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What do women really want from RHP?
July 25 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love a unicorn. What you need to do is find a leprechaun, follow it to the end of the 'rainbow'. When you go through the wormhole, look down. You'll see a turtle with four elephants holding up a disk. Some where, on another world, it maybe one supported by six hippos on top of a termite, that you'll find what you're after.
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RHP User
11 years ago
what an arse
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RHP User
11 years ago
Balham if you change your profile picture??
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RHP User
11 years ago
All four elephants were ladies and i met the turtle who was dj for the nite but i knocked and did not even see a turtle neck but i messaged all four elephants each one a complimenting polite message and only one replied saying that my trunk was tiny and ears way to small and the other three well must be fakes !!!! I may try again later i wonder if they will remember me !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest I have had 5 couples that have been amazing, they put in a lot of hard work to be with me purely for the night . I'm finding lately that the messages I get now are all about them and the do's and dont's they want in a unicorn it's starting to really annoy me .. It's all about the approach and making ME feel special and wanted by the couple not just the male . Plus there has to be an attraction to both of you . I hope this feed back helped Balham - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I want a man with a slow hand I want a lover with an easy touch I want somebody who will spend some time Not come and go in a heated rush I want somebody who will understand When it comes to love, I want a slow hand
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RHP User
11 years ago
Darlin', don't say a word, 'cause I already heard What your body's sayin' to mine If I want it all night, you say it's alright Ooo, we got the time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I once asked a girl to tell me what she wants, what she really really wants, She promised to tell me what she wants, what she really really wants, Then she whispered in my ear, "I wanna, I wanna, I wanna, I wanna, I wanna really really really wanna zigazig ha. "
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe they want people who don't want them :)? We seem to attract LOTS of single women both here and in real life. My husband is a strange one, for him swinging is very unimportant . He swings because he likes the social fun lifestyle and has a wife with a voracious appetite for men, however he rarely wants to play with others .........that was a long winded way of saying neither of us is actively looking for women to play with .... But boy do we get a lot ! Murphies law ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, I think your last sentence is probably more accurate than many will admit to here. I am sure a lot of people join this site with all the right intentions but some (particularly some women) get caught up in all the crap here (and yes the crap is often spoon feed by men or couples) and their ego kicks in. Here they are, suddenly a sort after commodity, the very thing they have been craving for in real life but never experienced. So out goes the "just hoping to meet a nice guy/have some fun with a couple" to "I know I can have the cream of the crop, anyone who doesn't meet my new paradigm is beneath my contempt and not worthy of my time". Might sound harsh but I have seen women here act like they are Gods answer to every male prayer, yet in real life, out on the street, they don't get a second look. So they just stay online, basking in their cyber glory yet never meeting. Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
what is it that YOU want? We don't know you, and can only base our opinion of you on your attitude in your post. From this couples female point of view you seem to think there is something wrong with the RHP women, and going so far to stereotype all RHP together. You then go on to ask how you can lure them, again as if all women are the same. Our experience on RHP has been very positive and have found 2 young, gorgeous, intelligent and beautiful (body, mind and soul) regular ladies to share our time, home, fun and our bed with. We also have 2 amazing males who we share the same with. Our advice would be, stop trying to get the formula right, as if there is one, and get to know a female that fits your needs and you hers. Then, rather than just "waste your time", view that time as a privilege of getting to know a female better, whether you meet or not (how can that be a "waste of time"?) Why would you think that a "vast majority of girls are craving attention and living out fantasies in their head" on RHP? Could it be that it is you that is living out fantasies in your head, rather than REALLY getting to know girls before demanding they meet you, otherwise THEY have a problem? If you are truly seeking advice here, and not just attention, our advice would be to get to know like minded females in a respectful way and stop expecting that every female you email should just run and meet you or "its a waste of time". Text, email and message with the purpose to get to know each other, not to try to get a female into your bed. Attitude is everything! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im sure a lot wont like it but.. you nailed it brother. Alot of vanilla sites the same - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Many charming, sexy and interesting girls and couples on RHP have messaged and met me. Sometimes for more than conversation, sometimes not. All of them are genuine in their own way, just all seeking different things. Im not on here for a quick meet and fuck, nor a FB, but rather I am here for ongoing substance - that is what I have received and am very happy with my ongoing experience with 'RHP girls' :) I am curious of the RHP men who seem to blame the RHP females for their lack of fun on here, rather than look at self. Further to that OP, whats wrong with a female fulfilling fantasy 'in her head' on here? Any girls wanting to just chat and/or meet for non sexual activity, come say hi please :) I am always happy to be involved in any fantasy you have, including sexting/emailing or just messaging. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I though on a lot of vanilla sites that the men were in demand and women had to do a lot of the hard work. No?
