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To Reply or To Ignore??
November 01 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I personally would prefer no response myself. To me that is an answer in itself. :)
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6exxy
11 years ago
Or reason is my preference.
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Kattss
11 years ago
I get a bit offended when I get a "Thanks, but you're not what I am looking for" reply. I actually block those profiles, so that they are longer in my searches. Where as a 'No Reply' leaves things open ended. It is a bit of a downer when you have shared your photos and get no reply... lol... That's obviously an answer. Often I don't reply myself for many reasons- I get busy its late at night and I fall asleep or the message gets lost in my inbox. I may not be interested or just not wanting to pursue things right now - But I very rarely give a 'No thanks' reply. That's just me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would always prefer a response and I offer the same.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If there is no response then it is quite obvious. I do respond to 91.23755% of messages though some times I can not be fucked. Read my profile and don't waste a message on me and expect a response if you are not, with in my seeking criteria. Yeah Yeah I know I can use the templates buy they still message back with - can I change your mind - *SIGH*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes or no. Better or worse. I prefer to let people know where they stand because I like to be treated that way too. It's not enjoyable being a little puppy with faded longing in his moist eyes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah some guys on here can be rather pushy, which is totally not a turn on. Just wasn't sure if I was being more offensive not replying at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Silence is a message and pretty easy to interpret. A polite decline is also clear. I'm OK with either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
It doesn't so much boil down to what we prefer, but what actually happens here. From previous examples of this type of subject, it appears many people are not really too bothered to respond to others on site, regardless of wishes. I always view it as the polite thing to do respond to people who have taken the time to contact me, whether it be flirt or email. I consider it good manners, and is a reflection of my personality. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't like people bombarding me with unsolicited flirting, I'm just trying to go about my day, not looking for harassment - do I acknowledge, or do I ignore? oh the calamity and hand wringing... (this harks back to a recent thread)
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RHP User
11 years ago
whereas I do with messages as the person has put in some effort to contact me. However occasionally I don't if it is a short message and their profile has no pic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
i definitely don't respond if they want to send their pic to me via email. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Forus1234
11 years ago
Yes, reply, it's just good manners & courteous, we always treat those, how we like to be treated! We always reply to flirts & messages. We no longer send flirts & messages, only as we have quite a few that come in everyday, but when we first came on the scene we sent a few out, the amount of couples that didn't respond, well what can you say, would you really want to be in the company of these people? They do you a favour, by not responding really? We can understand though, single ladies being bombarded & not having the time to respond though!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' I don't like people bombarding me with unsolicited flirting, I'm just trying to go about my day, not looking for harassment - do I acknowledge, or do I ignore? oh the calamity and hand wringing... (this harks back to a recent thread) Build a time machine and go back to the 1950s, no doubt you'd be much happier there being able to freely exercise your perceived God-given right as a man to do and say whatever the fuck you want to whomever you want without repercussion or being tasked to actually think about your actions. And while you're at it I can give you a list of a few other men to take with you. Apologies for the off-topic rant OP. In answer to your question I wouldn't really mind either way. To me no response is a response, I'm not going to lose sleep over someone I don't know at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kattss' I get a bit offended when I get a "Thanks, but you're not what I am looking for" reply. Wanting to understand: Could you tell us why?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Much prefer a polite yes or no, don't like the way so many people never reply again once pg is open. Either we v ugly or they are picture hunters. Just a no thanks is fine then move on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but usually give a response back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, that escalated quickly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I prefer it when someone sends me a message containing 50 random questions, then going on to offer their sexual resume and their phone number,. So.... If I am not interested I have all the information I need to post an ad on Craigs List to help them out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would rather get a reply than nothing at all. I'll even thank them for the courtesy of a reply...not the pushy type here! No means NO and I respect that. It's very rare for me to message someone who's not looking for my someone fitting my criteria, especially those wanting unattached men! Sometimes the site says that a woman is "looking for me" but her profile suggests otherwise...I'm thinking about messaging one such woman. She's a hotty and I'm prepared to let her know I'm available...what do you reckon?Some messages don't even get read, although I believe there is a way they can be read without the sender being aware they have been read.