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My week of horrible messages
January 18 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
hi there would you like to fuck me right now I mean right now
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RHP User
11 years ago
My profile says I try to reply to all messages received, and I do. I think it costs nothing to take a moment to reply, even if it is with a template reply. However I've stopped replying to messages that offend me, insult me or demonstrate to me with absolute certainty that the person couldn't be arsed reading my profile before messaging me. I read into that kind of thing and I make no apologies for doing it. But I just wanted to say, before this thread gets filled up with misandristic babble by the man hating crowd that seem to fill the halls of the forums these days, that it isn't just new members who do this and you can't make generalisations about the kind of men who do it. So long as people confuse this site with a hook-up site (and that is a separate debate all on it's own!), this will keep happening. You can get indignant, you can get annoyed and frustrated, but you hold the ultimate power as the recipient of the above vile message OP. Silence. I probably wouldn't have replied to that message you received simply because it fails my one-liner test. Flirty x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
similar theme to the one I started a while back regarding newbies.*I got shot down for suggesting that after a few knock backs they start to learn manners.*If they can't read your profile and understand it ... then they don't deserve a reply because their arrogance is beyond caring what you are looking for. It's all about them don't you know! Hope this week is a better one for you. HugsLG
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Based on those outstanding messages I say obviously not 'gentlemen' who enjoy a pre dinner drink, and a three of four course meal. If fact such class that you wounded if they can use a knife and fork. .....Too many food references in my posts, must be time to prepare dinner.
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Wonder not wounded
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been on RHP 7 months and I've had a couple of messages that were a bit up front but almost all have been ok, some from people that don't fit my profile but pleasant, I always reply and never had an abusive response....maybe I've just been lucky to date. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
ok yes the message you received was very rude,but it sounds like you receive quite a few of them so why havent you learned to not antagonise these rude individuals by refering to them with such names as idiot as this will obvisouly only lead them to becoming even more rude towards you,and instead, as soon as you realise where the conversation maybe heading just stop replying hit the block button and be done with it/or them for good??????????, i have red many posts from many different types of women in these forums complaining about how rude some messages are that they have received whilst being members on this site which i acknowledge is absolutely true but why do alot of women think that/and or hope the only messages they will receive will be of a kind and polite nature when surely everyone knows that these types of sites attract so many people both male and female who are not adverse to being rude and impolite when messageing other members,unfortunately it is just like it is in real life,example yesterday im driving along anzac parade through maroubra junction when a woman dart's out of nowhere and almost ends up being run over by myself,luckily im very famililar with this stretch of road and had adjusted my speed for such an event and was actually being very aware of this occuring so i had enough time and awareness to take evasive action,what was the womens reaction to all of this,she stands there in the middle of the road and verbally threatens me with pyshical harm and uses every graphic swear word there is to abuse me,and all this from a women who i guess was approximately between 40 and 50 years old,so as i was saying unfortunately this site is no different to the real world its just the way it is i guess not that it makes it ok to act this way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Other than plenty of respectful messages don't get replies at all... I personally wouldn't reply to trash like what you have described... All I can suggest is DO reply to respectful messages, encourage the members who are respectful, who do read your profile, by giving them a reply. Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am astounded that anyone would talk to anyone else here like that and expect it to engender a favourable response. Simple courtesies and manners will go a long way. Everyone should start from the basis that they don't know anyone (reading a profile and looking at photos is superficial knowing someone) and that they need to get to know someone first. Some people might randomly want to just into bed with because they feel an instants insatiable attraction and others won't. Its not hard and its not a game. Hook up, have fun and enjoy the company of others in whatever way you mutually agree to do so. Enjoy ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
What do you mean confuse this site for a hook up site? That is what we are all doing isn't it?!? Hooking up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I totally understand your frustration and how you get to the point where you start having a go at the men sending you messages, but you have definitely provoked his responses to be honest. I know it gets tedious answering the same old same old, but what do you expect when you respond like that? This is why I don't do the email thing anymore. At the end of the day I decided that I have provocative pictures up and I used to write quite outrageous things on the forums so I couldn't blame blokes for getting the wrong end of the stick about me. At the end of the day I am not interested in average hook ups therefore I am just here for the forums. Which I used to receive abusive emails about, apparently the fact that some people are here only for the forums is completely outrageous and I must have no life.... So I just don't accept emails at all. I am happier that way. By the way I love the cross trainer joke. What a smart arse.!! Lol.
