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Everything & Nothing
August 28 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'rubi_rose' For Mary, Willow, Soft, Tulips and Annie ( I'll pop myself in here to) and to all survivors..... For our beautiful precious strong inner child Every Child Should Know a Hill(Edna Casler Joll) Every child should know a hill,And the clean joy of running down its long slope With the wind in his hair. He should know a tree . . . The comfort of its cool lap of shade, And the supple strength of its arms Balancing him between earth and sky So he is a creature of both. He should know bits of singing water . . . The strange mysteries of its depths, And the long sweet grasses that border it. Every child should know some scrap Of uninterrupted sky, to shout against; And have one star, dependable and bright, For wishing on. Love Light and continued healing for all.... Hugs Rubi xoxo
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RHP User
9 years ago
Other women who have told their stories here,my heart goes out to you all.Mary,you are right.betrayal by someone who should have protected you,is as bad,if not worse than the original abuse. Fom the age of four my father physically abused me on a regular basis.I wrote this poem a few days before Mothers'Day and will share it with you.Q The Mirror Very morning you are there,staring back at me. The last thing I ever wanted was to see you here. Is it just my mortality that confronts me when I See you,a reminder of a painful time And my unforgiving heart. Yesterday I did notice that there was more Of me staring back. Perhaps at last I can forgive you. Not for what you did,but for what you didn't do. You were the witness , You saw the bruises On the young child. You knew his weapons of choice. The leather belt The heavy hand. The booted foot. It still puzzles me your silence. Your lack of comfort. Why,I have wondered ,did you Choose him over me? But what did you know, He had all the power, You had none.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I have re-read these heart wrenching posts on and off all day, and they have brought tears to my eyes every time. I know some of these women; they are brave, strong, resilient, funny and big hearted. But what happened to them those years ago is never okay...betrayal through abuse and betrayal by those they turned to for help...and hope. I work with young people, some of whom have been through similar (they are never the same, each is influenced by the act, by the impact of the act, and who broke their trust). I have been the trusted adult to whom they have disclosed, the adult who then had to make the many calls which are required to start the process of help and healing. To all who read this.....if you are in that position, where you are the trusted adult (or indeed the adult who suspects something is not right), there is NEVER a reaction which is more appropriate than helping the child. No adult ever has the right to destroy their innocence, to irrevocably change the little one's life. You are the person they chose in a time of great distress...and you need to demonstrate as much bravery as they did, by making the calls to the authorities, by making sure the child is safe and being there for them every step of the way.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Absolutely, no question, I would, no matter how long it took or how it monopolised my time, absolutely a priority to help them re everything you said. Nice and important message, well said 👍 it's already been said but I've known victims who also had the one parent betray them concealing it, the other parent being the abuser, and horrific experiences for one in particular over many years, the mother endorsed it by allowing it to happen, she knew and did nothing. The girl was deeply traumatised, the full impact hitting her as an adult. So sad, we went to school with them and no-one knew for all those years. The parents who claim it's a lie and/or conceal it, with no regard for the child, well I sure as hell would cut off contact with them too. They belong in jail in my opinion. That's the worst thing imaginable for a parent to allow that to happen to their child. I could never understand how any parent could do that, and I still don't. My heart goes out to all of you xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Such wonderful words Rubi xx Ms Q, ... they are mighty words, your reflection resonates with me. I'm hoping that there was some healing in penning those thoughts xx Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
