M42
neighbour
July 17 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I got involved with a neighbour and it ended with me having to change my mobile number because he kept harassing me. I hadn't even fucked him. He also started harassing me in person if he saw me. Luckily I moved not long after. Be careful about shitting where you live. You could end up having to deal with all sorts of shit from her, her husband if he finds out, or from both of them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I agree with LD. She's married so think about where it would end and whether it would be difficult to keep living there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My neighbours are on here. They seem nice enough and have parties but I am not interested in getting involved plain and simple they are too close to my home. I agree with Luckydragon23. My other non swinging neighbours think it's alright to watch who comes and goes from our houses and frequently makes judgmental comments about our private lives
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's a little too close for comfort, if you ask me. Although the idea of jumping over the fence for a quickie does sound appealing :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't shit where you eat! Great for a fantasy tick off but in reality I could get awkward and messy... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Why not? but if you like to settle down - then no, unless you think she's girlfriend material.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a thing going with a neighbour on each side , not at the same time , one moved out so I went to the other side . All went well and ended well but doesn't always work out that way. My sister was married and had an affair with her neighbour who also was married. When my brotherinlaw found out , he started bashing a cricket bat on my new brotherinlaws front door , it was messy but ended ok. New bro in law is better than old bro in law and they have been together for about 18 yrs now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think there might be a family trend going on in my life
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would be too close to home for me
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RHP User
11 years ago
but when my Dad started dating again, it was the lady next door and the lady across the road. Across the road lady now lives with him and next door neighbour lady is still a friend.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It will never ever work out well........ever!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Neighbour or not..... she's another mans woman. Live with integrity, and leave well alone. There are more than enough single available woman to keep you busy without entertaining a married one. Stop thinking with your dick..... because I doubt your dick would you be happy if you were her husband. 2c - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Be a friend. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've hooked up with the couple across the road; the neighbour two doors away...& his son (not at the same time!); and accidentally another one a little further up 😳 It's definitely not an ongoing thing but, hey, love thy neighbour & all that..... It's a little like Ramsay street round here!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Noooooo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Simple Put yourself in the shoes of the husband and think about how you would feel if you were away for 10 months and your wife/partner/gf was back home flirting with the next door neighbor. Are you ok with that ? Your already texting with her everyday, so I'm thinking that a few lines have been crossed already cause I reckon you don't sms your best mate every day, do you ? My only advice. We are our choices. For every action there is a reaction. I don't believe this can end well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She was just like the girl next door and she was. She gave me her virginity. MMmmm the memories.
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RHP User
11 years ago
there was a girl that lived across the road as well, these two were in my early teens though and at my current location there are only goats, cows and a flock of noisy geese.Pass hahahah
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RHP User
11 years ago
On his wedding anniversary did just that.... Or at least I think it was his neighbour.... Don't quite know if he should've shared it with us though :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah, I think most of you are saying the thing what I was thinking but I'm also worried what if she comes and makes the move? what should I come up with? well the husband is away so much, think she feel lonely at times and need attention but I only think good of her.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
but be warned, the lady's husband is paying for that water!! Iit maybe just a little greener when you water and pay for your own. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Ok so I will ask seeing no one else has.... Why do YOU believe you and your neighbor have something going?? Why hasn't anyone made a move yet? How long has this been going on for? Texting everyday?? MMMMM quite curious about this one..
