F59
an old fame.............
September 09 2011
Comments
-
RHP User
14 years ago
Of course nothing came up when they were naked..And it accidently slipped inside her as he turned the light off..then he had a back spasm causing his pelvis to intermitently thrust until he came.. MMMMM old sex partner...
-
RHP User
14 years ago
Naked...in bed together....all night....with a woman he used to have sex with....and you overseas. Yep. Nothing happened. Not being one of a couple and not being someone who would like to be in a relationship that was not monogomous, from my point of view it was unacceptable anyway. However, how long ago was the relationship? How intense / close was it? How badly did it end and why? Sometimes there is no going back and you know it. It aint ever gonna happen and both involved accept that. You can still remain friends, still chat every now and then even meet for coffee or dinner but in those circumstances there is no way I would end up naked with a man I no longer felt sexually towards. I dont understand the problem here. Well perhaps I do actually. If it is okay for him to have sex with a random woman then where is the problem with one he knows? Is it a touch of insecurity on your part? He used to go out with her...she might want him back sort of thing?
-
RHP User
14 years ago
lol Fiona..lots of questions there....We are very close..This problem is only one that is niggling me this last week and I have chosen to distance myself from him. It has not ended badly at all. We remain friends. Whilst I understand through reading many of your posts and your feelings on swinging n such.. We agreed that it was ok to swing. He has never done it before he met me and does not understand like you, what the difference is between hooking up with an old friend and a random...That can be an endless debate ..LOL.. If I was insecure about sharing him then i would not be wanting this...He is friends with her on FB before we met..I do not have any problems with that.. I have male friends on mine. If he wanted to get back with her then I have no problems with that..One should follow their heart after all. I do believe him when he told me nothing happened and they just cuddled... Besides think they had too many wines anyways..lol If you are in a relationship and trust is not there then you have walk away.. My question is about swinging n others opinons if they find it acceptable that you hook up with an ex. huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxx Taipan..do you get back spasams when catching up with an old friend? LOL
-
erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Ex what ? Ex girlfriend ? Ex spouse ? Ex fuckbuddy ? Ex work friend who he used to go out with for social drinks ? or just Ex school friend who he used to carry her books home for but never got further than an occasional kiss goodbye ? ET xox
-
RHP User
14 years ago
Quote " I recently had to dash off overseas for family reasons and left my partner with my blessing to seek other women whilst I was gone....Did you tell him specifically that he was not to latch up with an ex .. you gave him permission to seek other women ... does it matter really whether it be a random ... someone from RHP who he might have seen before .. or someone from his past who he previously had a connection with .. ..what you had was an OPEN relationship where you both could entertain (to what ever level) .. with other people, could talk to each other about it and still be with each other when it passes .. .he didn't leave you for her .. he was still there when you got back .. he didn't hide the information from you .. but it seems that you might be a bit insecure in yourself .. in not coping with it .. It is possible to sleep naked with a member of the opposite sex without indulging in play/sex/intercourse.Best avenue ... talk it over with him .. not distance your self ...
-
RHP User
14 years ago
sorry i dont get it You leave the gate open to play while you were away and a ex shows up Is he still waking up in bed with you every morning ?????? In the swinging lifestyle you are bound to come aross an ex if they are in the swing lifestlye if you are still friends so why not jump into bed with them If you are that worried suggest a meet up with you her and him and see where it goes maybe you will end up in bed cuddleing just like he did ????????? (yeah right)
-
RHP User
14 years ago
...feelings and emotions are really now in play. That "L" word can throw a spanner in the works and sometimes all the logical rationalizations that we can come up with as mature and happy adults turn us right back into beautifully emotional and irrational wide-eyed kids. Nothing wrong with that at all...take them to the park and buy them both an ice cream, then sit in a swing together and talk about your feelings. | Good luck...that's hard to come by.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
...avoid the ex's. That's a bomb waiting to go off.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
You did give him permission to see others so really (despite the fact that you wish otherwise) you can't get too niggled about him seeing an old friend. I was in a similar situation to you as I thought my partner might still feel some attachment but in the end everything worked out fine. I would be more worried if he wanted to see her again next time you go away.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
The fact that you didnt stipulate who he could fuck and couldnt fuck plays a big part here.. Dont you think?? Did he put stipulations on you? Or is it because she is an X that you feel threatened?
