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Taken men who pretend they are single
October 03 2014
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Unfortunately, in venues such as this, you're going to come across experiences such as this. You're going to find some guys who are just after a bit of extra skirt, without their partner knowing what's going on. I think you'll already gather what sort of people like these are, so no need to go further. As much as it is a dampener on proceedings, just chalk this one up to experience and go to 'next'. As many will tell you, just tell yourself you've 'dodged a bullet', and found out before it got any more serious. There are many genuine single guys on site, so just be a little patient and I'm sure you'll find many to tango with. Women rule the roost here, so don't let this experience sour it too much for you. Hope you enjoy yourself here. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I've been suckered too. The deceit is just outrageous, I hate being lied to, it's sooo disrespectful. You can usually tell when you meet them though because they 'can't host', and they're looking to be 'discreet' - put a bomb under em all!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd never pretend to be anything else until she boots me out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To me, although I do share occasionally. Unfortunately a common theme on dating sites. At least you have more tools at your disposal during your vetting process now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd love to punch guys like that right in the larynx.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's called a "460" four knuckles travelling at 60MPH. It amazes me on here, it seems to be the "cheats" that get the lions share on here, smooth talkin' basturds. One lady replied to me that "it's safer with married guys", I've never seen so much bullshit in my life, she's gunna' let some stinky tradie into her home while her hubby's at work, he's gunna' plough her in a rush and disappear! If all former Rapist and sexual preditors were single men, I'd agree to the "safety" bit, but usually it is the opposite, The Police turn up and arrest the "Hubby" and "Wifey" has no idea what he's been up to on those "Business Trips" I honestly don't know how some of these guys live with themselves? Tell me if I'm wrong here folks. Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah, well lucky his fiancée didn't ring you from her hospital bed after giving birth to his child........... like happened to someone I know on RHP. Actually the lowest thing I have heard of is a guy saying that he was a widower, but of course it was all lie and when one woman found it about it and told others, it was revealed that he had been saying the same to numerous women who all wanted to comfort this poor guy who had lost his wife. Although I am sure his wife and kids and home never found out about it. Can you believe it! Some people are absolute scammers.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is horrid, isn't it! I too am one who steers clear of men who are attached, yet they are all that seem to find me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I'd love to punch guys like that right in the larynx. Why stop there? Punch him where his Better Half will be asking serious "Please Explain? "questions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a virgin, for one , and guys cry when they find out they are not the first. Men and women lie because they can on the net. The truth is often killed here. Its only because they want to get into your nice warm pussy and will go to any lengths not to pay for it. Do not ask if a man is married, just do not fuck him till he lets you go to his house, check is bank account and meet his mother then you know its a sure thing for a relationship. the internet is a breeding ground for liars and con men/women and people that are naive to this. Of course men will lie to you, I often wonder why women are so surprised considering the nature of this site. And I also tell the boys i am a size 10, own a pub, suck like a vacuum cleaner, like unsafe sex and they can bring their mates. I would say most of the guys on this site are married, but that's just my thoughts. Many of you have more than likely fucked a married, engaged, guy/woman and never even know it.
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BrightBubbly
11 years ago
Met on RHP, messaged, emails, phone calls, coffee... Great sex and a great connection It wasn't until we met and he had forgotten to take his wedding ring off that I found out. Sometimes, it doesn't matter how good your filters are, how many screening processes you go through they do get through. Some guys are just assholes and great liars.
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RHP User
11 years ago
it seems there is a big emphasis on the bagging of married or attached guys on here.... well there also seems to be a lot of ladies who say they are single and this is not the case. I reckon its nearly the same percentage of attached/married ladies as is guys????? lets all tell the truth from the start then I think a lot less people will be disappointed and hurt!!!!!!!!!cheers jacktar15
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RHP User
11 years ago
You sound like the perfect woman
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RHP User
11 years ago
Unless they are actually married.consider themselves to be single...disingenuous in the extend xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Unless they are actually married.consider themselves to be single...disingenuous in the extend xxQ Yes that is something I have been wondering about. I say I am single and I do what I want, when I want. I live alone. But my heart is kind of attached. So am I still single?
