.. you do NOT have a Superiority Complex.... You GENUINELY ARE Superior!!!! Just putting it out there......
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe I know myself fairly well. Sometimes I don't like what I see but that just spurs me on to try to amend that fault, not always with success. I know I will never be perfect but I have to work with what I have got, and what I have got is a lot more than most people so I should never be ungrateful. I am partly a result of a fortuitous birth (good genes and supportive family) and partly from my own hard work. And Fortuna. A few mantra of the self which I try to keep in mind every day: Self love is not so vile a sin as self neglect. (Henry V)To give and not to count the cost, to fight and not to heed the wound. (Prayer of St Ignatius)My faults truly I know them, they are before me always. (Psalm 51)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting topic :) My relationship with myself certainly has taken it's time to develop into one that I'm....... reasonably happy with, yet still can be improved. I'm one of those 'the mind is always thinking' types, which is both good and bad. Knowing yourself, is really experiencing yourself and reflecting on those experiences, learning what you did right/wrong and hopefully growing as a person. For instance, if I don't have 3 coffees a day I tend to be run down, thus not being the best I can at any given moment. If I don't satisfy my sex drive (alone - ha!), then again, I can be a moody son of a bitch :P Having said that, giving yourself feedback comes with it's own complications. Sometimes it takes someone else's perspective to make you sit back and go "Am I really like that?" or "I never thought of myself that way, cool!" So yeah, I'm still learning about myself, and quite frankly that's pretty exciting :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love your profile name, unique here xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think I am missing some emotions. I rarely feel nervous, excited, surprised or fearful and I wonder why that is. I am quite confident and I am very capable,maybe that is it, maybe I am desensitised to a lot because of the things I have done and been through. I don't think it is normal. Sometimes it is great other times it is not. I don't think it is anything I will find an answer to or be able to change (or know whether it is anything I really want to change). Other than that, I am very sure of myself, I like who I am and I never feel the need to fit in anywhere but fortunately I usually just do, I play to the beat of my own drum, I do what I want and say what I want (to the surprise of many and myself too). People find me easy going, relaxed, funny, up front, genuine, reliable, consistent, helpful but sometimes argumentative, opinionated, stubborn and just a plain bitch. I think that is a fairly good assessment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indeed - a person that knows little about self is not capable of gaining the knowledge of others... so this a bit philosophical, but I think life experience shows in some of the answers here. I love my own self now, but at times past I always had a few things I wanted to change/improve/gain/lose...etc - now I know better and am a lot happoer for it
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I generally stay away from the serious topics in here...but I am me.I know myself very well, in all my awkwardness. I know I sometimes struggle with social situations, but I continue to put myself out there.I know I can be intense and needy (which I hate), so I am working on it.I have doubts and moments of self loathing to. I have regrets and things I wish I had done differently.I have moments in time when I think about them I still feel the burning embarrassment.I did not just survive an abusive relationship I got out walked away and rebuilt myself and am stronger for it but have many lingering doubts because of it. While I will always carry embarrassment at having allowed myself to be in that situation I am proud that I came out the other side I think if you don't know yourself and accept yourself you will constantly search for your self worth in other people and be looking externally for acceptance and love you should feel for yourself, that to me is not healthy and will in my experience sabotage all relationship and all parts of your life. My mantras I guess you could call them are"Wherever you go there you are" by Jon Kabat-Zinnand as the airlines tell us "place the mask on yourself first, then offer assistance" All in all I consider myself a work in progress but I accept myself. MissB
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Happiness is not something that you GET in life. Happiness is something you BRING to life" I don't look for happiness, I know it is within :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
There have been a handful of people in my life that have at times pegged certain aspects of my personality to a tee! When they announce these findings I deny it.... " no way " I'll say, "that's not me at all" for some reason it scares me at times for someone to know me as well as I know myself, yet I strive at times for people to know and understand me! I am an open book yet my pages are cryptic I hate being the centre of attention yet I hate being ignored even more I am the biggest bitch with a heart just as big to match I'm not perfect but I'm perfectly happy with who I am :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' "Happiness is not something that you GET in life. Happiness is something you BRING to life" I don't look for happiness, I know it is within :) Despite my bachelor of psychology... I can't help but read your profile and wonder if maybe having a handful of your ass and giving you my undivided attention with hours of conversation would bring me happiness.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No I cannot say i know myself , enjoying something one week is no guarantee i will enjoy it the next. All i know is i can be a contradictory bastard. Since we are bringing quotes and life mottos to the table i leave you with this... "keep dry and away from children" - a packet of matches Never steers me wrong