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
What you want Baby, I got What you need Do you know I got it? All I'm askin' R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find out what it means to me R-E-S-P-E-C-T Foxy
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Balham
11 years ago
We've met lots of woman in the time that we've been involved in this scene. I'd say though that 75% of them, we met at parties or out clubbing. Interestingly, most of these girls said that they hardly ever check their emails or pursue online dating. Conversely, the women you constantly see online are hardly ever seen at parties, or agree to meet. Therefore, it's a fair conclusion to suggest that there is a very strong narcissistic element as to why woman promote and post explicit content of themselves online.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I want a relationship where the sex is amazing and the chemistry just burns and burns.....(sigh)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Balham.... You guys rlook srxy, hot, stunning and fuckable...!!! Seriously... Damn hot bodies....😝. If u 2 can't get it on, then I'm screwed... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
At tafe last week a few kids made a fake female profile to play a prank on another guy in class, who had recently split with his missus and was trying online dating for the first time. The pictures they used were of a woman of average looks (to be believeable) and the profile barely filled out. I told him what they we're up to because I thought it was cruel. However in the first hour of this fake profile being up they had gotten well over 50 messages. and yes this was a vanilla dating site! Im on the same site and I've not gotten anywhere near that amount in 12 months. (I admit im no oil painting)The only messages I do receive are one word hi, hey, hello or whats up. Strange alot of the women ive received one word messages from specify in their profiles they are sick of getting basic messages and require somthing more detailed and well thought out, to have any chance of a response. So its all up to me?? Thank fark I dont do too bad in real life, or id be in alot of trouble. Having said all that ive heard some guys brag about cleaning up on said sites.. i for one am not willing to tell a girl what she wants to hear to pants her. Arseholes like this are probably the reason so many women are jaded. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I want a relationship where the sex is amazing and the chemistry just burns and burns.....(sigh) yep me too
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I want, what I want......Someone to share in some fun, passion, lust, love, rawness, kink, connection, excitement, experiences, a lover and a friend.....something that is intoxicating, leaves you wanting more and needing more.......💋...... Haven't found that someone yet, so until then I will love my experiences with likeminded people who I enjoy spending time with......💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Balham' Therefore, it's a fair conclusion to suggest that there is a very strong narcissistic element as to why woman promote and post explicit content of themselves online. Yes possibly. I don't enjoy online dating and meeting people via cold call emails. I prefer to get to know people via the forum or face to face at the meet and greet nights, other events and clubs. I do have saucy pictures up, (not as explicit as in the past though) but for me I use this like a naughty facebook. I enjoy talking about sex, relationships, love, etc which is why I participate on the forums. That is all I really use RHP for. I am a bit of an exhibitionist maybe? I like that I can have sexy pictures on here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why, as Indagine and Meeka related to, it is hard for us as a couple to find people who do not take theses feelings for granted when we are sharing our most intimate thoughts and desires. It absolutely has to be beneficial to both the lady and us for us to consider making the connection because if we don't share common desires then it is just sex and we are looking for more than just sex.So OP maybe the connection needs to be more fulfilling for both parties. Just our thoughts....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Balham' We've met lots of woman in the time that we've been involved in this scene. I'd say though that 75% of them, we met at parties or out clubbing. Interestingly, most of these girls said that they hardly ever check their emails or pursue online dating. Conversely, the women you constantly see online are hardly ever seen at parties, or agree to meet. Therefore, it's a fair conclusion to suggest that there is a very strong narcissistic element as to why woman promote and post explicit content of themselves online. You know what they say about stats - 75% are just made up and false :p For me personally, I love to chat online and message and so forth, I will only meet up with people who like to take the time and effort to get to know me and make me feel wanted. Is that narcissistic? Probably to you, as I would NEVER meet someone like you with your superior male attitude.
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RHP User
11 years ago
People on here just want to use you for their own pleasure. That is why women drop off the radar, we need to be treated as though we are actually desired, not used. I am sick of the cumbucket experience, men just want to dump their load and couples are caught up in their own little world of drama and jealousy in 'their fantasy'. I have never been into the threesome thing but I got sick of hearing that I was somehow missing out, so figured I should try it. 3 out 3 attempts to do it have all failed miserably, not from me, but the couple, it is just too much hard work, sex is supposed to be fun. I don't even have couples listed as what I am looking for and I get as many couples nearly as I do men contacting me. I could count on one hand how many people on here actually gave a shit about my pleasure, and I have met a lot. I want more, even just sexually, I want someone who is willing to treat me as a desirable being, like they actually want to be there with ME, not just fucking me because I have a vagina. It gets really old really quick knowing you only seem good to anyone for one thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Balham' We've met lots of woman in the time that we've been involved in this scene. I'd say though that 75% of them, we met at parties or out clubbing. Interestingly, most of these girls said that they hardly ever check their emails or pursue online dating. Conversely, the women you constantly see online are hardly ever seen at parties, or agree to meet. Therefore, it's a fair conclusion to suggest that there is a very strong narcissistic element as to why woman promote and post explicit content of themselves online. OR.... you're just not what they want..... for any number of reasons. Your profile reads to me, like you (the male) wrote it... maybe thats off-putting... In any case..... the answer to your question is .... they want what THEY want..... just as you want what YOU do.