M66
50z to Lurkers, 50z to Lurkers, come in Lurkers.
December 17 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Speak for yourself 50z :-P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I don't care 😝 I'm still freaking funny and awesome 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
They'll bite! Personally, I find the forums extremely insightful, for a variety of reasons. If anything, indulge on the intelligence, wit and peaceful(?) conversations between people :). Having said this, on many occasions, a lot of people have already said what needs to be said... on occasions. - Cherry Popped!
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thanks for stopping by, I know you're there. I like the lurkers who read and don't post... I've met a few! Little treasures they are... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wall flowers maybe. Who knows why they don't dive into the shark and piranha infested waters for a lovely swim. Its perfectly safe, you will be completely ignored, unless you have an injury or thrash about and release the scent of blood, then some very thick skin will be needed. Over the years I have had a few lurkers messaging me with kind messages of appreciation and support, so there must be a lot of them out there quietly reading the RHP days of our lives.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DonkeyKong23' They'll bite! Personally, I find the forums extremely insightful, for a variety of reasons. If anything, indulge on the intelligence, wit and peaceful(?) conversations between people :). Having said this, on many occasions, a lot of people have already said what needs to be said... on occasions. - Cherry Popped! Well done! I hope it was as good for you as it was for me. Welcome to the forums
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because posts and threads get deleted for no real or apparent reason? I know one of mine got deleted a few weeks ago and now I seem to be on some kinda time delay. When I post now its just outta sync. I dont mind being screwed by the mods, but I like being kissed at the sametime Woe is me LOL
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Lurked for the first couple of months, reading and learning, picking my jaw up off the ground, then thought fuck it if you can't beat em, join em.......and here I am.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' Well done! I hope it was as good for you as it was for me. Welcome to the forums Thanks Quality! Actually feel like a proper member of the RHP community now! x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'itstime37' Because posts and threads get deleted for no real or apparent reason? I know one of mine got deleted a few weeks ago and now I seem to be on some kinda time delay. When I post now its just outta sync. I dont mind being screwed by the mods, but I like being kissed at the sametime Woe is me LOL Mods, I agree. Maybe some kind of Xmas amnesty for everyone who has been punished? Like time off for good behaviour?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Generally by the time I read a forum and have something to say about it, by the time I read till the end where I can post mine, my opinion or something similar enough has usually been said. Repeating just seems like a waste :/
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goosebumpsx
11 years ago
I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It'stime but while your post appears on your screen immediately it doesn't appear to the rest of us until it has been approved...approval can take between one hour and twenty-four...it depends on the time of day,day of the week...hope this is helpful xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was only when I met some of the posters that I realised that they were just normal people not sex gurus that I felt adequate enough to participate. Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guilty as charged, love reading the forums, usually someone has written something that i would've written, very entertaining and mostly educational!! 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For the newbie posters. There is a delay between posting and your post being visible to the other posters. Almost all posts must first be approved by the moderators. The Mods work for RHP and on the most part they work during the day, so late night post will have to wait till the morning to be visible. If you read the terms and conditions you will see that everything you add to this site becomes the property of RHP, that includes the posts you add in the forums. RHP there for becomes responsible for the content of all the media it broadcasts over the net. The media laws of Australia apply to them, and thus your posts. RHP err's on the side of caution, so if there is any ambiguity in a post in regard to it's legality, they will remove it. Also if someone complains about a post it will be removed. I for one have never complained about a single post, others tho use the complaint system to remove those that appose them. If you have problems with that system, trying to convince RHP will not make any difference. Try convincing those that abuse the complaint system to change their habits.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Didn't you know??? 😜😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'Little treasures they are... Foxy ...used to be a brand of disposable nappies
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
LoL @ little treasures name of nappies...as a parent "I just pissed myself laughing". I know why!! 😃😃😃 Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Kizzzzzzzzzza my husssssband!!!!... Miss you in the Forums! I don't eat Anchovy's...Bwaaaah ha ha yes peeps we still married!! 💗💒💕 💍 Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Quoting 'itstime37' Because posts and threads get deleted for no real or apparent reason? I know one of mine got deleted a few weeks ago and now I seem to be on some kinda time delay. When I post now its just outta sync. I dont mind being screwed by the mods, but I like being kissed at the sametime Woe is me LOL I think I have my very own naughty chair in the corner lately. It's seems to be a real thrill lately when I get one up. (post). But its all good, plenty of beer and chips over here. Pull up a pew.....
