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Everything & Nothing
August 28 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
... our personal circumstances shouldn't cloud our judgement nor turn us into catty, envious people. I've been unemployed and underemployed before and I had to face bread-and-butter issues. All of a sudden, on the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs ladder, I had slid from the highest level - Self Actualisation, right down to Physiological Needs and Safety. The threat of homelessness was very real. Running out of food was also a very real threat. I will never forget those nightmarish days. Nothing rattles your fears and anxieties down to the core than having to stare at the threats of homelessness and hunger in the face. The thought of destituition scares me to this very day. It is what spurs me to be abso-fucking-lutely grateful and appreciative for what little I have today. I no longer take basic provisions and the creature comforts in life for granted. Even during that time, when friends would talk to be about their holidays, their jobs, etc, I'd feel a slight twinge in my heart because of how starkly contrasting our circumstances were, but I would tell myself to not allow the jealousy / envy monster to rear its ugly head and sour my outlook. To my friends' credit, most of them were sensitive and very aware of my struggles and torment and didn't dwell too much on their perks-filled lives nor their jobs, etc because they didn't want to potentially hurt me. They were mindful and very considerate. We all cherished our friendships to not allow stuff like that to sour our friendships. Through it all, I remembered telling myself that I once had a good, comfy life that was the envy of others and although I was down in the doldrums, the trajectory and momentum of life would mean that someday, this dog will have its day again. I cried a lot out of sheer panic at the doom ahead but I reminded myself that bad times don't last forever and to just grit my teeth and bare with it and keep on praying for a breakthrough. Eventually, I did get that breakthrough. Initially, the income was rather measly and unstable but then like a bolt out of the blue, a second job literally landed on my lap due to recommendation from a previous workplace, no interviews required, just like that, I no longer had to worry about my basic necessities! =-D Like champagnesunsets said, rich or poor, we just have to find out little parcel of joy right here and right now. When I was in poverty, I worry about the next potato or bowl of rice; when I'm gainfully employed, I worry about not busting my budget with excessive shopping. In life, we experience different stages and struggles, some more so than others. Do we waste time being envious of some lucky heir's unlimited source of $$$? Or do we focus on our own lot in life, and how to get out of our rut? Sometimes, the cycle breaks only after we have learnt the lessons we were meant to learn. And it pays to turn our focus inward - what we can and should do that might change things around, rather than envy others and make them feel bad for sharing their lives which might be filled with more material riches than ours. If someone is bragging, then they'd jolly well watch out because pride goes before a fall and I can personally attest to that. But it's not our place to pronounce judgement on others - God / karma / the Universe, whichever you believe in, will step in to correct that. I'd caution anyone about getting stuck in the endless cycle of envy - it breeds contempt in one's heart and that doesn't attract good karma. Once I learnt how to smile through my tears and my rumbling stomach and aching bones, the storm clouds broke and the sun shone through. We are all here is our own little journey of up's and down's. Just because we are in a personal hell atm doesn't mean we can't feel happy and excited for our richer friends who are having a headache over their $300,000 house reno. We can learn to temporarily set aside our own fixations and be enthusiastic in helping them choose the most luxurious sink with gold taps and enjoy that. Everything doesn't have to be about MY poverty, MY bills, me me me. :P We can set aside our personal sufferings and be their friend for a while plenty of time to indulge in our own miseries later. If we can't be generous with our money, we can be generous with our time and friendship. In fact, during unemployment / underemployment, it's good to step out of the rigid cage and not be consumed with worry for a short while everyday. It's very hard, and I know because I have been wrecked with poverty before, but it's not impossible. I learnt how to console myself - yes, your current situation is in the absolute doldrums...but it shall pass and it won't be like this forever. Whenever I felt envious, I told myself, "I look forward to receiving my own big house / *insert object of desire* with wide open arms"! Whaddaya know... some of my friends envy me now! I have crazy and hectic five-day workweeks but just before I go mental, it gets interspersed by a three or four day workweek, yay! I take whatever comes my way, I want more of course, but I'm going to enjoy and cherish the right here and right now. I wouldn't want to be trapped in envy either because that sets into the face, becomes ugly and embitters one's heart. Cheers to a better life for all! I hope Australia will get smarter, less selfish and less greedy politicians who will improve the economy so everyone who wants a job gets one.
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RHP User
9 years ago
... what happened to the "Bored" thread? :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
What? And to think I actually wasted time reading that. I don't envy anyone. ffs keep your judgments to yourself. Don't assume you know anything about my life or what I'm feeling, you don't. I'm assuming that's about me. You are so far off the mark. You think I envy this person, you think I envy anyone? This is me remember, you really think I'd want to be her lol 😀 hmm now let's see......no thanks 😇
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Mods got bored with it?
