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Why is a "no thanks" so hard???
August 15 2019
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Have you seen the current amount of messages and flirts I have in my inbox? I should not feel pressured to respond to every message or flirt I receive. Everyone is different and responds differently. Why should I respond to someone who is not what I am looking for or does not interest me and especially if their messages are inappropriate? There should be no obligation or expectations placed on people to respond. I like my freedom and am able to make my own choices who I choose to respond too, not what others think I should or shouldn't do. Not my problem if people can not accept that. I don't have the energy nor time to be sitting here for hours on this site responding to each and every message/flirt. It is not up there on my priority list of things. Unless of course someone wants to put their hand up and be my RHP personal assistant. Any takers?? Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
I love these no reply topics Okay so you think I should politely reply to a convicted rapist, murderer, stalker, creepy old man, meerkat, abusive person who will react very badly with rejection, or perhaps a creepy brother in law hiding behind a fake profile, and the list goes on..... These are avatars until such time as we go through our vetting process, but until then they could be anyone. Are you fucking serious? Get a grip mate. We're not paid sex workers, we're not employed by the site or you. We owe you absolutely nothing
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Anecdotal evidence, usually it is followed by a "well fuck you bitch then" or equivalent. :P
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RHP User
6 years ago
was overflowing today. I think I had two messages 😜
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
That is above, for why many women don't reply with a no thank you. For men, yes sometimes we are still not interested fully in the other person/woman. The best response is something like: I don't think we are quite suited, at least not right now, but I do hope you find the person that you are looking for.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I replied to messages in my time, with hubby, when we were looking for people on the site for more than a social meet up. I thought it was the right thing to do considering we asked them to approach us. We got a lot of satisfaction from thankful replies to know someone knew they mattered and it didn't take a lot of effort For me, I like the idea of setting clear boundaries and that's what I believe the profile is for. That is our contact with the people we're seeking and mine works for me perfectly well though some might say I'm too old and/or boring. Cheers, Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Touchy... You got my message then ?? 😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
A polite "No thanks" seems to make some people think you are interested and they keep messaging you. I used to have "No attached guys" on my profile, it didnt stop them. I have "social meets only for now" on my profile and still get the "want to hook up with a guy with a big dick" messages. Some things never change.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch82' Anecdotal evidence, usually it is followed by a "well fuck you bitch then" or equivalent. :P But we were asked our personal reasons. I have never copped this sort of thing in a no reply. On our couple or single profile, I was very clear on my single profile that it was for the forum and I had a template similar to what you've posted above and it worked perfectly fine. I've wondered what it is that people have said in their refusal, I tried to keep my no replies impersonal most of the time with the template except for, occasionally, ones that obviously went against our seeking preferences lol. Still didn't manage to get in too much shit. Apparently I'm way better at that in public posts. Peachy
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beachgal20
6 years ago
Usually I would agree with 'why should I reply' as I get more than enough bland or suggestive emails too. But.... I happen to have met the OP recently for an initial meet and chat- he is a genuine person. I rarely agree to meet guys and my bullshit radar is pretty good . He wasn't asking why you do t reply...it was a wider question. I love these no reply topics Okay so you think I should politely reply to a convicted rapist, murderer, stalker, creepy old man, meerkat, abusive person who will react very badly with rejection, or perhaps a creepy brother in law hiding behind a fake profile, and the list goes on..... These are avatars until such time as we go through our vetting process, but until then they could be anyone. Are you fucking serious? Get a grip mate. We're not paid sex workers, we're not employed by the site or you. We owe you absolutely nothing
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beachgal20
6 years ago
Clearly I'm not good at putting a quoted reply first in my message- but I was referring to the reply from 'I Touch' ......
