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Out of my league?
February 24 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Warm 'and' fuzzy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry for the minor interruption to the topic. So back on topic, the guy who was prompted to contact me after reading this topic, all was going well I thought, but he's disappeared? Where'd you go dude 😀 Very strange, shaking my head, please don't reply on here for discretionary reasons, but wtf I thought you were turned on and excited to be meeting me 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
So, I used to be competitive... until I kept and didn't like losing... then I stopped comparing and realised how one man's trash is another's treasure. I realised we have our own individual paths. Nobody runs the same race. I thought all guys like shaved pussies. I thought all guys liked thin girls. I thought all guys could read minds. How wrong was I when I met a guy online that showed me how wrong I was. I realised I was running a different race. I dated this guy because he showed me how wrong I was and complimented me in so many ways. I was surprised he loved full bush, I was surprised he love bigger girls, I was surprised he didn't like that I stayed quiet in arguments/discussions. Another example, I played a trick on a guy in a club. He was looking at his phone and walking towards me. I lean against the pole to block his way and looked away grinning as he was about to run into me. He then put his phone away and started pursuing me and not letting up. I didn't even realise he had dimples, until he looked up. I finally gave him my number and he came over 5 days later... he took off his shirt and was completely ripped... gee, what's a girl to do? WHAT WOULD YOU DO???? Of course it was the hottest surprise ever... but I didn't know all that, I didn't size him up in my head... it was just a bit of cheeky fun to start. Since these encounters, I just know that people are people and each and every person has their insecurities and also things that they are good at... just depends whether you're compatible. Sometimes it takes time to develop. If someone is pursuing you and you think you're out of their league (what has brought those thoughts on?) maybe you can learn something from them, maybe you can experience something from them. Take a deep breath and just go in and have a laugh with them. Why crawl into your shell of negativity? It's a mindset and (excuse me for saying this) a choice we make. If you want to say no to people you think are "out of your league" then you won't ever grow past that fear... Seeing someone's profile online, can be easy to judge that you are and they are better than you... why do you compare? Do you like that person? Can you give them compliments? If not, why not? Do they give you compliments? I'm curious...I haven't thought about this for a long time... I go for what I want and if I don't get it, it will never be mine and that's ok. Sometimes it's for the best.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If someone is pursuing you and you think THEY ARE out of YOUR league (what has brought those thoughts on?) maybe you can learn something from them
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jess4623
9 years ago
I think there needs to be realism around how you would rate yourself against others, if you are a gym junkie and being body beautiful is important to you i would expect (in the most part) you would be looking for similar. Why would someone driven by health and physical appearance be expected to accept a middle aged tired couple like us. Incidentally we do at times feel a little out of our depth physically - to the point of not meeting some couples, due to our own inadequacies. We are a good looking couple with a great sense of humour, we are both presentable clean and very understanding of where we are in life, we would feel very insecure in the body beautiful arena so wouldn't put anyone in that position. However as a couple we are very confident in our selves and would never feel inadequate in any other walk of life. It come down to two things for us, in this world be with people like us then we will be comfortable and enjoy ourselves, on the streets we would never feel inadequate quite the opposite id say.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I tend to feel the same whenever someone whose in my opinion out my league mail me I do always make sure they actually read my profile and still keen... If it's still a yes then after a few exchange of mails once comfortable I would give access to my gallery prior to which I would still remind them... I'm simple, short, fat, not pretty and always been told I give myself a hard time but I feel that I'm just being honest without giving false expectations... So far I have to admit I can't complain about the wonderful selected ones I've met as being able to converse with a person is sexy and exciting then just the looks (not saying it doesn't count but communication helps loads more) V - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have this feeling a lot when using this, it honestly sucks, sometimes I work up the courage but sometimes I think I do miss a great experience tho when I chicken out. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We often think other couples are out of our league Some of them have bodies to die for
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes for me I feel most are out of my league...hence I don't respond to most messages as I'm sick of explaining myself regarding my weight the lack of confidence my insecurities etc and then you see the validations they have and that just ends it all together when you see what they've had how the hell are you in there league one has to wonder ....xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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jess4623
9 years ago
I (the male) just had a quick look at your pics, as you do i suppose. A good looking woman can pull anything off - no pun intended, you are way better than good looking.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes.... Very good looking men make me feel inadequate, therefore I avoid them where possible. Sad but true. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive made this comment in similar topics over a year back.... but perhaps now that several people have aired their opinion about feeling self conscious and possibly inadequate as their reasoning behind the concept of being out of someones league...... the following comment might have more relevant context. There are attraction factors, and there are compatibilities, ..... but there is no such thing as a League, to be in or out of. A League exists only in the mind of someone who is either supremely confident, or has some self confidence issues.No judgement there...... just reality. And to make a decision on behalf of someone else who you find attractive.... ....without giving them the opportunity to have any input in the decision.... ....is not only self sabotaging, but a little bit arrogant.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I met a lovely lady here on redhotpie and when she walked i to the bar i though wow she is way out of my league a stunning lady walking towards me. I decided to just enjoy the night with good company turns out i was just what she was after we had a year of fwb fun and remain good friends to this day. that night i learned just to go out and enioy yoyr night out. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
9 years ago
But I thought you were leaving Mischievouslad? Did you go and come back already? I totally agree with your comment to that's probably the best thing you've ever said.
