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Are men the gatekeepers of mf couple profiles?
January 16 2019
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RHP User
7 years ago
She's more than happy for him to do the "Admin" work (as she labels it). She does view the photos of potential partners but prefers just to meet, without the endless chat that's gone nowhere in the past.
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RHP User
7 years ago
No - As the female I’m very much involved. As well as my partner knows me I still want to have a say in who we meet even who we chat to.. gone are the archaic days where a woman is planned by a man - told what to wear what to cook what to eat - it’s straight up and equal partnership... from entree to main to dessert to midnight snacks - we both get a say
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curiousmrs
7 years ago
Nope it’s always Mrs here. Mista trusts my judgement with couples. Have yet to lead him down the wrong path yet lol. And he says when it comes to single guys I am the one fucking them so it’s ultimately my decision.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
^^^^ezaxtly the same as us ,mrs b is quite anti social media as far as swinging goes ,she trusts me and gives the thumbs up or down to partys and events i propose to her ,but she certainly can’t be bothered about chatting to god knows who and pics mean nothing and are mostly inaccurate and don’t really relay the person well ,she’s into real people at real places in real time mr b
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am the girl and the chatty one. It is often me speaking, but when Hunter talks, he says something worth listening to.
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Rlee552
7 years ago
50/50
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's generally me that registers for the parties and replies to messages. We're still taking it slow for Mr PF and I'm happy to do that too. Ms PF
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RHP User
7 years ago
You're all lucky to be in places where you can meet people in real places in real time. Not much on offer in Adelaide, so it has to start with chat, then meet and then on from there. Most couples have busy lives and coordinating a meet can take some time. My hubby loses interest pretty fast when only guys want to chat, so nothing ever goes anywhere. It's frustrating and I feel like I'm wasting my time. Is it wrong that my husband enjoys conversing with women? The women that do bother, really enjoy his attentions, so we don't bother with profiles where guys only chat.
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FredAndGinger2
7 years ago
I, Fred, does most of the initial chat interaction and then Ginger will chime in if I feel there's a connection and interest for all parties. Inwoild say that 80% of the time it will be the guys chatting first
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RHP User
7 years ago
It is better when everyone is involved. We have come across a few couples who we suspect may only be the husband. It worries me when only the man speaks. I also like to be told who is speaking.
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luvsilver
7 years ago
We have no set pattern as to who replies to couples messages or single woman,it can be either of us.We will sometimes wait until we have both viewed a profile before we reply which can lead to a reply slipping through the crack and being forgotten (sorry anyone we have done this to). It is always Mrs Luv who replies to the single guys messages.Mostly myself who reads the forums and chuck the odd reply in.It is nearly always Mrs Luv who will arrange a meet. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
7 years ago
and before my throat gets filled with people Jumping down it - I come from a background where I was planned.. plans were made and I went along with those plans because at that time in my life I didn’t have a spine, I dodnt have a voice, I didn’t have confidence.. it was what was expected so I did it (ps none of it was sexually related) So for me having a voice and a say and not being “planned” is important
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Curioustwo88
7 years ago
Female here :) I do all the chatting on RHP, let’s face it it’s a lot of admin work really. I screen the profiles and chat. Once we exchange pics hubby goes on and has a look and then we discuss if we want to proceed. Sometimes I even proceed without him having a look, we’ve been together a long time and know each other so well that this works for us. We then move onto kik to chat and organise a meet, at this stage sometimes a group chat is created and we all talk or sometimes it’s still just me. Mrs C
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Have no choice. It's the Male and his little friend (he cant chat, only point....)
