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Married & attached men - what are you looking for?
November 19 2013
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I don't care who's fucking who, each to their own, but what happens when (and they do) the unsuspecting other half finds out, and it all goes to shit anyway. I personally don't want to be responsible for making someone feel like that, a broken heart is one of the most painful hurts, and finding out that your life was a lie and your partner has abused your trust can really fuck with someone's head....it's just my opinion, and why I don't do attached....
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
It's Play together, stay together......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Blahdiblah2' cynical me sums up most comments from the married men as.. I will always love my wife...she will always come first....how dare you suggest I just want a free hooker...I want passion ,and connection...however if you develop feelings for me..move on. Of course single women will jump at the chance to experience this,why would they not? I am gobsmacked...........REALLY! WOW!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very good question i am here for one reason only no sex at home call it as it is after my wife went through menopause some 8 yrs ago that was the end of our sex life and before all you women start shouting me down you are still sexually active women on this site so you can't really comment on it until it happens to you. It would have been easier to break up but when you consider all the things and memories you have built up together is it worth it NO i don't think so.The reason is i miss the physical connection the touching, caressing and intimacy and all the fun stuff which is missing at home.For me the detachment is easy i still love my wife and i am realistic in years to come i won't be able to get it as much up fact of life.And for the i've heard this before mob my wife knows i am here thats why i have a face pic on my public pics and only meet in the evenings work most days nothing to hide
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RHP User
12 years ago
i forgot very easy why women should meet me i don,t have to rush our meetings can take the time to enjoy our time together no last minute cancellations because the wife has arranged other things at home no sneaking around and for women who want keep there independence without any commitment i am probably the ideal scenario
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi, In my case, my wife has retired from sex and i have a problem that i place sex on top with health and happiness and am addicted.I am hoping that there are women in a similiar position.I need to hold and kiss and am lonely for a women's touch.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Blahdiblah2' why RHP and not professionals?...a friend of mine after his divorce spent $30,000 in one year . thats some serious coin right there.....fair enough. well, I guess it would be different if the married/attached guys are honest from the onset that way the single lady would know what they are getting into and to prepare for any drama in case the unsuspecting wife (if any) finds out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said Sir; ... and before all you women start shouting me down you are still sexually active women on this site so you can't really comment on it until it happens to you. I agree with the rest of your post too. It was said that us married men are looking for...um...paraphrasing here...just a hole to cum in. I feel that was a bit harsh, in my case anyway. I want a girlfriend to have some fun with...eat drink and be merry so as to set the mood before any way physical love ie a girl I actually like. I see in another thread that referring to women as girls is also offensive, I don't mean to be offensive I see boys and girls pretty much as interchangeable with men and women or even ladies and gentlemen. Some wag once said they're all girls until they're 90!
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RHP User
12 years ago
you say...''for me detachment is easy, I still love my wife''...this is precisely why most single women will not meet you.They are not judging you,you simply have nothing to offer that they can't get from an unattached man....and THE BITCH on your profile would suggest that I am correct.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
My mothers 80. Forgive the mental picture but she and Dad are still doing it (shudder!!) though she admits it's harder work nowadays. She was running 2 businesses that were 7-day operations 363 days/year when she went through menopause for about 8yrs!!! Yes HELL. She was still enjoying sex with Dad. (Lol glad she's not on RHP or I'd be in trouble for discussing her sex life!!). What were you doing while your wife was going through her change in life? What do you do now to remind her she's still a woman? Still beautiful? Still desired? Still YOUR woman? Yes I'm still a sexual woman and I intend to enjoy grinding a man into oblivion beneath me until the day they cart me away in a pine box! Don't blame menopause for your disinterest and/or loving ability to genuinely arouse the desire in your wife. She is not a part of the decor, she is a living, breathing, feeling human being. If you need to feel desired then I'm sure as hell certain she needs it too. Rant over. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' My mothers 80. Forgive the mental picture but she and Dad are still doing it (shudder!!) though she admits it's harder work nowadays. She was running 2 businesses that were 7-day operations 363 days/year when she went through menopause for about 8yrs!!! Yes HELL. She was still enjoying sex with Dad. (Lol glad she's not on RHP or I'd be in trouble for discussing her sex life!!). What were you doing while your wife was going through her change in life? What do you do now to remind her she's still a woman? Still beautiful? Still desired? Still YOUR woman? Yes I'm still a sexual woman and I intend to enjoy grinding a man into oblivion beneath me until the day they cart me away in a pine box! Don't blame menopause for your disinterest and/or loving ability to genuinely arouse the desire in your wife. She is not a part of the decor, she is a living, breathing, feeling human being. If you need to feel desired then I'm sure as hell certain she needs it too. Rant over. - Posted from rhpmobile God love em Indy... but faaaaaaaaaaaaaark..... can you post a warning before typing things like that?! Some of us are blessed, and on occasions like this... cursed..... with vivid imaginations!!! So true though...... behind every (straight) sexual woman.... is a man who inspires her sexuality and incites her to express it. DG
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Seriously been trying to erase THAT picture from my mind since. Honestly you've never seen someone do an "about face" quicker and vacate the premises without screaming hysterically!! Haha ok it wasn't that bad (shudder!!). And thanks I was thinking I'd be burned but Phoenix I think you have effectively neutered your wife.....and that's sad 😔. If she's truly happy being "sexless" so be it BUT on the upside maybe she's got some hawt 40yo lover tucked away somewhere and isn't disinterested just exhausted!! 😃
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RHP User
12 years ago
Probably the same thing as all the married women her are looking they are not happy with what they have and looking for a substitute its not rocket science sweetheart.
