M65
Venting
January 28 2015
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
The f%÷×€£g C###t who stole my manly ute and all my fucking tools........ bring my fucking new handbag back......
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RHP User
10 years ago
You had your ute stolen?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
You dont realise the stuff you keep in it till its gone. Very odd feeling looking at where your car was. Standing in my running gear with no house keys, no money. Not anything and began raining. Felt lost and worthless. Temptation to just sit under a tree and cry. It was a low point experience that can never be forgotten. Hard to describe as i try and rebuild my identity
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thats a great way to end your week. Hope you get it back in one piece, plus your tools. Pricks
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm sending you some of my good luck today, albeit virtually. You seem to be needing it a lot more than I do, after all that's happened to you lately *Big big hugs* - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Stealing a car is one thing, stealing a bloke's work car and tools is an altogether different type of low act. Hugs xx
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Annie that's awful. I feel for you gorgeous. Wish I could give you a big hug.. And I may touch your arse a little. My vent..... Why does a 28 year old have to be so frigging hot and have this gorgeous manly body that I want so bad... 😒😪😪😪😪😪 the world is a cruel place
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RHP User
10 years ago
that's fucked. I can only imagine how devastating that would have been. I don't understand theft and crime, why they can't keep their greasy mitts off other people's property. I live in a high crime area now, never did before, and it's been an eye opener for me. Cars get broken into every night and when I have guys here, particularly with utes, I get them to bring anything valuable in and leave nothing visible in their car, and usually let them know, if I remember, before they come. We mostly have smash and grab around here but utes with tools are a target. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Funny, when I lived over near the coast in a safe/low crime suburb, I had a fb over there, told him I was moving here and he said he wouldn't come to visit me for this very reason. He has a ute with tools on the back and has had them stolen here before. He won't even do work in this area anymore. Hopefully they'll find your ute and the tools will turn up. I would have been just like you though re sitting under the tree in the rain, and your keys and everything, God that sucks. Feel so bad for you xx
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Cancelled all my cards. Just as the monthly pie membership deduction was due. FFS. Reverted to a guest now. And no way to pay until i get my new cards. Whats next apart from a week without cock pics. Dont think much else can go wrong
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RHP User
10 years ago
Only the female redbacks are deadly. They are the small ones. Annie So your wallet and keys were in the car? Phone also? What did cops say? Any news? They will probably use your ID to hock your tools at hock shops. Might be an idea to visit or ring a few and ask if any new tools came in, or if your identity was used.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe the female redbacks are a lot bigger than the male. Only the female has the red stripe on the upper side of the abdomen. Anyhow, funny story - I was sorting out laundry to put into the washing machine...shaking them out, going through pockets for tidbits kids like to put in their pockets. Onto the ground drops a black spider, the size of a 20c piece! I jumped backwards shrieking and blurting out obscenities before realising it was just a plastic toy. I don't know which one of my little angels thought it would be funny to give their mum the scare of her life but I did not think it funny at the time 😠😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
No phone was the only thing i had. Or i would still be standing there i think. Because it was stolen in CBD area, tools could go in any direction/suburb. Onl id i had left at home was my boat licence. Ever tried to rent a car with a boat licence?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
The male redbacks dont have a redback? Yeah I knew the females were the deadly ones, but didnt realise the males didnt have the strip. Learning on Rhp. Who'da thunk it possible. Lol. We have lots up in Bris lately. Been finding them under chairs and tables outside
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Seachange73
10 years ago
who warn abusive men of the knowledge that some women are aware of their abusive behavior. Why rat on the victim? What will this person achieve? Now the woman's safety is compromised. Happy now? you weasel.... Get a life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My ex had a close encounter... She bought some red grapes and was digging her hand in as she put the shopping away. Luckily her eye sight was keen...because she managed to spot the red back living amongst the grapes. It was extremely difficult to see, tucked under the branches, and prior to that she wasn't even looking when she dug her hand in. Scary stuff.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Been at placement a week and am already sick
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madotara69
10 years ago
So i've lost instant posting after four..five years six even, and all I can get is a generated response, signed off, re-open ticket asking further and three days nothing, first time contacting the mods, other than monetary matters in the years as a financial member, first time instant posting has been revoked and haven't even been in the sandpit. Happened same time site shut down for maintenance ? Where's Jimmy Mods ?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Fire at my apartment block. 2am evacuation and a checkout of the array of pajamas and dressing gowns. Now no power till? Seem to be owning this thread lately.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hope you are ok and nobody got hurt. Did you get your ute back ? Thinking of you hugs Q
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Now i have to prove my good character to the insurance company for the missing ute after a phone interview. Cant upload documents because no power for PC. And cant attack the tub of ice cream in the freezer. Its melted. Goodness me.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Must be an upgrade glitch. Youve hardly posted lately and no reason at all to revoke it due to negative postings. Your writings always bring a smile. Come on mods!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Where do I find the Forums on the updated mobile app? I can only see the ones I'm following on my "stream". 😡 **getting frustrated at being technologically illiterate ** - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since the last upgrade, the loggin has changed. If you can get to the lime green loggin page, it should have at the top mobile or desktop version. It will automatically go to the mobile page if you dont click on desktop... Every time you log in. Grrrr. Oh well, maybe the powers that be dont want people finding their way to the forums....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Went you first go to forums from the menu, you will be in Recent. To the right is the tab for Active. But on the right is a greyed out tab Forums. It doesnt look like a link but it is and takes you to the full forum list/categories. Took me ages to find it. I always wanted to be blonde.....
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madotara69
10 years ago
7 days...silence admission of guilt ?
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
So even your comment on cleaning acts has been...well cleaned. I can see it on my feed but nooooo. It has vanished, just like magic. Lots of cleaning going on....I wish they were at my place, the floors beed a good steam clean. What annoys me about this mornings clean up is that my post where I outed myself and tackled the misconceptions was up for a matter of hours, whereas the one which gave me a pasting stood for day/s. Right of reply seems a fairer system.