For all the scarred souls, don't be afraid you are alright. None of it was your fault, take someone you do trust and let him or her cuddle you much ;) Hugs are good, but in my experience stories are better, so in the hope of cheering you up: It was morning and a young rabbit, got woken by his mother. "Mommy, I wanna keep on sleeping" the little one said, "Hush, little one, you gotta get up. I even made the finest carrots this morning" his mother answered. The little rabbits eyes were sparkling, "Carrots? I loooove carrots!" she uttered with a bright smile. The mother couldn't help it but chuckle, as she saw the gleaming eyes of her beloved daughter. "Up, Up, Up you go my little princess" said the mother and left for the kitchen to make a hot chocolate. The little rabbit jumped up, ran to the shower, got half dressed and ran to the kitchen. Carrots was all she could think of, she loved carrots, especially mothers homemade carrot cereals. Having only carrots in mind she missed the last step of the stairs, tripped and slammed full speed in the kitchen table. *Clonk* *flir* *bang* "Ouuuuch, that hurt!" cried the little rabbit, wearing the cereal bowl like a helmet and covered completely in honey, milk and cereals. The Mother knelt down next to the little rabbit, holding her tightly and started to sing: Don't be afraid my little girl I am there for you my precious pearl Protecting you while holding you tight Scaring away all your fright with loves might Sometimes life s harsh and full of pain Like mean tables jumping on you in vain But they can't stop my little gem Coz you are stronger than all of them Mommey is here to take all your pain Supporting you like a walking cane See the soaring pain is already gone And for you it's time to move on Another journey awaits you princess And I know it will be a success So cheer up my beautiful silly one It is time for your next witty pun The little rabbit looked up in her mothers big eyes and uttered a bright smile. Cuddling close the to held each other, and for the carrots? The story is another. ------ For the end a question: red marked flirts or messages got deleted by receiver?
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Seachange73
9 years ago
From this guy flying to Cairns for 16tg and 17th 'fancy flying to Cairns for two days? I'll be there and looking for some fun hook ups'. What??? 😶 and he is not even hot. Profile: bland with no personality. Reply: 'wow. Do you have your own private plane?' 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can beat that. Got one this morning "Wanna get high??" 👯 yeah nah
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RHP User
9 years ago
Re your question, I don't think the sender would know if messages are deleted at the receiver's end. I think all you can see is if they've been read, of course we know they can be read without showing as being read 😎 so even that you can never be sure of, but I wasn't aware of messages marked red? Then again, there is plenty I don't know about the site, maybe some others can give you a better answer?
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RHP User
9 years ago
There was indeed...forgiveness is important in the healing process..not for the other person but for you..otherwise you remain in the pain..hugs Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do you mean like a red highlight through the line of the flirt / message while in your inbox? It means it was sent by a Platinum member. A black highlight means a Diamond member.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If anyone has experience with anorexia, care to message me ? Running out of options here 😱😤🙁😪
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ok, so rather then starting a new thread, this is the Anything and Nothing thread so this place will do.I recently returned to RHP after being away for a few years. I'd just like to say a very heartfelt Thank you to the woman of RHP. I've sent out numerous private messages since I've been back, and a few people where kind enough to reply after reading them. You all know who you are, so I won't give out names. I know it's not required for you to answer, and I realize the guys to girls ratio is probably around 100 guys to every 10 girls, and you woman get tens of hundreds of messages a day probably, but even taking 5 seconds to reply with '' thanks but you're not what I'm looking for'' is greatly greatly appreciated. I know, times not really been kind to me, I'm not up there in the model looks, so sending out messages to woman I find attractive is often a task and usually unsuccessful ( that's life, we deal with the hand we're dealt) But as I said before, just a very big Thank You, to all that have replied. Means a lot.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you :) @Insomnian: As long as your messages are read, it's frustrating pouring time into a message which is not even read :o Maybe I should start using message templates instead of using individual ones? Na that would be without class.....
