how to find a partner who wants to swing

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Rome was never built in a day.... So why not enjoy the journey with someone instead of jumping on the XPT ?? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Have no pics,you are making it difficult for yourself xxFreya

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Or take the slow boat to china

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  OP go to swingers clubs meet a nice lady, fall in love, create a relationship, problem solved. Social adult dating sites improve your odds but unless you are actively meeting people regularly its going to take time, a long time. Also only a small number of the people that come to sites like this are actually swingers. So to by pass all the could be's and wanna be's best to hang out at the hive and meet the doers. The falling in love and creating a partnership bit is your problem

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I think perhaps one of the reasons is that you're more interested in the act, than the person? And the decision of what "we" as a couple has already been decided by you, not the two of you? Maybe look for an activity partner, rather than someone to couple up with. As that seems your priority ... but hard to glean from just a few lines on a post. Just my opionion. Good luck.

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  DynamicCouple36

  11 years ago

  Whilst your original post does not expand much on what you have written, at face value it appears that you want to meet someone, as quickly as possible, and then go straight into swinging with that person ? Are you looking for a relationship or just a swinging partner - in other words someone that you could use to get you into singers clubs/parties, so that once through the door you could then go on the hunt and try to shagg the female partners of others? Your words But want to explore straight away seem to imply that you want to jump straight into swinging with this new partner, and that all that is important / of a priority to you is swinging straight away. What about first getting to know that person, their wants, needs, likes and dislikes ? Or are you only in it for the sex ?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Cart goes after horse. Now... on the surface, I can understand what you're asking. But how you've asked tells me youre not seeking a partner to enjoy a lifestyle..... .....you want a lifestyle agenda that your "ideal" conforms to...... before you've even met her (or him). But I would have thought that by the time you'd reached the age of 46, you'd have realised that you need to meet a person, and become a couple, before you both decide the couple will swing. But how do you meet someone who may be more inclined to swing? (which is probably what you really meant to ask). I dont know if there is an answer to that question, because of the large number of variables of the dynamics involved in any coupling. What if she likes girls but doenst want to share?What if she likes other guys but doesnt like you wit other girlsWhat if she only likes mmf?what if....... Lots of what ifs...... and you havent even found that person to discuss these variables with yet?!!! So....bring it back to basics. Step 1. Meet LOTS of people. Step 2.As part of meeting people..... let them know your preferred lifestyle.That will weed out most in Step 1.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  ....personally, I need a level of trust and knowing my partners body, him knowing mine, like & dislikes before sharing with others. One thing that really pisses me off...meeting for the first time for a coffee and the first words out of his mouth are "so do you have a girlfriend ready to meet me?" God damn it, you dont even know me yet!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Yes I will be putting a photo on shortly, I know it will help.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'ruby_blossum' ....personally, I need a level of trust and knowing my partners body, him knowing mine, like & dislikes before sharing with others. One thing that really pisses me off...meeting for the first time for a coffee and the first words out of his mouth are "so do you have a girlfriend ready to meet me?" God damn it, you dont even know me yet! When I said straight away, I was meaning not months or years lol.Not the next day.I`m not a pushy person, but would like to explore. And would much rather do that with someone I like, trust and want to be with.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  In your profile is great and is always best policy in my opinion. It may possibly be a bit confrontational first off for some people though. Photos crucial as Freya said. Why not try a swingers club and then at least you know you may be meeting like minded people. If you nail your profile, pics and initial messages, just have fun and hopefully the relationship will follow in due course. Enjoy. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  LifeUnscripted

  11 years ago

  If the worst happened and I was looking for another Partner, I would want someone who shared interests and outlook with me. Sex positivity would likely be a deal breaker for me. Not necessarily swinging, but they would need to be the type of woman who might hang out here. Honestly you fall in love with people you date, so date women who might be open to swinging. It will cut out a lot of potential prospects, but if that is what you want be upfront about it. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  is it that appeal to you about swinging OP? Is it the mystique that it brings, or is there a hidden agenda. I read you profile with interest, and I got a little confused. You list yourself as straight but are seeking BI MMFs? IS this potentially why you'd like a woman who swings, as in, someone who understands the sexual landscape of people in the scene? And who would have no issue you being with men too? You can't exactly swing without a partner, but personally I'd be a little hurt if a man only wanted to use me to gain access to swinging. It's a bit of an insult really. You also sound very impatient, another turnoff. You accede to it taking more than a day but you want it in less than a month? While not impossible, I would imagine a lotto win might be a better chance.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Mmm same age as me but no picture in your profile ?? I hate to say this but unless you have the top class goods you me struggle the same as many of us males here do...

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