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m3bmw
12 years ago
Hmmm Were not married, and were here as a couple to play with, to experiment and for the mrs to gain some more experience as I was only her 3rd partner, and we think this could be a LOT of fun to share together. However, I have recently been told I can fulfil a fantasy I have had and sleep with a "milf", to get it out of my system for lack of a better term.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldenbiguy' This is a great question, and a great discussion. I am a married man, and agree with the comments made by Alius, but will go one step further. I am a bisexual male, and as such enjoy men and women. Throughout my life I have been involved in many different ways with different people, and have many loved ones in many varieties of life. I love my wife, and don't seek to change my situation, but am looking for a lover to enjoy sexually the things my wife doesn't enjoy. I keep this discreet and hidden to avoid upsetting her feelings, and know she has done the same for me in the past. I am a kinky sexual man, and love different varieties of pleasure than her, and wish to sate that desire with a lover/s. That said, I know that feelings will develop, but this is where it gets interesting. Sex without passion is exactly what the ladies of the evening offer, and not what interests me. I'm looking for a passionate, sexually adventurous lover, and was hoping a site like this would offer similar people chasing similar arrangements. I get endlessly annoyed at the judgemental character of many discussions on this website, and think it is fair to say everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but not to judge another person or their opinions. To clear the air about cake and eating it, how ridiculous is it to say you are looking for no strings lovers, as long as they are single, available and willing to take things further. I think this is the "ego boost" of our generation. So many people want to be in control, and I find that sexy, but you cannot have it all, either you can be no strings, and enjoy the attentions, affections and passions freely offered, or you can be honest with yourself and others and admit you are looking for a relationship in which you are in charge, and will take what you want, when you want it and with no responsibility, commitment or accountability for your own actions and there impact on others. This goes for men and women equally. So now I've had a rant, i'm seeking open healthy passionate people for sexually adventurous encounters. I am hoping to find someone with similar tastes to myself to become an ongoing lover, and satisfy each other in many ways. For the right person I offer sexual intimacy, passion, pleasure and exploration, along with the care and love one devotes to intimate friends. This will never replace my wife, or take precedence, as she always come first. If the lover I take finds this painful or difficult, then we can discuss and resolve at the time. I make it clear and up front from the beginning, and expect mutual respect and honesty of all people I meet, in relation to feelings as well as tastes etc. This means if you are struggling to cope with the emotions involved, talk about it and if they are still too much, have respect for each other and end it. Just my opinions and advice, but that's what I want, and how I see the world. xx well put! some of the points in this thread have been expressed extremely well others not so well :) maybe at the end of the day that old chestnut of "if you live in a glass house don't throw stones" applies best, every individual on here is just that an individual P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' while I understand your situation,you need to answer the question...why should a woman meet with you?...Your wife is your soul mate and best friend and will always come first.. most single women want to be more than second best...so what are you actually offering? ...a pre-bonk conversation, ground rules and an exit clause ....puhleese...I refer back to my free hooker comment....sounds like a business transaction to me Ben. Clearly we have nothing to offer those who seek more than NSA or FWB which is entirely the premise of the discussion IMO. We came here because as illogical and improbable as it seems there ARE many female profiles on this and other similar sites that profess to want just that. If it were true, attachment status should by definition be irrelevant ... if not irrelevant then a positive especially for those who are specifically wary of any attachment forming. In reality it is a business transaction of sorts (NSA sex for NSA sex) but it has important distinctions to a 'professional' solution. First and foremost the woman has to WANT to have sex with you which makes all the difference in the world. If we were on the forums at eHarmony or lavaLife or bumping into each other at the shopping centre etc.. any attempt to justify that we have something substantial to offer would be in vain but we are on RHP seeking the widely advertised yet entirely elusive NSA sexual interaction. So to answer your question ... a woman should want to meet with me if she finds herself strangely attracted and decides she would really enjoy some casual intimacy in my company ( I.e. for her own selfish enjoyment and satisfaction)
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RHP User
12 years ago
We open this question to all the married ladies out there also.....it seems that married/attached men are frequently vilified for this behavior but if it's a married woman we commend her for seeking what she is missing in her marriage. Just before there are any salvos fired in my direction I am single.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I think loads of women would jump at the chance time to be a substitute .... Not! Lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Problem is that a person's morals do come into at the end of the day. It's not impossible to find what you are looking for but you are probably going to find it with another attached woman. For me FWB also means more than just sex which I honk most people would agree. It means that you also go out and do things as friends. Can a married man offer that. Most of the time they can't.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The reason why I asked this question was that I has seen a number of married men make... Well almost bitter or very disappointed... Comments about women on RHP and their confusion as to why women did not want to go out with a married man. I am speaking about married men looking for a one on one lover or jut some sex on the side, not married guys playing here as a couple. What they can offer is quite clear cut. So, I thought if married men could tell us what they had to offer a single woman.... In my mind not one married guy has spoken about what they can offer.... It's all about them. Their needs, their wants, and they seem to have no real regard for what women might want. I wonder if the same men had a daughter who came to them asking for advice, that they had met a wonderful married man with kids who loves his wife and has no intention of ever leaving her, but they have real chemistry and the sex is great and she wants to be his lover. What advice would these men give their daughters? Go for it???
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RHP User
12 years ago
And having been the FB, FWB's and Lover of married men in recent years. I can ABSOLUTELY say I wouldn't want my single daughter to play with married men. At best it would mean she was looking for shallow fulfillment by way of casual sex at worst it would mean she's emotionally involved with a man who can't give her what she deserves. Either way, it's not what I want for my daughter. I'm not saying married men have nothing to offer, they are usually attentive, grateful lovers ........beautiful men who want their needs met just like the rest of us. From experience it worked beautifully for me when I was married, when my situation changed and I became single, so too did my needs and expectations, at that point a married man was no longer able to meets needs. The smart thing to do would have been to stop playing with married men...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ah. NSA encounters turning into ongoing encounters where feelings develop? Oh that fine line we all walk in life. Another variable that makes life less boring and the future hard to predict. Just sayin....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Freya if you read both the question from meeka and my comments in context rather than just take the bits you want to read it paints a totally different pictureAnd as far as THE BITCH GOES i think most would agree with me given the number of threads about people not relying to messages and not showing for meetings NOW THE BITCH i have been on this site for quiet a while now if you arn't interested just say so like a lot of others we are getting tired of the players and the bullshit and the noreplys this applies to the guys just as much as the girls it costs nothing to reply with a no thanks
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was I being too harsh? I don't mean to be unsympathetic. One thing that I have picked up from some of the men's comments on this thread is that they wouldn't be happy with just NSA sex or a fuck buddy either. One man goes on to say that he wants a girlfriend. Well.... You need to pick very independent women who are very settled and happy with the status quo. Truth is that it's too easy to fall in love with your long term lovers, and I think a lot of people can't seem to handle that. It makes things very complicated and it can potentially ruin families, kids and marriages.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So all women who don't reply are BITCHES. I think that is really harsh. I probably wouldn't reply To someone who has that in his profile. If you want to call me a bitch, happy for that, prefer it to the condescending sweetheart. Just saying. :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Actually I should amend my comment some men have mentioned that they can/want more than just sex. They want to go on dates as well. So they can offer friendship and companionship.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Part of me thinks, don't be so bloody greedy! You have the wife, the family, the companionship, children.... And I don't have any of that. So stop being so greedy and work out your relationship. Or how about letting your wife go so the both of you can actually go and met new people who you are sexually attracted too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Friendship and "dates" are always the pre-cursor to great sex but whether that persons ability to do these things is inhibited because they are "attached" or not is not a generalisation i would want to make.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'paint_me' now I will bake my own cake and eat it too. I'm proud. Could I have a slice pretty please