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Nooooooo Keep the customised messages. Women find them more attractive and definitely will get more response. Maybe you are sending the messages to the wrong women 😝
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sitting out in public with my heart breaking (yes I'm bloody crying!) at how you were treated. You are the most beautiful person now with only lots of love in your heart and that in itself is a success story. You are a diamond that now shines, with all the hardships forged into you, rising from black dust to a beautiful precious gem :) you are one of a kind! Your mother dealt with it the only way she knew how. The shame of a mother's heart break, that were once beautiful dreams full of hope for her children and now she still cannot forgive herself and therefore others, for the wrongdoings not of her own but someone that she trusted. She can't forgive herself. Her pain is just as bad. This is what I understand of my mother. I was lucky to have been loved and spoilt by my father but my mother copped everything. So I will never say anything mean to her that is useless and makes her more angry because I know she nags me because she is hard on herself. I cannot live with her but I love her dearly. Your mother has decades of guilt within her. I'm so glad that you had the courage to tell your brother and that he supported you. Please release the pain. That pain has served its purpose as you are more loving than 99% of the population at a guess :) hugs and kisses to you! Xxoo sorry for my late reply. But I would like to say that from the bottom of my heart. Your posts are always so loving and beautiful and I wonder how you do it. It appears that you are much more a woman of strength than I initially thought! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hahaha I dare you to use a template, bet you won't do it! I agree with @Lilyorchid. You are so caring. Don't be disheartened because even the greatest humans in history, if they stopped when they didn't get the answer they wanted, we'd all still be in the stone ages lol it is hard to tell if anyone has read your messages. From your profile, you're only here for a short time? That would mean that some girl may fall in love with your foreignness only for you to leave her, lol heartbreaker, you! *Wink wink* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
What you can do is save your individual messages as templates then just edit them a bit to suit the situation, just so you don't have to retype all the basic information, take account of the profile and how you might meet each others needs and then edit accordingly, make it individual just save yourself the repetition. Spending so much time on each message only to be unread or ignored is a fast track to frustration and despondence. Your welcome.
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RHP User
9 years ago
By reading the last few pages of this thread. Thankyou to all those who shared their stories, of ultimate courage and bravery. Total respect And for those still battling, be strong. People do care Be kind peeps
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RHP User
9 years ago
The best quote I've seen so far on the act of "stealthing" "Its called "stealthing" cause "being a cunt" had already been taken Ain't that the truth
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ooh, that's a bit bitey 😕 I can recommend coffee and chocolate, sweetens the mood, sweetens my mood anyway 😋 Now in order of preference 1. Chokito 2. Rolo 3. Mint Kit-Kat 4. Cadbury Black Forrest 5. Freddo heads 🍫🍵
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RHP User
9 years ago
This> "It appears that you are much more a woman of strength than I initially thought!" Accidental I'm sure but coined in the urban dictionary as a 'Complisult' 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Chris Cornell You never know what demons people are battling silently. .
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RHP User
9 years ago
@Flygirl: Thank you, much appreciated I won't change it, no worries. I'm no heartbreaker, but if you are a nice guy and girls ain't used to it, it can be tricky. Only thing one can do is being honest and communicate upfront. @Salibad: Thank you for your thoughts. It's a good idea, it just doesn't fit me
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RHP User
9 years ago
I appreciate how frustrating it must be sending messages and not getting replies, but if you are going to send a message, I think it best to start from fresh, any kind of template, even in part, depersonalises it, or you run the risk of doing that, and in my opinion, if that is all you think the recipient deserves, then that says a whole lot, no matter how many messages have gone unread or not replied to. Due respect sailbad, I can see the logic, but I would sooner get a one line message, than one that was a quick edit for me 😃 Having said that, I am a little different to many women in the sense that I prefer a flirt or 2 or 3 ( just to be sure they get seen, flirts can get lost in the system) then waiting for return interest before sending a message. I find flirts less personal and they take away the guilt associated with not replying, particularly when they throw a heap of compliments at me which I appreciate, but can't or don't want to converse with every person who contacts me. That's just me though, understand others prefer a message straight up 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
fly_girl nailed it with the heartbreaker note, I do think that would make many hesitant, particularly chicks your own age, but not limited to, even ongoing connections, because it's so bloody hard to find the right 'fit', to have a good thing start, and then lose them, is offputting for me anyway. But remaining honest is perfect, love that you see that. But that face? I've fallen in love with you already lol 😍😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
not just your face 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stop flattering me 😜 It is highly appreciated coming from a woman as beautiful as you 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Congrats on reaching over 5,000 posts on this thread Annie. WoW!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I wanted to offer strength and respect to all battlers who have posted since Mary's first post. Mary, I am so glad you got to have such a cathartic experience, hugs, Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
God, now don't start flattering me. You'll never get rid of me. I hang around like a bad smell 😊
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Congrats on reaching over 5,000 posts on this thread Annie. WoW! Which indicates 97 posts have been deleted.......