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are not attached if you are not exclusive... Just my opinion... XxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' You are not attached if you are not exclusive. ... and you both know you're not.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A couple of quick comments here: 1/ does this have to be a boys versus girls thing AGAIN....not all men are guilty, lying deceptive pricks, and not all women are virtuous, honest upstanding citizens.....I have had several women on this site lie to me......let the individual be judged on their merits not their gender... I actually think it's sexist, and demeaning to pigeon hole women in any way (positive or negative) ..it just as prejudiced as saying all Asians are smart, or all black guys are well hung... And a more controversially: 2/. We are on a site where people are (supposedly) liberated, debaucherous and non judgemental of quirks, kinds, fantasies and fetishes.....where sex can be guilt free, non monogamous and non conventional..... But...... I have been on this site for several years, telling the truth about my open marriage.....and I get more judgement and negative feedback than I would have expected on Catholicmarriage.com........ I'm hypothesising that a lot of married people, male and female, open relationship or cheating, lie on their profile, because it's the only way they can get their 'foot in the door'. If women and men where more accepting in the first place, and judged everyone on their merits....I think less of this bullshit would occur. Finally, not excusing lying in any way, but if a girl or guy is not being fulfilled sexually by their partner, I don't feel I have the right to pass judgement....Im not arrogant/clever enough to know exactly what their situation is....so I'm not going to guess
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'jacktar15' it seems there is a big emphasis on the bagging of married or attached guys on here.... well there also seems to be a lot of ladies who say they are single and this is not the case. I reckon its nearly the same percentage of attached/married ladies as is guys????? lets all tell the truth from the start then I think a lot less people will be disappointed and hurt!!!!!!!!!cheers jacktar15 Is that most men don't care! A 'shag' is a 'shag'!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'outofmyshell' It is horrid, isn't it! I too am one who steers clear of men who are attached, yet they are all that seem to find me. - Posted from rhpmobile Been there.. didn't do that though... Found out before we got that far.. on one occasion it definitely "close" I Found the ring around her neck-less..asked the question, she confessed.. Imagine the surprise look on her face when i asked her to put her pants and top back on whilst i called the taxi And the rest they say is history.. (True story) For the record, yes I've copped a fair bit of crap from my mates over this.. But they know that's how i roll, I never have and never will play that game. :) G x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'outofmyshell' It is horrid, isn't it! I too am one who steers clear of men who are attached, yet they are all that seem to find me. - Posted from rhpmobile Been there.. didn't do that though... Found out before we got that far.. on one occasion it definitely "close" I Found the ring around her neck-less..asked the question, she confessed.. Imagine the surprise look on her face when i asked her to put her pants and top back on whilst i called the taxi And the rest they say is history.. (True story) For the record, yes I've copped a fair bit of crap from my mates over this.. But they know that's how i roll, I never have and never will play that game. :) G x
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RHP User
11 years ago
.....Melbourne cup day 2012 id been separated a few months and decided it was time to go out. After ending a 12yr relationship must admit I was feeling a little nervous. Anyway drinks went down the horses ran by and next thing i knew a sexy lady was tongue kissing me. She told me she was single. I few weeks later after some HOT sessions she confesses. That ended that. I do not do dishonesty. Sure enough a few weeks later im getting abusive texts and phone calls from her husband who she'd later "told by accident". Then to top it all off my EX found a card from her.Flippen heck that was the worst! Hmmm celibacy, I pondered! SAx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't believe in lying either but it seems that this site has a higher number of judgemental women (from what I see in the forums) on it than one other popular Aussie adult site. I can only wonder whether they went through rather messy separations.Often one can read between the lines & can see that some females, like us males are after "more" because it is not on offer at home.There are valid reasons why I am on here & if I'm asked via a message, I will write back. I like excitement but I am fed up with seeing expensive sexy lingerie & books (including 50Shades) often unopened/unread, going to LifeLine! No end of talking changes the situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi I am single and don't have a partner and if i did i would not be on this site unless we were swingersI have my own place and any female or woman is welcome to come here so not all of us men are the same
