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Parties...no single men only couples boo hoo
October 29 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes woudnt it be nice if it was evened out better for us single women. But as parties are predominantly aimed at couples, they want to get the single ladies all to themselves. If it were more even numbers with the single m/f, they would be pairing off or grouping off together and not bothering with the couples. Now that would cause some dramas. And agree with the guest lists, predominately single men rsvp,you can check them out yourself if you are a member. but only a select few get to go. I did see a singles party only. Couple of friends were hosting( female) going by the guest list, there was only males who rsvp'd. That could be daunting to see if you are a woman.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes im a single male have the same problem but only the other way around i find no single women,i always have watch other couples , but i must say ive only gone to 4 parties, in Newcastle not much happens.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We have been to 4 private "house" parties hosted by swinging friends. No single males attended because the general consensus was that they tend to become pushy in their quest to get in on the action and that the majority of the invited couples did not like this . We suggest that you try a swingers club on the nights that they allow single men in, as then you will be able to experience their behaviour first hand , and then understand why us couples prefer not to have them at parties that we attend. Most swingers clubs (at least the ones we have been to) make more money out of the single males than they do couples , and so only once a month do they have a couples only night. If you are wanting to be serviced by many males in one evening , have them follow you in packs to the toilets, have them attempt to grope you from the shadows, then you will enjoy a swingers club on the nights they allow single males in. We have counted upwards of 44 single males to just 4 couples and high numbers like that mean big competition to be one of the lucky ones that gets to have sex .... We now avoid clubs & parties that allow them in . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because if they allowed single men, the ratio would be 100 guys for one female. It wouldn't work for either party.
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RHP User
10 years ago
..... not so flash for single guys either ... ... hard to access parties and clubs as a single guy ... unless you couple up ? .. defeats the purpose? .... Sash ... maybe Perth Socialites ... could organise 'that' sort of event. Uly
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RHP User
10 years ago
.... Country Touch was talking about Swingles on the next forum that i read .... maybe all parties should be swingle parties ... 'by order of me' ... couples could go ... as swingles ... no descrimination
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
There are always a small group of single guys and single girls at the parties we go to. It is simple maths, a good swingers party always needs a few extra guys. We don't even bother with single guys on line because you can always find one at a party.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Many couples (not all) regard single men as pests, so while single women are sought after by the straight man and the bi women single men are despised. So what else is new ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think maybe they are avoiding the too many single men syndrome. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you i thought it was just me my vent would be a whole lot longer than yours. I commented in another thread about how i don't go to clubs or parties for exactly that reason. It shits me. That's it, it's time th - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hadn't finished sorry. I meant it's time this changed. I say we start singles only parties, f@%k the couples, why should it be all about them. And swingers clubs shit me most because they should interchange nights having some for mostly singles. Grrr thanks for raising this issue - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't be daunted by only single guys replying, yum just turn it into a gangie mmm - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We were used to go in swinging sauna clubs in Europe. Some days it was for only couples and other days for couples and singles (free entry for single women)The rules are very strict in these premises and a no is a no but overall we never had any problem with single men.It's very enjoyable to be able to do threesome with men or women on the bi side or not. You can choose your partners without hassles and have lots of fun without troubles. It's better when you see people in front of you. No surprises of the last minute. Lol.Many couples prefer to share their sexuality with single people and it's not easy to find out someone.Single women can choose single men too.It's not too good when single men are too many so the club has to limit the entries for men. But a good number of them is alright till they have the right attitude and everything stay in the respect of everyone desires and boundaries.
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JessicaRabbit
10 years ago
Your overly-dramatic vehement dislike for single males at swingers clubs/parties always makes me laugh and shake my head simultaneously. I've been attending swingers parties and clubs since I was 19 years old as both a couple and a single female. I've been to parties and clubs alone. Not ONCE have I been in a situation where I've had packs of men follow me to the toilets or 'grope me from the shadows', nor have I ever felt unsafe. In fact, I feel safer at swingers clubs and events than regular clubs, where my ass will be squeezed when I walk past, or I've had men corner me against a wall and stare down my top with their face just centimetres from mine. Perhaps your issue is that you are attending the wrong clubs and parties. Also remember that the male half of your couple was a single male at one stage too...was he too a slobbering predatory fiend? Quit tarring all single males with the same brush. Sasha I agree that there were never enough (or the right quality) of single guy let into the majority of parties and clubs. I understand that they are worried about the numbers being out and the dynamics being screwed up if it became a 'sausage fest', but maybe look for events that are specifically singles-geared? Or contact venues/party organisers directly and see if they'll accommodate your requests? Jess xx Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' We have been to 4 private "house" parties hosted by swinging friends. No single males attended because the general consensus was that they tend to become pushy in their quest to get in on the action and that the majority of the invited couples did not like this . We suggest that you try a swingers club on the nights that they allow single men in, as then you will be able to experience their behaviour first hand , and then understand why us couples prefer not to have them at parties that we attend. Most swingers clubs (at least the ones we have been to) make more money out of the single males