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My week of horrible messages
January 18 2015
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Hadn't read Coastloin's post
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RHP User
11 years ago
The communication started with flirts and whilst the opening message was a little forward this is a dating site aimed squarely at sex as opposed to romance and relationships. Language in arguments always get nasty and its no different (possibly worse) when its electronic, for many new faces this is a highly confusing place to be. As much as he was rude and embarrassing at the end, perhaps some guidance is needed to help emotionally and sexually charged young studs write that first stunning message !
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compressor
11 years ago
unfortunately there will be a lot of people who only think of themselves and do not care about the other person. After all you are not just looking after yourself like a lot of people think
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' Just had my second abusive message from some random guy. Water off a sluts back I say... ... If rhp want more sexually active women here they need to put protocols into place to guarantee that respect and safety is a priority. The site Terms and Conditions state that RHP will cancel the membership (without compensation) of members in breach.. Right down the bottom of the page (need to do on computer browser..not readily avail on mobile site) is the Terms and Conditions...and the Report Abuse page. These rude pricks should be shoved out the door. If they don't handle rejection well via messaging, imagine what they're like when they get through your door or one of your fellow RHPers' door? Offensive and Prohibited Content or BehaviorCasual users, registered users or members of RedHotPie agree to: Refrain from behaving in a manner, which a reasonable user, registered user and/or member of RedHotPie would consider to be offensive, and not in the spirit of the site. Refrain from racist, bigoted, threatening, abusive or other antisocial behavior or posting such content on the site or in chat rooms or any instant messaging feature...RedHotPie retains the right to cancel without compensation the registration or membership of any registered user and/or member who, in RedHotPie's sole discretion, acts in breach of any of the matters listed above.
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RHP User
11 years ago
you insulted him, he insulted you...Im not sure the second insult would have come out if you didn't start it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Whilst some people may not be very 'creative' or diplomatic with their messages, misunderstanding how human beings interact, even on a site like this...when politely told "thanks, but no thanks", it makes no sense to insult or be spiteful.It is like being at a party, and you wish to join some action, or perhaps initiate, but are told simply, 'no thanks'..nothing personal, just move on.Respect really costs nothing and 'manners make the man'.
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ElleWould
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' To my personal (friendly) "no thanks" template replies I've probably received less than 10 angry/rude/nasty responses in over two years. Most men actually write being thanking me for responding. I have something similar and generally it is well received. I get a little annoyed at the guys who write a second time a day or so later when I haven't had a chance to reply and accuse me of being rude. One man wrote me a fairly non-de-script message and followed it up a day later asking why it hadn't deserved a reply. I wrote back, apologised for the delay and let him know politely that he wasn't what I was looking for. Then he wanted to know why not. I didn't respond to that one. A couple of weeks later he wrote again to ask again why I hadn't replied. Again, before I could reply (not that I would have anyway) he wrote again to ask why some people are so rude? I did write back to that one asking if he was talking about me? Or himself? Or if it was a rhetorical question? And followed it up by saying that I really didn't think I had been rude and I was sorry if he thought I had. I got one more message from him telling me to pull the carrot out of my bum and get over myself before he blocked me from him profile. At that point I think I just giggled. The thing I don't understand is how the guy thinks that having a go at me or telling me I'm rude is going to endear him to me and make me want to meet him?!?
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RHP User
11 years ago
alcohol is involved when abusive messages are sent....it drives me nuts when the view is ,this is a sex site,I just need to send a message ....such as the one I received today...want to meet for some fun.....I assume "fun"being a euphemism for sex....he has a profile pic but just all ask me..I did politely respond,I asked him if he could hold a conversation...awaiting a reply xxFreya
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Kattss
11 years ago
I'm very tired of being treated like a free hooker... Or sex line call centre... Or web cam girl... Yes this is an adult site and yes we are all here for the same reason... But I am a real person with feelings. Just a little respect, care and kindness would be nice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps he is holding that conversation rather than having one with you. Ok, bad pun for a Saturday but since no one asked, I had a great night and going to have another great night tonight. Yup, having fun with a great group of people. That is why when people say they are looking for some fun, I ask what do they like to do? Sometimes, fun is getting out of the house and doing something social. Quoting 'Freya79' alcohol is involved when abusive messages are sent....it drives me nuts when the view is ,this is a sex site,I just need to send a message ....such as the one I received today...want to meet for some fun.....I assume "fun"being a euphemism for sex....he has a profile pic but just all ask me..I did politely respond,I asked him if he could hold a conversation...awaiting a reply xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't understand why some people are so rude.... How annoying
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RHP User
11 years ago
You said conversation, he probably read cock and is holding it firmly right now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being from the 'old' world, I had never been verbally abused for refusing a date until I entered the modern online world. No one in their right mind would attack you the way it is possible online for such a minor offence. I was dumped by a 53 year old lover via facebook (posted pics of his new love) Seems this world has taken us many steps back in our relations with each other. Nothing like the real world in my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I noticed that he has registered for an event tonight.Lots of "fun" to be had I am sure 😉xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I message a nice looking female.. with a simple "hi, how are you? came across yout profile, and i do enjoy reading it. I noticed you like such-such.. " etc etc and this is the response i got "Whats wrong with girls your age?" get this.. she's only 5 years younger than I am. O.o
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RHP User
11 years ago
You read it wrong. It meant to read ' Do you want to meet Fun, he's really cool'. My boys have got my back. ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I refuse to let them spoil the bunch!
