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  15 years ago

  Seriously though, I dont see why not, we all have our preferences. And there's absolutely no reason why a 40 + yrs guy can't still have rock hard abs and be muscle bound. Personally for me I'm at the place in my life where a slightly younger guy suits my wants and needs, but thats not to say it won't change in the next few yrs either. The way I see it (through my ever so slightly jaded eyes ..lol) if you can keep up with a younger woman, keep her interested, keep her satisfied and all the other 'keeps' then knock yourself out. But it will always help if you have a sexy ass like Stalky's

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  15 years ago

  Cheers, rock hard abs have been a challenge. Was not expecting such an open and honest answer.

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  15 years ago

  No thanks. 42 sounds about purrrrrfect to me. Not interested in rock hard abs, not interested in a trophy "toy" I like the maturity that a 40 plus male brings with him. I am not saying that all young guys are immature and all of those over 40 are mature. Generally I want to spend my time with someone who has gone through some of the same life experiences as I have. I want someone who has raised thier kids so knows what I am on about, someone who had done the hard yards that life asks of you. Young guys are still finding thier own place in life while I have found mine. They are still working at establishing what they want while I already know. It is a rare 20 something year old that can relate to life before computer technology.

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  15 years ago

  But then I am not a young lady either. How young is a young lady?

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  15 years ago

  Hey Trukarma,(ohh true karma or truck armour?)You fit my "type" well, other than being too far away, so 42 doesn't bother me. I'm sure there are plenty out there.Good luck! :)Cheers, Jules

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  15 years ago

  I always liked older guys...disturbingly when I was even a teenager-I liked men in their 30s... I don't think it's the age that is the barrier-it's the attitude-the whole package.... I met someone that said they were 31-turned out he was 41 although if I'd met him out and about and he'd been 51 you would have still needed a stick and a chair to keep me away. It wasn't the age or his looks that attracted me-it was the way he looked-completely "bored" with his life actually-it was in his eyes-"you can all see me-but no one really sees me". I found that immensely appealing as it's something that unless you've experienced it-you don't recognise it in another and it's only someone that has been that "bored" that you know will willingly and knowingly accompany you for some adventure in ideas and debauchery and encourage you to never settle for less again. In terms of attractiveness, he actually kind of looked quite scruffy and there are many more physically attractive men in their 30s and younger on this site-but I found him attractive- as for someone so scruffy he was remarkably elegant in a number of ways. I was truly attracted by how he could keep up, challenge me, stand up to me and could arouse me mentally-very few young men can...despite being talented with their bodies. I found this incredibly appealling as I really can't be f***ed getting f***ed by anyone just because they are physically attractive anymore-that is boring-unless it's part of an assigned task/challenge. The fact he had the same taste in books, film, tv and music-was convenient and comforting-these things usually give you an insight as to how similar a creature to you they are-likely indicative of a tacit understanding on many subjects. It's a pity he went completely mental-which is where I think his age was the problem, as he definitely was no dummy-just incredibly lame in some ways-likely from an emotional wound he'd sufferered earlier or perhaps quite recently. Perhaps this is why there is an attraction to younger men, as they tend not to be as burdened and affected by their pain as they have suffered fewer emotional injuries and are more focused on enjoying life in the moment-more conducive to a hassle free arrangement. I feel in my lover's case he was overthinking his conflicted feelings about a number of issues and trying to attribute meaning to or define what was taking place between us-not realising some things can never be readily defined or articulated and some things just are to be enjoyed even if they never will be perfect. I feel perhaps he associated strong feelings (that he expressed to me) or emotional intimacy with another person as dangerous to him or a trap rather than just a benefit of feeling alive and vital, not allowing himself to simply enjoy himself and those feelings and letting the future take care of itself-as what will be will inevitably be. It's unfortunate we didn't really get a chance to talk about it or even fight about it. It's actually quite unfortunate as when we were together it was difficult for me to find time for us to be together easily and now I have lots of available time to plot world domination or just his-and he's gone. So now I have 21, 31 and 51 year olds that I have nothing in common with nor appeal to me in any way-contacting me-despite me showing no interest whatsoever even if they are physically attractive. Likely in time there will be someone along that engages my interest again-however I think this one was definitely one in two million and he didn't have rock hard abs-but what he did have was pleasing. I think you will likely find what you are looking for...unlike me-strange, alien and at times bored. There's fun to be had-don't give up just decide what you prefer to engage in and seek that in others-personally I prefer role playing, sissifying and the supernatural over the emotional and secretive shapeshifter making you play Sisyphus rather than Mistress-as this tends to make me cranky and very unpleasant. NymphetamineDrm WHY CAN'T I BE YOU - THE CURE you're so gorgeous i'll do anything!i'll kiss you from your feet to where your head begins!you're so perfect!you're so right as rain!you make me make me make memake me hungry againeverything you do is irresistibleeverything you do is simply kissablewhy can't i be you?i'll run around in circles'til i run out of breathi'll eat you all upor i'll just hug you to deathyou're so wonderful!too good to be true!you make memake me hungry for youeverything you do is simply delicateeverything you do is quite angelicatewhy can't i be you?why can't i be you?you turn my head when you turn aroundyou turn the whole world upside downi'm smitten i'm bitten i'm hooked i'm cookedi'm stuck like glue!you make memake me hungry for youeverything you do is simply dreamyeverything you do is quite deliciouswhy can't i be you?why can't i be you?why can't i be you?you're simply elegant!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I like chunky well built men, and 42 is a damn fine age! WTG