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RHP User
11 years ago
Over time I have come to understand my body and mind, whilst neither are perfect I have a healthy respect and admiration for them.... after all they have got me this far in life :) This self love (or self awareness) has evolved over time with the biggest positive change happening over the last 9 months. I firmly believe that it is the relationship I have with myself that allows me to give to others. So to answer the other questions in a nutshell... I feel it is important to to know and have a good relationship with ones self before trying to have a relationship with someone else. SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know myself fairly well... But I am still learning. I mean you meet new people all the time, get yourselves into different scenarios, travel new places, feel new emotions.... So makes sense that you will continue to learn. I am not so set in my ways yet.... I am still very young heart I think.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I appreciate all the answers to my question. In the past few weeks I guess I have been tested a lot on my own core values/morals and myself. I'm really accepting of all of me, faults and all and that I am not perfect when meeting others and am learning so much from this site. However in the last week or two, I have been placed in a couple of scenarios, which has made me feel rather uncomfortable, that I seriously question meeting others now. One in particular, totally left me gobsmacked, that I actually cried with empathy for another (seriously it did) and it's made feel so sad. It was so inhuman and very very cruel. Most of all I never expected this to come from someone I know, which is the disappointing bit. :( Not only that was very very disrespectful, that it's seriously made me question about others and how well they really do know themselves, that someone could actually action and say something, so cruel and brutal, without even thinking how it would make another human-being feel? Guess that is why I asked the question and meeting - Is it important knowing yourself before meeting others?? If one knew themselves they would not go and action or say something so cruel and brutal?? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' But it seems to be RHP suicide to be anything but over confident, or is that just MY observation? Did you not read Kinkypussycat's forum? I much prefer those who are unpretentious and down to earth like yourself. Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' "Happiness is not something that you GET in life. Happiness is something you BRING to life" I don't look for happiness, I know it is within :) So true, it amazes me how some of my clients can be so positive after what they've endured in life. I've been tested a bit this year, but believe I don't have problems, only challenges. They're certainly nothing compared to the friend who lost her mother last week. Like some others have said: I'm still learning about myself. Some things I'm secure about, others I'm not.I regularly get messages saying I seem so confident, but it's all relative. I definitely have things I'm not happy with and/or need to work on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' One in particular, totally left me gobsmacked, that I actually cried with empathy for another (seriously it did) and it's made feel so sad. It was so inhuman and very very cruel. You mean that someone you know (or thought you knew) did something horrible to someone else? People are strange and unpredictable. Most you will never know completely.I think all we can do is learn to know and trust ourselves, and therefore know that we can handle other's actions no matter what they may throw at us.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
YEP! It was the lowest form of inhuman thing I have ever come across :( I'm sure you would have a pink-fit and feel the same as I do. *shakes head in disgust* The things "some" people do, just to get a root or shag on here or get their kinks attended too - the level they go to amazes me. What some do - blows my freakin mind away. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' People are strange and unpredictable. Most you will never know completely.I think all we can do is learn to know and trust ourselves, and therefore know that we can handle other's actions no matter what they may throw at us. Foxy
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
I would like to think I know myself well ...Why ? because I find myself questioning everything I do.....I'm also aware and prepared to learn from my own and others mistakes...........Also I don't think my morals could live me becoming a product of Hypocrisy.....I am also very conscious that us as human beings are capable of such destruction, our planet, to others and ourselves.......If I or we don't strive do be good people and try and live in harmony...with our planet and everything in it, well that's a life wasted........I would hate to come to the end of my time.....and think that my life meant more negative than positive.......And that Includes using other people to my own benefit ....On the other side of that, I certainly don't want to be someone else's fool......so I will compromise to the best of my ability....in everything I do. Love and peace Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'tamworthguy46' I would like to think I know myself well ...Why ? because I find myself questioning everything I do.....I'm also aware and prepared to learn from my own and others mistakes. Those that never think they do anything wrong and nothing is ever their fault are usually the worst people in my book.How many people would instantly be more likeable if they said "I really fucked up there"? I'm talking to you, Abbott. Also, don't they say that never questioning your sanity is a sign you're insane?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting post :) Life as we know it even if it takes time to know ourselves ? I've been through a lot of changes (like many people) have reflected over my life in a whole and have found I like the me I am me (sadly not everyone gets that part of me) I give n get used but still I give again n again? Some peopel will talk crap and talk them selves up to win a nookie me I say it how I feel at any given time ? I am me and I like me :)) Why are all the great sexy interesting lady's so far away in qld grrr yep there are 3 lady's there I'd love to sit and chat with (regardless of sex) one lady I'd love to chat with but don't want to fuk her ? Is that wrong... Ps love your look and the way you think