than they do couples , and so only once a month do they have a couples only night. If you are wanting to be serviced by many males in one evening , have them follow you in packs to the toilets, have them attempt to grope you from the shadows, then you will enjoy a swingers club on the nights they allow single males in. We have counted upwards of 44 single males to just 4 couples and high numbers like that mean big competition to be one of the lucky ones that gets to have sex .... We now avoid clubs & parties that allow them in . - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We talk from experience , having been to a few swingers clubs in Melbourne. On those nights that single males were allowed in (we avoid those clubs now) it became soo bad (single males outnumbering couples 10 to 1) that most couples we know (who were regulars ) stopped going. There were major negative comments on the forums of a few other swingers sites about the Melbs clubs in question. In other words we were not alone in our experiences and others had similar complaints . Mrs D was followed to the toilets several times and groped & solicited en route. We always have played in a lockable room as we don't like intrusions. The single males on more than one occasion tried to force the door open, not just on us but also with other couples. As the stud walls did not go all the way to the ceilings, they then tried to look and or climb over by standing on a chair. Again happened to us and other couples on several nights. The club did throw them out and ban them from ever returning. But they make more money on the single guys. The single females and female half of a couple, are the bait used to attract the males. We were friendly with the barmen at the club in Elsternwick. The phone would ring and the male caller would always ask how many females were in the club. Management would always make out that there were more than there really were, as the entrance fee was non refundable. The more single males they allowed in, the more money they made. We are not tarring all single guys with the same brush . We have met some really nice single guys, when we first started going to the Elsternwick club, and ended up having a MFM with two of them. It's unfortunate that the few bad apples spoil it for the good guys and that many couples have become fed up with the disrespectful and unacceptable behaviour of a select few. It's a numbers game . If you have 44 males to 4 females, obviously the majority of the males are not going to get what they feel they paid for and as a result they feel that they will really need to make an impression and try their luck . Sadly so many don't know how to behave or approach the ladies the incorrect way ... And that's when things become unpleasant . Yes we obviously went to the wrong clubs. We now rarely go to swingers clubs, preferring private house parties and smaller more intimate get togethers, with people we know and with whom we share the same values, needs and desires. 2-4 single males at a swingers party of 16 couples would be more acceptable. They would how we need to be well screened and told to not push their involvement and to rather ask to be invited into a MFM or MFMM scenario. At one very prominent and successful party (masks & black tie are compulsory ), all males are forbidden from approaching the females (obviously not their own partners) and instead have to accept that they have to wait for the females to approach them , if interested. The system at this party works extremely well and as such attracts many couples and a huge % of single females. - Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
Most of the parties we have been too have had several single guys (and on occasion girls). We (well mostly me lol) have been fortunate to meet two wonderful single guy's who we continue to see. They, however are not actually looking for companionship, just a good time. Loads of them at the Pleasure Lounge.Would be good to see parties for just singles tho.
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
We go to parties once or twice a month, and clubs three or four times a year. In Brisbane I have not seen a regular problem with single guys. Every one knows the rules, people are shown the door for transgressions. I'm with Jess, swingers events are safer than regular bars and clubs. No means no in the swinging scene.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What's wrong with a sausage fest, need more protein in my diet lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
@horneycouplewa it's not about companionship it's about having a good time , and one of those that you met wasn't invite , he was bought. @i touch myself, I couldn't agree more!! I'm with you !! @wet paint, I hear you loud and clear .. I get sick and tired of most single men getting a bad wrap ..just because there single. I have a couple of great male single friends who are respectful , genuine and non pushy more than some of my attached friends who I have found to be arrogant , with an air of entitlement !!! I'm not saying I always want a single male , single female event. I would like even numbers of all dimensions.. What I am reading and getting is it seems to be couples versus singles lol couples have their opinions and versions ( and the single female gets pulled into without opinion. I.e we will have a party all couples , single females for us and cause we are nice maybe one or two single guys.. Singles are like f%#£€
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RHP User
10 years ago
The couples let's have just a singles party. Here's an idea. How about we join forces and have even numbers and all have a great time !!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some dodgy behaviour and too many men. I only attend house parties and other private events. Very rarely has there been any issues, and my favourites I keep coming back to, with the regular couples knowing the regular single guys well on different levels. I can't add to other responses, but it would be good for somewhere to connect m/f singles. After all, most couples in the scene, seemingly entered the scene as a pre-existing couple. So where do single men and women already in the scene meet each other? So I like the idea of 50/50 singles only events, perhaps not a play event. - Posted from rhpmobile
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zoe69r
10 years ago
Mmm well it had to be said didnt it . Im a single guy and ive yet to be to any party or event as a single , and the reason being is of the entry price for single guys and this is the reason I believe guys stay away . I mean why would any guy pay $90 to go to a party and there may not be a chance of a play with any ladies or couples as from what ive seen most parties are geared for couples or bi ladies , and if your a bi-guy ( like myself ) then omg you got no chance at all
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Judging by the large quantities of "single " males that often turn up at swingers clubs, on those nights that they are allowed in, many are prepared to pay $90 plus. And therein lies the problem as many feel that as they have paid , they are entitled to get some action. The clubs make a lot of money this way , which is why many only have a couples only night, once a month. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
