M53
Danger Danger Beware
May 19 2014
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SassyRascal
12 years ago
That is completely insane!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are not only on that vanilla site, but are on here lurking and watching. That same woman may have also seen you on RHP. That same woman may be the same woman that has been the thorn in a few guys side on RHP But I could be wrong. Everyone is at risk here, so my advice is to just make sure you give as little of yourself away on a first meeting. Alas being on the forums and giving more information that we should at times, makes us easier to track down and stalk. All I can say if that woman is reading this and you know who you are, go and get some mental health help. these things can escalate and people can get hurt. Notify the web site that you contacted this woman with and inform them of the threats. Print out the threats and I suggest you even go to the police it is an offence to make a threat via email or the phone, I have met a few guys in prisons that did that, they threatened their exits also extortion to threaten to go to a persons work as well. your lucky your single and you have no need to hide your sex life but it can impact on your work and how you are seen in your community. sorry to hear that but I know how you feel I have dodged a few bullets myself
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RHP User
12 years ago
she lives in apple cross?
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RHP User
12 years ago
where they grow apples down south? Speak up man just say where she lives as its on her profile so its public
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RHP User
12 years ago
Noted ! But no a friend did bring to my attention the evil in applecross but wow what a coincidence she is from the southern region full of apples and you know what they say about one rotten apple !!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
But may be now !!!!!!! D.........ybrook !! Dom dom dom dom domdomdomdomdomdomdomdoommm !! Aaarrrgghhhhh!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like often attracts like..... And it's not always opposites that attract - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I can't believe what I just read!! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have stooped to an all time low now !! Haha dickhead i still like you but :-o - Posted from rhpmobile
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Letsgetcrazy09
12 years ago
Didn't look like Meryl Streep????? Seriously though, yes there are a lot o people who suffer from mental issues. We all prefer they don't focus there attentions on us. Let us hope she gets the medical assistance she requires before she does harm someone or herself.
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Dryphuz
12 years ago
Thats a bummer. I have no luck on other sites and its sad to hear someone who does got such a bad experience from said success (counting the reaching of the face to face meet as a successful use of the site). You said she hasn't dated in a while? Guess she forgot how it goes. Real sorry to hear it. The only thing you COULD do is call the cops and say you're being harassed, but no one wants to be THAT guy. I say dont reply to anything she says or does. Like most bullies she'll tire of it eventually. Best of luck. Hope it turns out okay.
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madotara69
12 years ago
bad boy, where you gonna run when they come for you. bahahahaha Sorry trying to be sensitive here, that's terrible Ocean Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
The one thing we can't know is HOW you told her, mr ocean Sure her behaviour is off the charts if that's what she did.... but I gotta say, your style in here and in person is.... unique....she may simply have had a bad reaction to it. It happens
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whats her number bwahahha!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bigocean, you didn't send her one of your stories did you? :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
No but i did tell her way to much , and i did try and tell her before meeting that love and feelings are not thoughts that can be written or spoken and only felt ! Something i did not feel for her but did not realise till we met and she told me i was the first one she wanted to meet for a long time so i think in her head she expected the feelings of love that i was talking about she got consumed by it and just thought it was all for her . When infact that was the entire point of the conversation that love is not a thinking process only one that can be felt mutually !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have heard a few from guys from stalking to guys being lured and mugged! Everybody needs to stay aware.