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RHP User
10 years ago
They are like train wrecks you don't want to look but you simply can't look away. Fun times. 👀L
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ooh, chilly nite in Brisbane this morning (its almost 250am) Looking forward to winter when Luck_Dragon and her profile pic will be strutting around in bikinis/ lingerie still. 😜 I'll refrain from saying it gets cold here out of respect for those who live much further south 😛
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RHP User
10 years ago
It was freezing in bris this morning, I think we would have given the southerners a run for their money.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Forum hogging... what's with that? And in almost every topic! Why? We don't need to know every thought in your mind every time one pops in your head. Where does one even find the time?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was I thinking I had been very restrained lately lily 😷😷 Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hello everyone.. I have a vent, a problem and I would like any good advice as to whether I am within "normal" OR am I over reacting.... please.. First the history... When I was married, one night my then husband went to a doctor in the evening (short version) he did not come back home.... about 9am the next morning I finally get a phone call saying he'd been admitted to hospital about 11pm the night before. I was tired and sad and angry. I had waited up all night for him to come home - he didn't come home. Apparently - me being upset over this was stupid and silly. Of course - I should have KNOWN that he was admitted. Later - I found out that the nurses had asked him if there was anyone that should be contacted - he had told the nurses "no one worth contacting"... There are reasons as to why he is an EX now.... okay thats water under the bridge - but guess what.. it still bloody hurts! Lets fast forward to the current day... So now.... I've been seeing one particular man for some time (about 8 months). Things are not "perfect" but mostly its damn good. Last Friday he sets a date for this week. Monday arvo he stops chatting in texts.. nothing .. this is strange as we had texted every day - even if it was just a simple "good morning" there was something every day... So, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.... Nothing. (No date on Wednesday)... Sooooo On Thursday I send a short text "Have you vanished?" No response... A few hours later, feeling angry, sad, pissy, bitchy, disappointed etc etc.. I send him a nasty text ... to which he immediately responded with "Settle, I've been in hospital. Get all the facts before you go off the rocket".... My immediate responsive feeling was "OMG It's happened again.... I'm not important enough in someone's life to be told whats going on" More anger sets in A couple hours later (lots of tissues later) I ask him what happened He responded with one word "migraine".... According to him - I'm not allowed to be upset with him, I have no right to be upset, and its just what it is??? WTF??? Why couldn't he tell me he wasn't well. or volunteer the migrain information earlier, or even respond to the "have you vanished question? I know ... no-one can answer FOR him.... What pisses me off the most is that this guy claimed the LOVE word 6 weeks prior - wanting an exclusive friendship... Really? :( Soo folks - am I wrong to be upset with this current guy that is supposed to be in love with me? Was I wrong to worry for 3 to 4 days, was I wrong to think I had earned his respect? Was I wrong to think he'd tell me about important stuff - like being in hospital thus can't communicate or make the pre-arranged date? I'm ... lost .... any advice is appreciated
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well, I have had only 2 migraines in my life, and I've never experienced such intense, nausea-inducing pain in my life. I'd have not known how to get myself to hospital, let alone tell all, or care to tell, all the relevant people where I was. So I can appreciate why he wasn't thinking of anything else. In my experience, it's a out of this world pain. Seems this new guy is getting the intensity of the hurt, from your previous experiences, and can understand why it seems out of the ball park to him.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Maybe try reason to the situation at hand, without right or wrong. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
No easy way to say this. This is why men like to stay single. You don't own them, all seems a bit loop de loop to me and them I suspect 😯
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
To me, he was capable of replying to your nasty text but glossed over your previous message. A response earlier would have been a normal thing to do. Just a few words would have stopped things from escalating. We have to oresume he was incapable of communication but i would have thought he could have got a nurse to send an explanatory text to you if you were at the top of his emotions radar. But we are all different. Maybe he is a bit lacking in the care factor. Emotionally vacant. Or perhaps he's thinking of you as just an exclusive fwb. I know my girlfriend would have got some notification somehow if i was in that situation. Food for thought. Tread carefully and just be careful of where you are hanging your emotions for the short term.
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RHP User
10 years ago
8 months and you text each other every day. Then silence. Then you send a dominant text and he reacts. Me thinks he has something else on the boil and he has you on the back burner simmering. Ok if he has been in hosp, fair enough but he has replied to you that he has BEEN in hosp. He's out now, and couldnt text you like he normally did. If that was my situation I would be putting him on the back burner. Dont contact him and see if he makes contact. That will tell you if the relationship has changed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have had some experience with guys who displayed very similar behaviour. I can't say for sure in your case without knowing all the details but as some others have said it doesn't really add up and if I were you I'd be treading very carefully and not contacting him at all. It's on him now to contact you and explain his side of things. If he doesn't, you know where you stand and you should cut him off for good.
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RHP User
10 years ago
don't let him blindside you with the 'oh you're overreacting' bullshit. To me that's another red flag...using the tactic of trying to turn things around on you and make you into the one with the problem. It's emotional manipulation and regardless of his actual intentions you shouldn't put up with it.
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madotara69
10 years ago
spent time with Tara when we were younger, she use to get migraines, three days often, curled up in a ball, light hurt her and she would be vomiting throughout the time until all she had left was bile, chiropractic treatment every fortnight, tough going it was, pain killers did nothing, couldn't keep them down anyhow. During that time all I could do was care to the kids and to her and even once the migraine passed, she was exhausted, stomach damaged and if you haven't been through something like that, lucky that's for sure. One week on, one week off, just a migraine ? if it was and he'd been to hospital, give the poor bugger a break. Sorry Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' One week on, one week off, just a migraine ? if it was and he'd been to hospital, give the poor bugger a break. and he still can't even send a 4-6 word text in reply to her asking where he is, only bothering to once she gets angry? As DP pointed out he was out of hospital by then. He only needed to send a text, not climb a mountain. Going on the info we have it doesn't wash with me.
