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Too much f**king honesty?
June 24 2020
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Just4Fun007007
5 years ago
Maybe I should move to brissie, Lol. I can barely get anyone the talk let alone multiple dates on the same day. Wtf??? And yeh, very rude.
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TheNLMevents
5 years ago
we like to do the social meets First after chatting to see if there is some sexual chemistry and attraction but the posters are the ones we often steer clear of because they often a literally full of s***
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RHP User
5 years ago
Not really sure why they would need to be fitting you in between two dates anyways. Nice to be thinking about the one woman at any given time. Sort of helps build up the suspense of the whole meet. Keep looking jess rabbit 🐰 seems like your luck will change
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RHP User
5 years ago
Sounds like a used car salesman........
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RHP User
5 years ago
Maybe wgats missing on this site is a culture of helping each other to promote outselves better. Im a nice guy, but i havent had a conversation on here, or any other dating site, ive promoted myself as looking for FWB, friends, GFs, everything. I got no responses. I dont know what women want. Ive put forward my nice guy face, my stable relationship side, my sexy side, ive even played the jerk card. What does my profile say that is scaring you all away.
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RHP User
5 years ago
The "many" that they see? Hell, I've been on here for years and still can't find just one. I'm not asking for much, regular weekly meetups fwb, I'd rather have one really good arrangement, than waste my time seeing how many I can accumulate. They probably still think that it makes them look cool. Peace, Dean.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Thats a turn off for shore if a lady said that to me though im new here ild run
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
I think a number of the guys are missing the point... I guessing by her posts that Jessica is all too aware that we're all sleeping with each other, it just doesn't need to be a locker room bragathon. At least amoungst the couples we know there's a certain amount of telling war stories, it's all part of the fun and gives you an idea of where the other people are at... but you're not using names or trying to score points. You can't tell your vanilla friends this shit, so for some of us it's a way to decompress, from good adventures and bad. As to the single guys complaining and this might not be a popular view, but swinging is mainly a couples game. You might catch the odd single, but I'd bet a huge amount on the fact that 95% of the meets from here are couples meeting other couples. You're not getting replies because people aren't looking. There's always the exception, so don't shoot the messenger, is just the reality of it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I wish someone would fuck me I must be an ugly bugger flat out to get a reply if I send 50 messages lol
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hey, not all men are the same,and certainly not the ones on here also, I happen to work as a DJ in a Swingers Club, Yeah I get propositions,although dont believe in mixing business with pleasure, first of all I have to meet said person first as I believe there's got to be some sort of chemistry/connection otherwise to me the sex is just meaningless.. Might want to look more into the profile of the guys your hooking up with, Players are always gonna play..
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RHP User
5 years ago
You can't change people but you can change the choice you make.
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RHP User
5 years ago
With all due respect, I’ve never really had the problem of guys listing their conquests out of context to me... A. GF You should be the reason they don’t even think about it 😏 B. I think it’s kinda hot sharing stories with the right lovers at the right time 😘🤫
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RHP User
5 years ago
Plus.. most importantly aren’t these men just the same to us? The same as you say they are with women? I think the less expectations we put on being in this realm of the world, the more everyone would enjoy themselves 😏 💛✨💋
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RHP User
5 years ago
Fuck I must be doing something wrong, I can’t even get a like on here
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don't care how many people my Bulls have fucked as long as they get tested before meeting me it's all good.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Agree...next!
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RHP User
5 years ago
I am looking for a date, is here anyone wants a lover kind a man? I will stay loyal and love you more!!
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RHP User
5 years ago
You’d be safe with me, I’m not getting any
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RHP User
5 years ago
Fit ne
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RHP User
5 years ago
Thats terrible
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RHP User
5 years ago
Nail on the head. Nothing more off putting end of story.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It's like something out of Black Mirror.
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RHP User
5 years ago
It’s an interesting take on the “to much honesty” view. I do agree 100% I personally don’t get it anywhere near as much as a couple of female friends I know. From a guys point of view Iv shut the door (so to speak) on a couple of women that have done this to me. There’s nothing wrong with healthy competition but if I’m interested in someone they have all my focus and attention.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Fuck me
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi guys I have nooo idea what I’m doing or how to use this app 😂 BUT agree with the original sentiment, don’t think being one of many on the same day would work for me... 😬
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Oceanbluedrive
5 years ago
It's very unnecessary hear those things, happened with women saying the same. Guess some people have a lack of confidence and fear of failure, they book many dates possible in a day and if turn interest in you will cancel the others after or will give a excuse to you to jump in the line. I don't have plan b or c, if doesn't click I'll go home alone and chill. That's nothing wrong with that. More than happy to have a drink with you and give my attention and time. 😉
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yes
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RHP User
5 years ago
Love to meet with you Jessica_rabbit I’ll be in Brisbane in a few weeks Dinner and drinks somewhere first ?