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RHP User
9 years ago
But there seems to be a lot who think there to good for me , I find it quite common to send a simple msg or flirt saying hello and a polite comment on there profile or album and then be blocked , obviously I'm not for everyone, but wouldn't a simple your not for me be more polite and not that difficult to do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I_touch_myself2 haha loved the response. Perfect I'd say. I haven't read all the comments on this but my take on it, is that I would consider someone out of someone's league if they have different interests and lifestyles. Physical attraction is just a ficial of overall attraction and shouldn't base interaction on just that. You may miss a great opportunity and connect with someone or open up a whole new side with one another as I believe different personalities draw certain sides out of one another based on the connection :) Plus on here it's safe bet to have a crack :) got nothing to lose lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😘😘😘 thanks 😝
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RHP User
9 years ago
it appears I have an opening now. Actually I have a couple of openings I need filled 😇 On topic, I was thinking about this whilst relaxing at the beach, okay whilst flirting at the beach 😎 and examining exhibited behavior, myself and others lol myself, well I won't go into that, it's just creepy 😊 but lots of interest from men I wasn't attracted to, and the same in reverse probably but I wouldn't know that, I just block that out 😀excellent place to have my head in the sand 😂😂😂 but I asked myself did I think I was out of their league. No. As others have said, lack of attraction doesn't mean you consider you're out of their league, which translates to thinking you're too good for them. But that's not the way I feel, simply that I'm not attracted, other people would be. And I'm respectful of those who aren't attracted to me, though ever so slightly pouty 😠 I don't consider they're out of my league, quite simply the attraction isn't there, and it has to be, so why beat a dead horse. Auto correct put in deaf horse there. let's leave the deaf horses alone, they have their own issues 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Law of attraction: think and Ye shall receive. Fear will stop you from getting who and what you truly want in my opinion and experience. Your own self image also has an effect on this! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
One doesn't no their league until they take the first step - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
When ur pudgy not much use in deluding yourself into thinking u r gonna land the gorgeous slim goddess that goes to the gym and hangs out with the festival boys. But thats life. I know I'm holding back Mrs3 just by the looks the couples give her single profile then ours. Shes welcome to play on her own but chooses not to with guys atm simply because she cant be bothered lol. Doesnt particularly bother me I learnt early on I'd rather be happy and have fun than dwell on the fact.
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luvsilver
9 years ago
I certainly do not have any tickets on myself nor do I operate from a sense of entitlement. And as Mr.Luv keeps reminding me - once he's spied my jaw drop upon stumbling across the profile of a much younger single male/male half of a much younger couple with drop dead looks -" you're no spring chicken ya know... " but I've always lived my life on the belief that nothing is impossible and if you want it ,whatever it may be ,it can be yours . So I'm no different here than in the real world. That is after all how I managed to snare Mr. Luv. Mrs.Luv
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RHP User
9 years ago
All the time. Very good looking men, who seem confident but not cocky, are the types who I feel are out of my league. The men who look like they could "have any girl they wanted". It's purely my own self image/esteem issues that hold me back for contacting/talking to men like that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
But I'm well aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea...
