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Men on RHP
December 04 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was in a sharehouse with an awesome pool and outdoor area. Most Sundays I'd have friends over and be in chat on cam. Had been chatting with one guy a fair bit and invited him over. No show.Following week same situation, he wants to come round again. Me being the forgiving type relents. No show.2 weeks later he tries to strike up a convo and doesn't get why I'm not interested?? Perth Socialites have meet and greets all the time that I suggest to single guys...they are too scared to come alone.NEWSFLASH! You can't make friends if you hide behind your keyboard....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've written two "Men behaving greatly" forums in the past, in response to threads bitching about them. The majority of messages from guys I get are pleasant, and so are most responses if I decline. I find that if I'm pleasant in my replies, I get the same in return. Sure, there are a few bitter and entitled men that display some appalling behaviour, and more than a few who don't read my profile and therefore don't match what I'm looking for. I'm not about to let them ruin it for the genuine guys though. The messages from men I post on the fora are mostly from a vanilla site, the ones I get here are somehow much better. So, no bitching here. A thumbs-up for all you sexy fellas.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Like Uni said....the ones who chat and want to meet up and then dont show. Frustrating when you are time poor and have to organise around it. But luckily they are in the tiny minority. Am just talking to a male friend of mine, who I met on here, and glad I did......... there are so many genuine and nice blokes on RHP. Oh, and one or two who -I quote one of them - "just want to come around, fill your 3 holes then fuck off". Get yourself a blow up doll. mate. Wont even need to buy a drink.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
was to give some equal air time to the opposite side of Women on Rhp. A lovely gent has been giving chase to me for several weeks. Firstly dozens of profile views over a couple of weeks. Then gets some courage to fire up a message. 30 messages later, tentative book a meet. I cancelled that due to stuff. Second time booked. 2 hr before he has to take son to doctors. Ok fair enough. 1 all. 3rd booking. First thing in morning i message to confirm for mid arvo. Message opened straight away. No reply. No reply for 6 grs. Radio silence. Message him and then block. Telltale sign is the frequent profile views well before first message. No balls to jump in at the start. I should have detected that and not got involved. If he has trouble with the courage to message, no way is he gonna have the balls to show up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have a true fetish for MFM, and so play with single men a lot. No complaints from us, and Meander summed up our experiences.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Us guys should be given a series of star ratings. A "CHAT" rating for how interesting we are to chat to. A "SACK" rating for how good we are in the sack. A "PRAT" rating, if we should be avoided. A "SKUNK" rating for lacking in personal hygiene. Say that be tabulated together to give A "MATE" rating for how good as a "mate" overall we are. Course, we should have a similar one for girls too! Andy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
A gentleman will be true to his word, will not insist on things and will always show the utmost respect...including being on time for a meet, dressed appropriately, clean and smelling amazing. In my opinion :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
cos we get better offers.... Men suck, cos our wives find out... Men suck....cos we can... Men suck balls....lol well, some do!! Lol I suck....and I'm proud to ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men suck. So that's why I don't tend to hang out with many of them! Men on rhp specifically? Well I'm proud to say I've blocked my first (male) member :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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nattyocean
10 years ago
Effort! The complete lack of is the biggest issue Ive experienced. and I mean this only in the context of chatting and getting to see if its worth to even meet. I used to try to engage in conversation and flesh it out further but I have now learnt that despite the excuse I hear that 'they are shy etc' Im a big conversationalist so its probably not right then if I am getting one or two word responses (no not expecting a paragraph in all instances).
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RHP User
10 years ago
What he said. These things for me are a given. We're about to get naked and have sex with someone, being clean and respectful, my 'gems' that I refer to quite often i've trusted completely, extremely clean and honest, like i've known them for years, and unless I feel like that, or feel that from them, it never gets to hookup, which is more often than not. But yeah, well said. Lots of nice guys on here, but sooooooo many with stolen or VERY OLD pictures. Also loathe the constant lies about body, age, endowment, marital status, intention to pleasure (when reality with some is quite different, most times figure this out early so never meet them but got caught a few times when more inexperienced), some all of the above lol I did a post before but lost it so sorry in advance if that one shows and I repeat myself ☺
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been hit on by so many couples, if i'm attracted, i'll respond, messaging starts, in just about every case, it's the male partner contacting me without their partner's knowledge. To any of those people, don't worry, your identity is safe, i'm only making a point here, that they quite often say 'we' are interested in you, until I ask them to be honest, does your partner know, 'not yet but she will soon' or no they want to play alone, but on the couple's profile it states we only play together? So they lie to their partners and to me, charming! Heads up ladies, you never quite know what your men are up to behind your back.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Update. This is a first. Received flirt from female profile 20 something, no pictures at all and interstate, so i'm scratching my head thinking, why bother with no pics etc. Then I read the description, it's a guy and not trying to hide it wtf? Hmm 😯
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I have met three wonderful gentlemen who were genuine, nice and generous, with one even gave me a memorable Valentine's Day. But I have also met and chatted to numerous dickheads after these gentlemen, with one recently cracked a disrespectful and cheap joke simply because he thought he had a good sized penis and that was a big deal! Seriously, some men do really only think with their little heads! I'm over it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Lol. I just got flirted by the same female profile from NSW. Quite open about being a guy.......FFS. A couple of hale bales short of a stack.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