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Supple hands I’m pleased you brought up this topic , even tho I’m certain others have before you . I’d like to think that my husband and I have good manners . For that reason we feel that if someone has taken the time to read our profile and to send us a message , it is polite to respond . If their message is disrespectful , just says only ‘hi’ or is blatantly obvious that they haven’t read our profile , we don’t feel compelled to respond . Sadly of course real life does often get hectic and we are far from perfect , sometimes remiss and don’t respond . On this same topic - we find it difficult to say a polite thank you but no thanks . For whatever reason the answer is a no thank you . It’s difficult to say that in a polite way . ‘Country touch ‘ I like your advice on how to respond , thank you . Obviously not responding gives them the same answer . We’ve found most single guys appreciate our answering , are gracious and thank us .
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Dirtyandfriendly
6 years ago
I think there is a lot of men out there who are so desperate and neglected that they get shitty when they don't get any attention. Have a wank, watch the cricket and chill
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RHP User
6 years ago
Because; A-People either drag the conversation when we say no; “maybe I can change your mind if we meet?”, “ you don’t know what you are missing”,”I am really good with my hands”, “I’ll pay the restaurant if we meet.” etc etc... Or they get aggressive with abusive messages. B-We just can’t spend an hour everyday replying to dozens of messages and flirts. You have to keep in mind RHP experience is very different for couples and single women compared to single males.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I love these no reply topics Okay so you think I should politely reply to a convicted rapist, murderer, stalker, creepy old man, meerkat, abusive person who will react very badly with rejection, or perhaps a creepy brother in law hiding behind a fake profile, and the list goes on..... These are avatars until such time as we go through our vetting process, but until then they could be anyone. Are you fucking serious? Get a grip mate. We're not paid sex workers, we're not employed by the site or you. We owe you absolutely nothing Thank you for your well considered reply. Should I assume that you're a convicted rapist??
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RHP User
6 years ago
Haha no I didn't I swear I didn't 😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes of course 😂 bit slow on the uptake there
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's not harsh, it's reality, for our security and why the fuck do these men think we owe them anything? I don't work for them, thank fuck. Fuck them! 😁 That harsh enough for you 😉 I mean every word btw Explain to me why you believe I should be polite or why your mate does. I couldn't care less whether you've met him or not. How is that relevant? He's a real person? They all are sweetie
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'beachgal20' Clearly I'm not good at putting a quoted reply first in my message- but I was referring to the reply from 'I Touch' ...... There is a way to use the quote button on your phone so it works the way it's supposed to. If you are Android on Chrome, top right where the 3 dots are, click on that and go down the drop box and check the desktop option. It will reload and all the buttons will work including the emoticons etc.But when you go to type the message, scroll down as far as it let's you in the box to the last line otherwise it looks like part of the quote.Hope that all makes sense. If you are on Apple, l have no clue nor do l want one
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RHP User
6 years ago
no reply is a no so fuck off and get over it And stop guilting these weak gullible women (who need to grow some balls😉) into doing what you tell them to do. Come on ladies, stand on your own two feet, caving in to the demands of men? Isn't that why we burnt our bra? 😁 Seriously, this is bullshit
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beachgal20
6 years ago
'I Touch Myself' I get it about security etc- believe me I've been here long enough and I'm not stupid. I've met enough over the years , and yes Ive had my share of crap messages, but sometimes there's nothing wrong with saying the occassional 'sorry, but not my type' I don't reply to the crass or inane stuff. I didn't say we owe them anything. I dislike your attitude towards me and my response. I'm not going to justify anything to you.
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beachgal20
6 years ago
Thank you. I'm on iPad, I'm not savvy...I'll work it out eventually. x
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'SuppleHands' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I love these no reply topics Okay so you think I should politely reply to a convicted rapist, murderer, stalker, creepy old man, meerkat, abusive person who will react very badly with rejection, or perhaps a creepy brother in law hiding behind a fake profile, and the list goes on..... These are avatars until such time as we go through our vetting process, but until then they could be anyone. Are you fucking serious? Get a grip mate. We're not paid sex workers, we're not employed by the site or you. We owe you absolutely nothing Thank you for your well considered reply. Should I assume that you're a convicted rapist??
