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Is a hand on your throat really a turnon?
December 30 2014
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On_Safari
11 years ago
And yup. I think it's a Dominant lusty move, similar to grabbing a fistful of hair or giving a good hard slap. No asphyxiation required here, just both knowing a squeeze is all it could take. Just my thoughts...
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I don't like anything around my neck. I have been told by a past life guru that I was a beheaded samurai warrior in a previous life, maybe that's why, or maybe it is a crock of shit, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your hands around my neck and I will punch you in the face...well maybe not but I will scream,I can't bear anything tight round my neck...ralf funny how we are never told that we were just a poor old peasant😊xxFreya
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Given the polarised responses so far.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meh with regards to modern commercial porn. I feel it has been becoming more and more abusive (to both sexes but more so towards women) in the last ten to fifteen years. If I'm going to watch porn nowadays I'll search for homemade/amateur tube sites or commercial stuff like Passion HD. As for breath play?I'm not one to suggest it but I will engage in it if a partner wishes me to. For some reason or another most of my partners/playmates in the past 10 years have liked to include it in play, some more often than others and some more physically than others. I'm more than happy to apply a slight pressure to a a partners throat if that is what they're after, I derive pleasure from their pleasure after all. However, if someone wishes me to go harder, more full on asphyxiation? I'm going to need to learn more about how far is enough and the like.From what I've heard and read it can be an extreme high... It can also be extremely deadly if done incorrectly. As Safari mentioned I believe the appeal to many women is the implied dominance, quite often the hand upon the throat is desired when the sex is more of a lust fueled hard 'n' fast pound session. I think what some people fail to realise before they get into such play is the very real dangers involved and just what is involved.How I understand it is that breath play/asphyxiation isn't about actually choking someone (that can certainly be a part of it though), it's more about the restriction of oxygenated blood flow to the brain via pressure upon the carotid artery.The real danger here with an inexperienced partner is that once a firm grip/pressure is applied and the desired effects are taking place, it can be difficult for the receiving person to indicate that it's enough or gone too far as THEY may not realise that fact themselves. You'd want to trust the person you're with and reeeally want to experience that rush if you're willing to risk death for it. Personally on the receiving end?I don't mind the light/implied sensation of hands around my neck but I definitely shy away from anything more. Cheers to safe explorationRusty
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think its the feel of aggression or dominationat least that's what ladies have said.One of my subs loves me doing that to her justfirm not joking.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It better not affect my breathing. Not into breath play.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hand around the neck..... Best option would be to find out before you do it or like Freya79 said you would get a black eye at the least.
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Zsuza69
11 years ago
It's very different my husband and I often do this to each other and if a safe word or action is used then we stop. It can feel very powerful and euphoric. As part of breath play and domination it's great but you have to trust each other explicitly. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP porn is not what you use to learn about sex. That said I would say it excites you, or you would not have raised the question. For every kink there many kinksters that are into it. It is most definitely something that you should talk about in depth with someone of like mind. It is dangerous and should never be done without full understanding of the dangers. These type of kinks should not be done without someone experienced involved.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and if a guy tried it on this female, he'd be limping out of my bed holding his damaged balls...
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RHP User
11 years ago
The achilles heel to all guys😵... Would blame her though
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm a lover of a hand around my throat and don't mind a bit of breath play either. But in saying that I need you to do it from the front and not from behind, I need to be able to see your eyes.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Okay….so I never thought I'd be writing on a forum like this, or admitting to enjoy a bit of "hand on throat" action… but here I am…. ….It's all about trust !!!!! Sure the hand on your throat is a form of dominance and submissive role play, and yes it actually can be quite fun. It's all about being comfortable and trusting of the person you are with. The extent to which you take it will also depend solely on your level of comfort and trust….It can simply be a hand around the throat and not even any squeeze at all, or you can be more intense. What I find I like about it the most, is that I have found a partner whom I love dearly and I trust immensely. That no matter what you do or how extreme it is your safe and nothing will change that!