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RHP User
11 years ago
Socrates said,the unexamined life is not worth living xQ
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Socrates said,the unexamined life is not worth living xQ I love that quote Q. It is on my office wall and leads to puzzled looks from many clients. Which is part of the reason why it is there; let them stretch their brain to examine it's meaning and then examine their lives. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know that I know how to love a woman, and I know that about myself..I know that I don't know how to fix a jet engine, and I know that too..But there's things that I don't even know that I don't even know. And that's where others come in.,Like on this Forum.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's very kind Q, thank you :) Shame to hear about your experience Foxy, people will never cease to amaze us. I agree Meander, being able to admit you did something wrong, and take responsibility for your mistakes goes a long way into learning about yourself. You can never be perfect, but you still can be great!
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thank you. I try to see the best in every situation I can....even if sometimes I am amazed - there is always something! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
still sometimes live through people at you you just want to run from....and you cant...they are in your face and hunt you down...... I will never give up on the positive of people however I see a decline in responsibilities....and that's sad....when you do something wrong stand up and make it right.....we just blame the other and walk away.....because its never my fault its always the others.....the wind the ocean he mad me do it and what else people come up with as an excuse. There are a few who stand up and apologize and do the right thing....and I know how hard it is for them to do so...I bow my head in honour to them, but believe me the once who just walk away and dont give a damp should they one day be in the gutter I would leave them there. We teach our young once to be honest and believe in right and then they see so many people do the wrong and get a way with it..... Foxy some people can just hurt and when you experience this first hand your world just collapses because you would have never thought so.....think all this time they pretended....it can make you sick real sick you did never see it. Sending you love L
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Socrates said,the unexamined life is not worth living xQ That is probably why great quotes like that live on, and are still relevant today !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I fail to see why that is so important? Why do you have to examine your life? What are you examining and why?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you don't understand why then it really doesn't matter does it xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
No I suppose not. Just curious. I don't spend much time on reflection. For me I always try and act with integrity and according to my own ethics so I don't really spend much time looking back. Although I haven't really had much heart ache or major life events that have turned out badly so maybe I have no need? Or maybe I just hate looking back....... I prefer to look forward to what I can do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
great value/You sound fun Litonya ;) really
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RHP User
11 years ago
life is an experience, without experiences you wont have a life and will never really know yourself.there are curve balls every which way you turn and each 1 you should learn more about yourself, if you dont I guess you will go through life not learning.learning how you deal with situations improves as your life experience develops and this molds you as a person. I live life by "treat other how you want to be treated" so you treat your friends, aquiantances,and importantly everyone you meet in life whether it the checkout person, bank teller, how you would want to be treated, it cost nothing to be nice and it may be the greatest thing that cost $0. so greet everyone with a smile, treat them how you want to be treated and you will become a better person emotionally. I have been to some dark places and thought of other really quick ways out, but came though it by not wanting others to shoulder MY bad experiences (mainly my wife), I had to deal with them and move forward as that just wasn't fair on her and the family. what did I learn from this? it was a life curve ball, it wasn't the end of the world (could have been) and I moved on, life is now very good, and as a person I'm stronger, happy, enjoying life and I think I'm a far better person, I ride life's waves without stress and am a nicer person (well at least I think I am, other may not think so, do I care.....not really)Think I went of topic then sorry.so from here on you should all treat others how you want to be treated yourself, you will be amazed how you feel about yourself when you bring this into your daily life