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bravo old chap well said :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' Quoting 'jacktar15' it seems there is a big emphasis on the bagging of married or attached guys on here.... well there also seems to be a lot of ladies who say they are single and this is not the case. I reckon its nearly the same percentage of attached/married ladies as is guys????? lets all tell the truth from the start then I think a lot less people will be disappointed and hurt!!!!!!!!!cheers jacktar15 Is that most men don't care! A 'shag' is a 'shag'! I do agree that a lot of men are motivated by their penis. But if I had one of those I would be exactly the same. Its like a heat seeking missile. I cannot blame men for that. Its how they go about it that causes the problem. If they are honest, it means that most women will not want to go to bed with them. If they lie, the chances of getting a root increase. This does not mean they do not give hoot about who they fuck, they do make choices. I am sure plenty of guys can and do say no to women. The men that I know seemed to care about me, that is what keeps me here, if I thought they were going to treat me like a throw away thing, I would not go there in the first place. then again, as a married women its less complicated for men to bonk me. No chance in hell of any attachment. single women face a whole different kind of thing. They go into it from a different angle, they often expect more than the man is willing to give. And that is when the imbalance happens. men lead with their cocks, women lead with there emotions , it is not easy for women to keep sex away from their emotions. I can very easy for me as I am not an attachment kind of person at all. Men sense that in me, so that is why i get plenty of sex, from married men and single guys. Men do make choices, they do not always shag anything that moves...that's my job
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RHP User
11 years ago
No need to be cranky. This forum was about a cheating man. If you want to talk about lying women (yes, I'm sure there are just as nany), why not start your own thread? I'd be quite interested in the guys' responses there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Many*
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do have empathy for you, and the feeling of betrayal, which is absolutely awful. However, you need to pick your battles. If you meet a man/woman/couple over the internet, you need to ( realistically) assume that they are a no care/no responsibility unknown quantity for which there is no recall, no comeback and no consequences. Regardless of the time invested, you are an anonymous photograph with a call name and visa versa. From this perspective, both men and women can choose to be who they want and live out sides of themselves that are a fantasy. For some, who are just themselves and have no desire to create a fantasy identity or life - it might come as a surprise to know that the other 50% are presenting themselves as pure or at least a good part fiction - from the picture to the late night Sexts. AND ALL IS FAIR AND VALID ON THIS TYPE OF FORUM. In the real world, ( or perhaps relationship sites where long term partnerships are sought ) it is still wise to know that deception is possible, however, there is reason to call foul if someone is lying and deceiving. For one night stands, 'party' sessions, RHP, hook up apps etc etc, you have to be prepared for one stands, "party sessions, sex dates and hook ups. If you are looking for honesty, sincerity, companionship, heart based love, or a long term relationship …. you are probably looking in all the wrong places. That is not to say you might accidentally stumble across a soul mate - but I would't rush down to the TAB and offer odds. In short, this is a place for sexual adventure, intrigue, erotic encounters and more kiss than tell. Like I said, pick your forum.
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RHP User
11 years ago
apologies for spelling!
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's the deceit.....and the choice that has been taken away... It's not just about sex,it's about the fact that the OP didn't want to contribute to another woman's unhappiness....We judge people and situations every day,its part of our survival mechanism..and even though inadvertently we might have sex with an attached person the fallout can be quite painful.I have been on the other end of a phone call from an irate woman...as it turned out she was an ex girlfriend ,not a current one but it was a very unpleasant experience...xxQ
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Good reply. good for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' it's the deceit..... Exactly. Prior to me becoming separated my wife and I had a period of time when we were not monogamous. I have to say the choices were limited in ladies then, because many are looking for a partner... Now I am seeing it the same way and understand a bit more, but hey - the least one can ask for is honesty! At the time when I had been married I was not hiding it, if you need to hide it you will be found out and that is not a good thing...!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cheers, lots of good points from most. It just comes down to the fact that I don't want to fuck anyone else's man, like I wouldn't want my man to fuck anyone else. If I didn't care that he had a partner I wouldn't have asked. I'm a big believer of karma and even if I unbeknownst hooked up with another's partner, I'm sure it would eventually bite me on the ass (and not in a good way) a little bit of honesty goes a long way is all. I'm aware that there's men and women on here that lie and waste others time. If they told the truth they could find others like themselves, and everyone's happy. I was annoyed when I wrote this, now just sad for his spouse and all his unsuspecting future meets.