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  15 years ago

  The youngest guy I've been out with is 27 and the oldest 47. Based on "averages" I find I suit the mid-30s guys the most... or they suit me. I'm very open to guys in their 40s... if they have the energy to keep up with me and the attitude and spunk to cope with me then "all systems are go" ! Good luck, Miss Saturn

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  15 years ago

  I guess with the lifespan of the average male now extending out to what, about 82...you would have to be on the low end of the scale of middle age. I do get a kick out of some of that and think age is more relevant to who you are and how you act. Think about it...if age were a relative percentage and at 40 you had burned up 80% of your time...what would you do with the next 10 years? Me...I would be going for my life and never slowing down. | I have met a very interesting and quite mature woman of 28 on this site and some that...well, I am sworn to secrecy about their real age but if you noticed, there is no fountain of holy water at the door that compels women to state their true age. Guess only the doctor and the guy that writes their investment plans every really knows that for sure. Oh well...who cares anyway. | Age gives us old guys a couple of advantages...just like it does the ladies, although we don't benefit from the scale of numbers in terms of choice. In your early 40's...you can move up or down by 12-15 years and find a connection if you like. That gets a little harder to do if you are 25 or 55. Then again there is a lot to be said for experience, finesse and technique. Sure, some of the younger jackrabbits with fire off maybe 2 or 3 times to my 1...but think about that and you will smile. And as far as "keeping up"...a very wise gentleman once said "Ladies first...and second and third". Men do go totally hormonal around the 18 to 25 age range, but that is not always somethiing that is all that desireable...is it? I honestly believe that women (this is only a very broad brush statement...don't form a lynch mob) spend their 20's figuring themselves out a bit and even to this day are held back by a lot of old doctrine and culture. Around 30 or so...they decide to really explore who they are sensually and sexually. I like that...oh do I like that. And like men, women in their 40's just rock...mature, maybe a bit more classy, educated and experienced. I like that...oh do I like that! | The last woman I spent time with was a very attractive and fit 35 year old. She went into some sort of religious chant similar to heralding the epiphany three times before I was even completely undressed. Wonder how that happened...but we just laughed, called room service...and spent the rest of the night enjoying each other's company. | I guess if the numbers were skewed in our favour...we might lay down a course that a well trained show pony would have trouble clearing...but then again, I just enjoy the adventure.

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  15 years ago

  cool track ...gr8 band

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  15 years ago

  Well I see some really hot midldle aged guys out there who are very sexy, well maintained and very metrosexual ....and then there are those who don't look after themselves at all who I don't find appealing at all ....it's all about how they feel about themselves if you want to attract a younger woman and the type of woman you want as well and what they want too...read the profile. I think we are all looking for different things on here based on where we are at in our lives...some like an older man for different reasons because of the maturity and experiences that an' older' man brings and we all know the reasons....not all of us are chasing a young stud muffin lol...and if they do we know why... he he...but each to their own hey.