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madotara69
10 years ago
"A few hours later, feeling angry, sad, pissy, bitchy, disappointed etc etc.. I send him a nasty text ... to which he immediately responded with "Settle, I've been in hospital. Get all the facts before you go off the rocket".... Emotional manipulation ? What info we have, plus this light would have been painful at the least, enough for the brain to try discard the problem, like sea sickness and people die from dehydration because of it, brain is confused is all. I've been with Tara sea sick and that was a walk in the park compared with the migraines she has had. If he was looking for a fancy way out, "migraine" ? Sounds like a typical answer for having a migraine. He might feel something whatever it's called, because I would. And I hope he is in love with sublooking, love hurts
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RHP User
10 years ago
Summer and Luck Dragon nailed it Reread what you wrote because the answer to your question is in your own posting If he couldn't be bothered contacting you while he was in hospital (ok fair enough) but only when released, he contacted you only to respond to your initial nasty text, well the answer is plain to see. Those two small actions, speaks volumes about both of you and where your 8 month relationship is at. You send a nasty text cause you haven't heard from him, (not a concerned worried one) he sends back a manipulative text which has some elements of doubt about it. And if you guys have said the L word, well what's with all the texting, don't people ring each other anymore when worried about each other ? Remember people can only treat you like shit, if you let them. Id be moving on
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RHP User
10 years ago
is him telling her that she's overreacting etc. She hadn't heard from him for four days after nearly 8 months of daily texting, him telling her he loved her, and missing a planned date. Telling her she's overreacting is bullshit, migraine or not, and yes it's a form of emotional manipulation (obviously worked too). He managed to send a text once she got angry, so it doesn't seem like the light was hurting him at that time. Plus as I said before it was four days later, he was out of hospital, and it's pretty safe to say he would have been over the worst of his migraine by then. Probably also safe to say Mado that this is another topic we're not going to agree on.
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madotara69
10 years ago
I'm just a hopeless romantic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Uxorious hopeless romantic 😇Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
People who genuinely care for you wouldn't treat you that way. Don't settle for this crap.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wish that clubs would stop using slim women in there adverts. Why can't they use curvy (and a few more curves)as their advert.......they look gorgeous too. Although if I worked harder I'd look slim too......
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Not ringing you from the hospital. Total bull! My dad was just in with Brain Tumor removed and would ring me everyday. Sometimes 2-3times, if I was not there. Stop making excuses for this man - he's just not that into you Sub. To me he's stonewalling (deliberately ignoring) you. A good man does not do that. You've mived down his priority ladder. He's distracted by something else and most likely not an ongoing migraine. I agree with others, time to move on. The "L" word means nothing, unless one action it. Good luck with it all - you do deserve better. Ms Foxy xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
To Pepperrose Thank you and yes.... Migraines are a killer. I'm not questioning the authenticity of the migraine - nor the pain levels... over 10 years ago I had a benign tumour - and three years worth of migraines... yes.. the killer migraines... YET through that I still HAD to make sure my kids were looked after ,,, at that time... I had four sons under the age of 12. (I still have four sons - but they are all pretty much grown up now.. lol) It's the communication I'm questioning.... I asked if he'd vanished - a simple question which received no response. BUT as soon as I sent a message which wasn't so nice.. within 60 seconds - I got a response. My question is - is it HUMAN to feel confused - hurt - bewildered... or are my emotions too raised because of past issue with my ex husband. We all have emotions - and I'm learning how to deal with mine. So I ask questions to find out more about what could be considered normal - or am I being over the top and control-freak like. I don't know the answer to this yet.... Thank you for your reply. I do appreciate the effort that you and others have gone to. Its great to read different perspectives - both the positive and negatives.... Cheers
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RHP User
10 years ago
To Matadora69 I promise.. that with the discussions on here - and the gained learning that I've read from you and others - yes. I can say that I'm patiently trying to reason it out with him... and its hard.... he has always had a communication prob - and I accept that, as he is different when we're together. I don't want to change him - but it would be damn nice to actually understand him. Friday night - having a couple drinks with one of my girlfriends.. a few tears.. trying to ask him questions in a way that were not confronting the result was like pulling teeth out of a whale - with a toothpick - and whales don't have teeth!!! hehehehehe I'm trying to work with it in a positive way as I am a hapless romantic at heart. It's not the "relationship" that is the problem .. but the friendship. If he and I can't have a touch of friendship - then .. well.. we have very little left. I met him through RHP. He is no longer on here. Yes its been a pretty damn good FWB "relationship" ... but .... he dropped the L word.... and that too me - well that L word has a meaning that involves more communication than just an everday friendship. Do you not agree? (I'm curious as to what you think) Thank you - for ALL of your comments relating to this topic. I am enjoying reading everything. It's great to also feel a bit less like an alien :) :) Cheers
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' No easy way to say this. This is why men like to stay single. You don't own them, all seems a bit loop de loop to me and them I suspect 😯 hehehehe very true and ... ummmmm :) I agree .. but I don't own him... he does not own me. Humans can never own humans... But mutual respect and communication *should* be evident in long-term friendships, yes? :) About two months ago... I had a stomach ulcer burst.. thought I was going to die. The first person I wanted to talk to was him. And he did talk to me for a good amount of time - till the pain started easing.... I am a complicated person regarding some medical challenges. And I accept this. But ... it was kind of like hitting your head on a brick wall - when a similar pain situation (though his was not ulcer) - but the reverse of the situation had a complete different outcome... Yes I am sad - and yes it did hurt.. but I have to work out for me - if that's a normal feeling or am I being over-the-top.. Thank you for your response :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
