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why is it so hard to acknowledge someone who messages you
May 18 2014
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him_and_me
12 years ago
...No reply is a reply. Personally, I don't like that response. I don't think it takes much to say "no thanks but good luck", but then, we don't get hundreds of messages a day like some people.... We try to get back to everyone. Good luck with it. x Me
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is no wonder people become so down and/or agro on these sites. People are just full of shit. They don't reply, they don't turn up, they lie on their profiles, they put up old or fake pics, they tell you anything. I am a bit over with people atm, might be time to take a break!
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him_and_me
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' It is no wonder people become so down and/or agro on these sites. People are just full of shit. They don't reply, they don't turn up, they lie on their profiles, they put up old or fake pics, they tell you anything. I am a bit over with people atm, might be time to take a break! We've never met, but I'm sending you a hug. By all means, have a break, but don't give up on people. x Me
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
a no reply is a an unwritten NO thank you....no one can tell another to reply or make one reply, it's a choice. I know it's rude, however there is no obligation to reply to anyone on this site, especially when have not met and it's just on line....it can be frustrating especially for men on here as there are 1000's of women to one man. I feel for men on here... And yes It's quite common on here for no shows. I've never had a no show, however excuses yes...like "my kid fell of the monkey bars" was the best one ever, and I've heard of "the budgie dying", "the dog ate my phone" all sorts of excuses.... but hey don't hang around waiting for the dog to shit the phone cause sadly it's never going to happen! For those who do no shows, they have to live with the disrespect and guilt....it's not a nice thing to do to anyone nor is it not funny!! Like Ralf said "people are full of shit" and it is very rude that they don't communicate or say anything. I've heard some people do show up to meets, however if they don't like the look of someone from a distance they leave without saying a polite hello...shallow hey? I think its weird to do that, but hey, they've missed an opportunity to met someone who could be a great friend. :) As for those who are on line when they are not, is most likely to do with the RHP App...it sucks balls, but it's what it is. Keep your chin up...there is someone for you, they just haven't found you yet. Foxy RALF - (HUGS)I think a lot of people have been in your shoes, we all need to take breaks every now and again. I've done it three times now over the time I've been posting...I just add an extra X in my name...now I'm up to XXX! :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's just a sign you're putting all your eggs in one basket. Over investing and expecting people to have the same beliefs as you is simply ridiculous in my view. But.... If you're sending a shit message - women bitch about this constantly by the way - you're not going to get a reply are you?? So make your message stand out!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
some are too scared that you're gonna snap and start abusing them because of the rejection others might be just too stuck up and think they're in a league of their own and can't be bothered talking to regular people there are also those who were groomed by their friends/girlfriends etc. into sincerely believing that it's polite not to respond. "No reply is a reply" - how about that? I was once on a date with a woman who brought this subject up herself and said she couldn't understand it. In her own words, "When they bring us the bill, and you don't want to pay your half, can you apply the same principle?" Made me so happy I ended up paying the whole bill myself
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
Life is too short to worry about those who don't reply. As has been said before, they have shown what there like so glad you didn't meet them. Just look forward to those who do reply, especially those with a positive reply. Ralf do whatever s best for you. Stay well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you use all of your messages?....Perhaps they too are a template like your profile.....If you are paying all that money then you need to get your monies worth.A nice face pic will help....don't forget to smile....and write something about you,don't use the template....if you are lost for words ask a friend to help you........good luck xx Q ..