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RHP User
11 years ago
The hand(s) around the throat is part of the power exchange in a D/s relationship so if you are not into giving up control to another, this isn't going to be attractive to you. Some guys see it in porn and imitate without understanding what lies underneath the action which then also turns off the recipient. As IOS said, it is similar to grabbing the hair to exert control. Ideally, you are looking to either cup the hand just under the jaw, or envelope the throat with a slow squeeze. The Dom is not/should not be trying to asphyxiate the sub that way because it is too easy to cause damage to the throat structure, and there are better ways to do breath play. The Dom(me) is intimating his (or her) intention to go for an exposed, vital part of the body, the sub is showing their acceptance by allowing it to happen. And Lovinit, I wouldn't agree that you need to see the Dom(me)'s eyes when they do it, since D/s is/should be based on trust. Standing behind can also give better support for the sub's head and neck. And I know women who enjoy feeling my hand move across their breasts and up to around their throat as I stand behind them, whilst I whisper in their ear what I intend to do them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think ive lost instant posting. Yippee I'm cool kid lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
total turn on and some pressure please
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RHP User
11 years ago
SimpleNeeds I am not picking on you but you highlight something that I find detracts from sex and the BDSM domain. That is the formalization of the whole affair, rules, guarantees, requirements. and above all the annoying positions of authority (not you) that many who say they are BDSM push. Every time I have played with the formalize, almost official discipline crowd I have found it lacking to the point of boredom, on both sides, Dom and Sub. I enjoy that type of play but not with people that have a self proclaimed PHD as Dom, the "I think you have had enough." "You are not ready types.", or the submissive sub, use me as you will, do what ever you want to me,BTW here is a list of all the thing you can do, don't stray, follow it to the letter. The best BD fun I have had is with partners that I know well, are highly intelligent, risk takers, and know that spontaneity is the essence of good sex. The rules unspoken and based on trust, but the excitement and the true art is in the unknown, the surprise, the sudden role reversals, the real tinge of fear, the real feeling of power. The are no safe words, there is no need. That is the real game. I learnt that that type of play is not something to be done in front of even experienced Doms and Subs which was surprising, nothing more off putting than being told, that's not how you do it, you cant do that. Nor is it something I would do with just anyone. And I will not recommend it to anyone that I do not know. Too dangerous. That is in my view is what DBSM is really all about and it bares little to no resemblance to the sanitized pop cultured BDSM that seems to be so main stream these days. Just saying with a little yearning.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A fantasy of sorts of mine for a while. Not choking me, more of a control thing. I recently got to experience it...... As I went in for a kiss he grabbed me by neck and turned my head away and then kissed side of my neck.... Super hot 😝😏 I will say this though, you need that trust there for it to be enjoyable!
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Not a turn on. It was done on me recently and I did nto expect it. I felt threatened and kept pushing his hand aside. He tried a few times and it was getting tight, but I could think of it as sexy as it felt like will was going to choke me and hurt me. The following morning, I could see some bruising around my neck, imprint of his fingers. I suppose the trust was not there yet for me to let go. Nor am I into breathe play. A bit of hair pulling is ok but I hate it when it gets rough. I don't want to have sore bald patches on my head nor bruises all over me. Not exactly elements of haute couture I can flaunt in the conservative corporate world nor society I move in.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am sooo not a submissive woman 😝eek xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
But not so I can't breath just a nice firm dominant hand and when I'm about to come even better if he reads me right I will explode - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not everyone is submissive. That is why God made switches...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not exactly submissive either, my throat is just a major erogenous zone. Though I will add that only people I know well get to touch it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been asked a few times to squeeze/choke them in a controlled manner, and surprisingly as soon as I just lightly press my hand on their neck, they're already moaning differently. Must be like Meander said...a major erogenous zone for certain women. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
freak out when a man would do this to me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not my go.. I thought most would reply to the negative also. But interesting to see there's about a 50/50 response.. I can fully understand a woman rejecting a hand being put around their throat.. I would find that threatening to ' and you better have a real good reason for doing so before I'd - - - - - the living - - - - out you... But thats me.. seems others find it a turn on.. Everyone to their own...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being in the moment can conjure all types of pleasure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes oh god yes! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
11 years ago
But would really like to try it 😍 Hubby was playing with a gorgeous woman at a party and things were traveling ok, till she grabbed his throat. His body reacted perfectly and the he finished to their mutual satisfaction. I know he would like me to do it to him but I'm not sure what I'm doing, what if I kill him 😩 I'd be happy with breath play 😉 Mary xx
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'dickfullalove' I've been asked a few times to squeeze/choke them in a controlled manner, and surprisingly as soon as I just lightly press my hand on their neck, they're already moaning differently. Must be like Meander said...a major erogenous zone for certain women. - Posted from rhpmobile You sure they are not just gasping for air?