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MissBishere
12 years ago
You poor dear that must have been terrifying for you... Did you speak in riddles like that with her? You certainly confuse me sometimes. At least she doesn't have your address. I have heard similar stories of psychotic women stalkers. Everyone needs to be aware and stay safe. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Happens here, on vanilla sites and in real life. Not so long ago I politely refused a man who offered to buy me a drink at the crown casino, he seemed to take it ok and I thought that was the end of it. When I left alone several hours later I heard footsteps behind me as I was crossing the car park, having been the victim of a violent attack many years ago I didn't even look back. I ran to my car, got in, locked the door and took off. The bastard headed to the only exit where he knew I had to open my window to validate my ticket so the boom gate would open. Fortunately I got out before he got there but not before seeing the look of utter rage on his face. All that just because I refused a drink, I hate to think what he might have done if I had of accepted the drink but refused to go home with him. At no point did I encourage him or even look in his direction prior to him offering me the drink, who knows what goes on inside their head but his behaviour much like your date was totally irrational.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'passion8_l' Happens here, on vanilla sites and in real life. Not so long ago I politely refused a man who offered to buy me a drink at the crown casino, he seemed to take it ok and I thought that was the end of it. When I left alone several hours later I heard footsteps behind me as I was crossing the car park, having been the victim of a violent attack many years ago I didn't even look back. I ran to my car, got in, locked the door and took off. The bastard headed to the only exit where he knew I had to open my window to validate my ticket so the boom gate would open. Fortunately I got out before he got there but not before seeing the look of utter rage on his face. All that just because I refused a drink, I hate to think what he might have done if I had of accepted the drink but refused to go home with him. At no point did I encourage him or even look in his direction prior to him offering me the drink, who knows what goes on inside their head but his behaviour much like your date was totally irrational. you are ok :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
but it's all good, life's too short to let sick fuckers like that stop you from living. I went through a stage where I was jumping at shadows and realised it was affecting my life too much so I guess over the years I've become a little too relaxed. That experience reminded me that I need to be more careful. What bothered me the most was that he had to have been watching me to know when I left.
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madotara69
12 years ago
So you wow a lady with the pure poetry Ocean, she spends a week beautifying her soul for the man of her dreams, meets you for lunch and you tell her you do not and will never love her then fuck off outa there. And you wonder why she is becoming increasingly agitated.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I feel glad that I have so far not come across this behaviour, the worst I had was a barrage of messages from a guy that I had to block four times, because he kept making new profiles to message me after I would block them....using the same pics of course (stalkers are not always switched on). He just didn't understand why if my profile states I want younger, that as a 62 year old man, he didn't qualify?? I have dished out rejection on occasion, but it was always taken well and most still message on here to say hi from time to time. I never give out my number until we are going to meet for a hook up though, so I guess the only stalking they could do after a rejection from a meet and greet would be via RHP messaging. Sorry to hear your story and the others that have experienced it. I hope its your last.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Often when it happens to guys folks joke about it and say..."oh you must be so hot". It's not a joking matter. It happened to someone I know and she would break in to his house, read private stuff then mention it in texts and phone calls. Keep records of all the calls and crank messages. I guess you need to be super vigilant and I'd be careful that she doesn't create another profile to try and talk to you again. Good luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now do not glamourise this my mr mado i did not woo her half as much as i have woo'd other ladies infact hardly at all she was one of those automatic attractivators , ! When left unatended for to long can become extremely unpredictable some what like a world war 2 bomb with its head in the sand and ass sticking out and when i say ass end i mean poffttt how can one miss it ! Oh !! Bahahahahaha ! Oh ! Oh! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' i did try and tell her before meeting that love and feelings are not thoughts that can be written or spoken and only felt ! That line would have been absolute crack to any women thinking life is a romance novel. Letsgetcrazy, are you referring to Glenn Close? Lock up your bunnies, big O!