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Thanks for your understanding and support. Someone who really knows me in the real world.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Sounds like a cool gig but be careful. I think that may be considered bragging.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Scuse typos
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Whatever
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nothing ever changes around here. Happy fucking Saturday everyone. Have a great day. I'm excited about mine 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
...are we so sensitive that at every little comment that's abrasive or different, someone runs off crying to the mummy and daddy mods to remove the offensive post / thread because the delicate heart / ego can't take it? I'm all for leaving things as they are for all to see. Good and bad. That's what life is, isn't it - we fight, we insult and argue, some bitch slap others, and then it's kiss/hug and make up time or I-can't-stand-you-but-I'll-live-and-let-live time. If we can't even take a little heat from the forums then there really is no fortitude and strength of character. :P If someone says something offensive, point it out. Highlight it. Articulate your sentiments. The other party then gets a chance to elaborate or defend their point of view or defend themselves. We won't agree all the time but that doesn't mean we cannot coexist. And all bitch fights eventually run out of steam anyway...I reckon it helps burn calories.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My brag is about the thousands of hours I've done tractor driving.Boring as
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RHP User
9 years ago
you all sound like broken records! Aww why does someone go running to the Mod mummy and complain they must be weak people. Awwww. Total bullying comments IMO. Is hat what you call passive aggressive behaviour? The last few comments on the bored thread were people taking issue with, and what I also saw as, the OP being belittled through a lot of the comments. Most of my comments don't get through unfortunately so I can't really say what I truly think. But who cares anyway. 😝
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
For the sake of this thread. Lovely Weather this morning.........
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was sorry to read your comment about how desperate you were feeling and how maybe things are a bit scary in your world right now. What ever our differences of opinion on these forums, and I have had a lot of differences with a no of peeps, I hope you are okay and have some support. Sometimes life is really hard. So much angst and misery in this world but I suppose that's life.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's raining in Sydney today and looks like the 40 degree days have gone. So another summer goes by with promises to myself that I will install air conditioning before next summer. 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
Envy isn't it, it's pity, so forgive me if your book length analysis offended. Would I trade places, not in a million years, at this point in my life, I value basic everyday things that matter, opening my eyes in the morning, being excited about the day ahead, being happy with myself, but the job or life someone else has, where did you dream up envy? You went on a tangent that wasn't remotely close to me or my personality. After all this time, do you not know me at all? I don't feel jealousy/envy. Never, so your analysis about me was in your head only. Analyse yourself at length, but not me thank you very much 😃
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Could just have given you a 'like' for your last post, but just wanted to say it was very well thought out and put down. Kudos. Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Broke after paying your kids' school fees? Private school is that? Forgive me if I'm off the mark but there are very good public schools around. For the record, my kids went to private school, but in my singledom, that wouldn't have been an option. Hardly see that as a struggle, more a choice, due respect of course 😃 I've never had much time for people who see struggling to pay their kids' private school fees as equivalent to trying to put food on the table or a roof over their heads. It's also many middle class Australians' obsession with private schools that are contributing to the decline in our public schools (along with our government's absurd funding of private schools at levels equivalent to and often greater than public ones).
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Seachange73
9 years ago
It is easier to get thru life turbulence if one has higher goals and seek/nurture long lasting relationships like looking after their loved ones, kids, friends or sick parents, rather than wallowing in self pity or boredom. life is really out there to explore and embrace, and not just hedonistic pursuits. The latter is just fleeting and shallow. For me anyway.
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RHP User
9 years ago
This is not about envy, or any other ridiculous thing that has been said on this matter. My issue was with one comment. Throw your privilege in someone less fortunate's face and I will speak up. Likewise if you then play the victim and double down on your nastiness rather than simply owning your mistake. That also says a lot about the type of person you are. Await the mods clean up.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Bit of relief then. Crisp morning here but nice recovery weather. Warmer tomorrow
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RHP User
9 years ago
Having grown up in a family brimming with Defence Force servicemen and women, I attended nine different schools all over the Eastern seaboard (not counting the various courses I have undertaken elsewhere in this country and overseas in all the years since). I also have several members of my extended family who pursued careers through all levels of education (Primary, Secondary and Tertiary). I was switched from the public system to the private system for Year 10 to Year 12. There are many differences (and consequent frustrations) between the education systems of different States and Territories, but I can tell you firsthand; the most striking difference was I found was that there were far more ratbags at the private schools I attended! There have been numerous published, peer reviewed studies which strongly suggest private school tuition fees are not necessarily very good value for money. My personal experience leaves me inclined to agree. If there is appropriate parental support and enthusiasm for the value(s) of education (as distinct from the cost/price of attendance), kids will develop the necessary attitude and personal discipline to study, learn and excel. Irrespective the educational system or institution, if parents place their emphasis on factors other than learning for the benefit of acquiring knowledge and the freedom that affords, kids may struggle right through to adulthood.