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Does it make a difference how you word the messages, sexy and flirty or polite and courteous? YEEEEEEEEEEEES!! Of course it does. If you read some of the history in the Forums about people sending out messages, you will read that majority of women want to receive something respectful. When I say respectful, it means the person who has sent the message has actually read the profile, made an effort to actually take time to send out a thoughtful, unique email. Messages like "Wadd up", "Wanna root", "here's my number **** (and nothing else), "I'm in town for the week staying at such-and-such motel - come join me", "hey babe", "I want to lick your pussy all night long"...crap like that makes a woman feel like a free prostitute or cum bucket, unworthy as a person/human being. Seriously a lot of men do send out those messages. Women want to feel desired, needed and wanted just like any other human being. Maybe OP - Maybe women probably drop of this site because of the messages that men send out, they probably have had enough of the crappy emails. and yes It's a major turn off. I have no idea what goes through some mens or even some peoples heads on here sometimes - is this how they talk a woman someone in the street?? Nah I don't think so....so why is it OK for them to send emails out like that and think it's OK?? I don't know about you, but no way would I ever dare speak to someone like that in the street. or in an email. Women are not here for "free services" to men and have no obligation to anyone.....Just saying. Hope that answers your question. :) Foxy
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Where would I be without you? Meeks and Luvinit you both make me smile ☺️ xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indy we shouldn't have to apologise for being on RHP when we are not interested in rooting random men and couples. I don't want boring mundane sex........ I want something extraordinary with lots and lots of sizzle! Unfortunately I think some couples and men feel that women are unfairly making them "work" for it. They seem to miss the point. Where has the charm and seduction gone? The hook up culture has lost all the excitement from the seduction game. In my opinion anyway. Balham, you mention a small handful of women that are out there too busy having fun. Everyone goes through phases were hooking up is all they are interested in but it kinda gets old after awhile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thx for the great read. Good insight into ladies minds. I adore this type of info, but I still struggle to get "meets", a lot of ladies seem to cut off @ 45yrs old, I have very strong libido & gain pleasure from seeing the pleasure in a ladies eyes, her moans and the way she writhes and orgasms. From my corner, any lady that accomadates guys over 45 gets "bombarded" with "filth" msg's from seemingly married guys "fishing" for a "cumbucket" as you ladies put it. I've never treated a lady that way in my life & I'm not about to start. I may have offended some people with my comments about Velvet, I think I'd had a few drinks & saw the word "lawsuit" & lost it. I truly am not that type of person. Anyway ML, I'm of out to the shed to carve that "chip off my shoulder" into something peaceful, perhaps a "dove". P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' People on here just want to use you for their own pleasure. That is why women drop off the radar, we need to be treated as though we are actually desired, not used. I am sick of the cumbucket experience, men just want to dump their load and couples are caught up in their own little world of drama and jealousy in 'their fantasy'. I have never been into the threesome thing but I got sick of hearing that I was somehow missing out, so figured I should try it. 3 out 3 attempts to do it have all failed miserably, not from me, but the couple, it is just too much hard work, sex is supposed to be fun. I don't even have couples listed as what I am looking for and I get as many couples nearly as I do men contacting me. I could count on one hand how many people on here actually gave a shit about my pleasure, and I have met a lot. I want more, even just sexually, I want someone who is willing to treat me as a desirable being, like they actually want to be there with ME, not just fucking me because I have a vagina. It gets really old really quick knowing you only seem good to anyone for one thing. Agree!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your reply. Have to say I am surprised at that though. I always believed that it was the women trying to get a few good men type of scenario. I thought you guys would be in demand!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I want a relationship where the sex is amazing and the chemistry just burns and burns.....(sigh) yep me too A dream? Would be great to be reality!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love your profile pic :p in fact all your pics!! You look gorgeous. Just go to meet and greets and put yourselves out there and you will find girls. As in all walks of life every person is an individual and everyone is looking for something slightly different... I really only look at the girl pics because that's where I'm at at the moment... I love people who are confident, look after themselves and even more if they can dance! Xxviolet
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Balham
11 years ago
Thanks and very funny :))
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RHP User
11 years ago
And I attend a lot of parties :/ in fact I'm often online whilst at parties... So I guess I'm an anomaly! Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm secretly craving to find that "wow" relationship that is so sizzling and hot, in mind and body. I live in hope:) In the meantime I'm finding out a lot about myself and what I want for my future.
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Balham
11 years ago
Interesting perspectives,you talk about respect to women, intimacy, decency, charm and seduction, yet this is a sex site whereby men, women and couples actively promote promiscuity and debauchery. Now before you accuse me of otherwise, I don't personally think or act this way. I am merely offering this up for debate. However you can't honestly criticise men in general for sending lewd text when chatting to a woman with a profile containing explicit pornographic content of herself. Eg. You can look at my pics of my last gang bang, and read my desire to be treated like a sex slave, but don't you dare make any lewd suggestion in a message to me... Seriously??