# Hay........ Coffee anyone?
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RHP User
10 years ago
from RHP were smart, intelligent, attentive, respectful and lovely company. The remaining 10% were a let down. 9 out of 10 is pretty good mark I reckon. Of course I had to filter out the men I met from an influx of all the other candidates but that is the price I am willing to pay for the company of those who are worthy of getting to know in the process. Men are not as vile as they are frequently portrayed nowadays - there are good men and good women, just as there are bad men and bad women (bad here meaning something I would not get along with well) but it seems men get a worse rap. Hurray for the good, ethical, sexy, intelligent, attentative, respectful men!
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RHP User
10 years ago
As I said in the women on RHP forum, I know that everyone on here...man, woman, and couple... has to put up with crap, it's the nature of the game. However.... I also don't pretend to be a bastion of endless positivity and I'm not averse to a bit of cathartic bitching Lately I've had a run of guys - all younger ones too I note - being keen as mustard...until that is, I suggest meeting (which happens quickly because I'm not into endless messaging and I think the best way to suss someone out is face to face). After that they either disappear into the ether or trying to organise the meet turns into a production bigger than Cats (only briefly does that go on though, I don't have the patience or the willingness to give people multiple chances). Maybe I scare them, maybe they are attached (although I don't think so), maybe maybe maybe, who knows. Because of the...ah...shortage of suitable men up here in tropical paradise (*cough*), I have been trying out a strategy of responding to some guys with profiles I would normally bypass immediately. I guess we can say that so far that experiment isn't going so well Thanks for the opportunity to let off some steam Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are real men on here....no way
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RHP User
10 years ago
Haha omg yep NSW and i'm cracking myself here, there's a picture on the profile now. It's a genuine profile, does someone want to tell him, he might not realise lol. Up for a threesome? 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have met some great men on this site and become friends. Its a shame that there are those who believe its okay to treat women badly just because we have a profile on RHP. Also heaven forbid we say no thanks to a invitation to meet just for sex with someone you dont know. Then only to receive a message like this one. Pretty hypocritical coming from someone who has slutty pictures on her profile lol !! Sort yah life out yah dumb fuck and while your at it give up the "im not a cum bucket lady " !! Your on rhp yah fuckhead. This why you screen people just imagine meeting someone with this attitude towards women. As they say dodged a bullet with this one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow! Ive had messages similar to that but not as bitter and nasty. I did have one from someone who had seen me in the forums, similar type of reply, and threatened to tell my son ( although how, I dont know!) that his mum was on a sex site. But luckily they are far and few between. That was a very aggressive message, Miss Silk, it would have actually made me very uncomfortable xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's just disgusting abuse....I hope you reported his sorry arse straight away.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
That the men whom I have chatted in messages on here for non-sexual related matters, and on friendly no intention for meeting level only, are the rare gents who are respectful, well manned, well educated, intelligent and have class. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' Have met some great men on this site and become friends. Its a shame that there are those who believe its okay to treat women badly just because we have a profile on RHP. Also heaven forbid we say no thanks to a invitation to meet just for sex with someone you dont know. Then only to receive a message like this one. Pretty hypocritical coming from someone who has slutty pictures on her profile lol !! Sort yah life out yah dumb fuck and while your at it give up the "im not a cum bucket lady " !! Your on rhp yah fuckhead. This why you screen people just imagine meeting someone with this attitude towards women. As they say dodged a bullet with this one. Unfortunately we have all experienced nasty messages like that. Sorry to hear that happened to you Ms Silk.The poor excuse for a human being that sent you that message does not realise RHP is a community and word travels fast.I imagine he thought he was a "big man" swearing at you like that.I wonder if he has the guts to own up to what he did via this thread.Come on mate, show us all how "big" you are.......reveal yourself! And apologise to Ms Silk while you're at it.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