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Are you assuming and concurring with Itm that I struggle because i send my kids to private school? Why do you assume I send my kids to private school? If I told you my boys go to state schools, albeit excellent academic bayside state schools, will that change your judgement of me? If I cleaned toilets for a living, will it be easier for you to accept me into your fold? For the record, just to dispel any judgements.and misconceptions with my boys are in state schools. well one of them is and another in university. I don't have to justify this but most have gone to nitpicking and rounded up the troops to pick on me? but it doesn't matter now does it? Easier to throw puck shots, below the belt, at someone you perceive doing fine but letting go of nasty comments of some because they may have known extreme mental illn? People thread lightly as it is not PC, and I don't condone picking on people suffering. Never have and will never do. I help out and volunteer by myself and at times with my kids in community programs to help the disadvantaged. However, some use the mental illness card to justify bad behaviour. And it seems ok on this forum? Shame. How do you know one does not have some mental issues, because as far as I know, mental illness does not discriminate based on social or financial status. Like everyone, I suffer angst, pain and extreme stress, I just don't post it on the forum about it like others as I don't see the point of it. I don't see how that changes the situation. So being pragmatic, I take a break from the forum and deal with it my way, via boxing or martial arts, reflect and seek professional help to deal with stress. Many of you don't have kids to look after, have people supporting/helping you out or have partners who are able to indulge you some time and luxuries like travels and clubbing woth your lovers or mates at your choosing. Single parents don't have that. Putting it in perspective, you have the responsibility of looking after yourself - housing feeding entertaining yourself. Now double, no triple or quadruple that pressure of looking after other people who depend on you on everything. Mind boggling isn't it. Can you see how much pressure we are under? Can you empathise? The pressure of looking after someone (sick parents, spouse or kids) is enormous and we put their needs above ours in every way, all.the time. regardless of circumstance, married or not, we seek company as for a little moment in time, we would like to feel 'loved' for a change or seek intimacy otherwise not possible. Walk in our shoes for a moment. So please all of you, don't be so easy judge me. You don't know me. Good day to all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because someone works hard to have a nice life and give her kids the kind of education she wants them to have. Her comment was made in reply to yet another barb from someone who always has something to say about other people and the way they lead their lives. Live and let live. We shouldn't be envious of anyone. It only leads to bitterness. And then we will never be happy with what we have. My sister was over on holiday and told me how lucky I was to be living in such a beautiful place. Shes right. A friend of mine once said " look beyond the plate" Dont know if anyone is familiar with that but its true. Well looking beyond the plate this morning.....the sun is shining, birds chirping in the mango tree and I have a friend popping in later. My guy is calling tonight from work and Ill call my parents in Scotland. Its a grand life xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
40 degrees here today. Have wisely put the gardening off ( again! ) til it cools down next week :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Keeps eyes peeled for the inevitable wedding pics..... :) wonders if people have ever met and married on here? Would that be good or not so good publicity for a casual dating site?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1kazsnorkus' No mate, I just found myself humming "Nut Bush City Limit" (sung by Tina Turner) whilst at work and thought to myself (again)....'just WHY aren't motorcycles allowed in it'?. Seems like a silly rule to me, and I just wanted to know if anyone else knew. I mean, was it blowback 'cause the Mayor's cat got run over by a 'bike once, or something like that? And what's with the 25mph speed limit? Obi1 Ah, I see. I looked at the song lyrics afterwards and I still don't understand what the song is really about.It reads about as ambiguous as Hotel California.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...Finding Dory. It's sooooo hilarious! It's going on the shelf for Feel Good Laugh-A-Minute movies. Handy to have a collection like that for days when you need a good laugh to cheer oneself up. :)
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Painting myself as a Victim? Nastiness? hmm. Interesting. Not at all. As previously posted, an oversight on my part to engage in mindless personal ribbing with Itm. Which for a while I have totally ignored. I must be bored in my hotel room and looking for some distraction. Lol Just an attempt to give you a different perspective of the situation but obviously you have made up your mind as you made incorrect assumptions about me already before hand. so it doesn't matter. To further engage or reason is futile. I'm not on the forum to win a popularity contest nor fill any meaningful gaps in my existence. I recognise it for what it is, and moods and persuasions travel here in ebbs and flow. However I've been very surprised and delighted to find life long friends here. some local and others interstate. Not a brag but a statement of fact. My lucky stars. As you know by now, I will also call out people as I see fit. Not one to hold back for fear of against the grain here. Sometimes, I can be not PC. Shrugs. we can't all be measured in our steps or words all the time in fear of offending people. It happens all the time in real life. shrug n move on? You see what you want to see. if you want to paint me into something I am not, it also reflects more about you than me. It goes both ways
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you live life with gusto and you try to make the most of whatever you have. You've just become more real to me after writing about your struggles. Sorry things have become ugly in here for you. I think rich or poor, employed or unemployed, sick or healthy, single or single parent or married etc, we all have our struggles. To say that one person's struggle is nothing / insubstantial when compared to our own is really disrespectful. The poor man / woman worries about where the next potato is going to come from... the rich person worries about whether there's enough caviar in the fridge for tonight's dinner party. Sure the poor man's issue is more pressing but the rich person has a right to worry about whatever they are concerned about and they shouldn't live in guilt just because poor people exist. We all have our own battles to fight. The rich cannot stop living and enjoying their lives just because the poor exist. Everyone has a right to live their lives to the best of their abilities. Telling someone that their issues aren't as important as our own is really out of place and narcissistic. Can we not just focus on our own issues without taking it out on others for enjoying a perceived better life? Bad times are transient, as are good times. We just need to live everyday with gusto. Nothing wrong with a single mother working really hard and keeping a positive attitude because