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RHP User
12 years ago
Legally I am Married (Separated... funny story not to be committed in writing... I made a promise). Realistically I am Single so I may not have a useful answer to the questions posed. . . however I will put something down because my drinking buddy piked out on tonight's session (work? likely story... he's probably getting laid) and I have nothing better to do. When I first joined RHP I was a happily married man and joined to make friends with like interests and because I loved the forums.There was never any clandestine meetups or shady parking lot sessions behind my wife's back. She knew I was on this site and spent a lot of time reading the forums with me (along with some of the stories and perved on the pics). Now that I am separated I am looking for a FWB to share normal fun with and on occasion some extra curricular activities when the mood takes her. As for something more, I will entertain this but until I am officially divorced (damn that year and a day) I can't and won't go the full 100% commitment to someone... not because I feel guilty for the ex-wife, my new partner or myself but because I have a legal commitment to someone else which I must honour which could burden a full relationship with someone unnecessarily. (this is part of the reason I'm not on a mainstream dating site) When I do find a FWB (or someone more) I will restrict my playing to whatever she agrees to because that is what I consider fair to us. Everyone's 'moral compass' is their own guide and they can only but follow it as they see fit. I will never judge someone for their decision to play because I can never know the full details of why they are here... to know the full details requires you to live the experience from both sides of the story which is impossible. Ramble ends :) SG
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RHP User
12 years ago
not out of context at all ..and my point is that married men may have something to offer attached women but almost nothing to offer single women...you clearly state your position but feel aggrieved that women aren't buying what little you have to offer....the crumbs rather than the whole cake....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Please correct me. Men are on here for sex only???? Women are on here for a relationship???? Is this what I hear??? Hmmmm. So the start to join for all of us was..... to find a sex partner, and having sexual fun???? correct? .....then we women changed it? hmmm And now we want to find a partner......I dont get it. I really dont.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I probably have worded it wrongly NOW THE BITCH will be reworded to MY WHINGE or something along those lines i didn't realize it could be interpreted as a derogatory comment to woman who don't reply.It just goes to show how we move in very different circles just a couple of examples, In construction industry a BITCH or snag list refers to a list of defectsOr Having a BITCH about something to whinge or complain As you can see neither refers to the female gender Its amazing how one word can be interpreted from very nasty and spiteful to something without any impact or meaning
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RHP User
12 years ago
Obviously everyone is different so I can only answer for myself but RHP is a huge turn on for me, I think there becomes a point where looking at porn doesn't cut it and the real contact with a woman on here is such a turn on. I don't intend meeting up with women but have enjoyed some really good conversations that have turned me on and made me feel wanted and attractive. I personally have very little to offer a single lady but one of my conversations was with a woman that was going through a break up and she was very grateful for our chat and the advice I offered. I have been honest from the start with my profile and maybe it's wrong of me to use RHP the way I do but it doesn't say you can't use it to masturbate lol To give my opinion for married men that are looking for sex, I think sometimes a man that is attached doesn't give off the same aura as a single guy, attached men seem more relaxed (this may be more true for general situations and not a adult dating website) and I think that layed back attitude attracts a women rather than a desparate single guy looking to pull. I guess everyone's different and some married men will offer more than others but I think everyone should be given the opportunity to explain there circumstances and you never know some married women might just be shocked at what a married man has to offer. Great post though Meeka :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
No, I don't think you are being harsh. In fact I think you've hit the nail on the head. It is hard not to fall for long term lovers .......in fact I think it's unrealistic to expect not to. Those lovers that are a constant in your life, that you enjoy time with, both in and out of bed, that you share intimacies with, conversation and revealing yourself to, the connection develops over time. ...... Those are the first stages of connection and love. That's human nature. Both parties have to be prepared to prevent that and walk away if that happens. I know so many people who have started with great intentions and still eventually ended up in a messy and unsatisfying situation. I'd love to see the numbers on here who would answer the question honestly ......"have you ever been in love with a married lover?" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a give me the whole cake kinda girl! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shame on you. Who said all women here just want to get fucked?? A wham bam ... Nope not for me. The sex is too boring!!! I would rather masturbate. Besides some women want FWB .... Which means different things to different people but quite often means doing more than just bonking. Still can mean NSA.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But nobody can explain to me how do you know when you are in love? What does it mean? The thing I struggle with, can you be in love with someone but not want them all to yourself or be happy with not seeing them every day? But yes, I love my married lover. And I hope he never comes back to RHP and reads stuff I have been saying. LMFAO!!!! ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Having two pieces of cake and honestly wanting him to have the bigger one. ' '
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madotara69
12 years ago
From a man in love with everything his wife has, to being treated to the wonderful being, simply a woman. Ok, so I am really the simple one and admit to the comfort with knowing and actually feel, most confidant and so very proud, to give and enjoy, her being the intelligent and when needed most often than not, trust in her logical manner has pretty much made a life in love, very easy. Though never have I relaxed to not be the man and friend, the part for Tara being the greater matter, an constant belief for some thankful advice, that was offered and with enough passion and confidence, to be felt and many a thought as being the part of my future as it very much needed to be one with, the love being the most and best value for anything that would happen around, and nothing between, and for the better part of time to the later memories for when it had passed us. That being Said, I would like to share a thought to this defence, though for my own set of values, see it more to the needs as some kind of excuse, be it me I would accept and with no confidence than a failed man and not to proud as otherwise. When we look at the woman and how she is beautiful and I believe that she is the very most Marvell and top of the the creation as to the design for being the single most privilege,given that we all take as and with for, and to the gift with being also our Mother. So when the time comes for that change in life, being the end of something with so much meaning. Personally I find it not only embarrassed to the feelings, though more just a cheap shot at not being the one who values a lady to much for the truth of what is what and sadly why. Menopause is a time that I will and we have started early to better understand and make the time that it decides we should give it as a celebration to honour the reasons for what it meant to the first part of our life, then to give the time it's course to bring celebration for the more settled and both, we can feel that we have earned some more closely and somewhat private times, to have at our will sex any time of the day, no effects to the cautions for children being the downer excitement of needing to be a responsible thing, though we were very good at it bar a couple of times, where as it happens, passion had the better of us, and we were pretty lucky that actually ended as more a blessing in disguise. This is only my thoughts to the other side of why I am going to remain the one who is responsible to see it as a fault only to myself at any chance of letting Tara, become anything less than what she has and does rightly, hold the honour for being at no part of any perceptions at fault. It just has to and always should be only for what ever the reason, failure at the expense for a man to bare. Be he strong when the truths hurt, and stronger to accept the chance for fair. As it is a pretty poor excuse to take away the one last time again she is so well travelled for what is seen and taken so lightly to the differences, with life bearing matters that make us blokes