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' You are not attached if you are not exclusive... Just my opinion... XxQ Sorry Q but your response is not logical in the context of a thread where we are talking about men who are "taken" but who are clearly not exclusive because they are pursuing other women. By that reasoning, the men are entirely justified in their assertions and have committed no deceit. I do not claim there has been no deceit or that the deceit is not morally blameworthy, just that your logic is flawed. You are using an objective action as a measure of a subjective status. On this site, a person can mark themselves down as single, married, separated or divorced, which are all statuses defined legally. They can also put themselves down as "attached" which has no definition. There is no category for de facto/engaged/in a relationship (whether exclusive or otherwise) but these emotional attachments are just as real and have important consequences for people checking the person out as a potential match up. A person who is in a relationship but also engages in sex with other people should morally put themselves down as attached, otherwise they are misleading interested parties into thinking the person is available to explore a relationship with them. There is also an element of emotional detachment in sex with third parties if the person is in a relationship with another person, and again it would be misleading to the third parties who may be hoping for that emotional attachment. Again, this is not to say people in relationships can't seek to have sex outside the relationship as long as they are up front and honest to the third parties which goes to the heart of the OP. Tell people what the situation is so they have all the facts in front of them to decide if they want to go ahead and invest the time and effort with the person, or move on to someone who may be more emotionally available. In those circumstances, the onus is on both men AND women to be honest when completing their profiles, including their relationship status instead of trying to fudge around the edges by claiming they are not attached to someone merely because they also have sex with other people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is something that gets me riled on RHP - I've put "attached" for lack of an "Open Relationship" option that's STILL not available. I let people know right away because I understand a lot of them aren't comfortable with the idea, but "attached" doesn't sit right or properly convey where I'm at in relationship terms. Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Qefenta3' Unless they are actually married.consider themselves to be single...disingenuous in the extend xxQ Yes that is something I have been wondering about. I say I am single and I do what I want, when I want. I live alone. But my heart is kind of attached. So am I still single?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was specifically answering Meeka xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
And I don't consider it the other person's responsibility to tell me the truth. Sure, it would be great if they did and I could rely on their story, but I'm smart enough to know that lots of people lie about lots of things for lots of reasons, including out of a desire to get laid. I consider it my responsibility to investigate a little, do some detective work, be discerning and trust my instincts. If after all that I decide to trust what someone else is telling me, I still never lose sight of the fact that I've chosen to trust them. That's not the same as them being trustworthy, it's just a leap of faith on my part. Trust is built up over a long time when someone consistently shows, through words and deeds, that they can be relied upon to be honest about certain things. Trust does not exist after a day, a week or a month of chatting win someone online, meeting them in person, shagging once or twice, or whatever path an RHP meet might take. I think it's completely foolish to assume someone you meet here is telling you the truth, and like inthekiss said, I'm always surprised when people are surprised that they've been lied to. I'm not saying I like it this way. I'd love it if people were more real, honest, trustworthy, less driven by personal greed and agenda. But sadly that's often not the case. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Jeez Louise, you got that wrong. Q was just answering to meeka. Do you stumble into the wrong court room and carry on with a divorce proceedings when it's a criminal case? Opsm is your friend.so is taking a good look before you jump up and say I object! To anything q writes. You always jump all over them like a guy stamping out a bush fire. She can't help it if her brains are bigger than yours. ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You really do need to sweep behind the bathroom door. It's one if my fussy things. Ya know in the loo, yah close the door you sit down and there it is, dust behind the door!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok cranky hat off for the time being....:-) Partially on my 'high horse', because of the sheer volume of topics raised in this forum seem to be 'female vs male' rather than person versus person.....and it seems definitely skewed against men...I suspect partly because (some) women (feel they) hold power, due the amount of attention they get, so they can make gross generalisations and rationalisations, with no downside...they will still get attention... It seems to be the complete opposite of the bohemian, liberated attitudes I had expected this site to appeal to... Blame (or praise depending on situation) the behaviour, not the gender. ....rant over....back to perving and flirting!
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madotara69
11 years ago
Did you know that ducks have flat feet for stamping out brushfires? Elephants have flat feet too..... for stamping out burning ducks. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was thinking it would be rather hilarious for us girls to start up a site called "RED HOT LIE', not Red Hot Pie. The aim is to see who comes up with the biggest pile of BullShit...... I think you'd be hard pushed to find a woman who HASN'T come across one of them.. But in all fairness, I'm sure there are women who have done the same... It's just become too easy to bullshit your way through society instead of being honest and meaning it for some people......
