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do any partners mointor the weight of their partners
January 16 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I had a partner who even suggested such a thing, he'd be out the door and a memory! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm cursed with only being attracted to tall, lean, athletic men, so I do notice if my partner starts to pork up. But, I'm equally cursed with a genetic predisposition and a relentless chocolate addiction, which means my weight fluctuates dreadfully. I'd never monitor his weight. And I'd skin someone alive if they started monitoring mine. Bugger that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Taby_DK
12 years ago
Having been a very unfit person when I first met Mr Taby_daring 2 years ago I can honestly say I am happy that he has helped me to get fit and loose around 12kg since then. Mr does not monitor my fitness or dress size or measurements as that is my job, but he does help to motivate me when I hit a flat spot and he does compliment me when he knows I have been working hard. We run together when every we can and while we do attend the gym together we do separate workouts and do not train together at the gym as I turn into Miss grumpy and like to be left alone to do my workout lol I do know of some couples who monitor each other if they are heavily into fitness or are competing in fitness but if your just doing every day fitness to keep fit and healthy I really don't see the need to monitor your partner. Taby xx
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Coops27M
12 years ago
Do you OP? If so why?
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Mr Cheeky gives me compliments everyday on how much he loves me & my body! He loves me for who I am... I would feel very upset if he started monitoring my weight n he too would be upset if I were to monitor his! But each to their own OP..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeh totes, who else is going to tell my ho she getting fat and to lay off the cheesy poofs. Santa Claus? Naw fck that. ;) lol..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it really depends on how much the couple is into fitness as to whether its appropriate or not. At one point in a relationship I was putting on a lot of weight and would've actually appreciated someone saying "hey, you're getting a bit fat/unfit/unhealthy, maybe it's time to sort something out" rather than ignoring it. On the flip side, I wouldn't be so harsh with a partner, I wouldn't really know where to start such a conversation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I only play with people who are into my body type as a preference rather than a consolation so it's not something that should be likely to come up very often. But I did play with a 'feeder' for a while, quite by accident. Those are people who like to try to fatten up their partner to super-size for a variety of reasons, be it to create a control and dependency situation or just to fulfil the fantasy of being with someone who is sized to epic proportions. Sadly for him, he was pretty obvious in the things he said and I'm someone who isn't easily influenced or controlled and food isn't something I consider a 'reward', I'm not a dog! LOL xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sounds rather domineering . No thanks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was in situation like the one Taby mentioned (bodybuilding), and it was expected. Other than that, I'd be measuring the width of his ass, the width of the front door and seeing just how far out of said door I could kick his ass.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Never have and I never would ? We either take people as they are or not at all.. No one should play that game of control
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
I value my testis
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RHP User
12 years ago
By lifting me up, he can tell if I've been sneaking in a bit of chocolate. No, I'm just kidding. But I do like it when he compliments me and gives me encouragement on my progress to reaching my ideal weight and becoming more toned and fitter :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I haven't and I won't, I try not to even monitor my own. . I've never had a partner who commented on my weight either and would not accept it, unless he was genuinely concerned if for example I started losing weight for no reason.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But it was part of a shared push for fitness and weight loss, it's just that he was more enthusiastic about it than I was so I felt a bit like I had to make progress to be attractive to him. Not something I'd ever want to do again to be honest, I've learned to love myself as I am and want someone else who feels the same. I do know of men who watch what their wives eat like a hawk and make comments about what she should or shouldn't be eating. One man said at an Easter family feast after chastising his NEW wife about what she was eating that it was because "I don't want a fat wife". The wife in question weighed about 50 kilos. Made me wanna punch the guy out. Italian culture and the rest of the family accepted this attitude though, which I think is abhorrent.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The first time I saw bofa naked in the shower I was slightly taken aback... At 5'5" and 48 kg, she was almost gaunt and her breasts, being a mature woman were, well... Slightly deflated. I would never "monitor" someone, but I encouraged her to eat better, and reassured her that she looked great (that was always easy, because it was true...) 12 months and 3-4 kg later, she was bemoaning her current weight, until I showed her the pic that I'd taken that first time... She was stunned at how thin she was... And she knew that she looked and felt much better at her new weight. I done a good thing :) Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
But... We both train hard so monthly measurements are how we keep track of progress. As a side note, if the result is not ideal we don't shame each other. It's purely for tracking gains. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you love each other, as we do, why would you even bother? Don't ever worry what people think of you, as nobodies perfect...at all!!