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RHP User
9 years ago
You may not no anything about bedroom activities and still both people can have fun - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just thought you either click together or not pretty simple never be afraid of expressing your feelings towards somebody honestly is best . And in the end the right person is the one you share life greatest experiences with. One life be happy make the most of it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Rick_Blaine'I don't think I ever feel anyone's out of my league. But I'm well aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea... ...I share this sentiment, exactly. And when I look into myself now and again, I'm pleased that I do.It feels like a healthy state of mind to be in...and that's what pleases me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
She encompasses all of the enchanting beauty of the Venus herself. She is soft, feminine, and sensual. Her soft pink and sweet lips will taste like cotton candy. Her feminine curves drive you wild, and she smells like apples and roses. Don’t let her romantic softness fool you, she is as strong as steel. She is equally as stoic in her poised statue. This woman does not fall in love easily or foolishly as she may lead you to believe. She is like whiskey in a teacup. She is excellent at sizing people up by using her innate ability to sum someone up in moments. She will share her thoughts with you in such a way that you won’t even be offended. Sexually, she will boost up your ego and your head in a way where you think you are the best on Earth. She will want a man who knows his way around the bedroom. She doesn’t want to have to teach her sexual partner. Finding a man that is sexually worthy of her is a true task. In bed, she does not want a man that is crude; she wants a silent strength that doesn’t need to be spoken of. As they say; insecurities are loud. She will like to be in charge, and you better not mind it. Handling her with finesse is critical to get her to surrender. She is a hard one to get close to, but once you do you will be flying in the clouds. Sex once she has surrendered to you is so harmonious, you will hear bells ringing.Her sexual standards are high, especially when she wants to make you hers permanently. Sex to her is something that is not just physically pleasurable, but mentally enjoyable as well. They love to be in love, and the romance of a relationship is so thrilling to this lovely lady. She will entangle you in her web of cotton candy love, and you will anticipate the act of sex with her up onto the very last second. She will take control of your body, and have you flying high in the sky somewhere on Cloud 9. All of this will be done with poise and Libran beauty. You will be engulfed with her pink sweet seduction, and go to a place where only lovers know.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'houndhunter' Ooow sweetheart.. :* ( Dont say that I know I have the skills and the goods so in that sense I dont feel intimidated. However, being a single guy at my age, there is way too much competition so rarely get the chance to show off my talents. Honest and true lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My insecurities plague me also. As a mother of 3, my body is far from what it used to be... Don't get me wrong, I know exactly how to use it -- but getting to that point where I'm comfortable with someone to really show off the goods takes a little while for me. Alcohol generally helps 😂 I've put off many a hook up or meet up simply because I fear the possible rejection (let's be honest, some people can be complete pricks when it comes to imperfections), or that they will think I'm something that I am not -- like a size 10 or similar! I'd love to be more confident (and I'm slowly getting there) but it's a process. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
As I have been with the same woman for the last 30 yrs and never been tempted to stray and I have only been with 2 others in my teenage years I find myself feeling like I would not be able to please many of the hot sexy women on here so I believe they are out of my league. I guess it stems from a lack of sexual confidence due to a lack of experience. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Not tempted to stray.......... Until now
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wtf has it got to do with you ?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Just stating the obvious. Worded like he was sprouting the merits of his faithfulness. Personally l don't give a fuck why anyone is here or for what reason Get out of the wrong side of the pool this morning?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Op after reading further comments since last time I posted and now understanding it's the guy's feeling out of your league then all i can say it's there own insecurities. I truly believe we all like to make the best impression we can. Definitely can be intermadating contacting someone with a classy profile that is well written coupled with steamy pic's as you have. But as my original post said you don't know unless you give it a go. Would it stop me from contacting someone? No. What's the worst they say thankyou no thanks? Would I admit someone is out of my league or I'm batting out of my crease ? No. Certainly wouldn't tell them. wtf are these men thinking.lol Let other's make a decision if they like you or not, Just be the best person you can be then hopefully you will attract the right person for you 😊. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everybody just do it 👍🏻🆒 give it a go and if it works it works if not move on ( they never find out what they missed out on ) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with the general premise, that league's shouldn't exist, more common areas of interest / desires. On the flip side of that there are a lot of profiles that impose physical based leagues. Casually strolling into the middle of the minefield, I'll put it out there that this seems to be much more common on Couples profiles, along the lines of stating 'We're fit and only accept the same' in so many words. There's seems to be much less of that on singles profiles. It doesn't bother me as I'm fit for a middle aged bloke, but I swear I'm not imagining couples are much more 'You're not good enough for us', stopping at the picture stage. Of course there's other big physical, not interest / matching desires 'not in my league' played of age. IMO largely as a generic 'they aren't physically in my league' buffer, straight off the bat without talking to someone. Of course we all have our physical preferences, be it short, tall, busty, bearded or a one legged dwarf with implants all of the above, but there's enough 'cool kid club' profiles on RHP to see why lots of people do consider others out of their league here, rightly or wrongly. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If people take time to actually get to know one another to see if they are compatible instead of only looking at physical. Some of the greatest times I've had is with people who have made me laugh and cry lol life is scary as hell and loyalty is big one with me too. So factors affecting whether you find someone out of your league I believe stem from fear and well if you have fear in a relationship it will be doomed from start. Qualities that I find appealing are confidence and being humble at same time mmmmm - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Having a quick glance at your photos, I can only assume you are talking about spiritual or intellectual leagues. I can only imagine that the purely physical league that you don't qualify for must be a very small one. When it comes to the physical side of things, higher leagues are better kept in magazines. I have met extraordinarily attractive women with heaps of cool and swagger and find myself feeling no attraction at all. Yet at other times feel the most overwhelming attraction to the most unlikely girls. I can see how unfortunate past experiences can have a bearing on where you rate other people but the fact is, some people are more articulate that others and some are more mathematically gifted, some even have both gifts - poor bastards, i bet they don't feel part of any league very often. However the point still remains, that in essence this has very little to do with it. I have had conversations with clearly brilliant people that sound all knowledgeable and have been bored shitless, I have also had some sensational conversations with the biggest proudest bogans on earth. It comes down to the boiling mixture within, not the polish on the outside. If people come across as inline with my perception of right/wrong/just/courteous/humorous - and they just feel right I consider them in my league regardless of any stereotyped society pecking order. So I suggest throw caution to the wind and go for it. Keep in mind that you are not out of their league, they just may not be part of yours - and of course keep an eye out for those explainable feelings that show a real chemical connection. It is nigh impossible to pick or predict where they are going to come from, hence completely destroying the entire concept of higher leagues.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'happy_fun' Having a quick glance at your photos, I can only assume you are talking about spiritual or intellectual leagues. I can only imagine that the purely physical league that you don't qualify for must be a very small one. I probably chose the wrong topic title. I wasn't specifically talking about myself or about any particular type of leagues. It was a general question to the RHP people.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' No one is ever out of your league if you truly believe in yourself LOVE THAT
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi OP I recently talked to someone about this very question as a RHP meet and greet. It seems that the idea of leagues have led to unrealistic expectations among people so people have used that as an excuse to either not bother or to cut someone down. OP, do what you feel like doing. Out of your league is one term that covers a lot of things. Do you feel they might be incompatible? Do you feel intimidated? Do you fear something different? I can't tell you what you should do but perhaps give it a try. You might just be pleasantly surprised that the other person might feel the same way you do. I am not sure about you but I find it really hard to figure out people based on their profiles. Once you start messaging someone or meeting them, you find them to be very different from what is on their profile. However, I take things at face values so if I do not fit their criteria specified on their profile, I won't message them. After all, why waste everyone's time. So, if you think you would like to meet someone, go for it. If they feel like you are "out of his/her league", it is not up to you to bend over backwards to make them comfortable with themselves.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I met a current FWB at a meet and greet. He is a reasonably good looking guy, he was dressed well and was engaging and friendly and I gave him my number that night. When I got home I looked up his profile and saw what he looks like with his shirt off - WOWZER! He's an extremely fit guy complete with the 6 pack, bulging biceps, solid thighs and that pelvic V we women love.... I have to be honest, if he'd made contact purely through the website I would've most likely knocked him back out of the feeling that I was out of his league. But here we are, still seeing each other over 2 years later. It just proved to me that you should let other people decide what they're attracted to and not make assumptions. You never know - That super-fit guy might actually be turned to jelly by a girl with a fat ass
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RHP User
9 years ago
.....Im too good looking. Haha...I wish. Personally, I've tried lots on here and don't get many replies in the positive. I can't say for sure why. I have no idea if I'm 'out of anyone's league' or what. If I find someone attractive on RHP and I fit their profile wants I'll say hello. ( Im a guest at the moment so not possible for a little while ) I get replies mostly stating that I'm not what they are looking for even if I do match the profile wants. Its confusing to be honest. I've even been told on here previously that maybe I'm out of the league I'm aiming at. Who knows. I'll just keep asking anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I often feel that someone here is out of my league. I look at pictures of a stunning woman and read the accompanying confident profile and don't think I have much of a chance. A 46yo married man in an open relationship is not everyone's cup of tea after all. To answer the second part of your question, no that doesn't stop me from contacting them. I'm certainly not going to sit here and wonder what might have been. If the answer is "no thanks" then I have lost nothing. If I get a yes then maybe I will find that special friend that I am looking for.