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RHP User
11 years ago
do it have fun pay for it later lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' but be warned, the lady's husband is paying for that water!! Iit maybe just a little greener when you water and pay for your own. Foxy but if he uses his own lawn mower and juice (parden the pun) then surely he is entitled to his little patch of greenery every now and again?I think confushus put it better:~ "Man who cut other man grass and stand on toilet to pee may be high on pot" Posted from my newyoubeut mega over priced phone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have experienced a few neighbours & it's been all good. Started seeing my last neighbour 10 years ago & still going strong. Marriage on the cards!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey teaser28 .. I say it's up to your personal appetite for excitement (or trouble). Are the text msgs flirty or getting that way? If she talks about sex or borrows sugar in barely nothing then obviously ... If you're keen, invite her over for 'drinks' .. that's sure to sort the wheat from the chaff ... If it was me and I was keen as you appear to be, I would up the ante gently by degrees until you find her 'out' point if she has one or whether that's a line she's happy to cross. Watch out for the psycho factor though; you don't want her taking happy snaps for example or hubby finding you and your throbbing knob in her photo gallery etc. Theoretically, you as the single male should have little to be concerned about providing he doesn't find out. She would have to pass the integrity test being next door .. you don't want to be beaten to a pulp one day by her man AND have to move ... exciting though .. wish you all the best and would love to hear what you think. I am biased as I had THE MOST amazing neighbour sex where I last lived. It was seriously AMAZING .. currently still ranked number one in my modest list of all time sexual encounters ... We were both single though and it was clearly understood what the terms were. Good luck buddy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hooked up with her It got really messy Then we got married We had 4 children Stayed as one for over 18 years Now I'm single daddy of those 4 children So yeh it worked well for long time But ended in the end Think about all involved not just you and her!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the advice. I'm aware of the outcome hence have not crossed the line and she starts texting some days (so its not just me doing it). It will be a big deal if we do cross the line but it will be best for us to stay friends and enjoy the friendship :-) part of me is daring and always wants to that thing I should not lol but guess, sometime you have to let the things the way they are!! may be we will just enjoy our text chat and should really cut down on it a little.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'teaser28' Thanks for the advice. I'm aware of the outcome hence have not crossed the line and she starts texting some days (so its not just me doing it). It will be a big deal if we do cross the line but it will be best for us to stay and enjoy the friendship :-) part of me is daring and always wants to that thing I should not lol but guess, sometime you have to let the things the way they are!! may be we will just enjoy our text chat and should really cut down on it a little. Sometimes "text chats" can turn into a fantasy relationship....it's not reality, just sayin. Sounds like you are trying to define reality and real-life? It can become confusing if one does not know what is happening. Yes it can be tempting. It happens - I know it's happened to me before and I dare say a lot of others as well. At least you're not in denial. So good for you. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Neighbour or not..... she's another mans woman. Live with integrity, and leave well alone. There are more than enough single available woman to keep you busy without entertaining a married one. Stop thinking with your dick..... because I doubt your dick would you be happy if you were her husband. 2c - Posted from rhpmobile Its happened to me, its not nice being the husband that finds out his wife is cheating on him.It takes a lot to come back from something like that. All he is doing is making life for her.have some morals and back off. Pissed at the notion of moving in on another mans wife
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'teaser28' Yeah, I think most of you are saying the thing what I was thinking but I'm also worried what if she comes and makes the move? what should I come up with? well the husband is away so much, think she feel lonely at times and need attention but I only think good of her.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know this is evil but if you rent id sleep with her because you can always move. If you own the house next door don't bang her!!!!
