M44
cancellation ?!
May 03 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe they changed their mind Maybe they liked the fantasy but got scared when it became real Maybe they suddenly noticed that little word "sometimes" in your profile Maybe they lost their phone. And their computer got stolen Maybe it was them, Maybe it was you. Next!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lots of gutless wonders on here. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it is part of respect to let the person know specially after a long conversation I accept all that, every one got a reason But what would you say to the person who says yes but never shows up Fair enough if they change their mind or not interested any more. How hard is it for them to say it, so I know . No one is forcing you to reschedule the meeting. --------------------------- Meeka That's true, But how can I filter out the genuines from the fakes ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...they were really a guy
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RHP User
11 years ago
These things are all about timing and inclination ..I also say,please let me know if your budgie dies xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
everybody has been in the same situation. There is nothing we can do to prevent it. This kind of people will always be around. So the only way to not feel to upset is brush it off. I know that's easier said then done because it makes you angry when this kind of gutless humans playing with you. Maybe only look for people who have a validation, then you know they are real. Good luck next time L
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sweetgem
11 years ago
You will get all sorts of ignoring, rude and weirdo behaviour as you wander deeper into this fantasy cyberspace. What you've described above is only the beginning of an angry/frustrating chain reaction. So, don't let this experience get to you and just learn how to deal with this kind of situation with a smile :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Hard at the start. You will find ways to improve your process. Takes me hours to prepare for a meet. My selection process has improved but did get to the stage i was going to double book the night.(not the same time) Twice the chance of someone turning up. Mmmmm. Twice the chance of not being able to walk if both did turn up......
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RHP User
11 years ago
And I've never stood anybody up either so I have no idea why this would happen.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That will never get to me, I don't get upset in real life, I don't think someone I barely know can push my nerves. I just wanted to know how this people think. What do they get out of it. I don't think it matters if the person is verified. They can still do and say what they want, as long as it doesn't violate peoples rights. - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
11 years ago
I haven't encountered it yet, but recently on the way home for a work trip I was going to stop and meet a lady for the first time. I had just hit the town and sent her a message to let her know, only to get a reply that she is waiting for a plumber. My first thought was she was moving fast and wanted a kinky fantasy (I was wearing hi-vis workwear, and could have pulled the back of my pants down to impersonate a plumber easily enough). Turns out she really was waiting for the plumber. I waited in town for several hours before we finally managed to catch up. Lovely lady, worth waiting for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' ...they were really a guy +1
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't be surprised if they were guys Since I have been getting more messages from guys asking if I was bi - Posted from rhpmobile
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beachgal20
11 years ago
Don't get me started....it happened this weekend......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'AGuyWithRespect' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' ...they were really a guy +1 But he has said that he spoke to them on the phone. Are you and DG insinuating that a guy would disguise his voice? I don't get it. Why would a guy do this anyway??? For what purpose?
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RHP User
11 years ago
You should be THANKFUL that you have been saved. I have been very lucky to avoid a fruit cake or two from this site. No matter how well you screen, you can still end up with a non-meet or a whacko-in-the-wings. *Shrugs shoulders*. C''est la vie. Just move on to your next potential playmate / relationship and have fun. Cheers, The Nurturer
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes it's annoying and inconvenient when people cancel or don't reply but i always feel that in the end it's better that the lack of response means you dont need to spend any further time or effort on them. People have their own reasons for flaking, all you can do is not behave like that when meeting others. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spoke to few over the phone not all But similar actions from majority of them Why would any one do this guys or girls I don't think there is a purpose there, just time wasting - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been stood up before for an innocent social meet. You will probably never know the answer, myself I tend to be concerned for their welfare as opposed to getting annoyed. But as for having your time wasted, it is impossible to avoid, and there are other wastes of time and/or money in life as well as that when trying for a potential friend/playmate/partner.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, common courtesy shouldn't be too much to expect !! Just tell us so we can move on and take the most of babysitting - for those who need to arrange kid care it's a wasted opportunity !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For most people RHP and similar sites are just a side line, a distraction, an amusement, or even a game. People on the other end are anonymous characters, almost fictional. While the game is held at arms length, or the control is theirs alone they will play the fantasy. When you switch from the imagined control to the reality of forced obligation suddenly the fun evaporates. What does one do at that point, one turns the game/fantasy/distraction off. Do not think of people as rude or inconsiderate, on the most part in real life they are not, just understand that the computer interface blurs the line between fiction and reality and many here are here only for the distraction. You are just a character in a novel. Do not get angry or take it to heart for from my experience we all at times are the same. If you are here and serious about finding someone to meet then you must learn to recognize those that are the same. This can be difficult as the characters play well and the fantasies are broad and complex. You must also show restraint, do not force obligation, always allow room to avoid obligation, dont make the easiest path the path to the off switch, you are the fictional fantasy, with patience you can become the desired reality. Those that succeed here know this, those that do not get frustrated and end up posting what is the all to familiar OP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am starting to realise that there are lots of: couples (male only, no female), couples (she's doing it for him) and girls (who are really males) on this site. It makes it hard to sort out who is real and who isn't. I feel for you Op, maybe you are being too keen to actually meet. We have found that as long as we are open and honest about what we are seeking, we are meeting more like minded people suited to both of us. (btw, I'm not casting any aspersions on your intentions or interactions with people as I've never met nor spoken to you). MrsSAF
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RHP User
11 years ago
As for myself, I treat people the same exactly like how I treat people in normal life I don't have multi personalities I have seen situations where people say what ever they want to say, with no limits, just because they are behind a screen, and can't be touched! Or having a conversation with himself with dual account just to attract others into the conversation, (some one told he was doing that) why!!! My situation is easier comparing to others, who put things on hold, to make time to meet, just to find out they've been stood up. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you get promo codes? - Posted from rhpmobile
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