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NawtiMiss40
11 years ago
Wow .. what an array of different opinions and thoughts. We have been a round the block a few times on here and yes its a game of trial and error. Just when you think YAHOO we found a good 1 its often short lived.. . But keep marching on guys they are out there and enjoy them when there. But in saying that being upfront a telling a woman such in my case that I am married seems to be unbelievable . Unbelievable that im allowed out to meet with other women/couples while being married . True yes and I often reply with an invatation yo come home with me and meet her.. But on the other hand if my wife is on line and having a look . She is bombarded with guys who could give two shits if she was married or not.. so in summing up each to their own we guess. Do you home work and have fun isnt this what its all about ? . This is a sex site and hey enjoy it 😈
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Taken women who pretend to be single........ . The opposite is also true on these sites. We have come across many females who are listed as single, divorced and even widowed on their profile who when we contacted them respond with how they only play with their husband, bf, partner, fwb or fb being involved too. If you don't want fake, don't search here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stufu1969' Ok cranky hat off for the time being....:-) Partially on my 'high horse', because of the sheer volume of topics raised in this forum seem to be 'female vs male' rather than person versus person.....and it seems definitely skewed against men... I agree that there is too much man bashing on the forums and I've posted some topics on it in the two years I've been here. Every time I see a topic called "Why do men lie?" I cringe, as it's a totally unfair generalization. Some male forum posters have commented on forum topics written by women that "If a man had written this he would have been vilified", and I wonder if this is stopping other guys from writing forums about negative experiences they've had. I hope the men here will write more forums about their bad experiences with women in their lives. If they indeed get vilified, it will say more about the women here who do so than them, in my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guys, there is many married women on here too! First tell tail is not willing to show their face unless it's in private gal.. Seriously, the married people in here are authentic, as they wouldn't be on here if home life was great? Just saying... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I know what you mean about finding out about the ones that lie as my partner is on this site and does not know that I know what he is up to as his profile says he is single and we have been living together for nearly 2 years now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Giddyup007' Guys, there is many married women on here too! First tell tail is not willing to show their face unless it's in private gal.. I thought I was just doing that because I don't want my colleagues and clients finding me here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That you were responding to meeka, Q. My response was to point out the error in your response which in turn was my oblique response to the question point. The logic still stands. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do agree there needs to be a definite level of honesty and this bloke has obviously deceived you but I guess this site isn't your normal "dating" site....I think being such a sexually charged site you'd be a touch nieve to think there aren't people (guys and girls) playing the field...not making excuses for what this guy did but I guess my point is that you need to mind full of that. I guess I find it a intriguing that a large percentage of us are here for sexual gratification in some shape or form with multiple partners all over the country side but we still hold this massive moral compass when a guy has a partner.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Good point Meander. Giddyup there will always be people who lie aboit their status and that is not a good experience. The reason for discretion had been discussed ad infinitum in prev threads. I think married people can be on here , regardless of their domestic situation. We are not to judge because this is meant to be and 'open' and adult meet site. I think the issue is whether they are honest up front about their situation so we can make a decision whether they suit us I met a couple of gorgeous married men at the recent meet n greet and they were open about their marriage. No hiding. Their openness n honesty is refreshing. Lunch over. Back to work. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Red Hot Man Bashing I don't think the men care but it is a bit boring to read it over and over let everyone do whoever they want this isn't RSVP but getting close
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RHP User
11 years ago
in my humble opinion Quoting 'nqsensualgent' I don't believe in lying either but it seems that this site has a higher number of judgemental women (from what I see in the forums) on it than one other popular Aussie adult site. I can only wonder whether they went through rather messy separations.Often one can read between the lines & can see that some females, like us males are after "more" because it is not on offer at home.There are valid reasons why I am on here & if I'm asked via a message, I will write back. I like excitement but I am fed up with seeing expensive sexy lingerie & books (including 50Shades) often unopened/unread, going to LifeLine! No end of talking changes the situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'abcplus1'Next thread title...Taken women who pretend to be single........ Any takers?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel a parody coming on :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I'm attached & have my reasons for being on here which are nobody's business but mine, I'm quiet upfront about my status & have no problem steering away from ladies who specify, ' unattached' what is the point in lieing about it? cheers Marty
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stufu1969' Ok cranky hat off for the time being....:-) Partially on my 'high horse', because of the sheer volume of topics raised in this forum seem to be 'female vs male' rather than person versus person.....and it seems definitely skewed against men...I suspect partly because (some) women (feel they) hold power, due the amount of attention they get, so they can make gross generalisations and rationalisations, with no downside...they will still get attention... It seems to be the complete opposite of the bohemian, liberated attitudes I had expected this site to appeal to... Blame (or praise depending on situation) the behaviour, not the gender. ....rant over....back to perving and flirting! Your so right, those with the Y hold the power here. Now get on your knees and grovel and beg forgiveness from my golden pussy , and while your down there then go and saddle my horse, its the big tall one over there in the back of the barn, careful as it kicked the nuts right of the last man that dared to question me, the great queen pussy of the land of the egocentric slut.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I beg to differ, it was an answer specific to a situation I head aware of Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know really large men telling us that we are illogical... patronising in the extreme Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