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A short simple response is a way of saying….you are a person, not just words and images far away….Show a bit of consideration.We need to remember that although it is easy to hide behind a screen, we are still dealing with people and that deserves a bit of respect a bit of care.Just my thoughts :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' I don't like people bombarding me with unsolicited flirting, I'm just trying to go about my day, not looking for harassment - do I acknowledge, or do I ignore? oh the calamity and hand wringing... (this harks back to a recent thread) Build a time machine and go back to the 1950s, no doubt you'd be much happier there being able to freely exercise your perceived God-given right as a man to do and say whatever the fuck you want to whomever you want without repercussion or being tasked to actually think about your actions. And while you're at it I can give you a list of a few other men to take with you. Apologies for the off-topic rant OP. In answer to your question I wouldn't really mind either way. To me no response is a response, I'm not going to lose sleep over someone I don't know at all. Please don't make assumptions about where I would be happier, or seek to limit my agency to express a viewpoint. (I don't think I'd enjoy the 50s since I'm quite into equal rights for all, and that time period probably wouldn't mesh well with that) Did you actually think about this topic and any parallels with the other one?Don't you think a flirt out of the blue can be likened to a 'whistle' or a 'how you doin'? I do, and think it is interesting that people on here can be all up in arms about the evils of whistles or whatever, yet I consider this is similar - the difference is lack of physical proximity. (Though I think that also touches on whether physical proximity matters for people sufficiently immersed in an online community, is the intrusion less simply because it isn't coming direct from them to me?) Quoting 'Meander' Well, that escalated quickly. ;)
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rupamohan
11 years ago
By default when no interest we prefer no reply given or received. It may get misunderstood as door ajar or missed attention and lead to annoying re request but experience shows this is rare and we haven't found this as enough justification for a mandatory reply. I am in a mood to say more, as got some time due to long wknd....lol Some people will say in the profile that they expect reply. Some will request a reply. Some will sound like insisting a reply. We consider it rude to insist for a reply. They will say replying is polite. They can continue replying but we don't share same opinion and find it very rude to demand a reply. Equally stupid to us is the reasoning if I reply it is fair that you too reply. It makes us laugh when people write in their profile if I do this and this then it is fair that you too do same. It is like trying to find clones. Fairness to us is not doing equal, it is having equal choices. Having said this, there is one tit for tat rule in my profile that I felt necessary to have minimal common understanding. When a reply request is made that doesn't sound like demanding a reply we may consider replying. Occasionally profile may be very good but a sexual mismatch like "safe sex if required" is a problem. We may give a short negative response. If someone asks the reason for negative response we generally will provide reason.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Note - Based on my reply if you have anything to ask that is deviation from what OP asked. Create a new thread or PM me. I generally don't respond to down the thread counter replies.
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WATERSIDEGUY18
11 years ago
Since these are all opinion based forums here's my two cents worth. In my view ignorance and lies are the height of rudeness, and no reply, or a reply saying they have read your profile, when they clearly haven't is just sign that they are a person you wouldn't want to meet or catch up with anyways!! There is one person in this thread (she will know who she is) who bucks the trend, and although I reckon she gets plenty of "fan mail" her politeness and quirky personality gets an A+ in my books :)
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JDM76
11 years ago
As someone who sent a message to the lovely Meander, i certainly appreciated her response. But people are people after all, some will and some won't
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose'Did you actually think about this topic and any parallels with the other one?Don't you think a flirt out of the blue can be likened to a 'whistle' or a 'how you doin'? I think there is a big difference. We consciously choose to be in a place where flirts are a big part of being here. If you don't want to receive them, you can lock your profile or block a member after the first contact. There is no physical interaction and you can stay anonymous, so even if the sender of the flirt has bad intentions, you are safe. On the street things are very different in my view. You are visible, recognisable and you can't control if someone will respect your boundaries when you say no or ignore them. Someone could follow you, which we saw in the video. Also, the flirts here are (if terrible in my view) not nasty or creepy. I think getting harassed/hit on in the street can absolutely not be likened to getting flirts you didn't ask for. My 2cts. p.s. I have no problem with a wolf whistle at all, but I don't think that's what most women here were referring to.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