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a very cosy cave that I retire to from time to time...you are welcome to some respite there....:-) :-) this place is little like the Hotel California and can be all smoke and mirrors too....I often think how fortunate I am that I enjoy reading fiction,....not just profiles but the for a too :-) :-) hugs xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Those that don't reply aren't worth worrying about if they haven't got the manners to reply then that usually indicates what type of people they are. There are occassions where some have super busy jobs and may not always get on the site on a regular basis., again not worth worrying about.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Grasscutter72 - this is how the site works. You can't expect all women to reply - they are getting HEAPS of messages, everday. Especially the hot ones :) There could be many reasons why they don't reply 1. Your message was no good 2. They don't find you attractive 3. The description on your profile was boring 4. Your profile pics are no good. etc etc. I could go on and on. The only way to be successful on here is to 'up your game' and keep trying. Not winge.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Good advice Miss Q, because if it's a template profile that sends me a message, it's always makes it harder.....I do try and answer most messages but and then there are some that warrant no response.....oh and I don't really get that many messages anyway, which makes it a little easier to reply to most...and I also send messages without getting replies, it's just how it goes I guess..... What's more annoying then not getting a reply is when you do reply with a thanks but no thanks and then they get a little upset.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' It is no wonder people become so down and/or agro on these sites. People are just full of shit. They don't reply, they don't turn up, they lie on their profiles, they put up old or fake pics, they tell you anything. I am a bit over with people atm, might be time to take a break! I am heading on a girls road trip away bush for a few months. I hope , No phone and no internet the real world beckons I shut my profile down now and again and once I deleted it for months I just read the forums from the outside, that way you don't get tempted to post. life on here goes on just fine without out my crap Karratha, Broome, port headland or just out the bush in the back of bum fuck , ah the excitement of digging your own loo....NOT lol but that's life in da bush. honestly this place can be like the tar baby, its healthy to take a break now and again its even healthier not to be on here. LadyT hitting the road with her pencils and paper and camera
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been here for a while now, sent around 180 messages and received 5 replies, A good strike rate hey. Those who do reply I reply back with a thanks for replying. I've pretty much given up on the site. Not just this site but all sites. It's to much like window shopping if you don't get their attention in the window(picture) they wont walk in the door (read profile) and skip to the next shop (profile). to bad about making a good friend along the way. I just hang in the forums now probably not for much longer though. my paid membership ends the end of May will not be renewing it. I've met a couple of RHP member a couple of weeks a go at a meet and greet. Great bunch of people much better to see them face to face you get to see what they are really like had a lot of fun. Ralf Maybe we can get together for a coffee some day, I never really got the chance to chat with you on the meat and greet the other week. Qefenta"A nice face pic will help....don't forget to smile....and write something about you,don't use the template" Still no guarantee this will work, It hasn't for me. I don't think I've been hit with the ugly stick and they are recent photos not quite a year old now. The members I have met can vouch for that. LovinitI cant believe you don't get swamped with flirts and messages. I just took a look at your profile Very attractive. Grasscutter IIf you have a ripped body I suggest you put a full body pic up, instead of the one you have chosen.I haven't read your profile so I cant comment on that. I'm not really qualified to advise you on what to and not to do. Just try different things and pics, but make sure you are truthful. All the best with you adventure
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know exactly what you mean Grasscutter, and I understand to a point why those that receive lots of messages don't reply, but its still rude in my book. Ive sent about 40 messages so far and only about half even get read! i think I've had two replies, of which were a no thanks but i greatly appreciate the fact that they did reply, it means a lot. Like a few have said, maybe its your profile, if its like mine it will probably need tweaking and some better photos, but being single makes that hard. Selfies really just don't work! haha! On the other hand, most of the the people who did read my messages didn't even look at my profile so what does that say?? Sooner or later I'm sure we will all cast out the right bait at the right time and catch the fish we are looking for. Until then happy hunting! Have a great day!
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RHP User
12 years ago
no means no.lol?