To all of you - you are all fantastic and I thank everyone for their responses and insights. On the argument as to whether I am worth more than what I have or not? It's subjective. Yes.. I am worth a hell of a lot. I have a kind heart (most of the time). I prefer to see good in people rather than bad. And I have a heap of emotions that don't like being buried under layers of cement. I prefer cards on the table compared to intricate lies and bullshit. BUT To get the more than what I've got - is like my disability. An ongoing pile of crap to wade through with very little result. How many of us have talked with someone of the opposite sex.. a few messages on here.. some great lively phone calls - maybe even up to the extent where intimate details and wants are swapped. Then .... nothing. I doubt I'm the only one that experiences this. But - countless times, I have chatted with someone, got along with them so well over a number of weeks - a prospective date is decided on - then ... silence. I call it the "nothing" (probably a left over word from watching the Never Ending Story too many times) hehehehe But its sad. And for me .. the "nothing" is way more familiar to me - than the nothing. I am not saying this in some self demoting emotional crap thing... it just is what it is. I'm different to most women. I have a permanent disability that is progressively getting worse. YES watch the rest of the men run away now - the ones that were thinking "maybe I'll send her a message" LOL I'm not shy of who I am - nor have I the power to change the disability - and there is no surgical solution.... But there it is. So between the fact that I do care way too much. Yes I know I get involved too much on my side - leaving myself open for emotional stress. The guy that has gone the distance so far with me - well ... for all his faults on one side of the page - there is the other side of the page.. . the good bits. (nope ... NOT going to reveal those good bits on here - way way way too much fun to chat about... hehehehe) There is only a handful of people that will truly accept me for the me that I am. And even though this makes for a more lonely environment - when it is good, it's great! So when people that I know just vanish - yes I get hurt, I become emotional about it. Because - I don't understand why - as the vanish guys never tell me. And the fact that we're human, well most of us will take it as a negative ego hit rather than a jump for joy. And we just have to keep moving onto the next one - much like a damn meat market.. lol Not long ago ... there was this friendship happening with a guy on here. It was lively, fun, lots of shit stirring - both ways and after a few weeks ... a meeting was getting talked about. Days later, a meeting date was made .. for a "hot weekend". One day before it happened.. all the lead up - the flirting, the laughter, his words that were ALL promising, and that fateful 24 hours before meeting - it stopped. The whole lot .. just stopped. The Nothing happened - yet again. (and if he reas this - I bet you he won't even recognise that its about him) lol Yesss - alas I know - I type too much and too quick ... sorry? (insert lots of smilies here) The vanish act - in long term friendships - hurt. Short term ones can tsill hurt too - but the long term ones, well I hate the vanish act... I'd rather cards on the table - lets finish this, sorry can't meet you, sorry - I don't think we click - even if we can laugh with each other every day... I don't care what excuse is made.. but.. least something is better than the Nothing. I don't want a full on relationship - I'm no where near ready for that. But .... I hate the vanish act. As well, I know the majority is the fact that I have a bit of a disability. Funny part is - the disability, well, there are still many things I can do - so its "their loss" not mine (thats what I tell myself) Does anyone else experience the vanish act from new friends on here? People that come into your life in some way, you have a great time getting to know them - then the Nothing hits - and its all gone. Just like that. Gone. And you never know why. Who else has experienced this? How do you deal with it? Any help would be appreciated! Hugs to everyone! Group hug? :) :) :) p.s. I tell about my disability to anyone that starts becoming friends with me - as I believe its better to be straight up and have the cards-on-the-table, so to speak. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just watched this episode of Four Corners. Absolutely disgusting and the decision by the DPP not to prosecute the two men responsible is incomprehensible
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RHP User
10 years ago
Put up a date finder all going well a sexy couple both bi what we are looking for and sounding perfect. Managed to deflect a guy playing with not one but 2 inflatable girlfriends Lol. Made time and rushed home to get ready sitting waiting waiting Ffs. Radio silence. No show no message no answering their phone. Thanks arseholes. Nights early and haven't given up so back to the inbox and rescue the night. Grrrr
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madotara69
10 years ago
LD, I agree and would stand by you, any where you'd take challenge, too the moon and back if you reckon you could turn it around. If any one got in your way, I'd give them the intimidation look sublooking, What an inspiring reply, I will try my very best. Yes I agree, and that word love I'll shout it out from the roof tops, I did here once and Lady Tuscan, she heard me all the way over there in WA, I've loved Tara since our eyes first met, her eyes smile and sparkle, cheeky and passionate, trusting, inviting, very exciting, certainly live for liking, oh I could go on and off into an whole other tangent, just her eyes... another time perhaps. I had no choice as a young man, 20yrs old, single and a barman amidst a group of elderly successful gentlemen, I'd earned their respects, advices, principals and once I could speak the words back to them, as learnt and understood the importance for seeing it through, a life lesson with a promise each and every of those men too this day, kept as promised. 