When I do it's because they've commented in a forum where I thought they should be complimented/commended in a personal message. If they respond fine if they don't fine. It is nice when they do though. When receiving a message I always reply even if not interested courtesy costs nothing and the simplest of gestures can keep hope alive. Persisting with banality after a polite dismissal however will only aggravate an unwanted reaction. Know when to quit.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I rarely reply. If one guy sends me multiple flirts over a couple of days I will generally reply with a no thanks response flirt if the profile interests me and they send a message I will reply to engage with them. I used to reply to all messages and far to many times I ended up getting an abusive message back or a begging one. I came to the conclusion it was better not to reply at all. if I see a profile that interests me I will message or flirt them and if they don't reply that's fine I take it as not interested and move on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...a thanks, but no thanks reply to a message I've sent. However, there have been times where I didn't receive a response. I take it to mean they aren't interested and it has no effect on me. I prefer to not get a message because that's what I do, if I'm not interested.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I understand that a lot of woman get many messages and therefore it is difficult or impossible to reply to all. However, if the message is from someone that meets your profile (age etc) I believe it only polite to reply if you can, as no reply can also mean that you have either not gotten around to it, can't be bothered, or were too many to answer, and you could in theory miss out on a possible great person. I know it is different for a guy as I do not get too many messages to answer (most likely the same as most guys), but I have even answered a couple of messages from gay/bi men and couples to say politely thank you for your message but I am straight and / or not into couples and not interested.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The message is ambiguous and makes it difficult to reply..so I don't...If it is simpler,then yes I do..some messages just seem to be statements not requiring a response xxFrerya
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IamMrSilly
11 years ago
To me, it comes down to how much effort was put in. A flirt? a one line message? they don't warrant a reply. But if someone has taken the time to write a serious message then give them a reply even if it is 'loved your profile but not interested, good luck'. Hopefully they even mention why. That's part of the community here. In my humble opinion. But that said, the reality is that some guys spoil it for everyone by harassing when they get a 'no'. LMAO @SoSoPretty, I am sure you have never been rejected! But for the guys on here it is standard fare.
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BrumbieEvents
11 years ago
Forus are always nice in replying to texts and messages ......... only ones we don't reply to are the many nutters we seem to get
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only time we ignore is when it's a single male being a douche.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like a response as it then closes it off, like some people say you dont read all of them so how does that person know your not interested? But then again id like to think of myself as being a polite person ie P's and Q's standard. Im only really talking about messages too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am someone who appreciates a reply. Since I appreciate it, I also make sure I reply to someone who contacts me, even if I think we are not suitable. From reading several posts on here and experience from friends, some people don't reply as they get attacked by the rebuffed person. Well, I do believe in politeness and honesty. If you say no, I appreciate your time for contacting me and wish you the very best and move on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Id prefer to get or give a simple polite response or thanks but no thanks. But in saying that I'm sure there is a heck of a lot of ladies and couples that get bombarded with messages. In other cases if it's someones actions or rudeness that doesn't require a response for whatever reason then thats fine.
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Forus1234
11 years ago
Thank you brumbies! Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why most of the guys want a reply. If I invest 2 minutes writing a message, I have no emotional investment so it means nothing to me whether I get no response or a no thank you message.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I definitely think a polite "sorry your not my type" answer is best especially after sharing PG's and a few messages. I get the no reply if it's just been a one off message but I do think it's good manners to reply if a few messages have been exchanged. I also appreciate that some women maybe get abuse back by some guys if they tell them no thanks but personally I always appreciate honesty. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
and often end up in little chit chats with people, which is great because it fills my time at work and I find people interesting. Some people are over the top though when you say no and it seems to be worse if you spend any time chatting to them then say no thanks even if you implied that it is only chatting you are interested in.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually find the template response a little tacky and more insulting than getting no response - Posted from rhpmobile
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ontheflipside
11 years ago
Online or offline, treat other in a way that they treat you. this is this real life but instead of being face to face there is a computer screen between everyone. if they take the time to write a short or long message then acknowledge it by a simple reply. if they are rude or gross then no reply is acceptable. simple really.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and they take very little time. A thanks, but no thanks isn't that hard... Is it? We're all big boys and girls and can handle a bit of rejection. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
arrogance is unattractive.its better not to reply if your going to be rude but then if you are it only reflects your true self.RHP should change some its reply to flirts as a "thankyou but I feel we are not compatible "is more than sufficient.People think before replying, what you may think is funny can be more than offensive to someone you don't know.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it is manners to say no as a response The do everyone a favour and block. The there is no chance that person contacting you. Unless you are undecided.... say nothings but don't block.
