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Is it normal for a guy to come in his own hand after sex with a woman?
March 03 2018
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FunGi69
8 years ago
Quoting 'Brunette_Dragon' I had been putting up with it because i'd developed feelings and we communicated a lot and did have chemistry. But it never seemed to translate in the bedroom for me and thats where the truth tends to play out. ''I had been putting up with it'' is a phrase that speaks volumes. In these sorts of situations there are almost always red flags, warning signs....signs that we choose to overlook for many reasons. I've done it myself in the past, often. I'm not going to comment on whether the cumming in the hand thing is normal because I don't think it's appropriate to do so without knowing more information. Same with him not giving oral. The getting straight up and logging into a dating site though, is incredibly disrespectful. As you say, it's a learning experience. When we feel in our gut that things aren't quite right, it's usually because they're not. Don't waste the time thinking about it... Definitely not the right guy for you , or many others for that matter, and I am sure you will have no problem finding someone that is more open honest and just plain fun...
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RHP User
8 years ago
our work is done here. Thank you everyone. I love you. x. LC.
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
I've heard many a tale of situations where a guy has made his profile more than he actually was. I've noticed in the last few years men are very very rude when it comes to things like this, most are just looking for a root and get their dick wet. Respect is completely lost these days, men seem to think since they have a dick a woman will want them. To go on his phone and plan his next "adventure" is just plain rude. I've never done that, I'm too nice to do something like that, but I'm more quality over quantity. When I organised group sessions fuck me the men were dickheads. I feel for you women I really do
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why does it seem most people find it weird he caught his cum?? And I wanna play devils advocate for a moment.... why is it not normal for a guy that in one moment, doesn’t give oral?? I’m sure many of you have a food you dislike, should you eat it anyway just the masses say they like it?? The dating site thing.... whilst handled badly, could also be that LC didn’t live up to his expectations either and felt bad...and yes handled badly I agree, but nonetheless not improbable, and without HIS side of the story, we won’t know where the third side of this story lie... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Or all over your face
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is nothing I like better
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RHP User
8 years ago
So wet with this rain
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like a complete wanker to me. What a completely inconsiderate asshole. You're better off without guys like that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
If we don't like a particular food ie maccas, we don't visit the restaurant, but move along to kfc or sometimes stay home and do the job ourselves. That choice is ours. I have no problem with a guy not giving oral pleasure, some women don't even like it, that's his choice, but he sure as hell better not come anywhere near me and the majority of women need oral to get to orgasm, I do. Please, men are selfish enough as it is sexually, most will do what they have to do only. Let's not encourage that?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' Why does it seem most people find it weird he caught his cum?? And I wanna play devils advocate for a moment.... why is it not normal for a guy that in one moment, doesn’t give oral?? I’m sure many of you have a food you dislike, should you eat it anyway just the masses say they like it?? The dating site thing.... whilst handled badly, could also be that LC didn’t live up to his expectations either and felt bad...and yes handled badly I agree, but nonetheless not improbable, and without HIS side of the story, we won’t know where the third side of this story lie... Re: people's comments about the cumming in the hand - it is pretty obvious that a lot of the responses on this thread should be taken with a grain of salt and they reflect, shall we say, an ulterior motive. You've been here for a long time, you know how it goes with topics like this and the men who view it as a chance for some self promotion. You're right that we don't know his side of the story but also note, the OP specifically asked him for his side and instead of offering an explanation he blocked her. That together with a couple of his other questionable actions suggest a pattern of behaviour that - regardless of his own reasons - shows a lot of disregard for others and will piss them off.(yes I did unfollow the thread like I said I would but couldn't resist peeking back in again )
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RHP User
8 years ago
didn't live up to his expectations, rubbish, that creep who did that to me was just not attractive, nothing sexy about him, no natural sex appeal and a really bad manner about it, I should have left. How can I put this. I was out of his league in many ways and I think he knew that, he knew from my responses I wasn't happy with the bedroom session, there was no hiding that, so jumping onto his phone I believe was a defensive thing to block out hearing my thoughts on it perhaps lol and the individual here sounds about the same quality. He was also a particular nationality that I find very distant, too into themselves, kind of vacant/somewhere else, when they talk to you, really bad lovers but like that in RL as well. I avoid avoid avoid but have been caught a few times (caucasian so hard to tell) and each is as bad as the one before. My guess is he is one of them. Regardless, and regardless of any of the points I've raised, there is no excuse for A. Not giving a woman pleasure and not WANTING to do that and B. Going on your phone straight after sex and ignoring your playdate. Are you fucking kidding me? His side of the story would make zero difference. I think the realisation had set in he was a crap lover, and rather than deal with that by being curious, wanting to learn why and improve, instead chose to move on to the next victim, taking his skills *cough* with him. You dodged a bullet LC. I don't think anyone can fully understand unless they've been in that situation. I definitely will be messaging you 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
It wasnt that. I got lovey dovey messages from this guy for months. Your sexy and i cant wait to hold you? A lot of effort went into keeping me on his string. He was a player. Simple as that. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry LC to disrupt. But Fucken hell Touch. Do you ever have anything nice to say about men?!?! Also that is a HUGE generalisation. "Most woman need oral to orgasm" FYI most woman are not like you and that would be a fact. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not all, and there are sooo many men who lie about giving pleasure. Yes I have plenty of good things to say about men and my encounters, read back through the archives. From memory, I was ridiculed for that too. Bragging I think it was 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
A quick Google tells me Touch is right that the majority of women come by oral. And twice as many women give head as get it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Would think all the wooing meant that he would follow through? No. He was like a boy still in the 9th grade of highschool when it came down to it. I think this thread is pretty much said and done. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don’t think there’s any real “normal” when it comes to sex but definitely rude and selfish as fuck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Inspirit, I just try not to get personal so I can't be accused of trolling, as well as wanting to have more than just my opinion to offer. You fired the first shot here. That orgasm is more likely for women by oral is something I've long known of. I know it's so for me. 🍑
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm glad you feel a sense of resolve. 🍑
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RHP User
8 years ago
You do involve yourself tho and bat for the......... . Tis ok I understand sisterhood. 😁😁😁 Sorry I chose to bat for the brotherhood. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah I don’t think he handled it well...not well at all to be honest... I think LC made a number of attempts too in order to get him out of his shell, and that’s remarkably admirable.... LoveChild... Was this your first meeting btw?? Or had you more than just this hang out?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Catching your come is a bit unusual. I was chatting to someone once who was seeing a married guy and he used to take the condom off after he came and would proceed to eat the whole thing! So your one step better than that I suppose. Marginally better. 😜 We assumed that he must have been destroying all incriminating evidence! As for not going down. Yeah I get what you mean. My takeaway from this story is don’t ever go away with someone if you don’t already know you are sexually compatible. Well, I would never do it anyway.