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' no reply is a no so fuck off and get over it And stop guilting these weak gullible women (who need to grow some balls😉) into doing what you tell them to do. Come on ladies, stand on your own two feet, caving in to the demands of men? Isn't that why we burnt our bra? 😁 Seriously, this is bullshit You seem to have mistaken my question for a 'demand'...fascinating to see how you're trying to turn my question into a gender based attack. Says plenty about you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The benefits of the ability to say no should not be underestimated. For our own benefit no one else's. God knows it hasn't been encouraged as part of our vocabulary. 😊🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
If it was a message done with effort. Then I'm happy to reply with a response. Thanking them for interest and time taken. Yes sometimes u may have to reply again confirming your not interested or get abused because and my favorite what are u doing on a sex site then response. One of these days I'm just going to take the piss and say. Sorry I'm just tired because I've met and fucked every guy who messaged me this week.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I stil get the occasional message and if it is polite I will respond..it's usually just "thank you for your message" or "no thank you"..but I am not inundated with messages. For some women it could turn into a part -time job. Firstly just reading them all,secondly sifting and sorting into the ones that capture her interest (or their interest if a couple) and replying to those. In the past when this topic has been broached,women who had recently joined the site said they were overwhelmed and often felt like "fresh meat". Men don't always take rejection well and some responses can be quite nasty,that is another reason why women don't respond,nobody deserves to be abused. Hugs Q
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
Why ? Because a “ no thanks” is seen as a rejection, and many self entitled males cannot handle being turned down. The result is often a barrage of insults and aggressive messages, as they throw their proverbial toys out of their cots. It is therefore often better to simply not reply at all. You may feel that it is rude to not reply. But then we feel that it is rude to message someone without first reading their profile so as to establish if you actually have the attributes that they find attractive, and or meet their selection criteria.
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RHP User
6 years ago
This topic comes up all the time, at least every couple of weeks. If you go through past topics you'll find plenty of responses to address your question. You could start by searching the 'messages' tag but with even a brief scroll through the past topics you should find a few of them.
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RHP User
6 years ago
"No Thanks" is probably as hard as reading a profile. Most single males and many couples that msg clearly don't read profiles. If a persons interest is so shallow and disrespectful that they don't bother to read a profile we consider that wont change in person or with a reply so we don't reply. We state in our profile that we will reply to msgs if the msg is from someone within our profile age range and the msg is something more than a ping pong msg like "Hi, how are you?". AND we state we won't reply to impersonal, generic, template canvasing msgs. It's not that difficult, all people need to do is show some courtesy and respect by reading the profile. There is really no need to get all bitch faced about anything.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Xanthea always replies to all polite messages. Hunter will only reply to couples or ladies as our profile clearly shows we are only looking for them.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The language from so called females is disgusting. Notice i didnt use the word lady.
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Sawadee
6 years ago
..how volatile this can be.. .. OP...the message here is dont expect a bed of roses unless you're asome sort of exceptional stand out ... You were probally bought up to show your manners and expect others to return the compliment ? Well my friend , that doesn't always count here.. Best to accept this is 2019 and things have changed.. Don't take it personally..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Seriously, it isn't difficult to make a template saying Thanks but no thanks. Takes hardly any time and the karma points will more than pay for it. Respect earns respect.