-
RHP User
14 years ago
I understand this one Sweety Petity The fact that it was a person who was a past fling, or previous fwb smacks of unfinished business on one side or the other. From personal experience, the only reason I would ever go back is if there were that sort of something left undone otherwise , why go backwards? It means 'feelings' of some sort, and good on you for reading between the lines. An unknown is an unknown, you couples know what sort of trouble it means when a feeling or two creeps into the equation.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
lol @ most of you !!! Why are you trying to phsyco anal..ize things? The question is simple and I will answer it for you. In my opinion it is not ok to see an ex. She is an old girlfriend. So whilst I was overseas would it have been ok to sleep with my ex hubby? No.. Don't know which part some are not reading as I have said that he is new to the swing scene. So for him having a chance to meet an ex at a swing meet is 200 % impossible.. CM... The L word is not there for me. Mistress T.. If he wanted to get back with her, then so be it. Like I have said..One should follow ones heart. DGT...Thank you.. huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Always follow your heart. Use common sense when swinging.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
There's actually no such thing as 'common' sense as we're all the sum of our own separate experiences and upbringing, therefore can I suggest an alternative mantra: Use COMMUNICATION when swinging.As for the ex, if he didn't have enough time to lay the groundwork with someone new, she was probably just the easy option because the familiarity was already there. He didn't hide it from you and if you didn't stipulate that exes were out you can't assume he knew it was a rule, so it doesn't sound like he's done anything wrong whether he fucked her senseless or not.xx Sarah
-
RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' As for the ex, if he didn't have enough time to lay the groundwork with someone new, she was probably just the easy option because the familiarity was already there. He didn't hide it from you and if you didn't stipulate that exes were out you can't assume he knew it was a rule, so it doesn't sound like he's done anything wrong whether he fucked her senseless or not.xx Sarah . Is seeing someone you used to see and still remain only friends with acceptable? you ask this ... you say " .He is friends with her on FB before we met..I do not have any problems with that.you say "I do believe him when he told me nothing happened and they just cuddled... Besides think they had too many wines anyways..lol".You make the comment - If you are in a relationship and trust is not there then you have walk away.. My question is about swinging n others opinions if they find it acceptable that you hook up with an ex. ... I would say .. you trusted him enough to give him permission to play whilst you were overseas .. you did not stipulate with whom he could or couldn't play with ... He I say .. trusted you enough to tell you all about it .. ."Don't know which part some are not reading as I have said that he is new to the swing scene. So for him having a chance to meet an ex at a swing meet is 200 % impossible.".He may well be new to the swinging scene ...as you say .. but .you did not say or infer that he met her at a swing meet .. and such being impossible .. having her on his FB list and possibly chatting .. they may well have just decided to have a dinner night out and lots of wines .. and that was that .. after all .. you did say you believed him ....As I said before .. communication is best done up-close .. not from a distance .. unless you want out of the relationship ..JMO .. (and having been in the same situation my self ...speaking form first hand experience).
-
RHP User
14 years ago
...unless having an old flame burning is different here, could be one "L" of an L in there somewhere. It could just be a serious case of the "Likes" ....maybe? Of course unless it's Angelina that's burning...it could be a fame flame? | I was hoping to cop an invite to the wedding.
-
RHP User
14 years ago
I believe in him as he is a good man with an amazing beautiful soul ..With him seeing an old flame is not the reason I have distaanced myself from him. We will remain friends. .. Having some asking if I am insecure or jealous is plain rediculous. ..But guess one has to expect this when posting here sometimes and some might read into things that are not there. With this post I simply should have just asked the question without detail....Lesson learnt. ..Too me it was simple..I know what my answer is to my own question..Just wanted to hear what other couples thought and if they had had a similar experience. Thank you Mrs P Lubs ya back sweetp xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
-
RHP User
14 years ago
Right.....like I am going to deny that? | Quoting 'MrsPeachypear'Sweetpetite... don't listen to Midnight... he's just hoping to cop a feel... do you suppose it's cos he's fallen for your FBI outfit? Forget cops and rubbers....check out the pic where she's lifting her dress wearing a jeans jacket and those boots, head turned to the right and looking over her shoulder. Not that I paid much attention to that....but if the truth be told, I'm packing more wood than that tree. So here's a great quote for you... | Bite me.......please.
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15106 Comments: 88190
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1417 Comments: 10253
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2519 Comments: 11676
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2506 Comments: 9776
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 1004 Comments: 5175
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1303 Comments: 5784
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 781 Comments: 1992
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 869
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share