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have sent 180 messages what in 12 months or over ??? Come on what do you expect mate .!!!! In 10 months i have sent 5237 messages and recieved 3476 !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You've got a pic of red underpants. If that aint bad enough, dirty spattered red underpants. And you wonder why girls aren't replying? They are too busy shuddering and spilling coffee on their keyboard. The selfie in the bathroom isnt much better, put it in your pg. Find/take a pic of you, looking sexy, like a darkened side profile view at sunset, or something!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Big Ocean sends the most to me Lol xx Big Ocean gets my attention guys, because his emails are funny and sometimes ridiculous flattery of me! Sometimes I have no idea what he wrote, but he makes me laugh everytime. I guess you got to keep plugging away, until you find what works! Allsorts, Cant understand what's wrong there? Maybe you have underestimated your size, remove that entirely, as I know other guys state bigger when they ARE NOT hahaha, best for you to leave it as a surprise. Perhaps your profile is too nice?? Try one way, if you don't get improvements, try another way. Rinse and repeat.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have answered this subject before, it seems to a consistent problem and frustration with both men, women and couples here. Having read all the excuses for 'non replies' to messages that have been posted here I personally think that it comes down to one thing, simple bad manners. I did an exercise and timed how long it would take to type a simple answer that said,' Thanks for your message but you're not what we are looking for' and hit the send button..... 8 seconds ! Would be less if the reply was shorter and a blunt 'No Thanks" but still a reply !! There is even an option to set up a standard reply message that gets sent when a message is received. That extends the courtesy of a reply that tells the sender their message has been received ( tho not necessarily read granted ) and if some profile 'in boxes' get inundated with messages, allows time to go thru and reply at leisure. albeit one would hope, eventually. I read all sorts of excuses in defence of profiles that don't reply to messages and granted there are no doubt messages received that are not worthy of a reply ie, abusive, empty, discourteous etc but there really is no excuse for not replying to respectful messages with good content. I wonder if there was a section here that allowed you to post profile names that consistently don't reply to messages, vanish after exchanging a few message chats and the worst scenario, don't turn up to arranged meets, just how many there would be on the list and wether it would be a warning to others to check out the profile names before initiating contact and ultimately, wether these profiles would eventually realise that their in boxes were empty. Or am I dreaming....... No wonder so many cynical profiles here. I still maintain there is no excuse for not replying to genuine messages, it's simple bad manners...... P.S. There is one profile here I have been consistently sending flirts to simply out of adverse curiosity. Initially I sent a number of messages, non of which were answered. Since my profile reverted back to Guest status, I have sent somewhere around 50 + flirts just to see how long it takes before there is some acknowledgement and I get blocked......Or is this profile another of the numerous 'false' profiles that I'm sure abound here... In my case, now being a 'Guest' member is working better than when I had a paid membership. I'm having far better response to sending flirts to profiles with paid memberships and messages to 'Platinum' members. I'm finding far more genuine and interested profiles responding to me than when I was able to send messages from my paid member profile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi there. I got a good response rate and I got gold pants ;. Templates are boring and sucks. You just have to redraft your profile text. Condense it and write what you want to say. Spit it out brother.Taking a break. I break for nobody :). I'm busy as and that's the way I like it. Although I'm flying out soon so that could be considered a break. But I'm off for new adventures overseas :).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi grass- in answer to your question - yes it is too hard. Think about it. When we grew up the only means of communication were post or by telephone- which if it rang out you called back later. Now most Rhp members would have work email, private email maybe a fb page and Twitter account plus phone voicemail. So unfortunately when a lady gets a dozen messages a days its low priority so unless something really takes her fancy - otherwise it receives the same fate as the glossy junk mail and gets recycled. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Plus..... Try clean undies if you're going to be photographing yourself in them!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
What allot of people do not seem to grasp on these type of sites is we are human and time is a big key factor. When sending a message it is a choice. So it would also be a choice for them to reply. If you do not get reply maybe that was a blessing as this site is realy no different to any other adult site or chat site. Move on its thier loss not yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You my dear with boots that buckle all the way up your incredible legs buckle me up every time and with such words of encouragement for a simple man with simple needs i must prepare myself for our hunt on the horizon as my dear we shall indeed soak our hunting carrots in our own pleasures and celebrate our bemused broken virginity again !!! Smurf can take first watch !!! :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A classic example from Bigocean72 I know hes talking about another forum topic on unicorns, as well as what he's written roughly in past emails... Some of you would have had no idea what he wrote, but I bet it piqued your interest to try and understand it! Thats why he always gets a reply. (Smurf with binoculars - hmmm I'd be worried where he'd have them pointing at)
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RHP User
12 years ago
And gold hotpants are NOT red undies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women are just insensitive beings mwahahaha I went on strike ,refused to send mail and now just snipe in the forums.More men on RHP than women ...... All i can offer these days is friendship RHP has made be bitter and twisted bwahahaha
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you check out the sent messages you will be able to see if they've been read.Think what you will but don't expect to much to change.I get a good response rate but then I often message just to chat about something or other rather than trying strike up a liaison.You too need to be selective about who you message.