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I was around 18-20 I met a lady nearly double my age, among other firsts for me she use to love being choked I'd never thought about doing it until she asked if I would oblige.....first time was kind of uncertain but as time went on we got more comfortable with each other, ended being a massive turn on for us both. Each to thier own.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh I'm sure! Hence why they keep calling out to be choked. Can't let them down now haha 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I personally love it a bit rough. I firm hand is nice. ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Few years ago now :) I used a belt on a lover :) as I rested my hands on the mattress we placed a belt over her neck (not a lot o pressure) it seemed to add to her bigger O at that time. I never did ask her why ? Know I wonder lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know I hate it.major turn off for me...I had a lover who did it to me and I hit him and screamed...he was a little startled...So it's a big Nooo from me..But on the other hand ,bite me 😘xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do have a very sweet paddle..just ask Mado😘xxFreya
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madotara69
11 years ago
I'm all choked up, you are one of the special ones, the switch does not work, she can see in the dark, there is no place safe, you are on the lamb now, can't stay in one thread for long, keep moving about and watch out for Blindman, the hubby, he won't do you any favours, well he might if you do him one, its complicated. Happy new year Oh and inspirit, wrap your hands around this Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I pity the fool who tries to put you in a choke hold. Your fists of fury would be flying before he knew his ass was on the floor. Considering you punch the living crap out of grown men as a form of relaxation, I can assure you that your lovely throat is safe from my wandering hands. (quietly slinks away)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' SimpleNeeds I am not picking on you but you highlight something that I find detracts from sex and the BDSM domain. That is the formalization of the whole affair, rules, guarantees, requirements. and above all the annoying positions of authority (not you) that many who say they are BDSM push. Every time I have played with the formalize, almost official discipline crowd I have found it lacking to the point of boredom, on both sides, Dom and Sub. I enjoy that type of play but not with people that have a self proclaimed PHD as Dom, the "I think you have had enough." "You are not ready types.", or the submissive sub, use me as you will, do what ever you want to me,BTW here is a list of all the thing you can do, don't stray, follow it to the letter. The best BD fun I have had is with partners that I know well, are highly intelligent, risk takers, and know that spontaneity is the essence of good sex. The rules unspoken and based on trust, but the excitement and the true art is in the unknown, the surprise, the sudden role reversals, the real tinge of fear, the real feeling of power. The are no safe words, there is no need. That is the real game. I learnt that that type of play is not something to be done in front of even experienced Doms and Subs which was surprising, nothing more off putting than being told, that's not how you do it, you cant do that. Nor is it something I would do with just anyone. And I will not recommend it to anyone that I do not know. Too dangerous. That is in my view is what DBSM is really all about and it bares little to no resemblance to the sanitized pop cultured BDSM that seems to be so main stream these days. Just saying with a little yearning. Blindman, I understand where you are coming from, and I did not take anything you said personally. Firstly, I agree that there is the problem of the "One Twue Dom" syndrome, where you have self appointed referees of what is and is not BDSM. I prefer to see it as a broad church with many chapters, and as long as it work for you, I am not going to say thou art a heretic to be cast out of the dungeon. There is also no rulebook or club code that qualifies what is in and out of kink. We all like different things. We have different ways to get off. You sound more like a primal kind of guy whereas I actually like the structured play session because I enjoy the mental challenge of composing a session which will get my play partner into subspace. It is a lot like music. I may like Bach, you may prefer Mastodon. As long as it is not Taylor Swift, we can both hold our heads up high. On the other hand, many of the "rules" have evolved over time from experience of what does and does not work. So while I understand the