That you have dodged Ms_silk! I can't imagine what would he do if you met him in person and refused to take things further with him! Your safety would be high in the red I say! I too got told by a sexually frustrated man that I should get off RHP and not waste everyone's time, if I was not prepared to lift my skirt up at his request! Hmmm......I wonder if those low grade human beings would drop their pants for just about any women given their attitude and mindset?! I want to share with everyone, who reads this thread, my most recent experience with a man, whom I have only chatted to on here and on KIK via messages. I know his words don't represent anyone and everyone, but they give an insight of what some men think of us women on a site like RHP. I'll quote his exact words in the below two paragraphs: "The first thing that comes to everyone's mind is - she is out for cock. What do sluts do - they hunt for cock like you did to me. We are all sluts and please be honest with yourself. If you had a daughter on Rhp what is the first thing that comes to mind - looking for cock and how many has she slept with." This is why I now become very reluctant to initiate a contact first, as well as palming off many messages from men who have contacted me first, even if their profiles have caught my interest! Especially those who put their six pack naked body or cock shots up as their profile photos! Because the majority of the abusive word bullets I copped were from men whom have their penises or naked body up as their profile pics! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'vampavibe'I wonder if he has the guts to own up to what he did via this thread.Come on mate, show us all how "big" you are.......reveal yourself! And apologise to Ms Silk while you're at it. I do wonder if people like him who write such dumb shit have both enough mental capacity and grasp of the English language to read any of the forums. Doubt it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem'the majority of the abusive word bullets I copped were from men whom have their penises or naked body up as their profile pics! That's been my experience too. It seemed that the men with cock shots who messaged me defined themselves more often by their appendage only, and maybe therefore saw me as nothing more than a vagina to fuck?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with each and every one of you ladies and men. With the good comes the bad, the bad just make the good look even better. This minority of boys (yes BOYS because you haven't graduated to manhood yet) are feeling nothing but Threatened and Intimidated by Strong, Independant, Know what they want Go get it women. We are simply dulling their limelight.. Times are a changing boys, we don't need to resort to name calling and abuse to make ourselves feel empowered because we already are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dick pictures, I can't see as a guest, wish I could, partly to perv of course but also to help weed out the revolting, disgusting ones, so I get the corrolation there, but six packs are different IMO of course. I've found guys who are committed to the time and pain involved in creating that body, are generally good quality individuals who have their life in order. A lot of them work 12 hr days and still hit the gym after that. That takes dedication and commitment. I 100% disagree that this makes them lesser people, it's the wannabes, the ones who dodgy their pictures to make it look like they're in that shape, they're the ones I have trouble with, and who get titchy when their true appearance is revealed, then lose the plot with me for saying no? I only hook up with bodies like that and aside from a couple who slipped through earlier on, all have been awesome guys who i've trusted, they've respected me, quality individuals. So my experience has uncovered any gym junkie Aholes, quite the opposite. But yeah, the 'it's all about my dick' guys, give them a big miss 😯
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hasn't uncovered, I meant to say. Also didn't make the 'I only hook up with....' comment to sound braggy, purely to make the point that i've hooked up with tons of these guys in the last 12 months, so if anyone has undertaken a comprehensive study, it's me lol not recently though sigh
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RHP User
10 years ago
Keep moving along please. If your dick is a better asset than your brain then you obviously don't have enough imagination, thoughtfulness or attention to understand what your prospective partner likes or dislikes, what is working for them, or to get in sync with the rhythm of the night ;-) Every bloke has a Dick, why do you think yours is any different? If you are thoughtful in your profile, messages and pics then that might indicate you are thoughtupful in life, and maybe even in bed. But if you just think your dick is the best thing you have and that it is the only thing everyone wants, then in most cases you will be sadly mistaken. Seen one, seen them all. Move on to your next flirt.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' It seemed that the men with cock shots who messaged me defined themselves more often by their appendage only, and maybe therefore saw me as nothing more than a vagina to fuck? It seems like that with the majority of men whom have penis shots as their profile pics! They think they are God's sent gift for women and think they can behave like trash! Being me, I don't usually judge a book by its cover and often give the benefit of doubt to men, who put their naked six pack body or cock shots up as their profile pics, as long as I have never chatted to them before. But many times those who I have crossed (online) path with have proven me wrong, and stupid in the end, for giving them the benefit of doubt!The man in question (that I mentioned in my previous comments) has a decently written profile and clear information of what he seeks, etc. So, I thought he might be a good package that included brain, hence I initiated the contact. But only then to find out that I was wrong, once again!Therefore, I am reluctant to go down that path (giving the benefit of doubt that is) again after my last experience! Who cares if I would miss out on the real and genuine ones, I am done with risking my dignity being torn and walked over again!