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RHP User
6 years ago
You're not old, how could you be you're my age lol And you're definitely not boring 😁 😘
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RHP User
6 years ago
Softcpl, “so called females”? Does bad language affect people’s gender somehow? I don’t get that comment at all. OP, for me there’s a whole range of reasons why I will or won’t answer people, pretty much all of them have been covered here already though.. I have on my profile that I’m not currently looking for anything and have actually had a member abuse me & tell me to get off the site when I reiterated that to him after he messaged me wanting to start something despite having looked at my profile first. People can be rude and horrible when rejected, sometimes it’s easier to just ignore...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'SuppleHands' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' no reply is a no so fuck off and get over it And stop guilting these weak gullible women (who need to grow some balls😉) into doing what you tell them to do. Come on ladies, stand on your own two feet, caving in to the demands of men? Isn't that why we burnt our bra? 😁 Seriously, this is bullshit You seem to have mistaken my question for a 'demand'...fascinating to see how you're trying to turn my question into a gender based attack. Says plenty about you. How many women do you see start a topic 'why don't they reply to my messages, boo hoo, it's simple manners whaa whaa..' ?I suppose you're asking for a friend are you? Grow the fuck up. We owe you nothing. The expectation or self entitlement is the problem. You only get that when you pay for a service. All these other saps being 'polite' missed that little detail and most have missed my point.Let me put it to you another way, quoting Germaine Greer. Note that I'm not a feminist and neither is she, but she's a very smart woman, and so am I"Women love men, more than they [men] love women. We are more aware of our men, more than they are aware of us. We are more easily pressured into pleasing them, or trying to please them. "Women's liberation", she wrote in The Whole Woman (1999), "did not see the female's potential in terms of the male's actual"I strongly believe these sob stories or pleas from desperate men, are put in place to guilt or pressure women into talking to them, and consider this issue a serious matter, since they use that same control to abuse women and children. No means no mate. Cry as bigger river as you like and try to turn it on me, but I will continue to speak out in the hope more women will not fall for this kind of shitNo means no, period, end of story. A no reply is a no
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
I ALWAYS reply. Its rude not to. Even when the message is thoughtless or crass or from couples/old men/females (clearly NOT interested if they read my profile). Having said that, due to the amount of hateful sooky responses after my polite response, i now reply and block instantly.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have auto reply turned on. That explains why they may not get a response, and if they don't then best of luck to them.
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RHP User
6 years ago
So many just can't understand that "No" means No, just like the guy we've just replied to for the second time with "No Thanks" and blocked his profile. Maybe better to just not reply and block, so much easier than trying to be polite with so many.
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MissRedFox
6 years ago
You know what This topic is brought up so often I've decided it's time to take action and address this deeply distressing issue for men From now on I will respond to all messages in my inbox Thank you for your message. I'm sorry but life has become way too busy for me to meet anyone now that I'm responding to every message in my inbox XX
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RHP User
6 years ago
I_touchmyself2. You give me a good laugh. Direct and to the point. I am both impressed and a little scared of you. Keep fighting the good fight.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I almost audibly groaned. I have been on here as a single female and used to try and be polite and reply - I got everything from 'well aren't you a stuck up little slut' to 'can you please tell me why, how can I make my profile better, how can you say that when you haven't even met me' etc. etc. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. A polite 'no' is seldom received as it should be and often met with either abuse or desperation. And we have had the same thing happen as a couple. Another reason I no longer reply is because people clearly don't bother reading the profile - literally the first line says if you expect a response please open your face pics. If they don't do that, I don't bother replying (although I'll admit to having bitten back out of frustration once or twice when they say they've read the profile and don't open up face pics). I'm here to meet people, why would I spend time on someone that I am not interested in meeting? As already mentioned, no reply IS a reply. It is a NO. Problem is, some people seem unwilling to accept that. Miss Little xx
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RHP User
6 years ago
We have been contacted by many people, but for a long time our profile has said quite clearly: "WE AREN'T INTERESTED IN MEETING UP WITH SINGLE MEN AT THIS POINT IN TIME." and "WE WILL ONLY MEET AND PLAY AS A COUPLE", yet we still get single guys who thinl they'll "try their luck" and couples looking to "complete their FFM experience" and be on their merry way. For us, if you haven't taken the time to read about us and what we want, then you cannot and will not be able to satisfy us, and worse still is that a simple "no thanks" is not even good enough. We had to exchange a bunch of messages with people on more than one occasion because they think they can talk us around what we feel comfortable with. So i ask you: if you can't even take the time to read about us and respect us, why do we owe you something more?