If one were to implement some form of ratio at a swingers club, how would one balance it ? Would it be X amount of single men to couples ? For example a ratio of 1 single man per couple equates to 2 males to one female. And so males would outnumber females 2 to 1. Or does one look at the ratio of single males to single females and try to make it equal . So if there are 5 single females in a club you then only let in 5 single males? That way the male to female ratio would be equal and everyone in the club would be coupled up. Single females are very rare at swingers clubs. We have seen only 1 to 2 at the most, and not every time we have been - perhaps only 20 % of the time. Would it work or be easy to implement ? And would the clubs be happy to do this every night ? They would have to put the price up for couples and single females as currently both pay less to get in than single males. The clubs are in it for the money. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've met my share of couples at clubs who expected me to join them, looking for THEIR fantasies to be fulfilled. No thank you, smug couples, I'm not looking to be an extra but a co-star. With couples I know well I don't have that problem, but in a situation where we're all virtual strangers I find that with single guys the give and take is much more fifty-fifty if that makes sense. Of course there are always some single guys who ruin it for the others, but in my personal experience the same number of couples behave just as poorly. For example I've never been grabbed in my crotch by a single guy while standing at the bar, but twice by a (different) wife. 2cts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You said,"I mean why would any guy pay $90 to go to a party and there may not be a chance of a play with any ladies or couples"... Mate thats exactly why the cost is a little more. The attitude of ppl expecting a play because they have paid are the guys whose demeanour and personality change as the night goes on. Desperation is seen in their eyes as they stare at you They want their moneys worth!! Are they thinking it would have been better to spend that $90 at a brothel??? Perhaps they should have.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love your quote" Im not looking to be an extra but a co-star" love it. This is very true with my experience with some couples. And as for behaviour Ive experienced at swingers events, I too have had more rudeness and pushing from married guys( usually when wife is busy and not standing with them, funny that)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I used to say "special guest star".
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RHP User
10 years ago
Used to say that about others who joined my playmate and I, not myself.
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zoe69r
10 years ago
Sorry yes my comment did read the wrong way about the $90, and ì do agree with you, those that pay the $ expect to get thier monies worth so to speak , I always go with a lady friend for her saftey but as of yet ive yet to step in , but ive only socialized at the swingers club as yet but thats ok im not going to force myself on anyone I like to think im a true gentleman and my lady friends seem to say the same , lol and I dont like blowing my own trumpet n I dont , but I do like making new friends n not in a sexual way
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is trying to say .. Why should he pay $90 and I be free or pay a minimal about for the same thing. Everywhere else it is unacceptable but in the swingers scene the discrimination against single males is open and outlandishly generalised. Regardless of what kind of male you are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
True story. But if men didn't think with their cocks it wouldn't work would it ? Think of all the drinks they wouldn't have to buy and the thousands of other futile gestures their cocks coerce them into paying for ! It's such an obvious weakness the world exploits but we keep doing it, testosterone fuelled Lemmings. Too funny.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men do think with their cocks, where would we be otherwise, high and dry! Can i just point out an important point many are missing here, and that is the reason why single men outnumber single women, because single women stay away expecting it'll be mostly couples, and although i'm not adverse to that kind of play, my main focus is men, and i also feel like the couples are quite often driven by making sure 'hubby' is happy, it's still a man's world let's face it, but only because women allow that to happen. I like to be free to play with whoever, not to have to get past the jealous wife fucking radar lol oops sorry, that one kind of just slipped out - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi Sasha, you can alway buddy up before you go to a party! It doesn't mean you've to play together, however, you'd at least have an ice-breaker! And the party would have a single male pre-approved by you!! Andy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There will never be a huge number of single women at parties/venues because a lot of women wont go alone. Its daunting to walk through the door by yourself, not knowing anyone.I wouldnt have gone to my first few venues if I wasnt tagging along with a couple I was playing with. But that was yrs ago. I have been to 2 private parties last yr where I didnt know a soul. Very daunting to walk in the front door alone.But was fortunate to be welcomed by lovely hosts that introduced me around and broke the ice(and yes some married women give you the once over and can be narky if they are in a clique with their friends)But its still a reason why not many single ladies will attend. Men on the other hand dont mind going to pubs or whatever alone, so its probably easier for them to overcome the fear of attending a venue/party alone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fourbouy' Hi Sasha, you can alway buddy up before you go to a party! It doesn't mean you've to play together, however, you'd at least have an ice-breaker! At the clubs and parties I've attended couples were meant to stay together the whole night. If the organisers found out they'd split up, they (though mostly just the guy) would be kicked out.
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madotara69
10 years ago
that is not impartial and used primarily to influence an audience and further an agenda, often by presenting facts selectively (perhaps lying by omission) to encourage a particular synthesis, or using loaded messages to produce an emotional rather than a rational response to the information ... Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wannabe guys trying to get into these clubs try to buddy up for reasons mentioned above, ice breaker, being validated because they've walked in with you, all reasons they can $#%& off as far as i'm concerned. I'm not being some guy's ticket in, screw that, if the club won't take them, not a hope in hell i would. Insulting to my intelligence. Rather roll by myself thank you - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
is a place in Sydney at least that welcomes single men with open arms, twenty five bucks or near enough, twenty four hours a day and night, it's called Arrows just wear something spicy and smile.
