cheating or not?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  RUN! Don't really know Perthbuoy, I would only hang around if I loved the person and thought there was a long term future for us. Because the whole situation is hugely complicated, there are kids involved, it is her problem which she needs to deal with and sorry to say you will probably get your heart broken.Walk away while you can. xxMeeka

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  RUN!!!!' , Only hurt can come from this...run as fast as you can , Kisses Focus (the woman who doesnt want kids etc so take my advice with a grain of salt)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  as a woman I agree with them RUN!!!! Mate you are getting the chance to dodge a bullet. Take it.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  RUN!!!! She is a married woman fooling around. Chances are....sometime down the track she will do the same to you. Is she leaving her husband for you or for herself? Does she need you to look after her or is she prepared to go it alone and stand on her own two feet while she and the kids heal? Then there is the kids...how confused are they gonna be? How much resentment are they gonna have for you? Another partner needs to be introduced slowly over a period of time. If she really hated the partner then why is she still with him? You dont stay in a bad relationship for the sake of the kids, we all know that and whether or not a woman has kids really does not matter if you are looking for the lifetime commitment as plenty of relaionships survive with the proverbial yours/mine/and ours situation. She needs to sort her own shit out, stop looking for a crutch and learn to stand on her own two feet before she completely fucks up her kids.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  My god why is she still with him if she hates him? . I mean i can see why, if he's 'only just realised that he actually loves her ' because he had a scare of possibly losing her. Shits me when people do that (men or women) !!! I dont want you but by god........no one else is having you either.....makes me grrrrrrr selfish , lazy, complacent suns of biarches. . . Only you know what to do, do you want to fight for her? or is it in the 'too hard basket' ?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  this woman is married and cheating...she isnt yours to go after im with the other girls....RUN once a cheater always a cheater just remember cheaters will tell you anything to make you feel sorry for them save yourself some grief down the line and get out while you can if she wants you that badly she will leave her hubby, sort herself out and come to you...its up to you if she is worth waiting for or not roxxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I don't think its ever a good idea to 'steal' a partner away from another or for people to jump from one relationship into another .. but in saying that .. my brother met his wife when they were both neighbours and married to others. There connection was palpable and the first time I saw them together I could feel the sizzle or elctricity between them. (Yes they did have an affair).They were going to leave their respective partners for each other but decided to pull back from each other and give their relationships another chance .. They tried to stay away from each other but just couldn't. Eventually they both left their partners and dated each other and finally moved in together. Now they have 3 kids together and have been married for 20 years and yes are still very very happy and totally committed to each other. They haven't cheated on each other and are still very much in love. I don't agree once a cheater always a cheater .. Straying from a marriage is a symptom of a problem in the relationship .. Not a sign of someone being an arse and a cheat! I sometimes wonder how it is okay to sleep with a 'cheater (their terminology not mine)' and still take the moral high ground !! Anyway perthbuoy .... I would wait until she is really 'available' for you ... it is ultimately what you and all of us deserve .... someone that is available for us entirely ...All the best with it ..Sassy xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Fiona and Roxxy, she needs to leave and be on her own first, and on her own feet. Fuck I must be going soft maybe I just need more coffee lol. . Its not always easy to do the right thing, (like leaving him first etc) but living with your concience after you have is bloody bliss if you have. . I did not stay because of the children, and as the other ladies will know, its friggin hard, and you pay for it in tears when you watch your children upset by it all, and just hang in there until they're old enough to understand the whys, until then you just cop it sweet day by day. . after a relationship its necessary to be by yourself, to re-find yourself if thats what you're looking for, to get yourself happy again, remind yourself of what you do want in the future and be very careful that what you do doesn't further adversely affect your children. You can't go from out of the frying pan and into the fire, be very very careful of lust!!! it can wear off quick smart when it all gets a little too real

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Man you need to get out of there FAST. it is all about to get Very Very Ugly and if she leaves there will be years of trouble , stress and ugly scense ahead. And i would almost bet it will not last between you both so Dodge that Bullet it will not be worth it wowwow as serious as he can be

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Get the hell out of it man. Dont worry, there are plenty of amazing girls that are not married with kids! You may find that the thrill of the chase, risk of being caught was a big part of the attraction.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'm with everyone else on this one. You're just setting yourself up for a world of heartache and pain and the possibility of a pissed off guy after your blood....it's just not worth the shit!!Get out while the going is good and you have the chance!!!If there's really a connection between you both, she can leave the husband and be free and she'll come looking for you then.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  and to eat it too if you really do have a connection, then wait until she has left her partner and sorted her shit out before you go there. real love waits : ) xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Say "next". If she leaves.... then when she leaves.... arrright... and that's a good reason why you should make a lasting impression. :pHugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Think outside the box people... You and her partner have probably got a fair bit in common, so become friends. You already similar taste in women. Does he have a garage or something you two could bond in? Maybe buy an old car that you can do up together. She can bring you lemonade and sandwiches... . Then run like fuck.

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