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BungCpl
6 years ago
No Thanks
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don't think that it's clearly more polite to reply with a no. This isn't real life, the culture is different for many reasons. You're getting offended because you are expecting the same cultural norms as face-to-face, let those go and embrace the new reality, it has benefits: 1) You don't need to waste valuable time saying no either2) You can dream up all kinds of ego soothing reasons for why they not reply3) No response leaves you the option of having a polite second go at them after a suitably not desperate amount of time 4) Soooo many men do not have sense of self to be ok with being ignored, this is an easy way to be superior5) Not saying no makes it easier for them to change their mind after they're done with the current dude6) No disappointment after getting excited over a message only to find that it's just a no thanks Looking at the flip side, what are benefits of getting a "no thanks" reply? 1) Feel validated that random internet person acknowledged your existence2) No more anxiety over whether object of desire likes you back3) Reading emails is sooo exciting4) Allows to respond with abuse and/or desperation without using up another precious message Seriously if any of those 4 points are actually appealing to you I highly recommend that you immediately delete your account and move on with your life as this place will eat your emotional state alive. So, unless I've missed something which is unlikely, I feel like I have now demonstrated that it is clearly more polite to not reply with tedious and patronising "thank but no thanks" messages.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I wholeheartedly agree with you, thank you for being loud about it cos I just didn’t have it in me today, lol.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Diggitau1' I_touchmyself2. You give me a good laugh. Direct and to the point. I am both impressed and a little scared of you. Keep fighting the good fight. I'm scared of me when I write comments like that
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RHP User
6 years ago
Touchy... If you were merchandise, your motto could be “touchy, going harder than a honeymooners dick for 50 years!!” 😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
But I was a bit disappointed when I took a woman out for dinner last week from another site ( POF ) and messaged her phone to ask if she was interested in doing something this weekend and received no response. I thought that was rude just a sorry not interested would have been fine with me. I don't find it a problem if there was no reply from some of the stupid flirts on this site and really think there should be something done to fix that problem lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
If I were merchandise, my motto? That's a whole topic in itself Hmm 😎
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RHP User
6 years ago
I quickly grew tired of the abuse.... you think you are to good for me? Nope, we just don’t have anything in common..... and it’s so time consuming. Once you reply, they seem to think they still have a chance and keep messaging. Even after I have said no. It’s easier to ignore. Rude, but it protects me, and in the internet world where everyone is a keyboard warrior, best to avoid interacting with anyone whose nose might get out of joint by a no.
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RHP User
6 years ago
It’s still a complete mystery to my why so many people think that others owe them.... well.... anything at all. No, it’s not courtesy to answer total strangers, it’s your demand and urgent expectations No it’s not a case of “it only takes a moment”, when you add up all the messages Send your message, then leave it up to the universe. If you’re not a wanker, if you match their preferences, if your profile and communication are appealing, and if the timing is right...., then your time will come.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ello Forumites.. Personally its not hard to send a "No thankyou". Sure there are folk who don't handle rejection too well, both men and woman. I guess tho at the end of the day, its about self love and knowing its ok not to be that one persons cup of tea. Those who take a rejection personally, remember to take it at face value. That's all it can be.
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Because people have become rude arrogant and self absorbed really. They feel they owe you nothing not even a no thank you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I haven’t replied to any of them on here just yet but outside of RHP. But mostly on Facebook I do get them in singles groups I do get them but haven’t yet been questioned as to why I don’t respond and through random messages I like to intentionally find out as much as I can before I open the inbox
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RHP User
6 years ago
It’s not that we FEEL we owe you nothing, we actually DO owe you nothing, nada, sweet fuck all!! You could be considered extremely rude and self centred for thinking we do owe you anything so you might wanna watch your step there buddy.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Is it really better to get a no thanks message than no reply? Why?It's the same thing said in a different way.How invested are you really in some random from the internet? I already know if someone say "Hi"and nothing else, I'm not going to be interested. I do usually reply if something captures my interest. If I don't, maybe that day I didn't have the emotional energy or one of many other random reasons. My life does not revolve around dating. It's just a fun sometimes pastime.If I'm interested in any part of the message I will reply because I want to. Not because of some external obligatory presumed social norms that I don't subscribe to.