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was a pretty innocuous reply though.... really. You didn't get abused. Best to allow for some level of misunderstanding and always be open for discussion. Some people flip out really quickly though and are not open to working through 'possible' crossed wires. Anyway all water under the bridge and we live and learn. This is a new environment and language for some of us oldies.😏
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RHP User
11 years ago
It goes to show that there is a reason some of these people are single respect goes a long way and being on rhp does not mean you will take just anyone . I feel so sorry for the ladies on here having to deal with the want to be studs and the just plain rude .
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canberrahot
11 years ago
I had a recent post where the lady basically said in her first post.... come over gave address and told me what she wanted done. But she has no idea who i was apart from profile. Id say that getting into risky for the ladies id at least expect a coffee first just to make sure I was sane.... they have no idea whos on the other end.
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RHP User
11 years ago
HI Ms_silk: I half agree with meeka in that provoking a response -- well, what else was expected? On the flip side, messages like that aren't called for either. I'd actually be curious if the women on this site put together some sort of survey/stat chart indicating how many messages they've received overall, and of those how many are completely rude like that too. Those kinds of messages are just best to ignore. To me it seems like a lot of women talk about receiving such messages, which boggles my mind as I couldn't even contemplate having that kind of conversation straight up with a hooker! Definitely need some intellectual stimulation to turn me on because let's face it -- physically beautiful people grow on trees around here. Anyway, the Chinese new year is just around the corner, so maybe it'll bring fresh starts for you. Speaking of which, what's your sign? How compatible are you with a Rat?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Melb_Delight' you insulted him, he insulted you...Im not sure the second insult would have come out if you didn't start it. Aren't we being a tad precious here??????????????????
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Melb_Delight' you insulted him, he insulted you...Im not sure the second insult would have come out if you didn't start it. Agree with you Melb Delight totally!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly there are a lot of women on here that are very easy on the eye, in saying that I have perused my search requirements and have found women looking for men couples and so on 25 to 99 and continue to look at there profile and then and only then do I find below another seeking requirement with a more refined age group that puts me out of the running. This after making sure I am what they are looking for at the same time. so no message sent. Except sometimes you are infatuated with what you see and hope that if you send a polite but explanatory message they might just make an exception, it is not always about not reading your profile but a hopeful reply be it a polite no thanks or continue to start a chat and see where it leads. Yes I agree we are all here to meet someone for all kinds of reasons, but in saying that, there is a little boy in all of us that wants that someone special, just out of reach, sexy pics that appeal to you, turn you on with what you want sexually and they are comfortable within themselves, sometimes it's just the smile that attracts you, not always the pic of the pussy, just a nice ass, so I guess in the end its called hope, Not all men think about getting as many headjobs as they can, yes we want to hook up for sex isn't that why we are all chatting on here ?I for one will not give up just because I can't get a reply but please, don't tar us all with same brush when you women can't bother replying to the polite messages sent you, regardless the fact they don't meet your requirements. Short answer to your question. don't reply to a..holes
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RHP User
11 years ago
One in particular who just recently checked my profile...yay...so I checked hers...again Then I decided to message her...but at this stage I realised that as a married man she doesn't want to hear from me. "babe" I hope you read this...and recognise your self.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You know what, I'm really sick of this treatment, I think a lot of guys are forgetting what a woman is. I do reply every single message I received, with a template of course. 99% are declined ones, I'm happy n content with my 1% special person now. So I think the gals here are to report n block anyone like this, or offensive profiles, not everyone deserves to be on this site. Make rooms for more of those 1% darlings. Well.... there's someone for nearly everyone, sadly not all... might meet lots of dicks a long the way, but I'm glad the experience lead me to mine now
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RHP User
9 years ago
On behalf of all the normal and decent guys, sorry! All I can say in general terms to all the females on here is ignore, block and report them. And when you get a thoughtful message from someone who sounds genuine and decent and has taken the time to actually read your profile, reply to their message (even if it's a thanks but no thanks). Remember, courtesy goes both ways. If they don't take no for an answer then delete/block/report. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Had a message from one single male. No previous contact. " Can i come inside you?" This guy is a real winner with his opening line. There are some hopeless cases out there. Careful, its a jungle......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Gabehcuod' On behalf of all the normal and decent guys, sorry! Your name is douchbag, backwards.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're either dyslexic or a fan of Homeland, either way congratulations, you're only the second person on here who's got it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
P.S - in case the irony was lost, the idea is that I am the opposite of a douchebag... at least I think so... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My week of horrible messages is no messages at all. I do agree though you should be treated as a lady first.
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