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6exxy
11 years ago
Ugliness is never good but it seems to like it here on RHP. Where there any other horrible messages this week or just this one? We are never going to play nice as some people just don't mix. It is what it is. Some people come here for sex. Some get it, some don't. Idiots generally don't and we move on 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was from a guy in his 30's with a sexy pic of him posing all debonair like in a white dressing gown and his profile name was SexyKola or something like that. And his message to me was "I would love to suck on those big titties" All I could think of was a kola biting my nipples and clawing my tits to shreds. Ewww!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Although I do not get too many messages anymore. Personally I don't find his first message abusive nor demeaning at all. Just a polite "No Thanks tho thank you for responding to my message" would of been enough. I will say, his responses were uncalled for and very immature.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Get many messages and most of them may be minimalist in content but in three years I have only ever had one that was vile.I occasionally reply to flirts but rarely...a nasty exchange indeed xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
It true meeka I did provoke him but yes I get tired of the same old messages. Taking on board must try and not provoke the animals. Only reply kindly to those made an effort to send half decent message. mwah to all thought the new trading currency was a interesting tac as well :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
OK.... so... its a shame that so many guys feel that acting like a borderline sex-offender.... is effective communication in here. But.... there is a silver lining It makes it easier for some of us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Weve met a couple of times and you are a very lovely and fun lady. I think some guys dont think of us as people with feelings, just women who must be gagging for a shagging. But for all of these men who write messages like that, there are the gentlemen on the site, the good blokes, who are genuine and respectful. Ive met a few of them and have made some great friends, and as you say, they are very much appreciated. Better to ignore those messages, but I can understand you getting frustrated. I still remember the Grey Ghost who sent me a message wanting me to meet him in a local park later that night after dark. Who said romance was dead?
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RHP User
11 years ago
That this week brings you a better quality of message Much love,Elle xx
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
your not a tranny. I don't get a surprise with those type. I get surprised by a normal message.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
See you've joined the club. Our arses look like they're having a conversation! And yours is looking very delicious........mmmmm
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hope that the idiots don't ruin it for us genuine guys that would just like to strike uo conversation and make some kind of connection with people ? Oh hang on, that's why I never get responses , sorry if my messages have upset anyone , here's is the place to shoot me down if they have. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sadly it's this fools that carry on like he did with you that makes us all appear in that same boat :(( not all us mere males are that way....
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RHP User
11 years ago
...& probably about 15 by the sounds of him! he can't get what he wants so has to resort to name calling. maybe when his pubes grow,his maturity & intellect may also...but i doubt it! so what massages do you like o sliky one? haha..jokes :-) nice to have the block button
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RHP User
11 years ago
Annie, couldn't resist the opportunity to flash my buns :) Wonder what our arses are saying to each other!? Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
What are they?
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RHP User
11 years ago
this guy sound even younger than me, lol. i haven't seen this thing where they start slashing words at your face after get rejected for a while now. that was super immature, tbh, the way he talk sound funnily young mind too (not that i'm any older) but i think it also rude to say idiot and find hooker stuff, there are people find the joy in having sex with strangers or random people. just be nice and explain that it not what you looking for. for me i'd want to have sex experience with different friendly people too, and would probably asking something similar unless looking for long term friend, which is another thing... but yeah you should have stop at "read the goddamn profile" *full stop*. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why is it when someone agrees to sleep with a person, they're gorgeous but when they are rejected, they call them fat? Seriously, that's hurtful and is a reflection on the character of the person saying it. Ms Silk, you won't be able to please everyone. No one can. Don't take it personally as that person doesn't know you and you don't know him. Anyway, our interactions have been cordial, even when you decided I wasn't the droid you were looking for. All the best. 2015 is a new year and hope you meet some (more) nice people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You called him an idiot, he called your friends sluts and you reported him? What was the response from RHP to that? I can see your frustration Ms Silk, but I don't think you painted yourself in the most favourable light here. Though very off-putting to me personally, I don't think this guy's initial two messages were rude or insulting. To answer your questions: I very rarely get messages just asking for sex. Actually the most annoying ones I receive are the template ones from people travelling to Sydney, sent to probably a dozen other women. To my personal (friendly) "no thanks" template replies I've probably received less than 10 angry/rude/nasty responses in over two years. Most men actually write being thanking me for responding.(I get many more rude responses on vanilla sites. The most insulting message there last year was from a guy saying he was surprised I said no as the fat ones are usually grateful for the attention.) Strangest RHP message this week: a completely blank one. That was a first.
