just after a little male feedback

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  usnow

  11 years ago

  I would be going with your initial thought . Swingnew .

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  well, for what its worth, I would say someone has got into his head about you and has not bothered to talk to you (or cant ), so maybe move on and don't let him call the shots. if you want to be together then it has to be a mutual thing. good luck

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Thanks guys

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Trust your instincts..

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Sounds like its time to make a clean break and move on. Don't be the backstop.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Sounds like he is on the move and can not bring that second foot through the door Shore yourself up mentally then sit him down and talk with him as he my not know what he what anyway, so you may be the one to call it quits . . So basically call your mates for a shoulder to use .... then make the call for your own sanity

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Some guys aren't really emotionally equipped to deal with certain events. That sounds like something I may do - he needs time/space to process his emotions/grief but also acknowledges that you are a source of comfort and love and he doesn't want to lose you. Give him the benefit of the doubt and if he hasn't had a history of manipulation or cheating, he may just be overwhelmed and seeking some down time.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I know I'm late to this but my inclination would be to help him pack.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Forgive the delayed response but this had me concerned. There appears to be dishonesty at work on his part and that really can't be forgiven in a relationship of 2 years +. I would break it up.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  There is nothing on this planet as appealing as a mature woman, Go out and have fun.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  why would he move out when surely you are offering the support he needs.....

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  The best solution is talking maybe offer him a way out and see what his reaction is tell him how you feel about it, but you know theres no use jumping to conclusions blokes arent good at reading women's sighns (hey honey😚)

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  He’s onto something or someone else. Why would he want to move out

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You know what guys who act like that when things aren’t going their way hate the most? Being ignored; if you act like you couldn’t care less if he is there or not, be like, whateverrrrrrr and it will drive him nuts, then you will find out what the real issue is

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  ozrocks

  6 years ago

  possibly he feels that he is putting more into the household energy requirements than you are... as in chores, financial input , or the suchlike.We are only hearing one side of the coin here, but I find it ironic that everyone is quick to allude that he is cheating (or intends to) and the poster is blameless soul.There could be any number of reasons, and the main reason could be something you never imagined, the only way you will find out is by asking the bloke involved (or maybe one of his mates)

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Hi i hope you don't mind me throwing my 2 cents worth in. I guess communication is key in any relationship, and it is usually one of the main areas that couples don't actually feel comfortable or capable of a) getting their point across properly without it sounding like an accusation or a whinge and b) especially for guys, describing their feelings, emotions and more seriously admitting that something like a bit of depression might be settling in and too worried to openly discuss it because of the stigma of mental illness. I suppose the thing about depression is that at first you are unaware that it is even the cause, depending on his relationship he had wit this relative, he could be going through any range of emotions and maybe doesn't have the right tools or coping mechanisms to deal with it. Do you have kids or anything in the house? Maybe he needs a quiet space to get his thoughts in order and if so there is too much going on around him to do that. Yeah he could be organising to do a runner, yeah he could be seeing someone else, but you know him best, is he ok ? Does it feel like he's lying to you or maybe just being in a living arrangement is different to the fun you had when you lived in separate souses. It could be anything, have a chat, tell him that you are worried that things seem to be different, that you don't want it to be and that you want to work with him to fix it, a relationship is between two people and needs constant work to make it work. Finally, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. BUT!! those opinions and beliefs are based on their previous experiences. If they had a man who was a cheating lying bastard, guess what they are going to think your bloke is. If they had a cat humping knicker sniffer... you get my point? Unless you know him and see things from his perspective and know his experiences, how can you give anything more than a biased opinion of what is going on through your own previous experience. The only way to get that perspective is to make him a coffee when the two of you are alone and in a quiet moment, a beer if thats his go to, and say hey babe is everything ok, yeah he'll just say yeah but then go i have just notice .... and i am a bit worried that.... I hope that helps, look jumping straight to he's cheating or looking to dump you is fully understandable, but if it is something like a bit of depression or that sadness he just can't shake, being accused of something like that and feeling like he is losing another important relationship or positive anchor is going to do what you reckon? just my 2 cents...

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Just an observation but... You've put your concerns pretty clearly above, you could consider putting those concerns to him just like you have above and see how he responds. If he doesn't want discuss the issue or if he doesn't have the confidence (or language) to share how he feels, you could approach a Family Relationship Centre or similar (reputable and reasonably priced) and have a counsellor facilitate and support the conversation to help you both navigate through the issue. If he still doesn't want to help you understand what's going on for him even after you communicate how important it is for you, or if he fails to inspire confidence in his responses, do whatever feels right to you. At least that way if you do pull the pin, you can say you gave it a shot and without wasting too much additional time worrying before moving on :)

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