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RHP User
12 years ago
They are clean Red Underpants that I'd hurriedly put on after a shower as a single Dad of 4 kids from 3 to 15 , I don't get a lot of privacy .So I have to be quick!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I forgot to point out that it's wetness from my hurried dressing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' You have sent 180 messages what in 12 months or over ??? Come on what do you expect mate .!!!! In 10 months i have sent 5237 messages and recieved 3476 !!! - Posted from rhpmobile Yep that's over a 12 months period. I read an average of 20 profiles a week and probably message one or two a week give or take what the profile says. What can I say I'm not just here for a quick bang and off to the next, I'm looking for quality.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Annabella"Allsorts, Cant understand what's wrong there? Maybe you have underestimated your size, remove that entirely, as I know other guys state bigger when they ARE NOT hahaha, best for you to leave it as a surprise. Perhaps your profile is too nice??" Bigocean is truly one of a kind he cracks me up also, only wish I could have his talent for words. Great guy in person too.What's wrong with being nice? and why should size have to do with any thing, there is more than one way to please a woman. I'm not overly fused any more if I do or don't meet any body I pretty much just hang in the forums now and chat with the regulars. I've taken you advise though and removed the size thing, I bet it wont make any difference.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your profile really isn't much chop. Lack of any effort in the profile you still have the premade lines on there for christs sake...... If your profile isn't exciting then chances are your emails are not going to be and if that's the case then its pretty much a given your not going to be overly exciting. Candid (lol) hidden sausage cockshot, shit at least try and make it look sexy, its not hard to put in a bit of effort.Women on here are getting a lot of emails and as we found out as a couple if you do not put the effort in then you simply wont get a reply or at best a no. Lastly your nickname makes you sound like a creep, grasscutter really ? Sounds like a pretty easy job you have not being able to cut much grass and all maybe you should take a leaf out of Jim's gardening and get some good advertising going for you. Oh and being a paid member does not entitle you to a response all it gives you is the ability to send poorly formed emails that everyone has the right to ignore.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Ocean, how do you find time to get a fuck on. A few short bursts in between messages.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a problem - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is a little low my friend - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Thank you......💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I have a very cosy cave that I retire to from time to time...you are welcome to some respite there....:-) :-) this place is little like the Hotel California and can be all smoke and mirrors too....I often think how fortunate I am that I enjoy reading fiction,....not just profiles but the for a too :-) :-) hugs xx Q Thanks you guys. I am ok, just get the shits with the world even now and then, I will have a tanty and get over it, lol Hugs back to all you gorgeous people xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'nitetime85' Grasscutter72 - this is how the site works. You can't expect all women to reply - they are getting HEAPS of messages, everday. Especially the hot ones :) There could be many reasons why they don't reply 1. Your message was no good 2. They don't find you attractive 3. The description on your profile was boring 4. Your profile pics are no good. etc etc. I could go on and on. The only way to be successful on here is to 'up your game' and keep trying. Not winge.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's grasscutter72 because I'm a turf manager, ie: I cut grass. It's not all I do but it's straight forward. I love how people are so full of them selves they have to be nasty! Your input has surely noted. Thanks for everybody else's input , but I will never get nasty when someone doesn't reply, it just annoys me! The fact it's not uncommon from the responses I've had on this forum I don't feel so annoyed now. Btw I am a Boiler maker by trade , but love working outdoors and far from being a PLEB!