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am sure there are a lot of things worse than that
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RHP User
9 years ago
You are, as ever, vague beyond my understanding, meaning... I have no idea what you're talking about... there was 5003 yesterday, when I posted, and 5005 today. I don't remember ever seeing the thread hit 5,000 before, but whatever. You're welcome.
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RHP User
9 years ago
But then, I read though it and decided it was overkill and that it would probably get deleted, which could well lead to the thread being cleaned up. Let's just say my foster-mother knew when she left just after I turned 10. Welfare should have had a fair idea after she reported to them that they were swingers, and that he'd forced her into it (this is in my records). But no, she left because me and he were picking on her (records again), and took my adopted brother with her. I got to stay another 3 years with one of the only people I'd ever known as family after welfare decided my blood parents didn't need to know I hadn't been adopted after all (also in my records). I caught up with most of my family last year, after a long gap since our few meetings when I was an older, very disturbed teen. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Shame, Shame, Shame! Saw an article on it during the week... A disgusting trend (men sneaking off condom without woman knowing) that only goes further to show the lack of respect for women in general, wtf. I hope this becomes recognised as the crime it really is and rape is accepted as the appropriate charge for the perpetrators charged. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think the time has come for a complete rewrite of my profile, on both adult and vanilla sites (again). As for the profile here, while technically all still correct, it hasn't changed since I first joined (except photos of course). The same goes for the profile on other (vanilla) sites. On them I'm trying to subtly include what you could call sexual non-conservatism (to coin a term!) without sounding like every other male profile that might come across or be dismissed as "only interested in sex". I've tried phrasing it a few ways, but regardless I've had the least positive interest/response on those sites in the last few years than I ever have. I'm also tossing up on whether to have a profile based on being direct, serious and to the point, versus a profile based solely on light-heartedness and humour, and perhaps light satire.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Shame, Shame, Shame! Saw an article on it during the week... A disgusting trend (men sneaking off condom without woman knowing) that only goes further to show the lack of respect for women in general, wtf. I hope this becomes recognised as the crime it really is and rape is accepted as the appropriate charge for the perpetrators charged. Peachy Because they consented to sex with certain conditions and the person intentionally broke those? Because it exposed the person to a risk? I prefer the former reasoning, and (in NSW anyway) you could arguably extend obtaining consent by fraud to be deception, but that HUGE problems with it. It's one of those things that seems inherently wrong, but can you actually break it down to the "why", and then make good law from that? I've read a fair bit on it lately, and in all the articles and commentary, it's universally agreed to be wrong (Brendan from the Hack phone call excluded) but nothing going deeper and pulling out a well formed law.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Referring to Stealthin, and women in particular, it sounds like there needs to be new laws introduced that recognise crimes against women (and prospective progeny, yes foetuses are not recognised as beings at all yet) with the 'risk' factored in as far as severity goes. There needs to be some consequence that makes the practice unnatractive and it needs to be reviled by the community in general. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
If a "man" removes or damages the condom on purpose during intercourse then it is rape, as rape is non-consensual sex, and if the lady has not consented to the removal then QED
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Referring to Stealthin, and women in particular, it sounds like there needs to be new laws introduced that recognise crimes against women (and prospective progeny, yes foetuses are not recognised as beings at all yet) with the 'risk' factored in as far as severity goes. There needs to be some consequence that makes the practice unnatractive and it needs to be reviled by the community in general. Peachy Why make it a gendered rule when it doesn't have to be? I'm sure you don't think that women should have carte blanche to remove their condoms and then hop back on the guy without consequence. Or if either gender poked holes in the condoms - it'd be fair to say the person agreed to "sex with a condom" as a more specific case of "sex with a barrier protection in place", not because they like the sensation of fucking a sandwich bag. If you're factoring in "risk" then risk of what, and if you're a guy with no STI's and a vasectomy, are you good to go with no consequences if your condomless state provides no risk to the other person? Is the answer the same if both people knew the 'stealthing' person was STI free and effectively sterile? Or would it be on damage, and considered as damage caused either deliberately or by gross negligence? But anyway, why do you think it is a crime? I think it should be too, but what is your reasoning - is it because they consented to sex under certain conditions, and then those conditions were deliberately not met?