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tamworthguy46
8 years ago
Don't beat yourself up about that guy, any normal sexual person would would get their face straight down to your pussy on a fine lady like your self.Further more sometimes text chemistry translates to bedroom chemistry and sometimes it doesn't, I know if its not there the first time you play, or even the first kiss,it won't ever be there, I really don't think he was worth any second or or later chances to be truthful.and as far as getting on line while he is with you. Captain Fucktard ! NEXT
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RHP User
8 years ago
Its not uncommon alot of guys talk up a big game and it sometimes leads to dissapointment or the ones who just get up and expect you to do it ..next one who does that well enough said haha .I also hope you aren't still with him one word "selfish". Use the motto now you don't give you don't get 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
6 months. There were promises made but not kept and quite a few times in there where things would build up before a planned meet and then bam, he would cancel at the last minute saying he was sick. He always seemed to have an excuse though and the words to still keep me dangling after lieing to me. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Inspirit..we just thought you were being balanced..but touch keep yelling your barbaric yawp from the rooftops of the world...it may not be Whitman but its extremely entertaining x
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RHP User
8 years ago
How many times did you have sex in that time??? It may be rhetorical but I’m assuming due to the fuck around this was the first sexual encounter? - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Lovechild, you are responsible for your own happiness. For 6 months you persisted....because there was a good connection. But you put up with cancelled meetings, promises not lived up to, sex which did not include you receiving oral, a style of orgasm for him which you dont appear to like..... the list may need to be longer but I didn't go back and read all your posts again. So why did you allow yourself to continue in the "relationship" for six months? Words are words......and actions are a better indicator of true intentions and feelings. The consistent behaviours you have listed all speak to a bloke being allowed to get away with whatever he wanted. Do you think you enabled his behaviour by allowing it to continue? Why did you not exercise your option to call it off earlier? I don't want you to publicly answer the questions I pose. I'm just hoping they give you some insight into what makes you tick...and why you let this man dictate so much of the tone, activity and outcomes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I see people who engage in adult breastfeeding as weird, or wearing nappies as weird....not catching my own cum ... My ex wife hated cum being on her....at least that’s how I felt with her, it was just something I did to help ... it’s only really been in the last couple of years I’ve been errrr I guess more accepting of the fact that some actually enjoy wearing it or ingesting it.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Happened towards the end of that time. LC.
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gazpacho
8 years ago
I really can’t put up with strange people who rush to the tissue box, Anti. I’m thinking of writing it one one of my profiles... “yes, When I’m really horny, I get hot and sweaty. If you’re the type of person who doesn’t like that response in a man, then bugger off.” Or something like that. The exact wording needs work... but I’m going to soil the fucking sheets, there’s no point being a princess about it. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
8 years ago
Enough times to lose count. LC
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RHP User
8 years ago
Plenty of guys out there.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't thing Candy was referring to you at all. Reread my posts earlier. Foxy I even think you are being harsh. LC has come to the forums for closure on this encounter she had. I understand you going in to bat for perhaps the underdog, however look at the facts. The guy is just a player and LC trusted him. Perhaps a little innocently naive, tho we have all been there at some stage? LC. Sincerely best of luck and I do hope you find closure on this player. 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I noticed that there are 2 profiles out of however many calling a random guy a wanker or whatever for not going down on the OP. Assuming that it was his preference that stopped him(given that the exact details elude us all) from performing oral on the woman, why is it ok for you guys then to have a preference to not suck dick and not be called a weirdo or a wanker??" - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The other night where l was giving a blowie. I did not offer a place for his cum. Most occasions l would take the load but it was a first meet and wasn't totally feeling it, therefore not my preference to do so. As a total gentleman, not wanting to come on my face, hair, corset, bedding, carpet, curtains, he cum in his hand. I thought it was very considerate. I never thought it odd at all. Obviously the OP rates the experience in its entirety not just single parts of it and as such, her experiencing the whole package basis very disappointing and l totally accept that view. Breaking it down into sections it's not all bad. Only bits a little fucked up. Together, very fucked up though.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Wasn't following the thread but the overflow of crap was flowing over to another thread and so wanted to see who was saying what. Saw it before a little cleanup and now makes total sense....sort of
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pulling out and catching it his then throwing it at you is a way to improve ones aim. Never done it, don't want to. But you might of been a one night stand over three days
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why are you assuming that it was because he didn't go down on her. My comment had absolutely nothing to do with that. It was in regards to him finishing himself off into his hand.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not named and never will be. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Most of you will be glad to know that I have had a chance to speak to him and tell him my thoughts. As for this thread i was genuinely seeking to process what happened with you guys who know this stuff. LC.
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