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hi an OZ in Dubai would like to keep in touch with you let me know if you would like the same thanks
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RHP User
5 years ago
I totally agree with you 100%. It is a huge turn off to know that you are just another pussy among so many others. Completely unacceptable. Good to know I am Not the only one who thinks and feels that way.
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RHP User
5 years ago
im a rare virgin but its a fact that girls go for guys that are interested in other girls thats why ill never have any luck
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RHP User
5 years ago
I only focus on what's Infront of me....never behind xx
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RHP User
5 years ago
Ive discovered over time that not all but certainly a great number of men pursue sexual partners very strategically. It can be safely assumed that since The Game was published, the notion of utilising psychological tactics to increase the effectiveness of men's advances on women has become widespread knowledge, much more accessible to the average male, who will you often apply manipulation as he sporting tips. There's a very committed by used tactic in the business world, called rivalry. A simple example. Two individuals are made aware they are in direct competition with each other. The result of this perceived rivalry, is that they be more inclined to greater efforts to win. It doesn't always work, but it doesn't need to effect both rivals to effect either one. You can use many rivals, one rival, a famous person. I've only just now realised writing this that you could even use porn as the rival, forcing your partner to increase thier efforts in competition to win your attention back from the porn. Not all, but some of these guys will be using the influence of these 'rivals' to stimulate your competitive nature to thier own benefit. I'm not as sexist as I seem, women are as guilty of employing the influence of a rival, but I haven't had one practise their game on me with as little subtlety as they do a soccer ball yet. Look it up ladies, rivalry. I guarantee at least a few aren't being honest as much as they are being deliberately revealing. I lost a good female friend who was more vulnerable than I was to the ploy, I suppose because it was her I was interested in. He used a deliberate manipulation that destroyed her friendship for me in order to 'wring more concessions' from us both. It's a tactic that relies on making its 'victims' feel less good about themselves, less secure in thier ability to attract and keep the perpetrator. God help me, I'm probably going to regret having written this.
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RHP User
5 years ago
There are many possible answers. Our response to things is a reflection of what we want – even when we don’t admit this to ourselves. Our ego is what it is. We have subconscious needs, etc. We are complex human beings. For some people, they would like to feel like they are the only person that the object of their attraction/lust/affection is interested in and when that object expresses a relaxed view (i.e. of seeing other people etc) and they feel emotionally let down or somewhat upset by that, it’s a sign to stop and ask or re-evaluate what is being sought or re-evaluate one’s needs. Could it be that the person is seeking something more than casual? Do they have emotional needs, rather than purely sexual needs? Because to me, your response indicates that you’re seeking people with a bit more substance in terms of what they seek. This sense of rivalry (as mentioned above) is real. Maybe it goes to evolution. I’ve had many a girlfriend tell me that men are about sex and little else, in the sense of men being about spreading their seed (in an evolutionary sense, of how they are wired). I’ve had some guy friends say that men are about the hunt. Once they get the prey, it’s all done, they move on. Basically, casual sex is what it should be – casual. In theory, it shouldn’t really matter what others do with other people, but your response is an important sign for you to evaluate. When people get upset about the reality of other people, in a casual setting/context, then it’s a sign that they want something more and no, it doesn’t have to be a committed relationship, but it’s usually a sign that they seek something more substantial than a one night stand or singular fuck. The other view is that when men are behaving like this, it can be for any reason: a. They may want to create the type of rivalry situation as Nameless said, in their comment above. b. They may just want sex and nothing more, and they have registered something subconscious in you that has set their inner alarm off (subconscious cues, even in our voices, or what is expressed in writing can be cues) and they want to reinforce that they definitely do not want anything ongoing. c. Myriad other things, but the point is that there is little to be gained spending time speculating. People who experience repeated encounters with the ‘same types’ of people need to confront themselves and why they seek out these types. I think ultimately, you need to establish what you really want. I was reading the blog/site page of that author who wrote Everything is F*cked and the Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and his dating advice is basic and it make sense. When a person is encountering the same type of people they need to ask themselves what they (yes they) are doing to attract that. This, “it’s everyone else or the fault of all the men who are like this” is not an excuse. When the same type of people are being encountered, a person has to really be brutally honest with themselves and confront the issues.