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sw1ng3rz
7 years ago
I’d say we are 80/20 myself (mrs) doing most of the admin work lol. Once it moves to kik I’ll create a group message so that hubby is able to chat too
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Two_Tarts
7 years ago
I think most genuine couples work as a team in RHP just the same as they do in every other aspect of life. They talk about their individual and common interests to figure out what works for them, they squeeze the allocated tasks into the available time as best they can, and when there is any uncertainty about their common interests or priorities they talk over them when they are together and get a chance. Almost all of your online communication will be with the partner that has been allocated (or has the time for) RHP secretarial and logistics because pretty much no couple with children at home has many opportunities for both parents to be sitting together at a computer doing RHP. I don't think that in real couples that counts as one person being the gate keeper (regardless of whether it is the male or female in a heterosexual couple) because as a couple (and team) they usually have a pretty fair idea of each others interests and values when doing the initial messaging or responding. It isn't about one person being in charge, it is actually about the realities of how busy couples try to squeeze RHP into busy lives.Getting away from the kids at an appropriate time to discuss and consider potential dates can be quite a challenge at the best of times so someone needs to be doing the groundwork to find people who tick enough boxes to make it onto the agenda and, without delving into the stereotypes and injustices of gender roles, does it matter which member of the team that is?A simpler solution to all of this is to get out to clubs, parties, meet n greets and say hello to people in person. In that setting it is much easier to spot real couples and distinguish them from disengaged fuck buddies, pretend couples, and middle aged men living in their mother's basements.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I also do the Admin work. Hubby is a shift worker so he leaves me to do the profile writing, composing of messages etc, although he probably spends more time checking out profiles than I do and he always lets me know if there is one of great interest At present we are only guests as we are still checking out if this site is worth the membership again In the past when we had a paid membership we did meet with couples quite successfully but due to time and career constraints now we do tend to stick to parties, S & S or WOW as we/ he particularly, doesn't have the time to invest on here like we used But as a whole, we both like to be involved but it doesn't always happen that we are both in front of the keyboard at exactly the same time Shift working can be a curse Mrs. S
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Nope..... I manage our couples profile and we individually manage our solo profiles
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thevarmints
7 years ago
...no 'Gatekeepers' here / shared hunt & gather 🍸
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RHP User
7 years ago
I guess the "gatekeepers" are not likely to expose themselves here ;) If only Adelaide had more events to meet people in reality. I am a bit curious about the people who want their partner to do the leg work. Do u just rock up for sexy time without making any mental connection with the other party(s)?
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curiousgirl35
7 years ago
I (f) run ours and am the one who chats as well. I do come up against mostly men running accounts and after chatting for a while have asked to speak with mrs too then being totallly ghosted. Some say she doesnt like to talk etc which i can understand to a degree but it does get me skeptical sometimes. Im kinda getting to the point that no one is what they seem on this site :(
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RHP User
7 years ago
@curious girl This is exactly our experience. I also understand the shyness of people and not wanting to waste time, but 90% of "couples" seem reluctant for the woman to chat. I'm always suspicious of this especially when you suggest a face to face meeting and she's never available or you just don't hear back. Being timely with replies would also be nice, even if it's a "I'm busy but will contact later" or even "not interested thanks"! Anything is better than nothing. If you can't meet soonish after contact, them why bother msging in the first place? 🤔
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mrs here too, we take turns depending on who has the time and inclination but I peruse the forums more. I find I speak to as many, if not more, female halves than male halves 🤷♀️ Mrs A x
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justforthefun44
7 years ago
50/50 or who ever has the time to have a look and message others. Remember rph has you as being loved in when you are not. Not sure why this happens
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justforthefun44
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi All 😊 The female here. I do all the looking, finding, chatting and replying. One should always reply - basic manners. I talk hubby through any contacts made and we make the decision to meet together. It's not nearly as much fun if you are not both involved - but, of the two of us, it's me who has the patience to ask the questions we both have of new contacts Adelaide is a little small, people are pretty busy, but the quality of those we have met after some juggling has been well worth it. Doing it together but playing to your strengths is key for us. I do find that it is mostly the men that I have dealt with, but again, luckily perhaps, they have been quality men 😀 and when I do get to be in contact with the females, this has also been positive 😊😊. This has just been my experience - thought I would share. Have a great weekend everyone 😀😀😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
Great response casualcouple We always try to respond too, sometimes people slip through the cracks, so apologies if that's happened. I enjoy seeing Mr Red have fun flirting with women, so it would be nice for both of us if that happened more. I have the most time up my sleeve, so it's my job to screen and organise, which can get a bit tedious at times. Most of the guys I've spoken to have been lovely, but it's also good know if their partner is truely interested in Mr Red and not just trying to get a woman to join them.