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RHP User
11 years ago
all the women on here , do you often receive these messages ? Glad I have manners , I couldn't write that if I tried ! I guess Rhp will be a lonely experience for that guy ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
He tried to send me a picture... ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Over the 6 months ive been on here, ive gotten the basic one liner message of" lets get together tonight with phone number. And of course, that makes me feel that they dont care what vagina they poke into, and they are just hoping for pot luck. Because of these approaches, ive put that in my profile and explained that i need to get to know someone to see if there is a connection and chemistry.Well isnt half the excitement having someone who knows how to push your buttons, turn you on before you even meet them? Well it is for me.yes i am on here for sexual experiences. I love the dance of attraction. Its the buildup that makes the initial meet so damn hot.( Oh and i had a close up pic of my nipple as my profile pic before and would get a one liner message saying they like my nipple. thats fine to me, I put it out there.So thats a compliment.So anyway, after still recieving these one liner no thought messages with phone numbers, i thought about why they do it when they obviously dont get to score that way.They are new on here and after going through profile pics, seeing all the sexy provocative beautiful pics of tits and bums,it leads them to think thats what we want. And i doubt they read what we want. They will learn after the 5th or so rejection that maybe that approach wont work. But then maybe it does for some women. Wonder if any woman would be game enough to share that they had hooked up just from that type of approach.probs not because they would be shot down. So my thoughts on this is, I chose to put up very provocative pics on my profile. Yes im putting myself out there. So i am going to attract ppl that think im easy meat. I just dont reply to them now. They will learn it doesnt work. I did recieve a message last week that said" would you give me an erotic massage for a cash donation" i did write back to that one. Simply" theres establshments for what you want" then i reported it to pie. Has any other ladies recieved one for money? I know the guys get a lot.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just looked at your profile as from your picture I see NOTHING that suggests you are on the big side. This bloke must only after anorexic super model types because his ascertain was obviously wrong. Even my 4yo having a serious tanty hasn't resorted to verbal abuse like that yet. Oh did I mention I am not 6ft :-( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is a response. I don't get bothered or annoyed by messages or things that don't float my boat on here. Everyone on this site is on their own path. Sometimes that will match my path and a great connection will be made. If it doesn't match, I'm happy to let the other person just continue on their path. Who am I to say there's anything wrong with their choice/approach? Sure, it doesn't work for me and it's socially moronic, but it might catch them just the right person for them at some point. So I ignore, delete, and let them be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't get bombarded with messages here and I must say the majority of them have been ok. I also don't do random hookups and if I receive messages like that then I just say a polite thanks but no thanks and never have I received an abusive one in reply, I usually just get a reply saying thanks for relying. I personally would have not kept going with this guy, just shut it down straight away if youre not liking where it's going.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I was having a rough trot last week too and making my feelings known in the forum too. It does get frustrating, disheartening and annoying in here at times but then, as you say; there's the people who mAke it worth it. I asked my gf's how they deal with such messages because I too respond to all messages. Now I've changed my mind. Silence/blocking is a response and sometimes the best one. Think of it this way, if these less than desirable people keep getting blocked/ignored they'll eventually learn another more respectful approach or leave. Either way it strengthens the gene pool. I've stated I'm looking for a relationship in my profile now (for those who could be bothered to read a profile) and my offending messages have dropped significantly 👍 ....err come to think of it.....so have my flirts 😱. Thanks to all who gave me some tough love last week and brought my ire back down to mellow. Chin up Ms Silk and others, there are genuinely nice Ladies and Gentlemen here worth investing in mentally then if your lucky, sexually as well. don't hold your breath for the latter though. 😇 Indy cautiously optimistic again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do realise that I was at some fault as well and normally do just respond with a kind no thanks. As I said was the last of several messages that week that werent very polite. Just letting off some steam and that juvenile just happened to be the last straw. It just means that I cant be 100% polite 100% of the time. I think Im working at about 97% as some of my other RHPers have mentioned. Perhaps you may like to review the others I was sent that were replied with a kind no thanks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I read stuff like (the original post) I feel ashamed to be part of the same gender...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why would new members join and send messages about sex? Well here are some of the marketing messages from the RHP home page at the top - RedHotPie everybody's doing it. further down- RHP Mobile Get it on the go. at the bottom of the page - RedHotPie is a premier internet dating site for hot girls, hot guys and sexy couples. Whether you are looking for free sex or adult personals RedHotPie will help you find friends, romance & relationships. Other features include singles events, adult chat rooms and adult dating for singles and swingers. You’ll also find monthly amateur pics with sexy woman that could well be the girl next door. etc, etc, etc .....To join RHP is free online dating site. Most guys would probably focus on the words highlighted in bold text - Hot girls, free sex, adult dating, sexy women Right or wrong these words also reflect the image RHP has in the online dating marketplace. Can anybody see how these marketing messages could kinda give a new guy the expectation that he can join, contact local women and get free sex? and how they might react when they are called an idiot for trying? The above may be just one example in an entire week of horrible messages, but given it's the one put forward - His first two messages weren't exactly smooth, but they weren't all that bad were they? He was eluding to massages, that's kinda romantic, letting you know that he had his own place in Perth, how to contact him and offering to send pics. It went downhill when he was judged as an idiot. Maybe he was also looking for a partner whom wants to play together and seeking a relationship with a little kink, but doesn't yet have the experience to go about it the way you want or expect him to.