'When I find the girl I will fall in love with, keep to her as the centre of my life, always' Something I would need to maintain and by doing so using a calendar, diary, organiser, string on me finger, anything as to regularly remind me to check in and see to it, over some years second nature would take care of us, here we are twenty five years from when I fell in love with the girl and in the centre of my life, best friends, in love, in touch, Tara is her own person, and this is where sublooking :) I must try my very best, what it is centred with Tara as always, what principals, meanings and feelings ? I don't own Tara, she is her own person, I can ask her, I can share my feelings, I can tell her, she could hurt me if she chose to do some thing or another and why, I have reasoned and with emotions, guided by intimacy, wearing my feelings on my sleeves, honest and open in any moment, choices we share some mine some hers, some we ask the universe, some we have to live and stand by each other, whoever gets in first, live and love and learn, nothing much gets away on us or in a way by choices made as friendship, communication, best intensions, knowing each other, love and care, a family environment and sublooking, the intimacy and what meaning ? Where is Tara's state of mind, in self, of her own free will, how myself shows too her, who she is too me, what it means too her for intimacy and the want, so choose share with me mine for her. More than just a daily friendship ? Personally sublooking, it's what is most important in an everyday friendship, if it's with the person to fall in love with, I promise, making that person the centre of every day life, maintained until second nature, a life in love intimately bonded, a friendship that means everything so it just seems, always. Too many relationships fall apart because people wander apart over time, progressively distant, intimacy fizzles out, friendship weakens and inevitably maintaining the course of least resistance, seduced by temptation, recklessly pining for intimacy of the feelings long back'n foggy, maybe a new trail bike, or spruce up and go buy a shiny Harley Davidson. It's not all roses and white picket fences, sometimes hard going, never gonna be rich of money, it's not worth much enough to chase and save save save for the thrill of it or feel secure. And we think different men and women, best of both worlds team spirit, pain in the arse and things get broken, even have a fight now and then, nothing much in it, make up sex is moorish, good sex, scars and bruises, men like happy confident mischievous and horny women, so they're gonna have a crack for a bit 'n hit on her, like it, love it, hate it, it's not her fault, but it is her choice always, and that is a thing, great if anything tickles your fancy, cool calm even charm, fizz or frazzle that curiosity sublooking, you're a good sport thanks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon'Just watched this episode of Four Corners. Absolutely disgusting and the decision by the DPP not to prosecute the two men responsible is incomprehensible What did you think they should have been charged with? I read through the transcript of that, and... I know I'm going to draw fire, but based on what I read I would side with the DPP on this. I think you could absolutely charge and convict them in the court of public opinion 100 times over - but I don't know how well it holds up in a criminal court of law. I felt a lot of what was said in that was building an emotive case not based on solid facts.
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luvsilver
10 years ago
Quoting 'Pink_Sprinckles' Put up a date finder all going well a sexy couple both bi what we are looking for and sounding perfect. Managed to deflect a guy playing with not one but 2 inflatable girlfriends Lol. Made time and rushed home to get ready sitting waiting waiting Ffs. Radio silence. No show no message no answering their phone. Thanks arseholes. Nights early and haven't given up so back to the inbox and rescue the night. Grrrr Was that deflect or deflate the guy. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' What did you think they should have been charged with? Why does it matter what charges I think should have been laid? I'm not a criminal law expert. But the one they consulted for the program said there were multiple charges they could have faced. Including manslaughter. So did the Coroner's report, which recommended that charges be laid. They blatantly attempted to cover up the evidence of what happened and lied repeatedly to the police so that was just a start to the possible charges. We're not talking about whether they would be convicted here, just the act of laying charges and them facing court for what they did. Yes the program played on emotion all those sorts of programs do. However there was plenty of other stuff in there to come to the conclusion that the DPP's decision was very, very questionable.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'sublooking68' To Pepperrose I'm not questioning the authenticity of the migraine - nor the pain levels... over 10 years ago I had a benign tumour - and three years worth of migraines... yes.. the killer migraines... It's the communication I'm questioning.... I asked if he'd vanished - a simple question which received no response. BUT as soon as I sent a message which wasn't so nice.. within 60 seconds - I got a response. My question is - is it HUMAN to feel confused - hurt - bewildered... or are my emotions too raised because of past issue with my ex husband. Quoting 'sublooking68' To all of you - you are all fantastic and I thank everyone for their responses and insights. On the argument as to whether I am worth more than what I have or not? It's subjective. Yes.. I am worth a hell of a lot. I have a kind heart (most of the time). I prefer to see good in people rather than bad. And I have a heap of emotions that don't like being buried under layers of cement. I prefer cards on the table compared to intricate lies and bullshit. So between the fact that I do care way too much. Yes I know I get involved too much on my side - leaving myself open for emotional stress. The guy that has gone the distance so far with me - well ... for all his faults on one side of the page - there is the other side of the page.. . the good bits. There is only a handful of people that will truly accept me for the me that I am. And even though this makes for a more lonely environment - when it is good, it's great! So when people that I know just vanish - yes I get hurt, I become emotional about it. Because - I don't understand why - as the vanish guys never tell me. Not long ago ... there was this friendship happening with a guy on here. It was lively, fun, lots of shit stirring - both ways and after a few weeks ... a meeting was getting talked about. Days later, a meeting date was made .. for a "hot weekend". One day before it happened.. all the lead up - the flirting, the laughter, his words that were ALL promising, and that fateful 24 hours before meeting - it stopped. The whole lot .. just stopped. The Nothing happened - yet again. (and if he reas this - I bet you he won't even recognise that its about him) lol The vanish act - in long term friendships - hurt. Short term ones can tsill hurt too - but the long term ones, well I hate the vanish act... I'd rather cards on the table - .... I hate the vanish act. As well, I know the majority is the fact that I have a bit of a disability. Funny part is - the disability, well, there are still many things I can do - so its "their loss" not mine (thats what I tell myself) Does anyone else experience the vanish act from new friends on here? People that come into your life in some way, you have a great time getting to know them - then the Nothing hits - and its all gone. Just like that. Gone. And you never know why. Who else has experienced this? How do you deal with it? Any help would be appreciated! my take on the matter will differ from the kind women here who mean well. However, the simple fact that we are only privy to your experience and not knowing the full story. I am not quick to judge you or your 'bf'. I refuse to demonize him or belittle your feelings. Dumping him straight away is more an emotional reaction than objective