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RHP User
7 years ago
So we are relatively new to RHP and very new to Adelaide however back in the UK we were active on another site. The way we tend to do things is I (Mr) tends to have a browse on the site and if anyone catches the eye I’ll hilight them to Belle. If she likes what she sees then we set up a kik group chat. We both have our own kik ID and that way we find a better chatting dynamic..... if that makes sense! Lol! The reason we do it this way, is on the previous site there were a large number of fakes. Over time Belle was majorly put off by this so not so much a gate keeper but more of a buffer I’d say.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks BandB We do it exactly the same, but do you find it hard to find women to chat to you on kik? We have. Maybe we just don't appeal? I guess that's my concern, she's just not that interested.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am the female and do the leg work.... his opinion is “make it happen” Trusts my judgment wants me to choose to make me feel in control and more comfortable
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SpicyKale
7 years ago
From our perspective, Mr Kale is the one who does all the leg work and most of the chatting. He will show me all the options and we decide together if we want to take things further with a couple and meet them. As far as chatting online goes though, I simply don't have a lot of time. I can't use my phone at work, and when I'm at home I have kids who want to grab my phone and see what I'm doing as soon as they see me using it. That doesn't give me a lot of space or time for chatting whereas my husband has more time and opportunity. I also discovered very early on in our swinging life that I don't have the emotional energy for chatting to lots of people that I've never met and that half the time turned out to be not who they said they were. I got disheartened very quickly and pretty much handed the reigns over to Mr Kale in terms of chatting. I much prefer to save my energy now for people that I have met in real life. If that means that I'm limiting our opportunities for meeting people then I accept that.
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MrandMrsBrady
7 years ago
Mr does all the admin on the sight and kik etc for us I check in maybe once a week to see what’s come through and give final approvals , but I really couldn’t be bothered with the “courting” process or endless vag and dick pics in private galleries to be honest because a lot of the time it leads to a dead end ...2018 we went to one party and didn’t play all year ....but there was a lot “plans” made that never happened ...mrs u
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think I should re-phrase my question. Are men the slaves to couples profiles? Lol It sometimes seems a thankless task and those who do manage them should all be given a pat on the back. It's now apparent to me that many women (and men) are not interested in the intimacy with others that may come with sexual attraction, but other people enjoy it or even crave it. For me being open to getting to know someone personally enhances my experience, but that's not for everyone. Thanks for your responses. Ms Red
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RHP User
7 years ago
About 50/50 here
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RHP User
7 years ago
Omg no way. I do our chatting, & prefer to chat to the female. He is a part of the profile and is all for it & out of pure respect I run all messages via him, but this is something I desire and therefore own it. Of course he desires also but if I was uncertain or uncomfortable it would be shut down instantly. We are out there babe 100% 😉💋😂
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technologic
7 years ago
Female here and I do all the admin since I'm the more fussy/chatty one... 😜
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RHP User
7 years ago
We browse simultaneously. I (Mr K) do most the admin and initial interaction (with Mrs K right along beside me)I do the screening because of the ghosts and other anomalies. Anyone may request Mrs K in particular providing there is consistency and genuine intent.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I definitely can relate to this. I and yes female here tend to be the one who looks after our RHP profile in saying this I have found a very high percentage of males that communicate on behalf of mf profiles. When I am online I now ask if I can chat to the female also if available. If the female isn't available I keep in short and arrange another time to chat. My husband likes it when I do all the ground work or shall I say screening. Communication is paramount between couples and I do include my other half with info about those who may be interested.
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Taby_DK
7 years ago
95% of the time I (female) reply and do all the communication, 5% of the time he replies. Mainly due to me having more free time than him. And him preferring I reply (and me having to be attracted to both members of the couple, not just one.) We usually like to exchange a few messages with people we like and then make plans to meet ASAP. We are not really into chatting for days/weeks as we just don't have the time with our 60+ hour work weeks. Also, we find that doing things this way avoids the whole male half of the other couple just wanting to talk to the female and swap pics, which again we are not into. Taby xx
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RHP User
7 years ago
Same here, I am the one in control of RHP. I like to do the searching, messaging and organising meets. My partner trusts that I'll choose wisely. And i think people like it when it's the woman who responds. Oh and I dont like couple Kik accounts. What is it with that? Always makes me more suspicious. Just have one each and have TWO voices!
