M39
mind stimulating messages !
October 10 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Let's just say it was respectful and engaging, and it peaked my interest. Oh, and it followed the "Ten Commandments of writing Messages", obvs.
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Enjoylifealways
10 years ago
I like a man that doesn't take life or himself to seriously . I also like to be flattered ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm wary of posting examples of messages that I've been successful with as success is quite subjective.... However OP....I'm gonna post a message that I would send to you IF I was so inclined to do so.... Hi there maturiser, I couldn't help but notice that wonderful hand sliding down your underwear....I wanted more...I imagined how it would feel to unwrap you like a cherry ripe....sweet, fruity, much like a good wine that you describe in your profile.... Come to think of it....I know a place in your town - who doesn't really it's the biggest capital city in our country ffs lol - that we could go to so we could chat between mouthfuls.... ;) Christine xx What do you reckon dude?? A bit of lippy and you'll be all mine I reckon :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotMocca
10 years ago
Stirry, Sounds good enough to me, I'd totally say yes if I was a chick :)So are you saying that the message should be naughty and suggestive but not quite direct? would you send it as the very first message or once some sort of connection has been built with her as she might find it offensive early on in the interaction.
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RHP User
10 years ago
must come from your heart...your gut....and your head... Only by reading the profiles thoroughly do you get an idea of where that balance lies.... From there a message that is true to your core beliefs, humour, and humility can be composed.... But.... Make no mistake about it.....you cannot attract everyone like Casanova....but by constructing your initial messages with the above points in mind, you will attract those who are compatible to your core self.... That's gotta be success right there right??? P.s....fucken oath I'd send that as a first message....but that's MY humour and myself in that....if you were to steal it and it grabbed a lady's attention; she'll know it's not yours by the 2nd message :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Self deprecating humour xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
How does a man engage a woman's mind after the first message or is this just an RHP cliche?xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Self deprecating humour xxFreya Tread wearily, young Padawan. To some, self-deprecating humour can seem a sign of poor self-esteem, neediness and/or fishing for compliments. On the flip side, it's probably a good sign the user can have a laugh and isn't too "up themselves" (in the non-masturbatory sense). Sparing use can be good, but avoid using too much, all at once. In this, self-deprecating humour is like Tabasco sauce, or indeed, cocaine. Plus, the greatest danger with using any kind of humour is the same for single males using sites like these, in general. Not everyone's going to get it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do try to be engaging and original with all my messages, to women or couples. Often I'll get a reply, even just to comment on how original or different it was. But if by having something "work out" with a woman you mean getting to the stage of playing, I've only really managed to play with individuals after meeting them in person ie after a meet & greet, or in one case after a swinger's party. In that case follow up messages are more successful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm with Stirry, well no, not like that! But he is absolutely on the money on all points. Read the profile, have a good think about what the person is really saying they are looking for, and also their interests.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I will always reply to the first time messages regardless of them being stimulating or not, that's my respect for the senders, even though some of the messages are rather unstimulating and make the senders unattractive in quality. However, if they have written to me in the past and I had said no the first time, I won't give anymore time for the second round of messages just because the senders don't remember that they have contacted me before, or cannot be bothered to check the contact history before sending me a message again. What would stimulate me to reply to a message with a "yes" when someone contacts me, especially those who are out of my scope, are: 1) when he writes with respect; 2) can write properly instead of using the lazy text language; 3) don't call me "babe, baby, honey, gorgeous, etc." before he even hears from me; and 4) writes more than just one line. Share the content of the last messages that I received, which have stimulated my interest? That would be considered as the breach of privacy and me being disrespectful to the senders! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I'm a visual person, I look at the pictures first, then read the message lol by then, if I like what I see, doesn't really matter what they've said
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Let's just say it was respectful and engaging, and it peaked my interest. Oh, and it followed the "Ten Commandments of writing Messages", obvs. ...your usually such a stickler for it. But I think you meant "piqued", my friend.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll just say that English and French are my second and fourth language respectively. 😎
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RHP User
10 years ago
Humour is a personal thing Slips,and I was just commenting on what I like..it's also an indicator as to whether someone is smarter than the average doodle brain..My humorous comments miss the mark often but I amuse myself greatly,..I hate Tabasco sauce btw 😝xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
A first message that talks about them,casual banter that tells me a little more about them and asking a few questions about me, also including something Ive said in my profile.Thats more like it would be if we just met at a club or something.I dislike first messages that focus on meeting straight up, or ones that say Im exactly what they are looking for and we are a great match. This is because they havent even seen a face pic of me yet, generally only a tit pic can be seen, so to jump straight to wanting to meet because we are a great match makes me feel like they dont really want to get to know me at all, so its a bit of a turn off . Confidence is nice but pushy comes across as demanding. And now that my profile currently states that Im not actively looking to meet anyone new, if I recieve a message of these types, then it shows that they didnt even bother to read my profile anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
a long time ago.. and was particularly interested in a young player who flirting around the bar.. she sidled up to me and asked me what I was up to.. (OR some shit anyway - THAT part of it is not relevant)I put my hand on the side of her face.. sort of half way around the back of her neck.. and looked into her eyes as I swore allegiance to her.. "Kiddo.. I would suck your shit to a point and stab myself to death with it.. just tell me when..." She shook her head to make sure she heard what I said.. then laughed..THEN took me back to her room.. HOWEVER. don't have a LOT of luck with that "Line" in general....*shrugs*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not a fan of "I can go down on a woman for hours" either. Surprising how often thats thrown into a first message.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A quick summary how you match her "Looking For" would at least let her know that you read to the end of her profile.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Dude, hot bod. Love the body hair it's so very masculine and super sexy.... Is it the same down there? I send pretty simple messages when the desire to message someone strikes me. I don't talk much in person so I guess my messages reflect that. the ones that grab my attention are all different because it's not just a message that is the deciding factor for me. It can also be a lot about what they don't say.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Dude, hot bod. Love the body hair it's so very masculine and super sexy.... Is it the same down there? So are you ok getting the following? "Babe, hot bod. Love the bare skin it's so very feminine and super sexy... Is it the same down there?" I personally give messages like that an instant mental nope.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Thank fuck we are all different hey. I don't mind those type of messages, I don't find it offensive and I wouldn't give it an automatic no. Because as I said I base my decision on more than just a message and I don't have a list of rules that each message must follow to be deemed worthy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I don't stick to my "Commandments" either, whether for incoming or outgoing messages.