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
*waves hello* Just jump right in...👍👍 Foxy
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'xxxcheekyxxx' I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile When I started posting I thought everyone was ignoring me because I was a new kid on the block. I also thought everyone knew each other and I was the lost little puppy on the outside with no friends. We don't all know each other, its just we have been debating with each other for various periods of time. Familiarity also breeds contempt sometimes. Don't ever be afraid to post your opinion; if people have a crack at you about it, well give it back to them! I've had a couple of spats with regular posters and we have resolved our differences behind the scenes and continued on. I ignore all the jibes and digs, and sigh heavily when I read yet another spat between old combatants. Tolerance can be a lost attribute around here.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'xxxcheekyxxx' I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile When I started posting I thought everyone was ignoring me because I was a new kid on the block. I also thought everyone knew each other and I was the lost little puppy on the outside with no friends. We don't all know each other, its just we have been debating with each other for various periods of time. Familiarity also breeds contempt sometimes. Don't ever be afraid to post your opinion; if people have a crack at you about it, well give it back to them! I've had a couple of spats with regular posters and we have resolved our differences behind the scenes and continued on. I ignore all the jibes and digs, and sigh heavily when I read yet another spat between old combatants. Tolerance can be a lost attribute around here.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
*waves hello* Merry Christmas! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
got slapped down stood up, shook it off jumped back in had a great time for about 400 or so posts upset a few ego's we had our slangs and matched off well was happy to settle a draw very well !! . Liked all the regulars good and the bad, wingers and bingers dirty and mad , every so often someone would chuck a sad . You feel like a family , forum family scattered a far so you open your soul and expose your heart ! Then what do you know some ones standing behind you hidden in the dark , they sneak in and grab those words from your heart and rape them disect them and pull them apart , throw them in the sand pit run back into the dark , now your words have been violated and turned upside down like a mob hunting whitches to burn to the ground the forum high rollers club band together las one hunt anyone down , they dont know the reason to why there is corpses around its the old he did it guilty lets burn his house down the forum can be a mob of blind bastards and bitches to boot as long as the forum club stays private they dont give a hoot . - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I love the forums, the debates, for the learnings, that I get to voice my opinion and I don't really care what anyone else thinks, because it's my opinion not theirs.... Jump in, enjoy and have your say, we really don't bite.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
just jumped right in and now you can't get rid of me *insert evil laugh*. It is hard to find your niche in an established community but we do it all the time from family to school and work, it is no different here. I do love the laughs and the different opinions and the insight and the people I have met, and those I haven't. I enjoy my thoughts and morals being challenged and conflicted at times. There is certainly food for thought in here when you hear all the differing perspectives and how people manage and cope with what is really a different world to what we are perceived as in day to day life. So please come and share with us :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do enjoy reading it all though, the forums are like a real life soap opera, drama, love, lust, indiscretions, laughs, intrigue and betrayals. I suppose it's a little voyeuristic too, watching from the outside. I respect a lot of the regular posters, I like and enjoy the interaction between you all, some of you crack me up, some I can emapathise with, some make me groan, some make me squirm, some make me feel a little disturbed, but you all entertain!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a lurker and very occasional contributor due to being extremely time poor. It's interesting to have a quick look at topics but input takes thought and effort.... well should do anyway!
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
How easy is this? You've got at least 7 likes on your first post!! Come back soon. Annie xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I noticed your comment on cliques got a lot of likes, I too noticed that about the forums when I first started reading regularly, they are more apparent than real, don't let it bother you. Besides, the challenge is half the fun ! 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the comments from new and old, I hope the newbs continue on now that they have popped the cherry, and keep contributing, challenge the establishment and keep the bastards honest. Seriously, diversity maintains the vigour and makes us all better and stronger. Respect.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The forums are also a good way to connect with other forumites...and the meet and greets are a low key way to meet in real life...I have made quite few close friends via the forums...Just join the clique :) hugs Freya xx
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IamMrSilly
11 years ago
While I often go to post something, I stop myself from posting because 'it has already been said' and I would just be adding more noise to the chatter. I am a strong believer in listening first and only talking if you are going to improve the conversation. :) Merry Christmas to eeryone, and thank you to everyone who posts and reads on these forums because you helped me stay positive and motivated over the last half a year.