the cruising with simplicity of only bearing a sore thumb now and then, more to the focus that someone else may see us cry, so we try not to in front of others and think we are the ones who are tough. I am in love, sorry I would be tossing and turning over this one for some time if i did not show my respect to Tara ,and for the promises and oaths we have no choice, to see the respect is what guides us to most ends to any means. Being the lady treated for what is so special to us, and always should be given the last words at least, as never being wrong, for being so much the part of everything that is right to this life she gave us. Sorry Meeka, It will become much easier to put favour with your thoughts to the simple, but not intention with lack of care, just simple minded to the challenges for thinking with any concentration, being mainly focused at one thought being kept long enough for it to be seen as, favoured with rewards and the hint of getting lucky, Our simpler thoughts we being, need to have only the logic for better having the nice feelings that we just don't know how to express the love for women to be reckoned with for logic being one and the better understanding for putting words, especially big ones that can be easier done by giving the best root we can when we are feeling like we have and will be seen as a King for a moment. Mado Mado Taraxx Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have got to day this... I often just don't understand what you are trying to say?? A woman doesn't die just because she goes through menopause.... And I don't believe all women's sex drive just dries up. And if it does there are things you can do about it. You can still enjoy the physical closeness with your partner even if you don't feel as horny as you once did. yada yada yada... As with everything there are things you can do about it. If you want to that is, if you have respect for your partner that is....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now I know I am single, and I haven't been married 20 years, and I haven't gone through menopause but sex is more that just..... I have a sloppy wide on so let's get it on. What happened to giving your partner enjoyment, giving your partner the intimacy he needs, what about just enjoying the physical closeness?? A woman that says go out and find someone else because I am not interested.... The couple are just like flat mates, they are not a real couple anymore??? Just annoys me when I see the menopause card through down as a valid reason to allow the intimacy to dry up. Am I just being unreasonable??
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RHP User
12 years ago
It annoys me when I see men throw down the 'She's not interested after having kids' and 'she's going through menopause' cards when they are too lazy to help their wives adjust to their new bodies and libidos. It annoys me that some women in some marriages are then made to feel inadequate and thus the spiral accelerates downward. Apologies for my off topic comment but the blood was pouring from my tongue. On topic though (sort of), I've been with a married guy when I was young and dumb. Feelings developed, I got burned. I also met a married guy for a coffee once. I just couldn't deal with the secrecy and the "I'm coming through town tonight. Want to meet up?" *rolls eyes* Whatever! I met another attached guy (open relationship) but I'm not a fan of someone having 'rules' when we meet. So, I reckon I've tried a few combinations and married/attached guys just don't do it for me when single men aren't so limited.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'not out of context at all ..and my point is that married men may have something to offer attached women but almost nothing to offer single women...you clearly state your position but feel aggrieved that women aren't buying what little you have to offer....the crumbs rather than the whole cake.... Exactly. I am married and also have a boyfriend I absolutely adore. We want a 3rd party to play with us and ideally he is married so he understands that discretion is the key. When I was single, I didn't want married guys because if I wanted more than a F buddy there was no chance.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very valid point. Hadn't thought of it like that.
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madotara69
12 years ago
I have reread that post and can see why you have taken it as a mess for trying to put some feelings in a way to be felt and it is easy for me to say that I have trouble at times trying to find the way to say something that I don't know how to say it. What I was trying to say, is that Tara means to me, exactly the opposite of your interpretation, because I see it as you do, only what you have thought as me, is what I meant to what not to be. And at the least I can thank you for seeing it the way I do, and it feels pretty bad to even be thought to, as what you thought I was. So I am trying to be on topic about why I don't believe that married men should blame their wife for something like menopause to be a reason, that I do not believe is a respectable way to treat a lady, and I look to Tara and can not come to any way of thinking that no matter what comes to us, we will be doing it together, and do not think sex is something that I would need, more than for when Tara might go through time for it to be something she is not comfortable with, I can still love her for being the woman who I enjoy most just being with, Sorry that you would think that I had any thoughts to sex and the old and dying thing. We actually were talking about the menopause as being something that doesn't seem to be as bad it may have been put, and the main thing is that we are already talking and for what it is worth, we are keeping the idea of always keeping in touch with why twenty years has been good to us for it. I will no doubt write sometimes to what is not so easy, compared to living it. It is worth being said if I believe in it And Meeka yes it was a fuck up and don't mind if you remind me to go back and see that I can not even make any sense that a bottle of wine saw as pure poetry and was to be the best explanation for your question for why I am in love.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Having gone through menopause at 39 I can honestly say that it does affect your sex life. Some women have little to no symptoms, I was one of the unfortunate ones who had full blown symptoms . Zero sex drive. Dryness to the point that I had severe pain at times like a burning. Weight gain. Chronic fatigue. Just performing necessary daily duties was a challenge. Not depressed , not sad....just Flat. Hot flushes up to 12 times a day especially at night, waking in a pool of sweat. Yes there are things that can be done. I held off for 5 years before I tried HRT as they often put you at greater risk of breast cancer and cause weight gain and I already had major problems with weight gain! Now though the treatments don't have those horrible side affects and since finally giving in to taking HRT I wish I had done it earlier!! I feel like a teenager again!! And act like one lol! Yes my husband at the time turned elsewhere for sex but he was doing that well before I went through menopause so I discovered. But had he been faithful through the rest of the marriage I don't think I could have blamed him for looking elsewhere once I went through menopause. It completely changed me ,I was like a different person It was hard for me , I should have been at the prime of my sexual life and instead I felt like it was all over. No one can know how horrible it can be until you go through it, but like I said I was one of the unlucky ones.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I'm hoping I skip it....like I did morning period pain, morning sickness, swollen ankles and headaches....just sayin'. And Phoenix I still reckon your wife has a hot 40-something taking care of her "needs" since you don't seem interested. 😈
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RHP User
12 years ago
I heard the Mirena IUD can help with menopause... As in for some women they wouldn't even know they have gone through it... No real symptoms that is. The sweats, mood swings, depression, etc. You should ask your gyno or doctor about it. :D
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On_Safari
12 years ago
....when the time comes.... xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was mentioned on why don't guys just put a bit more effort into their partners during menopause or xyz for whatever problem is causing a lack of intimacy. If I have learned a couple of things from this site its a) things are not black and white and there plenty of shades of grey as to why intimacy breaks down. Sometimes its the guys fault, sometimes the womens, sometimes both or sometimes nobodys fault but just circumstances (eg Jay Jay). Or if a woman has clocked off in a relationship, which happened with me, its a case of only one side wanting to put the effort in to change it no matter how hard you try and then you are only left with deciding on a bunch of options based on your own moral compass. b) Not everyone is looking for the same thing. You asked what has a guy got to offer ?? While I fully respect that is not what you are looking for Meeks (and is not for me either) ... well isn't it exactly the same as what a female would be offering in the same situation of a sexless marriage and having male partners? c) Miss-matched libido, as much as people in the vanilla world say that you don't choose a partner based on sexual comparability, I say this is total crap, as miss-matches are a huge, huge cause of failed relationships. If people just admit that great sex and often is important to them they should just say so and not be judged on wanting a partner with the same high (or low if that applies) sex drive. W.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Stop talking sense. 3 very valid points, go to the naughty corner now. Meeka will join you shortly... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Stop talking sense. 3 very valid points, go to the naughty corner now. Meeka will join you shortly... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... Trudges off to the naughty corner .... Do I get to be spanked as well ???