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover994' If a "man" removes or damages the condom on purpose during intercourse then it is r---, as r--- is non-consensual sex, and if the lady has not consented to the removal then QED just saying QED doesn't mean you have, and the courts who had to examine it on appeal disagreed (Swiss not Aussie) - though there will likely be something drafted. Are you saying that the consent is "consent to sex under certain conditions", and deliberately not meeting those conditions should count as a crime, and why? If we don't have a 'why', how do we think about what the law should be (I'm using r--- or other terms just in case the Powers That Be have some alarm that goes off for them to come and clobber threads when people say words they don't like) Apologies for the double post, yours didn't show up till I posted the other.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is "Repudiation of Contract" the term you're looking for?! (FWIW, I too think the behaviour described is a disgrace irrespective the gender of the offending party. As far as the argument vis a vis STIs, it is worthwhile to remember any and all form of screening tests can assure absence of disease state as at only the time of sample collection and test. There are means of contracting such illnesses other than by sexual contact and/or i---------- d--- use (slim as those chances may be). Some of the pathogens transmissible by sexual contact can live and remain contagious up to 30 days out of the body).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' Is "Repudiation of Contract" the term you're looking for?! yes and no, I don't want to lean too heavily into contract concepts since then you can also start thinking of offer, acceptance and consideration. (I think that thinking in contract terms too much makes it seem like one person is a 'provider' of sex, and another is a consumer. I really really hate that notion)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Rather than 'sandwich bags', might look out for a brand called 'Force Majeure'.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was surprised they let it through in the first place. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't even remember the title of the thread 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' You are, as ever, vague beyond my understanding, meaning... I have no idea what you're talking about... there was 5003 yesterday, when I posted, and 5005 today. I don't remember ever seeing the thread hit 5,000 before, but whatever. You're welcome. You call me vague...... Pmsl. I was alluding to the fact there are 97 posts missing. For it to reach 5000 posts we should be page 250. 250 x 20 ≠5000We are only just completed page 246.Just a little fact for you
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RHP User
9 years ago
'Scuse my delay... I've reread thoroughly and googled a little and see stealthing (with the g :-P) is not the man against woman crime I thought it was. So that part of my argument is moot and my sincerest apologies to anyone who read what I said and thought the only victims were women! It's not. The definition of sexual assualt, taken off a health site, is, "Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual behaviour or activity that makes the victim feel uncomfortable, frightened or threatened.". The moment I become aware a man has acted in a way we have not agreed on is going to be threatening for me. His prior knowlege that I would feel that way would make his behavioiur a 'crime' then? It's troubling to think the practice is being encouraged among men and that there are forums where stories are shared and tips given on how to get away with it. The furthering of the premeditation is disturbing. I feel like this has some similarities to stalking which was not recognised as a crime for a long time and that this will eventually have a basis in law. But can I word a specific law? No. Not quite that cleva, fella but thanks for the implied compliment). Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm vague, not deaf! Just wondering at your figuring that it should be a specific, different number. Thanks for the reply... But the numbers are off by heaps on Q's word thread too, and there is no way that thread has lost over 50 posts. Curious... Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
(I shouldn't need to explain, but some may be apt to misunderstanding and/or outrage, so here goes...) I use the term "Force Majeure" as a double entendre. @SOTL used the term "sandwich bag" in an earlier posts as a euphemism for "condom" (aka "French Letter"). One of the definitions of "Force Majeure" in French is "Superior Strength". It is also a term used in Contract Law whereby a party to a contract may be released from the contract terms due to factors beyond their control. There is no explicit or implied endorsement or advocacy for the practice of "stealthing". OK?!