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goosebumpsx
11 years ago
Thanks everyone 😊 I can't see the likes on my phone. You've given me courage lol Expect to see opinionated me around haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'itstime37' Because posts and threads get deleted for no real or apparent reason? I know one of mine got deleted a few weeks ago and now I seem to be on some kinda time delay. When I post now its just outta sync. I dont mind being screwed by the mods, but I like being kissed at the sametime Woe is me LOL I think I have my very own naughty chair in the corner lately. It's seems to be a real thrill lately when I get one up. (post). You know I'll Kiss you all over 😇 (how blatant was that offer?) *giggle* why are all the hot men so far away (sigh)
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Was thinking about moving to a warmer climate......but fuck it rains a lot up there.........
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go for it! A forum is only good when there are lots of posters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a shy lurker, but am not on often either...on other sites (not dating) you can't shut me up where politics, advocacy, the environment and human rights are concerned. I like the "off topic" subjects, and I have actually learnt stuff off some of these forum post things, and I love to learn.You sound like a cool human 50oz, thank you for making a few of us shyer ones feel better and a it more confidentBlessings :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'xxxcheekyxxx' I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile Just muscle your way in. This isn't an orderly queue, as you've probably noticed. Put Katy Perry's "Roar" on repeat if it helps you and come on up to the microphone.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Water doesn't just come out of a tap you know! 😳 Only a city slicker would say that about the rain.....personally I love the rain, can't rain enough I reckon. Unless you're in Toowoomba and an inland tsunami hits, then it's too much. Come on up, happy to git ye to bucket water to me house to cook, bathe and wash in. 😝😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
and I thought that I would never join in. But some of the "Topics" discussed were just too interesting for me to keep my mouth shut !!! I enjoy the interaction and sometimes it is fun !!! Look at it this way.......you'd never be able to discuss such "Topics" among a "vanilla" type of audience !!! Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
is certainly unavoidable on here, given that so many of the regulars are friends - or enemies - offline. It plays a huge part in the dynamics of the discussions and I can certainly understand why it's off-putting to a lot of newcomers and lurkers. I still sometimes find it off-putting and I've been posting on here for over two years, and to an extent at times have been part of it. The difference being though that I very rarely have the opportunity to meet any other posters in real life, so I haven't developed any close offline relationships. It can certainly make you feel like an outsider at times. But then again, there are benefits to not having that close personal involvement as well. Anyway, I'd love to see some new blood on here to shake and stir things up a bit. Also, I will hold onto my dream that one day I'll click on a sexy and intelligent new poster's profile and find that he lives near me, is bi / experimental / not cock-shy, and just happens to have a male friend with the same qualities
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RHP User
11 years ago
That rules me out
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Myjourney
11 years ago
Have to say I agree!
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Myjourney
11 years ago
Quoting 'xxxcheekyxxx' I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile I totally agree!! There is definitely a forum police!
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RHP User
11 years ago
As has already been mentioned... by the time I get to read the posts I see my point of view already contributed and usually more succinctly and articulately than I would have. So I'm a happy lurker and liker. Plus, you are a tiny bit intimidating... (there, I said it!) But, thank you all for your posts. I'm a researcher by trade and by nature and you've answered so many of my questions. Cheers,Mrs Fun(Mr Fun doesn't read the forums, let alone lurk or like)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just most things I want to say have been said Love reading what people have to say and often chuckle to myself Keep it up forumites xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do the y have handcuffs and big rubber truncheons ? I give up 😎
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Quoting 'xxxcheekyxxx' I enjoy reading the forums and would love to post but way too clicky! - Posted from rhpmobile What she said
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll fuck the first ten lurkers that out themselves. :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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UnclaimedPants
11 years ago
Long time lurker very very occasional poster and like all of the sites of this type its extremely hard to break into the inner circle on the forums and in the chat rooms and so it becomes a little unwelcoming for the newer peeps.... just sayin.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am on here for the cock shots
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RHP User
11 years ago
First time poster….. glad i got that over and done with Always an interesting read these posts, and love hearing everyones opinions and views on the vast array of topics that are bought up. Well maybe now I've broken in, ill add my opinions to future posts.Cheers
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RHP User
11 years ago
When the battle is raging and the champions are dueling and the barbs are flying think and fast. Is it safe to stick one's head above the parapet?