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree265'Has any other ladies recieved one for money? I know the guys get a lot. but in a previous incarnation I received one asking me to be part of the 'entertainment' at a buck's night. Apparently he was willing to fly 'select' women from all over the country to Adelaide, so they could prance around naked or semi-naked at the event...and if willing to, provide the guys with 'optional extras'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'YogaFlow' Why would new members join and send messages about sex? Well here are some of the marketing messages from the RHP home page at the top - RedHotPie everybody's doing it. further down- RHP Mobile Get it on the go. at the bottom of the page - RedHotPie is a premier internet dating site for hot girls, hot guys and sexy couples. Whether you are looking for free sex or adult personals RedHotPie will help you find friends, romance & relationships. Other features include singles events, adult chat rooms and adult dating for singles and swingers. You’ll also find monthly amateur pics with sexy woman that could well be the girl next door. etc, etc, etc .....To join RHP is free online dating site. Most guys would probably focus on the words highlighted in bold text - Hot girls, free sex, adult dating, sexy women Right or wrong these words also reflect the image RHP has in the online dating marketplace. Can anybody see how these marketing messages could kinda give a new guy the expectation that he can join, contact local women and get free sex? and how they might react when they are called an idiot for trying? The above may be just one example in an entire week of horrible messages, but given it's the one put forward - His first two messages weren't exactly smooth, but they weren't all that bad were they? He was eluding to massages, that's kinda romantic, letting you know that he had his own place in Perth, how to contact him and offering to send pics. It went downhill when he was judged as an idiot. Maybe he was also looking for a partner whom wants to play together and seeking a relationship with a little kink, but doesn't yet have the experience to go about it the way you want or expect him to. I get the point youre making. But.....as a parallel.... If I asked you if you bought a Coke over Pepsi because of the advertising, would you say "yes"? I think I know what your answer would be. To apportion blame on the advertising is to remove the element of personal choice in behaviour. So.... so called sex site or not... people choose to act like sex offenders, dribbling weirdos and general dumabrses. In here, or in the real world beyond... people are still...people.... with standards, tolerances and certain expectations on what is and isnt acceptable behaviour. It takes some guys a LOT longer to learn what doesnt work for them.... and some, never learn it. Most people call this Social Intelligence. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Whether or not Ms Silks response was warranted... is kind of irrelevant. Its clear the messages she received were at best.... irritating. What is pretty typical though, is the petulant ego-driven response from the guy. He thought Ms Silk was a fair target for his sexual interests...... until.... she rejected them. THEN... she was suddenly beneath him, and open for abuse simply because his brittle little ego couldnt handle the fact that the failing was within himself. Dude...... I hope youre reading this...... you're pathetic, weak, ignorant, and far from a Man. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
there is a clear difference between fun sex addicts and people who just can not normally pick up out side on their own very well and think somehow with finding a group of open sex lovers they will have every door open for them. this goes both for the ladies and the gents btw. its not very attractive for a woman completely smelling of bear and smokes to just walk into a group having a conversation in a swingers club stop the conversation rudely and ask for everyone to flop out their gigantic cocks for her to see weather she wants to fuck it or not !! "yes that just happened last weekend". the fact that the lady actually thought that any one decent looking with self respect with a huge cock would even consider her at that state was interesting on its own.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So on the one hand we have a cohort of women (understandably) disappointed at the crude shit messages they get. And on the other a cohort of men who read profiles and write nice messages and yet are totally ignored. It's a clusterfuck !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Puppydog_Eyes' Quoting 'willowtree265'Has any other ladies recieved one for money? I know the guys get a lot. but in a previous incarnation I received one asking me to be part of the 'entertainment' at a buck's night. Apparently he was willing to fly 'select' women from all over the country to Adelaide, so they could prance around naked or semi-naked at the event...and if willing to, provide the guys with 'optional extras'. what a great idea lol, i'll have to remember THAT ONE next time i'm tying the knot rotflmao
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Sometimes, rarely, but sometimes.....I think I could love you 😇
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' He thought Ms Silk was a fair target for his sexual interests...... until.... she rejected them. He thought Ms Silk was a fair target for his sexual interests...... until.... she called him an idiot and told him to get a hooker. Slight difference? Ms Silk, I'm not trying to diss you in any way, and I certainly get that after a bunch of messages just like this one you (or I for that matter) could snap at a guy that may or may not deserve it, but whose drivel is the last straw. It's certainly not up to me to decide how anyone should respond to repulsive messages, I just personally don't believe two wrongs make a right.