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HotMocca
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' A first message that talks about them,casual banter that tells me a little more about them and asking a few questions about me, also including something Ive said in my profile.Thats more like it would be if we just met at a club or something.I dislike first messages that focus on meeting straight up, or ones that say Im exactly what they are looking for and we are a great match. This is because they havent even seen a face pic of me yet, generally only a tit pic can be seen, so to jump straight to wanting to meet because we are a great match makes me feel like they dont really want to get to know me at all, so its a bit of a turn off . Confidence is nice but pushy comes across as demanding. And now that my profile currently states that Im not actively looking to meet anyone new, if I recieve a message of these types, then it shows that they didnt even bother to read my profile anyway. willowtree_2What if he says that he has simply fallen in love with you by looking at your tits ;) I reckon that would not be good news either. I consider your answer the most rational of all so far, but it is fascinating to see how people approach this differently
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HotMocca
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Self deprecating humour xxFreya Self deprecating humor is tricky Freya 70 !
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HotMocca
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Dude, hot bod. Love the body hair it's so very masculine and super sexy.... Is it the same down there? I send pretty simple messages when the desire to message someone strikes me. I don't talk much in person so I guess my messages reflect that. the ones that grab my attention are all different because it's not just a message that is the deciding factor for me. It can also be a lot about what they don't say. Missb72, piece of advice: if you want guys to read your profile you'd better take down that profile pic, it makes it too hard to scroll down and read your profile ;)And I love the fact that you base your judgement on more factors than just a message. Also, I like to think the message above was directed to me
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RHP User
10 years ago
But(t) ... I would be mightily impressed with anyone that could come close to translating the following: tēnei wahine ingoingo tāna tāne taurite ki whakahohe tauriterite
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RHP User
10 years ago
Google isn't quite sure, but Bing confidently translates it to: tēnei wahine ingoingo tāna tāne taurite ki whakahohe tauriterite.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I'll just say that English and French are my second and fourth language respectively. 😎 Well...your doing better than me anyway. I have one language...so I've tried to know my way around it. I'm also trying to learn some basics in Lao...I had such an enlightening time there recently, I want to be better equipped when I go back.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"This man and his wife spotty balance equal to activate" :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' But(t) ... I would be mightily impressed with anyone that could come close to translating the following: tēnei wahine ingoingo tāna tāne taurite ki whakahohe tauriterite Check out my girly shoes in my profile pic.... my man thinks they're F...n shiny like me ... (Jokes) Footnote: apologies in advance, not intended to he offensive (Polys are both Kiwis - Maori & PI)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Very insightful, 1+
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madotara69
10 years ago
We aren't just dags we are the whole sheep's arse Mado Tara xx
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madotara69
10 years ago
We didn't send that as a message, maybe a mention similar in the forums, but that's one way of interpreting KiwiBred's compliment above.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Same as what cavey found, just by using the maori dictionary thingy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whoops! Appologies maturiser. In hindsight, I should have added that I would be mightily impressed if someone was able to do that in a message - as per the OP. The internet is not your friend I'm afraid - I already checked prior to posting it does makes for a good ol hearty belly laugh though!
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Hey not sure if i should copy it word for word, it's definetly not MY work. But fuck it, here it is....... "Hey, I'm a straight 28yo male I know it's not what your looking for but for some reason I was very turned on by you, your pics are extremely sexy.... My cock is actually aching while I look at them, I can feel my balls filling up with the though of our tounges lashing against each other's assholes.... I have never sucked a cock before but I think I couldn't pass up taking your shaft in my mouth, never tasted another man's cum either although I'd probably prefer it sprayed across my tight asshole, it would probably make for good lubrication so you could finger fuck me a bit easier..... Ahhh my mind is running wild...." My mind is so stimulated that i never responded......
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