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RHP User
7 years ago
We are 70/30 . I ( F ) spend more time on here than M
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allsomes
7 years ago
We couldn’t agree with you more. I admin our profile and I love chatting and flirting with the guys. I also love it when my hubby flirts with the girls. Unfortunately though the girls are never available or we get told she’s not much for texting or flirting. You have wonder sometimes whether the girl even knows or exists. On the subject of couples why is there hardly ever any pics of the men or pics at all for that matter. We get sent Flirts asking what we think of them, fairly hard to answer when all you can see is the female, great for hubby but what about me lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
In our case, it is a turn off for the woman in the relationship to get into "screening" the countless profiles and weeding out the fakes before selecting someone to meet. Once the mr screens, the mrs gets in on the action through a group chat and then we proceed.
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funqldcouple86
7 years ago
In our situation I do most of the replying and chatting at first, but as soon as we move over to a messenger app I add the wife straight into the conversation so the other couple know who is talking. It also helps when the other couple has 2 different accounts on messenger apps so we know who’s talking. Especially makes it easier to have some raunchy sexting before we meet up 😈
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's 50/50 for us. Sometimes I (mrs) can't be bothered dealing with the same old, same old... Meaning.. The same profiles.. The same no responses.. The same no offers/interest....the same offers of interest from the other side of the damn country! So the MR does the "admin" work!
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RHP User
7 years ago
No not completely a lone wolf as I believe if its the females doing the interacting (which in our case it is) then we should be the ones doing the formalities, however, you are right in questioning as it seems the men do all the talking for their partners. It would be nice if we could speak and get to know her as a person.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mrs. corsi1975 here... I do most of the messaging/screening due to hubby spending long hours at work & I do shift work. We’re both involved in the decision making & meeting... works for us
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RHP User
7 years ago
We very much share. We both send flirts and we both answer messages. And we always make sure the other person knows who they are talking to. But this place is full of weirdos, so sometimes he takes control. Not really different than the real world. 🙃
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RHP User
7 years ago
With our profile Mr is the main user but absolutely everything gets shown to miss, and she also has access to it but would rather chat when we a connection has at least been established so she isn’t just talking to people where things may go no where. Although that is our case, whoever states to us that they would rather talk to Miss is more than welcome to
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RHP User
7 years ago
My partner and I both have profiles, mine couple profile is more detailed, his is fairly basic but has a link to mine. I also have a ‘single’ profile that has a link to all our profiles, but states that I don’t play alone 😊 I’m almost always up for a chat with the right people
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RHP User
7 years ago
I (male) do most of the work on the site but we usually chat on kik before meeting which we are both apart of. She will make the end decision on weather me meet and/or play in the end not me
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RHP User
7 years ago
I find this gate keeper thing happens sometimes, usually just at first the guys speak to see how things are. And to see if the single guy is a good match for the mrs. And then usually it turns into a 3 way conversation! Which is the best way speaking from experience :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi every one newbie here first time on site like this. As a women on my own I would feel safer dealing with a women other then a man to be honest
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RHP User
7 years ago
Anyone want my gatekeeping job as hubby is not interested. Lol Fake, fake, fake ,fake...was always the first thought with such profiles, but great to hear others ideas, opinions. Loving all the varied responses. Thanks.
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Saffadude2
7 years ago
Hiya Long time reader first time poster. Mr here. I have no choice. We fairly newbies, but keen to meet other couples. I do all of the talk though I wish the Mrs can get involved more but she gets frustrated in the convo if only the lady speaks as with this type of thing flirtation is part of the game and when it's only the lady chatting then she gets frustrated. Same as I do if only the guy of the other couple chats. I came across very few couples that's a 50/50 thang. I'm all for the 50/50 thing but as for now I need to just soldier on. Hahahaha. Sorry guys but add to put my 2c in.