reasoning on your part. It may backfire. i am sorry you are hurt but my post comes from a place of caring and provide you with some objectivity on the matter. I did not post straight away and waited a few days to see what else develops. I am not hasty to make decisions based on emotional arguments and in that frame of mind. I have seen a very loving, beautiful yet volatile couple (good friends of mine) who have posted some of their relationship issues here, written in heat of the moment and later to regret it. The partner was judged and demonize. My heart went out to both of them and I would love nothing than to sit them together and give them a good spanking for acting like spoilt kids. Lol. I refused to post about it in the forum as I do understand them and the person did not deserve to be treated badly. Things were sorted in the background and the main culprit, as always, is miscommunication which leads to misunderstanding. I love them both and think they are intelligent adults and have big hearts. They just need to learn patience and objective reasoning. (Thanks to Auntie Lily . You guys owe me lunch.....) It seems to me, you have invested more emotionally in this relationship. Regardless whether the L word was used or not, your emotional attachment has made you expect certain things and behaviour. Natural. 8 months of daily communication sets a pattern and we all get complacent and relinquish our guard because we trust them. We, women tend to do that, more emotional investment, than the men. You have discussed previous experience of vanishing and obviously, you have been deeply hurt by this but it seems there was no closure or understanding of the whys and whats of that situation, leaving a small bubbling undercurrent of resentment and frustration that manifested into rage when the same thing happened again. You are lost in your direction because it was not properly addressed in the first place, hence closure is important. A different perspective here.... Indulge me as I paint another picture. Thank you. What if he was telling the truth? Historically, his behaviour has been consistent and it seems only something grave has disrupted that. Why not believe him? I have had migranes in the past (not for a while) caused by work stress, where I was almost incapacitated from 2-4 days. i couldn't see straight and communication with my boys and work was minimal. My boys understand and they help out. I did not answer phone calls nor respond to text messages as the issues around my physiological needs superceeds my emotional needs. Basically, I am not myself when i have migraines. I get short tempered as totally mentally and physically spent during this time. Now if you kept messaging me during that time and then finish off with a nasty message, you will leave me with no choice but to snap as I am in physical pain and in no condition to pamper other people's emotional needs at that point. I am not communicative as thinking hurts my head and I may say something I do not mean. My apologies for sounding harsh but that is another perspective. Look at it from his point of view. You are not being a doormat or anything but you deserve the truth and closure to the situation. Talk to him, discuss it (have your bs radar on) and lay it all out. When he is better of course and that you are in a lucid and objective frame of mind. The information you get and assess based on your talk will dictate the direction you need to take. You are in charge of your destiny. the truth of the matter is that most of the forumites, don't know who you are nor do we know who your man friend is. We are not foes nor friends (unless you have met people and formed a friendship). We sit in the peripherals of your reality and are virtually reading a snippet of what I think is a complex relationship. I have a feeling there is more to it. Don't be too rash to make a decision. Assess where you are now, the level of your emotional attachment and how objective you can approach this issue. Time and distance is your friend. Let the animosity subside until you are in some emotional equilibrium. Discuss it with him. The only way you can get closure. You seem like a good, warm hearted and intelligent person. If something like this happens again, you would be more in control of your emotions and decisions when you have properly resolve this. Best of luck. Take care. Lily p.s. Wrt to Vanishing (or Ghosting), a recent thread raised by Leeleigh on this is available under hot topics. A good read to see different perspective. I have enclosed the link below for your convenience: http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/To-Call-or-Disappear-51503
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Yes lunch is on me........ Now, about that spanking.......what shall i wear?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' What if he was telling the truth? Historically, his behaviour has been consistent and it seems only something grave has disrupted that. Why not believe him? Now if you kept messaging me during that time and then finish off with a nasty message, you will leave me with no choice but to snap as I am in physical pain and in no condition to pamper other people's emotional needs at that point. I am not communicative as thinking hurts my head and I may say something I do not mean. She said she didn't doubt that he had a migraine or that he was in a lot of pain, you highlighted that part of her comment yourself. Also, she didn't keep messaging him, she messaged him once after not hearing for him for four days, then the nasty message was a couple of hours after that. So, it was twice and by that time he was out of hospital and very likely feeling better. Given this, I still don't believe that it would have taxed him that much to send her a reply after her first message with a few words of explanation for his disappearance. It's not 'pampering someone's emotional needs' to take a few seconds to do that. It's showing a basic level of respect for another human being that you've recently said you love.
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RHP User
10 years ago
People who know what's really going on are you and he. People change,feelings change and when someone is ill,this is doubly so. A few years ago someone who I thought cared about me knew I was in hospital but his messages were all about when I would be up for having sex with him again...bucket of cold water for me. So OP if you care about him,talk to him,then decide if the two of you will continue,and what he and you will do if it happens again,given that acute migraines do render someone somewhat dysfunctional on many levels Q
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Wow I have just been catfished in the most amazing fashion. It's actually quite impressive the lengths he went to to create a fake story and pics to match. Was played so well. I believed it all and even spent 24 hours with him at my house... Get surnames people and reverse image search every single picture.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow,was he a complete fake? How did you find out that he was not who he seemed? I hope you are ok,hugs Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
How do you get surnames? I wouldnt give mine out, so wouldnt ask. And what did he do? You ok?