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'but six packs are different IMO of course. I've found guys who are committed to the time and pain involved in creating that body, are generally good quality individuals who have their life in order. A lot of them work 12 hr days and still hit the gym after that. That takes dedication and commitment. I 100% disagree that this makes them lesser people, it's the wannabes, the ones who dodgy their pictures to make it look like they're in that shape I do not imply that 100% of men who put their naked six packs body photos up as their profile pics are A-holes, please don't get me wrong! All I'm saying is, it has been the case for me and in my experiences on here, especially in the recent months!As for the six packs wannabes, how would I know if they are the real deal or fake wannabes unless I have met them in person, right? Unfortunately, until I am proven wrong, I am reluctant to believe in what I see (online) and read again! That's why I've said it before that I am happy to remain on RHP just for the Forums. After all, I am not here to seek a life partner. RHP is only an interim for me to kill time while I am working through the journey to get to my final destination
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fair enough but the wannabes are flushed out in messaging and ones who blame the world for their shortcomings and get abusive or mildly annoyed. That's my point, the honest, nice guys with integrity, with awesome bodies who you know are committed and together individuals, big difference. But you don't wait until you meet them to find out, plenty of ways to flush them out before that, all depends on how much time you want to waste on here though. I'm a bit over it like you
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RHP User
10 years ago
My feeling, based on your comments which don't seem to gel together, saying a guy told a joke about his dick, but what's that got to do with a six pack? I think you are intimidated and throwing them all into the same basket, which just angers me. You need to separate in your own mind what the real issues are and deal or make choices, but please don't slam all the fit guys, they are awesome
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RHP User
10 years ago
This bloke didn't have a six pack or dick pick, but thought it would be fun to text us in the middle of the night. "I'm ........ From RHP are you keen to chat?" Since we were asleep, that would be a no. Our profile says we have young kids (who we need to attend to in the morning) so that'd be a no. I'd be pretty sure our internet would have dropped out by then so we wouldn't have been online either, so that's another no. To top it off it appears he didn't even look at our profile last night, so either using a fake profile to do his searching or has stored our number for future use, even though we have never heard of him before. Another no! Will probably send a response during the week at 5am as I get up to get ready for work?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Between the 2 threads of men and women on RHP. The main complaint with women is they are fussy and picky. Complaints against men....well just read above. Im a bit embarrassed to have a dick at the moment. A shame that those arseholes spoil it for us.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Sorry, I'm a bit speechless after your pm this morning. Let me get my hangover in order from the m&g and I'll message you later. Hugs in the meantime.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Loved your post. So true. These disrespectful minority of men whom we write about, hate that they dont have complete control and resort to disgusting messages.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are the ones who do the no show verified?if not im guessing there among the manyfake profiles that are unfortunately on here.So once they make it to the meet up stage they can no longer continue there catfish profiles,,i have the same happen to me. This also makes me reluctant to open my PGs as this is the real reason for there fake profiles.In saying this one of the ladies i did meet up with hadnt verified hers ,but sent a pic to me with my user name on it,,Be better if RHP could police it a bit better and save us all having this doubt of who we are actually chatting with..James :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Dick pictures, I can't see as a guest, wish I could, partly to perv of course but also to help weed out the revolting, disgusting ones, so I get the corrolation there, but six packs are different IMO of course. I've found guys who are committed to the time and pain involved in creating that body, are generally good quality individuals who have their life in order. A lot of them work 12 hr days and still hit the gym after that. That takes dedication and commitment. I 100% disagree that this makes them lesser people, it's the wannabes, the ones who dodgy their pictures to make it look like they're in that shape, they're the ones I have trouble with, and who get titchy when their true appearance is revealed, then lose the plot with me for saying no? I only hook up with bodies like that and aside from a couple who slipped through earlier on, all have been awesome guys who i've trusted, they've respected me, quality individuals. So my experience has uncovered any gym junkie Aholes, quite the opposite. But yeah, the 'it's all about my dick' guys, give them a big miss 😯 This is spot on. Being fit does not make someone an asshole. Nor does it mean they are unintelligent or superficial or any of the other things that are sometimes aimed at the fit by the not-so-fit. As for the abusive stuff some women are getting, that is messed up, and you shouldn't stand for it. Maybe what I have said for single men previously also goes for single women: This might not be the best place if you are a single looking for singles. For a man this place is simply worlds apart from the more popular dating apps, where interactions between single men and single women have a much more positive, happy, easy and connective vibe to them. I think the more level playing field in other apps actually might work better for both genders, not just men. Even psychology has shown that we tend to be at our best when there is more equality between the sexes. But for a more swinging lifestyle RHP can be great :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Dick pictures, I can't see as a guest, wish I could, partly to perv of course but also to help weed out the revolting, disgusting ones, so I get the corrolation there, but six packs are different IMO of course. I've found guys who are committed to the time and pain involved in creating that body, are generally good quality individuals who have their life in order. A lot of them work 12 hr days and still hit the gym after that. That takes dedication and commitment. I 100% disagree that this makes them lesser people, it's the wannabes, the ones who dodgy their pictures to make it look like they're in that shape, they're the ones I have trouble with, and who get titchy when their true appearance is revealed, then lose the plot with me for saying no? I only hook up with bodies like that and aside from a couple who slipped through earlier on, all have been awesome guys who i've trusted, they've respected me, quality individuals. So my experience has uncovered any gym junkie Aholes, quite the opposite. But yeah, the 'it's all about my dick' guys, give them a big miss 😯 Cheers to you as yes we do get stereotyped for enjoying the benefits of keeping in shape..though i know that there are the ones who have helped create this for us.. as for your mention of guests not being able to view red hot pics ,, i think RHP should allow any verified profile especial if a females as this can only benefit both them and the male profile they are wanting to view, as men are more likely to pay for a membership, as they need to if they want to send a message.. James :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
People in general, unreliable, impolite, assumption-making flakes. Fuck all of them, me included, I'm shit at this too. (Oh, except you reader, you're the exception!)
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RHP User
10 years ago
My fwb and I were in the process of arranging a first date with a guy, when he rang and then texted me when I didn't answer at 3.30am, wanting to hook up with me alone. Before we'd even met him! About this man not looking at your profile though: there's a box you can tick on the account settings page so you can check out people without them being able to see you've looked at their profile.
