what is the secrect

There’s no secret formula for seducing women. There are things you can do to increase your chances, and make yourself more desirable, but at the end of the day - there’s no magic button you can press to make a woman appear magically at your door. (Unless you have your local escort agency on speed-dial.) Every woman is different, and every woman likes different things. What turns one woman into a quivering pile of goo might leave another completely unmoved. There’s lots of advice out there if you look for it; read it, digest it, take it all on board. But don’t believe it’s all automatically true, or that it will turn you into an irresistable sex-god. Chew it over in your mind and decide which bits are most suitable for your current situation. as a single guy on a swinging website, the odds are stacked against you. All the advice in the world can’t overcome that; you need luck. A lot of luck. Whatever you’re doing - chatting in the Cafe, responding to adverts, sitting in the chatroom - it’s very important that you enjoy the activity. Have fun with it. You may get lucky and meet someone straight away; it may be a very long time before anyone shows any interest in you. Maybe nobody ever will. So make sure you’re having fun, and if at the end of the day your number hasn’t come up - at least you’ve still had fun.