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' People who know what's really going on are you and he. People change,feelings change and when someone is ill,this is doubly so. A few years ago someone who I thought cared about me knew I was in hospital but his messages were all about when I would be up for having sex with him again...bucket of cold water for me. So OP if you care about him,talk to him,then decide if the two of you will continue,and what he and you will do if it happens again,given that acute migraines do render someone somewhat dysfunctional on many levels Q In my opinion, it makes me uncomfortable when people judge and strongly vilify or demonize the other party when they did not personally witness the pain the man went thru. We all have varied pain thresholds and handle pain in a different manner, To insist on other people to accept your norm is not acceptable to me. I prefer to see the other side of the situation, his point of view. Sub and her bf has come at a crossroads in their relationship, I believe it is a complex one. I am not taking away nor minimizing Sub's experience. I just prefer to work with facts. We are not party to the real conversations between them. We dont know their history nor are we familiar with their dynamics. Some advice were given based on people's beliefs, values and their perception on how a relationship should function. These are shaped from their experiences. Fair enough. We work with what we have and know. However, we all know we all perceived things differently and there is no single panacea for all problems of the heart. I personally prefer to make my assessment on the situation with clarity of mind, where emotion will not cloud my judgment. i think it would benefit Sub to discover the truth, whatever it is. She owes it to herself in order for her to move on if the man is really playing with her feelings. That is onus is on Sub to discover more about the truth and then make the call. This can only happen when she approach the discussion in a less emotional state of mind. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hope you're okay too. I'd love to see you put this on my fake pictures thread. I'm curious as to what happened and I'm sure other people would like to hear your story as well. Sharing is caring as they say, we can help each other. But if you're not comfortable or not able to do that, I understand. I really do hope you're okay, sorry that happened to you. DP I also never give my surname. I have on occasion but only to long term guys I 100% trust and share information about our lives, but there's only been 2 or 3 who i gave it out to. I'm also keeping my married name after the divorce so it's not just to protect me, but my kids and ex. It's impossible to really know personal stuff about guys we meets. Actually one of the reasons I used to love outdoor hookups, there were always people around, I was in no danger, well most of the time. Missb you've had a bad run of luck, I hope it doesn't put you off doing this. Guys who do that kind of thing shit me ffs keep it real guys
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RHP User
10 years ago
my first vent here - hate it when you just start to get over the fact that someone has seemingly ghosted you then they reappear - like they just need to pop up and make sure you are still an option (which if you ignore me for weeks on end - I am not)
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I'll be asking DP. Anyone that gets my Kik gets my full name. This wasn't some random guy I was fucking. This was someone that I had connected with and spent an awful amount of time talking to everyday and sharing things about our lives. Still we met through an online medium but it wasn't a dating site it was a chat group that I run and he was introduced by someone else. Hell for all I know it was a set up from the beginning. If I get some time I'll put it all on there I_touch. It's a good reminder.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I dont use kik very much but I dont have my full name on there. Same as freak book. No connection between any online medium. For all you know, the person who introduced you to this guy, was actually the same guy. After watching a few episodes of that catfish show, people think up some crazy persona's. i think they get off at winning peoples trust. Look after You, lady.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I'll be asking DP. Anyone that gets my Kik gets my full name. sorry to hear something awful like that happened to you. hope you are okay. You can set up your kik account withouth giving your full name, just to give you some privacy. Im sure you can update it in the settings in kik. take care and thanks for another reminder to all of the pitfalls of online dating/hook ups.
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RHP User
10 years ago
On the rare occasion l get more then two messages ( which is a very pleasant surprise, thank you ladies) and if someone signs of with their name l give my first name and the abbreviations or nicknames l usually get so they could call me what they like, to add to the chat a bit. On the rarer occasion l meet someone l mention my surname, chat a bit about that to as before me as l grew up in a family that were the last people in the world with our surname. I recon if someone gives me there name there's a degree of trust their so l match it. I give my full name because of trusting them and l live when people like in the Perth socialites use Adam, l chose Adam because l like it and if it is easier for people that works for me. I don't ask about their surname and might chat about their nicknames and what name they like. I'm cautions with my name to protect my privacy, nothing to hide but with a unique name l play it safe. I don't trust the net, look at the Ashley Madison hack and Sony PlayStation stuff. The reverse pic search concerns me, might go back to my eye pic, still nothing to hide but l can easily be recognised in our community, school and kids sport. Why am l so concerned about protecting my privacy, well l don't want it to effect the privacy of me, my family or someone l might be talking to, l don't understand or trust the net enough and the howls of laughter from the 20 something's at work when the news was on about the Ashley Madison hack, "how's be fucken stupid enough to do that" as in use such sites, well ignorance maybe bliss and thankfully they haven't walked in people's shoes to feel the need to make such a choice and then of course their way to immature to be here for the journey and adventure people choose as a lifestyle. Protecting my privacy is one of the reasons l haven't got around to getting onto twitbook, recently a guy l used to work with found me on kik by name, thankfully he's a good young fella. Pseudonyms and pics in pg, or sunny shots aren't always about hiding something, my sunglasses are prescription and l feel lost without them also can be about protecting something personal that once it's in the ether, you've lost it forever. Equally important, no one, no woman should experience what Missb72, l hope all is well for you and someone special who also recently experienced something no one should, won't say to protect their privacy and those that have helped her. The strength of people who endure what people shouldn't have to amaze's me, continue to be strong everyone one. Cheers
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RHP User
10 years ago
Few mistakes in that post trying to walk and type, with the sun glaring on the screen, big thumb small screen and auto text, what could go wrong, anyway you'll get the gist of it. Cheers
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I'll be asking DP. Anyone that gets my Kik gets my full name. This wasn't some random guy I was fucking. This was someone that I had connected with and spent an awful amount of time talking to everyday and sharing things about our lives. Still we met through an online medium but it wasn't a dating site it was a chat group that I run and he was introduced by someone else. Hell for all I know it was a set up from the beginning. If I get some time I'll put it all on there I_touch. It's a good reminder. I haven't used kik yet but have been intending to use it. Do they prompt you to put your name in there? Bugger that. I know how easy it can happen though to develop trust with people we haven't even met. It's so hard. The flip side is we then get over cautious. How do we know really? Definitely a reminder for us to be careful. I'm losing guys at the moment through my own verification process, simple thing where I get them to take new pics for me, staged ones, but the request doesn't always sit well with them, for what reason, who knows. Some would be genuine, some wouldn't, but I've been caught too many times with deception. And if they lie about one thing, one lie leads to another as they say. If they choose to run for the hills, so be it. Some I trust more than others, for different reasons, and still sure I get it wrong some of the time. But it is what it is. I'd rather be over cautious than let my guard down and figure if they can't make that bit of effort, minimal time involved, how serious about meeting me are they? But that of course, only verifies the visual, still doesn't tell us anything about who they really are. All we have left is instinct. Plenty more fish in the pool Missb. But I do hope you're okay xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
