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single men scum of the earth... a response.

November 01 2009

I have been reading the other post and the various responses from other RHP members. I was going to respond in that topic, but I thought it was worth allowing for another strand of this conversation to be started. A woman's perspective on single guys off RHP. I've been a member of RHP on and off for a few years now. The reasons I am here are my own, but like most other members, I think of myself as a well rounded, intelligent, fun and relaxed chick who's looking for lust and love. I get really sick of all the bulls**t that so many of the men on here go on with. The amount of times that I have been rejected, used and lied to, by men, makes me wonder..... What are these guys after if they are not here to find friends and maybe more with someone or many someone's? What do they expect if they treat a nice lady with such distain? Example one: I met with a guy who was new to NT a few months ago. I wasn't his cup of tea physically, he was quite clear about that, and I didn't have a problem. We still ended up having sex to scratch our mutual itches and he left insisting that we would catch up as friends. I tried to make contact with this guy again on a few occassions, just for drinks and dinner, since he was new and indicated he wanted friends, but after he told me that he was leaving NT, I left it. Over the next months, I have seen his profile fill with photos of him from around NT, and now I see he is seeing someone from Darwin, as a couple with a profile on RHP...so it's clear he's still living up here and for whatever reasons, only he knows, he has lied to me. Why? Example Two: Met up with a guy for drinks. Younger than me, aware of my weight, I'm sure he is a nice bloke with the right chick, but not with me. He, unfortunately, is very racist and managed to insult a group of people who I share a small part of my heritage with. I was very polite to him, and when I messaged him to say thank you for the date and explaine to him why I wasn't wanting to take things any further, he insults me by calling me a fat c**t. I have quite a few more stories like that, it's no wonder I can be a right bitch to men who just assume I should be grateful for them paying any attention to me. Now men wonder why women are looking for someone with a little more class and charisma. Why we are looking for someone with a little more to offer than just a dick and the ability to stick it in any hole that happens to be available. Now I know I am specific in what I am looking for off RHP. Well built, healthy, intelligent, my age, single, polite, respectful, I'm not looking for Brad Pitt, but I do like men who take care of themselves and have a good sense of self worth. What is so wrong with women wanting a guy who knows how to treat a lady? I don't get it. Where has manners and romance gone, even in a forum such as this where people are looking for someone for something perpective. Anyone else got an opinion, or horror story they are willing to share.

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RHP User

16 years ago

frack_me I'm sorry that some dickheads have treated you like that. Personally I find it's unacceptable to treat a lady like that. If you're not attracted to a gal, then say so, nicely of course, but be up front about it. I've got a few "larger" lady friends and they've had similar experience to yourself unfortunately which is sad. Not much more to add except to say "screw them" if they don't accept you as you are. You're obviously very happy in yourself and that's what I think is most important. xoxox

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RHP User

16 years ago

mr sexy here; Im hearing what your putting down, sometimes we play mmf she would find a profile that interest her then i check them out. i got to tell you it doesnt long talking to them to see if they have the right mindset for gameplay,there some damaged units out there, the real skill is been able to detect them before playtime. And what is it that make someone compatible? and how do you separate the nice guy from the others?( i dont want to say to much cause the units are lessoning in) and as for finding friends there are other means, i would'nt use this site for that there are good people here, but i think most would like to keep this separate from thier normal life. we do.

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RHP User

16 years ago

In regards to RHP, guys are one of two things: 1. picky as all hell in what they are looking for or 2. will try and take anything they can get. You have a very valid point. I have had some extremely bad experiences with guys, some to the point where it's slightly changed my character and outlook on life and Im only 23!. Makes you think how a man becomes a man? They were once little adorable boys with substance, love, morals and character, and then one day a switch is flicked, everything goes out the window and they think with their "little heads" over their heart and brain!!! I can sit here and write in full confidence that i am the most kindest,honest, strong willed genuine person i know, im extremely intelligent, educated, have a bright, friendly personality, fun to be around and I have sustance and still get fucked over everytime. Despite my past bad experiences, I know at the end of the day I am a good person, and just maybe the people i have met across the years aren't as open with themselves as I am with myself . I believe its just the way guys are, the biochemistyr of the male brain is completely different to that of the females...for example guys love boxing, nothing like 2 guys bashing the crap out of each other, all bloody and broken. I dont know too many girls who can say that they enjoy that as a spot! I know there are some good normal ones out there so you need to keep looking....ignore the insults and happenings of your past experiences, those guys probably werent good enough for you anyway...if they are like that one a first or second date, i doubt that they are even a nice person anyway!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hiya all,From a single males point of view, I do understand where Frack_Me is coming from. I won't say I am a complete angel lol but I always try to stay friends with any females I meet even if I have no intetnion of sleeping with them again (not that I ever have lots of sex anyway lol) because the sex is usually pretty good even if only scratching an itch.I consider myself to be a gentleman and I treat every female I meet with respect, kindness and go out of my way to make them feel comfortable around me.I am quite sick of all the asshole guys out there who think they can treat women like crap and not think of the ramifications for themselves because guess what guys? women do talk and it will be known that you are a complete asshole and you may start wondering why you never get any more dates and why women on this site won't chat to you lol.Wake up to yourselves guys and have a little respect and be truthful to the fairer sex.Pierced_Knight