she has no choice but to keep running the race like a hamster on a wheel mostly for the sake of her children. We really shouldn't assume that because someone else appears to be living well, they've got everything - they just might be on the verge of mental breakdown and are just putting up a valiant fight and a deceptively cool front. Let's not be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Why do we feel a need to compare anyway? So what if the neighbour's grass is greener? So what if lily's kids were sent to private school? All mothers desire the best for their children and if they perceive the "the best" to be private schools, so be it. They have every right to send their kids to private school without being made to feel bad over it. When life gives you lemons, gather them all up and make Lemon Meringue Tarts, Lemon Vinegar, Iced Lemon Tea, Preserved Lemons, and brew a new label of Lemon Ale or Lemon Cider. You might impress someone so much that they'll buy from you and you can then grow Tangerines, Apples and Grapes too. Don't look over the fence at the neighbour's peaches and sulk that they are having Peach Jam, Peach Tart and Iced Peach Tea because whilst we are busy watching the Peach Fest, our own lemons will be rotting away. And then by the time we decide to harvest, we would only have bitter lemon zest left.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
It's Saturday so I get the day off to check out the sights. I'll have people accompanying me to work as my guide and even translator. Goodness knows what the locals will do to me if I say something offensive to their culture. So better be safe. 😀 Then the highlight of my day will be Skyping my boys tonight, after they come back from their part time jobs and defrost the meals I prepared for them days ago. I have slaved for nights to cook their favourites. I could imagine them smacking their lips in anticipation. Lol. food is the social glue in my culture specially my family. cooking together and sharing the fruits if our labour opportunity to sit down and chat and bond. Also pass on lessons in life and ensure family values and tradition continue. Been to your place before and you have similar set of values with your son and great Perth friends. I see that. Enjoy the calls with your man, weekend with your lovely boy, and specially your parents. I'm sure they miss their 'wee lassie' down under. 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Beautiful day in the Pilbara today... the humidity has died down, and the max temp will be under 40. If I could send some sunshine over to you Summer, I would 😀 Especially as I can't take advantage of it, have to go in to work unexpectedly 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
I never read your comment, don't know what you wrote, and my comment wasn't written specifically for any one person but for whoever made lily feel bad for her living her life the way she chose to. She sounded very upset and that was what caught my attention. You have your struggles and you are always so cheerful and upbeat, and that's a great strength. I just didn't want to see anyone being invalidated or made to feel bad / guilty for trying to be a good mum. If someone insulted you that way, I'd feel upset too. It isn't a personal thing - not too long ago, I raged against people who celebrated your departure from the forum because that is a lowdown thing to do. Envy or not, no one can rely see into someone's hearts. But if there are remarks that sound catty and sarcastic, it's not farfetched to wonder if it is the green-eyed monster. I really hope your situation improves. You've worked very hard at it and deserve a lucky break.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Look beyond the plate... But my nose is always in the food and I cannot see beyond the nom nom's! :D Food is a subject that always gets me excited!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' For the sake of this thread. Lovely Weather this morning......... A better reason would be for the sake of us all...Boring is the word of the day/month whatever
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RHP User
9 years ago
Actually, you have a point. Food does make people happy. It hasnt anything to do with food but thats a good way to look at it!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Whatever 🙄
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Thank you for lovely post and understanding . the forum is what it is. It's just a bit of distraction from real life issues. Lol. How much importance should we allot to it? not much. All just a bit of fun and some time killers. Being the person you are here does not really translate in real life. we come here for different reasons, with different set of values (or baggage? that's mine 😁). Some comment or attack because of personal agendas or their incorrect assumptions or something else is happening in their lives unbeknownst to others. Easier to offload here anonymously. Just the way it is and life goes on. Shrugs. Just disappointed really in some. Never one to be vulnerable or letting my guard down as I can't afford it. I'm a focused individual. Single parents and carers stoically go about our business of surviving and looking after our loved ones, in any capacity, rich or poor or middle of the road. i worry about the roof over my head and food on the table like any parent, despite what other people insinuate. I'm a provider so why shouldn't I. Part of Maslow's hierarchy of.needs. I'd rather starve first, give them my share than let my children go hungry and destitute or lead unfulfilled lives. I don't drink for good reason because I need to have clear presence of mind and strength of body to lead and make decisions anytime for my kids and work. A responsibility I do not take lightly. I lead by example like my parents before me. 'Keep an eye on the big picture, work smart, be independent, take risks, seek the truth about yourself, exercise to clear the mind and for strength of body, help others, give back to your community and embrace life like it is your last day ' My kids get it, they will be instilled with ideals, and they will be successful good people who will make a good difference in the world and generations to come. all my hardwork and sacrifice will be worth it. then one day in the future, I could sit back and say my job is done as I sip my oolong tea in my garden, read my books or browse cookbooks or stare at my toyboy lounging by the pool (well dream pool, I.dont have a pool so can't brag) and enjoy the serenity. Ahh, the serenity... 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
really just need to stay on Facebook. Still amazes me how much 'personal" info some are prepared to share on a very public adult forum. More often than not, all this overt info leads to posts about being stalked, harrassed and wonder how did that person find out so much . Too many folk here make it tooooooo easy to become a target. Wise up and shut up kiddos.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thats the whole point of the forums. People to give their point of view, ask for advice and generally give advice if possible. So personal views and situations being aired on here are part and parcel. A few people have met and know each other so are quite entitled to talk about it. Perhaps we wont " shut up" as we are mostly a very social bunch.