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PhillipWA
11 years ago
Reply, it's just common courtesy. If they're not even close to matching your profile or otherwise well off base, then fair enough, perhaps no response is warranted. Otherwise a simple 'No' or even one of the stock/reply with flirt/template replies, both are infinitely better than no reply/acknowledgement at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being a down to earth type of guy I understand that most of the females get bucket loads of flirts and messages. If they replied to everyone who flirted and messaged they wouldn't have time to actually meet anyone. I normally only flirt or message (when I am a paid member ) the profiles that I fit what they are looking for. If I don't get a reply I normally take it as a no thanks, I know I am not everyone's cup of tea like some are not mine. As a guy that is lucky to get a request from a female or couple I do reply. I don't take offense, we're here for fun. I've been blocked by some and met some awesome people. Life is too short to dwell on the negatives, SG 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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JODA14
11 years ago
we prefer a response. Hate the silent treatment. Some people don't message back for months (probably after they have searched and haven't found anything) so they are like "hey want to catch up for drinks" we know we are not everyone's cup of tea nor is everybody on rhp our cup of tea but hey that's what it is all about. Finding people and having fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Only nice ladies reply to messages. That is a pretty small % on here
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mussop
11 years ago
I definitely prefer to receive a simple polite "thanks, but no thanks" style message. It just makes it feel like the other person has at least taken the time to read my message, rather than me wondering if the message was simply ignored amidst the pile of others that she has inevitably also received. At least I 'know', and I know not to waste anyone's time with another message or flirt sometime in the future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not hard to just say no thanks. It sucks when you can see someone has viewed your message but just can't be bothered to respond. It's an adult site and if you put yourself out there of course people are going to try and contact you. If you don't like it then why are you on here??
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itsourtimenow66
11 years ago
If someone has taken the time to flirt/ message us, We feel it is politeness to repond, be it either yes or no Each to there own I guess :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi! Nictalica13.:)Thanks for your Interesting thread..I don't really have that Dilemma because I'm a Guest so have 1 msg to save for someone special.Besides I prefer to know that Guys who do Contact Me are Interested in knowing Me more for one reason or another. I read their msgs and reply acknowledging their efforts to open themselves up to a stranger. This way it's very much in My Favour and I don't get refusals. I decide if continuing our contact it's going to work or not. Enjoy Lu:)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would rather the "sorry you're not what I'm looking for" message personally just so I know that they have read and acknowledged that I've put in the effort to message them because each to their own I would rather the rejection (truth) rather than ignoring a message.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would prefer a response even if its the usual no not my type lol.At least you know that way and can stop you becoming a pain in the arse to most people.I know 99% of females on rhp would be flooded with emails and flirts so probably not so easy to respond to them all .but suck it up I want the response lol
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lookintoplay_qld
11 years ago
over young guys or married and cheating people sending flirts that cant read profiles
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone approached you in real life and you weren't interested,would you just walk away? We don't respond anymore to single guys since it seems to be an invitation to try to prove themselves - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We always reply to messages, whether it be flirt or message. If it's a flirt we generally respond with the same, but if they have been looking at our profile frequently, we generally respond with a message with our interest.We'd rather receive an answer to flirt/messages, it's a small place here and getting an answer positive or negative helps. We have had a few responses that just kept on trying, but those are few and far between. Some people you even end up staying in contact with. We have been talking to a lovely couple for quite a while now and we always look forward to hearing from them. There could be lots of reasons for a no anyway that's always helpful to hear, they are either no longer looking for that particular aspect (whether it be couple, single male etc) or just using their profile for the forums now. Helps to know whether they are in fact not interested in you or just no longer interested in contact with anyone. But when the profile has nothing on it but templates, sending a personal message is a bit difficult, apart from saying you like their pics there really isn't much to say except go on about yourself which we find hard to do. All we can really say is, have a look at us, if you are interested, tell us about yourself and we will have a conversation to get to know one another better MR
