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head the 1st time u sleep with a girl
December 31 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had no idea there were any rules oher than mutual respect in all activities Respect your partners wishes and give her pleasure. If she likes it give it to her just the way she likes it, if she doesn't then don't. If you want some then ask nicely. If she says no then find a way to accept that or find someone more sexually compatible with you.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It always helps to present a nicely groomed and clean playground when making the request :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well once that happens anything can happen. It's really her choice.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you like this lady...it sounds like you do and perhaps it's reciprocal, just go with the flow and see what happens. Remember always that it's a journey together...exploration and growth whether it be in mutual pleasure or just a very intimate friendship are often as important as the act itself. You'll get there... | ...or she will get there first. Enjoy the adventure together! | ♂♀
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RHP User
15 years ago
None exist as far as I know. I rarely give head on the first play date though as for me it is an intimate thing to do. That does not mean that it will not happen. Sometimes the first play date is months in the planning, flirting, texting, chatting and getting to know each other so each time it is different. Dont go into it with any expectations, she will get to oral sex when she is ready and if she doesnt? Well maybe she dont like to give head. Some dont!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Communication is very important in everything from casual to long term relationships. Talk about your desires, wants, and needs, what you will, and will not do. This does not mean that you will get what you want, but established boundaries that will benefit your sexual encounters. Some girls love giving head, others don't, and there are many shades in between. But why spoil good sex expecting something you are not going to get, or worse demanding something she may not enjoy. I love a great blow job, I love it deep and sloppy, with the stamina to keep it going. But then just a quick shallow suck, or just a genital kiss, or nothing oral, is just as good when taking the entirety of the session into account. For me first encounters hold simple expectations, but relaxing after is when I find it best to investigate your partners wants and limits. If your lucky you get to play again with broader activities. And never demand (exception dom/sub encounters). But then I have encountered some where there is a natural click, where a look tells all. Rare for me but amazing.
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RHP User
15 years ago
omg... don't listen to the rest of the gus here. If this girl you're kinda seeing is as amazing as you say - the first few tims you sleep together should be confined to just cuddles and talk about politics. . She should respect that - and understand that you will still need to see your randoms for head. . Hope your but is less stuck now.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The rules of head? See, some bitches like to gobble cock and some just do it to try and please you. The latter is easy to pick because they're the kiss it, and lick it with a screwed up face kind... whereas the former are the spit on it, swear at it and gag so far down your dick that they slam their chin on your ball sack kind. Now... if the latter are randoms... they're the kind of bitches you want to see plenty of... sure, if it means getting a bit on the side as Doc Jeano recommends, then that's the ticket right there. If you're a dude, you're so much better off with someone who loves your cock so rule number 1 is find out as soon as possible.. don't wait for marriage. :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh noooo, no wonder Andy loved it so much the first time we played together! Cuddle, grope,fondle, cock sucking. We did not even go all the way the first time. I guess if there are any rules I would suggest that if you want oral then give it first. Or ask. Rather than ask if she will go down on you, ask if you can go down on her....I know I would reciprocate in that instance. Are you asking our advice because it is something you really want, or because you are worried about pushing somekind of boundary too soon? xxSalina
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RHP User
15 years ago
that way she's not tempted to bite your cock off.... hehe sorry - could not resist.
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RHP User
15 years ago
First off.. Happy New Year Mate! Second... teeth marks are no laughing matter!HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now some may call me a bitch. But I have to say there is absolutely nothing worse than a guy who keeps trying to push your head "down there" when you so obviously don't want to go there. I agree with FionaBee - even though you may be having sex - some acts for me are more intimate that others so I may have to know someone a little first. Or maybe it just depends on the connection. Really I would say the rule is - let her make that move. If she does great - if not well you will just have to wait til she is more comfortable with you. xx Meeka PS - Don't listen to Stalky or Doc Jeano - cause I hear they always give head on the first date..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some may call me a bit conservative, but Nothing worse than a girl who doesn't go there right off the bat ;) I kid, i kid... Sorta... ;) (what I love in these threads is when it's a 'guy won't go down on me' topic it's all militant proclamations about his lack of worth... But when reversed it is always take the softly, softly approach no 'well, you gotta say no sex till they venture south')
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RHP User
15 years ago
Noted SydneyBoy. BUT - I think you have the whole he won't go down on me topics wrong. That is more about never going down at all as opposed to going down on the first date.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sydneyboy .... so when are you heading down south? xxx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been doing it all wrong these years, I actually thought oral sex was a part of foreplay, you know, you kiss mouths, and ears, and necks and work yr way south?? Im going to kill the person that taught me all wrong lol Good luck GL
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh Meeks... head on the first date? Dating is far too formal an approach for me!The head pushing down thing.... that's a no go technique in any situation... nobody should do anything sexually that they are not enjoying... But the head pushing down technique has its uses once the cock worship commences.... and along with hair pulling, head pushing, nose pinching, spit and gargling and eye watering mascara running choking... these are the sounds of true romance! :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
give her what she wants and she will know what to give in return,,,,,,,,either that or she has no Idea at all and may need a talking too about how to get her man going and keep him there,,,,,,,,, Rules of head are simple she should Suck lick stroke etc your cock , use plenty of hand and ohooo that twisting movement some women use OMG all different but all good life without head isnt good Andy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' First off.. Happy New Year Mate! Second... teeth marks are no laughing matter!HugsStalky Thanks Stalky -Happy New Year to you too mate. Yes - I've been the victim of teeth marks and abrasions due to it :-( Sure she was eager to please - but she didn't get it when I kept pulling her head UP.... in the end I had to tell her - no more please.. :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Love the new profile pic.... nicely done :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
The rule for working out whether to sleep with a girl more than once follows one simple procedure.Standing up straight pick up your chosen female, invert her and begin to orally enjoy her while she is facing you.In that position your desire for reciprocation will be unavoidably evident to her, so if she's a polite (keeper) type of girl you will soon enjoy the pleasures of the gobbled knob. If your dick remains tall, proud but dry, there should be no second time!!!See how simple that was, and can someone please help dislodge my tongue from my cheek?Seriously though, just go with the moment. She might suck you silly the first 20 times you do the deed then not feel like flexing her jaw for a few. Maybe she has her own little preferences like "I'll suck your cock only after my first three orgasms each session" (like that one ladies?) haha. There really aren't many rules in the 'book of lurve', but it's a damn good read!
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RHP User
15 years ago
To be fair - the first time I sleep with a girl I want her to go down on me too. But I guess that is completely different. xxx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' To be fair - the first time I sleep with a girl I want her to go down on me too. But I guess that is completely different. xxx MeekaMeeka, I feel the same way the first time I sleep with a girl and not all that different...but love exploring all the options and agree, I would never force the issue. All things...in due course.
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RHP User
15 years ago
A women's work is never done. I looove sensual massages and oil and getting all slippery and wet. mmmmmmm Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I hate givng head.. yuk! yuk! yuk! I'm a taker not a giver...
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