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I look at messages and then I look at the profile of the person who sent them. if it's got no originality or even a hint of the actual personality of the person who posted I won't reply. be original stand out from the crowd the replies will follow - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your profile is indeed quite underwhelming, which makes me wonder what your message are like. I think you receive what you put out there, and if you don't catch people's attention they will just look the other way and keep walking. I would have sent you one of my "No thank you" template replies as I do always answer, but if you're not putting in much effort here, then neither will I.I think if you do better, you receive better. And about those red undies: Alllsorts, is that where you got your name? Here I was thinking you were yummy licorice.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Something clever and insightful to add but then I couldn't be bothered.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is normal that we don't get replies, but that doesn't mean it is right. If I'm not interested I send the "No thanks reply".... I think that is the right thing to do. I would prefer that I received a "Not thanks" than no response. I don't accept that no response is a reply. Everyone on here is a person and even if you don't find them attractive, they still deserve a response. We can all make it something we do. I used to be in sales many years ago..... the were many cold calls before there was a lead and many leads before there was a sale..... sometimes those prospects that were contacted months/years before came back when they needed my services..... this is how I look at these sites. The perfect bodies and well-hung in the correct age bracket will get more positive responses, but hey, that's life!
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Seachange73
12 years ago
you nailed it. I believe Nitetime has hit it on the head. I received dozens of messages a day and 4-5 thousand of flirts a month and it seems so overwhelming when a first joined a few months ago. I used to answer all the messages (and even some flirts but not anymore) as a courtesy but It seems like full time job to sort thru all of these messages. It was exhausting. I only answer messages when:1) The intro message is more than 'Hi babe. How are you' or 'U wanna chat'2) When the sender has made an effort to take interest and read my profile and sent me a message in reference to me and not just my pics3) When the intro messages are not rude and crude like : 'R u an escort?' or 'u wanna long hard root'?. Charming I know. How can one resist. Lol4) When the message is not boring, a cut and paste message is the biggest turnoff.5) etc We all want some connection before engaging in anything physical. I do. I know what I want and I am quite discerning and not just put out for some Cro-magnon who will not treat me with any respect. Sure this is a adult sex site but manners and intelligence and sexual desires are not mutually exclusive. Not expecting a knight in shining armour, far from it. I just want some level of respect and decency and intelligent conversation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have a couple of big strikes around here. And yet, I get probably a 20% answer rate. In two years, I've met maybe 2 dozen people (as distinct from scoring) Why? I take account of what is said here, and feedback from people who say 'no thanks'. Bear in mind, a couple women have shown me their live update counter. It whirls around like a taxi odometer. They cannot possibly answer every flirt or message. So if there is nothing about your profile that inspires interest or messages are all cheesy templates - guess what, BZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ A dodgy looking pic like 'maybe' soiled jocks regardless of cleanliness - it's the impression. Don't have time to get good pics, you're wasting your money on a membership. It's like selling your car without detailing it. If there's McDonald's wrappers, even from yesterday, fergedit. It says I don't really have time to spend on a proper profile it says I can't really be arsed with anything more than a straight fuck - go to a sex worker, less hassle, guaranteed outcome. A pic of me I thought showed my eyes to perfection, someone told me made me look like an axe murderer - lost it. You have little chance, often one glance to make an impression - sometimes, one look at your profile pic. Make it a good one. If writing to someone, comment on something unusual about their username (Google it), pic or profile, to make it clear you have read it. A lot of people put hidden meaning in - if you pick up on that it says you are interested in more than just flopping your cock out and saying 'suck it, babe!'