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or is it? I think personally I prefer to get a reply. No reply I understand is a reply in itself but, one can often wonder, did it get over looked, unread etc. I'm a decent person with manners and treat others as I would like to be treated. If somebody offers me something and I don't want it, I reply no thanks. It's the same on here for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
A response to me is just a common courtesy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
you sent a message to someone and you are outside their seeking criteria (age, smoking, attached status etc) then you should not expect a response. If you send a boilerplate message which makes it look like you are just using the scatter gun approach then you should not expect a response. If you are disrespectful or send a one word message or some gibberish text speak then you should not expect a response. If the message does not come within the above and the person has obviously read your profile then I think they deserve a reply even if you are not interested. But flirts i seem to be getting alot of so it is difficult to reply to all of them. I wouldnt even bother with the ones from guests with no pictures, no content in their profile that request that i message them. But i have not been here long so i am sure they will fade away once i am no longer considered new blood. Oh and sometimes messages get lost in my inbox So really it depends on the circumstances whether the person gets a reply.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being polite and sending a reply either way keeps the reason for being here real and not like the cold machine orientated world on the outside.It's what separates us from the computer generated profiles that are indifferent to your feelings.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We always send a reply as then at least they know we have had a few not reply and then do several months later as it seems since they couldn't get it on with their number 1-50 targets they move down the list would prefer a no thanks so we can stop wasting time on people who obviously don't think we are worth their time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My position is that if someone has taken the time to send you a message, even if it is a template, then a short reply should be forthcoming. It is only respect for your fellow RHP's
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Much prefer an answer, isn't it just common courtesy?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's so rude when you don't get a reply. A polite no I'm not your type shows respect and manners. Two very easy traits to have. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We prefer "thanks but no thanks" so that we can eliminate the particular profile from the list of possibles. You are never quite sure otherwise (we got a reply to one of our contacts 3 months after we sent it). We attempt to reply to all contacts received. Having said that, to reply or not is really a personal choice.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hate it when the girls don't reply to me, I find it very rude. I'd want a reply regardless of the outcome, whether it be a good or bad response I just want one lol. I'm a straight man and I've had bi curious men ask to catch up and I simply say to them sorry but I'm not interested in guys then the convo ends. I message quite a few local girls around my area and I get maybe 5% responses whether they were yes or no, I've even messaged random people to say to them that I appreciate the photos they put up and how sexy they look and still don't get a response. That just makes me think these girls are up themselves and know they look good they just want the compliments. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would rather get a responce, as at least it gives you a clear idea of how the other person feels. And you are not left in the dark wondering if your message got through or not,
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joanne1991
11 years ago
It's pretty much the same with friend requests, never messages, never flirted yet asks to be a friend and when you delete for the next 10 days same people asking the same question, message me am happy to answer and either say yes or no when you have at least shown an interest rather than wanting to be a friend to look at private galleries. I do and try to be polite and answer everyone but some days have so many just can't get to them all. If they take the time to flirt or message then I think we should all show them the same consideration with a response whether it's what they expect or not. I don't like wasting people's time or them wasting mine.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that if someone has gone to the effort to contact you, then some form of reply is good. Having said that, I'm sure that my inbox is much quieter than some others...and that a reply to large numbers of messages may be a bit onerous. But to me, silence has a touch of rudeness to it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think if someone makes the effort to express interest by email and it's not creepy or offensive, then a response regardless of interest should be done. But winks may be a little different. so many winks are sent to people, I can understand if someone does not respond to winks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
is to send a response. As others have said, it only takes a minute and let's people know where you are at.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I totally agree, and make the effort to reply to a message. Its daunting sending a message in the first place, so any reply is appreciated. Yes, its a personal choice, but manners dont cost a thing. I will say, there have been a couple of first messages I have ignored, but they were the "Hey, I want to fuck ur pussy all night' type of ones.