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RHP User
11 years ago
fuck knows what a lurker is but ill put my hand up for sex, if you think you are kinky enough ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'xeena' When the battle is raging and the champions are dueling and the barbs are flying think and fast. Is it safe to stick one's head above the parapet? but that is what makes it fun :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree the forums can be a cliquey place, usually but not exclusively among women. If you specifically want to be accepted by a particular clique I guess the forums can be intimidating. But if you just want to share a view and get among the discussion, then who cares if the clique welcomes you or not? In my experience there will always be someone who notices and welcomes a newbie, and before-long the newbie becomes an old piece of forum furniture, like the rest of us :) I think Meeka said the best forums have a lot of posts. Absolutely! And ideally posts from lots of different people and perspectives. I've been on the forums for over six years now. They shit me sometimes, bore me others, but mostly they educate, enlighten and entertain. So join in newbies, please :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I often mention I've been on the site/forums for some years. I was wondering why I keep mentioning that and then realised it's because I'm still surprised that something could capture my attention for so long (albeit on and off). It's the forums that capture my attention. I honestly think they're pretty awesome, thanks to oldies and newbies alike :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The forums are great. Interesting discussions, different perspectives and thankfully, not a lot of trolling.Especially with so much input from the ladies on here, they offer us mere males a window into learning and better understanding what it is that a broad cross section actually think in regard to a subject.Perhaps the best part s that in here, we can take up subjects that do not make for regular conversation outside the RHP omniverse.Often, after reading through a forum, I find that somebody has already said pretty much exactly the same thing that I felt.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Water doesn't just come out of a tap you know! 😳 Only a city slicker would say that about the rain.....personally I love the rain, can't rain enough I reckon. Unless you're in Toowoomba and an inland tsunami hits, then it's too much. Come on up, happy to git ye to bucket water to me house to cook, bathe and wash in. 😝😎 Yeek! Bucket the water? Queenslanders! You fuckers can't even keep your clocks up to speed with the rest of the eastern states. I bet if you pick me up from the airport you'll driving a horse and cart. Happy to bucket water for you though but only if your bath is big enough. Not one to be standing around holding your towel............ Better get back on topic, we're setting a fine example for the lurkers
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'longhorn1' First time poster….. glad i got that over and done with Always an interesting read these posts, and love hearing everyones opinions and views on the vast array of topics that are bought up. Well maybe now I've broken in, ill add my opinions to future posts.Cheers YAY! You did it....... I look forward to reading your future posts. :)
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
I'm pretty much a newbie at this posting business. 3 months or so. It was very daunting at the start. Just the effort in getting off that first post, trying not to come across as a complete dick.But here I am down the track making myself a complete dick every week.....and loving it. People will take different things with them from the forum/posting experience. For me, it has been the ability to be myself for some moments during the day. As a CD/TV/TS, I have been a social outcast from normal society nearly my whole life except for the early years. You learn to hide your true self from the normal friends and associates. With that, hiding from the prejudice and ridicule that every day society puts on those that don't fit the accepted mould. But right from my first post, I began to relax and evolve into a different state of mind. I found I was accepted with very little exception, and be treated the same as everyone else. I almost feel normal here. So I have to thank all those here that make that possible and encourage the lurkers and the newbies to feel free to get involved, as little or as much as you like. You make friends here that can be both virtual and/or real. They are friends that your mother warned you aboutThey are friends that you probably wont tell your normal friends aboutThey are friends that you definitely wont tell your mother aboutBut they are definitely friends that wont judge you or make demands on youThey may tackle your opinion but there are no expectations here. Thanks to all those on the forum and to all those that will be Annie
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gotta love a complete dick Acceptance is great, normal is nothing to aspire too, like average, or worse. Diversity is strong. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why? Firstly, we have limited time for such frivolous activities. Secondly, the all too frequent spats between regular posters hardly inspire others to contribute their own opinions. Flame wars are such a drag. Lastly, judging by a recent thread, if your aren't bi there is something wrong with you. Rant over.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Push the "Like" button 😃