excitement you have from no safety word, I would never do that simply because it takes away the final sanction of a sub. I have never had a sub use the safety word because I pay attention to how they react to the play, and I suspect from my reading of your work that you are the same - you simply don't need it because you are simpatico with the other person. But it is an important safety net where there is not that degree of familiarity. In the context of the OP, I was concerned by a conflation between the physical gesture of taking the sub around the throat, and breath play. There are too many risks from trying to turn this particular act into breath play, including damage to the larynx, blood clots from closing off arteries and cervical spine damage depending on the direction of the force. My concern is that the inexperienced see this action, not understand that it is actually a psychological gesture, not a physical one, and then take it too far because they are trying to ape what they see on the net. I have a similar concern about the proliferation of rope play and the lack of regard for the risk of nerve damage but that is for another thread. I also finally agree that the pop culture "BDSM" bears no resemblance to actual BDSM. I refer to my comments on the 50 Shades threads (if they haven't been deleted - who knows what survives the mods' razor these days). Although in my view, I find the true heart of BDSM is in the psychological rather than the physical, which is not necessarily the same as the play you describe, that is just me and I am never going to say it isn't valid for you,
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RHP User
11 years ago
..... alls well if its well received ..... but can be a party killer ... in the wrong hands ... maybe Ikea can write an instruction manual for each model ? ... then Im bound to get it right :/
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not a psychiatrist but normal Dom/Sub is all based on trust. Trust equals power exchange. When there is no trust, the sex is ordinary at best, but when there is trust or at least implied trust, the scope of operations expands. Of course there are going to be those at either end of the statistical bell curve (how sexy is that?) that really love it or really hate it, that is what makes life so wonderful. As long as you are comfortable with the person you are with, all will be great.Girls, remember the first time you had anal sex? Did you prepare for it beforehand, or did you just do it because he wanted you to? You wanted him to? all about control! Love your work!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
DO NOT go with some things... I have done a lot of stuff over the years... and, I can only say... "When SOME stuff happens.. it is A GOOD THING that I do not drink or take drugs"Blood play and Breat play are TWO of them... BUT.. Oh My!!! it CAN be fun
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RHP User
11 years ago
with someone I trust, just a hand - not choking. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
So long as it is not painful and I don't get dizzy, I like it. But only do it when I am lying still and on my back. I am so not submissive though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i think giving up control requires a tremendous amount of trust...knowing, that my boundaries will be respected...that my partner is extremely attentive to my needs and limits..and skillful enough to read my body and it's reactions... i love it with my man though...from behind, with his arm around my throat, while he is trusting in and out of me...i get to that point where i almost pass out..and have mind blowing orgasms as i come back...wow indeed !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely love being dominated like that and used forcefully to do things like deep throating etc - Posted from rhpmobile
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Monian
11 years ago
For a completely different perspective than the dom/sub/bdsm view of hands on throat: for those who believe in, think about, accept the possibility of hippy shit (TM), there is a chakra in the throat. Hands there can have all sorts of interesting consequences for energy flow, in both directions. But like most have said, it involves a lot of trust.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...but yes, I totally need to trust the person I am with. Which doesn't happen often, and not in a long while.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Depends on how it is done, I noticed if it is done in a playful, light way there is no scaring involved and you can gradually build up from there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
with hands bound behind my back, arm tightly around my neck and then entered from behind and fucked hard..........