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Balham
11 years ago
That's why you're incredible :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have found what I need and am no longer looking for singles. And if the men who've messaged me are into more than just a quick hookup then I might consider inviting him to join us. The last few have been just meh! for me. I don't need it hence I'm just here for the forums. And, like Meeka, I'm a bit of a exhibitionist. I love the attention. Nothing wrong with that, is there? ",) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Balham
11 years ago
Hey that's why we're all here :)
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Balham
11 years ago
No not bitter :) just rejoined this site and realised how many time wasters there are on here.... We have our share of fun. Thanks for your input nonetheless x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Indy we shouldn't have to apologise for being on RHP when we are not interested in rooting random men and couples. I don't want boring mundane sex........ I want something extraordinary with lots and lots of sizzle! Unfortunately I think some couples and men feel that women are unfairly making them "work" for it. They seem to miss the point. Where has the charm and seduction gone? The hook up culture has lost all the excitement from the seduction game. In my opinion anyway. Balham, you mention a small handful of women that are out there too busy having fun. Everyone goes through phases were hooking up is all they are interested in but it kinda gets old after awhile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Does anyone really know what they want all the time? No, we all learn through experience and off each other. As for me, love my woman, love what we do, its all about creating a erotic moment, touching, feeling, enjoying in her pleasure, loosing yourself, and creating another wonderfull memory.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
but wait....No one accused you of anything. :( I quote, "yet this is a sex site whereby men, women and couples actively promote promiscuity and debauchery." Thank for explaining. I understand EXACTLY. Foxy
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Balham
11 years ago
Well put sir!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Balham' Interesting perspectives,you talk about respect to women, intimacy, decency, charm and seduction, yet this is a sex site whereby men, women and couples actively promote promiscuity and debauchery. Now before you accuse me of otherwise, I don't personally think or act this way. I am merely offering this up for debate. However you can't honestly criticise men in general for sending lewd text when chatting to a woman with a profile containing explicit pornographic content of herself. Eg. You can look at my pics of my last gang bang, and read my desire to be treated like a sex slave, but don't you dare make any lewd suggestion in a message to me... Seriously?? I agree. It can be quite confusing for blokes and I get that. I am showing my ta~tas and say some pretty wild things on the forum. So I don't blame blokes really for getting the wrong idea, but that is one reason why I wouldn't do the online thing on RHP. People do get the wrong idea about me as most of the things I talk about are done with people I know and trust... not a random guy who emails me asking me if I want to bonk his butt with my strapon. And I ADORE debauchery! I do enjoy going to clubs with friends and that is an entirely different experience for me though. The group thing. Which again I only do when I am with my lovers. Unfortunatley just because I like debauchery doesn't mean I am promiscuous. Some people are, and some aren't. I find that when it comes to one on one situations that I need some really good chemistry otherwise I am just not engaged enough to have sex. Hence the charm and seduction part of things. I need some warming up. DON'T GET ME WRONG I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE LOTS OF FABULOUS SEX WITH SEXY MEN! That is why I joined RHP, but someone the reality of it hasn't met my expectations. I hate to say this Balham. I think I am a traditional gal. *insert stunned face here*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, I am a traditional girl with a twist.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka... You're a traditional girl... With a large threading piece of silicone !! 😄😄😄😄 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Treatening" !!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pharking idevice !!!!! "Threatening"!!!! 😈😈😈😈😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on guys! What's with the bruised-ego, anti-woman diatribes? Let it go. Here's the lowdown: women on RHP want whatever they want, and it differs from woman to woman. They are much rarer than single men on here, and that gives them power, which they exercise in whatever way they like, and who can blame them? This ain't no charity. Nobody owes anyone anything. If someone doesn't respond to your message, shrug it off and move on. Peace.
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Balham
11 years ago
You sound like an awesome girl!! Personally speaking with regards to all this, I say live and let live. I don't judge anybody for wanting to explore their sexuality, as long as they're doing it for the right reasons and nobody is getting hurt, go out there and live your life!! My wife is very sexual and I love her to bits, she's awesome. We have a great time together.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Want roses, Some will want poses, But what really makes them tick, Is their desire for the dick!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
to get the girl is easy....its the male I find
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RHP User
11 years ago
But the true secret to attracting an RHP girl is - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That does not apply to all women :) Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
Depends on your interpretation violet... If desire of the dick from your perspective equates to promiscuity....I'd agree.... But if your interpretation is similar to mine.... Then it could be interpreted that if the guy is genuine....and gives her what she needs .... Then she WILL desire that dick.. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've just weviewed youw wrofiwe & pic's, I fwind you vewy vewy exciting. A cuwwvy wuvwul couwple wiv fabwous pic's, thewe is nofing bwetter. Kindest Wegards. Elma Fwuudd. Hhaahaahhaa.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Wants a Clayton's boyfriend... Or two... And if you don't know what that is you're probably to young :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Wants a Clayton's boyfriend... Or two... And if you don't know what that is you're probably to young :P - Posted from rhpmobile ........well said. I wouldn't mind a Clayton's boyfriend either!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahaha I love that saying. Said the exact thing myself many times recently.