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RHP User
5 years ago
i think their is a difference between being honest and being an over dramatising Knob just saying
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RHP User
5 years ago
WOW! you are a listener. Rare, regardless of what gender you are. From my experience many moons ago and before this site, listening to ones style to converge with you tells a lot. From my uni days, You'd hear fellow cohorts talks of their exploits in O-week, summer break and social functions. But did they? was typically my question. I guess Im old school, as actions means more than words, but when words are what one expresses initially, says a lot. I agree, mystery goes a long way. Discovery is fun, when the challenge prior is tight roping (metaphor). The conquest is not that one got into another's pants/ belt notches. Its finding and pushing more and more buttons that you both/ or 3 or more are sexually growing.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I disagree - your experience might be limited to the younger guys who see every fuck as a trophy... For us older men it is about connection first, providing pleasure and experience to the woman, in other words - it is about her rather than us... No wonder some older women set a minimum limit they would not date under :-) At the very same time arranging a date with an older woman seems a rather arduous task - they are very cautious, don;t have time, other things to do, something comes up, car trouble, they don't have anything to wear (I wish that one came up so I can say not to wear anything )... Still, there is only one way to make sure you know if the match is real - to meet in person :-)
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RHP User
5 years ago
In my experience people don't like honesty. I love it
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RHP User
5 years ago
I have to tell you Jessica Rabbit, being honest here which is on topic, you seem to like bashing your opinion and quashing others, always having the last say, even calling people names like a "wankstain", but sitting on your throne giving advice lol who really cares what you think
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RHP User
5 years ago
Ok so I’m not all that up with everything but I’m under the impression that it really doesn’t matter how many partners we have, we either find the right “one” after the first time or the 40th (as a random indication only) or if not after a relationship then who cares? It’s not a sport where the most wins, it’s about quality over quantity right??
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RHP User
5 years ago
they are pigs. thinking of themselves or trying to be someone they are not. if a man is going to behave like that - just politely tell them to move on. yes its a worry when you don't know where the other person has been - !! probably a reason to stay clear of them from a health perspective. an escort told me this once.
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RHP User
5 years ago
At the end of the day, irrespective of what people say, women like to think they are number one and I suspect men feel similar but don't care to admit it. As much as I am casual, I don't like the sense of being one of many and if I guy told me about fitting me in...or if it was a 'short' visit or whatever, then that takes it down to being like a professional and I tell them to go see a sex worker. Because as much as I like sex, I'm not a sex worker. Sure sex workers have their place, but they're paid to 'leave'. When women choose to be with a guy, they choose to interact and if a woman goes with a guy more than once and it becomes a multiple series of intimate times, then - and I don't care if people differ in view - there is a connection formed. Now when a person brags and so on, it says more about them and their insecurity. it's all about courtesy and respect. When a guy tells you all about the dates he is having and so on, then they're not really respectful.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I'm relatively new to being single and made that mistake badly last week. An old friend who told me she was on here encouraged me to join. Did, and we started talking about fucking. It took 8 months and we shared LOTS. She's regularly doing 3-somes and has a number of FB's. We live in different states and I have a few FBs too. I flew up to see her and we met again after all that time and the tension was exquisite. Got it on and the sex was good as we both expected. We went to cafes and restaurants and even had a look at her home. We lined up a couple of nights in a row and I needed to travel a day later to see a sick relative. I told her I was going to see him and due to where I was going and having 3 FB's there, I made the UUUUUUGE mistake of painting scenarios with them, thinking that would turn her on and make me look as 'experienced' as her. Fuck me. I couldn't have been more wrong. Destroyed the visit, the relationship and the friendship in a nano-second. It came off so callous and I've been apologising without forgiveness since. She was really fucking hurt and I fucking hurt her. Blokes think (mistakenly) that women are as shallow as we men can too often be with sex and emotional issues. I think it's fair that regardless of how filthy the sex is, there's always a need for dignity. My hard-learned advice is to park your bragging boys and remember that your partner has dignity and deserves respect. She wants and deserves it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
A potential new lover decided to tell me on a first meet that he had just had a drink with someone else, fingered her under the table and that she was so overwhelmed she needed to think it before going any further. I’m still wondering how I’m supposed to find this a turn on 🧐 Am I the only person who find profiles with pics of people fucking other people a turn off? Are these pics there as proof that they can do it?
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