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Innercircle
12 years ago
hmmm, so what if your partner is suffering from a condition, that causes drastic and potentially life threatening weight loss? Do you monitor then?
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's what I meant. Unexplained weight loss can be great cause for concern as it could indicate an illness such as cancer, though may also be a sign of an eating disorder. In that case being aware of your partner's weight would be a good thing.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' That's what I meant. Unexplained weight loss can be great cause for concern as it could indicate an illness such as cancer, though may also be a sign of an eating disorder. In that case being aware of your partner's weight would be a good thing. a gland, not sure which one, guess pet-u-et-ry (sounds like)
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Innercircle
12 years ago
So, just to confirm.... People are happy to monitor a partner's weight if it becomes too low, due to potential health issues, but are unwilling to monitor the same person when they become overweight, despite it's proven health issues? I still cannot gasp why it is not ok to call someone out on their weight (as some did to me when I gained, which was a wake up call to me), when it effects our health (and even viewed as 'ok', with descriptions like 'BBW' rather than 'overweight', or more accurately, 'obese'). Yet is someone who is equally happy with their weight (let's say, someone that has bulimia or anorexia), is wrapped up in cotton wool, and submitted to interventions, and even 'public disgust'. Lets just take anorexia... it takes the lives of 250 people a year. Obesity has taken over smoking, as the leading cause of death. More than half the population of Australia is considered overweight, and nearly a quarter are classed as obese. Im not having a go at people's lifestyles. Im not saying you need to starve yourselves. I just dont understand why it is ok to 'call out' someone who has lost a little too much weight, when ultimately, gaining too much has a much higher mortality rate. Discuss!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'rockercouple80' So, just to confirm.... People are happy to monitor a partner's weight if it becomes too low, due to potential health issues, but are unwilling to monitor the same person when they become overweight, despite it's proven health issues? I still cannot gasp why it is not ok to call someone out on their weight (as some did to me when I gained, which was a wake up call to me), when it effects our health (and even viewed as 'ok', with descriptions like 'BBW' rather than 'overweight', or more accurately, 'obese'). Yet is someone who is equally happy with their weight (let's say, someone that has bulimia or anorexia), is wrapped up in cotton wool, and submitted to interventions, and even 'public disgust'. Lets just take anorexia... it takes the lives of 250 people a year. Obesity has taken over smoking, as the leading cause of death. More than half the population of Australia is considered overweight, and nearly a quarter are classed as obese. Im not having a go at people's lifestyles. Im not saying you need to starve yourselves. I just dont understand why it is ok to 'call out' someone who has lost a little too much weight, when ultimately, gaining too much has a much higher mortality rate. Discuss! I think it hinges on the 'too much' factor either way, if you care about someone and they're getting quite far from where they started or where you know they want to be (from open honest discussion) definitely is OK to discuss but in terms of 'calling out' I think one should consider their intent and approach in each situation individually. xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'rockercouple80'I still cannot gasp why it is not ok to call someone out on their weight (as some did to me when I gained, which was a wake up call to me), when it effects our health (and even viewed as 'ok', with descriptions like 'BBW' rather than 'overweight', or more accurately, 'obese'). Yet is someone who is equally happy with their weight (let's say, someone that has bulimia or anorexia), is wrapped up in cotton wool, and submitted to interventions, and even 'public disgust'. I agree with part of your post (though I assumed you meant to say unhappy? I can't see anyone with an eating disorder happy with their weight). . The world is getting fatter and it's not a good thing. And I agree, changing the descriptive terms is making it sound ok. If my partner gained more than ten kilos I would certainly bring it up, though without "calling him out". . I'm actually reminded now of my brother, who gained some 20 kilos while on Prednisone. Not all weight gain is due to overeating.
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