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just_sayin69
11 years ago
Hello ms smith!!! I promise you when we finally get together again and it's playtime You will of found you have found myself and mrs jones will tick all your boxes and some you didn't know about lol Personally can't wait to see how good your short hand and taking down of oral instructions goes Promise you as soon as were able your on our first call speed dial 😃 xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with you,on going relationship,it's my dreams,and good lover.and yes chemistry it must,and respect,i have a not good experience in this site,but i didn't go out and meet any one YET ? But i did,one his from tinder,didn't know his on this one too😘😘 his good men,,some men',are very confident for them selves to expose them selves.but I'm glad,for that,soo i don't have a motivates to go out there!till i know this person will respect my way😠 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
pick me fillipna
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you've even done half your "friends" on your profile, you know what "women want". Suggestions for me please? P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have been here for almost two and a half years.I have seen women of a certain age, just out of long term relationships discover the holy grail of the attention of many cocks...they become dizzy with the power of the pussy and become spoiled for choice....six months later they become sated with the passing parade and realise ,that even if chocolate is couverture,its still just chocolate ....so cockalot becomes not what a lot of women are still wanting,whether it's with couples or single men,most single women over thirty five,after a while ,want more than just sex,they want to connect, they want to mean something to someone..... But in the mean time, they are in the candy store,tasting all the delicious treats :-) xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a woman DOESN'T want is to be referred to like you do your "ex ox" They don't want or need to hear about what happened yesterday with your relationships. My little chats with women about what they DO want can be wrapped up in the following:- When a man says "I love you" what he is actually saying is "I love what you DO for me." As you know we men are practical creatures....so we tend to SHOW our love. Women however; are a little different..... When a woman says "I love you" what she is really saying is "I love how you make me FEEL." .................... The rest is up to you :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You can both amaze me with the exchange :) xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has you been a reading one of them booklets again...you know the ones..Women who love Martians, and Men who act like Wombstd not Wombles :-) xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who am I to complain? 😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
She is the only woman I have ever referred to in such a toxic manner, I don't discuss my past with women I meet unless they ask, my FWB lady I have know was "burnt" same as me, so we ocassionly swap stories. The only reason I posted details was because I was defending things I'd posted previously. Unfortunately society as a whole tends to take the woman's side, fire bullets at the man & find out the real truth later. I agree with your analogy of men and women and yes I am the 1st one to admit that I have lots to learn about women, that's why I read these forums. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'PL1963' She is the only woman I have ever referred to in such a toxic manner, I don't discuss my past with women I meet unless they ask, my FWB lady I have know was "burnt" same as me, so we ocassionly swap stories. The only reason I posted details was because I was defending things I'd posted previously. Unfortunately society as a whole tends to take the woman's side, fire bullets at the man & find out the real truth later. I agree with your analogy of men and women and yes I am the 1st one to admit that I have lots to learn about women, that's why I read these forums. P.L. You must realise now that EVERY woman on this site now knows your back history and I dare say some will judge you for what you have written, not just the words but the tone and venom exhibited. I would say that a high percentage of the single people here over 40 have got horror stories to tell about their ex, hell some may even be true. But no one what to meet someone with such baggage, that is a given. Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your behind the times mate, I already admitted that in 1 of my posts. Anybody that reads all the posts I have written will hopefully see that I'm a true person and that you ML have misread a lot of things and passed judgement without the facts, I believe I've settled my piece with Velvet and at last check she hadn't blocked me. You don't have to read what I write, I used to read your post's all the time, but doubt I will now. Putting on the "flak jacket" again. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep I get what you're saying... However.... Someone that doesn't know you aka the gals on here will see it similarly to this.... "If he says that about THAT woman....and giving him the benefit of the doubt that it's the ONLY woman he has.....what's stopping him from saying that about me??" Equally though I won't focus just on your unique situation.... So let's flip the script..... IF you met with a woman that talked about her "sperm donor" would you have second thoughts of going there?? Or would your penis reign supremo for the sake of a root??? What I say here isn't intended to be personal....but it IS meant to challenge your thoughts...and I'm quite happy for you to tell me to go sit on the gear stick or whatever and we won't discuss it again....... PS...don't worry about having lots to learn about the gals... I think both sexes have a lot to learn about each other. Myself included. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are a man of wise words. I fully realise I've probably "shot myself in the foot" to a certain extent, every action has an equal & opposite reaction. As for your question, that would completely depend on the situation and the lady concerned, but I'm a good listener and I know I lot of ladies get treated unfairly. We all carry "baggage" of some description in life. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She is the only woman I have ever referred to in such a toxic manner, I don't discuss my past with women I meet unless they ask, my FWB lady I have know was "burnt" same as me, so we ocassionly swap stories. The only reason I posted details was because I was defending things I'd posted previously. Unfortunately society as a whole tends to take the woman's side, fire bullets at the man & find out the real truth later. I agree with your analogy of men and women and yes I am the 1st one to admit that I have lots to learn about women, that's why I read these forums. P.L. Mate.... I know I'll incur your wrath for saying this but..... I call bullshit. There was NO defence of what you posted earlier... and what you posted was a deliberate and targeted attack on a woman you don't know at all, but whom you assumed and perceived to be of the same nature as your ex worm there written profile.... and then had the audacity to criticise as the type to judge you on the same face values you applied at her! So your ex is NOT the only woman you have painted with your toxic brush at all. What you have written since being called out for this shitty behaviour..... has been back tracking, justification behaviour and now...... face saving public relations exercise ...... when apologies and contrition is what a MAN would do. Ive been biting my tongue for a few days..... but now, for YOUR benefit I am compelled to let you know.... man to man.... that you are kidding yourself if you truly believe what you wrote above..... and until you start being genuine with yourself, there can be no healing or moving forward. Your ex is not 100% wrong, and you are not 100% right... or a victim. That last sentence I offer, in the genuine hope that you open up to yourself with objective honesty and shed the position of defiance and righteousness in a battle with your ex.... and work on yourself with the integrity you deserve, for the benefit of you, and all who are within your world. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' My little chats with women about what they DO want can be wrapped up in the following:- When a man says "I love you" what he is actually saying is "I love what you DO for me." As you know we men are practical creatures....so we tend to SHOW our love. Women however; are a little different..... When a woman says "I love you" what she is really saying is "I love how you make me FEEL." Really?? When a man says I love you, he actually means he loves what a woman does for him? Like...... his washing? Cooking his dinner? Blow jobs every day and anal sex on Sundays? :P Am I understanding you correctly? Please explain.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hate it when I don't know what is going. But .... well truth is I don't care enough to find out. So don't worry PL, there are lots of us who have no idea what you said. Although sounds awfully a lot like a very old story, so I am confused why it is being spoken about now? Anyway, carry on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
@PL1963 No you did not settle your peace with me. I just could not be bothered engaging with you, you were and still not worth my words or effort after you were so unpleasant to me after sharing the story of my deceased mother and after I read what you wrote regarding your former wife. You are the classic stereotype of bitterness, that many will steer clear of. I have not blocked you from looking at my profile, because again you were not worth the time and effort in me having to click on yours to block, but I can see now how many times you have looked at me. Now this is creepy and a little scary. Be assured you are blocked now and yes I fully expect you to retaliate in this forum because this is the type of ego that you carry. So many people are brave behind a computer screen. Sometimes its best to chose your battles and step away from the keyboard If I was you of which I am glad that I am not, I would take heed from the excellent advice that has been written to you from the lovely gentleman who have taken time out to point out you deplorable manner. Real men, who I am sure all have a somewhat similar story to tell but have self evaluated and moved on and will in the future have terrific success with women Thankyou to Mooka, Sir Stir and Mischievous lad. True gentlemen
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RHP User
11 years ago
PLs post is on the Grudge thread..I too was confused xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Heading over there now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Glad to see you're back, as I said, to Mooka, I don't apoligise for what I've said & done in the past, I've never bullshitted to any lady or person on this site, I see ladies that want a relationship, I could easily change my profile in order to "pant's" them, I'm not like that, any lady I meet on here I want to be able to have a coffee with in in 5yrs, whether we've had sex or not. You my friend will learn how it all works, when your son, nephew or someone close to you gives his "life" to a lady" only to be shunned, ignored & eventually "cleaned out". I will just finish this story off forever, I received a txt from her last week, Racv had txt her that my vehicle insurance policy was due, I requested a letter from her solicitor so I could remove her from such documents, they refused, because legally they have no obligation. I broke my AVO & txt her back that it "was fixed". When I went to RACV to pay the policy, I was told that the policy had been "cancelled", apparently the only ppl that can cancel the policy are ppl who's names are on it, I didn't cancel it. This cost me $6K in agreed value, once a policy is cancelled, you can't get that "agreed value" back. She defrauded Centrelink in relation to claiming my son, while bleeding me for cash for her rent & costs relating to him, but still went on a $16K spending spree of travelling the country, buying clothes etc. He was working for cash $ at the time, but that was the last straw, she is now facing Centrelink fraud charges & will lose her Acc's job with the Dept of Education, which I helped her get 10yrs ago so she'd be "happy". I know this, as her Solicitor insisted on copies of bank statements for court. I've been told she now deeply regrets the things she has done,including the AVO she took out, which I made "undefinate", but once the ball starts rolling, u can't stop it. She sold her "soul to the devil & he shall return for what is rightfully is his". She said in an e-mail once that "I didn't know how good I had it", that really applies to her, life ain't so easy supportin' yourself when someone else did the job for 30yrs. Here end'th sermon 6, S, T, W & W. The Pardray.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My story runs over a number of posts, I'm not phased at all, I'm not being a "smart arse", I'm just a "straight shooter" like you guys, just postin' & dodgin' bullets from ML & Mooka, whoever I said I'd lend the "Flak Jacket" to, I'm an "Indian Giver", looks like I need it back. Always stirrin' the pot. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I might write yet another thread explaining this as it's very .... Errrr involved.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's all good, everybody is entitled to there own opinion, the only reason I viewed your profile was to see if I'd been blocked, you've done me a favour. As I've said, I abhore people that "lawyer up" @ the drop of a hat. Mooka and ML are just like a lot of others, pass judgment without all the facts. The only people I'm bitter towards are the ones I mentioned, as I once loved & respected them and would have died for them, they betrayed me. My Ox has now gone from size 14 down to 8, spray tanned & dresses 10yrs younger than her age, all these things I offered to help her with & pay for in an effort to help her regain her confidence & sexuality, she refused. My Aunty is like a sister to her & the feedback is that she looks good, appears happy, but on the inside she is full of regrets & a sad person, she always said I was the only man she could ever love, I did everything I could to make her happy in herself, she is saddened that she let our relationship dissolve.We would still be together now if she'd made an effort to maintain our relationship. The person I hate the most is her solicitor, he ripped apart our family, as I said previously, 12mths of court action failed, she now has $45K less deposit than she would have had, our son is "damaged goods". She could have avoided all this & we would still be txting each other for my son's sake, which I've offered & got no response. My son now wants to see me again, I've suggested we wait a while & get things right this time. He is & always was my No 1 priority in life, that will never change. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I want a relationship where the sex is amazing and the chemistry just burns and burns.....(sigh)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Following this thread hoping to gain some knowledge. Yet so far only headaches to much drama for me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' I have been here for almost two and a half years.I have seen women of a certain age, just out of long term relationships discover the holy grail of the attention of many cocks...they become dizzy with the power of the pussy and become spoiled for choice....six months later they become sated with the passing parade and realise ,that even if chocolate is couverture,its still just chocolate ....so cockalot becomes not what a lot of women are still wanting,whether it's with couples or single men,most single women over thirty five,after a while ,want more than just sex,they want to connect, they want to mean something to someone..... But in the mean time, they are in the candy store,tasting all the delicious treats :-) xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I though on a lot of vanilla sites that the men were in demand and women had to do a lot of the hard work. No? Hi Meeka... You're right. If you are a decent man, intelligent, interesting and can string together a sentence AND HAVE A JOB, you get a hell of a lot of 'kisses' and messages... I spent 8 years on the RSVP's and eHarmoies etc. Obviously, you have to do the right thing, i.e. take the time to get to know them, not be like a 'bull at a gate' and treat a lady like a lady... But then the meeting comes, after chatting online and phone calls for around 2 - 4 weeks (which is no problem, I expect it), and you discover that a good many of the ladies have got major 'damage' issues. They've been hurt very badly and they really don't know what they want, let alone where they are going or if they even want a relationship... It's sad... I do feel for them and I have had a number of relationships with those very women. Of probably 20 I met over 8 years, only 2 were genuine, knew what they wanted and were willing to take a risk for happiness (we all take a risk when we put our heart out there for someone). The rest were just in some kind of 'holding pattern'. Some had Ex's return, some said they didn't want to get serious (after 6 months together) and called it off, only to be begging on the phone a week later, that they'd made a mistake... and so it goes on and on... All this has caused most of the men to either get out altogether, or vet the prospective ladies very carefully. That's caused the lop-sided 'luck'... Why do you think I'm here? I just couldn't deal with the confusion and uncertainty of women who "Didn't miss the Ex... They missed what SHOULD have been"... A lot of the time it was the missing of a 'lifestyle' that they no longer had. And any reasonable person knows, that you can't have the same lifestyle when one household is split into two and two people have to begin again with whatever their share is... I hope no-one needs to go down that road to find companionship. It's possible and there are some that work. I almost married one of the 2 I mentioned, but as I said... Almost. You have to very lucky. But I DO feel very much for the women who are in the situation they're in (emotionally more than anything), especially when the truth is, their male partners are the ones who destroyed the marriage or partnership... It is sad. Of the women I met (regardless of whether we went out again), every single one had been cheated on by their partner. EVERY ONE.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Quoting 'Qefenta3' I have been here for almost two and a half years.I have seen women of a certain age, just out of long term relationships discover the holy grail of the attention of many cocks...they become dizzy with the power of the pussy and become spoiled for choice....six months later they become sated with the passing parade and realise ,that even if chocolate is couverture,its still just chocolate ....so cockalot becomes not what a lot of women are still wanting,whether it's with couples or single men,most single women over thirty five,after a while ,want more than just sex,they want to connect, they want to mean something to someone..... But in the mean time, they are in the candy store,tasting all the delicious treats :-) xQ I have to also agree. I don't know about the 'syndrome' that you describe (I haven't been here nearly long enough to make such a statement)... But I DO notice there are a lot of ladies that express a need for 'a connection' or they word it "I don't want an FB, I want an FWB". Some even go so far as to say that they are hoping to find someone that they can form a permanent bond or relationship. I have always needed to have an emotional connection before I could be intimate with a lady... I know this isn't exactly the right site for someone who feels and thinks that way... But at the same time, I have seen many ladies who are basically expressing the same thing. This is what I am sensing, anyway...