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RHP User
9 years ago
For obvious reasons I am not able to say who I have been with and besides sceptics would rag me.Locks and body image tend to hold us back and even in my night club DJ years could not believe the girls I got but nowpushing 60 and still attracting far younger ladies I find imageis not the issue.Respect yourself and be you but, yes look after yourself anddon't be a slob.Over the age of 40 women make the worst mistakes when itcomes to men and miss out on great sex because the guy is bald or no 6 pack, age, looks.It don't matter if he is a cop, lawyer, brickie, truckie the key isasking the right questions before jumping in the sack.Example listen to there speech and if they sound selfish you knowthere will be no satisfaction in the bedroom or if the place they liveis filthy you know they would never put effort into sex or relationship.I have run away from some real sexy gals for just those reasons yettold just last week by a young girl she thought a woman lived with mebecause I had such a nice garden. LOL
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not really into Golden showers but I always thought you drank beer to celebrate a win Kool ? lol 😉😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me, the mind is far sexier than any six pack
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not in Rugby - strictly an AFL man, so most would be out of my league? 🤔😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
We have a.,We are what we are ,like it or not ,But yes we both can feel out of someone's league when it come to exsperiance at sex and swinging ,as time goes by and we have become less reserved And more exsperiance ourselves it's easier now , but still easily intimidated and consider nope, they will think we are hopeless ,lol. They have a problem with enthusiasm and ability ,lol.,but that's ok it keeps us honest and always treating people with courtesy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Chevtec totally agree with you. 👍 Have a clean house myself and luv my garden. Eating my first rockmellon from my vine tonight. 😍 To me I'm not a shallow person, I look for beauty within first and how someone treats me. If there rude,abusive or plain disrespectful including of my time then it's Seeyah later, dosnt matter how hot you are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I browse profiles I may come across a lass that I find attractive. Firstly her words about herself and the way she thinks. I see she is seeking what I am and mentally there would be more than likely a connection. But I am very simple my dress sense is that and I wear things till they near fall off me. This well dressed woman I relate completely to I stupidly see as out of my league. Be nice if this were Russia. The women dress immaculately but the guys don't seem to give a damn. Bloody amusing seeing a model and a hobo walking hand in hand.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Errrrr, purple haze.....they are sending you messages for a damn good reason. Look at your profile!!! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You love tacos, and you suck melons... be still my thumping heart! Hehehe!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had a browse today - first in a while, it's kind of odd when you haven't done internet dating in a while (or dating in general in a while). I looked at some profiles and thought - well, they've probably had 20 single men send them messages today alone, pass. I always look at the 'Friends' section, if I see their 'friends list' consisting of 20 muscly dudes with the generic torso selfie shot in the bathroom - I usually refrain from messaging. I'm not sure if I've hit the nail on the head. But in a way this is me diagnosing "out of my league". I'm not sure how to judge my actions. I'm pretty confident they aren't based around fear of rejection - but instead the pursuit for something different. Anyway, I sent three messages today, I'm proud. Back to Doctor Who reruns for the remaining Sunday.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Meh you all think to much.. Its the people that reply to a 4 line intro with i dont reply to people who just say hey whats up... people expect a novel with a 2 line about me.. they're the ones that are out of my league. Not because i cant write, because ive never fucked a retard. Havent people ever heard of breaking the ice? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think your post gives a pretty good indication why you're most likely not having any luck on here. Normally I would ask to have a comment like yours removed due to my intense dislike for using the word 'retard' as an offensive slur in that context, but I'm going to leave it be this time so that people can judge for themselves whether they're out of your league.