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RHP User
11 years ago
was from bloody Jetstar 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meander..... you know from receiving long porn story templates, offers to shag you as if they're doing you a favour, or.. even polite messages from people you're not interested in..... Meander.... Ms_silk seems to me like she felt her time was wasted by a serial flirt sender. She was prepared to give the guy the time in his email, but, he wasted it. He failed. Sure, she could have reacted differently...... but you have to admit that even when you reply with a polite "no thank you"... you still earn aggressive replies of "why not"s... and abuse as to why you suddenly don't have a chance fucking them anyway, because you're a (insert any number pif offensive accusations in this space). Ive seen it from two friends email inboxes, shared over a few wines. And one well known guy who collects friends sent one of these ladies a series of abusive messages after she politely declined him and his multiple friend requests.. Sometimes..... RHP just needs a "Tazer that dumbarse" button
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RHP User
11 years ago
damn computer gremlins.... but, you get the idea
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' you have to admit that even when you reply with a polite "no thank you"... you still earn aggressive replies of "why not"s... and abuse as to why you suddenly don't have a chance fucking them anyway, because you're a (insert any number pif offensive accusations in this space). I still don't fully understand why some women get nasty responses to their seemingly pleasant rejections, while others mainly receive "thank you for replying" ones. Anyone?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Please don't take me the wrong way, I wasn't playing a blame game, nor condoning his behaviour. It was just my answer to the question asked Will someone please tell me why new members join and send messages. That make you think that there opinion is that all women on this site are free hookers. Or was it a rhetoric question?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used to get loads of messages when I was online dating, yet I only met up with 5 people in four years for one on one dates/first meets, ergo I politely declined 99% of messages. I never received a why not, or an abusive response. Therefore, it is all about how you word your reply. I appreciate that it must be frustrating as all fuck for men to send all those messages with no responses. Yes, occasionally I would get fed up with the generic emails but I knew that was time for me to step away and have a break from RHP emails. Is it only me then that thinks that cross trainer joke was funny? I probably would have laughed and sent a smart arse reply back. Although........ admittedly the "ok fatty" line would have annoyed me though. Hmmm. But I suppose I have a juvenile sense of humour at times.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'YogaFlow' Will someone please tell me why new members join and send messages. That make you think that there opinion is that all women on this site are free hookers. Or was it a rhetoric question? I feel like that when I get an email that makes it obvious that they have no interest in me as a person at all. They just want to meet up for sex without any real pleasantries, a wham bam type of thing. Messages like " hi my wife will be out from 10 - 2 tomorrow if you want to come over for sex" as a first message, or "Hi I am in town on Tuesday and have free time at 10am, I am staying in a 5 star hotel if you are up for it." At the end of the day, I have come to the conclusion FROM MY OWN OBSERVATIONS AND MY OWN EXPERIENCES OF RHP AND MEETING MEN IN THE BI SCENE that there is a hell of a lot of guys that will bonk anything with a pulse. It is just a fuck to them, and by that I mean the person they are bonking is quite often not important at all or totally irrelevant. That is why there are all those men's clubs where blokes go in and fuck each other stupid without evening having to exchange a word. Or the dark rooms they have where you can't even see the person you are touching. I am fairly sure a place like that for women, wouldn't ever work.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OF course I have met women like that as well, but it SEEMS to be that men are much more like that than women are. Possibly because we have been conditioned to be "good girls" AGAIN THIS IS MY OWN OBSERVATIONS... I am not saying it is a fact.
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RHP User
11 years ago
@ Yoga... no.... I saw your position.... you weren't making excuses... its cool. To respond to the "its how you reply"..... Im going to disagree.Reading emails with two friends in their mailboxes, there were the polite replies to the "no thank you" response to first contact. But there were also a number of "why not"s and abuse, along the lines of the fat/slut/scabby pussy approach I can even recall three profile names... very clearly... where several more abusive emails were sent by the guy to follow up his first rejection, and subsequent lack of a reply from the woman.And that is the reason why a number of women have said they don't even reply with a "no thank you" in previous topics on this subject.... because ether know what may come after that. Some guys are clearly very brittle and challenged.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think the only pattern that truly exists is that different people will behave differently on here. Some men send great first messages. Lots of men send really crap, overly-sexual, haven't read my profile, just want to fuck messages. For a long time I had a very pleasant and polite auto-reply. Much of the time men would say thanks, some men however abused the hell out of me for it. These days I get very few messages, so I generally reply personally. Again, I pleasantly and politely decline and most men say thanks but some men abuse me. It shouldn't really surprise anyone that some men do/say awful/stupid/moronic things. Or that some women do. People are different, it's as simple as that. DG, I completely agree that a lot of men don't learn from their mistakes. They want a particular outcome but act in a way that will almost never achieve it. Sigh. Meeka, I completely agree that a very large number of men would fuck anything on offer. It pays to be realistic and discerning folks.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I still don't fully understand why some women get nasty responses to their seemingly pleasant rejections, while others mainly receive "thank you for replying" ones. Anyone? In my opinion it's the guys that think they are pinching below their weight that get abusive when rejected. some even say as much in their messages when responding to a 'polite template no thanks' Name calling and personal insults become the norm.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
that's punching not pinching
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RHP User
11 years ago
