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when men say no
April 05 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Oh no! So texting my lover to say "I can still feel your cock as my arse is so deliciously sore" is a mistake? you crack me up meeka
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RHP User
12 years ago
saying no for a man is a hard thing, it can only be that the attraction is definitely not there, or he talked himself up and was a dud root, haha, and never wanted to hurt his ego. I said NO to my ex the other day, said no to an older lady the other night, and that was my only action for years........ WHY DID I SAY NO............................................................I NEED A ROOT....................................................FUCK............................................................................NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...............................
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmmm there are some really interesting comments here. I went through a stage of having never been rejected - I thought my shit didn't stink and I was super hot, oh they should be honored that I would let them near me Then Thanks to that attitude, shock horror guys started rejecting me! Finally I grew up and I became comfortable in my own skin. I find if I'm feeling pretty confident (generally after a meeting with either a fellow rhp member or my fwb) I get a little bit more attention than normal. However if I go out looking for a hook up I will get rejection after rejection. Hmmm it must be the "I need sex vibe" Walking into a meeting thinking that the person is lucky to be basking in my awesomeness is a recipe for disaster... - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Reality has shown that lust isn't always reciprocated in kind, same goes for like, interest or even an inclination to meet. Now quite often I personally can't tell if that person is even interested in me or just being polite so I tend toward being polite in return. IF I'm the one interested I don't want to seem over eager if it turns out the guy isn't interested which I guess is rectified if they come back for a second meeting and then a third. Lol I'm still not sure really....if I'm not interested I will ket the person know tactfully over the first couple of drinks (bugger putting us both theough the discomfort of dinner 😳). I'm finding though that 99% of the guys I do connect with on any level here whom I do see regularly have been relegated to the "friend basket". You beautiful men know who you are and I am grateful for the many smiles, easy conversations and company......as for meeting someone I want to explore intimately and repeatedly.......(crickets chirruping loudly). On the rare occassion I've been told "no" yes it makes me doubt mysekf and my level of attractiveness when I was younger.....now it's simply that I'm not his cup of tea and that's ok, it's personal choice. I may analyse the rejection for a wee bit and with the "brains trust" then just brush it off. Plenty of Fish in the sea and atleast he was decent enough to say "Hey, great girl and it was nice to chat with you but I'm just not that into you." Which is what I do.....communication and honesty costs you nothing. Call me old fashioned but I've never been a mind reader and I doubt most of us ever have been. I also believe it is still Gentlemanly for the man to make his intentions clear 😳 you know just in case I'm feeling the same way. ~ Indy, because I am just a girl standing in front of a boy wondering WTF you're REALLY thinking. 😏
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Jaspurr
12 years ago
To the OP where the guy had second thoughts you probably could have coaxed him, acted a little cheeky, seductive, gave him some body contact to make him feel a bit more comfortable. Not all guys are raring to go, a lot of women forget this and probably take offence if the guy is a bit timid. He showed up which indicates he was prepared to try. I politely told one girl who I wasn't really interested in that I wasn't in the mood, her response: I can get you in the mood. The way she said it, the look she gave and her hand on my thigh was able to put me into the mood and I was curious to see what she had to offer. I've only turned down one woman that directly asked and only because she was really bad news. I've unwillingly turned down many women through shyness, naivety, not knowing how to escalate to the next stage, etc. and I'd hate to think any of them blamed themselves. Unfortunately too many women expect the guy to be forward when some of us like a bit of encouragement if it's getting a bit difficult. j
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've turned down sex. Because I've been with someone else (nothing like being taken to make women throw themselves at you!), I just haven't been attracted to/felt any chemistry with her, or even just wasn't in the mood. I've got to say, the reactions are often not great. You know that whole sense of entitlement that 'nice guys' have? Yeah. That. Maybe some women really aren't used to rejection and react badly, even angrily.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I never say yes to a drunk lady...I remember a long while back I dragged a very pissy work colleague from interstate back to her hotel,she was all go,but all I could think of was how bad it would be if she had second thoughts the next morning,imagine,hotel security cameras showing me carrying her back to her room and then she said that she did not consent....I put her to bed and left the room within a minute. The next time I saw her she was so pissed off with me for rejecting her....go figure,I'm still glad I didn't do it. Sometimes saying yes is going to bring you a world of hassle,better to say no in those cases.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I used to say no when I was protecting my v-plates, many moons ago. Now that that's no longer a consideration, the times I've said no have been when it could have been detrimental to friendships. Friends have also said no to me for this reason, and I'm grateful for that. The first friend I said no to did feel rejected at the time, I could've handled the whole thing better, but I'm confident that she appreciates our friendship to this day.