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I don't know what's your intention is for sticking up for men each time I expressed an opinion I have towards the ones I have had bad experiences with, but let me tell you that what you said above about me needing to separate in my own mind what the real issues are, and deal or make choices, is simply a plain rude assumption about me! You may have lived 16 years longer than I have, it still doesn't make you a wiser person than I am! Level of intelligence really! Seriously, I don't need to explain myself for holding and voicing my opinions on here as I owe nobody any explanation! But for your own curiosity, the guy who cracked the offensive joke to me has his six pack naked body, as well as his penis shot, up as his profile pics! So here you go with the relevance between a cock shot and six pack naked body issue that mentioned in my posts! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Okay fair enough, i'm sorry, just the six packs get slammed a lot and my experience has been quite different, i'm sorry it hasn't for you. I didn't even look at your age, age is but a number to me so rest assured, I don't think age brings wisdom, just more wrinkles lol I hope it gets better for you and you don't encounter anymore or those individuals for want of a better word. I have my fair share of stalkers and time wasters etc and it gets me down, sorry I deserved that
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sweetgem
10 years ago
That before anyone else wants to jump at my throat for daring to stand up for myself and voice my opinion, please take a step back and hold your horse! The last experience that I had with this man in question was awful and highly disrespectful, even racist too to an extend, because he called me a nasty name with the mentioning of my race! Hence, my disgusting impression of him and my posts made about my experience with him! It is not an easy journey to walk on RHP, let alone being an Asian woman on RHP, and to be treated disrespectfully by a western man, it surely is not a fair call in my book! Thanks for your understanding everyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sweetgem is only relaying her own experiences, not talking about all fit guys, and to suggest she is the problem isn't cool in my opinion. I don't understand why you would let yourself be angered by her feeling intimidated (which knowing her, I seriously doubt. You have different opinions and they're both just as valid, no?
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MissBishere
10 years ago
I'd say it's about 60-40 in my experience on here. That's 60% not so good. The messages when you say no can be quite vile and threaten all kinds of violence and become very personal often involving the words whore, slut, fat cunt, skanky mole, unfit mother. The recurring themes are "I was lowering my standards and just wanted a hole, I normally wouldn't fuck anyone that size, you don't know what you are missing out on, you should be grateful I offered to fuck you, all women on here are sluts, you're a fat ugly old lady anyway, bet your cunt is loose as..... And i could go on. then. There are the ones that are good with the chatting and getting through the screening, these are worse as I find they can do more damage, they have now been up close and personal and it like a betrayal of trust then to have them turn. or just completely cut all contact after. all of it makes the walls a little higher and a little thicker. And it means I rarely reply with a negative response anymore I become one of those that don't reply. the 40% have been amazing men, friends and lovers
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for pointing that out. You'd be on the money there I think. We've also previously got the middle of the night text, then a call when the text wasn't answered. MrsPlayful gave him an earful the next morning and we've never heard from him again.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Report those arseholes who say things like that. If RHP are unable or unwilling to do anything about it then we should be able to somehow name and shame in the forums. Im not talking about reporting just anybody like a fake profile or a no show, only those who have been truly threatening or extremely disrespectful like those mentioned above. It's disgusting and we should not tolerate it at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'CravingTouch' People in general, unreliable, impolite, assumption-making flakes. Fuck all of them, me included, I'm shit at this too. (Oh, except you reader, you're the exception!) People can be - yes. "People" being an anonymous single or the masses. An individual person though is (usually) quite different. Also, I like flakes. Mmm chocolate
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RHP User
10 years ago
My wife has a profile on here too...she has not had any of these issues other females report. I really think its a little small minded to 'classify men', such as if they have a dick pic or not. Both men and women on here behave badly, not all, but some. Lets have the intelligence to understand thats accross society and not be so general. If you receive a nasty message from someone, male or female, block them! They are probably nuts! Just my thoughts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was on 2 vanilla dating sites before I joined RHP. The guys on there are the same as most of the guys on here...after an initial message the talk would turn to sex. I even had a few of the "Hi, I can come round to yours this afternoon" type of messages on these sites. So I find that at least the single guys on here are honest about what they are looking for. And since I dont want a serious relationship, that suits me fine. Also, most of the guys on these sites also have profiles on here, although what they are looking for in each case is totally different!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been on and off a few vanilla sites. Toned down pics( no boob shots 😎)looking for casual relationships, I dont present myself sexually at all. But I also found that the messages I recieved disregarded my profile wording and cut straight to the sex talk and quick hookup for sex. So my experience, as Koko also said, is that guys on here are actually a little more respectful in their messages. I prefer to be proactive and do my own initial contact here anyway. Which isnt often as Im not constantly looking to meet new people. I havent had a nasty message on Pie for a very long time, but in the past I have and even though Im a hard arse, it still niggles away at your self esteme. The same as it would for guys that get continual "no thanks" or no replies.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm sorry to read some of the bad experiences people have had on this site or in general. It's not acceptable and should not be tolerated. Some people on here get full of themselves and act badly, I hope they would not act like this in real life but there are always those arseholes about who are self centred boys. Again sorry if anyone has had a bad experience from some jerks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That the fit guys are quite often presumed to be arrogant, look at me kind of thing, and women can and do find them intimidating and for some reason categorize them as lesser people. That is a fact. I read it on here all the time. Here's the thing, the way a guy looks doesn't dictate whether he's going to act arrogant and be abusive, the individual is responsible for his own actions there. But, in my experience, I have found that those fit guys to be together in all aspects of their lives, and exceptional human beings. That's the ones I hooked up with though, there have been many I cut off early in messaging when I feel the arrogance and 'i'm doing you a favour' coming through. And let's be honest, looking for what older women offer, but all about them. But I weed them out and wait for the good ones. Only a few days ago, I turned down probably I think the hottest looking guy on here, and at the time I was thinking, god what am I doing, but his messages were let's say 'lean' seemed like about 3 words in each message, took about 3 days to get those messages, I just wasn't feeling it, so I said thanks but no thanks and moved on. He was nice but it's not just about the body. The worst ones I find are the creepy ones who just won't go away