In Perth it should be pretty easy to spot them, just look for the tan lines where their wedding bands should be ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm too careful,so far, i make sure they single,i prefer to go to his house,if i like him,and true, agreed some the post here about getting the woman easy and free,but why not telling the truth? At lest in the end no one can blame if anything happens,hmmmm,I'm glad I got an honest person in this site,thank you RHP, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Roystan17' I guess I find it a intriguing that a large percentage of us are here for sexual gratification in some shape or form with multiple partners all over the country side but we still hold this massive moral compass when a guy has a partner. I think you are wrong to assume that being on this site means that we all have to lose our moral compass? We can still have open crazy fun HONEST sex! Having this kind of fun doesn't mean we have to be deceitful at all. To me, if a person lies about their relationship status it does make me wonder what else they're lying about. Why lie? Only to be greedy and I can do without that. And I can only speak for myself but I am not on here for multiple partners all over the countryside. Some of us prefer quality over quantity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Man bashing my arse. Women should be able to relate their experiences of the site to others without being accused of man bashing. If some men behave badly other men should condemn that behaviour instead of being all 'women are bitter and twisted, must have been through bad break ups, are shrill, full of their own importance, up themselves, expect to be treated as if they're on a conventional dating site (how dare they expect to be treated like those nice 'chaste' women), are stupid and naive'. There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with a poster but her right to bring her experience to the forum without being made to feel shit about it stands. The op made no generalisations and referred to a specific instance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you miss interpreted what I wrote....I don't assume anyone looses there "moral compass" because there on this site...What would I be saying about myself??!( my moral compass is broken mate haha) This site has enabled me to chat to some amazing like minded people but like life people are too quick to judge not understanding someone's situation properly. This site might be the only thing keeping there relationship/family together...? I know allot of guys that are made to feel like shit by there partners when they even mention sex....are they supposed to crawl under a rock and suffer in silence which leads into sever depression or the other alternative they find a site like this that they can find a casual release and save there family...? I'm not for a minute saying it's right, I just get annoyed when I see people passing judgement without understanding. I don't condone being deceitful I just see some profiles that read they love being gang banged and all sorts then a guy with a partner is morally wrong being on here... I'm merely making the point that some women are too quick to pass judgement..."glass houses"...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with nibblemebi and MissBliss...... what does having multiple lovers, when you are single and free to do what you want, have to do with not wanting to be with a married guy cheating on his wife? The two things have nothing to do with the other. Or maybe Roystan doesn't care and will bonk anyone. That is his right...but it is our right to say we don't want to be with a someone lying to their partner. Deal with it, dude!
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RHP User
11 years ago
We knew right from the start before we got on RHP!!!!That there was going to be liars, scammers, cheating husbands, closet floggers, Single married guys, photo collectors, and above all keyboard warriors!!Hence why almost all Couples on here type LOUD and CLEAR!NO SINGLE GUYS!!!Saves us all the grief girls.So to the beautiful, single, innocent, naïve, sexy, woman on here who seek men...............My heart goes out to you ALL scorned by these creeps that exist.........* RHP if your listening surely this particular TOPIC cant be doing your REDHOT reputation any good allowing these types to continue on here.Wishful thinking but any chance we can have an A#*shole alert button....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissBlissBomb' Man bashing my arse. Women should be able to relate their experiences of the site to others without being accused of man bashing. If some men behave badly other men should condemn that behaviour instead of being all 'women are bitter and twisted, must have been through bad break ups, are shrill, full of their own importance, up themselves, expect to be treated as if they're on a conventional dating site (how dare they expect to be treated like those nice 'chaste' women), are stupid and naive'. There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with a poster but her right to bring her experience to the forum without being made to feel shit about it stands. The op made no generalisations and referred to a specific instance. When people post on the forum they are usually going to post in relation to their own experiences and what they know. So if a woman posts then it's usually going to be about her experiences with men. I'm getting tired of the 'man-bashing' and #notallmen and 'women cheat too!!' lines being brought out every time a woman posts about a negative experience she had with a guy. Yes if she uses it to generalise about all men being assholes then that's a problem, but that isn't the case here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So only single people are allowed to be happy? If you actually took the time to read my comment...I don't condone deceit!! But I sure as hell don't condone belittling anyone seeking happiness! For all I know this guy in question is just doing it because he's a jerk...but that's not the point I'm trying to make... Obviously not the same thing but you can't honestly say having multiple partners is more morally acceptable than a cheating spouse!!? We are all on here for different reasons...my comments are directed towards people getting on there high horse as opposed to condoning this guy's actions! And please don't make those ridiculous assumption Meeka10! You don't know a single thing about me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just throwing my humble opinion in here. The view that honesty matters less in sex based relationships than in love based relationships is not one I agree with. I think honesty matters everywhere in life. And just because this is a sex site doesn't mean morality and decency should be overlooked. In fact they are very important, because sex is one of the best things in life and should not be compromised by dishonesty. We are supposed to be moving towards a more sexually open society, and sites like this lead the way. How can we have that if honesty takes a back seat? The culture of the scene should definitely move in the direction of honesty and openness, rather than being closed and secret. Having a soft heart for liars and manipulators only enables them, and devalues a site like this and its purpose. Again, IMHO.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'nibblemebi' Quoting 'Roystan17' I guess I find it a intriguing that a large percentage of us are here for sexual gratification in some shape or form with multiple partners all over the country side but we still hold this massive moral compass when a guy has a partner. I think you are wrong to assume that being on this site means that we all have to lose our moral compass? We can still have open crazy fun HONEST sex! Having this kind of fun doesn't mean we have to be deceitful at all. To me, if a person lies about their relationship status it does make me wonder what else they're lying about. Why lie? Only to be greedy and I can do without that. And I can only speak for myself but I am not on here for multiple partners all over the countryside. Some of us prefer quality over quantity. I didn't get that at all - I mean that's not how I interpreted it. Firstly, when he says "a large percentage of us are here for sexual gratification in some shape of form", I read that as being a large percentage of the site overall - which is reasonable given the amount of heated discussions over the nature of the site. "with multiple partners all over the country side" again, a reasonable comment given that people make assumptions to that effect based on friends lists. I didn't equate it to him referring to himself nor did I think he meant anything by it in the sense that you've taken it. When he says "but we still hold this massive moral compass when a guy has a partner", I read that to be referring to the consensus within the forums with regards to men that are attached.