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RHP User
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's certainly disheartening that all men on dating or other 'social' sites are seen as shitty MRA-types who expect sex but I understand we're judged by people's experiences. I guess the best idea would be to make friends with a few single women/bi me/couples that are open and as you say see men they've "vetted" by sleeping with to arrange something? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
organise your own party and set your own rules
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be honest not all but in many couples it's the guy who use his female partner to fuck as many chicks he wants, But won't let her to have guys, most of the time the chick becomes bi only for his desire for other chicks, not for herself. Such couples mention in their profiles : looking for couples and female only and " No single guys, don't message or send a flirt, u be simply blocked" LOLZZZZZZZZZ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chelle63
10 years ago
My housemate and I have parties and we welcome single men and single women but we struggle to get single women to attend. When I brought it up in the forum most of the single women ripped me a new one because they said they didn't feel safe and preferred to go to parties with couples because single men don't show enough respect. We have never had a problem at any of our parties and everyone enjoys themselves that attend. But we just can't get the women to attend to even up the numbers. We always try to get an even spread but without single women it is impossible.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love women and men equally. In my short lived experience in this lifestyle I have met some absolutely lovely single males who I see regularly and are definitely friends with benefits ;-P I know this may cause a stir saying buuuuuttt I have actually found that it is the married men that are less fit, perform not as good in bed and don't go above and beyond to make my night memorable :-0 Aaahhhh again... that's just what I have found in my experience!!! I would love for parties and clubs to allow single males in every night :-) Even if the numbers are capped... The most fun I have had is when I introduce my single women to my single men grrrrrrrr SENSATIONAL FUN!! Hehehe Mrs J xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Throw your own parties. That way you're in charge of the guestlist and ratios etc. Personally I dont mind single guys at parties, but I know many who don't. Lots of couples like to couple up or play with only women too I guess, so there's that. Easiest solution is to host your own parties. They don't take a great deal of planning and then u can decide who makes it through the door. Problem solved :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Where I see problems I see opertunity, it's just my nature I suppose. I'm new to this and have never been to a swingers club or a private party. I am tempted to throw a private party now welcome to both couples and singles, the catch being a reply email confirming eligibility into the party, this would create an even make:female ratio. +/- the no shows. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isn't that the problem though? Expectations... That is the problem. Add alcohol and the problem quantifies. Most men who would go to an event party like this would be thinking they are going there to fuck. They are holding an expectation that degrades the situation. What happened to going out for a good time and what will be will be? Perhaps a memo on manners is needed upon entry. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
our parties we limit the number of single men to keep a good mix so everyone can have the fun they came for
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RHP User
10 years ago
Re: @Sasha007 @i_touch_myself2 @meander @myusernamesucks So a few of you don't like the idea of buddying up to go to a party? Strange, I thought it was part of RHP to be social. To find people we were comfortable enough to be with, or even fuck with. A lot of the girl out there have so many demands, tall, fit, tats, nine inches, good personal hygiene, interesting conversation etc. Are a majority saying, that when it's party time, they're just gunna get it on with whoever is best of the crowd, and that's how it should be? Sasha began this thread, and we have chatted on line, and I'm pretty sure she's not desperate! Surely, it's just normal social behaviour to find people you can get along with, to attend parties? If you find others to play with, then play. Otherwise you've got the person you buddied up with, to either play with, or just fool around with, or go for a drink with before you each go home. And surely you'd have chatted with that buddy, a few times and had a basic idea what they were like. I know couples who go to parties, and if they don't feel comfortable or see someone who floats their boat, they cruise on to another venue. So it's not compulsory to get it orn! As someone who's done quite a lot of meetups with SocMed I used to feel quite relieved walking into a party and there was at least one person I knew from their on-line persona. and at least in that situation I didn't have to strip down to my most vulnerable! And some chicks are just plain social misfits! So is it really a surprise, some randy guys with sex on their mind and a lazy semi, still have respect for females, see them as equals and don't just see them as a rubber doll who will get them a beer afterwards! Do your homework first I say! Andy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love women and men equally. In my short lived experience in this lifestyle I have met some absolutely lovely single males who I see regularly and are definitely friends with benefits ;-P I know this may cause a stir saying buuuuuttt I have actually found that it is the married men that are less fit, perform not as good in bed and don't go above and beyond to make my night memorable :-0 Aaahhhh again... that's just what I have found in my experience!!! I would love for parties and clubs to allow single males in every night :-) Equality equality... And not ridiculous entry fees!! The most fun I have had is when I introduce my single women to my single men grrrrrrrr SENSATIONAL FUN!! Hehehe Mrs J x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
80% Of the single guys that are invited to most the parties are bi and that is to suit the couples the other 20% thru knowing people already going - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Post a "singles only" party on the events page? Then you can monitor the ratio? Im sure you could make it a huge success! xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
It wouldn't be so hard to control the numbers (obviously) and surely there is a black list process? Expectations and rules clearly outlining acceptable behaviour..."no go zones" in the party that single men can't access.....maybe some ideas...just throwing it out there that could allow more than couples to be accommodated. Obviously with the disclaimer that this is just a brainstorm - Posted from rhpmobile
