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unbelievable attitudes
April 25 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
So where has his attitude gotten him. Say... NEXT!!! One day, hopefully... he'll figure it out when he releases the grip a little and allows some blood to flow back up to his brain. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok well after reading that all I can say is poor form on his part. And to answer your question...no. Not all guys are like this. There are a few here,myself included, who are looking for to share something with a woman that's more than just the physical. I can only imagine how you felt after that exchange, but please don't be disheartened. There are good guys out there who love sex and everything that "comes" with that....pun intended :). Oh and Lest We Forget...it's really humbling when you think of what those men and women did....it gives me goosebumps..because I am so proud..and when I hear the bag pipes and see these men and women who served..my chest sticks out and I feel ten foot tall....Thank you all the Diggers and Doctors and Nurses....all who served and serve currently.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I hear you.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Yes there are a lot out there who think you can drop everything and go running to them.... I am a very busy mother who works (mon-fri 10 hrs a day + an 2hrs travel to and from work) If I'm going to meet someone for a coffee somewhere it has to be organized and planned in advance (give a girl some notice) and that's even with my friends...... but like DG said NEXT.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some people are fuck wits and unfortunately they make the rest of us decent folk get ignored. Fuck him and do what you need to do for yourself :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You just dodged a dickhead, don't feel bad about it.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I do believe, calendars and diary's were invented for a reason and am pretty sure invented by a woman as well. That's why we can multi task and plan so well. No of this demanding drop of the hat kinda stuff. My time is too precious to have demands of sex on tap, made up on me from some complete stranger I have not met nor from someone who thinks women are spittoons. Why? Because we are worth more..... Foxy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
How this would have gone done in my world: (Starts with a text at 8.30am --- after 5 weeks of no contact.)HIM : hi, what's happening, are we getting together at some time or not ME: Sorry, who is this? HIM: It's Bill! ME: Sorry, but I'm afraid you waited too long and I've moved on. All the best. OP, the back-and-forth messaging you did and the guy getting more whiny with every message would have made me tired too. My suggestion would be to take your power back and teach people how to treat you from the get-go.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I had said this before to girlfriends and they too agree. It makes me think sometimes... There are probably some women (and men) out there that will drop everything, when a man/woman (whom they have never met) sends a text wanting a root to get their rocks off. So really in the long run...can't blame those people who do expect others to drop everything. Little do they know, some people do have boundaries and are able to say no ...so they crack the shits because they are not used to someone saying no to them or rejected... A little harsh maybe.... but there has to be some truth in there somewhere?? Foxy
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rupamohan
12 years ago
Even we normally don't rant ...but we have been upset once or twice a year...about 5 unpleasant exp in 500 we talked to but yes it would have been nice if it was 0 as we like perfection. Are you really having lots of bad experience? It may be just an coincidence most people are indeed nice. Are you attracting wrong kind of people?...make it clear in your profile what kind of notice you need and also if you are busy there is no need to give reason...unless you have become frens...I think your friendly nature is being mis read. If anybody calls me when I am not expecting him...my first response is who are you? how do you know me? Oh ok from RHP? let me check you profile and then get back to you I won't know you as I am in touch with many at RHP..
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sweetgem
12 years ago
So spontaneous (as he claimed to be) and give you a reply, OP, if you texted him at 12am on a Monday night for a meeting?! If it was me in your shoes, uneventful, the text would have gone like this: (Starts with a text at 8.30am --- after 5 weeks of no contact.) HIM : hi, what's happening, are we getting together at some time or not? ME : hit the BLOCK button on my phone instantly to block his arse out for potential abuse! Good luck to those (both male and female) who treat RHP as a free brothel to get sex, and expect others to be ready to drop their pants/skirt down for them whenever they needed it! This type of people are actually the real uneducated ones even if they had a Doctoral degree on paper! Because people like this don't know what RESPECT means nor do they have respect for others, and for themselves! Pathetic! - Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
Spontaneous or opportunistic, was it just his wife/girlfriend was out of the way long enough for him to play up?