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'teaser28' Yeah, I think most of you are saying the thing what I was thinking but I'm also worried what if she comes and makes the move? what should I come up with? well the husband is away so much, think she feel lonely at times and need attention but I only think good of her. I think you are grown up, mature male adult of 30 years old and can certainly have the balls to be guided by your morals and sensibilities and are able to say NO. Think long term impact and not act on your impulses (or what your little head dick-tates to you) and tell her to get a dildo... Less complication with everyone... Be strong and keep clear. Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have the utmost respect for other peoples personal views and their right to choose their behaviour and thus the consequences. I also appreciate the 'each to their own' freedom our country, culture and society affords us along with genuine gratitude for the broad diversity existing among us and the reassurance that we are not all the same. That said, of the three people described in this situation, is it not the female married neighbour that is responsible for defending / valuing / protecting / defending / honouring etc. the marriage, HER marriage ? Doesn't the fate of the absent husband and therefore the sanctity or fate of his and her / their marriage at this point, rest solely with his wife and the decisions she decides to make from here, against the pre-existing wedding vows / promises etc she and him made to each other prior at the alter? After all, she is the only representative present of this marriage and THE only one who can choose here to either defend that sacred agreement they both made as a married couple, just as easily as she can choose to betray the absent husband in the most horrific way imaginable.. for many at least. And the single guy, he's not married to anyone!! I guess I just struggled a bit by my interpretation or the tone I felt from one or two of the posts above that as I recall, felt it should be the single guy in this situation who should take responsibility for what is essentially, someone else's marriage, which I do not agree with. And apologies if I have got the wrong end of the stick here - it was never my intention. In my opinion ultimately the only people responsible for any marriage including this one are the two people in it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I remember that (BS) story now... supposedly hot young thing in a bikini next door... he offered a massage etc etc... Bahaha. But back to the topic. This is one if the examples I referred to in a recent topic about saying no. You should be able to see the drama that having sex with some people will invite into your life. This..... has drama written all over it. Do you see many women? I can only assume not as the ongoing text conversations would suggest to me you have a need for her attention. IMO.... You need to hit the eject button, resist the constant texts. hoke back in texts, remain friendly but deflect the flirty escalation. OR.... invite her drama into your life and create a pattern where you invite other women and their dramas in. Time to man up. DG
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Treat people as you would like to be treated. Put yourself in her husbands shoes. Have some respect for him.
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RHP User
11 years ago
needs good neighbours....but how much you will need a good removalist OP ,depends on your next move.....of course she might just like the flirting and titillating and has no intention of taking it further than her wank bank:-) xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Last year, my neighbour and I had a hot date ……..across the canal…..each friday morning he would pretend to fish…and each friday morning I would masturbate on webcam with my blinds open. We got to the point of given each other a little wave hahah I started working fridays again 6 months ago……..I am sure he misses out dates :) i know I do
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Wild_Pagan_Love
11 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCurves' Last year, my neighbour and I had a hot date ……..across the canal…..each friday morning he would pretend to fish…and each friday morning I would masturbate on webcam with my blinds open. We got to the point of given each other a little wave hahah I started working fridays again 6 months ago……..I am sure he misses out dates :) i know I do Just had a funny thought - imagine you got your Friday mornings off again, and first one back open your blinds to find 100 guys standing out there pretending to fish :) And the morning webcam session has been rescheduled I hope? ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
If there is a connection, why put a stop to it. My neighbour became a friend, a lover and still to this day, 8 years later he is my best friend. We have had some great times together, and I wouldn't change it for the world. Life is short, live it now whilst you can! Love thy neighbour!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Next time hubby is home & if you feel he is approachable.......ask him his thoughts! What strikes me is that he too is without his partner for the 10 months, as is she. Maybe he is seeing a fwb or maybe not. Everyone has needs. He may even approve of you doing his wife while he is away. At least he knows who it is rather than any Tom, Dick(pun intended) or Harry. That outcome is unlikely but hey, think outside the square, you never know! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I did my brothers neighbours daughter does that count?