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RHP User
10 years ago
I also do the same, get them to write my user name and the date on a piece of paper, take a picture and send it to me. And the picture has to be clear. I have been truly shocked with what I see, sometimes an entirely different person, even had a few admit that. As far as being verified, can anyone tell me what you have to do for that? Do they need credit card details or anything. What do you have to give them in order to be verified. I don't know whether a guest member can be verified?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'deal4' People can be - yes. "People" being an anonymous single or the masses. An individual person though is (usually) quite different. Also, I like flakes. Mmm chocolate Yes, individually we are perfect, collectively we fail. A flake to one person can be the reliable rock to another, we succeed some and fail others, to err is to be human after all. I'm an individual, just like everybody else...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some ppl are committed to being victims. I have never nor would I ever speak to females the way some report. Rather than be a helpless victim, BLOCK. jeez block me too while you are at it!
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RHP User
10 years ago
The attitude there with men is not that different to the attitude here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whats victim got to do with it? And of course ppl use the block button. Its a forum topic, and ppl are giving their personal experiences. As most have said, its a small number of ignorant ppl who chose to be abusive in their replies. Majority are pleasant and respectful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'As far as being verified, can anyone tell me what you have to do for that? Do they need credit card details or anything. What do you have to give them in order to be verified. I don't know whether a guest member can be verified? Go here: http://redhotpie.com.au/MemberProfile/ProfileMenu.aspx Then click on Profile Verification under Account Verification. RHP will show you a number that you have to write on a piece of paper, then hold it in front of you and take a selfie. Upload this pic and RHP will add a notification to your profile that you're verified (can take a day or so though). Yes, you can be verified as a guest.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fun_Seeker80'OMG what a bunch of man haters
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' Between the 2 threads of men and women on RHP. The main complaint with women is they are fussy and picky. Complaints against men....well just read above. Im a bit embarrassed to have a dick at the moment. A shame that those arseholes spoil it for us. Just makes the guys that aren't douches look that little bit more appealing ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Another thing that I often wonder about in profiles, if their age preference as 18-99. Anyone will do, dont care who?
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RHP User
10 years ago
God i'm going to get myself verified, might get more sex lol here's hoping, keep everything crossed for me, thanks for that
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RHP User
10 years ago
Omg anyone who blocks you needs their head read. Wow, that's what dreams are made of. I'd go you in a hot second mmm 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
As above: 'do not post anything that defames or vilifies'.... Just be nice folks 😎😴 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' Another thing that I often wonder about in profiles, if their age preference as 18-99. Anyone will do, dont care who? Eww you make us oldies sound like charity cases It most certainly does not mean anyone will do, it just means that age is irrelevant for some people. Personally I wonder about those that have age ranges less than 5 years and then especially when the ages is a decade or two below. Thats when being selective borders on creepy.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Random guy messaged that he wanted to be friends, just friends... I replied back along the lines of 'sorry not what I'm looking for'... and then got a long message full of vitriol re: what a slut I am...
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I was invited by you I would be right over.......even on the next plane.......:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why are all the gorgeous ladies like yourself in WA?...:(
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RHP User
10 years ago
The question was "Lets hear your experiences regarding the single men who may have been so difficult to deal with". So I answered and I don't see myself as a victim nor do the other ladies either I presume. As for other more vanilla sites they too can have similar experiences. At the end of the day I'd still prefer RHP to other sites as this is where alot of my friends are and we have a great social bunch here in the West. Missb sorry to hear your experience has been not been great at times. It still shocks me how some people behave and if it were in real life, I doubt people would actually speak the way they write.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"If you want my attention YOU must message me..."....really. Yawn. Plenty of non arrogant guys on here, thank goodness, but Im sure your pics will guarantee you plenty of attention
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fun_Seeker80' Some ppl are committed to being victims. I have never nor would I ever speak to females the way some report. Rather than be a helpless victim, BLOCK. jeez block me too while you are at it! Empathy. Its the Christmas season after all. Sheeeeesh
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've never understood why there's so much anger/abuse from some guys when someone politely declines or doesn't reply. I think it's got something to do with sensitive self-esteem - any kind of rejection or perceived rejection is taken as a direct attack and they lash right back. The honest truth is, women get snowed under on these sites - I've been told well over ten messages a day in some cases. Let's be realistic here - would I reply to that many a day? Probably not - I'd not have time, I'd forget, I'd get distracted. So it's not really fair to expect other people do something I probably wouldn't. Personally somebody politely declining is in and of itself a nice thing to do under such circumstances and I appreciate the time out they take to be honest but nice and will generally always come back with a 'thank you for your time and best of luck!'. As for no-shows- I think to be honest a lot of people who no-show like the *idea* or the fantasy of having an on-tap sexual partner but when it comes to actually committing to it, they're afraid, nervous or uncertain. They *think* this is what they want and it's only when it's crunch time that they realise what they're getting into. I know this because I used to be like that myself when I was younger and not as ready for this kind of thing.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive shagged guys 20 years younger than me and oh... some delicious memories to look back on in my twilight years. Why do you find it creepy? Im interested.......?
