M41
nice guys vs bad boys
November 20 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
hey, good question- I personally always go for bad boys but I am actually a really nice person and always end up getting hurt because of the downside of the badboy atitude- selfishness. I think the key is- - be the sexy bad boy but dont be an arsehole! haha- would be interested to see what some bad boys or girlshave to say on this topic because Im thinking about turning real bad and getting some back for all the girls who's hearts have been smashed by bad boys- hehehe, prob not really but its a cool idea?? xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
For some reason I have always ended up with the bad guy, Im a sucker for tatts and being a little wild..... just like myself.But in saying that I also love the good side to guys and their gentle nature and their want to relax and chill out.Im not drawn to "wankers" but to someone who likes to have fun and let their hair down once in a while.Hope that helps.Millie
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RHP User
16 years ago
bad behaviour always attracts attention. and more often than not, it attracts the wrong kind of attention, be it the cops or dysfunctional men and women, and people who 'love' being victims. now, you just have to decide whether you want the kind of person who subconsciously is into being treated bad. Generally speaking, these people have a LOT of issues more so than normal...so if you want that kind of interesting, then go for it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Whats wrong with these girls you are meeting?...you are sounding like the ideal guy to me!!..only if i was a few years younger..lol :-P .You are right though,there is just something so very appealing about a bad boy. I have always said that i want a nice guy with that hint of bad boy in him..and who knows how to bring it out at the right time.Nice guys,i tend to walk all over,i cant help it and i dont mean to..but i just need someone who is going to stand up to me and put me in my place from time to time in a cheeky way..to keep me on my toes.Otherwise if he is too nice,i know im going to get anything i want,and get him to do anything i want him to do...there is no challenge there..and i move on. I have had my heart broken a countless amounts of times from badboys..as tempting as they are..they really arent good for me,and certainly for the long term Maybe...you arent meeting the right girls...You just be yourself :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well the good guy thing never got me any solid love interest when I was younger, atleast not that I was aware of until it was too late. It got me plenty of compliments and I think my young looks and 'cuteness' (hate that word sometimes!) went hand in hand.Still, it worked recently when I met my ex gf as we had a 2 year relationship and I experienced a variety of new things, feelings and emotions, so I guess I'll stick with it and wait patiently in the wings. :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
oh what a shame I'm not a few years older :P youre right tho - in this instance I think I was too nice, let her get away with anything and made things too easy. And like you said, even tho she said she was looking for a nice guy, knowing her the way i do now, shes definately not. not yet anyway. cheers for your input everyone ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
sexygal...I think you got it right.... I dont want to generalise but it seems to me that women like a nice guy who has a bit of bad boy in him.... Hell, we all like a bit of dark, mysterious fun from time to time....so yeh Harley....be yourself (nice) but don't lose that bit of naughty boy cos it's gonna come in way handy with the right type of girl for you.... BadDogism. Xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its true - girls love guys who treat them like shit. For years I was always trying to be romantic and nice etc etc be the best bf ever and it got me nowhere then I naturally just started disliking women when I went out and they would come running :) Dunno what it is. Lucky for me Ive found a really great person to share some life with :) Leesh is amazing :)life is short and I wana go out rockin MR.
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RHP User
16 years ago
well thats it... i think we all want a guy we want to take home to our parents and who will respect us,but behind closed doors... will pull our hair tights,tie up out hands and fuck us from behind like there is no tomorrow...or is that just me? hahaha harley you are a sweetie...and girl that passes you up is insane...and its completely her loss xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Doesn't have the same ring to it as 'bad boy'- but I love the sweet ones who are sooooo much fun when they are norti.
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RHP User
16 years ago
It got me no where really, a bit of meaningless sex, crap realationships..then i decided to grow up... and now I am the best relationship with the most awesome chick eva (Kilee). Trev <<< by meaningless I mean below average roots
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think we have to define what we mean by "bad". There could be so many meanings to the word. Also, is it in the past that these fellas were bad, or is it now???? Is he a bad boy because he spent time in the clink or because of something he is doing in the present???? I dont necessarily think that a male regardles of his age riding a Harley is "bad", im sure he is a real nice fella and might even have a cuddly fluffy dog waiting for him at home!!!! Lucky for me i have a wonderful fella of my own who some might consider as bad, and in some instances i agree. But he cuddles me at night, treasures the ground i walk on and vows to love me til the end of time. But only i know the definition of bad when it comes to him and yes, i love it!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Women are wired to be attracted to strength. Take a look at the animal kingdom, one of the sexes (usually the male) does the preening and the prancing, or even fighting to do what? Attract a mate. These programs still exist in humans today, men are geared to look at the hips and the breasts... don't complain we can't help it! hehe.... And women are geared towards strength, ie. the biggest "swinging dick" in the joint, ie. the so called 'bad boy' - as strength means survival, in the old days anyway. Nowadays quite often it's the softly spoken geek or the dufussy looking guy who has all the money (eg. Bill Gates, The Donald, etc..). Men just need to learn how to be cocky, confident and slightly arrogant to get a chicks motor running while still balancing that out with being a decent bloke. It's a balancing act hey.