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jaspurr' To the OP where the guy had second thoughts you probably could have coaxed him, acted a little cheeky, seductive, gave him some body contact to make him feel a bit more comfortable. Not all guys are raring to go, a lot of women forget this and probably take offence if the guy is a bit timid. He showed up which indicates he was prepared to try. I politely told one girl who I wasn't really interested in that I wasn't in the mood, her response: I can get you in the mood. The way she said it, the look she gave and her hand on my thigh was able to put me into the mood and I was curious to see what she had to offer. I've only turned down one woman that directly asked and only because she was really bad news. I've unwillingly turned down many women through shyness, naivety, not knowing how to escalate to the next stage, etc. and I'd hate to think any of them blamed themselves. Unfortunately too many women expect the guy to be forward when some of us like a bit of encouragement if it's getting a bit difficult. j I guess when a guy says no, it means no so I never bother to seduce him. The situation was a bit unusual in that I had advised him before hand to be very direct, to say exactly how he felt. As its just a booty call for me, then I tend not to get into the slow seduction thing, mainly as we met in a beer garden of his hotel. If he had invited us back to his room, then yes perhaps we could have made him feel more inclined to play. But that being said, I was not attracted, and neither was my girlfriend, so it was a win win situation, by him being up front in the first place. As I am a married woman then rejection has no sting at all for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's the Four 'F's' (F F F F) Man:Find 'emFeed 'emFuck 'emForget 'emNow, having just said that, I will never ever get the chance to reject a woman!, as I will now be automatically rejected before hand!!!!, so all YOU rejectees out there, the tide has turned, YOU can all reject me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'farqtwo' It's the Four 'F's' (F F F F) Man:Find 'emFeed 'emFuck 'emForget 'emNow, having just said that, I will never ever get the chance to reject a woman!, as I will now be automatically rejected before hand!!!!, so all YOU rejectees out there, the tide has turned, YOU can all reject me. The reason is this is mainly a sex site, and when your older and a guy , and your married your chances are zip. Unless your cashed up or are George Clooney if your a woman, older and married , well its not a problem as we hold that golden Y card. it hardly fails us, unlike a penis when a guy gets older. Your right, the grim reality is exactly like you say it is, but I see you have made some friends on RHP so that's not a bad thing
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been dragged out on dates, with attractive girls, knowing full well in advance that sex was not on the table. I have since developed a cellular sense that dictates, looks are irrelevant. If there's no sex, of course I'll turn them down, and expect them to pay for the meal. Thin attractive girls in my experience, are so far up their own arse they aren't even worth fingering. Now women with self-confidence issues, marital disharmonies, eating disorders... this I can deal with. I need a flaw or a scar or something that lets me know they're human More to the point, women with wide hips have appeared to me to be naturally lower in self confidence and extremely promiscuous. I can't look at a pretty girl without wanting on some deep-seated primitive level to jump her, and either strangle her, snap her neck or sink my teeth into her jugular and tear the flesh off her bones. Its not healthy, but its the first place my mind goes to more often than not. And to think... I used to be such a nice guy. Cougars, Milfs, divorcees and menopausal women are like crack to me. No hang-ups, they appreciate a compliment, the kids are usually left out of the equation, if they're brought up in conversation at all, or they've usually left home. I have to figure, evolution has geared us this way for a reason - we as men were once upon a time, predators. Now, the constant beta-isation of males has reduced most of the sensitive new age guys to steaming heaps of shit that don't really do anything, as a result men aren't men anymore, and women have become increasingly masculine. Personally I hate it, but in the words of old Ned, Such is life. - N
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know the feeling when you're at a party, nursing a beer, thinking "Do I know anybody here?" feeling like a total nigel, so you hover near a group of interesting people and wait for an opportunity to add something to the conversation. One of those cuspal moments. That's how I feel right now -- first post on this forum, here goes! First admission, Lady Tuscan has delicious boobs! there I said it, let's move on. I'm a married, so I shouldn't be getting myself into situations where this sort of thing happens, right? Ha! As if life were that uncomplicated. So I've said no for both reasons: no, because I don't want to have sex with you, and no, because I do want to have sexy with you, but I'm married. I won't pretend that I've never said "hell yea!" because that would be a lie. How did they react? As a genealogy rule, women don't take it well. It is certainly a conversation closer. I go back to nursing my beer in the corner ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
... As a genealogy rule??? Stupid iPad autocorrect!!! I meant, generally, of course.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's a great advertisement for your cruises wnw,.... The Vampire Diaries Afloat Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lady Tuscan, Please accept my apology, and Thank you for your empathy, of course it is all tongue in cheek and as sir stir will know I was only correcting his version anyway, it matters little if one is rejected or not, be it age related, married or not on here, as it is all about having a great time, fun and conversation.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Eriksson68' You know the feeling when you're at a party, nursing a beer, thinking "Do I know anybody here?" feeling like a total nigel, so you hover near a group of interesting people and wait for an opportunity to add something to the conversation. One of those cuspal moments. That's how I feel right now -- first post on this forum, here goes! First admission, Lady Tuscan has delicious boobs! there I said it, let's move on. I'm a married, so I shouldn't be getting myself into situations where this sort of thing happens, right? Ha! As if life were that uncomplicated. So I've said no for both reasons: no, because I don't want to have sex with you, and no, because I do want to have sexy with you, but I'm married. I won't pretend that I've never said "hell yea!" because that would be a lie. How did they react? As a genealogy rule, women don't take it well. It is certainly a conversation closer. I go back to nursing my beer in the corner ... What makes you think, you get too have all the fun, I am married and have been Telling Lady T she has nice tits, ever since she mentioned that she has a lovely pussy, Tara agrees and that is what makes it all so special. Oh good evening Lady T. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Find em Fuck em Fuck em off :) - Posted from rhpmobile Maybe fuck em a few times if they are hot!!!!!
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