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two2tangoperth
7 years ago
Nope! I’m the lady in charge! I do 90% of the chatting and then we touch base at the end of each day or HE will have a read when he gets time. It’s pretty easy to pick fake profiles or people with pretend wives. It’s so much easier chatting to girls and I find a lot of the guys don’t know how to talk without being overbearing or sleezy. Ladies seem to have a slightly softer touch.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Nope, no male gatekeeper here. Not from day one. Very actively involved with this whole adventure....from profiles, chats and meets.
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abcplus1
7 years ago
Mr abcplus1 tends to check website the most, but we try to steer any conversation to a platform where we can both be involved, whether that be on an app, or preferably over a drink or meal. Mrs abcplus1 has complete control over who, when, if.......
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey! Lone wolf female managing all the “admin” here. I like doing this! I’m good at reading between the lines and seeing if I think we will get on with people. I do find it strange that the men who do manage profiles rarely include pictures of themselves when they are approaching people. It’s sort of like men trading women as their commodities to offer up, or that’s how it feels to me! I want to see both people! Especially if they expect a swap!!! J x
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mrs here mr checks in from time to time but its mostly mrs however when meeting others and talking to them its always men so i lose interest quickly
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mr B here,no gatekeeper thou yes its mostly me on here searching for a unicorn,bull or nice couple, and we both are then invovled fully with reading and sending msg's once interested. Still quite new here however and it is interesting reading how many women do most of the 'admin' on here!
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SSExplorer
7 years ago
Mr S here. I do all the chat here and kik for a few reasons. Mrs S is flat out with the kids and just doesn’t have the time to waste with the amount of admin required. Also she is super nice and dare I say super naive in believing what people say so she had a little go, was mislead and now only interested in real meets. This puts us at a disadvantage as it does often seem we are one of those guys pretending profiles. I used to like the thrill of sifting through all the sexy profiles but must say my attention is waning these days as well. So far most of the fantasies we want to play out have remained just fantasies but we do have fun with the thrill of what may happen one day. We will never be regular players as time and distance are against us but we savour those very few times when it all comes together :)
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anieelad
7 years ago
We both browse and search on the site but I (F) do all the initial communications and weeding out of the undesirables. I find it strange that the majority of couples we meet seem to be totally motivated by the male. More often than not we feel that the female is only participating to please her partner. This is not always the case though and it's really nice when we find a couple with an actively involved female.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes ..because we have to weed out the weirdos, liars, and perverts! Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Female of this profile here - have noticed in my experience there are more men replying, and have talked with Kerning about my suspicions that many of those are actually not genuine profiles at all. I feel many are likely single guys or guys in a relationship where the woman has no awareness of the predilection of their partner or the existence of the profile (which likely is using fake photos anyway). Genuine profiles I think are more likely to have input of both parties. I think another interesting question is "who instigated the creation of the couple profile?" because I have suspicion that this is often the male, sometimes only with begrudging participation of their female partner - but most are aware enough to know without both parties fully on board and engaged in communication that subsequent meetings or play is unlikely to be satisfactory. --- Male of this profile here - It's important to me to get a sense of both parties engagement. When both are engaged it can be wonderful. I've never had a clumsy, naive or thoughtless approach from women, but plenty from men. So I can understand that the guy in a couple profile might step up and act as the buffer between all the seagulls and the chip they're squawking over. That said, many of the couples profiles do seem to be as Kittenet suggests. I'd encourage those men to take the difficult path towards more honest conversations with their partners, as this is what is needed to make a real advancement towards the diverse sexual experiences they seek.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's the male half here that replies 😊 the Mrs spends her whole work day on the phone and computer and hates doing it when home, we also found that having me chat stopped picture collectors (not that there's much to see) as we also found in the past couples looking for couples with bi females unfortunately meant hey we don't actually want you just her so if they couldn't have a decent conversation with me then they weren't for us anyway
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RHP User
7 years ago
Female here. I always do the leg work then we make final decision together. I often chat the the female half so my experiences have been different.