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oynalol
11 years ago
if you have nothing nice to say than it its best to say nothing... as posted above silence is an answer on its own.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll always reply to say thanks for messaging me, sorry you're not what I'm after but wish you all the best on here. I've never gotten a rude response back always thanked for being polite and courteous enough to reply even though it was a rejection. I'm polite and courteous in person and don't want to be different because I'm on this site. Just because others are on here shouldn't be treated any different as if I knew them in person. You can always create a template reply that you can just automatically send back to people you're not interested in
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blackbig
11 years ago
I prefer responce. I always try to respond too..more than 99%. Sometimes I am just too busy 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry guys but I have been, tried, all o seem to eve get is guys browsing my profile. I'm sure I only want females. And I have no one that can vouch for my loving ways. Help, or am I jusy a ugly ducing - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sending "I-hope-I-get-lucky" emails to those hot and sexy 25 yo girls whose profiles scream out that they want to be fucked by a sex-god. And if I do get an email from a lovely lady, I always reply, though it may not be straight away. Heyyyyyyyyyy, I got priorities you know 😥... Working... Cleaning the toilet... You know, all those important things that just need to get done 😉 S'nP
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RHP User
11 years ago
ur brad pitt ladies dont want to know u - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We would prefer a reply, mainly due to the fact we don't send out high volume messages. If a profile sounds like it may be suited to what we are looking for and we are both comfortable with the profile we've looked over, we'll send a message. I even state in our profile a reply is appreciated, as part of what we are looking for. Ideally a message reply, as a flirt reply, in my eyes is a waste of time. If people have read our message, looked at our profile and not replied I generally wipe them as an option. I'm also not keen on people who write/reply with xxx's and/or over flirty initially. It may be what works between single people, but, as half of a couple and that our initial contact message is quite respectful and polite, I expect something similar in return.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'blowngm'unless ur brad pitt ladies dont want to know u Why would women want to know you if you don't give them a single reason? You don't have a pic up and your entire profile is template. So it's not you who the women refuse, but a grey ghost with nothing to say for himself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Meander sorry, if I click on someone's profile and there are no visible photos and the bulk if not all of the profile is only filled with templates, it puts me off, and doesn't peak my interest. I'm happy to wait until a few messages have been exchanged to see a face pic, but it's nice to see something, maybe a torso shot, which seems to be the most popular with guys on here. Also if you put some time into filling out your profile and describing yourself better, it would look like you are serious and are willing to put some time in to get to know someone. Also when a profile is all templates it makes me think a guy is on the lazy side and would he be lazy like that in bed. I hope this helps you out and good luck :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would just like to thank everyone for their time in reading and replying to my post. I was rather conflicted about it as I prefered no response than a no thanks :/ However now, for the most part, I have changed my mind on that. I think from now on, if I get a nice message, I will reply either way, whether to show my interest or a no thanks, since they have made an effort to message me. If I get a gross/disgusting message straight off, (ie I wanna fuck your pussy) without even an hello, I will however probably still ignore it. Anyway, thanks again everyone for taking the time to post and help answer my question. I have only just started looking at the forums, (after being on here for a few months lol) and have to say I am finding them very interesting . Good luck everyone, hope you all find what your looking for ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Offen we have replied with thanks but no thanks as a simple reply, it the honest way to be. In saying that we have had messages with a double meaning. They have been left unanswered for a good reason.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have in fact been rejected on here...I've been "rejected" by someone actually posting in this thread. Regardless of how I feel about myself, I know I won't be everyone's type. Especially here in Australia... Also, I hate how he everyone assumes that someone is being rude when they don't respond. I check messages on here on Fridays after work and Sundays if I'm not doing anything . Any messages and responses sent during the week just pile up and by the time I check it, I only want to respond to those who may fit what I'm looking for. I used to read every message, but there literally is just too many. I have since realized I should probably be more specific about who I'm looking for and that would cut back a lot of the messages. I'm not trying to brag because there really is no benefit to receiving a lot of messages. I'm only looking for one person, yet I'm still on here and I'm currently having sex with no one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No response doesn't necessarily mean bad manners, as basically it is a response when everyone on this site has an agenda. A fantasy, lust, passion the list goes on. If you click with someone... And there is that attraction then hold on to them. Send a flirt... You never know where it could lead .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I personally would prefer no response myself. To me that is an answer in itself. :) Not replying is a total lack of respect and education. It doesn't matter if you are not interested in the profile of this person. If you are lazy, you can create a template and send a basic message such as Thank you for your message, I appreciate it but I am not taking this further with you. Bye.How hard is that??Some people have to learn manners on this website
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RHP User
11 years ago
How exactly is not replying a lack of education? What is the correlation there? I think some of you are saying this because it may hurt your feelings if you really want to talk to that person. Creating a template would be great, but then I'd have to actually open the messages to send the template. Is there an auto reply feature if someone doesn't fit the preferences set on your page? I'm sure I said this before, but I used to read every single message I received . Then I changed it to reading messages from single males in a certain age range first, replying, then reading the others if I have time...Not to mention reading the replies to messages you've responded to. You can't respond to everyone, even if you are a little bit interested in them. Who has time to sort through that many messages and people, and keep them all straight?