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RHP User
11 years ago
pretty much anything goes.whatever turns you on.REVENGE sex.Cheating sexLying sex. But yes, it is always better to be up front about things.some people get turned on by the thought that they are fucking someone who is married (sneaky sex)
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RHP User
11 years ago
...in my opinion, between men vs. women on this site, is that the females who are attached and 'cheating' like myself, don't pretend to be single, whereas married/attached men seem to think they're not going to get laid unless they pretend to be so. All I will say is, beware the businessman who has an apartment in one city but flies 'home' (interstate) at the weekend to catch up with the kids who are looked after by his 'ex'. She is usually nothing of the sort. I was strung along for 8 months (NEVER again) by one such man, then found out he had lied not only about his status but about the number of children he had - his subterfuge even included not telling me his real name. He had faked an entire persona! When he admitted his lies to me (only when I caught him out and he couldn't deny it) he told me he lied about his status because every time he honestly told a woman he was 'attached' they would run away. If men want sex they will usually do anything to get it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
date sites are all the same, breeding grounds for lyres and cheats man and women alike. men have to go through the same old bull shit women do. don't think the female race is innocent be cause they aren't the only reason you hear of more men lying is because most men don't complain about it they accept it and move on there are good men as well as good women on these site but there are also the bad apples its the nature of the beast if you are on a date site wether it be an adult site or a vanilla site thee will always be the cheats my rant over
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're pretty sharp you must be a Mainlander
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep it goes both ways Two lady's I'm close to were openly admitting they were indeed married and just trawling for a fuck toy More power to them I say - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I agree with nibblemebi and MissBliss...... what does having multiple lovers, when you are single and free to do what you want, have to do with not wanting to be with a married guy cheating on his wife? The two things have nothing to do with the other. Or maybe Roystan doesn't care and will bonk anyone. That is his right...but it is our right to say we don't want to be with a someone lying to their partner. Deal with it, dude! Geez. A big leap in assumption and a bit judgmental. After he did clarify his position, which could be read so many ways, I don't think he said he does not care nor is he discerning. I was waiting for him to expand on what he commented on. I'm with Kiwi here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Stufu1969' Ok cranky hat off for the time being....:-) Partially on my 'high horse', because of the sheer volume of topics raised in this forum seem to be 'female vs male' rather than person versus person.....and it seems definitely skewed against men... I agree that there is too much man bashing on the forums and I've posted some topics on it in the two years I've been here. Every time I see a topic called "Why do men lie?" I cringe, as it's a totally unfair generalization. Some male forum posters have commented on forum topics written by women that "If a man had written this he would have been vilified", and I wonder if this is stopping other guys from writing forums about negative experiences they've had. I hope the men here will write more forums about their bad experiences with women in their lives. If they indeed get vilified, it will say more about the women here who do so than them, in my opinion. guys bitch that us women are open about sharing our experiences but I have nothing against them starting their own threads. Considering we are told by these men that they outnumber us 10:1, then they should have the backing of their own to counteract any villification just like us women do. I think they are just gutless and will continue to just moan that they are the poor little targetted ones.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissBlissBomb' Man bashing my arse. Women should be able to relate their experiences of the site to others without being accused of man bashing. If some men behave badly other men should condemn that behaviour instead of being all 'women are bitter and twisted It's only when the personal experiences turn into "all men" that I consider it bashing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't believe so many people are willing to accept lying in any form in here 'just because it is a sex site'. I don't care whether I am here, a normal dating site or in the real world, lying is NOT acceptable to me and I don't think I should have to expect it or accept it. I don't lie to people to get what I want, I am probably too honest and I am not about to encourage it by stating that 'you have to expect it' because you are online. I bet you wouldn't be accepting it if it was a scammer trying to get money out of you so why accept it when someone is trying to get sex out of you?
