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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  well said totally agree we have the exact same issue, travel isn't as bad for us though our major problem seems to be the superficial people on the site, as the second they see our pg we never here from them again and they almost instantly remove there pg from us so to answer you in a way YES people are to bloody picky we here from many people not just thru dating sites that we are real nice people, easy going, easy to get along with and great fun to talk to and hang out with, but the virtues are just not good enuff for the masses on dating sites these days not just this but other sites/clubs/etc.

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Wow if we had a dollar for everytime we read a profile asking for no timewasters and a forum topic complaining about people who want to talk / swab pics / swap emails etc etc. Personally we try very hard to respond to all messages and flirts even if it is to say thanks but no thanks. To be honest we don't get a lot of flirts and we don't sent a lot but we seem to manage to meet people and have fun when we have time available. Yes we have come accross people who clearly are not interested in actually meeting but who are we to villify them? Everyone is diffierent and when it becomes clear that you are not interested in the same outcomes how hard is it to say sorry this is not working and walk away?? Why generate negative energy for yourself by whinging and moaning over it. We refuse to 'chase' people. If we chat for a while and then offer to meet and they won't commit then we just walk away and leave the ball in their court. Re people being picky. We all have the right to choose who hops into our bed. If people choose to be picky do you really want them in your bed??? If they are picky it is their problem. We don't consider ourselves to be picky but we won't jump into bed with people we don't find attractive and we have found that sometimes we meet people who we can talk to easily and have a laugh with but we just don't feel the desire to get down and dirty with them. Sometimes things just don't work. Again why get all negative and complain about it. Life is too short to get hung up on other people's issues.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  When we are in the mood to play we will do a search without being too restrictive. Then go to each profile clicking the next button. All we will check is: AGE Distance Body Type swap partners for sex (anything less for us is just a tease) We dont read anything else and rarely look at all the pictures. Pictures dont matter at this stage. Then we will send a flirt and we might send out over 30 flirts and it dosent matter to us if we have been rejected or a non reponce in the past, we just dont care. Everyone likes recieving a flirt....its a compliment. We might get one or two responses then we will read their profile and respond with a couple questions. We spread our wings a lot wider than just here and repeat the same process. We have taken this appoach because of the time wasters, pretenders and that response "we are not match" and you cant figure why? So now we dont even try to. We find the most genuine couples that do play, will meet in the mindset to play where all four have agreed to the venue. Like others have said we are not getting married , we are meeting for fun. Not to find that one special couple with that very special spark.....just by pass those types. Single males and Males pretending to be a couple are just a slight distraction, but we dont mind the compliments from them. Guess no one likes rejection, but thats part of the rules of the game. If we recieve a flirt and we can message back, we will just say something like "Thanks for the flirt we love your profile" if they are serious about playing they will answer, we then dont worry about getting an answer . And simply go "NEXT" profile please.

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Sweetitpie you have hit the nail on the head!!!!! We don't classify ourselves as attractive at all, just Mr and Mrs Average. Others disagree with us and that is really cool but what I hate is when someone we are not attracted to acts like we are snobs for not thinking they are smoking hot!!!!!! Particularly when blind freddy can see that they are NOT!!!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi again, Hope we haven't been misunderstood us to the way we worded the post. We were not/are not complaing(much, both can not get enough lol) about the amount of flirts/message we recieve as we both know we're not every1's cup of sugar. But in saying that there a more and more profiles whining about no action. we for 1 think that they are only shooting themselves in the foot. After all this is not hard well atleast for some. But in saying that most decent people would expect a return gesture wheter that been thanks but no thankyou or sounds great when/where can we meet up. After all if the boot was on the other foot they would be expect 1 themselfs. Men, especially younger men seem to be complaing as to lack of interest/meets they receive, well just maybe they would have more luck if maybe they treated others the way they would luv to be treated. Many a times mrs nowannabs has chated/sms agreed to meet up only for some poor lame excuse and to be never heard of again. It's fully understood it's there decision in the end but wake up to yourselfs. Hope the make's some sense cause the more and more we read it the more n more it become's confusing. s&k

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  now how to put this basically look at your own type of people, YES? ok can we have all the people society find ugly message and wink us please

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  coz going buy the comments here that appears to be what you are saying i find no matter how positive you are, that won't help myself and partner get the HOT people we would like. although as we stated a few time round here we aren't superficial and the average people we find are just as nice to meet hang out and play with

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Mrs S!!!!!! You are one funny lady. We definitely would like to meet you somewhere at a party!!! Although I am sure we are not Hot enough for you and we are cool with that! Seriously guys did you read the part where Mrs S said she lost 45kg??? That is a serious achievement. Instead of whinging about no one liking you because you are not attractive enough get off your arse and do something about it. Then the hot people who do look after their bodies might be interested!!!!! Thanks so much Mrs S for telling it like it is and making me laugh xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Its the nature of the internet, that so many can go online and be whoever they want to be.I could count on 1 hand the number of people we hav eactually met up with through private msging, majority of people just want to talk dirty on msn, wank off on cam in front of me, talk up all the things they are going to do when we meet only to cancel on the day. But in saying that the few people we have met have been lovely :)Maybe you would be better off going to a swingers club, at least these people are who they say they are, and you know why they are thereMrs ezee xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  club are just as bad (never been) only diff would be being declined to your face, also who wants to Waste $200 for 1 night that has no Gaurntee of getting any action, perfer to waste the money elsewhere, plus $200 is a lot of cash if we had that would would pay for membership and SWEETIEPIE2010 "the hot people we would like"? Nope, nothing on this planet will help you get hot unless you are hot you're right there and it has nothing to do with them being superficial" thats exactly what i has to do with people judging by looks, i guess no one heard the saying "DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER"

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Hot_Horny_Pair' club are just as bad (never been) only diff would be being declined to your face, also who wants to Waste $200 for 1 night that has no Gaurntee of getting any action, perfer to waste the money elsewhere, plus $200 is a lot of cash if we had that would would pay for membership and SWEETIEPIE2010 "the hot people we would like"? Nope, nothing on this planet will help you get hot unless you are hot you're right there and it has nothing to do with them being superficial" thats exactly what i has to do with people judging by looks, i guess no one heard the saying "DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER"How can you say clubs are just as bad when you've never been? The "guaranteed action" of the clubs could be the amazing experience of having sex with your partner in a room full of people or watching others get it on - otherwise go pay specifically for sex, there's your guarantee. In clubs the superficial hot people and the average joes and josephines tend to stick to their own kind anyways.In this form of recreational sport AKA swinging, we all have the right to be picky and to judge "covers" and we all have to be prepared for rejection. You are not going to have sex with someone if you find them physically repulsive are you? Even if they're a Greenpeace volunteer with the most amazing personality in the world. You can't vilify people for having some kind of standards.Just because we're picky doesn't mean we're shallow!

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