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RHP User
12 years ago
The minute the first message came through that read "are we getting together anytime soon or not?" I would've replied with a no. It's littered with expectation and entitlement as clearly he thought that he had you hooked. Presumptuous and pretentious messages like those are given as much contempt as they were when it was sent. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Given that this has been a constant thing for you. Perhaps your vetting process needs to be examined as well?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hear ya - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
12 years ago
It happens to us all the time on here. They obviously believe that just because we are female, and have a profile on here, that we will open our legs at the drop of a hat. Very selfish. It's all about them. Our block list grows longer by the day! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You could give him some of his own back...if you still wanted to catch up with him....ring him at work,tell him to drop everything and meet you in the city...something tells he wouldn't like to be so spontaneous then....better still, flick the tosser,he's wasting your time.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I reread and reread the text text messages and replies. How I see it, uneventful was giving him a 2nd chance...people deserve that.. yeah?? I don't see anything wrong in what uneventful replied back...it was the man who fucked it up with his replies. Eventful was explaining her self and standing up for herself. I read as as tho she was giving him time to explain himself and her replies where quite OK - in my eyes. She said she was quite happy to met him for a drink, she did say "not today as she was in the city" (she was happy to negotiate another time) however, HE kept pushing the boundaries for his own selfish needs. He was not rude until the end. His words came across as demanding to eventful and he did keep pushing her boundaries. Eventful did mention his prior behavior, sometimes I think people need to hear that for personal growth and that they have upset someone because of their behavior. If it's not mentioned how how they suppose to know, what they have done wrong?? In this case, the man I don't think will ever learn cause it was all about him! At his last reply, yeah he deserves BLOCK for being horribly rude... but not at the beginning. Maybe if he had worded his words right, then maybe, they both have got what they wanted at the end. Just my thoughts on this.. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
My god! U have hit it on the head with your experience. I have been on holidays and didn't (my bad! Sarcasm) catch up with someone from this site. Attitude message received this week...."it was so GREAT that we caught up babe" Drop everything attitude is pretty much treating us as meat.. Yes it's a bit of fun and perhaps we should expect (although I do not) this click your finger attitude because we are on a site. But I would rather b on a site seeking fun companionship and friendship than trolling thru the over 28 clubs. A wee bit of respect goes a hell of a long way. Men should try it and see how their "strike rate" improves!!! Hold firm and say no. Don't drop everything at all. You. ...all of us ... Are worth more. And the 1 that does want u for more than just the sex WILL message more often and give respect. 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'uneventfulDo all guys expect us to be able to drop every thing with instant notice Give me the "let's have sex in the next hour", and you can have the "I need to cancel the date we were supposed to have in the next hour". Seriously, for three weeks in a row, with three different women. Wednesday - we agree to meet on Saturday for lunch.Friday afternoon - checkpoint, all good, both confirm.Saturday morning - text from her: let's just catch up for a quick coffee, something came upT-minus one hour - another text: sorry can't make it today So yeah, at this stage I'd rather have the "here and now" than nothing at all )
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hello Miss....if you can please read the post I made in Ralf's forum...titled riddle me this. Just to give you an idea, the behaviour that man showed is not just immature but really it's a sign of controlling behaviour. And this behaviour leads to abuse.....stay safe and have fun Miss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But seriously !! It's about respect. I agree with mes, you allowed him to behave that way... But I wouldn't have been as quick to block as you sweetgem... I'd let him hang himself... People like that...NEXT ! Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I reread and reread the text text messages and replies. How I see it, uneventful was giving him a 2nd chance...people deserve that.. yeah?? I don't see anything wrong in what uneventful replied back... Who suggested the OP was doing something wrong? Sweetgem and I stated how we handle situations like this, because it works for us. My suggestion to uneventful was to demand better. As for second chances: A guy sending a message after five weeks of radio silence asking to meet right now (and then not taking no for an answer) does not get one from me. If he'd said something like: "Sorry I fell off the radar. I'd still really like to meet you soon, would you be keen?" it would have been a different story.
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Enjoylifealways
12 years ago
I so understand this had something similar this week. I have started blocking people now that don't get the message. I am a beautiful woman with a life of my own who needs to be treated with respect. Not a blowup doll for people to use when they feel like it. End of rant .
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MissBishere
12 years ago
Don't you just love being treated like a last minute option....NOT! - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
In general, yes, everyone deserves a second chance, but not in the scenario like what uneventful has mentioned! The man in question went disappeared without contact for 5 weeks, then reappeared and demanded uneventful's time and sex instantly! That's not right nor how one should treat another! I would block the man in question from the first text (if I was uneventful), because his text displayed an annoyed attitude. Please reread this line and see if you would get the same vibe as I did. "are we getting together at some time or not?" OR NOT........it sounded like as if uneventful had got him hanging on the string waiting for a meeting for ages and finally he got fed up, when he was the one that stood her up, then disappeared for 5 silent weeks! Hmmmmmm. Of course, you can argue that there's always two sides to the story. However, this seems a straightforward situation and that's how I would have handled it if I was in uneventful's shoes. I am not at all criticising the OP or anyone here, nor in my previous comment. I am just stating how I would have handled situation like this, that's all. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' In general, yes, everyone deserves a second chance, but not in the scenario like what uneventful has mentioned! The man in question went disappeared without contact for 5 weeks, then reappeared and demanded uneventful's time and sex instantly! That's not right nor how one should treat another! I would block the man in question from the first text (if I was uneventful), because his text displayed an annoyed attitude. Please reread this line and see if you would get the same vibe as I did. "are we getting together at some time or not?" OR NOT........it sounded like as if uneventful had got him hanging on the string waiting for a meeting for ages and finally he got fed up, when he was the one that stood her up, then disappeared for 5 silent weeks! Hmmmmmm. Of course, you can argue that there's always two sides to the story. However, this seems a straightforward situation and that's how I would have handled it if I was in uneventful's shoes. I am not at all criticising the OP or anyone here, nor in my previous comment. I am just stating how I would have handled situation like this, that's all. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The worst of the worst.. Anzac day , the spiritual a day to remember the sacrifices and get together with friends. And what did this barstard do ? Think of himself ! oblivious to the true meaning of the day and why he is so lucky to be a part of this god given place we call Australia.obvious These types of guys are the pits.. Jason Leslie... I still take ages to get past your pic ? Dont know why...lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
dont know why the type went haywire.. ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I reread and reread the text text messages and replies. How I see it, uneventful was giving him a 2nd chance...people deserve that.. yeah?? I don't see anything wrong in what uneventful replied back...it was the man who fucked it up with his replies. Eventful was explaining her self and standing up for herself. He fucked it up from his very first message. There had been no contact for 5 weeks and instead of acknowledging that and easing into things, he started off with demanding words and tone. That immediately shows his entitled attitude. I think this is the mistake that many women make (and that I have made plenty of times in the past)...thinking they should give the guy a second chance, even when all the evidence is pointing to the fact that he is not worth it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i wouldn't even respond to anyone who had such an attitude, i wouldn't waste my time. this is meant to be fun not make you feel like a piece of meat at his disposal.