no you don't have to use your real name on kik
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RHP User
10 years ago
On another topic altogether. Another plane has disappeared. :(
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I know I don't have to use my full real name. I choose to. Thanks everyone that offered support and kind words. Just remember if you are going to lie to a Scorpio you better be phenomenal at it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I know I don't have to use my full real name. I choose to. Thanks everyone that offered support and kind words. Just remember if you are going to lie to a Scorpio you better be phenomenal at it. I think I would prefer to lie with a Scorpio and not to. (Don't think I could boast to be phenomenal though). Hope you are ok.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Is getting too cold at night, as well as in the morning, to be sleeping alone and lacking of hot passionate midnight and morning sex 4-5 times a week! 😩😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hate it when I painstaking type out a message \ (I hate when I can't find the forward slash symbol) post on my phone and when I hit Send, it fails to send and I have to start again. Ironically that is exactly what happened with this post. Grrr
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Seachange73
10 years ago
A man I met nearly two years ago at a party who introduced himself as 'definitely single' at the party is apparently happily married to a very vanilla woman (poor her) and with kids living in the burbs,. Now the wifey has been texting me demanding details of my 'relationship' with her husband! Errr... there was no relationship and it was just one night. The lying bastard told wifey that we never were physically intimate and it was all phone sex. And all his other meets here were just that.. Yeah right, whatever!! If you're still lurking on here, I'm not playing your game nor covering your saggy arse, kiddo. Just fess up and be a man about it. Sort out your shit and stop involving us in your web of deceipt. Not interested. so over married men... Putting away my bunny..... just in case...
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sweetgem
10 years ago
How funny the way you write your comment 😂 and good luck with your petition attempt for putting a ban on the temperature above 13°C 😂 did Mrs urn agree with this? 😝 just don't regret it if it did happen, one day, and you lost your hotness to it 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
It's awful that the wife has contacted you because of her husband's cheating crap! Even more awful that it was only a one off encounter, which took place nearly two years ago, and the husband still keeps your number?! Sigh! Are you ok? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' It's awful that the wife has contacted you because of her husband's cheating crap! Even more awful that it was only a one off encounter, which took place nearly two years ago, and the husband still keeps your number?! Sigh! Are you ok? - Posted from rhpmobile I'm okay. Just a tad annoyed that I have to put up with his crap when he was found out. There will always be liars in this world and his lies did hurt his family more than I. I'd hate to think how the wife is doing and I truly sympathize with her for being married to a slug like him. The bigger picture is his infidelity just ruined his family. I feel sorry for the wife and kids, as it will take a long time for them to heal and trust him again. Life goes on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Quoting 'sweetgem' It's awful that the wife has contacted you because of her husband's cheating crap! Even more awful that it was only a one off encounter, which took place nearly two years ago, and the husband still keeps your number?! Sigh! Are you ok? - Posted from rhpmobile I'm okay. Just a tad annoyed that I have to put up with his crap when he was found out. There will always be liars in this world and his lies did hurt his family more than I. I'd hate to think how the wife is doing and I truly sympathize with her for being married to a slug like him. The bigger picture is his infidelity just ruined his family. I feel sorry for the wife and kids, as it will take a long time for them to heal and trust him again. Life goes on. Don't trust men full stop. We're all lying, deceitful bastards only out for one thing. Or two things if you count being able to go to the pub with your mates and not having to watch the time and call in when the footy is over to explain your movements. Better oof just aiming for women...oh wait. Hold on they're just as bad with their mindgames and trickery. Just go back to the convent, where the priests....ah fuck it just give up on humanity and buy a pet.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Now you just went into kinky land. 😈😁😮
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Why are you taking it personally? I am pissed off at cheating married men. I thought you were in an open relationship? Something you want to share with us? :-P I am annoyed and I have a right to be so. So butt out of my vent.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You assume it's because you're married, that's where the issue is with prospective play partners? It may well be for some and that's their choice, surely. As with any hook up on here, we all make our choices as to what works for us, and a whole lot of things or a variety of things will be considered depending on the individual and our personal taste. The frustration comes through in your posts, and I'm sorry for making a sweeping statement about that, but it's negative and not helping I would think, my 2 cents
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was meant in jest. You know I love ya Lily.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
In the doghouse at home by the sound of it. Or just not getting much?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' You assume it's because you're married, that's where the issue is with prospective play partners? It may well be for some and that's their choice, surely. As with any hook up on here, we all make our choices as to what works for us, and a whole lot of things or a variety of things will be considered depending on the individual and our personal taste. The frustration comes through in your posts, and I'm sorry for making a sweeping statement about that, but it's negative and not helping I would think, my 2 cents No I assume its cos I have a head like an old boot.
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RHP User
10 years ago
From my phone, it looks like you're playing Space Invaders with the men lol 👽👾🎮 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
would you like to Nigella to be cooing sweet directions at you? I just heard a Masterchef ad where she was featured. Bababoom!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'tulips4u' From my phone, it looks like you're playing Space Invaders with the men lol 👽👾🎮 - Posted from rhpmobile I don't want to "invade" that space I want to be welcummed into it
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tylannister
10 years ago
...too much may be being read into 3somes post. I saw them just trying to be fun and nihilistic...I didn't see any other agenda there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Joke is another person's jibe Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
When someone has a history of whinging about women - particularly the single women of RHP - it's really a case of past behaviour guiding perceptions. Even meant as a joke I don't really see the humour but hey, I'm just one of those single women that so many love to shit all over in here.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
"Just jokin Joyce" Nah......
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