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madotara69
12 years ago
For a short moment we just thought you were being a little shallow
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lemme get this straight. You chatted with a woman for a bit. As a result of that chat she developed a deep sense of love for you but on actually meeting eachother you denied her this love.... shook hands, went your own ways, then she went batshit crazy on yo' ass to vent her irrepressible love for you!!! Like romance novels..... I ain't buyin it LOL DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The following will be some of our conversation Thank you for your company...& lunch. I'm not sure if u believe your own story .......& u have totally underestimated me & misplaced my wants & desires... But hey...u owned some truth & I'm pretty sure that ur just not that into me. Your title for me in your phone should never change tho...ever. Have a cool night. I will never change your name in my phone , and i enjoyed our lunch also very much .my story is not written i still do not have the words to complete it , all i can do is try explain my feelings which i know i cannot do ! The only way to translate my feelings is by feeling and you are correct in saying not into you, but it runs a bit deeper for me than just that i have convinced myself that the one i am meant to be with i will know in an instant and the one will feel the same way like telepathic feelings that do not need explanation feelings do not need to be looked for because they are just there like a flash of light and in that second your entire world changes and a attraction so powerful i will feel it through my spirit and soul and that is ultimately my desire thats why i have so many meetings lunches and so on sny one else would of settled for the first chic that was into them but my desire does not allow me to feel what i believe and want to feel . I may never feel it and die a lonely man but at least then i know i was wrong and you make it happen and its not destiny to be found . Yep well I was right in simplifying your truth. You aren't into me. U hurt my feelings I guess cos I hadnt ruled you out for anything. ...and I dont think its fair. Anyway. ..I left lunch feeling rejected & confused & hurt. Pretty much how I feel now. You contradict your belief in what is feeling, versus the reality of how u go about seeking it out. Its a double edged sword mate....the internet takes away the possibility. The connection u seek. We all want. I guess I was approaching u differently...I simply wanted to enjoy u & enjoy us...the moment. It sucked for me at the end...when u just flattened any possibility. ...cheers. I told you what i felt i did not feel love for you in the way you need , did you want an empty feeling so yours could feel full !! U have no idea what u've done. The devastation u cause....u just go about ur way. Feeling nothing. Well let me tell u....u have sent me to the edge. U are disgraceful with how u treat people.. u held my hand. U said I could do better. No and i told you that from the start and i held your hand because you were upset and if you behave like this on your first date what does the next date bring you And fuck u for lying. U said I could do better than u. Thats ur way of owning it? U assume to know best. Mr lad i will send you her number if you like - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That sure is some heavy shit for a first date Mr O
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seriously. U've fucked me up. And u dont seem to want to wear ur actions....u have no idea what u've done. U destroyed me today. And u continue too with ur bullshit. So far you have threatened me abused me because you cannot accept the truth The truth is we are not compatible Charming. Ur a dumb fuck .......I'm taking this to my .......contacts tomorrow. Nice one nice guy. Bye bye. The truth. ..wow.... it shows ur true colours. Oh & bigocean72. .... look out. You fuck yourself up dont blame meI told you and you cannot take rejection I have been rejected many times Its a part of the process of learningWake up ......its not a fucking game Yep. Ur inhumane. And I asked u when u saw me today....if u had any feelings? Any whatsoever? I'm more than upset ...........u said to me I can do better than u. U held my hand. U cared? Wtf was that mate? ???? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Hey Big O That is really terrible. Big Hugs to the Big O. did you confuse her with your riddles? I know you are quite attractive and entertaining at the meet and greet and all but your charm must have been on overdrive on the first date. Lol. But seriously, I think that is just really crazy. You just never know how a meet can turn out. There are crazies everywhere, in RHP and out in the real world. I had a couple of stalkers already and I have blocked them and I haven't even met them so I have dodge those bullets. Just don't turn on the charm tooooo much. Lol. Take it easy and take care. XXX
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, you caught a live one there my friend! Might want to rethink your bait and hook?? Part of me is laughing cos it's just plain ridiculous, another part is concerned. Just tell her that you're incredibly sorry and then block her. Hugs to you. X
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madotara69
12 years ago
When she types Bigocean72 into Google and it brings her to RHP, and then she see this? You are in a bit of a pickle.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did you really just quote a private conversation?