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RHP User
9 years ago
you choose to mis understand my post. I am all for forum banter. What I am talking about are the folk who post what Hotel they will be at on what day...restaurant they will be at..trips they will be taking ...ages of their kids, what gym they attend etc. Are you aware that many insurance companies will not pay out on any thefts that occur at peoples homes if they have plastered their holiday all over forums of any description? Women have complained when a man asks them if their kids can join in and watch them together.Why give them that info to begin with? In many cases its best to be vague about family and destinations.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
But what if I don't have Facebook? 😀😉
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Don't post my whereabouts, travel itinerary or hotels/restaurants I go to. Nor do I post the clubs I.go to or places i visit. nor tell everyone much about my health issues nor what I really do. yes, people can speculate and may use information against you or someone else. Cyber security and identity theft is very real and serious. Seen it happen many times and results can be devastating to the victims.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If someone wants to steal my identity and assume all my debt they're welcome to it. My kid forges her own way through life and is onlyjust entering high school. My parenting has been neglible in the young lady she is becoming and she seems to be doing alright with that. If anything I probably serve as a good example of what not to do with your life. As for giving up too much info on here....half of Perth has probably been to my house at one time of another. With the way the internet is these days it really isn't hard to track down anyone you wish to track down.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Reading about your fierce love for your kids made me miss my mum tremendously. Just this week, I felt pretty on my way to work one day and thought that I would ask a colleague to help me take a photo at work so I could send it to mum. And then it hit me... my mum's gone. :'( Mothers are so special. I did a lot of things she wouldn't approve of and would've done differently. We had a huge gap in terms of our idealogies. But when it came to the crunch, I know she would do anything for me. I think she had a huge soft spot for me because I'm single and alone in a foreign land. You are kinda from the same culture and you might understand that. We don't place so much emphasis on independance but rather, on cohesiveness. I'm strong and independant but sometimes, it feels good to have friends from similar backgrounds say, "Oh, how do you do it all alone?" I know the feminists will curl up and cringe but I've always loved being feminine and although I am perfectly capable of dealing with light bulb changes, basic plumbing issues, assembling of furniture, fixing blinds with snapped chains, etc, I look forward to the day when I could play damsel in distress and yell out, "Honey! Big spider on the wall!" and then go hide. I swear I almost went crazy trying to get rid of huge spiders that have tried to invade and occupy my abode over the years! I've lost the only person who would watch my back. My safety net is gone and I'm truly alone now. Only a mum would put up with anything and everything just so her children we will have a better life. Mine made sure I learnt how to read and write well and she never stopped learning herself. I remember when I was a disdainful teen going through the stage where peers are more important than parents, I told my mum something about a "baby swan" and she gently said, "Cygnet... a baby swan is a cygnet." I tried to appear nonchalant then but deep inside, I felt very proud of how smart and well-read my mum was! I always thought that "someday", I'd do really well in life and make her proud. Harsh words were exchanged when she felt I didn't make the mark and wasn't "successful" in the Asian context. I lived with shame and was dissuaded from talking to her because of all that. But it was during her funeral wake that I heard from so many of her friends and colleagues that she was very proud of me and was very quick to show them photos of her daughter. I have left it too late. I bought a huge bunch of yellow roses boldly tinged with red the other day because they looked fiery and were very beautiful. She would've loved them. She died too young and too suddenly and even though we had our differences, she was always very special to me and I love her dearly. I always thought she'd be around nagging me for another 10 years at least. I never had the chance to tell her I love her, especially since my culture isn't especially expressive. I also didn't expect the grief to hit me so hard. Mothers are really special beyond words. They have such a huge role to play in our fundamental identity, sense of security, etc. R.I.P. Mummy. To all the wonderful mothers out there, keep on keeping on! You are all tireless and amazing! And to all the fathers out there, if you are working your asses off making sure your children and the children's mama are living comfortably, you are doing a great job and I hope you are duly appreciated...and enjoying plenty of good sex! ;P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm with Betty ugh whatever. Scrolled through the last two pages, didn't even read them, I did however catch your comment Annie and agree it's time to move on. It was/is very hot here today. I swung by the beach for a swim and something amazing happened. A reignited contact mmm no-one will wipe the smile off this dial today 😉 Hope you're all having a great day 😀 Thanks Candy 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
