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swinger newbies...where to start??
February 04 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi newbies, for a start post some pics, if you want any interaction between people on this site... a pic definitely gets ATTENTION.THEN it takes time, to co-ordinate a meet n greet - then what ever you want after that??all the best !
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RHP User
15 years ago
hi guys, theres heaps of different options depending on what your after...from full on to discrete!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey, so we are newby aswell. and to be honest havent as yet had really any joy from the online deal... yes we have come across some cool potential peeps, alas plenty of frustration for want of a better word. now i also wonder in regaed to my communication? i am a straight up type of communicator, not disrespectful but when attempting some interaction of some sort. most often come up with nothin... im a little puzzled, are we not here in order to free ourselves of society boundaries? what is your take people jj xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi im 37 years old friendly and lotsa fun..ask me anything if you wish to find out more...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi People, We are also new to this. Questions are we better to meet n chat to a couple or go to a club and meet lots ??? If club any suggestions for someone new ??? If a couple any suggestions of someone good for newbies ??? Thanks in advance :) P.S. We also live in the country aka Traralgon
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well having been on her for just over a year i would offer the following advice:1) Take the time to write a great profile that really shows who you are and what you are looking for.2) Take some nice tasteful pics of BOTH of you and have face shots if not in your main profile at least in PG to show on request3) go to as many meet and greets as you can ( I think Melbourne do host them from time to time)We have found that meeting in person at meet and greets and parties is way more efficient and you get to see the real people and miss out on a lot of the fakes and time wasters.It can be slow going at the start but it is funny how once you start to meet a few couples, you meet other couples through them and so on and so forth.RHP can be a bit of a mixed bag but then again so is life so take it as it comes, be comfortable as a couple and in yourselves, know what you want and you will find it.Best of luckMRS GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks Mrs GC, THat is good advice and we might have to take some more pics that could be fun ;) and look at our profile. Thanks agains
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RHP User
15 years ago
Always happy to help where i can Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mrs GC, Thanks for that information. To quote you...."We have found that meeting in person at meet and greets and parties is way more efficient and you get to see the real people and miss out on a lot of the fakes and time wasters." Would you mean to say that going to parties with no intention to get involved is a good way to meet likeminded couples? Or would that be frownded upon? The only reason I ask is that there doesn't seem to be many meet and greets in Melbourne. We also seem to be getting very little response from our profile (yes a few more pics will help, we are working on that!)
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RHP User
15 years ago
we have only been to a couple of parties so not a lot of experience there however the thing we have found is that if you spend some time getting to know the host a little you can suss out what kind of party it is, if it is a pretty large gathering with no pressure to play then there is every chance that you will get the time to meet people and not play and not feel obliged to do so either, however if it is a fairly small gathering and they are looking for everyone to get involved in play then that is probably not the best party for you. Of course there is also the option of hosting a meet and greet yourself, i see that RHP has some great tips in the events section on holding these types of things so perhaps that is an option.I think the main thing is to be open and clear about what you are comfortable with, be choosy make sure that the party you go to suits what you are looking for, ie no good going to a full on GB or BDSM type thing if you are just a little curious and hoping to test the waters. Also going to a club could be the way to go, not sure what there is around Melbourne but i am sure our fellow RHP bloggers can help you out there.Have fun, hope this helps,MRS GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well looks like i will be sitting here fixing my profile over the weekend. :( but could some fun there as well. For foreaustwo: - there is places in melbourne that i have found on this sight, we are not sure its for us yet n not sure about going in not knowing anyone at all (girl a bit scared) but maybe one day we will head to melbourne to do it for fun. Our problem is we live over 2 hrs in the country n no meets here at all but we will keep try n r will to travel 4 the right people Have fun n enjoy all - luv my RHP friends :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey All, my partner and I have been to 2 parties in the last 6 or so weeks, both run by different people and in different areas. It is aHUGE step to make the commitment to go to a party, but once you get over looking like a deer caught in the headlights, it is a big turn on. There is always a couple where it is their first time too, and there are definately some very seasoned swingers that go also. We found the first party we went to, the people were much more friendly and accepting of the "newbies" or "virgins" as we were referred to and were very willing to show us the ropes.. it was a great night and one that we will not forget. If you want to know more, drop me a line and I will be happy to divulge more details.