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
"I can't believe what I just read!!" Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
For a start it was not a conversation and that was only some of the shit that was thrown around you dont get to hear the voicemail ,! Private i dont give a fuck it is on my phone so i will do what i like with it i deleted the names and i had questions unanswered in some minds that needed more information and lets face i i would like to put the lot up as its not a bad read !! And like every one i have met most ask are you on any other sites well then the list comes out and i had to delete most as i could not keep up and it was costing a fortune taking up a lot of time money and effort and when i come accross a fucking cunt of a person that is a threatening individual when i was very polite and honest from the start and get trashed from a evil bitch i aint gunna bend over and take it up the ass im gunna take my little dick out and piss on that fuckers leg . Appolagise for doing so but in no way will be sorry for my actions in pissing on her leg because my dog would not piss on it so somebody is gunna have to do the hard work when it comes to cleaning up the shit . And if you think thats harsh well when somebody threatens your livlihood over the facts that are before me any body that stands up for that is why the population is lacking respect and knowledge and a bit of fucking discapline and cotton wooled selfish greedy fucks .she needs fucking help not fucking pity . - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I got chills reading about your encounter.....bloody stuff horror movies are made of. I was followed once, age 16/17 and bolted into a shop after outrunnning him....the Lady who owned the place drove me home. He was loitering waiting for me to think it was safe. I shudder to think what could've happened to us..... It's a shame these people have issues to address but Ocean I have to agree....you over stepped the nark a little by sharing private messages here, especially if the individual concerned does find you on RHP. Go to your phone service provider and get them to block her number so she can't contact you. And telecommunications abuse is an offense. Call Block her, it's easy and shutdown your profile on the other site. Problem solved without drama.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
What were you saying about like attracting like? 😎
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nah im opening all my accounts and im gunna go apple picking because i am going on a unicorn hunt and we are going to need some food and fruit so im gunna fill a bag up full of shiny apples from the hills where the apples grow and while im there im gunnaa take my private conversation and go on a cunt hunt . - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
reckon you should think of tidying up things before you end up with a world full of dramas, sounds like it is just the beginning, never know she could get in here and play nice, end up in the secret womens business and cause a shit fight. you know " a woman scorned thing"
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are all class.
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madotara69
12 years ago
spoke too soon
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a lot of stuff that goes on that never makes it close to the forums... . Being responsoble for safety is one that has though. It's not just women who are potentially at risk. . Buy a phone and add a disposable sim. . There are differing opinions on sharing private messages in the forums. I can't say I agree with it but a lot of it happens in the forums without any comment most of the time. Um and I have done it in the past... in SWB... So No Saint Here. .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Madoandtara and i do appolagise for being a little harsh but i am afraid when threatened i can not sit down and turn the other cheek and hope it goes away i never have and i am not going to start now and to all that feels that i am just as bad as she well maybe i am but i care for how she is but she needs help so i am the one to teach another lesson of life i am well due for another troubled soul and well versed in the depth of shit one requires to delve if one is to make a difference and if one can make a difference i will be not running nor hiding but standing with a spirit full of truth and love not to destroy another but to welcome them to life not lived .and love not found and a soul not understood a spirit that has been broken a heart poisoned and a mind confused . And the only way to help is go there . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Nah im opening all my accounts and im gunna go apple picking because i am going on a unicorn hunt and we are going to need some food and fruit so im gunna fill a bag up full of shiny apples from the hills where the apples grow and while im there im gunnaa take my private conversation and go on a cunt hunt . - Posted from rhpmobile "I'm Starting with The Man in The Mirror"... That song has been in my head all weekend!... Are you gonna wear a fig leaf?
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madotara69
12 years ago
ocean
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RHP User
12 years ago
Miss prissy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't like a post, that's fine don't read the bloody thing. You sound like some woman clucking, it's his story nobody knows who the woman is and if you type something it's out there in the universe. I bet my left title you have sent other people's texts to a third party, or quoted what others said to you. So lighten up foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes with tragic consequences. Most times, life goes on. You seem to be at a different place from where you started the thread BigO.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If a woman put up this post and they have, with quotes. She gets all tea and sympathy. A man tells us his problems and he gets shat on from a great hight. Any arse hole that does this shit deserves to be outed, for every body's safety. So that person does not deserve any privacy at all. So think about this one ladies, men deserve to be given respect and understanding if they are being stalked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And we are only hearing one. So benefit of the doubt here, but a little latitude as well. Don't believe everything you read.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And close your eyes and pretend you did not see it ????!!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I got chills reading about your encounter.....bloody stuff horror movies are made of. I was followed once, age 16/17 and bolted into a shop after outrunnning him....the Lady who owned the place drove me home. He was loitering waiting for me to think it was safe. I shudder to think what could've happened to us. has happened so I should have been more careful, it was a timely reminder that I need to be more aware of my surroundings. I'm happy that you managed to outrun him :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think we are grown up enough to comprehend that we don't believe everything we read. But we don't dismiss some thing because a man wrote it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' If a woman put up this post and they have, with quotes. She gets all tea and sympathy. A man tells us his problems and he gets shat on from a great hight. Any arse hole that does this shit deserves to be outed, for every body's safety. So that person does not deserve any privacy at all. So think about this one ladies, men deserve to be given respect and understanding if they are being stalked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I honestly think that we could also do with being proactive about protecting ourselves on this site, male and female. . I'm coming from a place where I've spent a lifetime learning to ptotect myself. . When I think about what I used to get up to, I'm amazed I survived anywhere near as long as I have. It was sheer luck and strength of personality that kept things from getting ny worse than they did at different times. . Having said that, I'm not sure I would be keeping contact any longer. especially if I'm concerned about someone's state of mind. But it could be you're feeling different atm BigO and that is what I wondered. .