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RHP User
11 years ago
What are you talking about? Education has absolutely nothing to with it. You are raised with manners it is a given however if you don't want to respond so be it..... I have to wonder about you people, when it gets up your nose when you don't get a response. Clearly the person you sent the message to, doesn't want to take things any further. What's the big deal?? Do you sit behind your keyboard seething like a little sook? Speaking of manners - How about your name on here "Expected Hot Fun" - well if that isn't rude then I have no idea what is......... Seriously what the fuck do you really expect! The Devil with a hot poker in your ass I assume. After reading your profile it seems you are contradiction in yourself...........educated also would mean good grammar and oh dear dare I say - manners. EXPECTATIONS do my head in on this site. Dream on - we want that little bit of wonderland - GOODLUCK
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RHP User
11 years ago
The simple reason why so many are saying that they would prefer no response at all to being given an honest answer is because once the honest answer is given it is final. But with no response they can play this little mind game with themselves that maybe, just maybe he might respond with the words I want to hear today. THAT is what it is all about, regardless of the other reasons given.You want to maintain the fantasy, but the honest answer ruins that fantasy. Yet what is that one thing that women always say they want from guys.........HONESTY. But if it's honesty she doesn't want to hear, then fantasy over rules honesty. Why would you not want someone to be upfront and honest, but would prefer the vagueness of no response because maybe, just maybe, today might be the day that they answer with the words you wanted to hear. If my honest answers upsets your stance on fantasy, then sorry. But last time I checked reality over ruled fantasy. Do we go by the realistic results, or do we ignore them to maintain the fantasy ? But to be fair, I have had a woman send me messages from 5 different sites, I politely declined on all 5 sites, yet do you think this woman can take a hint. Do I keep repeating myself over and over, or do I take a hard line stance and tell her to take a fucking hint, which them makes me the bad guy and she runs to tell all her online friends what a prick I am. Work that out ?Yet if I didn't respond to her at all, she will be thinking that maybe I am interested in her but haven't had time to respond yet. Why add to the confusion when you can address the issue in one response. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on this subject, but please show me how being upfront and honest is not the best policy. If anyone has a problem hearing "sorry, you aren't what I am looking for" then the real problem lies with your inability to deal with rejection.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it is nice to get a reply whether its good or bad, just some common courtesy. Too bad so many people stuff it up for the nice people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always reply to messages and flirts be it a negative or positive response. I think if someone takes the time to contact you it's polite to respond. If the response is negative I always thank the lady for her interest and say that she's not exactly what I'm looking for. So far I've never been abused and almost always thanked for replying. People wouldn't ordinarily just glare and walk away if approached in a polite manner at a club and yet seem to be happy to throw away all that is genial in places like this.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_Outdoors' If the response is negative I always thank the lady for her interest and say that she's not exactly what I'm looking for. A man turning down women on here? What is this world coming to?!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Up to each person on how they take or send a response or no response... What's worse is when people send a reply they exchange numbers (yes seen face pics) then based on the first respectful words via texting not here nothing at all? Shit
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe its good manners and polite to respond to any messages that meet the criteria set in the profile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Little rock really, next. That's my take and you asked for it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just because someone sends you a nessage does not mean you have an obligation to reply. Check the RHP terms and conditions. No where do the T&C make it mandatory to reply to every single message. It is solely up to the receiver. If it upsets you when you don't get a reply -too bad. Seriously. Swallow your dissapointment, pull up you big boy/girl panties and move on. And to those who use the passive-agressive tactics of "it's only good manners" or "uneducated if you don't" to attempt to coerce people to do as you demand. My reply is "pffft".
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I agree.... Foxy
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