I hope my mum isn't lurking in the spirit world, surfing cyberspace and finding out that I'm talking about cocks and pussies on this site! 8'O !!! She'd die a 2nd time! :'P
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Thanks for sharing that story. I felt a pang of pain of realising your loss at that moment. I'm sorry you felt that way. Hugs. As we come from similar culture, I do get you. The tiger mom mentality is very real and seems common in the Asian culture. I'm not so harsh on my kids now but was very strict when they were little. No junk food, lots of sports, reading and mathematics and music lessons. But also lots of play together. Dont worry about the disappointment. a child is always loved regardless. That's the good thing about being a parent, you learn that you have the capacity to love unconditionally and we never can hold a grudge against our kids. How can we? They are a flesh and blood. If she is like my mother, her generation is not really into touchy feely stuff and the constant cuddling and hugging seems to stop when you reach 18. Not sure why but I have my theories. Anyway, sometimes we don't meet their high expectations, which is based on good intentions. An A in mathematics is not enough, why not A+? Geez... I think they were just preparing us for the real world and.the rat race. You are independent, sensitive, articulate and smart. Why wouldn't a mother be proud of you. I would if you were my daughter. RIP Peony's mom.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps it's a Bonsai :) Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Last winter I was out in the Pilbara doing a "Bush Tucker" gig...I was fossicking around, looking for plants and wrigglies and shit..and my photographer sings out... "OI!!... Great Bush-Tucker Man... what the fck are you standing under...?"I looked up.. and there.. in this abandoned mining precinct... miles from civilization.. I realized I was standing under a fckn MANGO tree myself...I STILL have not lived that one down...
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RHP User
9 years ago
...so I called it a day about 3:30, sealed the house, put the aircon on, cracked open the home-brew, made a pizza and put The Empire Strikes Back on, for the umpteenth time. It's so, SO good.. ** in Darth Vader voice **"Impressive. Most impressive. Obi Wan has taught you well..""Join me, and together we can rule the galaxy as father and son..!" or..** in Han Solo voice **"Scoundrel..? You like me because I'm a scoundrel.." And Yoda's quotes...I don't have the time and space here for his gems!I can't remember the last recent movie I enjoyed as much as this..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' But my nose is always in the food and I cannot see beyond the nom nom's! :D Food is a subject that always gets me excited! Me too! I love good food and drink. Enough that I deny myself added sugar and sweets.Cant gorge on everything at my age...something has to give, i'd rather it wasn't me .
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is one of my hobby horses.Personally I believe it's not whether the school is public or private it's all about the school ethos or culture. Young people thrive in supportive environments ,it's as simple as that. I sent my now 32 year old daughter to a local catholic school because that is where she wanted to go. I truly believe if she had gone to either of the local high schools she would have dropped out of school. Q
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Seachange73
9 years ago
They can have my debts too. 😄
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Q. it is very much the support system around the child and where the child can thrive. There seems to be a stigma attached to people wanting and sending their kids to private school? At a recent Street party, neighbour 3 houses down from me drives a taxi. he has chosen to send his son to a catholic school too, one bus ride and 4 trainstops away instead of the reputable local state college. At great sacrifice to his.family. He puts in 12 hour shifts sometimes to make it happen and make ends meet. he told me his reasons and it made sense to me. being a migrant, he wants his son to do better than him and get opportunities he missed out on. he was an engineer back home but can't get a job here in his chosen field. So he does what he can. Respect.