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madotara69
12 years ago
You know how it goes, the dust settles after a while Ocean has a big heart and he will follow it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's a bit of other stuff on the general topic of stalking still floating aound too I think . And I am not at all against BigO if that's how it sounds, but I do like to look at things from all sorts of angles. I was kind of under the impression BigO was feeling differently from when he first posted, that might be obvious to some lol, but I was asking to make sure I understood. I really did hope for some fig leaf action BigO xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
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madotara69
12 years ago
it's just a bit of man stuff going on, and Ocean is just venting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Scratches ball sack farts and stretch it out hmmm sniffle sniffle bit of a yawn and stretch scratches ass cheek picks nose !! Must of dozed off ! Did i miss anything ?????:-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' Scratches ball sack farts and stretch it out hmmm sniffle sniffle bit of a yawn and stretch scratches ass cheek picks nose !! Must of dozed off ! Did i miss anything ?????:-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
of course
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im puckered up :-():-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha...me too!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tut,tsk,tsk,about what Big O posted here,but I find it a little ironic that he gets castigated for posting the interaction he had with this woman and not a lot of sympathy...... If the genders were reversed I suggest that there .would have been much bleating about supporting a sister......We do need to share our stories here sometimes ,without fear or favour because they are often cautionary tales about how easily things can not just go wrong,but how they can seque into actions that are more than just harassment.....I have seen people's livelihoods threatened,as well as their personal safety..... Some people do not take rejection well....some people project their fantasy onto the other,when it becomes dust their disappointment is overwhelming,simply because their emotional investment before actually meeting has been too great.......Perhaps Big O your quest could be a little less like Don Quixote's search for Dulcinea and more like a search for the sharing of a friendly cuppa between two hopeful strangers hugs xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' I think we are grown up enough to comprehend that we don't believe everything we read. But we don't dismiss some thing because a man wrote it. What's with all the criticism? BigO's keeping the messages anonymous. Many of us have copied messages into the forums, including me. Once, when the messages turned scary I named a name and don't regret it. Foxy, pot kettle? You've made several snide remarks aimed at an "anonymous" male here recently, who can't respond without outing himself. I think that's worse, also because more than a handful of women know exactly who you're talking about.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I was not agreeing or disagreeing with Big O I could've been thinking of something else...and I get named called. :( It's quite disappointing. It's not the first time either. We wouldn't want to think people are following posters posts, just to have a slight dig at any opportunity now would we? For all we know Big O could've met an ex person who used to post - for all I know as well, they maybe still here. It would be weird if it was! I hope it was not for BIG O's sake. My mind is open. Just sayin... thinking outside the box. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've never really been stalked. I was followed once by a guy in a car when I was nineteen and only escaped by ducking into a store. The worst I've experienced here was an elderly man who wouldn't believe I didn't find him attractive, and ended up telling me to give him my address so he could come over and talk it out (read: show me the error of my ways.) Yeah... nope. (Then there was the mentally ill patient who thought I was his wife and sent me a bunch of flowers worth 200+ dollars for Valentine's Day. He meant well though, and the flowers WERE amazing.)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually thought you were married for some stupid reason.... Hmmm apparently not according to your profile so I'll forget the first point.... You didn't exchange photos before meeting??? The way your story reads you had no idea what she looked like before you met her at the pub. The way the transcript of those messages you sent, if the prior to meet conversation was anything like it, it appears that you've half filled her with shit. Was your aim to fill her half way to get to meet her, fuck her, and then leave her for your own gentle stroke to ego and bed notches??? Lastly big O.... Wtf were doing responding to her texts for??? To comfort her ?? To make her feel less hurt?? Dude learn one thing..... Once you reject someone like you have, or any reason really, that's it. You've said NO, so don't encourage conversation with replies. You can't be her knight in shining armour afterwards to make yourself feel better about rejecting her....reject and let it alone, move onward, upward. I don't condone her behaviour, but I think you attracted a very desperate woman. You showed her the interest she craved, and probably a little too much, and she's over invested as well.... Yes BigO you're not the only prick in this situation ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
"I could've been thinking of something else...and I get named called. :(" Play with fire all you like, it's your choice. But don't act surprised when it blows up in your face. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Just reading the last few posts and not sure why there is an attack on Foxy as I didn't think she said anything that minimizes or dismisses Big O's experience. Or I may be missing something here? Relatively new so I may have missed on some history on the posters but that this beside the point. She has expressed her views and that is that. with regards to Big O, I agree with Lady T that men, just as much as women, should also be supported when they are stalked, a terrible experience that can leave an indelible mark on one's psyche. You get changed forever. When I was living in New Orleans, on one of my night outs in the Big Easy, I met two English men in a bar and had a great time dancing and chatting to them. As we went to the next bar to check out more music, a local guy high on drugs came up to me and started talking dirty to me so I just walked away. He followed me and my friends to the next bar. He hang around for a while and tried to approach me but my friends intervened. He then pulled out a big knife at them and threatened to slice them open if they got in the way. Just as well the two big burly doormen saw the ruckus and subdued the guy (after slapping him on the head a few times) and cops were called. Now I am very aware and also have been involved in lots of martial arts and self defence training for many many yearts so at least I won't panic when the time comes. Big O, I sympathize.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have a spot of egg on your face. How can you expect others not to follow your Posts? Like me, you have an opinion on everything. If you get called on it, like we all do then be like dg, and man up. Don't back peddle. Just shrug it off or learn something. I have had egg on these old jowels plenty of times. It's not high school any more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a situation too where I was threatened so I understand yor situation and I went to the police twice. The worst thing you can do in this situation I think is respond to her threats you are feeding the monster. You need to breath and block. Quoting 'Qefenta2' ......Perhaps Big O your quest could be a little less like Don Quixote's search for Dulcinea and more like a search for the sharing of a friendly cuppa between two hopeful strangers hugs xx Q I also agree with Q.....its a meet and although you have this idealistic thought which would be magical I think your dreaming albiet a lovely dream. I think you may have built your meet up before the event and built it up in her mind also............then didnt see fireworks and dumped on her, whether it was sweetly or not. So becareful next time. Try yes to meet soon as really no one can tell online it is in person you make your descision, maybe make your descision about a friendship not an eternal spiritual love. Words on a page......