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'McCrimmon' I had a browse today - first in a while, it's kind of odd when you haven't done internet dating in a while (or dating in general in a while). I looked at some profiles and thought - well, they've probably had 20 single men send them messages today alone, pass. I always look at the 'Friends' section, if I see their 'friends list' consisting of 20 muscly dudes with the generic torso selfie shot in the bathroom - I usually refrain from messaging. I'm not sure if I've hit the nail on the head. But in a way this is me diagnosing "out of my league". I'm not sure how to judge my actions. I'm pretty confident they aren't based around fear of rejection - but instead the pursuit for something different. Anyway, I sent three messages today, I'm proud. Back to Doctor Who reruns for the remaining Sunday. I agree with your take on the list with 6 packed guys 20 years younger. I avoid messaging unless they suggest they are after a fwb. Which by the pure nature of young guys with hot bids, they have an attitude of fucking as many as possible and consider themselves above a relationship of any sorts. So l pop off a message and usually get a favorable response to at least chat and present the real self.It's the same theory of these guys with premium plus and platinum membership. I would send no more than on average a few messages a week once l search out suitable matches. How the fuck do you need 25 to 50 messages a day to achieve a fuck.Remember quality search and messages will outgun the machinegun theory of messaging. You may just find that you are in their league.
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Grouse33
9 years ago
I think I'm way late to this one, but I found it pretty interesting. I guess I do make judgements about other people based on their looks and rule myself out of contention. At the risk of offending people (especially those who say they don't judge books by their covers etc), I think there is a pretty clear gap between what people collectively say about physical beauty and what they actually do. For one thing, it's pretty rare to see a couple who are mismatched in terms of beauty, at least in my experience. And I don't think we - as a society- acknowledge that looks are important and desirable and a factor in choosing a partner. But on the other hand, a world where this stuff was openly discussed and promoted would be pretty unbearable. So, on balance, I vote to keep the double standard. What I hadn't considered, and what the OP mentioned were the other factors such as intelligence, education, worldliness etc which could make somebody think they were out of their league. It hadn't even occurred to me that this could be the case. Obviously, it's partly because I have the necessary level of delusion to think I'm the intellectual equal of most people. But I think the other reason is that when you have these desirable qualities you don't need to be aware of them. It's easier to perceive the social/sexual currency they provide when you don't have them in abundance. This is exactly the same as actual currency; there's nothing like being poor to make you realise how important money is. At least, that's what I reckon. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
Highly offensive ,You are less the suave in the use of your language, the use of the word retard in today's society Is long gone ,I will admit Sometimes I will say I did a bit retarded ,to myself about myself still ,but never would I put it to print or call people that word ,if you didn't know you should now, ,that word the way you used it is highly offensive in today's society and just put yourself out of a lot of people's league,you may want to think about that , - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
Highly offensive ,You are less the suave in the use of your language, the use of the word retard in today's society Is long gone ,I will admit Sometimes I will say I did a bit retarded ,to myself about myself still ,but never would I put it to print or call people that word ,if you didn't know you should now, ,that word the way you used it is highly offensive in today's society and just put yourself out of a lot of people's league,you may want to think about that , - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
For reincarnation.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Your never out of my league Pure Peony. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' For reincarnation. but don't hold your breath... (Any similarity to, or inference relating to matters of a religious nature is purely coincidental. The views expressed in this thread are not necessarily the views held by the proprietorship or management of this communication medium etc etc etc).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes - I respect the age requests of all members and that puts most people out of my league. I can understand this and can't do mush about the fact that I am old, in fact I feel lucky to have got this far. I will basically talk to anyone that approaches me. Most conversations don't end up as face to face meetings and I don't really care about this either, guess this is one of the nice things about being old - the expectation falls away.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're only a spring chicken 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' For reincarnation.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
It's all about attitude. Never give up ITouch and l are both older than you and we aren't laying down.......Well not in that sense. Although wouldn't mind laying down with her........Just sayin
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Dorey12
9 years ago
I'm beginning to think that most women think that I am out of their league :-(
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RHP User
9 years ago
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