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not only didn't I get a response to a message I sent the other day, suddenly that user's profile is 'Unavailable'. Yep, she was so offended that I dared say 'Hi, you're pretty, want to chat?' that she blocked me. I get the disparity in gender means that women on these sites can afford to be choosy, and I can understand that a woman would have better offers, but honestly, it takes a fair amount of contempt to do that. We come to sites like this hoping to cut through all the bull, for some openness and honesty, being able to meet people and have fun without jumping through all the hoops that society presents us with. A little common courtesy, surely, isn't too much to ask ... is it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
In an ideal world, you would get reply to all messages. There are some nice people on the site who conscientiously reply, for which I am grateful. But I hold no grudge against those who don't - just accept it and move on. If they were interested and/or willing, you would have heard from them. You pay the money to send the message, not to compel a reply.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I thought I was replying to every one, but I found out that there is a matched an unmatched inbox. If you don't match the persons profile request you don't end up in their normal inbox.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Reasons being : 1.sometimes I have chosen to politely reply with the template " you don't match what I am looking for" and then get abused for rejecting them.. Hmmph ..😳 I have been called a " commie Marxist against whites" and wow what a tirade that was over a few messages ... Ouch .. And I don't even know what that means ? 2. I don't owe anyone a reply if I don't want to then what obligates me to really? No reply really is a no anyway .. 3. Sometimes I just don't have the time as I get busy chatting to one interesting person then go offline and when I get back on I am chatting again.... Don't get annoyed ... Just take it as a no and keep going .. We all get no's in life .. And what doesn't kill us makes us stronger 😘 Footnote : this is not an easy " game" for a lot of us here at different times for different reasons ... Maybe we are playing with fire after all and getting a little burnt at times ..... But it can Also be a beautiful experience with someone if you are patient ......😑
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Remainseated
12 years ago
Have to agree Op it is a bit of a turn off when you pay your membership to send a message to someone and they can not be bothered to reply. Sorry no matter what, its common courtesy something I think a-lot of people have forgotten about in this wonderful world of the internet. I have read in other forums women complaining about how they don't have time to reply to every message or wont reply to winks, men with no pic on their profile or are to tight to pay for membership blh blh blh, well ladies take a look at the amount of women who are guests or have no profile pic the numbers are fairly even. It doesn't take a great deal of effort or energy to reply with a thanks but no thanks to a message or a wink and if someone is a bit upset by this and chooses to reply back with a not so nice response to rejection there is always option B block and report.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This question has been asked so many times, I have to ask do the guys realise how out numbered the women are on here are and how many emails they get from men... I get heaps every day and I simply don't have the time to answer them all.. I do read them and check out the profile IF they are with in the age range I'm looking for... I DON't answer messages from from guys with template profiles.. it's boring and if you can't take the time to put some effort into your profile, I'm not going to put the effort into replying... same goes for profiles with no photos.. I also don't reply to profiles that are clearly outside what I'm looking for or located in another state and as it's obvious that due to distance we are not going to meet... I don't have the time to spend sending messages back and forwards just to chat when there's no possibility of us meeting... And as for flirts... don't even get me started lol.. And as for people's profiles showing they are online when they are not... If you use the mobile app and shut it down without logging off, it will show on your profile that you are still online.. Update your profile...
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RHP User
12 years ago
"And about those red undies: Alllsorts, is that where you got your name? Here I was thinking you were yummy licorice." you've been talking to Bigocean haven't you you wouldn't catch me dead in those undies I let them hang free my boys don't need a house they are happiest when they are free the name allsorts as in I'm just one of the allsorts of people in RHP
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RHP User
12 years ago
But if you want to think of me as yummy piece of licorice I'll let you but if you want some you have got a come get it
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've come to learn to ignore those who don't respond but then again what do you do about those who didn't respond but keep checking out your profile every now and then some everyday. There's 2 couples and lady doing that to my profile and I messaged these three. Do I have a stalker/s? - Posted from rhpmobile
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lookintoplay_qld
12 years ago
hi we have the same problem contact people no reply or they contact you no reply nothing back not hard to be polite very over people who don't read profiles
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RHP User
12 years ago
To write a reply even if it's a thanks but no thanks. Just feel it's polite. Amazing how many positive responses I get back thanking me to for taking the time to write back even if it was to say sorry, not interested.