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RHP User
12 years ago
They don't call it the naughty corner for nothing... 😈😈😈 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Just to add , While I am sure there are guys that use it as a convenient excuse to be a "player" again . Don't tar everyone with the same brush so to speak. I know only too well how frustrating mismatched libidos can affect a wonderful relationship . While many may have similar stories to tell , no 2 are exactly the same . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My question should have been what can you offer a single woman. Of course married women who are looking for sex outside their marriage are looking for the same thing. As to different libidos, Etc I can sympathise. I understand why people look outside their marriage. But what is your point? Just because I sympathise and understand them... Doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. Does it? So again, why should a single woman risk going out with a married man? There is no benefit for her really.
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RHP User
12 years ago
By the way my comment about menopause was directed at the women.... Just because you are going through menopause and don't feel as horny should've mean that you don't have sexual relations with your husband. Of course more serious issues such as depression, etc are another thing. Of course, I don't really know what it's like so I will read Freya's thread with interest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Should've should have read shouldn't
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' My question should have been what can you offer a single woman. Of course married women who are looking for sex outside their marriage are looking for the same thing. As to different libidos, Etc I can sympathise. I understand why people look outside their marriage. But what is your point? Just because I sympathise and understand them... Doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. Does it? So again, why should a single woman risk going out with a married man? There is no benefit for her really. Meeks, Maybe I just don't get it and missing something..... with some of the comments that were make by yourself and others in the 'Using men for sex' thread but you are then asking what are men able to offer women emotionally ~scratches head~. Some people like FB's arrangements while some don't, that's totally okay either way if its not for you as you mentioned. Everyone is seeking different things from RHP land. I am sure there are single women who are happy for this arrangement as there are single men who are happy for an arrangement with an attached female FB. Cheers, W.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are a hell of a lot of women that don't like the wham bam FB arrangement. They like to mix it up... Maybe occasional go out for a meal or a movie, etc. This is the main difference, for me anyway. If married guy can only offer sex, and absolutely nothing more..... As in hanging out, going to dinner, going to sex clubs, etc.... Then there would there would be a lot of women who would get bored with that. And married men are notorious or cancelling at the last minute as well. I think people are assuming that women want more emotion, when often we are saying we want more fun!!! Makes sense to me anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was a little tongue in cheek. Yes I have done it the past but it gets pretty boring after awhile, or it's just a way off getting some human contact. It isn't the ideal situation and the sex often isn't the best sex. It all depends on the circumstances. But again.... So wha Arraps, I have all these single guys available.... So you know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So I conclude that if you don't have a moral or ethical issue about seeing a married guy and you are only after discreet sex and not much more and you don't mind the restrictions to your play times. Sure a married guy is okay. Otherwise, the married guy can't offer what a lot of women would like in their lovers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it possible that some married men just want to experience something different all be it a difficult moral & ethical position depending on where you sit. Married life can be fabulous , settled, kids, the whole product of years of give & take & love and effort. But , what if the man develops in a way that from time to time desire causes a need for just the casual sex you mention. Is this bad? a fleeting meeting now and then between two people who know exactly what they are doing and why? The biggest danger is feelings developing like you note. I'm considering it, as horny as hell for some reason most of the time, a bit frustrated in an other wise perfect world for me…..thats why I came to look at RHP.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' So I conclude that if you don't have a moral or ethical issue about seeing a married guy and you are only after discreet sex and not much more and you don't mind the restrictions to your play times. Sure a married guy is okay. Otherwise, the married guy can't offer what a lot of women would like in their lovers. Where'd that foot'n'mouth smiley go?
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RHP User
12 years ago
because there are many woman doing the same
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RHP User
12 years ago
all I can say is...don't judge, just accept, then there is not hate, no jealousy, no greed....a much better world... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi, I love my wife ,but I also love the thrill and excitement whic you receive when flirting, touching or ultimately having sex with another woman. Such a thrill, although have only just come back to RHP, I go through stages, possibly the weather :) My wife is young but I have a real passion for mature woman....... Always have. Such an amazing thrill for me!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I definitely judge people poorly who cheat and lie to their partners just because they like the thrill of the chase or they just get a thrill from being promiscuous or get off on the sneaking around. 👎
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RHP User
12 years ago
Each to their own I guess, but I am mainly here because I like helping my wife to find the men she likes to play with...It turns me on to hear about her adventures afterwards and it seems to make her happy too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
how dare I say what I say. I am not living in fantasy land or in a movie. 99.9% of males who join this side have no relationship in mind. 99.9% of women who join first, say the same, then it changes and many, many make men feel guilty, sorry Meeka thats what I read and understand. I am happy you correct me, I am always happy to learn more. I am not saying it should be cold hard sex, I am not into this myself, however I dont kid myself to find a partner on here....would be wonderful to do so, still I dont believe it. So what is my alternative hate them all this bastards who pretend and tell me all I want to hear to get into my pussy....but do they really, really say anything I dont deep down want to hear??? many women sit on a high horse, and yes they can, because men chase pussy and we women know it. Pussy rules most men, they cant help nature , and again we women know that very well. I am judging no one, no one at all, or say I try my hardest not to. But I am living in reality and not in a dream world. Kind regards Litonya
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I definitely judge people poorly who cheat and lie to their partners just because they like the thrill of the chase or they just get a thrill from being promiscuous or get off on the sneaking around. 👎 Particularly if they are also crass enough to link it to the weather...