There was a great article in the West and again on ABC local radio about people being angry. Which perhaps is what caused the nasty words, and outbursts by people on here. There was this lovely lady Diane on the radio who pretty much said, people take in all the horrible things going on around them and finally explode..usually to their loved ones, or perhaps to total strangers on RHP. After all, if you said that to a stranger in real life, there is a good chance you will get a punch or a slap. Hence, the anonymity of the net is safety blanket. Of course, it doesn't work in Perth as everyone, knows everyone else. Yes, we are that small. So, perhaps the resolution for 2015 is to reduce negativity in our lives and learn to calm down. Now, that is something I can do :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' In my opinion it's the guys that think they are pinching below their weight that get abusive when rejected. Are you saying than that women who may be considered less "conventionally" attractive cop more abuse here? That's sad, if that's really the case.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I dont really know what you mean by conventionally attractive? i can only go on my experience. I have an ok face and have been told throughout my life I am attractive but I have a larger body then society and magazines would tell me is beautiful. I get lots of messages from guys with gorgeous bodies that they obviously work hard for. These guys would certainly fuck me in secret but no way will they be seen in public with me (again not all but I believe most of the ones that have contacted me) I think we are all aware there is "real life attractive" and there's "rhp attractive" in my experience the guys that have gotten abusive to me when i say no 90% of the time are these kind of guys. early on I didn't screen well and it happened many times. It can be hard on your self esteem you really do need a thick skin to partake in this game. for you I see a beautiful woman confident and sell assured and my thoughts would be most men on here either think of you as equal or above their weight so hence no abuse to you. I truly believe we cools both send exactly the same "no thanks" message and I would cop abuse and you would not. That's just life in Rhp land.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly what you said, what society as a whole would consider good looking. I said it that way because of course everyone has their own ideas of what they find attractive. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you, but I have insecurities too when it comes to my body. I'm certainly no size 10 twenty-something any more. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' Is a response. I don't get bothered or annoyed by messages or things that don't float my boat on here. Everyone on this site is on their own path. Sometimes that will match my path and a great connection will be made. If it doesn't match, I'm happy to let the other person just continue on their path. Who am I to say there's anything wrong with their choice/approach? Sure, it doesn't work for me and it's socially moronic, but it might catch them just the right person for them at some point. So I ignore, delete, and let them be. - Posted from rhpmobile Hi Burning, I so so disagree with you that "silence is a response" apart from the obvious problem with what the word response actually means. Somebody has spent money on this site to send you a message. Whilst there is no compulsion to reply, it is polite to just send a no thanks. If the messenger is reasonable he/she/they will accept your decision. If they are a prick they will reply with a nasty message (save them for a new forum) and hit the block button. For me, I act here the same way I would in real life, if I meet somebody I respond and expect them to do the same. It costs nothing to be nice and I think we could all be better off if we start being nice here on RHP...... So Burning - rise above it all and just be nice.........
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
much depends on your state of mind at the time. I get a lot of the one liner " Wanna a quick fuck" messages. I always(almost) reply but the contents vary on the moment. From polite to blunt. And sometimes if i have time on my hands, I decide to have some fun and lead them on down the garden path. I do a bit of a head fuck on them one could say. Over a period of time, the one liner initial hit up becomes a 40 message tennis rally, sometimes over days. Most of( well maybe not most)are normal guys when you strip away that primal hunting facade that puts out that stereo type message that makes us want to close our legs tight. Just the way they have been conditioned to hunt. A manly rough initial assault to grab the cave woman and drag them to the cave. Fuck them and then off to hunt for food. But yeah have found some good natured guys that have been worthwhile peeling the layers back to get to know and occasionally get to meet in person finding them to be no different to those that had the acceptable pick up lines. Perhaps better. No different to a bar. There are pick up lines and there are pick up lines. If you verbally attack someone
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
If you verbally attack someone for a bad pick-up line, you may get a drink in your face. Here, you might get called a name or 2. Just food for thought. They may have lousy lines but some of them are great guys who don't know better in a sandpit that is different to anything else out there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Contacts me,I always say,"while I am incredibly flattered ,you are way too hot for me."...no one has ever abused me for that.😊xxFreya
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Thank you. 👌
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RHP User
11 years ago
MissB I agree, that is most likely one of the reasons. Freya, I would also say something like "you are gorgeous, cute, have amazing body, etc ... But I am too old for you, or I am just an average woman, " often they would reply that beauty is in the eye of the beholder which is absolutely true. But still.... :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't put it down to just "new members" who can be rude. I have been on RHP for 15 months now and the worse Member that I came across was in December of last year. Being the "Membership Level" he was, I didn't expect such abysmal behaviour from him !!! He was obnoxious and extremely "unpleasant" to say the least when I refused to meet him. I didn't resort to "calling him names" but his behaviour did take me by surprise. I actually did the opposite by granting him access to both my PGs. I thought that it would help dissipate "the situation". When he responded me by calling me "ugly" and found my PG pics "hilarious", that's when I wrote : "Thank you for your kind comments, good Sir" and he couldn't respond to that !!! I then told my husband about this particular Member and he had him "Blocked". I also removed all access to my PGs. Lastly, I informed all the other female RHP Members that I know. I didn't bother to report him to RHP. I saw no point in it. It is sufficient that the other RHP women were informed, in case they ever came across him. My husband told me that being on a Site like RHP, I was bound to get some "nasties". Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi ladies as a male I think it is disgusting to talk to anyone like that and it does not matter what site it is you can show respect to people so I guess I am saying sorry to you all for all the blokes out there that are not like that so please don't tar us all with the same bush. Cheers
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RHP User
11 years ago
Brush I meant
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I totally understand your frustration and how you get to the point where you start having a go at the men sending you messages, but you have definitely provoked his responses to be honest. I know it gets tedious answering the same old same old, but what do you expect when you respond like that? This is why I don't do the email thing anymore. At the end of the day I decided that I have provocative pictures up and I used to write quite outrageous things on the forums so I couldn't blame blokes for getting the wrong end of the stick about me. At the end of the day I am not interested in average hook ups therefore I am just here for the forums. Which I used to receive abusive emails about, apparently the fact that some people are here only for the forums is completely outrageous and I must have no life.... So I just don't accept emails at all. I am happier that way. By the way I love the cross trainer joke. What a smart arse.!! Lol. I have been on here just for the forums for what seems like forever now .... but funny enough with the situation reversed as a guy I don't get inundated with messages (I don't get a single message to be exact unless its from other forum peeps) nor do I ever get accused of not having a life because me or ms araps doesn't swing. Unfortunately its just a gender thing Cheers, W.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That posting private correspondence in a public forum is bad form.