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RHP User
7 years ago
My beautiful wife loves to do the whole RHP thing... I found that it's much better for her to match and chat to the new prospect.... I know she prefers to go at her own pace interact with and then when she is comfortable with the new couple or match then she'll bring me onboard for the group chat via kik... Then she will arrange the face to face meet... I feel as the guy in the relationship I don't need the whole emotional connection to be able to have a fun night in between the sheets.. Whereas she desires that connection before she /we go any further.... All in all we've found the best way to do this for us and we're all having fun along the way... We've made some great friends and had some great times...
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sexycplfun
7 years ago
Mostly the male here purely because of time. Anyway he is much better at weeding out the false profiles and the time wasters but every now and then when time permits it is me who is chatting
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeh most of them are fakes or control freeks.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Can’t speak for others but we have about a 60-40 M-F here. Once we’re chatting via some kind of app we’re both in there but Annika leaves the admin tasks to me. That said, she exclusively handles all the tinder stuff so it’s probably a pretty 50-50 crack. From our limited experience chatting I’d say we have quite a few couples where we’re taking exclusively to the male, some where we’re chatting to both elsewhere and the rare account where the lady is running the show entirely. Rhys
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mel_777
7 years ago
Female here and I do all the looking, messaging, organising etc. my husband trusts my judgement 100%
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close_cpl
7 years ago
I (him) do all the RHP work. She feels confident ruling out based on profiles but has no confidence about ruling in. Partly that's because I'm the optimist and she the pessimist in the couple. Once I make a bit of a connection my job is to interest her in it. She doesn't feel much attraction until she meets a couple while I can get turned on by pics and short naughty messages. Perhaps I'm more superficial as the Male. Some of it comes with practice too. Because I'm doing it I'm more comfortable with it.
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Happilymarried
7 years ago
Definitely combined interaction here.. my husband signed us up initially but we both have involvement in replying to messages, flirting & screening. It is important to us to both be engaged.
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RHP User
7 years ago
On our couples profile, he does it all. He works from home so is more available to chat. I do get the final say in whether we meet or not. I also trust his judgement. If he thinks it’ll work, it generally does. We have had occasions where the couple or male has requested to chat to me and I’m more than happy to jump in. I just don’t have the time to do all the chit chat for days on end, mostly that goes nowhere.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We share the responsibility of replying and screening people on rhp, and we also chat in groupchats and on our own on kik, but we always share with each other whats going and and we make decisions on who we meet together. I personally dont think its an issue if its the male orfemale you talk to, at the end of the day we are all on here to find people we are attracted to and are wanting to meet.
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MzPenelope
7 years ago
I like to hand over the responsibility of responding to initial messages. It takes us all to chat to agree to meeting. And then, once we're comfortable, let the fun commence.
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RHP User
7 years ago
No way, when I’m part of a couple I’m very involved, no way would I just turn up if I didn’t find the other party attractive. That being said more than happy to let partner do the waste of time chats :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am the wife and i am the on managing meets and cam dates
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RHP User
7 years ago
We both actively look and chat. We to find it difficult to speak to the lady as guys generally do the leg work..We lose interest in it once that's discovered
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RHP User
7 years ago
I (he) tend to do the RHP side but that is only a very basic screen. We chat on kik through different profiles so everyone knows who they are talking to. We tend to proceed where the chats feel comfortable rather than force the issue with hot photos and that is a joint decision.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like to do the talking first but show mrs just to sort out the ones who only want pics and those who are real . Mrs puts her bit in what she likes what they like it’s a mutual setup as there are a lot of tyre kickers but a lot of real people it’s more fun when mrs writes back
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RHP User
7 years ago
I tell people I'm interested in that my partner has access to the site and that they're talking to both of us. I tell them if they're only talking to me too. I like just being able to talk to the women about certain things 1 on 1 though and then he reads the conversation later. I think everyone involved needs to be apart of the conversation otherwise you don't build up that connection and loose interest
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey Red, When my husband and I were more active as a couple I was the main admin for our profile. I agree that taking an active interest was my thing and that is possibly a driver for who does most of the communication. Other drivers may be: who has the most particular tastes, confidence barriers, time, interest in actually meeting or playing. It’s a journey for all of us and looking as a couple can be time consuming and potentially difficult to find the mutual attraction. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with asking to converse with the female of the profile if that is where your conversation ideal is at. Cheers, L_D x
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sherulesthis69
7 years ago
She runs ours but we both have access . It’s all about trust and honesty. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It tends to be me (the male half) that's intially checks the profiles and writes the messages as English is my partner's second language but we both have the password to the account and she'll sometime message me and say "check out the couple who just sent us a flirt". When it comes to Kik tho we'll both make a point of having seperate Kik profiles and having group chats. We can then chat when we're away from each other at work and we don't miss anything. One thing that has happened a few times that really puts us off tho is when we're talking on Kik and the other profile will keep trying to chat to my missus in a separate chat to the group chat we have open. Makes us suspicious that it's just a guy pretending to be a couple.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Very good question. The answer is hell NO. I also participate in the act, so why he only has the right to manage everything. I also like screening all the profiles like you. It's fun to read all the validations too. Cheers!
