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would you give complete access to your partner??
March 11 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
that if I needed to see a partners account, then they would would show me as I would them.... Until then, it's their account and I don't feel warranted looking even if I had access......but I don't give any access to my account ever - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have given access to my RHP account to Mrs A in the past as share a profile now. Never a problem as I had nothing on there that I felt she would be uncomfortable with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not Not that I have anything to hide but it is my account and anything in there could be open to misinterpretation and I'm done justifying. If I had a joint account of course, not a issue. If I chose to share any content I will and if a long term partner asked to view something, I may consider it but its not a given. If I had a long term partner, I probably wouldn't be on RHP IMO, there are items that are just for you , your bank account, emails, phone, wallet, handbag, credit card statements etc and if my partner is querying or wants access to any of that content , then they are querying me to a degree and that is a huge issue for me. Note, I respect any partner back as equally. I do not need to be his everything.
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RHP User
10 years ago
agree with stirry. I wouldn't feel the need to know everything anyway, but that's me
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RHP User
10 years ago
My two cents worth if I found myself in a committed relationship where keys to each others place had been exchanged pin numbers shared etc then for myself if I wouldn't have any problem with giving access but then wouldn't a couple profile make more sense then keeping individual profiles
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RHP User
10 years ago
Umm there are only a couple of things I'm possessive over, 1 ice cream, 2 my side of the bed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ditto! I am married and my husband does not have access to my account. If we had a couples profile it would obviously be different. But in a partnership you need to have trust. Likewise I don't go through his phone or emails etc. If he wants to know something he is more than welcome to ask me and I will be open and honest. And ChiChi - you hit the nail on the head - I don't need to be my partners everything and he does not need to be mine. This is my personal opinion - each couple needs to work out what's best for them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
what ChiChi and SoftAndCurious said, for the same reasons - and for the same reasons I don't need theirs. I can see the idea behind bank accounts if the account was in one name but it was also where all the money came in and out - but I grew up in a family where nobody had to ask permission to buy something. If you wanted it, you bought it if it was affordable. There was never the notion of "I'd have to ask my husband". I liken it to shops like JB HiFi and whatnot who have the security guards doing bag checks at the door. I don't have anything to hide in the bag, but something about it makes me uncomfortable. (I really hate that bag checking, I know they're just doing a job, and if they're polite and nearby I'll do it - but the ones that think they can actually stop you leaving, or get lippy about it... I really hate that)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It makes me want to hyperventilate just thinking about it. There is no way I'd give a partner access to my RHP account or any other account for that matter. Nor would I expect them to roll over and share every aspect and detail of their life with me. Frankly, if you are both secure in your relationship with each other, I think it's only natural that at some stage you'll want to show your partner your account and perhaps have a discussion, giggle or perhaps vent to them. And if you're a couple playing together I'd have thought you'd have a 'couples' account. Whilst it's a romantic notion just because you're a couple, doesn't mean you morph into each other and become one. That's my definition of suffocating.
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RHP User
10 years ago
not a fan of bag checking either. I get that they have a lot of shoplifters, but why should the rest of us, the honest people in the world, have to be treated with suspicion upon leaving a store. IMHO it should be their responsibility to have a beeper system lol shit I don't know what it's called but the think that sets off an alarm at the exit and security cameras, but leave the rest of us to shop with comfort sorry op, little off topic there
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol strange I'm the same. I'd happily let a chick have her way with my guy, but touch my whopper it'd be on
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't want to see his either. We all have a past and meeting someone new is about the future. And if it was that serious Id delete my profile and make a new couples one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
With the key word being misinterpretation. I wouldn't want give or receive access anyway. Some things should remain personal . Having a partner doesn't mean you lose your identity. Trust is everything.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I had a regular partner, it would only come about if they were already cool with my life as it is now and is likely to continue to be ... so, no problem - they're welcome to browse on through. As to whether we'd start a couples profile - it would depend on whether she was keen to play as a couple or not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would have no problems with it as I have nothing to hide. I wouldn't want to have access to his account though. Ok that's a lie, I would...just so I can perve at the x-rated pics around the site lol But his profile is pretty boring compared to the traffic my profile attracts. Ha ha made you all look! 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been very open and honest with my partners. What I've learnt over time is that if they are someone who makes assumptions, flies off the handle, draws unfair conclusions, or throws it in your face, then the relationship is better off with them not having access to things that are open to misinterpretation. And ultimately I am better off without that behaviour in my life anyway. OTOH, in a swinging lifestyle, it can be OK to be flirting/fondling/fucking someone with (or sometimes, as a preference, without) full knowledge of your partner. It's up to how much you trust them to treat the information. If they take it as what it is (and I'm referring more to messages here), a one dimensional snapshot exchange between two people, and be cool about it, then that's fine. I've always said to my partners if in doubt about something, remember the big picture. The big picture is I love you, that's why I am with you, this other stuff is smaller than that. A successful relationship with me is with someone who remembers that above all else.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This has been a very interesting read the decision made by myself and my partner was a mutual one and for us is just a progression in our relationship the best thing about life is we are all different thanks for the feedback
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RHP User
10 years ago
just as I would not give access to my phone, laptop or bank account.. and I would not anticipate him to do so either.
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