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Minx99
6 years ago
This week's no thank you lovely response: His opener: Fuck you are Devine (sic). I wanna get all up in that. My RHP template reply: Sorry, you don't match what I'm looking for. Good luck in your search. His response: whatever, you're pretty average yourself love. I wasn't impolite nor judgemental.. right until then. I have found more people in recent times responding to no thanks with belittling, rude, violent responses. Imagine if I had met with this man? So.. I think I'm going to stop replying too.
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RHP User
6 years ago
While it seems ok for the women to vent their spleen in pretty strong language I apparently can not. No surprises there. So I’ll like where appropriate and hopefully not melt too many snowflakes. It must feel comforting having someone shelter you from the harshness of contrary opinion. Yay you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
It seems like some people's response when they get a 'no thanks' is a big part of the problem. I don't think there's any excuse for people to be offended by a negative reply...no one could expect to be attractive or appealing to everyone. 😏
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RHP User
6 years ago
No response to me simply = “No Thanks” - not one to feel the need to fixate. It’s efficient and if you see that person browse you and then doesn’t respond, no big deal to me seems clear enough.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We always take the time to reply, if someone puts themselves out there, they are being vulnerable & no one likes to be rejected. It's just good manners. We set clear boundaries & have only had to ask one persistent male to not message us again. He didn't become abusive & we were grateful for that. We haven't had any negative responses so far but haven't been on here long. 😊
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RHP User
6 years ago
I personally ignore 40% of my messages because if they are single men, or couples over 45 they haven't bothered to read my profile so why should I bother to reply?
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FunseekersAgain
6 years ago
I think if a person clearly doesn't fit with your search criteria, no reply is reasonable. On the other side of the coin, we don't get terribly offended if we don't get a reply. Our messages are usually just to get a person's attention, get them to have a look and then make a decision on contact. I (the man of the couple) am guilty of all the grammatical, cultural and manners related faux pars ( had to look up the spelling of that) people complain about, so its probably why I/we swing and miss a lot. I would hate to get "NO" back.
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RHP User
6 years ago
It starts with a no thank you (many either haven’t read my profile or choose to ignore my preferences) Then you get, why not ? What can I do to change your mind ? You should try me first I have a thing for older/younger women Being bombarded with numerous messages after the polite “no thanks” or “I’m sorry you’re not what I’m looking for” I’ve turned off receiving messages, just for that very reason, some just can’t take no for an answer
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
LMFAO! Ohhhh you got that one too. 😂 Ms Foxy
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hommies
6 years ago
We prefer not to reply if someone doesn't meet our criteria, we've had a hell of a lot of single men send messages blah blah as to why we should give them a go. My partner for starters isn't a whore that will fuck anyone and when we write NO SINGLE MALES on our profile we fucking mean it. So if we get messages from single males we don't reply , we just block them immediately. Thier arrogance to write even after what we have written only deserves our response. We have had messages from couples also and some have been not to our liking but they have given us their gallery access, so in respect we have given them ours for a little harmless tease. It is a sex dating site so let's not get uptight about sharing fuck pics if the couple is respectful. On the other hand we have liked a fair few couples and for one reason or another have never been able to catch up as our time is precious, to those couples we do sincerely apologise.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well he is wildly incorrect Minx as you are smoking hot. Fuck him- not literally though