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RHP User
12 years ago
We don't realise the hurt that we cause by lying to our partners... until the wheel turns.And even then, some just will never get it... and a select few don't care... Hp xoBecause you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I originally joined RHP to find some male friends as all my friends had married and started families and I never saw them anymore. I have made one particularly close male friend and some female friends too which is a bonus. Plus I have been totally corrupted on the way, but I guess I was a more than willing participant. The relationships I have formed were unexpected. I include close friends with benefits as people I have a relationship with. :) All my points where trying to show the other side of the coin and to try and explain why single women don't want to go out with married men regardless of where they meet them. Just a different perspective than the usual thing that a lot of people have an moral or ethical issue with going out with married people, particularly when the the wife/husband doesn't know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There was no mention of single women in the OP, there are single women, who have always been single, the there are the divorcees, separated and widows. They're all "single" but not the same. Why do I think a woman should even meet with me?In this instance I've been chatting with a woman who may (or may not) want to meet with me. If she does want to meet it will be because she's been separated for seven years and wants a man in her life...but on her own terms. Her Ex has the kids every second weekend and that's when she wants a man in her life, and only then! She finds that most single men are not keen on that kind of arrangement, so if she wants to meet me then that'll be why. If she doesn't to meet me then it's ME she doesn't want to meet...and not a married man she doesn't want to meet.Wish me luck, I'd like a part time girl friend such as her. I'd also like to STOP looking it takes too much of my precious time
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On_Safari
12 years ago
1. How do all you married men "feel" about the single women you meet? 2. Are they simply objects to slake your lust on and then equally easily disposed of, replaced and forgotten? 3. If they become more regular playmates do any of you grow to care/respect the ladies you're with as more than just "fuck fodder"? 4. Do any of you offer intimacy with connection and friendship? 5. And why is it so many of you say what you think you have to to get into a girls pants, lying, manipulative; do any of you realise/care you are playing with flesh and blood people who do think and feel? 6. Or is it just too easy to have that revolving door whereby you can feel self satisfied and offer a "don't let the door hit you on your way out" kind of fleeting generosity? I've been with quite a few married men in long-term arrangements where I haven't had to sneak around looking guilty(whilst I too was narried for a time I might add) and quite frankly have been treated beautifully. Those men are a minority when it comes to the number of "sleazy cheaters" out there. And overall that Married Gentlemen of the Pie is simply an unfortunate fact ~ If you are lacking at home...try and resolve it...I do wish most of you well and your wives & children a beautiful Christmas. ✯ *./ * \ .* .*♫*. , • '*♥* ' • , '*• ♫♫♫•*' ' *, • ' ♫ ' • ,* ' ' * • ♫ *♥* ♫• * ' * , • Merry' • , * ' * ' •♫♫*♥*♫♫ • ' * ' ' ' • Christmas . • ' ' ' ' ' • ♫♫♫*♥*♫♫♫• * ' ' .x♥x ♥
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seems to be a lot of direction from her/ it :). have you lots of letters after your true identity Meeka? just asking, are you a mod on this site?
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Your arrogance is a touch offensive toward the lady in question as she is for the most part a woman of true and genuine character with a giving and sharing nature. As an open forum everyone here is entitled to an opinion and to share their experiences and ideals. Whether or not the lady in question still searches for her innermost self or not is a moot point and one would think THAT it would be far sadder for any individual to actually believe their journey of self-discovery is at an end. I believe everyone continues to evolve and grow until death, unless you are the married fuckwit that sent this to me this morning: "hi, very horny this morning, add me to skype or gmail. Tease me and watch me jerk off!!" Yup another quality MARRIED MAN......mind you this kind of shit comes from single blokes too. And cwhereitgoes you can stand behind a strong woman just don't bitch at her for having an opinion and standing her ground. I'm sure your wife would agree. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
You don't have a wife either.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can't even be bothered trying to figure out why he has his panties in a knot. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
Never been called an IT before. How rude.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Meeka, he was referring to strappy ? Mmmm, that would probably be rude too 😄 hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... Apply within.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' 1. How do all you married men "feel" about the single women you meet? 2. Are they simply objects to slake your lust on and then equally easily disposed of, replaced and forgotten? 3. If they become more regular playmates do any of you grow to care/respect the ladies you're with as more than just "fuck fodder"? 4. Do any of you offer intimacy with connection and friendship? 5. And why is it so many of you say what you think you have to to get into a girls pants, lying, manipulative; do any of you realise/care you are playing with flesh and blood people who do think and feel? 6. Or is it just too easy to have that revolving door whereby you can feel self satisfied and offer a "don't let the door hit you on your way out" kind of fleeting generosity? I've been with quite a few married men in long-term arrangements where I haven't had to sneak around looking guilty(whilst I too was narried for a time I might add) and quite frankly have been treated beautifully. Those men are a minority when it comes to the number of "sleazy cheaters" out there. And overall that Married Gentlemen of the Pie is simply an unfortunate fact ~ If you are lacking at home...try and resolve it...I do wish most of you well and your wives & children a beautiful Christmas. ✯ *./ * \ .* .*♫*. , • '*♥* ' • , '*• ♫♫♫•*' ' *, • ' ♫ ' • ,* ' ' * • ♫ *♥* ♫• * ' * , • Merry' • , * ' * ' •♫♫*♥*♫♫ • ' * ' ' ' • Christmas . • ' ' ' ' ' • ♫♫♫*♥*♫♫♫• * ' ' .x♥x ♥ 1 I have only had cyber meetings with single women, I feel nervous approaching them and make it clear I am married by asking them if they would go with a married man. I also feel I shouldn't be trying to have anything to do with truly single women who are most likely looking for some form of committed relationship.One single girl, no kids, no ex, did "joke" about falling in love with me. She's a lovely girl but I'm unable to get close to her now.2 No they are not merely objects they are personalities who run hot and cold, as we do, but as it's ever happened I can't say any more.3 Again this hypothetical but getting physically intimate is about as personal as you can get, I'd not be human if I didn't develop some feelings. Being able to control or handle those feelings is another matter. If I wanted fuck fodder I could've had a few working girls with the money I've spent online in sites like , or not like, this!4 I would.5 Huh?6 It's not easy, in fact it's bloody hard, maybe I should go and get a guilt free screw from a working girl. It saddens me that you have such a low opinion of married men, not for me to judge you for that, you may well be justifed feeling that way. Still it does sadden me.