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like egg :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you everybody who commented and voiced there opinions, the shy readers who never post but follow the forum like a bad or good habit and thats the beauty of the open forum every ones opinion is always welcome and heard , there views and beliefs as we all have a right to voice our opinions, and that is why i think the Forum we all love and hate is so very important especially the Redhotpie forum we can fucking swear and talk about fucking some one or being fucked or fucked over we can talk openly and ask for help from such a diverse community of people from all over our country and people that do care and do want to help or just offer advice take it or leave it , thats an individuals choice and we should never ever not discuss a situation that is seen as taboo or despicable by some as they are just the topics that need to be opened like a can of warms so to make all of us accountable for every action we set upon , as long as we do not unlawfully name directly a person without 100% proof of an injustice we can but speak openly about our own personal journeys of despair and triumph heart ache and love loneliness and happiness depression and joy the danger of roads traveled and the safe passage to go ? And i have learnt as i do every day another valuable lesson about our own personal privacy that i would spit out at random well our own personal privacy should be kept that way at least until you know a person very well because as i found out you never know what is or who is this person before you . And in no way will this scare me off from meeting people its just a reminder to guard your privacy and different aspects of your life like ? Where you schooled , grown up as a child , family name, even your first name , your children's age or names , place of work , previous work history , people or acquaintances you may know , shops you shop at , holiday locations , your hair dresser your butcher , your mechanic , beaches you love all these things and more can in some way be used against you so just be more careful both ladies and gents , don't freak out if your knew to all this there is many a happy meeting i have met some awesome friends some beautiful women and fucked some hot chicks ! Hahaha and hope to fuck more !!!?!!,, Oops i mean meet !!! Bahahahaha Today is another day suns a shine'n birds are sing'n we shall wait and wonder what this day's a bring'n ?? Sincerely to all from the depths of a Bigocean xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bigocean72, my 2 cents, close that door and open the next. Your efforts are best spent finding that special someone and enjoying the journey. Not focusing on the crazy acts of a troubled woman. Move on and stay true to yourself. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' I bet my left title you have sent other people's texts to a third party, or quoted what others said to you. So lighten up foxy ...think?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you leave something boiling , unchecked , it will eventually Evaporate . So let the Bunnies Boil ... ;) GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank You Bigocean Sometimes we get so into the moment that we forget not all people are normal. The dating arena can be a dangerous and fragile environment. It's nice to be reminded.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' You didn't exchange photos before meeting??? The way your story reads you had no idea what she looked like before you met her at the pub. The way the transcript of those messages you sent, if the prior to meet conversation was anything like it, it appears that you've half filled her with shit. Was your aim to fill her half way to get to meet her, fuck her, and then leave her for your own gentle stroke to ego and bed notches??? Lastly big O.... Wtf were doing responding to her texts for??? To comfort her ?? To make her feel less hurt?? Dude learn one thing..... Once you reject someone like you have, or any reason really, that's it. You've said NO, so don't encourage conversation with replies. You can't be her knight in shining armour afterwards to make yourself feel better about rejecting her....reject and let it alone, move onward, upward. I don't condone her behaviour, but I think you attracted a very desperate woman. You showed her the interest she craved, and probably a little too much, and she's over invested as well.... Yes BigO you're not the only prick in this situation ;) - Posted