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Which begs the question.....what clique? Why AREN'T I in the clique....(sad paranoid face) what's wrong with me?!?!?! 😖 actually I'm mot the cliquey type, took my 8-12wks of stalking the forums until it got the better of me and I had to SAY SOMETHING!! I was beat up in a post once...I even contacted a forum "royal" for advice and was told not to let it bother me. Sooooo 2yrs later, 6 meet n greets between Sydney, Goldie and Bris and I'm still here. Don't let the regulars frighten you, they aren't cliquey just brutally honest, tactful as a brick and politically incorrect but mostly likeable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Why AREN'T I in the cliqueYou are Like it or not the clique/s definitely exist on here, you can't discount all of the lurkers / newbies who have mentioned it in this thread and others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I talk about cliques on here I don't mean it in the high school sense that the people in them are all rude and exclusionary when it comes to outsiders. I'm just referring to the groups that obviously have close offline connections, share in-jokes and stories, and generally back each other up on the forums. That type of thing can still be quite daunting to newcomers and lurkers.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because Mahatma Gandhi totally had an online forum on a sex & swinging site in mind when he said that. The only way to make the gap widen is to squeeze through it. Everyone who's a new poster who mentioned being intimidated or the clique effect has just bravely worked to nullify it. Don't wait until you know how to swim before you try getting in the water, folks. The only way to join in is to join in. See y'all round.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because I'm in Adelaide and not in one of the major metropolitan centres that COUNT, ie. Sydney, Melbourne or Brisbane, I may as well be in Tasmania, with three heads, all of which are speaking a foreign language no-one can translate. Nobody appears to make comment or respond to your posts if you're not one of the clique of regulars. Stirring the pot, to see if anything floats to the surface this time.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I love that you're a complete dick every week, but I also like reading what you have to say.....😜. And just for the record, I think you're my kind of friend.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
are you fucking alby mangles ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is great to read the responses from lurkers and encourage everyone who lurks to not be scared and jump right in. From personal experience it took about a month of posting to build up a dialogue with other forumers and start to feel really comfortable. I did this a bit when I was new and messages some regular forum individuals to say I am new but I really new here but really enjoyed reading that particular post or whatever and then you start to build some names to profiles etc. Kind of like in Real Life. Cheers, W.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guilty! If only for the fact that I'm constantly short of time, so just don't get to it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
My first 18mths I lived in Gladstone and wasn't ignored. I organised my first meet n greet from Gladstone IN Brisbane and had 43 people I didn't know from a bar of soap turn up and only 5 regular forum posters besides myself arrived. I didn't meet the Sydney Crew until January this year but, like all the meet n greets I've experienced, was welcomed and looked after. Tell you what, come North for a greet and acrually find out how normal and approachable we really are. And if you look at the likes of Aurora_Skye, MadonTara you'll see they're in more regional locations as well so really geography has nothing to do with it. If you're going to post post, people will warm up to you or not, if not it's usually because of the way you present yourself. Not always good for a few, most breeze through without being crucified. Thing is, we're a group of many and varied people, different agendas, thoughts, upbringings, experiences and (if the Mods weren't so twitchy on the edit/punishment thing of late) the forums moderate themselves mostly quite fairly. There aren't many here who hold grudges. And besides, most topics die aquick 3-5 page death. Then it's onto the next topic. Welcome everyone, the Sandpit awaits you 🙈🙉🙊💀💩
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '40DeeD' Because I'm in Adelaide and not in one of the major metropolitan centres that COUNT, ie. Sydney, Melbourne or Brisbane, I may as well be in Tasmania, with three heads, all of which are speaking a foreign language no-one can translate. Nobody appears to make comment or respond to your posts if you're not one of the clique of regulars. Stirring the pot, to see if anything floats to the surface this time. Do you have instant posting? If not that could be another reason that nobody appears to respond to you. But yes I agree with you about the location factor.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Now run along and play with yourself like a good little boy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