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Here here - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
IF I am that attracted to a woman enough to lay in bed with her, The last thing i would do is lie to her about whether I was married or not. I have done 'the dirty deed' while being married, and the women KNEW I was married, but didnt stop them from fucking my brains out. I didn't have a different woman every weekend (had chance of SEVERAL a weekend), but had some 'regulars', which is what i prefer anyway. so much better getting to KNOW a woman's body, and what timer to set to make her go off like a bomb:) I guess you could say i 'scored' WAY more in real life than on here, but not that i am looking to get laid every night either (by the same woman who was a NYMPHO wouldn't be bad)There was a guy in florida who had TWO families in the same city, and neither knew the other existed. Was married to one woman for 20 years and the other 15. don't ask me how he pulled that off(' Business' trips.) As the kids got older, somehow they met at a school activity. they were talking about their parents and their 'dads' seems the same so they got out pics.....of them and their DAD in each one.I bet his life wasn't worth spit when he got home.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... acknowledging the existence of (deception) equates to the acceptance and/or condoning of
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RHP User
11 years ago
So many rightious people on soapboxes Your on a forum that promotes fucking an most of you have photos of your vaginas and penises - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What does sex and naked photos have to do with lying and deception? Are you saying that lying and deception are acceptable when it comes to getting laid? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are guys really that stupid to pretend they are single? How would they explain and texts or calls from the women they're seeing on the side to their gf/wife...? And why risk the questioning if their partner gets suspicious? Or worse, what if their partner happens to go thru their phone and possibly seeing any msg or photos that shouldnt be there...? Lying really isnt the best option. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Saturdayrain'So many rightious people on soapboxes Your on a forum that promotes fucking an most of you have photos of your vaginas and penises That equals deceit? Only if you're talking about cock sizes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
May I refer you to the wonderful Tumblr site "Critiquing your dick pics with love"? You might learn something.
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RHP User
11 years ago
:) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its not that fact that a man or woman is married and cheating that is the topic here... Its the fact that they LIE about it. That is what pisses people off. When a potential partner lies about their marital or attached status, it takes away MY choice.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for you input. Only read your first sentence.... Royston's comments were not there when I made my comment. Royston, I don't begrudge anyone their happiness but at the end of the day their unhappiness is their problem..., don't make it mine. Know what I mean. pS I rarely read all of people's comments & most likely miss things... Miss a lot probably. Please feel free to take my comments with a grain of salt.. :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just saw that you dissed me Roystan. Meh. If you are also keen not be be with attached or married people good on you. Your first comment made it seem like you didn't view it as important. I mean it isn't important to everybody. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Its not that fact that a man or woman is married and cheating that is the topic here... Its the fact that they LIE about it. That is what pisses people off. When a potential partner lies about their marital or attached status, it takes away MY choice. Jeeez. This thread is about lies and deception, not about cheating. I do not agree with cheating on your partner; however, that is not the point of this forum. It is about lying to your prospective partner / date from RHP about it, so they can not make an informed decision if they want to meet you or not. If the meet is based on lies or deceit then it generally will not end well and someone will be hurt. NOT COOL.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In the kiss......where you actually calling out my name BEFORE I even got close to your 'golden pussy'? :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U'Jeeez. This thread is about lies and deception, not about cheating. Can you cheat without lies and deceit? Or doesn't it count as long as partner stays unaware? Can I just say I vehemently disagree? Lying by omission is still lying in my book.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Best thing to do is not hook up with single guys at all,like us we have no need for a single guy. Most couples are so much more honest then a single mere/male.
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RHP User
11 years ago
ummm.....could the married women please contact me....
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I find amusing is when they have "Ask Me" next to relationship status. We all know what that means! Just come out and admit it!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Single_Guy4U'Jeeez. This thread is about lies and deception, not about cheating. Can you cheat without lies and deceit? Or doesn't it count as long as partner stays unaware? Can I just say I vehemently disagree? Lying by omission is still lying in my book. You are absolutely right. It is not what I meant, I just meant that the thread appeared to be going off track. But as you so rightly say: Cheating is lies and deceit, and lying by omission is still definitely lying, and I personally don't like either. I admit that some people think lying and cheating is acceptable. However, it should also be noted that some people also believe burglary, abuse, or rape is acceptable, (some even think murder is acceptable), but NONE of them are acceptable.
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