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Im not available :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cwhereitgoes' Seems to be a lot of direction from her/ it :). have you lots of letters after your true identity Meeka? just asking, are you a mod on this site?
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On_Safari
12 years ago
My opinion is an educated one. I have however been a Mistress in what could be called "very affectionate, considerate long term relationships" with married men. I have a low opinion of the majority because it has been earnt. There are the exceptions to every rule however. I love my married men, they remain with me because I give completely and at some level I know they are giving what they can to me in return. The huh answer to question 5. Married men in particular if the are slimey will say anything to score I often wonder if they have any conscience? Most think women are there to be used and thrown away ie. the wanker who claims he has a hot young wife but wants the thrill of fucking older women....I mean...really? How shallow is the experience for those ladies and I'd be pretty sure he's the type who wipes all contact once his load is lightened. No thanks, I much prefer my Lovers to that kind of trash and pity the wife.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me wingman, gutted me... 😄 hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... Apply within.
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Languid
12 years ago
Well a ramble from me to prove that I do look at more than the Red Hot Pics lol. Reminds me of the old days when we upstanding fine young men bought Playboy for the articles and editorials. Why do married guys become members of RHP. All kinds of reasons and motivations no doubt ranging from the noble (who is this boy kidding lol) to the sensual to the downright sleazy. I will add to the conversation because my motivation seems to be a bit different to most other guys here. Maybe I am a bit unusual lol. Although I only occasionally believe that. And as an aside it occurs to me that going on the number of comments on this topic this debate must be a mass debate. Anyway getting back to the question by that very attractive lady in the red dress.I am in both a sharing and a v mood today. So for me RHP is just a bit of online vicarious voyeuristic volcanic voluptuous excitement. I just like to look at and think about the women here. And let my imagination go into overdrive lol. You are all online girlfriends to me (even if you have never heard of me lol) and you are all so beautiful. I like to look and chat and flirt but don’t really want to do anything that would threaten my family. So looking and chatting and flirting online is much safer than offline where who knows what might happen. My other half doesn’t know that I am on here but provided I don’t go offline my view is that there is nothing to hurt her. I don’t feel any guilt about it and think its ok whereas having an actual affair wouldn’t be ok. Ah (wistful sigh) if only it was. Now that probably sounds like a typical male perspective. And maybe it is. However at the end of the day well I am a male. Maybe its my mid life crisis lol. Any psychologists out there?Apart from no strings attached sex I cant see why any woman would want to meet a married man. She would be on a hiding to nothing if she wanted anything more I reckon. A married guy (who intended staying married at least) would give you plenty of bedroom attention but would probably be reluctant to meet in public, would be unavailable for lengthy periods of time and wouldn’t be able to commit emotionally. Anyway I have to go now and do some scientific research on women’s hair colours in Red Hot Pics.
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RHP User
12 years ago
On my relationship status i have "ask me" and if im asked i dont lie i say im married and my relationship is open, but if they want to know how it came to be that way? Thats a personal story i will share with u. But i love my wife 100% and will be with her for the rest of my life...so already have love but our sex life left somthing to be desired aftersh gave birth to our beautiful daughter (4 in january) somthing changed in my wifes mind so that when it comes to intimacy she just cant turn off mummy mode yet so we had a long maybe weeks long discussion because she could se my sexual tension/stress was building up and we decided to open up my end of the relationship until she can get in touch with her old self. Now about feelings in my opinion lust is NOT love and i am emotionaly mature enough to seperate the two and it it intimacy and lust i seach for on this site....thay perfect sexual connection where once it starts you lose track of all time and place and boundarys are met and crossed in the heat of moments where vivid and lasting memories are made that leave u talking about details that come to mind after until the next time you meet. Lets face it if u cant seperate LUST from LOVE then dont play the nsa casual fwb game at all ;) . CJ.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are lots of way to look at this, firstly I think you are looking at it all wrong. Be thankful as they ( we ) are the ones who dominate this site and as most of the women are NON Paying guests the married guys pay for ALL the NON paying ladies.As too why well everyone has their respective reasons be them male or female ( unhappily married, happly married but needing extra, arsehole , bitch , horny , ect ect ) It is what it is and providing that you are upfront about it, well at least you are starting with some honesty , which by all accounts is very easy to disregard in www land.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are many and varied reasons and no doubt key drivers for married/attached men AND women change priority with the individual. Personally, I have a lot of good things and life investment in my relationship, and yet I have interests that I seek to enjoy, but that does not mean I want to discard other aspects of life. Yes it can be complicated, but that is the main reason I disclose my position so a prospective friend can be under no illusions about my need for discretion , my dependability in being discreet and not complicating another's life situation and what I am looking for. One reason which I find curious does not appear to have been noted by anyone, is that it is fun. I note some people have sexual interests/taboos which do not in any way interest me, yet for me, indiscretion is a 'kink', a pleasure I enjoy. I take measures to minimise and hopefully eliminate collateral damage, as anyone involved in something another group of people disapprove of would do. From another perspective, I believe memories are more valuable as we go through life than hopes/dreams/fantasies. The latter are great and important for younger people, but over time, a healthy outlook and well-being needs to be able to replace hopes of what might be with a little bit of memories of what has been. I like to have memories of what I have enjoyed and people I know, not just what I'd like the future to hold. In answer to your post Meeka, I am looking for a discreet friend and it would be preferable that it is an ongoing friendship. Clearly I am interested in sex and as for developing feelings, EVERYone, attached/married/single have to manage such aspects of our beings and interactions, discreet adult, mature fun is no different. And there are a lot of people, male and female who enjoy and are capable of separating the emotions entwined in physicality from the emotions of a relationship. PS if you're still reading this, msg or flirt my profile and lets have some fun - within known boundaries ;) PPS Over the years, I would have to say, I have always wondered why people on 'sex dating sites' are more critical or adultery than people one meets in 'normal life'. This is despite the many other sexual interests and claimed 'open-mindedness' of people on these sorts of site. (just saying :) )
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RHP User
12 years ago
For the love of good will someone give this SINGLE guy a crack lol don't bother with the married guys us single guys will respect u more :)) Coffee anyone
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have to agree with that one indagine .