as I'm no longer a newbie and I was never a lurker. I only started contributing a couple of months ago when I found out the forums existed. I never noticed a clique if it exists and if it does, I guess I barged right in uninvited anyway If you have something to say, say it. Don't do it expecting that everyone will agree with you though because they won't. That's not clique, that's having a point of view. I like the fact that we have opposing opinions on here, it makes me question my assumptions. I do get a little tired of the ongoing battles between some of the regulars but I just 'keep on scrolling, keep on scrolling'
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Chaucer
11 years ago
I admit I'm usually a lurker, but not just in the forums. :)Chaucer
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RHP User
11 years ago
First time poster :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why.... hahaha triple post on my first go lol...noob
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RHP User
11 years ago
and stands up in front of everyone* Hello all.My name is Rusty and I'm... I'm... Flying Spaghetti Monster this is hard... I'm... I'm a lurker. Well, I guess my story may be a common one. I never meant it to happen like it did.I started out like many of you, the first few months, just sitting on the sidelines, watching the main players go at it, reaching back deeper and deeper and deeper into the archives. Laughing out loud and spraying many a drink over my keyboard via my nasal passage. Then it happened... I popped my cherry!It was glorious. After all the buildup and apprehension, agonising for hours over the content and delivery, my cursor hovering over the Post your Comment button as a guillotine hung over the condemned during the Terror.With one terrifyingly quick, almost unconscious and reflexive, click, it was done.There was nothing to do but await the soul destroying public humiliation, or, perhaps even worse, the ignominious ignorance. It was then however, that I could no longer remain a lurker, hiding in the incandescent glare of my laptop, laughing, crying, congratulating and commiserating with those who dared, those brave few souls who shared all, bared all, for all to see.I had become one of them. Very quickly I soon became immersed in the fora, seemingly not letting a Topic or post go by without submitting a comment (witty or not), or opinion/anecdote (relevant or not).The knowledge and experience of the combined forumites was paying off, I was being noticed.The messages of support and encouragement may have been coming from people too far away to meet up with but damn! it was appreciated.My confidence (and yes, my ego too a lil bit) soared.Friendships were developed with other regulars and small, informal meet and greets were attended where faces could be put to usernames (or boobs or butt shots). Soon I had enough confidence to attend a club. Armed with a contact name or Two that I could introduce myself to I quickly found that my name preceded me.People, and you other lurkers know this to be true. The RHP forum community is not just the users that you see and read on your screen. It includes you... Yes you! Rolling your eyes at what I'm writing. Yes you! Smirking at the other person being pointed out by me. Yes you! Quickly closing the window thinking that I hadn't spotted you.All of you that are here today, as well as those of days past and of days yet to come are privileged to be able to share in the hive mind that is the RHP fora. But I digress.So there I was, flying high, people I'd never met recognising me when we did meet. My days of lurking gone for good... or so I thought. It wasn't long before being "out there," away from the people that were with me from the start, started impacting upon me in a negative way. Sure I came back posting of my experiences at first, offering a new found knowledge and perspective. Pretty soon though I started neglecting my fellow contributors. That Adult Forums tab was no longer getting the clicking that it used to. My downward spiral then took a turn for the worse. Ladies and gentlemen, I entered the rooms of chat.*Pauses to let the shocked gasps and mutterings subside* *Takes a sip, nay a gulp of his drink of preference* Yes, the chat rooms. I'm well aware now why chatroom sounds eerily similar to crack of doom (not really I know but hey, it's alliteration and it's my story so ), for it was my ending.Armed with the encouragement of now having met a few chat room regulars in my outside world roaming's, I ventured forth into this unknown realm and was ensnared. The rapid fire banter, the puns, the drama, the innuendo and of course the naughty bits scrolling before my eyes. Soon I was neglecting my friends here in the fora, the ones who helped me become more than I was. Then I became lost.An external influence, introduced by a mutual RHP friend but having no ties to RHP themselves, captured my full attention. Topics, posts, chat, facebook and soon even clubs (although work's roster was mostly to blame for that) became things of the past. My then and future became encapsulated in the moment. And so folks, here I am now.The bubble of that influence having burst some months ago, I retreated, licked my... wounds and rebuilt.With no real internet at the time my craving to lurk reemerged upon