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RHP User
10 years ago
age is irrelevant to some guys, otherwise i'd never get a 'root' lol and for me, it's quite often 30 yrs younger, even more on occasion. When i'm with a guy, it's not even an issue, even in messaging, just seems natural, yet naughty which is the taboo, icing on the cake. Creepy? Maybe to many, not to me and not to the guys i'm with. Pretty bloody hot actually. But all good, we're all different. Gotta love social media though
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' "If you want my attention YOU must message me..."....really. Yawn. Plenty of non arrogant guys on here, thank goodness, but Im sure your pics will guarantee you plenty of attention Let's be fair. How many women's profiles say exactly the same? At least FunSeeker says in his profile he's arrogant and self-centered. Great to see a guy who knows himself, nothing worse than finding out someone's completely full of themselves mid-way through a date. As for the pics: Love them! Though personally I'm not a fan of seeing pics of single men fucking other women per se, I think they're both beautifully done and clearly show how FS really feels about wearing condoms. I find that very helpful. Kudos for being so upfront, FunSeeker, I'm sure many other men could really learn from you x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Ive shagged guys 20 years younger than me and oh... some delicious memories to look back on in my twilight years. Why do you find it creepy? Im interested.......? Its not the age that is the creepy part, it is exclusively wanting girls that are 20 or more years younger. If I see a profile of a 50year old man with an age range of 18-21 thats creepy in my book. Why? because when I see that I have to wonder if the 18 is by choice or lack of input options.... eewww
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RHP User
10 years ago
and that was of the man who openly told women to get labioplasty because it isnot that expensive any more.. Nr2 on the list would be from the man whose profile is written word-by-word as an escort's profile and when I pointed it out to him has not responded ever since...my filtering process must be good :) Nr3 is the usual "I will make all your dreams come true- I am the best lover in the whole universe" type profiles...
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Sent me a nice "wanna hook up " message. Understanding person i am didn't dismiss him and messaged back to say i needed a bit more of chat to get the feeling going. Reconising my need for a connection he lifted his game to the occasion with the response " you wanna fuck or not?" Blocked....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting Funseeker. "Some ppl are committed to being victims." Just when there has been discussions earlier in this thread defending the attitude of gym fit peeps, along comes one of their own and nails that window shut......
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RHP User
10 years ago
I read these forums, dont usually comment. Whateverway I dont care. These sooky negative wollowing attitudes is exactly why I dont bother in here. Who cares if I state my opinion that you and all the 'regular angry forum posters' dont like 'ALL GYM FIT PPL'. Just confirms your narrow minds! I have no time for ppl who perpetuate and wollow in negativity. If that makes me arrogant to a bunch of whingers then so be it! I wont make the mistake if stating my opinion here again, I didnt realize it was only the angry self righteous regulars that were allowed. Bye, enjoy your negativity. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
hahaha... really? Bwahahaha.... I could say something else but will not... just leave it there.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks, I read into it the wrong way......... Kisses sexy xxxxxx
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fun_Seeker80' I read these forums, dont usually comment. Whateverway I dont care. These sooky negative wollowing attitudes is exactly why I dont bother in here. Who cares if I state my opinion that you and all the 'regular angry forum posters' dont like 'ALL GYM FIT PPL'. Just confirms your narrow minds! I have no time for ppl who perpetuate and wollow in negativity. If that makes me arrogant to a bunch of whingers then so be it! I wont make the mistake if stating my opinion here again, I didnt realize it was only the angry self righteous regulars that were allowed. Bye, enjoy your negativity. - Posted from rhpmobile You are welcome to share your opinions of matters based on your experience. I think it makes better conversation and challenges the current forum thinking as it gives a different perspective on different issues that we all normally will nto come across. We are all for learning. I hope you reconsider your participation in the forum. I think what may have offended people, based from what I read, is the personal attacks on people who relay their experience and putting in a personal attack on them. We need to have perspective in this forum. we come from different backgrounds and experiences and bring that to the table for discussion. Certainly my opinions and view of sexuality has changed over the 18 mnths on here from vanilla to more open. I was given a hard time in earlier times in the forum but learned to take it on the chin and have a sense of humour about it. Empathy is a definitely a much sought after commodity in this part of the site. That there are other valid experiences out there. Hope that makes sense. so hope to see more of your contributions in the future.