from rhpmobile You have told her you are not interested leave it at that. All you are doing now by replying to her messages is fuelling her fire and making things worse.Bocean throw a bucket of water on the fire and look to the horizon there is more to see and do out there. I do find it funny though how people assume the man is in the wrong when putting something up like this and opposite for a woman as was said by an earlier post in here there are 3 sides to a story his, hers and the truth somewhere in between.none of us know the truth only Bigocean and the woman do.So none of us are in the position to pass judgment just offer advice and leave it at that its like a school ground in here at the moment. cheers
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RHP User
12 years ago
I did hold off for as long as i could without replying but 38 messages one every few minutes 11 calls and left voice messages abusing me for ignoring her as she just wanted the truth!!!! I had to try and do something and seriously i exchanged not a lot at all over the week bar one night when she questioned me constantly about how i viewed life !! so i did not force it down her throat no . I have before however to others haha , but her no ! And yes photos were seen but you know that old chestnut ??? How old is that one! And i do not go to a meet expecting anything especially to fuck ! I have been on to many to be so naive !!! And i will not change who i am my ideals whether fantasy or realistic and attainable i do not live in a fucking wonderland of ferries and fucking princesses but i aim high and have a dream and know who i am i know what i feel and fool for me if i go through life looking for false hopes , and rediculous some may say ferry tales but dreams are dreams for a reason and for the rite reasons your dreams can and do and will come true just look around dreams come true every day . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
As stir mentioned you probably have learned a few things during this whole saga in that when you break up your are being the bad guy whether you like it or not. Sure you break up in a respectful way but just accept that you will be seen as the bad guy no matter what and let the other person move on in their own way. Trying to be their emotional crutch when they are moving on will only end badly. Your rejecting them and then still trying to around them being the crutch and all the while reminding them of the hurt from your rejection.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you're using an iPhone 5 - not suggesting you are - but there's a block calls feature. As for the messages....reply with this only:- "I've explained to you how I feel about you. You may either accept it, or not, that's your choice. I've respected you enough to be honest with you, and I ask you to respect me enough to now not contact me anymore. Should you continue when I've asked you not to, further action will be forthcoming." ................ As for the issue re: questioning you constantly about life....due to the fact that you were only messaging at the time, a simple and polite "whoa....you're cracking out the big questions aren't you?? :p Which is a topic we can discuss further when the time is right, don't you think??" .................. All the signs were there mate, and I don't want to be rubbing too much salt in there, but us men can be so naive eat times when we talk to women whilst holding our dicks. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' I did hold off for as long as i could without replying but 38 messages one every few minutes 11 calls and left voice messages abusing me for ignoring her as she just wanted the truth!!!! It doesn't matter what you tell her, how nice you try to be about it or how rational, she won't ever be satisfied and as long as you keep responding to her she will keep it up. She built up an expectation in her mind, and yes to an extent you fed into that by being so nice to her at lunch...telling her she could do better than you, holding her hand etc. And as others have said you are not the one to help her, she will just see it as confirmation that you are interested in her and it will make the situation worse. You now need to be blunt with her in telling her that her behaviour is not acceptable and is quite possibly illegal, and that you will go to the authorities if she continues. It's harsh yes, but necessary. She obviously has some significant underlying issues that need to be addressed but it's up a to a mental health professional to do that, not to you.