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SirSpankalot1966
10 years ago
All the party's I've had and been too our ratio has always been 2 males to every female that way if any lady wanted 2 guys at once no lady was without. A lady neglected can really feel put out and make the experience far less enjoyable. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PrivatePartiesNT
10 years ago
Hi all, We have been hosting professional parties / Events in Perth for years and have based our ratio around keeping it even, a single guy invite for every single lady invite. This has been done to prevent in simple terms " a cock fest ", We started PRIVATE PARTIES due to been to several parties and finding that half the night was looking out for wayward genitals been pushed on to the ladies at the events or spending a lot of time saying "no" Don't get us wrong, we have a great list of single guys that we love coming to our events as they show respect to the ladies, they look after them selves and they talk with a smile. From a business aspect couples are also reliable to express there interest and turning up, single me also are a sure thing when invited but sadly the single ladies that express there interest often do not show up and you then have a 80% men ratio which is not good for anyone :( The events that clubs and members host take slot of time and with some events , a lot of investment. It is so important that all that attend enjoy !! We will take up the challenge and host a SINGLES ONLY EVENT via PRIVATE PARTIES in Perth and see if the Singles of Perth know how to party !!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fourbouy' Re: @Sasha007 @i_touch_myself2 @meander @myusernamesucks So a few of you don't like the idea of buddying up to go to a party? Strange, I thought it was part of RHP to be social. I must have missed the part where I said I didn't like it, I merely said that I'd prefer going alone if given the choice, especially when talking about going with someone I don't know that well. I've had the best times going to parties with friends I met here, you know who you are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fun1x' Where I see problems I see opertunity, it's just my nature I suppose. I'm new to this and have never been to a swingers club or a private party. I am tempted to throw a private party now welcome to both couples and singles, the catch being a reply email confirming eligibility into the party, this would create an even make:female ratio. +/- the no shows. - Posted from rhpmobile In principle the idea is sound, however if you talk to anyone who hosts an event regularly they will tell you that the drop out ratio and the no show ratio of couples and single females is significantly higher than that of single males. So while your initial expectations might be that you will have a balanced set of numbers - invariably the ratios will be come skewed as people make last minute changes or decide that they don't like the ratio of people there, or don't like someone else who's decided to attend - unfortunately that's just human nature. As a couple - if we wanted another single male - we could with about 5 minutes work, troll through the list of single males who like / love / flirt / message / private message, and repeatedly try and make contact, to find one who seemed halfway interesting and met our requirements. The same options are certainly not available for couples or single females. Which is why we attend events / parties, giving us the ability to try and identify those who we can connect with. such is life i guess :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
good girl I love your style wish you were closer
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Chelle63' My housemate and I have parties and we welcome single men and single women but we struggle to get single women to attend. When I brought it up in the forum most of the single women ripped me a new one because they said they didn't feel safe and preferred to go to parties with couples because single men don't show enough respect. We have never had a problem at any of our parties and everyone enjoys themselves that attend. But we just can't get the women to attend to even up the numbers. We always try to get an even spread but without single women it is impossible. as a single female I would be interested at a private party which is aimed at single women and single men with the 50/50 ratio across all age groups.. But attending a party comes down to sooooo many variables - timing has to be right (calendar and stuff), getting to the venue has to be good (safe, not too difficult etc) level of confidence has to be there etc..the right mix of people...I reckon this is why it is difficult to organize a "singles night" only - cos singles would not know eachother so getting them to go through that introduction process (or not) could be more of an effort..
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abab1
10 years ago
We're getting close to our 20th party and we focus on couples. For us that means inviting single girls and guys to make it all work. We invite mainly bi girls and a wide range of guys. The difference is that Mrs A meets everyone first as her radar is sharp. We get a great mix and the parties are awesome!We try to work on the ratio of 1 single guy for every 2 couples but once it gets to 20 couples we ease off. Our Sybian also helps out too :) We find that even numbers just doesn't work, women will always outdo the guys :)
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blackie251
10 years ago
The single ladies to take a single guy to a party then, not necessarily for your own entertainment but for the other ladies if he's not your type. I don't get to go to parties as I'm not some young stud, or hooked up with a swinging partner. Would be nice to see what you're talking about.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but we like to go to parties and/or clubs where there will be a handful of single guys. I have always found the behavior to be exceptional. Actually they are so well behaved its hard to find someone who might like to play with me. Clueless as I am, I still haven't figured out the process, the etiquette or the procedure with couples at these types of do's. There's a lot of bullshit that you just don't seem to get with single guys.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
I was jsut invited to a private party... Most of the attendees were couples... actually all were couples and I was the only single female I think.. 4-5 couples to 1 single female... so far, single males are not considered. the place was set up for play, mattresses on the floor in some apartment or hotel room in the city. so i feel pressured to perform. I didnt get a good feeling about it and hesitant. 1:5 ratio is not ideal for me and I want to play with single males. not couples. so looks like i will have to say no...