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
To ride my motorbike with the eldest son to Phillip island tomorrow for the super bikes 27c is just perfect , Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have a Bartholin Cyst on my pussy ... if you don't know what it is, Google it :) FML lol 😂 No sex till it's gone ... lucky my womanizer will keep me sane in the meantime :) The world is still safe ... for the time being :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
To a generic singles night (again). In a Richmond pub, semi-outdoor sports bar area, in amongst everyone else, smoking area, plain clothed host/s which took 20 mins to find did little except dispense wrist bands, wandered around looking for such people, excessively vocal sports fans and other noise, managed a handful of basic conversations, left early. Highlights of the night, pub had pretty decent spicy French fries, and accidentally found a Midnight Oil CD in the car stereo on the way home, which had been there since the car purchase. All in all, another WOFTAM. But as I'm a glutton for punishment, there is another similar event next weekend. Ahhh... the dating scene in real life... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just bought a Mango tree for my backyard. Have been landscaping and renovating my new place. Loving the gardening and my bonsai.lol 😉😂
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RHP User
9 years ago
But I just called the cops on my neighbours and made a noise complaint. They've been partying hard since midday, and I've been desperate for sleep for the last hour. Probably wouldn't be so bad if my bedroom didn't back on their backyard! Oh great, and now they're fighting! Hurry up police!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Get a net for your tree as the mangos start to show. Otherwise youll be woken early in the mornings with a chorus of excited sugar high birdies who are happily eating the fruit!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm intrigued! a reveal might be in order :) mary xx
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Mary, you probably should put the womaniser down as well as the men. Cos its not going to help recovery at all :(
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I've had one Mary, bloody annoying things. Hope you're back to sex soon. Remember to plug in the charger everyday. Nothing worse then finding a flat toy when you are ready to go. On another note Honey B is having a flash sale this weekend online only. 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Champagnesunsets' Get a net for your tree as the mangos start to show. Otherwise youll be woken early in the mornings with a chorus of excited sugar high birdies who are happily eating the fruit! One of the houses I lived in at Cairns had a massive old Mango tree which had branches overhanging the roof of the house, the bottom of the driveway, and the inground swimming pool. Cleaning stains from sap, dropped fruit and guano is really hard work. Bearing this in mind, I'd suggest careful consideration of placement.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Or the neighbours. I've been known to steal a mango or two 😀 only when they're hanging over my fence..... of course 😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am an open book on the fora, I don't disguise what I do or what I believe in ... if your post was an attempt at humor, it failed! I'd like to be able to disclose information on here to garner some idea of who else may have had a cyst and what I may be able to do about it. I certainly didn't disclose information to be ridiculed or exposed in any way :( but thank you, I'm feeling just that little more shite about myself :( I need a fuckng drink (yes this teacher drinks like a fish) and it's only 11 am in Victoria :( Mary xx
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Woman? I doubt she is who she says she is.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Ignore her. She's just trolling again. As usual. Your contribution to the forum is reflective of who you are - warm, generous in spirit and honest. You are well liked in here and in real life. Hope you feel and get better soon. Have a drink if you want. It's cocktail hour somewhere in the world. 😉
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Sharing our lives as we do can and does help others who read and don't post. Unfortunately it puts us on the target board for the trolls and those that "think" they have perfect lives and put others down to make themselves feel better. So carry on as your true self and give them the finger with your spreadsheet hand as you raise your glass. Xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
"spare" hand..... Unless your doing a spreadsheet on the lappy on this beautiful Sunday.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
There are treatments available Mary, depending on the size/whether the cyst becomes an infected abscess. Get your Gp to refer you to a gynaecologist.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I googled it. Yikes! Hope it clears up soon 😘
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yesterday I bought a very life-like magpie ornament for my garden. I put her out this morning and she looked gorgeous. Unfortunately she looks so real that some of my regular garden visitors (yellow breasted chats, I think?) absolutely lost their minds... much screeching and dive bombing! So poor Maggie has been relocated indoors, and there's peace in the garden again 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
they will get used to your ornament in a couple of days.. :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I moved to Oz I was told that any fruit trees that neighbours had ...if they hung over your fence then you could take the fruit? And vice versa. My neighbour gets a few mangoes and I get some of their lemons. My street has loads of fruit trees and there are often " help yourself" boxes of fruit in people gardens. :)
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Haha. Made me laugh out loud.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You think so? I feel bad leaving it out there and stressing them out :/ But if you think it's ok, and that they'll get used to her, I might leave Maggies out when I go to work tomorrow. Don't want to do it while I'm home, cause I'd feel guilty hearing them go off lol.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