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hey sweety,Some of the single guys just ar'nt looking to find a woman of substance.To these ones its a game, like any other sport where's there's a game plan to score,only" they" play by their own rules and conduct themselves as such.They'll use all bulls**t underthe sun to say what they think/know what( we want to hear) Thus to kill the bordom (timeout)..lol... its easier to spend a few mins to get on line to chat or whatever to spin their lines..its part of the chase...thus their" ego" gets stroked by thinking they got the woman" so" into them by using what they think is their smooth passess and such,till they score their gaol (sex) as these ones are only after as many that they can get,as they see it their in control of the situation.before during and after the chase, again its their ego that gets stroked.Yet again they'll use bull after scoring so as not to come across as you put it as users..they want to take control..and keep their ego in tact.Thats why these ones lie through their teeth.These guys dont want to pay a hookers ( no offence to these women ) it cost time effort and money, than they would on a genuine woman of substance......Also no thrill of the chase..ego stroking or boosting..no knotches, bragging rights either in their own mind or to other mates and no control of the situation.BUT if a game player happens to score his goal ( SEX ) and performs up to the womans standards by taking care of her needs fully if only by being totaly into her for that wonderful journey....? hey its only sex,you'll soon discover what it is your seeking in a man during that time of adventure/s or not what you want thus using your time wisely in the process..The same thing can happen to those of us who arnt looking for the one..or love pffft..yet again.its their ego n control thats of value to some of these guys!! n will bulls**t to use us ones to be sure of a score.hey im not bitter just being realistic and enjoy each moment for what it is......hehea hug n kiss to ya.......ya not alone...and dont let it get to u

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RHP User

16 years ago

Unfortunately you get the bad with the good, and it is a matter of sorting them out. Guys were like that way back when and always have been. It is just different types and they are not all like that. I think it is far too easy with the internet to present yourself how you want to and not how you really are. If it was back in the old days when people placed ads in magazines then I'm sure it would be a lot different. Personally, I think that if you are looking for Mr.Right or something along those lines, then it is better to meet them in the "real" world. Rather than going on a mission to actually find someone, I have always found that any long term relationships I have had have been with people I have just met along the way in my daily life.

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RHP User

16 years ago

You have been really unlucky to have such unpleasant and discouraging encounters. I think a lot on the women on this site would be able to recount other horrible tales, which I think is really really sad. I know this is the internet, but it all comes down to honesty and respect and all the other things we should show to other human beings. Just be thankful that you met these idiots online and never had to look at or think of them again. Imagine if you dated someone from real life and they treated you this way and you had to keep seeing the creep day in day out!! Keep and open heart and an open mind and keep going, someone worthy of you will come along!! lovebittenxoxoxoxo

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RHP User

16 years ago

I read the other post but prefer to post in this one. The thing is to be honest in your profile and if yoiu are very lucky like I was when Venus ands I met online it will happen for you. Male or female. I couldnt think of anything worese that trying to meet someone in the real world without a detailed profile to read. All those things that one mighten like in a person..ponly to find out later... Mars

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RHP User

16 years ago

i just cannot imagine how guys can do that to u frack_me...a woman should be treated with kindness, respect, honesty and openness...whether she be in your bed, across the table from u on a date, online chatting or in emails...sometimes i wonder if the people we encounter in a day-to-day lives are sent to test of our character...stay strong and true to yourself and i am certain u will find the man who will complete u...cheers...Jose...

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RHP User

16 years ago

were not all like that

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hi Frack_Me,Unfortunately that same story works both ways..... lying, cheating, abusive behavior... it's a personal thing, not a gender role.Having said that, totally agree that guys do it more than girls.. which is why it's so embarrassing being a guy when you hear of the horror stories like yours.Maturity, or lack thereof, comes in all shapes and sizes. It's up to the rest of us (male and female) to set the examples.

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