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madotara69
12 years ago
These are NSA sex sites, what does a lady expect, flowers? Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tell the arse hole where to go.. You can fo better you dont need him. I would like to think that the majority of men on here would not act like that.. I know I certainly dont !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unfortunately I think some people on sites like this have a sense of entitlement - they assume that by being on here everybody has committed to dropping what they're doing and banging any comers as soon as they make the offer. Which isn't the care. People have lives, people have tastes, people have different expectations and that is something that must be respected. Not all men are like this. Unfortunately, places like these do attract more than their fair share of them. I guess it comes with the territory of being a sexually-liberated community, there's always someone who thinks that means 'everyone wants to fuck me at any time'
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RHP User
12 years ago
I saw a guy a few times who was separated from his partner. The last time I saw him he told me he has moved back home so that was the end of that, or so I thought. On Thursday i got a text saying "Hi, how are you. Sorry I haven't been in contact for a while but I've been really busy. What are you up to this week end?". So me being polite replied, "I haven't been feeling so great for the last few days so I'm just going to relax with a friend". His reply "Ok, let me know if you're around on Saturday night". Like WTF! If someone told me that they weren't feeling great I would have said I hope you feel better soon, or asked them if everything was okay. So NO, I'm not around on Saturday night.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I do give people a second chance...but this was over the top. Had similar event ... different Guy .. over the Easter weekend. Im tolerant ...but this was over the top. Thanks all with constructive advise ... And ... NO ...I DIDNT WANT FLOWERS. wtf... - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' The worst of the worst.. Anzac day , the spiritual a day to remember the sacrifices and get together with friends. And what did this barstard do ? Think of himself ! oblivious to the true meaning of the day and why he is so lucky to be a part of this god given place we call Australia.obvious These types of guys are the pits.. Jason Leslie... I still take ages to get past your pic ? Dont know why...lol The white shorts photo ? lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
The only flake in my life... is made of chocolate.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' How this would have gone done in my world: (Starts with a text at 8.30am --- after 5 weeks of no contact.)HIM : hi, what's happening, are we getting together at some time or not ME: Sorry, who is this? HIM: It's Bill! ME: Sorry, but I'm afraid you waited too long and I've moved on. All the best. OP, the back-and-forth messaging you did and the guy getting more whiny with every message would have made me tired too. My suggestion would be to take your power back and teach people how to treat you from the get-go. This sort of thing has happened to me a few times but not any more.I used to give second chances but found (with one exception) that it's not worth it.I tell gentlemen up front now from the very start of our communication that I simply do not give second chances.I'm not a bitch, but I can be quite blunt then both parties know where they stand and it works for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow, after reading the OP's post I would like to appologise on behalf of the men on this site, that's an absolutely disgraceful way to talk to someone but I assure you not all men on this site are like that, don't judge us all be the behavior of a few arseholes. Just because you are on a adult dating site doesn't mean you you can be spoken to as anything less than a person. I wish you the best of luck in your experiences in the future.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This WILL sound patronising.... but you are young, and you possibly can't help it yet. Please don't apologise on MY behalf, or even your behalf, for the failings of other men. I know WHY you've done it.... but please... just don't. Its not my fault, its not even your fault... its not something you, or I need to ever feel responsible for.Its THEIR fault.Its their responsibility.Its their failing. End of sermon.... on with the fun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are right, that sounded VERY patronising, I'm hardly putting the blame on myself or anyone else here other then the individual(s) that made the comments. It was merely a nicety, politeness is something that seems to be lost on many people here. Also, my age is completely irrelevant.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep, them damn white shorts... lol.
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