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RHP User
6 years ago
Expects anyone to answer ALL the messages especially the shit ones right ? No one. Don’t you expect people to read your profile? Even the manifesto’s and the job applications ? And then compose a custom message just for YOU ? Addressing YOUR needs, YOUR interests ? Is that effort worth nothing? So who’s entitled now ? I know, I should just drop it. But you know, a little mutual respect around here could go along way, who knows decent messages might even increase. Carrots work better than sticks. 😇
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RHP User
6 years ago
sexual harassment noun noun: sexual harassment behaviour characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation. No response means no. Stop being so creepy.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Minx99' This week's no thank you lovely response: His opener: Fuck you are Devine (sic). I wanna get all up in that. My RHP template reply: Sorry, you don't match what I'm looking for. Good luck in your search. His response: whatever, you're pretty average yourself love. I wasn't impolite nor judgemental.. right until then. I have found more people in recent times responding to no thanks with belittling, rude, violent responses. Imagine if I had met with this man? So.. I think I'm going to stop replying too. Don't you just love the way they call you 'love' at the end. I've had similar and much worse replies. Funny how they think you're hot, then change on a dime and deliver the insults
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi' Expects anyone to answer ALL the messages especially the shit ones right ? No one. Don’t you expect people to read your profile? Even the manifesto’s and the job applications ? And then compose a custom message just for YOU ? Addressing YOUR needs, YOUR interests ? Is that effort worth nothing? So who’s entitled now ? I know, I should just drop it. But you know, a little mutual respect around here could go along way, who knows decent messages might even increase. Carrots work better than sticks. 😇 Theres plenty of job advertised that state if there is no reply you were unsuccessful in your application. Are you seriously trying to say people should care if another person reads their profile?If anyone is that bent out of shape that their messages to others are skewed to the negative because of previous unsuccessful efforts maybe they should stop online communication and work on themselves. Also, you can say whatever you want on here and not drop it, just be prepared for people to argue with you. Carrots only work for donkeys.
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Dinner date Not quite sure how wishing people were nice enough to respond is creepy. Why would you name call like that? Why is everyone always so angry on here? You're supposed to be happy be friends and be meeting up having fun. But you're all sounding so evil defensive judgemental and hating
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RHP User
6 years ago
We're not applying for jobs though are we, we're people seeking intimacy. This place is full of complaints about profiles not being read. Negative responses are crap, yes, delete and block. I love an argument, thats what I'm doing, presenting arguments, what shits me is when the topic is abandoned for personal attacks to shut down the discussion, you know, throwing in words like creepy, bitter, misogynist, donkey, character assassination is not discussion.In my experience you get out of an endeavour what you put in. Eeeh Awww. (comments intended to be general in nature and not to be taken personally )
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RHP User
6 years ago
all supposed to be friends with everyone and anyone. Oh lord
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RHP User
6 years ago
That's exactly why you dont get a reply supplehands.. because the world is full of bitches. I have so many messages in my inbox say the women... Oh my lord... 😆😆 What did you think was going to happen being on a sex site? Who cares about your inbox or your busy schedule. Just like you dont have to reply we dont care about your inbox No one has to reply to anyone Correct, we owe nothing to noone But when giving your opinion at least be polite about it.. No essence in your response to the question whatsoever.