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is a very interesting topic.i believe there is a common mistake or assumption made here.You see, when you picture a nice guy, he is the bloke who is nice and "Reserved". Quite almost to the point of being shy.Where as your bad boy, tends to have an aura of confidence about him, and can come accross as a bit aloof. i used to struggle with the whole good guy bad boy thing but now realise it is not so.And i can prove it too-ok here goes-Guys, when you are single and havent scored for some time- how hard is it to hook up?? Answere- bloody difficult for most, due to the fact that you tend o exude what i call "Eau' de Desperation". A horrible scent that turns off women by the hundred.Now guys, how often have you gone out with your "New" girlfriend only to find women are throwing themselves your way??This is because you are now exuding "Eau' de confidence". You have your girl, you're in lust, and only have eyes for her.This is why women "seem" to be attracted to the bad boys- they generally are more confident than your "Shy Good Guy"or it could be that most women love a guy who takes control, and knows how to fuck them till their pretty little leg go all wobbly hehe
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was once told that what attracted girls to the "bad boy" persona was the fact they dont care what others think... She then went on to tell me that the bad boy image was great for attracting girls but it doesnt keep them forever they need an emotional bond aswell as the physical. So thats my theory be your not caring self when you are attracting them and then be yourself once you have her....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nice guys for me every time, nice guys can be naughty too.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey gang, love the post, probably one of the better ones I have seen for a while.I would actually like to know what traits or behaviours bad boys display, is it that they don't care what anyone thinks, the look or glint they have in the eye, the 3 day growth look, the riding a motorcycle, as someone else mentioned earlier tattoos (tattoos are fairly mainstream now and alot of people have them in places where they can't be seen).I was seeing a girl and she told me that I was to much of a nice guy and she is attracted to bad boys (after coming from a physically abusive relationship) and she would get bored with me after 3 months so we broke up, I mentioned abusive relationship but doesn't have to be just physically. Its funny tho when you see guys who treat their partners like crap at parties and you go what the hell she can do so much better, would being attracted to a badboy also be something they are used to and have always known so women find it hard to break the cycle?I am a nice guy lol with a very cheeky and mischievous look about him so I have been told, now could bad boys have the same look but because there attitude is a bit more out there is what women like?Thoughts please gangPK
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piercedfun
16 years ago
people have always told me that the bad guys always getthe girl while the good guys stand alone but they all say the hate picking the bad boy cause the girls only end up having their heart broken well im neither good nor bad boy im my own person and well proberly dont get the girl cause i dont follow the latest trends and wear the latest fashion i am me and if im old and alone at least ive been me not pretended to be someone else just to get the girl hey it may not be the best to get laid but i am me and happy to be me and at least when a woman finds me they will know who i am from the start im not pretending to be someone im not all te best
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RHP User
16 years ago
SexyGuy10 made an interesting comment with regard to women essentially being 'wired' to want that...I don't believe that's the case. All you have to do is walk down the street and you will see that women are in public with all sorts of men...I don't believe that anyone can be put in a box like that. Personally, I really don't like the whole buff man thing, it screams egotism, and that's not a pretty trait in anyone. Having dated many 'bad boys' growing up, it is very clear now, as a mature adult, that all these 'boys' did, was give me a bad attitude and allow me to come to the conclusion that all men were assholes and should be stayed away from...so I dated a girl for 12 months, but I digress. When meeting any male, I have a conversation with them first, and find out if they're a complete tool or not. I'm yet to meet a muscle bound man who has a brain, that's not to say they don't exist...but to me, they are the abominable snowman... :) My boyfriend is skinny and a nice guy - yet still has the balls to tell me what he really thinks and if I overstep the mark. My previous boyfriend was fat, lazy and obnoxious...and a bad boy...I like the current situation better than the previous. So I would say go with the nice guy...but never be afraid to tell a girl where to get off!
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