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RHP User
9 years ago
The outside tally gives the number of posts in response to the thread as being 5026... I can confirm there are 20 posts on every one of the 246 pages and 6 on this one, making 4,926 posts on this thread which means we are exactly 100 posts behind in the numbers. And that's a fact... Peachy, loves to waste time...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' 'Scuse my delay... I've reread thoroughly and googled a little and see stealthing (with the g :-P) is not the man against woman crime I thought it was. So that part of my argument is moot and my sincerest apologies to anyone who read what I said and thought the only victims were women! It's not. The definition of sexual assualt, taken off a health site, is, "Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual behaviour or activity that makes the victim feel uncomfortable, frightened or threatened.". The moment I become aware a man has acted in a way we have not agreed on is going to be threatening for me. His prior knowlege that I would feel that way would make his behavioiur a 'crime' then? What site put out that definition - it sounds like they've taken regular assault, but then cheeekily removed a pretty key component - intention (or recklessness). (I think some of these sites also make it an intentionally, overly broad definition because then they can over-inflate their statistics) Consider the situation where you're going down on a fellow, working a nice saliva-covered shaft and keeping his balls well looked after with your mouth - he arches his back, you think "oh, he wants a tongue a little lower, cheeky sod" and a little tongue behind the balls, maybe it grazes his bot-bot... instantly he springs to his feet "How dare you, I'm calling the cops, you made me uncomfortable, you can't sexually assault me" and you're slapped in irons faster than you can say "rogered with an unlubed truncheon". (just as an example, if you wouldn't do that, think of something else, I'm sure you get the concept) Those sites like to bandy about definitions that just don't make sense in any context that works, or is desirable for a free and reasonable society. You actually made it a bit more reasonable because they don't mention knowing that it was unwanted attention. Anyway, back to "stealthing" do you think it should be a crime because they agreed to "sex under certain conditions" and those were deliberately not adhered to?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I see it as a form of fraud, in seeking to gain personal advantage through deception. The sexual context would make it aggravated. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch'Rewrite I think the time has come for a complete rewrite of my profile, on both adult and vanilla sites (again). As for the profile here, while technically all still correct, it hasn't changed since I first joined (including, as told by someone who knows you, your age).Mmmm ?Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
I used to be vague. But now I'm not sure. 😝
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RHP User
9 years ago
Google is your friend... That description can be found on a few sites including the Victorian Police. I'd like to ask why you are trying to tie down to what I mean so specifically, do you have an agenda?
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RHP User
9 years ago
To Sgt Peppers Lonely Hearts Club Band. 50 Today, hard to believe. A Day In The Life is one of my all time favourite tracks, just so out there.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Quoting 'countrytouch'Rewrite I think the time has come for a complete rewrite of my profile, on both adult and vanilla sites (again). As for the profile here, while technically all still correct, it hasn't changed since I first joined (including, as told by someone who knows you, your age).Mmmm ?Tall Huh? My age showing is exactly correct. And it is updated based on my entered birthdate which is accurate to the month. So I don't know what tree is being barked up by said someone?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Someone should mind his own business. Mmmmmmm......