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's great when a guy knows how to separate lust from love .. but here's something to think about & consider .. intimacy , is also usually a huge part loving a person on many levels .. because without intimacy within a relationship/marriage etc .. where you get along , but basically just co-exist with eachother .. then it's usually little more than a friendship , if anything .. a comfortable one . When one makes the effort to keep intimacy in a relationship also .. but it's not returned & they would rather you find someone to ease their own guilty past .. to me that's just called taking the easy way to "outsville" & I personally would seriously have to question at that point whether my relationship was actually a savable , or whether my partner truly even cared at all . Just my two cents.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just to clarify what is meant by easy way to "outsville" .. in that i meant that , a partner that truly loves you will make every effort to prove that they want you in their lives & care about giving you that intimacy .. saying to your partner more or less to "go get someone else to satisfy your intimate needs" is practically saying "i don't even care enough to make the effort!" See to me , that's just a cop out .. if your not making at least an effort or trying everything you can to keep that intimacy alive in a relationship then truly .. you have to question whether their heart is in it 100 percent , even if yours is . You can always live in hope though but on a serious note .. if it's early days in the relationship & it's already hit a no intimacy note then .. id be truly bothered about the future . In your circumstances , i do understand (without saying too much) a fair bit of the situation & admire your commitment especially to try everything you can but if your trying this hard already to regain something that after only 5 years should still be alive & well once again .. id be genuinely worried for the future.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hahaha its statements like that mate that make women think that you are inarticulate and a caveman. Go married men lol but hey if its not your thing then go whatever u want ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have to be in my situation to understand it. It’s not as cut a dry as you may think. There is a multitudes of reasons why it is what it is. For some it may be the thrill of cheating on their partners. For others the choice is brought about by circumstance that can’t be changed and has to be lived with. In my case emotionally it’s draining. If I'm being judged for the way I find emotional & physical satisfaction to survive then the person judging me must be perfect in every way. That’s why we are on here…Right? Because our live is…perfect? Cheer Dave
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Quoting 'beachside66'Is it possible that some married men just want to experience something different all be it a difficult moral & ethical position depending on where you sit. Married life can be fabulous , settled, kids, the whole product of years of give & take & love and effort. But , what if the man develops in a way that from time to time desire causes a need for just the casual sex you mention. Is this bad? a fleeting meeting now and then between two people who know exactly what they are doing and why? The biggest danger is feelings developing like you note. I'm considering it, as horny as hell for some reason most of the time, a bit frustrated in an other wise perfect world for me…..thats why I came to look at RHP. He has the perfect life, the perfect family, the wonderful life his conundrum is a difficult problem...often used in matters of the heart. The ability to appreciate what you have and wanting to do well by it, and the overwhelming emotion towards someone else, that feels too good to ignore. The love of a partner for all the wonderful qualities they possess and for the unconditional love and support they provide. What is lacking however....he has, for over a year now; found in me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To the married guys responding....... and this is in NO way a judgement..... merely a supplementary question to the main topic. ..... if you knew your partner would end your marriage if they found out..... would you still do it. ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
well, as far as im aware, married or attached men are looking for another pussy for a good fuck, men are not going to define what a good fuck is either, its in their make up to fuck and their appetite is alot stronger than womans and as long as hes getting it he aint never gonna leave his wife because at the end of the day, its his wife that has his heart, men never have sex where emotions are attached, there for there are not going to be complications, but the female cant seem to understand that, its the female that makes the complications because they mix emotion with sex, i dont think men worry about why woman should meet them, as far as hes concerned, if they meet they meet, if not then no hang ups, move on, ok guys. correct mme where im wrong, im not talking for all men, only some
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madotara69
12 years ago
If you are a married bloke, and your out looking for sex... Bam RHP ....online list of women just waiting for you to turn up so you can give them all you have for that hour or two, once or twice a week. Sounds great if that's what you need. But this is not the more common dating sites, where all that, can happen with the boys looking for girls. This site is one of not so many, where there is great deal of the site aimed at the swinging lifestyle. That is where couples can come together and meet others that enjoy the lifestyle that swinging is all about. Playing around with other people playing around. People can find group, kink, gangbang, gay, lesbian, transvestites can feel comfortable in here, all can. That is what makes it a pretty sexy looking place to come looking for a bit being horny and all. The thing is, a bloke married in here with his wife in love and all, out to play up with others whenever it happens. But above board and doing shit together all for some grown up fun, and centred around the concept to the Naughty Forties. Babies bit done and grown up enough for mum and dad to go back to being bigger kids with different games. Well that's us anyway, It's the reason we are on this site, it is set up well for it. Social chat, forums, meets and greets as social is the nature of the lifestyle. These Forums are called the best for this lifestyle, not sure, but they are great as a couple with not many sites set up this way. There is a lot of couples here because of that. Not speaking for other couples, other than they write a few thoughts and interests and most if not all (legitimate) say they love each other and enjoy doing this sort of stuff, basically. So being fair, If your out looking for some casual and good fun sex and you are married but in here on your own. Alright your up to no good and it's gonna have to be real quiet, she can't know about it, but here you are. You would be better saying that. Anyone looking for that knows the deal, good luck. But as a married man in these forums, bullshitting and carrying on, flirting, nothing to loose because my wife is right here with me, but doing her thing. Untill the time where moods get a bit feisty, we look at stuff and who said what. The thing that is hard if you say that you respect people then doing it. Is differant than that other respect where people say the word, but don't know what it means. Please, don't go and disrespect your wife or mine, by saying that you love her more than anything in the world, but it is her fault, with whatever reason you have in mind. Just don't blame her, because she cannot defend herself to that. Maybe that's hard to understand, but being respectful is keeping things so that people aren't treated less of any one else. Wingman, I thought you made your post, as blaming yourself. If your wife read your post, You would likely need to defend yourself. And that's in your bag. We saw it as you are here as you can't help yourself. So between You , me, Tara and your wife. Only you would be in the shit can. If you didn't tell us that your energy proceeds you, then we might have thought you blamed your wife. Then we would all be in the shit, in her eyes. Probably should have said this earlier, though something else had "me" mainly, go and have a look at a few things to try and understand something a lot more than I knew, to trust my better judgement. And sorry Meeka, I should have gone off and found something more constructive, I would have said things easier to understand, if I knew more about why I felt the way I did. I did go and do that, I wouldn't have if it were not for all that. Mado Mado, Tara xx
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