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RHP User
10 years ago
and I will try not to turn it into a whinge or vent..BUT every time I am considering going to a party - either private or non private- I am put off by the advertising.. Most of the advertising images look like screen capture from porn or modeled by women-men who are -I reckon- are not the valid and fair representation of the participants themselves.. As a single curvy female I do not feel comfortable attending an event where the ad images show women and men who are models and therefore hardly real people - for various reasons. 1 I do not look like that and this makes me question my "value" 2. I assume that people who go to these events anticipate other participants to look like the ones on the photos and when they are not then there is a vast amount of disappointment which is obstructive to creating a relaxed atmosphere etc.. The advertising used is not inclusive - it is actually achieving the opposite effect..OK OK all the talk is about "like minded" and "polite" "respectful participants" YET the ads are portraying porn etc...where is the balance? How should one know which party to trust to be a good fit and therefore sign up, make an effort in getting ready, attend with interest and right mindset.... For this reason I find myself going to meet and greets where I can see and connect with the participants and either go and play with them afterwords or play in private ...Parties, even private parties that are advertised and would be fun for me to attend, make me double guess my attendance interest because of the images and photos used in their ads are unrealistic..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Definitely have an interest in going to a party or two. I've only been to CC's and I would much prefer one that had both single guys and single gals. Being female, even though I enjoy bi play this does not equate to wanting to have sex with couples, and/or seeking threesomes. Yeah... nah. I just prefer one-on-one. Two friends and I have been looking at local events / parties, without much luck. They are straight and while we can easily go to any of the main ones, we haven't found one that caters for what we're looking for. *sigh*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your Fb should be ok with you separating and playing . Mine used to love watching then jacking me off onto somone else, any takers ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'blackie251' The single ladies to take a single guy to a party then, not necessarily for your own entertainment but for the other ladies if he's not your type. I don't get to go to parties as I'm not some young stud, or hooked up with a swinging partner. Would be nice to see what you're talking about. To what advantage to me to bring you along to a party? To fulfil your fantasy or curiosity in proving what point. And then what? Lol. Most women go in for free (and we know why), couples pay and single men pay a premium for the privilege. Ask someone like CountryTouch how you score an invite to these meets, as a single man. Do your homework and your legwork rather than depend on us women to take you there. Geeez. I decline the challenge as I don't see it furthering my needs or desires to tick my bucket list or for my enjoyment. I am not here as a public service.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' I am not here as a public service. lol as a single woman I would rather pay to attend a party then being anticipated to accommodate men and-or couples just because I was allowed in for free...any party that is advertising that single ladies are coming in for free or for a significantly reduced fee is not my cup of tea
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'KrissySYD' and I will try not to turn it into a whinge or vent..BUT every time I am considering going to a party - either private or non private- I am put off by the advertising.. Most of the advertising images look like screen capture from porn or modeled by women-men who are -I reckon- are not the valid and fair representation of the participants themselves.. As a single curvy female I do not feel comfortable attending an event where the ad images show women and men who are models and therefore hardly real people - for various reasons. 1 I do not look like that and this makes me question my "value" 2. I assume that people who go to these events anticipate other participants to look like the ones on the photos and when they are not then there is a vast amount of disappointment which is obstructive to creating a relaxed atmosphere etc.. The advertising used is not inclusive - it is actually achieving the opposite effect..OK OK all the talk is about "like minded" and "polite" "respectful participants" YET the ads are portraying porn etc...where is the balance? How should one know which party to trust to be a good fit and therefore sign up, make an effort in getting ready, attend with interest and right mindset.... For this reason I find myself going to meet and greets where I can see and connect with the participants and either go and play with them afterwords or play in private ...Parties, even private parties that are advertised and would be fun for me to attend, make me double guess my attendance interest because of the images and photos used in their ads are unrealistic.. EXACTLY!! I couldn't have said it any better.
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JessicaRabbit
10 years ago
Quoting 'KrissySYD' and I will try not to turn it into a whinge or vent..BUT every time I am considering going to a party - either private or non private- I am put off by the advertising.. Most of the advertising images look like screen capture from porn or modeled by women-men who are -I reckon- are not the valid and fair representation of the participants themselves.. As a single curvy female I do not feel comfortable attending an event where the ad images show women and men who are models and therefore hardly real people - for various reasons. 1 I do not look like that and this makes me question my "value" 2. I assume that people who go to these events anticipate other participants to look like the ones on the photos and when they are not then there is a vast amount of disappointment which is obstructive to creating a relaxed atmosphere etc.. The advertising used is not inclusive - it is actually achieving the opposite effect..OK OK all the talk is about "like minded" and "polite" "respectful participants" YET the ads are portraying porn etc...where is the balance? How should one know which party to trust to be a good fit and therefore sign up, make an effort in getting ready, attend with interest and right mindset.... For this reason I find myself going to meet and greets where I can see and connect with the participants and either go and play with them afterwords or play in private ...Parties, even private parties that are advertised and would be fun for me to attend, make me double guess my attendance interest because of the images and photos used in their ads are unrealistic.. I think you may be reading too much into the images. I see them more as an example of expected dress or activites. I.e. If it's got people wearing blindfolds, handcuffs and holding whips, I expect it'll get a bit BDSMy. I don't expect it'll be full of Brad and Angelina types with perfectly proportioned bodies and marvellous jawlines and abs just because some stock images are on there. They're for advertising purposes and as with any advertising they attempt to draw the eye and encourage people to check out the ad. That's about it! Jess xx