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Wildewillsy76
11 years ago
I have had a threesome and shagged them individually with the ladies on the same floor as me as we still get on fine. It is a more an FB situation for us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
you could be confusing her loneliness and friendliness as flirting? As you said, her husband is away, she is bound to feel a bit alone throughout that time and she is reaching out to you for companionship in his absence with it maybe being nothing more than someone to chat with. She probably enjoys the fact that you do communicate with her and it is certainly very neighbourly of you to do that and keep an eye on her, help her out etc. But as far as cutting another man's grass, well you gotta live with your decisions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CovertOps' And the single guy, he's not married to anyone!! I guess I just struggled a bit by my interpretation or the tone I felt from one or two of the posts above that as I recall, felt it should be the single guy in this situation who should take responsibility for what is essentially, someone else's marriage, which I do not agree with. And apologies if I have got the wrong end of the stick here - it was never my intention. In my opinion ultimately the only people responsible for any marriage including this one are the two people in it. I have had this argument thrown at me by a married man after we had an affair and I found out that he was not in fact single. He wanted to continue our affair and I didn't and I told him I didn't want to be responsible for the demise of his marriage. He did say that it was his marriage and he was the one responsible for it, not me, but I do have morals and I don't want to be any sort of catalyst, especially without my knowledge. I have to live with the decisions I make and I would feel guilty if a marriage ended because of my actions. I would feel responsible regardless of whether it is ultimately my fault or not, I played a part and that is enough for me to consider that my actions can hurt another person and to me, that is not what sex and relationships are about.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Well said. This is how i would think as an adult, who believe in cause and.effect. All our actions have effects and decent people take responsibiliy fir.their actions. I struggle with some posts too in not considering the repercussions to other parties involved.and to themselves as well. I dont know.whether the neighbours have an open relationship as this has.not.been stated by the OP. If they do, that ia a totally different scenario. Hard to judge If we are not familliar with the dynamics of their relstionship. OP good luck.be guided on what you think is good for you and for the couple Involved. Just avoid the dramas. Lol. HIHO HIHO ..Back to work for me. Coffee break over. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never have and never will, fuck in the neighbourhood where I live, only one time but the town was small bout 4,000ppl and it was pure luck that we found eachother via rhp, but jo dramas or nuthin' I had to move town bcos of my spuses work commitments, if I still was in that town ID STILL BE BANGIN' !! Good luck budd xx Lil'V
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gives a new meaning to borrowing some sugar,lol Plenty other fish in the see,to me it's like hooking up with your mates sister! Whatever floats your boat ,who are we to judge xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CovertOps' I have the utmost respect for other peoples personal views and their right to choose their behaviour and thus the consequences. I also appreciate the 'each to their own' freedom our country, culture and society affords us along with genuine gratitude for the broad diversity existing among us and the reassurance that we are not all the same. That said, of the three people described in this situation, is it not the female married neighbour that is responsible for defending / valuing / protecting / defending / honouring etc. the marriage, HER marriage ? Doesn't the fate of the absent husband and therefore the sanctity or fate of his and her / their marriage at this point, rest solely with his wife and the decisions she decides to make from here, against the pre-existing wedding vows / promises etc she and him made to each other prior at the alter? After all, she is the only representative present of this marriage and THE only one who can choose here to either defend that sacred agreement they both made as a married couple, just as easily as she can choose to betray the absent husband in the most horrific way imaginable.. for many at least. And the single guy, he's not married to anyone!! I guess I just struggled a bit by my interpretation or the tone I felt from one or two of the posts above that as I recall, felt it should be the single guy in this situation who should take responsibility for what is essentially, someone else's marriage, which I do not agree with. And apologies if I have got the wrong end of the stick here - it was never my intention. In my opinion ultimately the only people responsible for any marriage including this one are the two people in it. your post is a good point, but seeing we cant chat with the woman in question we can only give suggestions to the OP. its was the OP that has asked our opinions and we are giving it, some by experience and others by moral grounds bottom line is we cant make them do any thing it is sole on them
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems to me you have answered your own question there Teaser28Quoting 'teaser28' Thanks for the advice. I'm aware of the outcome hence have not crossed the line and she starts texting some days (so its not just me doing it). It will be a big deal if we do cross the line but it will be best for us to stay friends and enjoy the friendship :-) part of me is daring and always wants to that thing I should not lol but guess, sometime you have to let the things the way they are!! may be we will just enjoy our text chat and should really cut down on it a little. If she was to make the move you should just say you think its best to just stay friends because it would get messy. Do let her know thou that it's not coz you don't want to (that way she will know she isn't being rejected) but that her friendship is important to you and you don't want to complicate matters.Hope it all works out for youKissesClaire