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RHP User
6 years ago
63 pages cleaned out last weekend. Posted no thanks and blocked them. This site particularly is more abusive than others when a "thank you but youre not what im looking for" message is sent. So lesson learnt and a reply - block is the only recourse. As for time, well its very overwhelming and all consuming. Life lived is a better action.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi I am unandated with flirts and messages, I don’t know where to begin. At first I replied with thanks, or hi after a compliment was given. Some have taken the liberty of thinking that’s an in or even worse yes to a date! A few I have had to block, one in particular left a ticket for me at the door of a comedy club after assuming after no reply from me, we had a date. Then I was abused verbally in a messages, how could I set him up, I accepted his friendship so he thought we had something! Jesus I’m just being nice. Is that a crime, and what got me this was a mature guy who told me how women are left wanting more, yeah right!! So I don’t reply only if I want too! Donna
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RHP User
6 years ago
Get a grip on reality. Take a hint. Insisting that you need a polite response from women who have not contacts you first or whose profile you do not match is creepy. That would get you thrown out of a club in this scene. It would also get you arrested in the real world. Stop. Being. Creepy.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Please excuse me from "you're all sounding so evil defensive judgemental and hating", thanks. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Men could be men and take a "no" in their stride with retaliating with disgusting replies. Of course not every guy is like that but it's the bad ones you remember. Are there any cases of a woman doing that? Or is it the exclusive domains of the strong macho male?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Men could be men and take a "no" in their stride with retaliating with disgusting replies. Of course not every guy is like that but it's the bad ones you remember. Are there any cases of a woman doing that? Or is it the exclusive domains of the strong macho male? I doubt to the same extent but I have received a couple of snarky replies in my time
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RHP User
6 years ago
how some refer to themselves as people when we have no visible evidence of that. But we must be courteous to them all the same
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RHP User
6 years ago
Becasg
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RHP User
6 years ago
💋
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RHP User
6 years ago
@Letsfrolic Jeeeeeeez... with that ongoing attitude you keep sharing in the forums, it’s not hard to see why you keep complaining about your poor experience of RHP 😐
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RHP User
6 years ago
Kumbaya, my Lord, kumbaya Kumbaya, my Lord, kumbaya Kumbaya, my Lord, kumbaya Oh, Lord, kumbaya,,,, ohhhhhh, Lord, kumbaya. Come on everybody, hey you at the back! Youre not singing!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mine would be a bit different to everyone. Bcoz I got a magic word written in my profile and if they don’t say the magic word, they don’t get a reply. However I’m all about making exception. If someone is genius and polite, I would either reply with “Xx” or some more lines. Xx
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi' I love an argument, thats what I'm doing, presenting arguments, what shits me is when the topic is abandoned for personal attacks to shut down the discussion, you know, throwing in words like creepy, bitter, misogynist, donkey, character assassination is not discussion.In my experience you get out of an endeavour what you put in. Eeeh Awww. (comments intended to be general in nature and not to be taken personally ) Donkey could be used as a compliment on here if the dick pic was angled correctly?
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brokenhands
6 years ago
Whilst the courtesy of a "no thanks" would be nice... i think the main thing to remember (and it applies to life in general) is to not take anything personally... especially when it comes to online dating... Always back yourself and be confident/sure of yourself and if they dont reply then its their loss
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RHP User
6 years ago
Reading through all the comments, there’s some really nasty women with nasty unnecessary comments. Using good manners isn’t difficult. What’s that old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say.....” Good to see Supplenands friends standing up for him
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RHP User
6 years ago
Someone has their cranky pants on... Lol 😂
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Twisted in a knot or removed. 🤣😂😁😎 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Want to fuck
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RHP User
6 years ago
I dunno. Guess I was raised by someone who instilled manners in me. Most flirts and messages are responded to, it's easy enuf. But then maybe I don't get as many as others... My profile is pretty detailed so I feel no guilt saying no thanks to anyone that doesn't fit my criteria. Then for the Mr Persistents, there is always the block button. Who needs that sort of drama?!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes I agree but I also see it from another view too. If you have hundreds of messages who has time to reply. Another point is the BS reply, I’m taking a break and not looking (yet you’re still actively on) common if you do reply a simple no thanks is fine. We don’t need the BS
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'cruiser232' Want to fuck You will post in here, in a few months time, complaining and wondering why no one responds to you let alone find a root
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yeah that's way harsh! Where are the convicted rapists and murderer's? I can't take anything but that ridiculous comment in right now!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey single guys, sorry your feelings are hurt when you don't get a reply. Suck it up, buttercup. Chin up! If you dont take any shots, you'll never make a basket. Dont take it personally. Different strokes for different folks. We dont reply to anyone we aren't interested in, and sometimes dont reply to people we ARE interested in, just because we dont live online. I'd say if someone doesn't reply that's the politest and easiest way to send the message that we aren't interested. It's not meant as a pin to a fragile ego. It just is, what it is.
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