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Madambutterfly78
10 years ago
How do u find out about these parties.I'm interested and never been before.so not sure where to start - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Check out orgyorgyorgy dot com. Info and real pics.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid'Ask someone like CountryTouch how you score an invite to these meets, as a single man. My ears are burning... Hehe thanks for offering me as the go-to guy for advice! Ok Blackie (and anyone else) you didn't ask directly but I'll contribute anyway :) I can't help you with WA events, I only know those in Melbourne. You don't have to be a young stud, being an older stud is just fine. 30's, 40's & 50's are the typical age groups. Sometimes I feel like (and often enough I am) the youngest there, but there are sometimes enough other 30-somethings that come along, occasionally younger. This info refers to house/private parties, as my main experience: Hooking up with a fb/fwb is only something you would need to do to get in to couples/women only events. And they often frown on it (wanting bonafide couples), but not always. But there are certainly plenty of events allowing for single men over here. Obviously I'm still yet to attend any other type of party. But of course, as mentioned before, even if the original guest list is a relatively even ratio, the women and couples are the most likely to drop out, meaning there's generally always more single men. The regulars know this, and so these events tend to attract only the women who like to play with more than one man at a time (and they're often advertised as such too). These parties are less about swapping/one-on-one's, and more about joining in. So if you're not up for group play, these events probably aren't for you. I do mean private house parties here, NOT clubs. Clubs are more suited for different things in my opinion, although the same activities will also occur. The friendliness and the setting of house parties seems to make things more comfortable (in my opinion), but many people still like clubs (due to their open availability for meeting up/going out, and layout/facilities). But even though you are paying a premium as a single male, you have to attend with a lack of expectation of any play, and willingness to properly socialise. The possibility of play will vary, so take the opportunity to talk and learn about previous or other events, and learn from the experiences of other attendees. How to get in? If they have a website/phone number etc, normally, you simply ring :) They will vet you via email if they want a pic, or over the phone just to gauge your personaility.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm hearing you..... And although I do a agree to some point the numbers for single males should be capped but not at the silly low numbers that r currently in place, however, at the same time, it's nice to be a single female to go to a place like these parties and not be gropped and harassed, I have more fun with couples, but sometimes it would b nice to pick up a single bloke 😉 I went to chateau vino on the weekend and although I didn't count, their where quite a few single males from memory - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It only makes sense to have more guys .... Fundamentally speaking, a single guy hasa pole and girl has three holes so how can even numbers make it interesting so much ??? Plain stupid rule - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is for parties allowing for single men. I have never yet been to a party allowing for single men that has ended up with roughly even ratios. There may be others - there are parties I can't afford (Wet on Wellington, very limited single men), others I haven't got an invite to. Others are strict on body type (eg Monkey Club/Pussy Kats). Couples/female parties seem to be more open to first timers - a no pressure social environment, but I can't vouch for that. But I can say that can still be the case at other events.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow ... Poles and holes? I don't think I'd be interested in any event that was advertised using those criteria!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... but I think most of them have been covered by others. I entered the scene through house parties as a single man. I love them, but they're not for everyone, and I've also now built a group of good fwbs that I like to catch up with in my own time. A. Every party, club, event has its own flavour, and vibe, and even those hosted by exactly the same people or club can vary from night to night. No one-size-fits-all. B. Yes, the 'advertising' has a particular look. All advertising has a particular idealised look - because that's what motivates people - for or against going. It's about teasing the imagination and stoking desire, not starting a competition. There will *always* be someone sexier looking at a party than you. If you're attending in order to be validated, you're already on the back foot. C. As Lily noted - if you don't like the idea of matresses on the floor, then don't go to that party - simple. There's no shame in saying 'not for me thanks'. There are parties I no longer go to because they don't attract me - (black vinyl 'cubicles'? Really, Melbourne?) but they do for lots of other people - so good on them. D. On topic - party organisers have a hard time when it comes to balancing single men in the 'mix'. If you allow *none, you get thanks from a lot of the couples (particularly the husbands), but concern from some of the single women. If you allow *some you have no assurance the kinds of guys you want will be available on the night, and all the women can get concerned because they miss out, or the attitude is wrong. If you allow *all, you can guarantee the kinds of guys you don't want there will turn up, then everyone gets concerned, and you might as well be at a bar ;) I walked into a club on Saturday night with 5 other sexy people, only two of whom were married (to each other). We had to pass by two upset guys on the kerb, and I, for one, was very glad that they had a 'booking' policy. The lads wouldn't have helped the night go well at all ;)
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fun1x' Where I see problems I see opertunity, it's just my nature I suppose. I'm new to this and have never been to a swingers club or a private party. I am tempted to throw a private party now welcome to both couples and singles, the catch being a reply email confirming eligibility into the party, this would create an even make:female ratio. +/- the no shows. - Posted from rhpmobile Waiting for my invite in the mail. lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sasha: " I have a couple of great male single friends who are respectful , genuine and non pushy" I strongly recommend you to bring one of those friends with you to a couples party - problem solved.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree I am a single woman and I dont want to meet couples just single guys and parties would be a perfect way of doing this. But all the parties I have been to there are no single guys and just couples. I am straight so dont want to meet couples with a bi woman I have found they are pushy. Not all but some.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's interesting to hear a lot of people would like single guys at these kind of events. I have to admit I've never really gone to one of these kinds of events because I figured that the rather horndog-like behaviour of some single guys would put people right off having a single guy in their space. That and I figured those kind of events are rather exclusive- you'd maybe get a few guys with the body of a greek god but I figured as a guy with a little bit of a keg I wouldn't be high up the preferred list :D