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CovertOps' And the single guy, he's not married to anyone!! I guess I just struggled a bit by my interpretation or the tone I felt from one or two of the posts above that as I recall, felt it should be the single guy in this situation who should take responsibility for what is essentially, someone else's marriage, which I do not agree with. And apologies if I have got the wrong end of the stick here - it was never my intention. In my opinion ultimately the only people responsible for any marriage including this one are the two people in it. ClaireKisses Saying its their responsibility for their relationship is at best an omission of responsibility and at worst a juvenile excuse Yes I hear what your saying and I get where you are coming from - but something I have learned from my weird and wonderful life is that no matter what is going on, where, or with whom the ONLY thing that we as individuals can control is ourselves - what we do, what we say, how we act and most important how we react.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The fact that you text everyday means you are already on your way towards something. Beware my friend! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would've been nice to shag her too.... I was working at the nightclub years ago and I saw her out front went up and covered her eyes and whispered "you smell nice but can you guess who I am??" She turns around....sees me, kisses me quite drunkenly lol we've all been there right?? And then right in front of the coppers she bends over shouting "WANT SOME IF THIS???" While lifting up her skirt to reveal one of the nicest arses in a pink g-banger I'd seen in a long time ...... So I finished helping to disperse the drunk fuckers, had breakfast and went home....lol her and her friends were still up at 7am.... I went to bed :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks to everyone for their view on the situation !! there is nothing wrong and right view and I respect everyone's opinion. I should take responsibility of my actions and I will intend to do so hence have cut down on messages in last few days but it still seems to be happening. she wants to celebrate about something I'm getting and told me about her fav. wine label (we talked about it last week but I did not mention it in last few days but she did today). Should I say no we can not and make some excuse ?? may be when hubby around next I should have a chat to him and get his view on open relationship and see what he thinks (won't mention his to start with anyway).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Would've been nice to shag her too.... I was working at the nightclub years ago and I saw her out front went up and covered her eyes and whispered "you smell nice but can you guess who I am??" She turns around....sees me, kisses me quite drunkenly lol we've all been there right?? And then right in front of the coppers she bends over shouting "WANT SOME IF THIS???" While lifting up her skirt to reveal one of the nicest arses in a pink g-banger I'd seen in a long time ...... So I finished helping to disperse the drunk fuckers, had breakfast and went home....lol her and her friends were still up at 7am.... I went to bed :p So I guess that was a NO.... right?! lol
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Have you checked weather the Hubby is jealous revengeful psychopath, with mafia contacts ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Doesn't matter what the husband is..... if you act with integrity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To contemplate the nature and response if the husband infers you'd go it if you thought you'd get away with it. That's a fail on the Integritometer. Just because you can, never justifies that you should.... in these matters
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RHP User
11 years ago
To contemplate the nature and response of the husband infers you'd do it if you thought you'd get away with it. That's a fail on the Integritometer. Just because you can, never justifies that you should.... in these matters. Men are often accused of thinking with their dick.... the OP has taken a positive step back from that by asking us, ergo... thinking.... but needs to take a few more steps back and quit the text 'relationship'.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' To contemplate the nature and response if the husband infers you'd go it if you thought you'd get away with it. That's a fail on the Integritometer. Just because you can, never justifies that you should.... in these matters Yes. It is all about integrity. And self respect. as previous posts, OP it is important to empathize and do what you think is right for you and the couple. It takes more courage to stick to your morals and beliefs than just act on impulse or what others say is ok to indulge and fuck the consequences. "Sadly, too much of that self-serving attitude floats around.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'teaser28' Thanks to everyone for their view on the situation !! there is nothing wrong and right view and I respect everyone's opinion. I should take responsibility of my actions and I will intend to do so hence have cut down on messages in last few days but it still seems to be happening. she wants to celebrate about something I'm getting and told me about her fav. wine label (we talked about it last week but I did not mention it in last few days but she did today). Should I say no we can not and make some excuse ?? may be when hubby around next I should have a chat to him and get his view on open relationship and see what he thinks (won't mention his to start with anyway). I think you can continue a social relationship with your neighbour. When you are lonely, it helps to have someone nearby that you can relax with especially being so convenient next door. You can share food, drinks, watch movies together and hopefully the husband knows that and is comfortable with it. I don't think you have to go as far as not talking to her, just keep it civil, not sexual. I think if you brought the subject of an open relationship up with the husband, that may open a can of worms. Just go and find another woman and leave your neighbour out of your sex life.
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