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Easy to follow the breadcrumbs trail. like a good whodunit game. just figure out who you know that lives/lived in Victoria that he knows tells him things about other forumites and.... voila!!! 😉 must have been a slow day... Pass the pop corn. 😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Google is your friend... That description can be found on a few sites including the Victorian Police. I'd like to ask why you are trying to tie down to what I mean so specifically, do you have an agenda? yes Peachy, it's a conspiracy, as always, it's always a conspiracy - I took my tinfoil hat off for just one second and they got me, agent of the Establishment /s I asked because a lot of support sites and health sites play fast and loose with definitions to suit their purposes, and to make them more friendly to the general public. e.g. traumatised person goes online to looks for help, is much more likely to go along with a friendly definition, than if they're confronted with a wall of jargon and legalese. Also, even a simplified definition only makes sense sometimes when you know who gave it - a crime in Victoria can have different elements to a crime in NSW, WA, etc. In this case, sexual assault has a different definition in NSW to VIC. My nefarious agenda, is understanding what your viewpoint and thoughts on something are. Under the Vic definition the scenario I gave could be considered sexual assault, do you think that scenario counts as sexual assault? It's a fairly nuanced topic, and I don't think a lot of people really put a lot of thought into the whys and wherefores of handling it as a crime. It generally doesn't lead to good law if laws are formulated without thinking about why they are a crime, it leads to unintended consequences of laws. That is why I was wondering why you think it is a crime, to understand what your argument.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I witnessed the manager (or a superior) in a Dome coffee shop, chastising one of his staff, behind the counter, almost standing over him, lecturing about something. The poor guy, who looked really nice, was being polite, but at that moment, I was so disgusted with this other man, I wanted to jump the counter, grab him by the collar, and give him a lecture about how he should treat staff 👎 I didn't of course, but later regretted not calling him out over his behavior. He shouldn't have been speaking to him like that in front of people, shouldn't have been speaking to him like that at all. The background here is this is a new one I haven't been into much, maybe 5 or 6 times, but the chick behind the counter is always bitching about other staff members, not doing her job, takes your order, then gets distracted with bitchiness, so this is what I've seen every single time I've been in there. It obviously comes from management. Other Domes and coffee placed I frequent are all friendly to each other and take the time to engage their customers with a bit of back and forth banter, but they would never treat each other with disrespect like that. Poor form and that man shouldn't be a manager, shouldn't even be on staff. I left feeling sad for the other people who were stuck working for him
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Seachange73
9 years ago
To all. 😊 Finished early and spending it with my boys. beautiful autumn day and great time for a walkabout in the city. Autumn in Melbourne is gorgeous. Have a great weekend!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for explaining your (nefarious? Now who's working a conspiracy theory?) 'agenda', and spelling out your ongoing attitude. Ditto, to your likers, whoever they are. Sorry I didn't and can't spell out my feelings in a way that matched/s your need for specificity in regards to the law. I feel like I'm under cross questioning. And I don't like the way you put it which is why I don't want to say yes. It feels wrong to me. And, I already explained that I don't feel I have the ability to phrase such a law. End of discussion. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
LOVE the new picture Touch, and yes, it's hard in situations like that isn't it? My husband hates it when I can't stop myself from speaking up, but it gets to me too, you know? It might not be too late to do something if it's stuck with you. Thanks Lily, your day sounds fantastic. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you 😊 re the other thing, there's really no point in saying anything, he was just big noting himself, and like I said, pretty obvious it's just the way things roll in that Dome. Me being me though, I'm in the area a lot, I'll pop in and check on their behavior from time to time 😉 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
In this season of commons cold, Shakespeare (Willie be so bold?) For Communis Rixatrix - Drone Honey? The Bee ranks; Tried and true remedy of old. 🦀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Note to self: Maybe set the AC unit to HEAT the night before. So when you get up @ 4am half asleep for gym and think you're so smart putting the heater on to come home to a warm bedroom...you don't actually come home to an ice box 5 x colder than it is outside!
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RHP User
9 years ago
All the more reason to jump into bed (ie with me) as soon as you get back. Best way to warm up :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
If only you were here as my bed warmer I have a feeling getting up at that time of the morning would become a lot harder if I had a sexy warm man in my bed!
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Are now doing flights Perth - Brisbane and vice versa for $115!!! Woohoo might get to a Perth Socialites gathering at that price!!!! 👍🏽
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RHP User
9 years ago
Back in to my eharmony account. Updated profile, it's been a while. I have to remember my prefered partner age has to be continually increased as the years go by...
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RHP User
9 years ago
rejected me! Maybe I'm not good enough for the vanilla guys!?!