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BungCpl
10 years ago
@DynamicCouple36 If the ratio of single guys is right then it can be a great night for all. Experienced that once at Shed 16 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lots of interesting comments and opinions from both sides , I'm not sure we will ever find middle ground :( ....which is a shame. As we all want the same thing... Venusian... Can I borrow your friends?? Pretty please lol :) :) Might have to see about hosting I think lol I did attend a party recently and left very early as it was all couples. I'm guessing but the ratio was about 10 couples to 1 single girl... Very uncomfortable.... Had much more fun with a glass of wine watching the rugby :)
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flirtyhotcouple
10 years ago
If you want single men you can go to a nightclub and have your pick. If you start to invite single men then you will have a room full of single men only - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Quoting 'New2ThisVicCpl' @DynamicCouple36 If the ratio of single guys is right then it can be a great night for all. Experienced that once at Shed 16 😉 We have been to Shed16 just once, on a couples night. We would not venture there on any other night as we have heard a lot of negative reports, from others, that it becomes a bit of a sausage fest, with single males getting out of control. We do suppose that it all would depend on who is there that night etc. It might not be as bad as we have been told and we suppose the only way to really find out, is to experience it first hand.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lets do it have a singles party!! Miss B 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's pretty unfair playground play. So these parties are only for couples? I actually find your comment offensive. I'm not some two bit desperate single mutton dressed as lamb that will pick up just anybody in a dingy smirked filled nightclub. I do have some class !!!! .............. I don't dress like mutton.... But in a serious note , it's that kind of attitude that causes these kinds of problems .... Imagine if all the single men and women decided we didn't want couples anymore??? Then where would you be ??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Let us Singles mingle without double trouble !!! Where can we hold it ?
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BrightBubbly
10 years ago
Quoting 'MissBrunette69' Lets do it have a singles party!! Miss B 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile That is a brilliant idea !!!
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flirtyhotcouple
10 years ago
I have nothing against singles and i dont mind if singles come along. A few at a party are ok. But if you open up these parties to singles, I can guarantee you that they will be flooded by single males. Just go to any club on singles night. 90% of the crowd are single males, might have a few couples and 1 single girl. Single girls do not even go to single night. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Flirtyhotcouple, I would have been more empathetic if you were looking for couples only, but you're seeking single women also. Women good enough to invite to parties but single men are not? Sounds rather "Me me me" in my opinion.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Doing the talking there. Wish couples would sign.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Sasha, no point defending our positions as single females to someone like Flirtyhotcouple. Waste of time. It is indeed this SMUGNESS of SOME couples, who feel the entitlement to treat swing clubs and parties as the domain of the couples and try to control the interactions and environ, that turn off a lot of single females and males. and they cry poor when not enough Unicorns show up... Lol Personally, I have met but not played with couples as it is not my scene. Yet. There were a few of occasions where the males of the couples would approach me and they were hot. The females not so, in my opinion. One was even antagonistic, questioning me of my intent in the party and why i showed up when I "don't eat pussy". Lol. Ok. so I am not a Unicorn, but maybe I dont find her and her pussy attractive....Meh, just shrugged my shoulder and walked off smiling. "Paging Glenn Close, you are wanted at the set of 'Fatal Attraction'. Lol Not very attractive and made me shrink away further from what I perceived is the complicated dynamics of coupledom. And I much prefer to have a mfm rather than fmf. My choice.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There will always be a place for invited single males and females, even though parties and venues are more aimed at couples, because not all couples want to play with other couples. Some couples want mfm and fmf. So thats why a few single guys get invited, and as many single women as possible. For the couples needs.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I suppose if you want to play, get a good reputation by interacting socially with other members, both in person and on-line. Use your friends list. Boys don't be pushy, loud, arrogant and have poor hygene. Girls, try to look beyond muscles, tatts being taller than you, and a big fat slong. Most of it is just good manners. (Sorry to sound like Margot from the Goodlife!!) So a few sensible singles, such as the peeps with @perthSocialites organise the "Thinking Single Persons Party" and manages numbers, as we all know "too many cocks spoil the brothel!" Andy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think that a good swingers party, should have a about 3 couples, 2 single males 2 single females all about the ratio. i dont know about the rest of u but not too many guys?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MissBrunette69' Lets do it have a singles party!! Miss B 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile Well ahead of ya, already searching for venues hehe. Whoever has one in their state first can give feedback for others :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find it funny that the singles on here are complaining about exclusion then want to organise a Singles party? Is that not the same thing lol? We've held meet n greets for all, parties which included single guys and girls, and mrs3 is holding a 40 and under bi girl party in December. Its up to the people hosting the party as to who they want to invite, much the same as any other party, "swinger" or not. My suggestion, why not get a bunch of you together and host single parties on a rotating basis so its not at the same venue all the time? Could be worth a shot
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