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
Go back and read the thousand forums already whining about this. We all get ignored on here for whatever reason. No point losing sleep over it. If only people that matched my criteria and read what I had written in my profile (and taken it into consideration before hitting send on a dull or crude message) then I WOULD reply to everyone. But they don't. And I don't have the time nor the inclination to reply to everyone who disregards what my profile says and messages me crap anyway. As is my prerogative. You might think that it's rude, but I think it's rude that they message me anyway ignoring what i've said in my profile - which you've basically admitted to doing, by saying you understand the no reply from the ones who you don't 'exactly fit' their criteria. Jess xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sure it's great if somebody replies even if it's to say no thanks. I'll always thank them politely for acknowledging my message and move on. No point getting stressed if you're not what they're looking for or haven't responded. As others have said the ladies on here get absolutely bombarded with messages (and I do genuine feel sorry for the amount of crap they must have to trawl through). I get just as many no replies or 'no thanks' as anyone else, it's all part of being here. Take it on the chin and keep looking for the people you do fit with. They're out there but you'll have to be prepared to put in a lot of effort. Just like anything else worth having in life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have at times been so busy to reply! I have the ones I'm not interested in flicked straight away, but I leave the ones I want to write something witty to until I get time to sit down and write. One thing leads to another and the guys message is overlooked. Simple mistake. I have had guys resend a second message, I don't mind as long as it's polite! If you are sure we should have been a good match for at least a chat, then please try again! I know with me you'll get a profusely apologetic reply plus a "shoo-ee" glad I didn't miss out on you, and thanks for persevering." Don't undersell yourself. Be confident, try and convey some reason why we would hit it off. That's also a good standard for your profile. Good luck boys Xxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Op had the red pants. I'm glad to see they're gone lol! Well done Op for taking on board my suggestions without being too offended. Xx ALLSORTS keep talking the licorice talk and I'll stop thinking you're so nice! Keep it up - I Like!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got the day off tomorrow and then I'll be heading to the shop. I'll be back with some new wicked red pants ;). Maybe shiny red ones :). Me and Big ocean knows how to multi task that's why we can send messages and have sex at the same time. We're busy boys :). I will of course be pointing my Binoculars at you Annabella while I'm being dirty in the bushes with a Sirene ;) who is busy with my third leg :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Xx ALLSORTS keep talking the licorice talk and I'll stop thinking you're so nice! Keep it up - I Like! I have a box of allsorts. It has red ones, black ones, green ones, yellow ones, malty coloured ones, apple flavoured, strawberry flavoured, but none of them could be compared to what it would be like to kiss every part of your bodyI'd melt them pore them all over your body and proceed to lick every part of your body
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have said it before (and probably will again - LOL) although it is understandable that some Pie peeps get inundated with messages, however - poor manners or mindless responses are a good indicator that I will be best to avoid someone likely to be thoughtless, selfish and vacuous.Dodge that bullet and move on I say. : )
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you're a single guy on here the chances of you getting a remote reply is zero. the only way you will get contact is if you are extremely good looking with a face shot buffed up ect. A friend of mine did a test we were on a site like this and we both had our profiles and we sent one to this particular lady and I sent something vulgar, I received a nasty reply as what was expected. My friend did the same, sent a different message in the same vulgar context and he received a positive reply with open pics for him to see and she was interested in what he had to say. The point is couples and women receive a massive amount of emails, not all even look at the message its the pic they see, we are all shallow, its in our nature, I do myself think its rude not to reply but getting a nasty reply which some dickhead guys do is also rude. Some are not even on here to meet anyone, some are just for chatting, Ive had better chances meeting people in the real world than online. lets be honest women can have any man they want even the ones the shouldn't have. to them were not worth the look.youre wasting your money on here like me