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RHP User
10 years ago
N2 contacted me after, asking for profile help and I think he genuinely didn't see the problem. He was appreciative of having pointed out to him which parts of his profile were the issue. :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
@ Blindman so what about women that do it? 50 yr old women w/ 22 yr old men for instances. Is that to be applauded? Congratulated. There is a definite double standard when it comes to men and women in this regard. Just my thoughts.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
You speak of not liking negative views? Read your own posts back to yourself. Prince of negativity. You call people who share some bad experiences on here " committed to being victims". The thread and the forum in general is for people to share opinions; giving others a chance to learn. These so called committed victims state what negative experiences they have had, perhaps giving a chance for the men who are a minority, to wake up to their actions, learn that their current methodology is not working. They can change the approach and gain more positive experiences that benefit themselves and the people they wish to interact with. A win win situation for all. And perhaps you might learn something regarding your own attitude. An attitude that if modified and made to match your photos, could see you elevated very highly on some womens to do list. But currently the lovely ladies that have read your comments could well be striking a line through your username. And by the way, i have nothing against gym people. I hit the gym many times through the week. I dont agree with the general comments regarding gym minded people. But comments like you have made do nothing for that arguement. So don't shy away from forum contribution. If you have the balls to make such comments, a bit of subjective feedback should be no problem if you have an open mind. Stick around, you may make it more interesting if your strong enough. And credit where credits due. Love your photos. Annie.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
It is interesting to read all the comments , and the obvious tension & angst that has resulted from them. We have had our fair share of filthy, crass & disrespectful messages, received from some males on here. We have often wondered why they say the things that they say, and why they approach couples (and females) with the types of opening lines like 'hot pix wanna fuck ? I wanna lick and fill all your holes' etc etc. We wonder if they really think that such opening lines will in fact result in a favourable outcome for them, and make them appear more attractive to the woman or the couple that they are messaging? We have asked many of them if they ever approach people at the shops/pubs/restaurant and say these kinds of things, and if not then why do they feel that they can say them on RHP ? That shuts them up very quickly. Perhaps the guys get horny and frustrated and forget to think clearly before they open their mouths or send off messages? Perhaps they believe that as this is a 'swingers/dating site' that this type of behaviour is acceptable and that all women on here are sluts / cumbuckets, who want all their holes filled and will lie down and spread their legs at the drop of a hat? Clearly these type of males show little or no respect towards others. Lots of questions we have as to "why" some of these guys say and write the things that they do. What motivates them? I guess we will never know. That said, we always try to be respectful and give the other party the benefit of the doubt. If they persist with their rude, disrespectful and crass comments , we quickly add them to our block list. A pity that the few rotten apples, spoil it for the decent, well mannered, classy males.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"I do not send messages as I am a trial member now......if you want my attention YOU must send me a message...." This isn't as arrogant as its been portrayed in my view....... It simply says I'm not wanting to be a member so if you're interested it's up to you.....that's hardly arrogant, it's assertive, and decisive..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
"I can be a little arrogant & self centred but I love life...and love to fuck!! " Context is everything...... Everyone can be a little arrogant and self centred.....where's the issue lying exactly?? I don't have an issue with people making claims about others, but at least quote the whole statement not just what supports your emotive bandwagon - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, I agree with what you are saying, but arrogance is a turn off to me personally. Confidence, however, is a turn on, theres a difference. Going by his posts, he doesn't appeal to me, but what we are all looking for is our own personal preference. To me, reading his profile, hes full of himself, and his photos justify why, no arguing he is fit and looks good, but thats just my opinion and Im entitled to have one. I like guys who are confident and comfortable in their own skin but dont make you feel as if they are doing you a favour by showing interest in you. I just answered his post because the OP asked a question, and Fun_Seeker didnt seem to like the answers?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Context is everything. Personally, I think that the OP has set this subject up for controversy - success OP. Me personally, I have met some amazing men on here, including fun_seeker who is not portrayed well here by the forum regulars who seem intent on misquoting and misapplying what he seems to say. I too have now opened myself up to the regular gatekeepers of these forums to misquote and misapply what I am saying. Its the reason I generally wont comment too much here. I have nothing negative to say about any man in here OP except if a guy is a dick I block and move on. Simple. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't see an issue with what you've said regarding his posts, I don't think they show him in a good light at all. But, the way his profile has been quoted, says what about those who have quoted it??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Profiles are quoted on the Forums all the time, we put up our profiles for public scrutiny so I cant see a problem with people quoting lines from them? If you have an issue with me personally, thats ok, dont pussy foot around it just tell me straight! Im a big girl...I know I probably bug a few people on here but I dont really care, Ive learned that what others think or say about me is none of my business. As far as the Forums go, Im entitled to post what I want to post? If someone doesnt like it, tough titty
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RHP User
10 years ago
nope I don't have a problem with you... I have an issue with misquoting the words from a profile...not an issue with quoting the profile..... It misrepresents the person entirely when the words that are left out change the context and interpretation of what's written. - Posted from rhpmobile
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