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are probably more reflective Meeka...I think that most people operate out of their unconscious,never questioning their motivations or their effect on others...it depends how you want to live your life,if you are content to just live according to your own needs,or if you have a need to make a difference in the world,not necessarily in a big way,but just in small things..... Everything changes,I know that how I think about certain things is quite different to how I used to think... But from what you have said in your post,you are obviously very aware of how you go about in the world...with integrity ...so not an unexamined life at all imo xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
What beautiful self awareness and vulnerability. I can relate to so much of what you shared! Truly getting to know yourself can be an incredible, painful, but ultimately liberating experience.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is probably because I form firm opinions through careful consideration and express myself carefully. I am relatively proficient with the written word. The truth is very different. In myself, I often feel inadequate. There are ladies who contribute to these pages whom I hold in high regard but would never consider playing with as I feel I would compare poorly, in many areas, with many of the playmates they're used to. My greatest fear is that one of Jennylee's playmates might turn her head and I'd lose her. We are such an emotionally fragile species.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was a great description, I was going to write much the same about myself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Aww Jensman and S_ontheLoose.... do you guys need some cuddles? By the way, most women feel like that all the time too. You are not unique in that.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thank you. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903'My greatest fear is that one of Jennylee's playmates might turn her head and I'd lose her. We are such an emotionally fragile species. Your greatest fear became my greatest loss as of late. Take care. It can be playing with fire but if you think about it you cannot play with fire. You just get burnt..Further words elude me at this point.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903'I've been told repeatedly, in these pages, that I see myself as superior.This is probably because I form firm opinions through careful consideration and express myself carefully. I think the reason why is the opposite though. I too often don't think enough about how I want to say something, only to cringe when I read my comment later. Some of the posters are very eloquent (you included) and say what I wanted to say. Jman, I've never thought you sounded superior, though we've butted heads a few times.Righteous is word that much better describes your posts in my opinion. Tony, that's terrible that happened to you. Hug x
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RHP User
11 years ago
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'thebsss' life is an experience, without experiences you wont have a life and will never really know yourself.there are curve balls every which way you turn and each 1 you should learn more about yourself, if you dont I guess you will go through life not learning.learning how you deal with situations improves as your life experience develops and this molds you as a person. I live life by "treat other how you want to be treated" so you treat your friends, aquiantances,and importantly everyone you meet in life whether it the checkout person, bank teller, how you would want to be treated, it cost nothing to be nice and it may be the greatest thing that cost $0. so greet everyone with a smile, treat them how you want to be treated and you will become a better person emotionally. I have been to some dark places and thought of other really quick ways out, but came though it by not wanting others to shoulder MY bad experiences (mainly my wife), I had to deal with them and move forward as that just wasn't fair on her and the family. what did I learn from this? it was a life curve ball, it wasn't the end of the world (could have been) and I moved on, life is now very good, and as a person I'm stronger, happy, enjoying life and I think I'm a far better person, I ride life's waves without stress and am a nicer person (well at least I think I am, other may not think so, do I care.....not really)Think I went of topic then sorry.so from here on you should all treat others how you want to be treated yourself, you will be amazed how you feel about yourself when you bring this into your daily lifeYeah...I'l pay that !.....nice attitude.....Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
MissBthat was an awesome depiction of yourself. So sincere.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm just a regular Joe with a regular job I'm your average white suburbanite slob I like football and porno and books about war. I've got an average house with a nice hardwood floor But sometimes that just ain't enough To keep a man like me interested Yes you guest it I'll wait for any response But it must make people laugh - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Well I'd say I know myself better than anyone else, for the first time in years I can honesty say "I know who I am." My life is one of a mixture of things, some sad, some beautiful, some horrifying, some amazing, but it is these things that have shaped me, taught me, made me look at who I am, what I want to achieve, what and who's important to me and made me a better person..... I still have so much to learn, to experience, to see, to do and I'm excited about what's installed for me, whatever it may be. Because it all these things together that teach us about our true selves.... Love me or hate me, doesn't really bother me at all, because I know exactly who I am and I love me.......💋
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