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talking into it

February 24 2010

Am I the only person bothered by all the forums that are asking for advice on how to talk their partner into a threesome? Having a threesome can be a great thing for a couple but if both parts of the couple are not fully into it then it can only end in tears. As someone who likes to have 3somes I met lots of couples and I can always (now more so) tell when one part of the couple is not fully into it, and I never play with these couples. Has anyone ever had a long term positive outcome from talking their partner into a sexual experience? mrs scc

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RHP User

16 years ago

I allowed a guy from rhp to try and talk me into a mfm last year... he said I'd enjoy it ! Basically the entire process of setting it up ripped the trust between us apart. I wasn't ready and our relationship wasn't strong enough. I will NEVER agree to a threesome again without being in a STRONG, supportive, loving, respectful relationship. Sure, I list threesomes on my profile, I am interested but I want to be in a relationship first. If I was in a stable relationship and I didn't think my partner could handle a threesome I would NEVER try and persuade him, the risk is too great. Love clouds people's judgements. An individual may agree to do something for the person they love when they don't really want to. In my case, I went along with it as I thought it'd please HIM, he wanted to watch me with another guy. But then jealousy took over (from him) and we ended up splitting sometime later and it got twisted around to be my fault ! Would love to try the swingers scene and threesomes, foursomes etc but now I will wait.... I think I will be waiting a LONG LONG time ! Hugs, Miss Saturn

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RHP User

16 years ago

oh and Miss Saturn, Mrs Pup has agreed to dress up in drag so we can have a mfm with you hehe!Oh and scc, I don't like that acronym...just had thoughts of squamous cell carcinomas..oops!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sexycountrycpl you read our minds! Its appears so very dangerous to a relationship to do that. It requires loads of stability, lots of trust and masses of communication to think about bringing another into your play. Even when you have those things in place we find, it has ups and downs ! The person you bring into the play can also be a factor if you see them on an on going basis. By no means am I saying we have it 100 percent right , we don't! But we as a couple we spent a long long time examining the senarios before we put our feet in the water. We continue to examine our relationship. I think it was you or Mr Scc that suggested ethical slut for a good read THANK YOU, brilliant book, great read! We have also picked up a copy of opening up , which is also really good! Please all beware ! Saturn tells a tale we have heard more than once. Thanks Miss saturn for being so open and telling us all. (nice new pic by the way). Thanks for the post SCC great point ! BTW gotta say Mrs SCC that's a great smile! Kisses and care to all sexy swingers

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RHP User

16 years ago

I was rather concerned that a lot of RHP Cpl's were totally manipulating sex freaks who did not possess one iota of respect for their partner! Of course, some probably are but it's reassuring to know that they are just a vocal minority. Thanks for the post! Anna

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RHP User

16 years ago

Communication is the key before, during and after any sort of play... and having someone constantly checking in with you that you're ok, especially after, is extremely important whether the relationship is serious or not... even if you think you're ready, or can handle something, I've found that the reality can sometimes be quite different... My boundaries have changed since I started playing and I'm happy that they have.... I've had some amazing, fantastic rewarding experiences that I never thought I'd have or enjoy... but one I definitely should have talked through way more before proceeding... I just wasn't ready even though no one would have guessed... I really thought I was ready so it was no one's fault but my own.... but, yes, tears were shed.... so talking and being honest are the most important things in my opinion...

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RHP User

16 years ago

hadn't considered all the ramifications before...i know that with my next fwb, i will be wanting to investigate a ffm play...assuming that she will too...lol...so what do you think are the most important things to consider...apart from attraction...very curious now...theSHERIFF

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RHP User

16 years ago

asked about a MFM one night over a few drinks.fuck, i performed extremely well that night. bloody shockedthe shit out of me.never heard from them again.deffinately not EARLy that nightahahahahahahahahahahahaha

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