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RHP User
11 years ago
…I do agree with your opinion, that it's guys that think they are punching below their weight that get aggressivewhen rejected. But I don't think it's that simple. Almost all of us here would unconsciously( or not ) have a "Bar" or "Standard" that they use to compare themselves to those around them….whether it's about looks, intelligence, whatever…Unless you compare yourself to the Dalai Lama. Anyone? When I look into myself….I haven't reacted with hostility to any rejection, above or below the bar. Incidentally, I place my bar smack bang in the middle….I don't consider myself handsome nor unattractive, though I recognise those attributes in others. From what I've read, most of the men on the forums appear similar…just going from their opinions, anyway. These agressive reactions are likely more personal to them. Just my thoughts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I dont really know what you mean by conventionally attractive? i can only go on my experience. I have an ok face and have been told throughout my life I am attractive but I have a larger body then society and magazines would tell me is beautiful. I get lots of messages from guys with gorgeous bodies that they obviously work hard for. These guys would certainly fuck me in secret but no way will they be seen in public with me (again not all but I believe most of the ones that have contacted me) I think we are all aware there is "real life attractive" and there's "rhp attractive" in my experience the guys that have gotten abusive to me when i say no 90% of the time are these kind of guys. early on I didn't screen well and it happened many times. It can be hard on your self esteem you really do need a thick skin to partake in this game. for you I see a beautiful woman confident and sell assured and my thoughts would be most men on here either think of you as equal or above their weight so hence no abuse to you. I truly believe we cools both send exactly the same "no thanks" message and I would cop abuse and you would not. That's just life in Rhp land. As I guy I believe that "unconventially attractive" women would receive more abusive message. There is a fair proportion of guys that would be happy for hookup sex with someone they see "below them" :-/ attractiveness wise, but would never have any intention of having a relationship with that person for that reason (attractiveness). Then they be on vanilla sites waiting and waiting for the so called stunner who highly likely is no chance of being into adventurous sex or perhaps not really into sex at all. When they then get rejected by the woman they they see as "below them" and their "sense of entitlement" they then show their true colors with name calling. A woman is only a fat slut if she rejects him . Its sad and pathetic ..... and then guys wonder why the ratio of women to men on sites such as these are so low .... its cause of the 80-90% of guys on here who are entitled fwits and don't treat women with respect that there aren't more women on here or the majority run like Forrest Gump after the first 24hrs and inundated with messages like this. Rant over, Cheers W.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tend to agree with Mr Serenity, RHP's free sex site image (whether right, wrong, good, bad, intentional or not) is bound to attract a larger proportion of people who only message about having sex, compared to many other sites. There are probably much worse sites than RHP for that behaviour, the Internet is full of costly "sign up now and fuck local women tonight" banners, messaging and sites. This means there must be plenty of fools who believe in, relate to, or are sucked in by that type of marketing. That's marketing is reality, somewhat out of your control and unlikely to change. But how you respond to the nasties is totally within your control and has the potential to bring about change even if it's one nasty at a time. Plus you have all this friendly forum support to get you through the tough weeks. Good luck Ms_silk, hope you meet the right guy soon.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and to the brave men who supported your thoughts...kudos to you as well. I think you have hit the nail on the head, different responses from men as far whether or not they feel they are "punching" above or below their weight. My standard- polite "thanks..as my profile says, I am seeking someone closer to my age...or lives locally , have fun out there thanks reply, has elicited many different types of responses here...I would say 60% are along the lines of "ha, as if I would really want to fuck you, you ugly wrinkly old cunt" Really pleasant to receive those ones. So I would have to say that age also plays a part in the abusive reply messages as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is utterly disgusting! How dare they. I bet it is an age thing as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
it is utterly disgusting. Lucky for me, the barbs dont penetrate my wrinkly old skin.... What does amaze me....is the number of times I have received , nearly word for word, the same message. Now these come from different ages, different profiles, different states....so I would have to think they are not the same person. So it appears it is a pretty standard group of words that are used when rejected.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' That is utterly disgusting! How dare they. I bet it is an age thing as well. Its an ego thing. Brittle, deflated, rejected ego. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just because someone has spent money on this site, or on anything else , does not mean that I am obligated to reply to every message. I don't care how you spend your money. . And I don't reply to any rude, passive-agressive or negging messages that appear in my inbox. I don't need the angst.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is school holidays. The message you received sounds like it came from a teenager who wanted to wank.