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Sensual_play
7 years ago
On our couples profile my wife much perfers i do the screening and as she says she trusts me. My wife doesn't have any desire to filter messages that are obviously no match. Is so rare to find someone she would be interested in meeting. Once there is though she is definately part of the conversation. Occasionally i speak with a female of a couple. I guess it's who has the motivation to do the filtering.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I with you there sister! I run our page, and people will be able to tell who they are talking to by the context or the lack of. I have found that 90% of the time I find we are talking to the man of the house rather than the lady. Like you I like to be the instigator in the selection process, I like it, in fact I love it. Butbit would be much nicer to be connecting with the lady of the house on initial contact as it gives a better feel of the people you are about to meet and a better in site to what you might be walking into on your first date, because as we all can tell women talk more and would rather talk to each other. Nothing worse than dirty msgs from men who are more than possibly trying to have an affaire and I don't like the "hubby has a hall pass" but she doesn't play alone so that just says to me that someone doesn't know or doesn't exist. Just wanna make some sexy girl friends to hang out with but surrounded by a sea of cock.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's Mrs here, I normally am the one that does the initial chatting, but will always be in conjunction with Mr E when we are working towards arranging a meet. We check in together all the time, we have open communication, we both know what we like but he's not much of an online chatter so it will be me doing the typing.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Not here. 9 times out of 10 it is me (Mrs) that is orchestrating conversations and dates... we then move onto kik where (Mr) has vetoing powers if need be.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We had a couples profile which went absolutely nowhere and while I do manage my own "single" profile, he does have access and will prod me now and then. I've met some awesome people since having the "single" profile.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like it when she does it for me :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am fully involved and loving it. Due to work commitments sometimes he will have more time to search. However no decision is made alone. It’s a huge turn on when my man finds play friends to meet.
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RHP User
7 years ago
To be honest, I'd rather the man as the gatekeeper. My biggest priority is making sure there is trust, and that starts with open communication. As a bloke, its easier to communicate with other blokes.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Use to be mainly me (male). Now its 90% her. Shes better at it. I find it to frustrating . Why do so many peeps send messages and winks and friend request when they have no intention of communicating and taking it further ? Atleast with a second message? Drives me nuts lol better she manage it . Its too frustrating. .
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RHP User
7 years ago
As an ex couple member. ... i hardly ever got to message or reply. When i did we type differently and i felt like an idiot. Especially if previous messages had been deleted, or if what i wanted was nooo way going to be allowed. But cheers to a new single experience of fun when i want it and with whom i want it with. I did find that most of the time you were always talking to mr. With persistence id get mrs on the phone. She was not up to speed with convos that were supposed to have been her the whole time
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KathM76
7 years ago
I agree! I find 9 out of 10 times it's the guy who responds. Just happened again not long ago. Kat
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RHP User
7 years ago
I seek a threeway call conversation before any talk of meeting. I look for sex with a woman and man to watch us and don't want to have sex with him as well unless I feel extremely comfortable with both. I'm always suspicious of a man who talks for his partner too and messages me asking for nude pics and seems too keen.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Umm what? It's not 1950 🙄 Ms PF
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