downloading the Rhpmobile app.Alone in a new town, isolated and estranged from my former RHP friends. Even the old crowd of regulars greatly diminished from the fora. Recognising only a few, how could I come crawling back after what I'd done? So once again, I lurked. A few months have gone by, and I can proudly say that I'm making progress. The road to recovery is steep, slippery and full of bloody Main Roads construction crews, but I've taken the first few steps.Whilst it may be daunting to bare myself before a whole new crowd of strangers again... It's also kinda exciting and I know that I can bring some informative views (failing that at least some entertainment) to the topics at hand. So, take heed of my journey and be wary of the traps ( , now that, is an altogether different story), stay safe, be informative, be entertaining, be questioning, be interesting, don't be belittling or judgmental and most of all... Be yourself and have fun!!!! *Sits back down and lets out a huge breath of relief* Cheers to rising above your fears.Rusty (Due to the length of the above post emoticons were deemed extraneous. Though the post is mostly serious I'm sure that my tongue in cheek approach will shine through)
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RHP User
11 years ago
that whenever this topic comes up, as soon as some of the lurkers and others in here do speak up about their perceptions of and experiences in the forums, many of the regulars totally discount and dismiss them and tell them their views are bullshit. It's very arrogant. Just because you've had certain experiences which have in turn led to a certain perception does not make it so for everyone else. If you can't even listen to the opinions of lurkers who do speak up in a topic like this, without going into automatic defence mode and telling them they're full of shit, why do you think they would start posting on any other threads? You're basically proving their point from the get-go. Just another reason why some people will never be comfortable posting in these forums, no matter how much you tell them they just need to get over it.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
*Raises hand* 2nd that...and agree more than 100%. I have noticed that as well, as soon as someone speaks up about an issue that is important to them, they are told bullshit! I know, it's happened to me...on more than one occasion and by the same people. Not only is it arrogant, it's rude! How I see it tho, people/Lurkers can read for themselves and judge by what others post. I'm sure they are more capable of making that choice. ;) The only thing I can and will say to new lurkers, just be yourself - like how you would in real life. Jump on in if you don't give a sh*t what others say or think - your contribution is important!!! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have wandered in on the odd occasion to read the forums but the ones I have read have been full of long winded missiles that take an aeon to concentrate and actually read to the end ... or .... they are full of people quoting other people's posts which becomes a bit tedious to wade through .. So I have adopted the lurker status .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Aurora_Skye' that whenever this topic comes up, as soon as some of the lurkers and others in here do speak up about their perceptions of and experiences in the forums, many of the regulars totally discount and dismiss them and tell them their views are bullshit. It's very arrogant. Just because you've had certain experiences which have in turn led to a certain perception does not make it so for everyone else. If you can't even listen to the opinions of lurkers who do speak up in a topic like this, without going into automatic defence mode and telling them they're full of shit, why do you think they would start posting on any other threads? You're basically proving their point from the get-go. Just another reason why some people will never be comfortable posting in these forums, no matter how much you tell them they just need to get over it.That's a very good observation, I could see why the responses you describe would be condescending and unhelpful. Just to clarify, and speaking only for myself, I never meant mine that way. I mean to acknowledge and validate others' experiences of feeling like they're "on the outside, looking in."I'm saying this: "It can be hard. Feel free to give it a go, though, if you want. It's okay just to read. If you really do want to join in, though, please don't let the existing culture put you off. If you want to, do it, and then you're a part of the culture yourself and are participating in shaping what that will be like." I don't mean to say: "You're making a fuss about nothing, it doesn't exist." My opinion on group interactions is that as soon as a few people can notice a trend and name it, it must exist to some extent. It's self-evident. So my gainsay of it isn't going to change that reality for anyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like to read the posts gives me hope that some intelligent peeps still exist, some are helpful towards making a decision to meet and some just scary lol
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madotara69
11 years ago
Ginseng tea can do wonders for the concentration. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
lol @ ginseng tea good for the concentration Thanks for that tip Mado Tara but I will stick to my green tea :)