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Annabella237' Op had the red pants. Just didn't know there was an underwear brand called Allsorts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is a bitter pill to swallow and a lesson hard learned .... we are reduced to nothing but a commodity in this environment. It is of our own making and will never improve so long as we refuse to believe your own lying eyes. There are 20 male profiles for every female on this and other similar sites. The fact that you get almost consensus feedback along the lines "Why should I have to reply to every man that has gone to the trouble of reaching out to say Hi ? I mean it's not like I put an add on a website specifically inviting them to email me if they are interested ? The nerve of them to think I have the time in my busy life to recognize and appreciate their genuine efforts" tells you all you need to know. If you want to understand the effect, take a holiday to Ukraine or Russia and sign up on a dating site while there. They have something like a 3 to 1 woman to man ratio and the men in their country have become unappealing to many of them - for some of the same reasons you are losing faith here I suspect. The women will seek you out, fight bitch and moan when you don't reply to their numerous emails and you won't believe how young, feminine and pretty the ones that approach you are. The deep green eyes and blonde hair is something to behold. The real world is your oyster grasshopper. Take control of your life and stop choosing to be a victim is the only advice that is going work. You can wait, hope and pray for some scraps in here whiling away the frustration pontificating on a forum or understand the situation and go eat where fillet mignon is all that is on the menu.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Imprezario' It is a bitter pill to swallow and a lesson hard learned .... we are reduced to nothing but a commodity in this environment. It is of our own making and will never improve so long as we refuse to believe your own lying eyes. There are 20 male profiles for every female on this and other similar sites. The fact that you get almost consensus feedback along the lines "Why should I have to reply to every man that has gone to the trouble of reaching out to say Hi ? I mean it's not like I put an add on a website specifically inviting them to email me if they are interested ? The nerve of them to think I have the time in my busy life to recognize and appreciate their genuine efforts" tells you all you need to know. If you want to understand the effect, take a holiday to Ukraine or Russia and sign up on a dating site while there. They have something like a 3 to 1 woman to man ratio and the men in their country have become unappealing to many of them - for some of the same reasons you are losing faith here I suspect. The women will seek you out, fight bitch and moan when you don't reply to their numerous emails and you won't believe how young, feminine and pretty the ones that approach you are. The deep green eyes and blonde hair is something to behold. The real world is your oyster grasshopper. Take control of your life and stop choosing to be a victim is the only advice that is going work. You can wait, hope and pray for some scraps in here whiling away the frustration pontificating on a forum or understand the situation and go eat where fillet mignon is all that is on the menu.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Annabella237' Op had the red pants. Just didn't know there was an underwear brand called Allsorts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Simplelife123' If you're a single guy on here the chances of you getting a remote reply is zero. the only way you will get contact is if you are extremely good looking with a face shot buffed up ect. lets be honest women can have any man they want even the ones the shouldn't have. to them were not worth the look.youre wasting your money on here like me Wrong on many levels. Isn't that right girls
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RHP User
12 years ago
Time has passed, and I'm just catching up on what I've missed in these forums!! OMG Allsorts!!! I'd definitely reply to an email like that post you just wrote! That's what compelled me to add this comment now! And Surfsmurf, if the thought of you in shiny raunchy red hot pants weren't enough, then you saucily adding - checking out me with those binocs while .. So on and so on... Certainly did make me blush. The other whiny posts I skimmed over... Not trying to be shallow, just trying to educate! Anna xxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Imprezario' ...Ukraine or Russia and sign up on a dating site while there. They have something like a 3 to 1 woman to man ratio and the men in their country have become unappealing to many of them - for some of the same reasons you are losing faith here I suspect. The women will seek you out, fight bitch and moan when you don't reply to their numerous emails and you won't believe how young, feminine and pretty the ones that approach you are. The deep green eyes and blonde hair is something to behold. Plus, the sheer numbers are mind-boggling. One site can have upwards of 18 Million registered members, of which at least 12M will be women.
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