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks again MrsGC, we were considerering a B&B getaway in the country, but may have to reconsider as it will be for 2 nights, with I would suspect a very small gathering. However, the first night is definately no pressure and if we feel uncomfortable we can always leave. Also, I will check out what is invloved in hosting a meet and greet, always a believer of not waiting for someone else to do it. Tryit3, we too live aways from the city and can understand the difficulties in getting there for a weekend. Am interested in seeing your updated profile too! Cheeky_Couple74, which venues have you attended and which would you be more likely to re-attend?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Cheeky_Couple74, which venues have you attended and which would you be more likely to re-attend? the first one we went to was Stillettos, BIg eye opener, everyone was friendly and willing to show us what to do.. the second was Debauchery, much bigger place and more people (approx 80) but both my partner and I found it hard to break into any conversations. We will more than likely give both of them another go, even tho Debauchery is muh closer to home for us, but I think that it is something you have to go to a few times and really feel out what is more comfortable. cheers xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well profile changed, pictures taken mmm , well girls and guys have a look n feedback would be awesome. Hope u like the new pics as well MrandMrsM would luv to chat some time
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RHP User
15 years ago
Foreverustwo- you are most welcome, wish i could take the credit for 'words of wisdom' but really it is just passing on some great advice that was given to us and also a little of what we have learnt along the way in the past year, always happy to try and help others who are new as it wasn't that long ago that it was us in your situation.Tryit3- Great profile and yummy pics of Mrs but i would go for a clearer shot of Mr without the bathroom in the shot even if you block out the face or crop it a little before adding it for privacy, also i would look at all the 'ask me' responses, they are rather unpopular with those who have been around for a while especially when in the smoking and drinking section we find it is always better to have something in there and then if you need to add an explanation in the 'in your own words' section. but other than that i think i reads great, short to the point and tells me what i need to know. Just my opinion of course, Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
if you go to the community tab there are are series of topics that are helpful to newbies, like how to organise 'safe' meets, how to write a good profile etc etc hours and hours of helpful reading between that and the forums you will be set
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RHP User
15 years ago
although im not sure how without making the forum nazis get upset lol new pic has definitely had the desired effect hehe
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RHP User
15 years ago
Does anyone use the datefinder on here ??? I have just put a date on to see if it works or not but also we would like to meet, eat n have fun. Can anyone advise if it works or not ???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Cheers Mrs GC, We will update the responce now thanks for you point of view, very helpful. And yes she is a hottie I know and glad u liked the pics. Thanks again MrandMrsM: - Glad you enjoyed the pics and they had the desired effect, maybe one day you might see for real here's hoping
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thai_one_on
15 years ago
where was the Debauchery partty?
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey Thai, it was in Carnegie
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey cheeky couple74 would you suggest its a good place for new people ??? or would it better if we went with someone else ??? ie another couple like yourselves ???
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey tryit.. myself personally would not think it is a great place to start out with unless you did go with someone else.. we found it quite hard to tap into a conversation with other people there.. if you would like to go, we would be more than happy to go along and hold your hand so to speak lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well cheeky couple any other suggestions ??? but in saying that would be gr8 to meet with you guys so that would make it alot easier n we can kill 2 birds with one stone so to speak and have a fun night at the same time with some nice people like yourselves and yes you could hold our hands and maybe more hehe ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi guys, been following the thread with interest. Getting some great information and advice from you all. Thanks for that, from a couple of newbies! Cheeky_Couple74, you mentioned about Stilettos and that they would be better for the first timers going on their own. Would that be fair to say? What suburb is stilettos? Has anyone seen or have any experiences or thoughts on the Lipstix B&B weekend getaway?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well we have tried the date finder which worked fine as we got interest but as we are on trail members it did not work as we could not contact. My next thought is either party/club any suggestion of which one would be best for new people ??? and anyone interested in holding our hands thru it ??? Thanks ahead of time
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have found that if you play with the age group who have young/teenage children, it is mighty hard to arrange a suitable time to meet. Then if we click, tend to stick with the same couples/players because it's just easier because we all know it's a hectic life and hard to fit in our play time. So I guess, patience is a bit of a necessity, but hey the waiting game tends to be quite a turn on especially if you chat in between! Anticipation....mmmm it's a sweet tease!
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