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Ellie You are too good for them!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' rejected me! Maybe I'm not good enough for the vanilla guys!?! Who said only vanilla guys were on there? ;) But yes, the first time I tried to join, it rejected me too. The second time a few years later I must have put slightly different answers to their questionaire. Just now I had to update my partner age, matches were set to 22-30 I think. For example, my age range on rsvp started from 18-25 when I first joined (at around 19), obviously I took waaaaay too long to find partner in that age range, it is essentially no longer applicable anymore. Now, assuming I look for someone a little older, I have found some potential partners with adult kids! Go figure...
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Just rejoin and state single 😏 eHarmony must default us all as rejects if we've actually had a life 😂 It rejected Rohan and I too when we were HONEST about our previous relationship status. It's laughable really.
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RHP User
9 years ago
partner age range means nothing for me. No matter what I put, it's only the really young guys that show any interest in me! Guys my own age seem to want younger women (based on what I've seen of their age specifications), so I'm too old!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' partner age range means nothing for me. No matter what I put, it's only the really young guys that show any interest in me! Guys my own age seem to want younger women (based on what I've seen of their age specifications), so I'm too old! I'm pretty sure that despite all the parties I have been to in the past, I've only ever been with a younger woman once! So in any case, I concur, I am interested in younger women too (as well as older ones), but can't say the feeling is mutual at this stage, I've only had interest from older women :) There's a psychological thing going on too I think. We worry about the years getting on, feeling old regardless of our actual age, being with someone younger is a way of feeling younger again perhaps, but obviously that dynamic only works one way for each said couple.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Euhm what does it mean if a profile is not available??
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RHP User
9 years ago
Either you've been blocked by that particular member (although why anyone would want to block you is puzzling - you're gorgeous), or that the member has hidden their profile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😀 it's a beautiful sunny day in Perth. Hope it's the same around the country 👍
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Required Isle 249.......
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On_Safari
9 years ago
It wasn't me 😳
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Seachange73
9 years ago
It was such a nice encouraging post on cancer awareness by Ms.foxxy. I wish they kept that in and the positive supportive replies. Sorry to see her posts on the subject gone. best wishes again to your cancer awareness drive msFoxxy. More power to you.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
To see good relevant topics like go negative and subsequently deleted due to some people's mental instability, insensitivity and insecurities. Seriously, get a life! 👎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who are you all fighting with now?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seriously! this was about a run for a forumite's dad who has terminal cancer. That was it! It's not about anyone's ego!!! Peachy, in tears
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hugs and kisses for you and yours in this difficult time, love, Peachy
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precious142
9 years ago
Again???? The Forums are seriously becoming a non-joke! Seems some posters just never know when to quit........or when to stay quiet P
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Please keep us updated on your cancer awareness drive. As I posted this afternoon, I was happy to see your successful drive as I my father passed away from cancer when was very young. Hence the subject is very close to me. I wish you more happiness with your father. I'm sure he is.very proud of you and your family. Take care and looking forward to all the positive updates.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
That was a lovely gesture for you to offer to pass the hat around for msFoxxy. Very kind. I'm sure msFoxxy didn't get around to reply to your offer before it was deleted. Next time I'm in Qld, happy to contribute msFoxxy or Indy. All a very good cause. 😊👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am not adding anything to the conversation except to say that we all have our reasons for why we 'block' or choose to have no interaction with certain people in the forum, and I respect that. oh and... The follow up reaction of name calling on a different thread was disturbing to me too. I think we all have our right to red flags. Peachy
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Thank you for explaining your point of view. I respect your choices. I may be missing something here. My apologies. I think I will leave it there as the topic of cancer is something I hokd dearly and I feel for msFoxxy abd every one else touched by this disease. Will not add anymore. Have a good night. It's cold in Melbourne. Brrr
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nearly 250 pages of this thread Annie! Well done for maintaining this one's longevity. Hope I get to crack open page 250..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you too, very much. I feel your heart and will have a good night. Peachy xo
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RHP User
9 years ago
You too, of course! Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
You know that makes me just wanna beat you to page 250 right? Blame it on my ever present competitive streak 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
250 pages?... We could crack that in no time, though apparently the site can't decide if the page or post number is more relevant. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
That would make 5000 posts on the thread. Does anyone have any idea what the record is in the rhp forums?
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