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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Consider yourself lucky you know exactly where she has been and with who, its a guessing game for the rest of us mate. What she did before you started dating is something for you not to be concerned about, does she know everything you got up to? She has been totally honest with you and that is a GREAT thing, not something to worry about. And especially if she was single when it all happened, because that doesn't mean she will be going out and doing this now that she's committed. Forget about everything you think you should be thinking, and take it for what it becomes from here on in And good luck, cos she sounds like a very well adjusted and curious girl

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Matty, How does it play on your mind?.Do you feel jealousy?.Is the two guys she had sex with still in contact with you and /or her? I can't say anything from experience, because I've never dated a girl, who had been with a mate of mine previuosly. I would reiterate what dontgothere said: She was single at the time, and you cant judge her on that. You need to forget about it and move on, because if you let it fester, it will become a major problem. Put your self in your girlfriends position. If it had of been you that had a threesome with two of her girlfriends whilst you were single, would you expect her to care about it? Maxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I suppose you're feeling possessive... and that's why the idea upsets you. That is, someone else has taken something of yours (her unsoiled virtue for example :p) and you want it back. Well, saying it like that makes the whole idea sound pretty dopey.... but if you can identify precisely why you're upset by it, you'll see how silly feeling like that is. The lady is with you right? I mean, she chooses to be with you and that's what you want? If so, you should be very happy. Personally, I've always thought looking back at yourself is rarely rewarding but looking forward is always promising!HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Only you know why this is really a problem for you. Are you possesive and upset because two of your mates know what she is like in bed? Or is it because you yourself have not had a threesome? If this is the case, find another person, a stranger maybe and have one, then you will have had another experience to think about and if it was real good.....fantasize over repeating!!! You know, what happens in a person's past is just that...in thier past. Were you a virgin when you started going out with her? You have a past as well. You do need to find as way to get over it or else it will ruin the relationship. You will not trust her around these friends and it will start to show.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  if you dont let it go it will fuck things up just simply tell her hey shit i like you so much what i used to think was funny Now makes me a little lelouse Strange Hey ...it will end it all as she will then know.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If you are worried about the comparisons between yourself and your mates.....remember the most important part of that, she laughs about it it's not in the wank bank. Obviously it was just an experience for her, and one that ended up being funny. Better than ending in tears. And if your mates are leaning towards 'giving you stick ' about the whole thing, you are in direct control of how far it goes. remind them that you are a couple now and they should treat her with respect. Only you can set the standard of how others will accept her and you as a couple.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Would you feel differently if the guys she is talking about weren't your mates? Would it still be going around in your head? If she has lost your respect in any way, perhaps you should rethink the situation.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ...maaate sounds like she's a fun girl and you're bound to find your own fun times ahead. I wouldn't go pushing for make up scenarios just go with the flow. Now when Mrs Pup and I were a courting we were doing the old "what have you done before" conversation and I let slip that I did have a couple of 3somes with my oh so hot ex and her oh my god so hot very successful blonde international model friend...how freakin stupid was I to mention that hey!!! Well before I could eat my words, change the topics and back pedal furiously this beautiful, sweet and very innocent girl looks back at me and says "Ohhhh that sounds like fun, do you think we can try that some time?" Well the past is the past but it could just show you what you're in store for/ Does the idea of a hot 3some involving you and two hot girls turn you on? If so then why get this out of your head? Accept she's had some fun and enjoy whatever fun the two of you can get up to.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  did a similar thing. ended up with a joint account on here, however there was some playing rules we had that were always gonna make it difficult. anyways, on one of our several break ups, i did my thing(s), and she went to a "play house"one of her friends has and well, played. we always planned to go but i chickened out. when i found out i was fuming, it ate at me.we're not together, but good friends now.while you're with this girl, don't let what she did with someone else play on your mind, be happy that she's, for want of a better word, adventurous.at least with her you might get lucky with a better variety of "activities" than you might get elsewhere.you can bring up 3somes and things like that without fear of the old "3some, why, i'm not enough for you?" that can sometimes happen.

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