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are several other Chakra's throught out our body we trust others with too. You can keep Chakra closed and protected..can you not? In saying that though.....it's all about experience. ♥♡♥ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a regular playmate who, by all accounts, has her orgasms significantly heightened when her breathing is restricted and controlled before climax. She also likes being restained during this play which makes her feel even more vulnerable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love it, nothing more thrilling than being choked
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love it!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just a hand, with no real pressure. Just the thought that it could be more firm, is a turn on in it self. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's a hell of a lot of people into this type of of thing from WA..... Just sayin'! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't explain why but it's such a kinky turn on, the feeling of being owned and made to do things beyond my control. I'm a Very submissive obeying Brazilian girl hehe. Hubby loves it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It can be a huge turn on. I would never let someone new choke me but my partner has and it really heightens the intensity and makes for a great orgasm. Like everything, has to be the right mood and time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...It can actually feel good, if done correctly. I will admit the first few times I was caught off guard. We never discussed it before trying it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never use the edge of your hand but start with yourpalm.Place it on the throat and while flat wrap fingersaround neck.This way you avoid bruising and you can be dominantor use breath play.Use the same method for doggy and missionary.First timers make sure you have a safe word so your partner knows there limit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We do it a lot and I love it. Hubby was the first one to do it on me and I have to say with him I have never felt threatened. I do cum really quickly when he does it now though, before he even starts squeezing. Just the expectation is enough.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Right.... yes, absolutely.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I did, I would ask. But I don't mind a man gripping my shoulders from behind, as he slams himself into me. Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes it's a turn on, must make me a sub I enjoy it a lot
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its a mild form of a sexual technique called erotic exphyxia or in laymans terms sexual satisfaction heightened by the felling of being choked producing heightened levels of adrenalin and extra hormonal activity a classic example bdsm technique not my sort of thing but some people get off on it but some people enjoy it I suggest you consult your partner before trying it nothing worse than a jab in the nads during a sex.
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173capri
11 years ago
Hmm yeah, a collar that can be squeezed and a firm hand guiding the head when deep throating; FUCK YES. as many people have already said, it's all about trust, you're not going to do it with a first timer. It's all about control and surrender once the trust is there, and yes it does highten the sexual tension, even for us guys.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Had a guy do it to me, total turn off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... would see anyone putting a hand on my throat, under any circumstances, ending up as a casualty within 5 seconds
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' And I know women who enjoy feeling my hand move across their breasts and up to around their throat as I stand behind them, whilst I whisper in their ear what I intend to do them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' I also finally agree that the pop culture "BDSM" bears no resemblance to actual BDSM. I refer to my comments on the 50 Shades threads (if they haven't been deleted - who knows what survives the mods' razor these days). Although in my view, I find the true heart of BDSM is in the psychological rather than the physical, which is not necessarily the same as the play you describe, that is just me and I am never going to say it isn't valid for you, I think you miss understand, what I was taking about it very psychological. It is not at all possible if the other person does not have keen, quick and imaginative mind. Inelegance is a must. I like to keep the mind and body as one. Thought starts and stops at the never endings, the movement and position of the body influence perception, mood, arousal, excitement and more. It is actually near an impossibility to separate the two, they are an integrated whole. The meaning of a word is different, if the body is sitting or standing, restrained or free. Saying something at precisely the same time as the body sends a conflicting sensation is a powerfully primer, there is more than one mind inside all of us, communicating with both at the same time can entrance someone receptive. It is a shame such people are so rare
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madotara69
11 years ago