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madotara69
12 years ago
When threats are made. Good day Ocean, hope you enjoyed the beauty sleep, some of us had a late night, even broke curfew to sit by and tuck you in.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not just a pretty face are ya?? ;) That means I agree with ya :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The storm i think has passed and i will and have taken a bit of everybodies advice and am using that advice for me and me only and i did block the number at the end of the barrage of throws i will not bait nor argue i have indeed moved to a green field with daisies and little magic ferries every where !!! Flying around hmmmmm wonder how many i can catch ?? Hmmmm and i thank everybody if something terrible happens between now and then i will be sure to let you all know !! And she did say somewhere in the mix she was a smart girl so maybe the lesson for her has been learnt as the one for me is also understood and learnt . Onya redhotpiers yas all are fucking awesome :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mate... we haven't spoken for a short while but mate you gave me some entertaining lunchtime reading just then. We need a forum topic of our best Stalkers...I have a cracker she want from Donnybrook / was from Jurien Bay. A single Bullet Shell left in my letter box with my name written on was one gift I received
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RHP User
12 years ago
Floating around a Big Ocean:-) xx Q
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Floating around a Big Ocean:-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bigocean, unfortunately there are crazies on both sides, I carefully vet each person and ask relevant questions before I even meet the person, then set down some ground rules ie. if either or don't feel a connection then no harm done, no offence but sadly some don't take rejection well and quite frankly they don't really listen or read between the lines. I never give my address and certainly wouldn't let them know my movements, ie. work, places I frequent, when I feel comfortable(I use my instincts to determine if they are ok or not) then and only then will I give my phone number, mobile at least they cannot trace your phone number, that way you have the choice to answer or not. Maybe let her know if she doesn't stop harassing you the police will be able to trace her call and put an avo order on her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Scary bitch!
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Quoting 'Add1two' A single Bullet Shell left in my letter box with my name written on was one gift I received Now that is not funnyt at all and really scary. This is worthy of an AVO ? Geez.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What did you have for lunch coz it sounded really good???? :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is all..... for now lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'RunAwayJoinCircz' Men can be psychos, women can be psychos..... Just understand It comes from a place of pain, be compassionate towards the villain, cos next time around it might be you going all nuts......
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RHP User
12 years ago
What about what just happened to me. The other day my child's father were sent friend request on Facebook from a profile with the pic that used to be on my private gallery on am adult site. The posts from this fake account were screen shots from the adult sites I'm on including this one, my full profile everything. Things like #sluttygirlproblems and post like I won't meet anyone that's not absolutely fabulous. I must have rejected some nut job (have an idea who it could be from the timing and the photo it was, also had my phone number to find fb account) and then they created this fake profile and tried to friend request people I know. Apparently it's a criminal offense but very difficult to prove. Do you reckon I should go to the cops or it's a waste of time?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Give 'm to me if your out there reading this you dirty fucking fake dog send me a message you fucking dog !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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