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RHP User
11 years ago
been fairly lucky and only received a couple of abusive responses when I've turned men down on here and other online dating sites (adult and 'vanilla). But I also don't bother to reply to certain types of messages, if I replied to all of them I'm sure I'd get a few more nasty words back. There is a tumblr called "Online Dating is Literally the Worst", by a woman chronicling the messages she receives on an online dating site. She gets some absolute crap (much of that because she freely admits in her profile that she is overweight). But she is also wicked with words and some of her comebacks are hilarious.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'"ha, as if I would really want to fuck you, you ugly wrinkly old cunt" Really pleasant to receive those ones. So I would have to say that age also plays a part in the abusive reply messages as well. Maybe: "Unkind words and thoughtless snubs, are but the echoes of a small and frightened person" xx Ruby Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Missb72' In my opinion it's the guys that think they are pinching below their weight that get abusive when rejected. Are you saying than that women who may be considered less "conventionally" attractive cop more abuse here? That's sad, if that's really the case. Wellll... This guy is quite obviously a retard. I'm from Perth too. #represent #perthisawesome #wa in-line hashtags. Gotta love em ;) xtothez
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RHP User
11 years ago
These small number of me could also be sitting at home with half a dozen drinks under their belt when they write these hurtful stupid responses. Not that its an excuse for it
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didnt make my comments to receive any sympathy .....just to highlight (as if it needed highlighting) the fact that many women (probably men as well ) do receive all types of abusive messages to very polite "no thanks" type of responses. *thanks for the thoughts.....x
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madotara69
11 years ago
I know you have a thick skin Ruby, more so than many to your credit. I liked the way you handled yourself in making the point. These type get off on the response, yours would have them feeling the fool. xx Ruby (admirabl'dly)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually like to take the time to read a profile first before initiating contact. If i get shot down after I send a message, i go cry in the corner.............not It pays to be polite even after being rejected imho manners don't cost you anything on here Natural
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RHP User
11 years ago
He only asked you if you liked water based massages!!!!! it wasn't that bad was it?? Quoting 'Meeka100' I totally understand your frustration and how you get to the point where you start having a go at the men sending you messages, but you have definitely provoked his responses to be honest. I know it gets tedious answering the same old same old, but what do you expect when you respond like that? This is why I don't do the email thing anymore. At the end of the day I decided that I have provocative pictures up and I used to write quite outrageous things on the forums so I couldn't blame blokes for getting the wrong end of the stick about me. At the end of the day I am not interested in average hook ups therefore I am just here for the forums. Which I used to receive abusive emails about, apparently the fact that some people are here only for the forums is completely outrageous and I must have no life.... So I just don't accept emails at all. I am happier that way. By the way I love the cross trainer joke. What a smart arse.!! Lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
One man, who was about 15 years younger than myself, sent quite a nice friendly message and my reply was: Me: thanks for you message but you are too young for me Him: wow aren't you a shallow bitch? Glad I didn't get to meet you after all. You're an idiot and a time waster. He then blocked me so I had no chance to reply. I Felt like I'd been knocked across the room. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am having a ball reading what some men are writing to you lovely ladies. Makes me feel better about myself that I can be polite, normal and nice! Such a good laugh but sad at same time that people have no respect - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Paintmegold' Him: wow aren't you a shallow bitch? Glad I didn't get to meet you after all. You're an idiot and a time waster. He then blocked me so I had no chance to reply. I Felt like I'd been knocked across the room. - Posted from rhpmobile What a douche! More than happy to pass on your sentiments to this poor excuse for a male. 15 years younger? Reads more like he's prepubescent 15 years old. Some men just don't handle rejection well at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For the support Enigma and Loins. I'm ok now. Picked myself up and had a cuppa tea. It's forgotten and I would not want to put his name up here anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Members are not permitted to send abusive messages, nor for being 15 years old! I'd report him/it to RHP. It appears to be far too common an occurrence. I understand that members have had their accounts terminated by RHP, irrespectice of how many months their subscription is paid up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't get any :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
The response was that I should not take it personally 😳
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Just had my second abusive message from some random guy. Water off a sluts back I say... Funnily enough the previous messages were all about making to be fwiends... I'd merely pointed out very nicely, even complimenting on that he seemed lovely, that's not what I'm looking for... Instant abuse. Irony being I am getting abused because I only want sex. Geez you can't please anyone... RHP should not only block guys whose message trail reveals abuse and insults, but their t's and c's should be set so they get to keep their $ for the term they signed up for. If rhp want more sexually active women here they need to put protocols into place to guarantee that respect and safety is a priority. We've met some 'awesome single guys' (apparently that's a term).... Thank you to all the true gentlemen out there who empower women to be sexually liberated, and graciously understand that sometimes what you want is different and is just not going to happen.
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