A story was getting around about a fellow, from hearsay and gossip based from a girlfriend of his mentioning something, who knows what it actually was, but she did not see it quite like it lead too. The words had made it to him being accused of trying to strangle her to knock her off, He reckoned, "I wasn't trying to kill her, she just would not shut up" Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is actually a defense heard often in court rooms and really not very funny in my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'randypantz'Its a mild form of a sexual technique called erotic exphyxia Careful Randy, some women like to be choked, others just enjoy the feeling of a hand on their throat. Don't confuse the two!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've only experienced this with one person and I loved it every time he did it. We did things together that were new and completely out there for both us because of the huge trust we had in each other sexually. I think that trust was key to why I enjoyed it so much. Freya, Litonya & others who have said that you wouldn't let anyone do that to you, I understand. I sure as hell wouldn't let someone do it to me again, unless I found myself back in a similar situation where I felt comfortable enough to completely surrender and submit. And those relationships are few and far between in my experience. Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'KiwiBred' ... would see anyone putting a hand on my throat, under any circumstances, ending up as a casualty within 5 seconds You don't scare me.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love it but will only do it with a partner I know well and trust. I have stopped people doing it who just couldn't get it right but if someone does then I hope they do it every time 😏 - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' That is actually a defense heard often in court rooms and really not very funny in my opinion. These people are friends and I said she the victim (now) defended that rumour. Her version was that she was making such a racket in the throws of rooting, etc Many things are said in court rooms This was people enjoying some sexy banter and in this case, I don't think making some throat play a crime, is relevant to this topic or our friends, I have no choice to argue with you on this one meander, Sorry. If you would prefer it I will ask the mods to remove both these posts, if it were still viewed to be offensive to you or any others. Happily.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
It's physical and psychological. The assault on the body and senses send the mind into a spin especially when you find yourself "presenting" for more. I also understand the care that is required afterward as the rush (esp. in the case of the the sub) comes down. It can be quite an overwhelming experience. Can I also add that this is where I firmly believe couples have the advantage in this lifestyle because the successful couples "get" that reconnecting and reaffirming their bond after play is as essential to both as the trust they share in tending their relationship with mutual respect, love and care. Please note I am not talking about the couples who do it ONLY to please their partner and begrudge certain aspects BUT those couples (you guys know who y'are) who live and embrace the lifestyle acknowledging and embracing the primary relationship "fucking but also forsaking" all others. Singles in the scene don't enjoy this camaraderie and union ~ Indy, an observation
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Some singles have regular friends they only play with who meet that emotional care. And again my mysing was more on the dynamic that couples enjoy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That type of play only works with people that I know very well and see regularly. The level of trust each two people have varies from person to person but first encounters, though sometimes very good should not have to much expectation. This BDSM type of play is never something for a first encounter, it can not be any good. It is motion without connection and words without understanding. People that do not understand that miss out. Good sex requires practice with the individual, not over all sexual experience. Over inflated expectation on first encounters will only be disappointment. Sexual relationships have two way of developing, one in which there is no progress, or even worse the progress is down hill. For reason other than sex the two of you still find your selves engaging but the draw is friendship only, sex is mutual release, not really play. The other type is the escalating, and sometimes almost scary, build up. Each encounter is better that the last as the trust builds and the knowledge of each others needs and limits are discovered. You wonder how long that can build for, as it can go for years, each time is better, and the OMG moment when you both look back on the night that passed, the whole house a mess, and both drained and thoroughly content. What will the next encounter be like. We can only guess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will almost always spank a girl (just a gentle one at first to test the waters) and grab a handful of hair (especially in doggie) but usually save the hand on the throat until a bit more trust is built. Unless of course I'm asked/told to do it, then it's on like donkey kong!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Blindman & iOS, I agree those are perfectly valid for you. Personally I find the Primals too chaotic and prefer a more structured session. It always reminds me of Socrates' cave, looking at the shadow instead of searching for the fire. But you might well say the same of me. As I said, it is like comparing Bach and Mastodon. They both composed great music but the two can not play side by side. And I think we are ad idem that it works best when there is an established relationship, knowing what style each other likes and trust the other person will know what pleasures you. Going back to the OP, hands on throats only once you know they want it and trust you to take that control. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