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  15 years ago

  I way prefer men over 35 . I love the visual of a young hard man , but have been let down by their skills and manner in bed . I think 42 is fine , my hubby is 42 , rock hard body , looks in his 30's , takes really good care of himself and has no problems getting women in bed :) I think as long as you look after your body and take care of your appearance , your fine . If you are 42 and wanting to date hot arsed 20 year olds, you might be outta luck unless your loaded :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  but have found myself more and more attractive to those who are older than myself . able to hold a conversation . more willing to share in the bedroom - give not just take . more often willing to put talk into action . and before the young guys start saying but I do all that - I DONT CARE - this has been my experience thus my opinion . Kisses Focus

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  15 years ago

  I tend to go for the younger men at the moment.. I like fit men.. I am in my prime and love sports. Prefer the men to be fit and active. There is no reason why a man in his 40's can't be fit...I am 43 and love being fit.ummm.. i won't tell the youngest I have been with.... He and I are great mates and always have a blast together! huggies sweetpetite41<<<<< waits to be in trouble for typing the word fit too many times..lolz..

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  15 years ago

  Put yourself in the ladies position - If they are attractive then there are hundreds if not thousands of men contacting them hoping for a sexual relationship. I have hired staff and it is always hard when you have hundreds of applicants. People are going to filter out based on some pretty basic criteria: cull out the old, the lame and the ill. If you have a choice of thirty to forty attractive fit people between 25 and 35 the more difficult decisions based on personality, morality, imagination and intelligence can be made. If you are older, unfit or have obvious issues (wheelchair, blind, etc) then you better write a damn good email and have a sparkling profile. Personally it annoys the shit out of me that I am stronger, fitter, smarter, wealthier, more educated, have more confidence and more potential for future success than I did 20 years ago. But I am rejected constantly on the basis of age. If it is not the girls then it is their friends who figure their friend should be with a younger prettier guy. The key is to find smarter less judgemental women - they are out there - it is just frustrating looking for them.

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  15 years ago

  Quoting 'sweetpetite41' I tend to go for the younger men at the moment.. I like fit men.. I am in my prime and love sports. Prefer the men to be fit and active. There is no reason why a man in his 40's can't be fit...I am 43 and love being fit.ummm.. i won't tell the youngest I have been with.... He and I are great mates and always have a blast together! huggies sweetpetite41<<<<< waits to be in trouble for typing the word fit too many times..lolz.. Oh come on Sweet... I'm sure you can fit one more.... :p for example... you could me into your busy schedule with all those fit youngsters! :)HugsStalky

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  15 years ago

  I don't really discriminate against age much. When it comes to physical appearance, age doesn't really matter as much to me as how well someone keeps their body. I actually quite enjoys much older men from time to time. The years of experience quite often make a difference, and frankly, a lot of the time they are really excited about getting attention from a younger woman so they spoil you (not that being spoiled is a must for me but it certainly is a plus :D). A big reason I think a lot of women my age won't go for men in their 40s is that they have been raised to think if they are involved with a much older man then he must be taking advantage of her. It took be a while to break through that taboo and to stop thinking that, myself. As an example I recently met up with someone nearly 20 years older than me and told a friend about it. She asked me if I was getting paid. Also, I am always a bit wary of an older man's family situation. I am in my early 20s and want to have fun. I don't want to be involved with people who lie about their relationship status. I don't want to be involved in anyone's family drama, and unfortunately a lot of people lie, especially online. I think a younger man lying about having a girlfriend, is a lot less serious than getting involved with an older man lying about his wife and kids. Also, I don't like older men who go after younger women to boost their egos. Or the ones who have not matured. Part of what I like about older men is their maturity. They are often more comfortable with their bodies and open to trying new things. I actually find a lot of young men to be prudish. Sure they want sex, but they don't want to experiment and can't ever give up control. Hope that helps. Eddie

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