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Just have a bit of nap between scrolling down. We want you to get to 101 years old after all.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
... if engaging with other posters is the objective Posting gives further insight into the overall persona and generates communication behind the scenes that quite possibly may not have eventuated had someone not read something said somewhere along the way
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' ... if engaging with other posters is the objective Posting gives further insight into the overall persona and generates communication behind the scenes that quite possibly may not have eventuated had someone not read something said somewhere along the way But that is the point, pretense in the long run gets you no where, much easier to be your self, and not have to keep up a fake persona. So you may miss a few opportunity but in the........ Doh! Don't you hate when you are typing something and realize halfway though you missed the emoticon which changes the entire meaning of the post you are quoting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Aurora_Skye' Quoting '40DeeD' Because I'm in Adelaide and not in one of the major metropolitan centres that COUNT, ie. Sydney, Melbourne or Brisbane, I may as well be in Tasmania, with three heads, all of which are speaking a foreign language no-one can translate. Nobody appears to make comment or respond to your posts if you're not one of the clique of regulars. Stirring the pot, to see if anything floats to the surface this time. Do you have instant posting? If not that could be another reason that nobody appears to respond to you. But yes I agree with you about the location factor. The fact their posts aren't visible makes it really horrible for anyone trying to join in. They are often missed because of the delay. RHP should change that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'justforfun281' That's why.... hahaha triple post on my first go lol...noob when you should know what you are doing and still do it, lol. Will be looking forward to more multiple postings from you, hopefully on different topics
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting 'KiwiBred' ... if engaging with other posters is the objective Posting gives further insight into the overall persona and generates communication behind the scenes that quite possibly may not have eventuated had someone not read something said somewhere along the way But that is the point, pretense in the long run gets you no where, much easier to be your self, and not have to keep up a fake persona. So you may miss a few opportunity but in the........ Doh! Don't you hate when you are typing something and realize halfway though you missed the emoticon which changes the entire meaning of the post you are quoting. ... the intent was to encourage 'lurkers' to go ahead and post anyway (in light of comments throughout this topic). Forum posters are a very small minority in relation to RHP as a whole. Given that there is a much bigger audience out there ... in addition to contributing to the overall persona ... who knows where comments can lead to.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I no longer have instant posting because of two regulars who kept complaining about me. Lol. I love it. Now, because I know my posts may now appear for up to 24 hours most of the time I decide it just ain't worth posting. So I don't. :) and yes it is true that I no longer able to participate in conversations as the instant posters do because my posts appear so much later, so I don't really have any interest now either and any banter or getting to know people isn't really viable anymore. I assume most new people if they only have a mild interest in the forum would lose interest quickly and yes, to me it feels at people are ignoring my posts now as well so I get where people are coming from when they talk about cliques, it feels like that because people don't have instant posting. To the regular posters, stop your whinging!! :)
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On_Safari
11 years ago
What narrow minded prats did that? I love your posts, you're the reason I'm still here!!! Personally I can only think of 3 posters I'd like to see banished.....you certainly aren't one of them. Merry Christmas Miss April 2015, love your work xx❤️xx AND RHP MODS, free our Meeka!! She's part of the reason your forums are marketable FFS
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Plain280
11 years ago
Dont know about cliques, but in order to be part of the rough and tumble of the forum, you have to be in it and you have to contribute in some way towards the subject matter no matter how daunting. Yes you will see disagreements between posters, if there wasnt any diversity of opinion it would be boring. Yes some of the posts might be long winded, think about it this way, the longer they are the more considered they are trying to meet all our differences of opinion. And I for one have found it liberating to write of my experiences some times accepted sometimes not. Yes you can lurk and learn and contribute or you can just lurk, but depending on the subjects sometimes its like floating with the swans and sometimes its like thrashing with the sharks.
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