The fact that with the right person the experience becomes passionate and primal is in my view part of the emotional bondage dynamic and trust. No offense my dear friend but I view your approach as clinically lackluster. I imagine sceneing like that with you would be rather stilted and hit n miss. Indy xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' Blindman & iOS, I agree those are perfectly valid for you. Personally I find the Primals too chaotic and prefer a more structured session. It always reminds me of Socrates' cave, looking at the shadow instead of searching for the fire. But you might well say the same of me. As I said, it is like comparing Bach and Mastodon. They both composed great music but the two can not play side by side. And I think we are ad idem that it works best when there is an established relationship, knowing what style each other likes and trust the other person will know what pleasures you. Going back to the OP, hands on throats only once you know they want it and trust you to take that control. - Posted from rhpmobile Propria persona. I do not consider what I am talking about as primal, (I had to look it up). You are classifying behavior without understanding the play. This is the trap of formalization and is subtle in its effect on the individual. It is the imagination that gives form to the shadow on the cave wall, care must be taken not to presume to much. I play without rules for reason of freedom, to not be bound by presumptions, not be fooled by shadows. Arguendo that it is those that formalism who observe the shadows, not I.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess we will never know, il mio amico. Although you frequently make me want to put my hands around your throat😬 - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I believe you already have....haha but who knows if you'll ever have the opportunity to correct past misdemeanors (insert evil woman here)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now I think you just threw down a challenge 😉xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
No argument from me, Blindman. From an existential perspective, even if you walk that way and quack that way, you are who you say you are. Although maybe one day you will come to accept your inner canard. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Turduckin. alsepio yumscrudisious I forth put.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting how you react. The words are just that words, metaphors, designed for other peoples minds. We speak to explore, to elicit a response. The answer to the questions come as silently as the real questions are heard. Thanks for engaging my quirky ways. I will back off. All good.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a romantic vision of keeping some ducks.A friend of a friend.a retired vicar..I kid you not..had some ducklings for sale.I went to visit him and he told me that the drake when mating almost drowns the duck,biting the back of her neck and shoving her head under the water..I declined the offer of the ducklings xx Freya
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madotara69
11 years ago
Were Tara's ducks when she was working on the river , 10 years she fed them some bread every day, I caught Doris around the neck choking with some fishing line one day, she carried on like a turkey flapping about until I got her free, she still has a ring around her neck. But once a year Bruce the mild mannered male gets all toey and comes in grabs Doris around the neck with his beak and as he drives his ducky into her she carries on so he pushes her head under the water and they carry on for a fair thrash, then he lets her go and she fucks off quick smart as he floats around quakeling. Then they swim together all close for another year.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can feel good or bad. A hand holding around the neck imitates control. Of course this requires trust, like the old 'fall backwards and being caught' thing. Then again most activities, and meeting up at all, require some level of trust. The neck is often a sensitive or erogenous zone, so other forms of touch there are normally encouraged (stroking, kissing, licking etc). Maybe some women don't find the hand around the neck to be a dominating move. I've never put my hand around the front, but I have had my hand around the side of the neck, but this is quite different. The thumb is at the front, perhaps can be moved to the lips or chin, while the rest of the hand cradles the head. This is less of a controlling move, and more intimate. During a massage you can also have the whole neck surrounded with both hands, but the angle and motions and intent are obviously different.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So..... I shall ask the obvious... which seems to be ignored. Do GUYS like a woman to apply pressure to his throat?!Because all responses so far seem to be on the application on a woman.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
to a couple of men. It's a natural thing for me to do so and they have both commented on it afterwards and how hot it was. Neither of them expected it and hadn't it done before.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your reply, Blindman67. I've been around the block enough times to know that porn isn't reality. Also, just to correct you assumption, no it wasn't that it excited me, quite the opposite, and that was why I asked. Cheers Quoting 'Blindman67' OP porn is not what you use to learn about sex. That said I would say it excites you, or you would not have raised the question. For every kink there many kinksters that are into it. It is most definitely something that you should talk about in depth with someone of like mind. It is dangerous and should never be done without full understanding of the dangers. These type of kinks should not be done without someone experienced involved.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'KiwiBred' ... would see anyone putting a hand on my throat, under any circumstances, ending up as a casualty within 5 seconds You don't scare me..... HaHaHa likewise ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hubby loves my hand around (well partly, little hands) his throat or a tug or a tightening of his collar. I find his reaction erotic If my hand is on his throat, then I will be facing him, I feel more in control both sexually and safety wise this way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The first time I experienced this was when I was a young 19-20 year old, my god it was hot, i loved it. I absolutely love being pinned down and fucked hard with a hand around my throat, though not just be anyone, that chemistry has to be amazing for me to go there.
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