What about a pink flamingo? Love them elegant sleek creatures.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You all need a stiff drink and to calm down. Seriously the over reaction is laughable.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I have a flamingo in my garden. Love them. And my phone wallpaper is a flamingo walking along the beach.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I assume that was directed at me? Wow, who would have thought Cavey can't take a off colour joke that has obviously not met with the groups approval. I thought better of you man. I really did.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Love it. So after you have all torn each other to bits you rush to slam an outsider to make out that you are all friends again and to rebuild your group camaraderie. LOL Group dynmics is Interest isn't it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love popping pimples, blackheads and boils even though it grosses me out and I had one of those cysts a few years back and guess what? When it was ripe and ready I popped it. I knew I shouldn't but I have very little self control and it hurt like a bitch!! 😫 It left a big scar for a while but it was so satisfying and so worth it lol I know I'm sick! 😁 Hope yours clears up soon. Just don't let me near it lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had flamingos in my Perth garden too... loved them too, but I left them behind for my son when I moved up here. Not sure that he appreciates them quite as much as I do, though.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yep, I think I'll have to get some for my garden up here too. They are elegant and sleek, and kooky (sp?) as well 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm with you, my favorite past time is watching pimple popping :) Thankyou everyone for your support and my apologies for the TMI :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
That's totally gross... and because I also lack self control in that area, it's exactly what I would do too lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had 3 in my garden. One disappeared, one was smashed, might have been the birds?...... and the other is on his lonesome, might have to get another for company. I also have a giant PF ice bucket, blow up PF, drinks holders, towels, ornaments, a bed linen set, garden ornaments, cushions, pens and a book mark, courtesy of lovely friends when I was Kokoflamingo. In my profile pic I have a PF playsuit on. Id love to go to Aruba to the Flamingo beach. I love all birds, but as Elke and Lily say, the flamingoes are sleek and elegant. And a bit kooky, like myself My son and guy are pretty accepting of a house with a pink flamingo theme thank goodness!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not at all TMI - good to share so others can gather info. I feel your pain! I had my first Barts cyst while we were living in Africa - took them forever to diagnose, could barely walk or sit by the time they got me onto the right drugs, bloody painful little fuckers! Stress is one of the causes, so maybe you should steer clear of this thread for a bit lol! Agree with Jonesy - give your pusswah a break haha!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Amazingly, not all of us are ashamed of who we are, or how we live our lives...That was a new low, even for you
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ElkeM' Yesterday I bought a very life-like magpie ornament for my garden. I put her out this morning and she looked gorgeous. Unfortunately she looks so real that some of my regular garden visitors (yellow breasted chats, I think?) absolutely lost their minds... much screeching and dive bombing! So poor Maggie has been relocated indoors, and there's peace in the garden again 😏 My mum has a magpie notification tone on her phone, and because we have a couple of magpie families living around our house I'm never sure if it's her phone or an actual magpie doing the warbling!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Hotwives_Inc' I'm with you, my favorite past time is watching pimple popping :) Her videos are so gross and so satisfying at the same time Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
You had a crack at me ... I'd implore you to go and check on my posts on any topic and see if I have had any 'falling out' with any forumites. This isn't pack mentality to exclude you. Most posts are from my friends, friendships I nurture, support and encourage. Yes, real life friendships. As friends, not just fellow forumites, it's warming to see their support and encouragement of me and that they held you to account. I'd imagine this is confronting ;) The comments you have subsequently posted are classic deflection. You made a very poor attempt at humor, it went south. I'm sorry, would work just as well :) Mary xx
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Well said my friend. I've had a couple of run ins with a few forumites and that's ok, I move on and don't hold grudges or have a problem with anyone in here. (Oops sorry that's not entirely true, there is one poster in here that I despise, but that's a RL issue that she brought into the forums). What you said was inappropriate, unnecessary and down right rude.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
What is happening here? Your initial comment was a dig at Ruby's so I made a little joke at your joke on her comment. Your reaction is out of character which leads me to believe that there may be something else going on in your life perhaps? Sorry if there is. Let's be frank, I know that most of us know the pain and suffereing watching loved ones go through serious illness and if all you have to worry about is a cyst or boil then you have nothing to worry about at all really. I truly find your and all your friends reactions quite bizarre. And that is not trolling that is a genuine comment! I don't believe I did have a crack at you at all, but as you told another poster recently perhaps if you don't like how people interact at times you should stay away from the forums you told her. My group dynamic comment wasn't directed at you at all, just going through the last few pages of this thread should tell you that. Clearly you haven't been involved with that. PS Ms Tulips is on the money, you pop it, It goes away and heals really quickly almost overnight. But I a also have a bit of a popping fetish. PPS I worked with a girl who took a day off and when she came in she told the boss (who is a personal friend of mine) that she had a boil on her flap and it was killing her. It was a statement so shocking we just had to laugh. But she was truly a rough diamond that one. LOL
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RHP User
9 years ago
No, I am not bothered at all by people's comments. In all honesty? Why should I be? Another odd comment. So you say I should be upset because other people are supportive of your boil? Okay, I have stop. I am getting far too much (juvenile) enjoyment from the word. Too funny. hahaha But, a misunderstanding never the less. My initially comment was not meant to offend you in this way, sorry if it did. Clearly you are incredible upset by it. Sorry. I am unimportant, just a random o line you should never worry about people you don't even know. Life is too short after all. Live, pop and enjoy,
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RHP User
9 years ago
I made a comment and it has been deleted in double quick time. A forum member called someone a Cunt Dog, which I said was disgusting and unnecessary, and it lasted all of half an hour. The comment I brought up is still there. So its ok then to be derogatory about someone else on here but not to be called up on it? Whats the score there?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't know if I want to bite it, slap it or fuck it with my strap on ;) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think have commented on every forum topic out there. You'd think I was trying to avoid cleaning the house, doing the gardening and washing the cars 😏 And if anyone's curious... the answer is yes, it's been a highly successful avoidance strategy 😀
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