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RHP User
11 years ago
If women were a bit more direct. Ladies can you help us out?? :) Though on rhp its a bit more clear cut on women's wants due to the nature of said site, in general life its still hard to figure... And age doesnt seem to make me that much wiser...its probably also a combination of mature women being more direct in their wants too...but geez on average I find it quite hard still...maybe it is just me being quite direct and blunt ;) but then again I see women saying they don't want mind games... arghhh haha Here's a tough one for the guys, what about if you have a pretty good 'connection' but intimacy/sex is not going to happen (or very unlikely)? Very bittersweet deep down I'd think... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'PL1963' Glad to see you're back, as I said, to Mooka, I don't apoligise for what I've said & done in the past, I've never bullshitted to any lady or person on this site, I see ladies that want a relationship, I could easily change my profile in order to "pant's" them, I'm not like that, any lady I meet on here I want to be able to have a coffee with in in 5yrs, whether we've had sex or not. You my friend will learn how it all works, when your son, nephew or someone close to you gives his "life" to a lady" only to be shunned, ignored & eventually "cleaned out". I will just finish this story off forever, I received a txt from her last week, Racv had txt her that my vehicle insurance policy was due, I requested a letter from her solicitor so I could remove her from such documents, they refused, because legally they have no obligation. I broke my AVO & txt her back that it "was fixed". When I went to RACV to pay the policy, I was told that the policy had been "cancelled", apparently the only ppl that can cancel the policy are ppl who's names are on it, I didn't cancel it. This cost me $6K in agreed value, once a policy is cancelled, you can't get that "agreed value" back. She defrauded Centrelink in relation to claiming my son, while bleeding me for cash for her rent & costs relating to him, but still went on a $16K spending spree of travelling the country, buying clothes etc. He was working for cash $ at the time, but that was the last straw, she is now facing Centrelink fraud charges & will lose her Acc's job with the Dept of Education, which I helped her get 10yrs ago so she'd be "happy". I know this, as her Solicitor insisted on copies of bank statements for court. I've been told she now deeply regrets the things she has done,including the AVO she took out, which I made "undefinate", but once the ball starts rolling, u can't stop it. She sold her "soul to the devil & he shall return for what is rightfully is his". She said in an e-mail once that "I didn't know how good I had it", that really applies to her, life ain't so easy supportin' yourself when someone else did the job for 30yrs. Here end'th sermon 6, S, T, W & W. The Pardray. I'm glad to see that she is getting 'payment' for past bitchy and unconscionable behavior, especially the Centrelink people... They don't stuff about. Lesson... Don't fuck with people who know you've defrauded Centrelink... LOL. SOOO STUPID... (In fact, DON'T defraud Centrelink... period!!!). I was put through the ringer so long ago... She got basically the whole house, but I ended up with the kids (which ended up better for them anyway)... She lied her way through the entire proceedings after sleeping with a number of my friends, while I was touring with a band and saying NO to 'girls on tap' because I was married... and honest and loyal, even when I knew things were 'on the way out'. I've spent almost the last 30 years trying to catch up to where I was, but on one wage, with six kids (including three step from my deceased 2nd wife), I never had a chance... But I do OK and I sleep soundly at night, knowing that what I do have is all mine and honestly procured... I have at least managed to own a small cottage in one of the best beach towns in the country... There are very many men who've been screwed sideways by calculating women and by a Family Law system that has until recently been very gender biased... But I've never taken an ounce of anger or frustration out on another person (let alone a lady) in my life... But there are so many cold, cruel and calculating men who've taken so much emotionally from many women, who've done nothing but maybe grow a little older (unconscionable), and then hidden money and assets only to declare they have (on paper) too little to pay child support in any measurable amount. I've seen so much of it over the years. So, HERE'S to us decent blokes who have lost and lost again, but can hold our heads up in front of anyone, but especially in front of a mirror, and sleep the sleep of the proud and honourable.All the best my friend...
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RHP User
11 years ago
For a couple or (female) that im attracted to and have a rock solid relationship so I don't have to worry about jealousy. I also want to be able to trust them and know they won't judge me for investigating my bi side behind my husbands back. They must also ubderstand that I have to be 100% discrete and that I am time poor. I think that is actually asking a lot! But im hopeful it can happen for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But Ill keep an eye out for your message should it be forthcoming :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cheers Man, I knew somebody would turn up that's been thru the ringer too. Ppl of both sexes do evil things to their Ex's, for a lot of reason's, I've seen 2 cases were "when the money ran out, so did the love" & the women up & left. But there appears to be a common "theme" of vengance, when a "cushy No" is taken away, the shit starts. Like you, I sleep well at nite, content with what I've done & eagerly await to do things in the future with ppl that want to know me for that right reasons, we will have a ball. I'm gunna' travel & do W/enders in my Sprinter van that I can sleep in, ya' never know, one Friday night I might roll into that town where your cottage is. Then we can "Raise up our Glasses against Evil forces". Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its not the age thing, mind games, wanting to chat but not meet.....some of us honestly have a hard time getting a free evening. I would love to have time to meet guys that I talk to and really like, but these times for me are far and few between. But it does happen.......your English teacher
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just viewed your profile, are you really an English Teacher? All your pic's are great, but by far, the shot of you in the purple, satiny robe/dress thingy is the best. I left High School at the end of Yr10, ah Yr10, the best 4yrs of my life. If you had been my English Teacher, I wouldn't have left till you did. Praise were praise is due. P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, PL, it's a joke between my self and Nnninja, I'm not a teacher, but thank you very much for the compliment!
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RHP User
11 years ago
You just said "a good many of the ladies have got major 'damage' issues. They've been hurt very badly and they really don't know what they want, let alone where they are going or if they even want a relationship..." You are also the one that calls your ex a "Creature" and have now spent several posts bagging her. I think you're the pot calling the kettle black here.
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